This bonus episode of the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast introduces the new subscription podcast called "The Toolkit," aimed at providing accessible resources and support for women navigating ADHD. Host Kate Moore Youssef passionately discusses the challenges many face in seeking help, particularly due to overwhelming waiting lists and limited access to qualified professionals. She emphasizes the importance of education and self-advocacy, sharing insights from her own experiences and the positive feedback from her audience. The episode features snippets from past coaching sessions and expert interviews, highlighting practical strategies for managing ADHD and promoting well-being. Listeners are encouraged to explore the Toolkit, which offers a wealth of content designed to empower and support women on their ADHD journeys.

This week, I'm bringing you a special bonus 'Toolkit Taster' episode so you can experience some of the amazing content I share each week on my new subscription podcast, The Toolkit.

This bonus episode allows you to dip your toe in and see if it is a resource that will support you.

In this taster episode, you will hear nuggets of gold from:

• Me! In a short coaching clip, I talk about the importance of shifting into a more positive mindset and looking outside of just medication as the only solution to help us with our ADHD diagnosis.
• Lizzie Swan - an outstanding neurodiversity expert who also has a lot of personal experience with her ADHD and hormones. She shares some incredible tips on how to start becoming more aware of the impact of your hormones and the effect they have on your ADHD.
• Katherine Tiddy is a positive psychology expert who helps people feel aligned in their careers and lives to ensure that they are fulfilled in the work that they do. She speaks specifically about post-traumatic growth and the feelings that we face initially post-diagnosis, plus her top tip for dealing with it.
• Shell Mendelson is an ADHD career specialist who helps people with ADHD find a career that works for them. She discusses some of the ways that ADHD can bring up career challenges and how to navigate them and find joy in a career that aligns with your values and passions.

The Toolkit is all about giving you the resources, support, help and guidance you deserve at my most accessible price ever! Get access to your 14-day free trial here.

Have a look at some of Kate's workshops and free resources here.

Kate Moryoussef is a women’s ADHD Lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity, and clarity. 

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Find Kate's resources on ADDitude magazine here.

Welcome to the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast.

I'm Kate Moore Youssef and I'm a wellbeing and lifestyle coach, EFT practitioner, mum to four kids and passionate about helping more women to understand and accept their amazing ADHD brains.

After speaking to many women just like me and probably you, I know there is a need for more health and lifestyle support for women newly diagnosed with adhd.

In these conversations, you'll learn from insightful guests, hear new findings, and discover powerful perspectives and lifestyle tools to enable you to live your most fulfilled, calm and purposeful life wherever you are on your ADHD journey.

Here's today's episode.

Hi everyone.

Welcome to a bonus episode of the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast.

And I'm bringing this to you today because I am so passionate that all of you get the resources and the support and the help and the guidance that you deserve.

I have had so many people messaging me recently, asking me for help, for signposting, for directing, for coaching.

We are really at this unprecedented level of awareness, thankfully, of ADHD and what that looks like, particularly in women.

But we're also at this level where, unfortunately, services aren't coping, or perhaps where you live, there aren't qualified professionals to help you.

The waiting lists are enormous and very, very expensive to get assessed and diagnosed privately.

But also that if we commit to the private diagnosis and we want to take medication, that's a big overhaul as well in our life.

So there's lots of things to consider.

Now, my aim and my goal with the podcast and everything that I do is to bring you the knowledge and the education and the understanding so you can advocate for yourselves.

I want to be able to psychoeducate and guide and definitely signpost people to different professionals, experts, people are working on the ground, people are doing the research, and I don't know all the answers, but what I can do is to.

I think I'm good at is connecting you with different people.

And if you're a woman who has been recently diagnosed or you're recently, it's just understanding that perhaps everything that you've gone through in life, all the different challenges have been connected to undiagnosed adhd or perhaps you are parenting adhd, ADHD kids, neurodivergent kids, and you just want some help.

But also you might be curious about yourself or a partner or anyone else.

There's so many different reasons why people listen to this podcast and thankfully I get 98% of you send me really lovely comments and feedback and support.

And I am so, so grateful for everything.

And I also was recently nominated for an independent podcast award that came through a couple of days ago.

And I'm so proud because this is the third, I think, award that I've been nominated for in the health and wellbeing category.

And actually it shows that we are just getting there.

We're understanding the connection between undiagnosed neurodivergence to so many different areas in our life.

And this leads me on to the reason why I've launched the new subscription podcast called the Toolkit.

