Have you ever sat near a fire, either in the comfort of your own home in the winter or outside during a crisp, fall night, and think about what life has done in the past, present, or future? What kinds of thoughts, feelings, and emotions run through you? How do you conjure those same thoughts in the busyness of life and manifest the existence of that fire, smoke and embers, into yourself? Today’s episode allows you to experience that sensation, and so much more in how to stoke the fire inside of you, literally!

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Intro/Outro By: Michael Dugan, Podcast Host: Voice4Chefs

Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and

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determination all converge into

an amazing, heartfelt experience.

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This is Speaking From The Heart.

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Joshua: Welcome back to episode

number 183 of Speaking from the Heart.

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Welcome to my fire.

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Welcome to the comfort zone where you

can just take a load off your back, put

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everything aside, sit on the log which

will serve as our seat tonight, and

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enjoy what I have to say, because I have

a story in which I want to tell you.

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Have you ever felt the roaring fire, not

only warming your face, warming your body,

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warming your soul, but especially on that

winter cold night, or that crisp fall day,

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thinking about what it is that you want

to work on not only from your past, but

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how you will tackle it in the present, so

that you can become better for the future?

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Think about the thoughts, the feelings,

the sounds, the emotions that surround

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you, not only from the outside, the

physical that is, but think about not

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only the wind blowing on your face, that

cold spike that is happening, that cold

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temperature that might be hitting you, but

think about the rush, the exhilaration,

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knowing that as you sit around this fire,

you're being rejuvenated: mind, body, and

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soul, taking on the thoughts, the busyness

of life, putting it aside, working on

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not only yourself, while dodging the

fire, smoke, and embers that are around

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you, being able to pour into you, to

become that best version of who you are.

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Thanks for coming into this fire,

ladies and gentlemen, because

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today's episode is about warming up.

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It's about getting that fire

we ignited inside of ourselves.

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It's about not only pushing ourselves

to the limits, getting above and beyond

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where we ever thought possible, but also

trying to overcome some of the temptation

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of giving up, knowing that that brief

respite, being able to be surrounded

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by others, maybe even just the sounds

of nature for that matter, can be such

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an exhilarating feeling to get you back

in the game, to get you back into life,

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stoking the fire inside of you, literally.

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Now I have to say these cold winter

days that we have in Pennsylvania

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have been quite crazy in itself.

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We've had temperatures that reached the

single digits all the way to the 50s.

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It's kind of a roller coaster

when we get to this time of year,

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especially in Pennsylvania, even

starting out with this brand new year.

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It has been somewhat of

a different type of vibe.

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It's something that we oftentimes are

adjusting whether we should put on short

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sleeves, or put on the long sleeves, or

even put on that heavy jacket so that we

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can tackle the elements, but even then,

are you putting on different layers?

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Are you putting on different things that

might be holding you back from being able

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to experience the true potential of that

fire, to be able to wake up, to see what's

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around you, to be able to smell, taste,

feel, hear, and even experience, with

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your mind, all the various combinations

that surround you when it comes to stoking

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that fire, not only that's in front

of you, but also what's inside of you?

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I think that we often don't get the

chance to stop and smell the flowers,

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and for a variety of different episodes

I've touched upon this, but I really want

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to dig deeper into why it's important

to not only stop and smell them, but

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also experience what it can mean to roar

that fire that's inside of you; what it

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is that might be holding you back from

the true potential that lies dormant.

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I have to say that this is the time

of year, even for us, even when things

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significantly slow down, or maybe

they pick back up again, especially

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with the type of field work that

you do; maybe you are a construction

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worker, or a blue collar worker for

that matter, getting back on the road,

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having those opportunities to not

only pull to the side of the road to

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experience what you have, but also

experience what you can give to others.

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Those thoughts, those feelings, those

emotions that run around you that

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create this past, present, future

version of yourself, is something

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that we have to pay attention to.

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It's something that senses within

ourselves whether we have that fire that

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will keep on moving us forward, that

will allow us to not be snuffed out.

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The comfort of our own home, being able

to even stoke that fire that's in our

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fireplace, means that we are surrounded

by friends and family members that we

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invite to not only partake, maybe in

s'mores, maybe in the things that are

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associated with building that type

of fire, but even outside, a campfire

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does contain different ingredients for

it to continue burning long into the

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night, especially as it gets colder

and colder, and even providing a source

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of light, nourishment, if you're using

it as cooking fuel along other things.

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If you think about all the different

things that are involved with being able

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to create that opportunity to start a

fire, you can think of all the things that

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create that opportunity to jumpstart you.

