You are the only thing standing between where you are now and the life you actually want.

Kimberly Rash gets refreshingly real in this debut episode, sharing how overthinking, self-doubt, fear of judgment, and the endless wait to "feel ready" are the invisible walls we build around our own potential. She weaves in her own vulnerable story of re-recording this very episode over ten times, proving that getting in your own way doesn't always look dramatic; sometimes it just looks like staying the same while your brain convinces you you're moving forward.

The takeaway is simple but powerful: you don't need to have it all figured out to take the next step. You are not stuck… you are becoming.

Kimberly Rash: Have you been feeling stuck lately? I'm just gonna say this with love, but you might actually be in your own way. And I say that from learned experience. And before you shut this off and get defensive or start thinking, yeah, that's not me, I want you to just hear me out because I've been there too. This isn't about judging yourself, and this isn't about blaming yourself.

This is about becoming aware so we can actually start moving forward. We're stuck because we're overthinking it. We're waiting to feel ready. We're holding onto things that don't fit us anymore, or we're just scared to take the next step. And instead of moving, we just sit in it and we think about it and we analyze it, and we go back and forth and nothing actually changes.

And I want something different for you. I want you to feel like you can actually move forward with your life without needing to have everything figured out at first. So today. We're gonna talk about what that really looks like to get out of our own way and to take our next step. And when I say this, you know, things that get us in our own way, things that keep us stuck are things like overthinking, waiting to feel ready, self-doubt, staying in comfort, holding onto outdated beliefs.

Even like, oh, when this happens, then I'll do this. And sometimes being in your own way, it doesn't look dramatic. It's literally just staying the same while your brain is going ahead of you saying, oh yeah, I'm gonna make these changes. But we just never do. And then we end up with regret. I get in my own way all the time.

Literally doing this podcast I get in my own way. I have rerecorded this episode. Like, I don't know, like 10 times now and, and more so, 'cause I don't wanna sound silly, I don't wanna sound unprepared, I don't wanna sound all these things. So I am my worst critic and I am my worst. Person to keep me from just getting on to episode two.

So I'll listen to it and they'll be like, oh no, did you hear that long pause? Oh no, the kids came home. Did you hear the dog barking? And then I am like, Nope, cut. Start over. Gotta do it again. And I'm in my own way even about starting a podcast. You know, I thought about it a bunch of times in my life and then I'm like, who wants to listen to me or.

Okay, Kim, like easy there. Take a backseat. Like you don't. You have nothing to say. And I discouraged myself from doing something that I may potentially like. And honestly like this is fun. I actually very much like it, I'm now at the mindset where I don't care if I don't have a hundred million followers or listeners.

It is a really great place just to share. Encouragement and wisdom and love with other people. And now that I stopped being in my own way I am now just kind of pressing through episodes and just saying, you know what, I'll fix the booboos later. Or, you know what? I'm not perfect and I actually don't care if you guys see that I'm not perfect.

I'm just me. So, no, everything's not always gonna be super polished or super professional because you know what? I'm right now, I'm a Greenhorn podcast person. I am not a professional. So there's how I get in my own way. And you know what? I know you get in your own way too. So I think it just really comes down to why do we do this?

why do we get in our own way? Is it because we literally just self-sabotage? we're afraid of change. Some people are afraid of change. I am. I am very much someone who is great with a routine, and knowing exactly what my life looks like. I literally, for most of my life, had a backup plan for a backup plan.

that is how I lived my life and I kind of had to, 'cause I was always in a state of fight or flight. I was always in a space of I had no foundation in my life. So there was always a backup plan for a backup plan. Fear of judgment. What are people gonna think of me? You know what, back in the day before the internet, No one would really know about you unless you were like super famous on tv, you know? Or. In whatever field, maybe like doctors or broadcasting a sport that that's all we knew. We didn't really know much about our neighbor. We didn't really know much about anyone else in the world. Heck, like, I don't even bother going to school reunions at this point.

So I, I went to my 10 year reunion and I saw people I wanted to see and that was really when the internet, it was really before MySpace, I think. So. Yeah, when you went there, you actually saw people you haven't seen in a really long time, and you searched out your old friends that you wanted to talk to and you sat with them.

And now I have no reason to wanna ever do that. so other people's opinions, everyone's gonna find out about me doing this one way or another, and it's just out there. So if I don't wanna be seen, then I better not do it if I don't. Care about other people's opinions about me, then you just do it.

And I think you all should look at it that way. Like, nowadays, if you're gonna step out and do something, you're gonna have to be okay with other people's criticisms of you, but your, their opinions are none of your business. So get out of your comfort zone. Stop your fear of failure. Your brain is just trying to keep you safe and is trying to.

Well, not intentionally, but it's, it's kind of keeping you stuck.

I think that like if you take a moment and you sit back and you think about, what about this thing that I wanna do is good, is true, is strong, why do I believe in it? Why do I wanna step into it? Why do I wanna do it? And then release all the things that do not fit, release all the things that are holding you back.

Release the, the thoughts and the self criticisms, the self critiques, and you just gotta let 'em go because we are our own worst enemy 90% of the time. when you do that, you can take one step. And you can rise into the thing that you're doing. And whether that's just researching what you wanna do more before you take the next step, maybe going around and getting the proper documentation all set.