Now, you may have heard me talking about it, you know, if you're on my email list on Instagram, I have been reminding you about it.

And this has been born because I don't want to make my resources super exclusive.

I want to make sure that what I can provide is for the masses.

So when I actually went down for a podcast award ceremony a few months ago, and part of being a nominee was to go down to Apple headquarters, which was incredibly exciting, one of the, I think it's probably the best offices I've ever seen in my entire life.

And it was just mind blowing.

I just couldn't believe that there I was with a group of a handful of different people.

Yes, it was, it's the Women's International Podcast Awards.

So I was surrounded by different women.

And we're all looking at each other going, can't believe we're here in the Apple headquarters.

And they sat down and they told us about the Apple subscription and who it would work for and how it works.

And it just, I don't know, there was a bit of an epiphany of I would love to provide my resources, my workshops, my exclusive interviews, things that have been behind sort of more expensive paywalls to more people.

And how can I do that?

And so it's not been an easy process, let me tell you that.

But it has been worthwhile because lots of you are joining the Toolkit and recognizing that for I think it's 399 pounds a month, I think it's about 4.99.

I'm going to be bringing to you once or twice a week, access to lots more supplementary information than you're getting on the podcast.

And I'm going to be opening up all my content, my hundreds of hours of coaching, part of my hormone series, lots of different courses that I've run.

I have so many hours of content that I want to share that's just been sat there in my, my cloud.

And also I'm going to be producing lots of new content specifically for the toolkit.

And I'm planning on creating something that actually is a massive part of my business because I can't serve everybody.

I really do have this finite energy and I talk about it all the time, about how prevalent we are with burnout.

And we want to serve and we want to be of help and we want to, we really want to make an impact and guide people and really do good in this world.

But it can't be at the detriment of our own health.

And I've learned that the hard way many, many times.

There is a two week free trial, so you can give it a go.

There's pro, probably about four hours of content, four or five hours of content already up there.

So what I wanted to do today, I know it's a very long winded way of explaining all of this, but what I wanted to do today is offer you a snippet of what's already available on the toolkit now.

So if you kind of want your light to sort of try before you buy or you just kind of fancy just dipping your toe in and really seeing what's this all about, like, why is Kate talking about it all the time?

I really wanted to be able to give you, it's about 20 minutes worth of content from the different episodes so you can see for yourself.

And then, you know, if it's, if it's worth it, do it.

3.99amonth.

Personally, I think it's a no brainer, but I know that, you know, lots of people have got lots of other priorities.

So the first clip is me with some solo coaching and I have taken this from a group coaching workshop and I think it'll speak to quite a few of you and I don't want you to feel like, you know, to give up and despondent and this is just the way life is going to be.

Because I come from a positive place.

I come from a place that there's always a way.

And we can do things alongside the medication as well.

There's supplements, there's new ways of feeling more fulfilled in life, more content, bringing in, you know, more joy, connection, community.

Again, I don't want to kind of like throw loads of things at you, but it's just a recognition of maybe there's something else that's not just the medication and not just sort of the ups and the downs of something like deeper of.

Are you feeling fulfilled in your life?

Is there something that's bringing you joy?

Are you listening to that authentic part of you which is wanting to do something different.

But maybe there's like you say this low self esteem and you're worried, nervous, fearful of trying something.

Is this something that comes to mind when you kind of think like if you, I always ask this to my clients.

If money wasn't involved, if the what ifs weren't involved, the judgment of everybody and you could just do something that you really, really want to do without anyone commenting, what would it be?

But I just want to say, you know, very often we think it's the one thing, but actually there's always going to be something deeper under the surface.

And what I've noticed a lot, especially with women who we've probably spent most of our lives prioritizing other people, other people's needs, doing everything for everyone else, people pleasing, perfectionism, the amount of exhaustion and effort that goes into all of this, it's just like a recognition.

And then when we recognize that maybe we haven't, we're not fulfilling ourselves, maybe there's untapped potential there, there's creativity that's desperate to come out.

We are pigeonholing ourselves into a box that doesn't suit us anym all sorts of things.

It's just getting curious.

And very often we get curious about other people and other things, but it's almost like we're too scared to ask ourselves what do we really want?

Because when we ask ourselves what we really want, then we kind of have to show up a little bit.

So also knowing that things don't have to be perfect and we don't have to be perfect and there's going to be times where it feels really difficult and we are frozen and we are kind of in this imposter syndrome, you know, place.

But there's also going to be times where, you know, you do a really good job, things feel calm and good and the same time with your career when you know you're delivering something that you're proud of.

