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How to Invite Instead of Shove in Your Relationship
Episode 43rd November 2022 • Habits for Your Happily Ever After • Rebecca Mullen
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In this show we’ll discuss

  • How you might be shoving in your relationship without realizing it
  • You'll get a date night discussion prompt about what makes a good invitation

How often do you use the word “should” in your relationship?

Using the word “should” is a protective move. You’re trying to protect how vulnerable you feel. But your spouse experiences the word “should” as a shove, rather than as the invitation you’re intending.

Change one word and you’ll change your relationship.


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Change "should" to "would" to improve your relationship communication.

"Would you..." is an invitation. "You should..." is a shove. Use the "would you..." invitation in your relationship communication.


Date Night Discussion Prompt for Your Relationship

Talk about invitations you loved and hated.

  • What's the most memorable invitation you ever got?
  • Would you rather be formally invited or receive the go-with-the-flow "Hey, come along..." type invitation.
  • If you'd rather get a formal invite, what's an idea invitation look like to you?

Ex: I gave my husband the exact words that feel great to me when he wants me to do something with him: “Hey Wife, would you be my date …?”





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