Maybe collaborating with like-minded people, maybe getting sponsors if it's something that you want sponsorship for, and doing all the groundwork little by little before you come out saying, I'm doing this. it isn't necessarily just about creating a company or creating some wearers to sell or something like that.

Sometimes it's, just going to college, taking a night class, taking a do-it-yourself sewing class, doing something that makes you feel better about you. Whatever that is, you can do it. And so just do it. Because you're gonna find that when you step out of your fear and into your challenge, things are gonna start aligning.

And honestly, if it's not meant to be, it's not gonna And I don't mean not meant to be because you keep self-sabotaging it. I mean, it's not meant to be because literally the things are not aligning. You can't get your financing, you can't get this, you can't get that actual roadblocks that have nothing to do that are actually out of your control for the most part.

not you keeping you from doing what you really wanna do. So just take that next step, just rise out of it. Just say, you know what, mother trucker, I can do this. I can do this. The only person holding me back is me. Whatever. Set it and forget it. Just go for it. So I'm just gonna ask you today, like, where are you overthinking?

What are you avoiding?

I would just take a moment and think When I look at other people and I feel some type of way, if you're looking at other people and their successes and you're not sharing them on, especially if it's in a field or something that you have a passion for or an interest in, and you're like, oh, just one more person. I'm never gonna be able to do it.

There's gonna be so many people saturating that field or, Oh look, she just gets everything. It just falls in her lap instead of being like, wow, she must have worked so hard to do that. How brave she must have been to take that first step. Good for her. I can't wait. Hopefully we can collaborate together someday and we can do a podcast together.

A couple of interview sessions, something like that. And you go with an attitude of gratitude, a. A place of positive thinking, then I think it's gonna make it easier for you to know what you gotta do and just stay out of your own way.

And I think, I think if we all just sit back and we go back and think. Everyone had a dream. Literally, I am the woman who was just like, everyone always knew what they wanted to do with their life. Most people that I know had a vision, a quest, in high school. They're like, I'm gonna grow up and be a nurse.

I'm gonna grow up and be a secretary. I'm gonna grow up and be this. And I never had a passion for anything. I see people with passions and things that just align with who they are, and I never have had that. I was like the jack of all trades, master of none. I still am a jack of all trades, master of none.

My brain is like. Ooh, I wanna be good at that. I wanna be good at that. I wanna be good at that. I wanna be good at that. And I literally do that. So I run out and I'm like, good. I'm gonna take this certification. I'm gonna get that degree. I'm gonna go. And that is what I do. I'm like a collector of certifications.

I just became a phlebotomist last week. then I became a LLC owner, and then I became host of Ver Rise podcast. Because I just, I'm like, yes, that piques my interest, but there I don't have a passion. You know what? My passion has always been helping people, loving people, loving others as I love myself and trying to help others without expectation of anything in return.

And sometimes that's hard, but that has been my passion. I've always tended to work in fields of loving on others and helping others and guiding others. So I guess supposedly like that. There you go. That's my passion. But really think about what it is that you have some type of passion about.

it's funny because I raised a daughter who is very much like me. She knew exactly. Kind of like what she wanted to do. My daughter is a doctor. she's an ER doc but like her mother, we try everything and think we say. We're wicked good at everything, but we are not excellent. Pretty much anything because either we're like, yep, done with that, put that down, pick up the next thing.

Get good at it. Okay, that's good enough. I feel confident enough about that. Put it down, do the next thing. And I am, I am not, an expert at any of the things that I have ever tried to do. pretty good at a lot of things, but me and my daughter, Raquel, the jack of all trades, master of none, but they do say is better to be that than a master of none.

Right? They always forget the, like the second half of that saying, and I'm not even sure if I just said it correctly. So thank you so much. I just want to say, let's take a moment. let's make a move. In the next 24 hours, we're just going to take one small step. We're gonna send a message, we're gonna make a call, we're gonna start the thing, whatever that looks like, to bring us into the next step of who we wanna be.

It doesn't have to happen for everybody else. It can happen for you, your dream does not have to look like anybody else's. It can be. Literally, you just wanna have Fridays off, so you can have Fridays with your grandson or your grandchildren. Make the move, ask your boss. Do the things. Again, it's not always about something that's gonna alter your whole world, but it is something that's gonna alter your life, that's gonna be working in your favor.

I just want you to do it. Just remember, you do not need to have everything figured out. You just need to get out of your own way and take the next step. You are not stuck, you are becoming,

and I just want you all to know that I am so grateful for you being here today. I am so grateful that you take the time to listen to me, and I just want you all to remember that. You can sit in it, you can root, root into the things that you love about yourself, root into the things about your life that you wanna do, and then you can release the things that are holding you back, the things that you don't like about yourself.

And go ahead, rise into the next person that you are. And I do have that. PDF, attached to my show notes and we are working on. Getting a nice little affirmation, meditation, positive self speak, little download for you to be able to listen to in your car or in your office, or wherever you are, when you need a five minute reset, just to figure out how to get through that present moment, especially if you're overwhelmed or overthinking, or life is just too much.

I appreciate you all for being here today. And I hope you have a wonderful day, and I'm gonna see you in the next episode.