But we have these expectations.

It always has to be the same all the time.

We have to just be on an even keel all the time.

And that's not life.

On the next clip is with Lizzie Swan.

Now Lizzie is an amazing educator.

She's a neurodiversity expert.

But she also understands hormones and menstrual cycle awareness really, really well because unfortunately for her, she suffered with PMDD for a lot of her adult life.

So she tells us a little bit about how we can help ourselves and our hormones with adhd.

And I find this really Hard because of my executive functioning.

But as best you can, try and keep a diary because you will always be asked by healthcare professionals what evidence you've got or what log you've got, or go away and come back in a month.

But if you can always go into those conversations almost armed with evidence, it's really helpful.

I know that there are apps available for tracking your cycle.

I know that in some countries that that's, you know, people are being dissuaded from using them because of data collection.

But even just in a paper diary or on your Google Calendar, just rating it out of 10, just simply rating your mood out of 10 and then putting an asterisk.

I remember doing this when I was really young, I think I did it twice.

But putting an asterisk next to when your period starts and then you can start to almost do a mood tracker.

There are some great ADHD trackers out there on Etsy and things like that, but they're quite over complicated and you have to be really invested to do some of them.

But just find a notebook or a diary and just start to track your mood and rate it.

That'd be the first thing I do.

I think one of the simple.

I say it's not a solution, but one of the simple things that you can do in terms of supporting yourself hormonally is around diet.

And I would never advocate for anybody to restrict any aspect of their diet.

I always like to say add things in.

Adding protein to your diet is really essential for anyone with adhd, but it will also help.

I find if I have a protein rich diet, I crave carbohydrates less, which means I'm eating less sugar and it means that my mood feels more stable.

So just really thinking about those things like vitamin supplements as well.

But again, if you have ADHD it can be hard to remember to take them.

And then once you've got an understanding perhaps of your cycle and how it affects you, then go and speak to your gp.

Ask to speak to a gp.

If you don't want to see your normal gp, ask to speak to a GP who is a specialist in reproductive health or women's health.

And most GP practices tend to have one person who tends to do a lot of the family planning aspect or tends to do lots of discussions around hrt.

But ask specifically which would be the best doctor for you to see.

And go in with a bullet point list of how you're feeling and what you know the aspect of.

I notice these mood swings here and here, so I track your cycle as best you can.

I'd consider diet.

And then the last thing I do is reach out to networks.

Even if you want to just observe other women with ADHD on social media, because having an understanding that you're not on your own, that this is a neurodevelopmental condition and these are not active choices that you're making to dysregulate is so empowering and so important and gives you that determination to keep going.

And now here is Catherine Tiddy.

Now, Catherine, like I said, is a positive psychology coach.

She focuses on helping people feel good, aligned, happy, purposeful in their careers, as well as Shel Mendelsohn, which you'll hear soon.

And her business, the Work Happy Project, is fantastic.

She's helping lots of women perhaps pivot or understand their strengths or no longer be held back by the neurodivergence.

Let's hear from Catherine.

After we get this diagnosis, it's like, okay, we've lived life potentially in this languishing state that you mentioned, but often much worse because we don't even know what's going on.

We don't understand ourselves.

And so it's been challenging, it's been difficult.

We then get the diagnosis.

And actually, you know, you talk about this post traumatic growth.

We want to go in that direction, but very often we're stuck in the what ifs and it could have been this way and if someone had helped me, and there's a lot of grief and there's a lot of sadness and anger, anger and resentment.

And we, we have to move through that.

But then I, like, want to help.

So we sort of like, recognize, okay, yes, these, all these things did happen, but then it's like, okay, right, like, how can we grow, how can we thrive, how can we flourish, like you say?

So I'd be interested to know a little bit more about this post traumatic growth, because I think this is really relevant today.

Yeah, because I think it is.

It's that, you know, the first step comes with realizing the current reality of, you know, this is where I am now.

This is my maybe new set of circumstances.

Like you say, you know, that kind of post diagnosis of this is, this is what I'm dealing with here.

And that is never going to be easy.

Our brains don't like being in this state of flux, don't like change.

So when we're in this sort of scenario, that acceptance, you know, is the first and really difficult stage to go through.

But it's then helping people understand, okay, so this is what I Am.

And this is where I am.

But actually, what do I want to choose to do from here?

And I think, you know, I talk with clients a lot about this, is we have agency and choice in our lives.

Not always.

And it's not always fair, and it's not always equally shared.

But where can you see kind of that ability to choose and what support do you need?

Probably most importantly, to think about what that could look like.

You know, I don't mind sharing.

I'm going through this process currently with my son with regard to ADHD diagnoses.

And I see in him such super strengths that I hope I can really help him see.

And strengths.

And understanding your own strengths is a massive, massive part of this.

It's one of the sort of fundamental jigsaw pieces of positive psychology is not a focus on the weakness or the deficit or the things that aren't good or that aren't right.

It's how do we shine a light on all of the really positive things and the elements of you that absolutely can shine.

And it's helping individuals then find those, understand those.

Because we quite often have what's called strengths blindness.

You know, people aren't very.

You can reel off your weaknesses, but we're not very good at identifying our strengths.

There's loads of ways we can do that.

And I'm.

I'll happily share some links that you can put in any notes anywhere around free assessment tools and things like that.

There's lots of ways that we can do it.

So that's where I often start with clients.

Is that sort of first base of let's really understand what lights you up.

And it's not just what am I good at.

Oh, well, I'm good at blah, or I'm good at presenting or I'm good at teamwork or whatever it is.

They're kind of learned behaviors.

And quite often our careers are based on learned behaviors.

So actually, coming back to it's not about what can I do and what can I do?

Well, it's about what really lights me up and energizes me as opposed to depletes energy.

And it's understanding that.

That I think certainly for a lot of people, and especially those with any form of neurodiversity, it's understanding what are the things they're really good at and how can they really do more of that.

And here is Shel Mendelsohn.

Now, Shel is a career coach.

She talks to us about finding that ADHD career that works for you.

The ADHD career path is nuanced.

And what I mean by that is there's no real clear answer that the only answers that are required are the answers that come from you and that are right for you.

It encompasses most or all of the elements that are important to you and that you enjoy that really make up the majority of your work day or what you're doing in your work.

With adhd, I think you notice that if you're like me, let's put it that way, it takes us a bit longer to get things done, to reach our goals, or even to get out of the house, right?

We get distracted, we lose focus, we start projects again, we get bored and stop.

Many of us would just love it if we could be the ideas person.

You ever thought of that?

Gee, I wish I could just be the ideas person.

I have so many ideas, thoughts, and my brain just comes up with all these topics all the time.

And then we could let others do the implementation before we give up and then just go on to the next thing.

So the nuances of how ADHD impacts our work life continues in a big way.

When it comes to building the foundation of a lasting career path, that's not a bad thing.

That's actually a good thing because it really, really allows you to get to know yourself, to be honest with yourself, to recognize when Bowles calls a safekeeping self, which is a big part of what I teach, the safekeeping self is that part of you that wants to take you in another direction that can stop you from even finding out about something you're interested in.

Because the first thought is, am I going to make enough money?

What will people think?

What if that.

What if?

Whatever, it can stop us.

And in this process, it rears its ugly head over and over again.

And so one of my favorite teachers once said, if you need things to change to make you feel joy, you're in deep doo doo.

In other words, in the context of career, if you're in a job and you've twisted yourself, found yourself being twisted into a pretzel to make it work, and you're still miserable and you're still feeling all those uncomfortable feelings at work, you know, it's not a great fit, but you try and mold yourself into being the kind of person that they're looking for on the job.

So the only person that needs to change really here is you.

And why is that?

It's because, again, you are in the wrong job.

It's as simple as that.

There's nothing wrong with you.

There's nothing else going on, except that it's not a good fit.

And there's no way that with our brain wiring we can actually make things fit for us the way we want, no matter how hard we try.

Now, some people can go on for years, but eventually it will catch up.

And in the end, you want a work life that is all encompassing and based on the work that allows you to move, shift and change throughout your life.

And it's aligned with feelings of satisfaction and even joy.

So there you have it.

That's your little taster into the toolkit.

I hope you found it helpful, useful.

Maybe you learned something new.

So my hope is that you will join me and you'll share the toolkit for anyone that does struggle, that isn't able to access coaching or expensive workshops.

This is for anyone that wants to help themselves on this new journey of neurodivergence and wants to do it at a lower cost.

So I really hope that it is of help.

And if you are interested, go to Apple Podcasts.

That's where you can click.

Literally, it's like a very easy maneuver.

It's just there where you listen to podcasts and click the subscription version.

Like I say, you will get that two week trial so you can give it a go and see what you think.

So I will see you very soon.

And tomorrow sees the launch of a new episode on the Toolkit.

So I really hope you enjoy that.

That's the Shel Mendelssohn one.

Take care.