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We are a fire, and that fire can sometimes

be burning very hot, or burning very

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softly, maybe even to the point of almost

fizzling out, but even with all those

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things, all those temptations, all those

different things that might be holding

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us back from being able to really dig

deep, to push us into understanding what

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are the thoughts, feelings, emotions that

make us feel whether we're really hot or

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really cold when it comes to our fire.

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We have to learn that sometimes we

have to be able to moderate that.

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We have to be able to see what really

fuels us; what might put us out for

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that matter, and I think that that

manifestation, whether we want to look

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at it from a physical aspect, putting

that fire together, physically, or even

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looking at it from ourselves, how we

are able to continuously burn bright

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means that we have to look at not

just the inputs, but also the outputs.

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That's right.

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The things that we put inside our

body, and also the things that are

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outside of our body that are out of

our control, we're not able to be able

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to, work through without some guided

help and some direction to help us

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become better versions of ourselves.

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It's not easy, ladies and gentlemen, to

be able to go through all these different

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busy parts of our life, and manifest

these fire, smoke, embers that come

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around us that make us feel like we're

connected with the overall; that we're

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able to sit near that fire, especially

in that cold night, and be able to enjoy

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what is around us, because there might

be something else that is bothering us.

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There might be other things

that we have to push aside.

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There might be other aspects that we're

not even taking into account today that

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might come up, and throw us into cold

water, and that sensation, especially

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when we're doused with that chemical

that snuffs us out, we definitely don't

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want to be part of that journey anymore.

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We definitely find ways in which we

can walk away and rebuild ourselves,

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burning that brightly, burning

that ability for us to create that

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opportunity to shine even more.

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I think that we have to find

that sensation, not only within

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ourselves, but we also have

to find it amongst each other.

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I think that you have to be able to

understand even more, that when it comes

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to building that fire that's inside

of ourselves, you have to be able to

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learn how to grow, not only by learning

how these experiences affect us, but

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also how they affect each other, but by

affecting this, by stoking that fire,

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especially when we have that poker

that will help to jumpstart ourselves,

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are we really ready to have that poker

push us in directions that we really

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do start burning brightly again?

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Now even with all that said, even with all

the things that might be pushing us into

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that direction, we have to think about why

that fire is so important from the get go.

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Why is it necessary for

us to burn brightly?

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There are definitely times in

our life that we have to burn a

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little bit lower, especially the

intensity, because sometimes our

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intensity can throw us off course.

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It can make us feel like we're not

comfortable in being able to not

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only shine brightly, but to be able

to stand firm, especially in the

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face of adversity to be able to take

us to places that we need to go.

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Being able to feel comfortable about that

means that we have to step outside that

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bubble, and that fire then has to step

outside that circle that is built in, even

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if it's outside, or even in the fireplace.

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Whether we are looking at it from

a figurative or literal standpoint,

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we have to step outside, sometimes

to show how bright we really burn,

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but do we really want to do that?

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Do we really want to frustrate the

balance that nature provides, whether

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that is for ourselves internally,

or externally, for that matter?

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That in itself is a judgment call, and

that judgment call is not easy to make,

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so I want to talk about how you can

make this roaring fire, especially when

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you have to get it started again, to

help you to get in the right direction.

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If you haven't spent enough time to even

try to build this fire, maybe the first

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thing that you can do is see why the fire

actually went out in the first place.

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That means going back in time,

trying to figure out what it

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is that might have set it off.

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Maybe there was something that doused it.

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Maybe there was somebody that told you

something that really hurt your feelings.

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Maybe there was something

that happened in your life.

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Sometimes this soul searching exercise

is not easy to do, especially all by

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yourself, and granted, somebody like

myself that has been through this

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journey to get to that other side,

to be able to work on themselves, I

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had to go back very far, so don't be

surprised if you're unearthing things

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that might have happened 5, 10, 20

years ago, and you're figuring out why

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is that something that sticks with you.

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Once you're able to do that, now you have

to rebuild what that fire is that you once

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had, and making sure that it's protected

from ever being doused out again.

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It means putting up safeguards, but

not too many safeguards, because one of

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the biggest things that I've learned is

that we can be overly protective, too

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much so that we actually set ourselves

backwards, so being able to examine what

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that looks like, what those thoughts,

feelings, emotions are that might be

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hurting us, might help us to understand

how we can move into our future.

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Trying to do that in a cautionary manner,

however, might not be in our best favor.

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Sometimes the band aid

has to be ripped off.

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The pain that might come from that

might be temporary, but being able

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to learn how we can move forward from

that, knowing that the pain will subside

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itself, will be a great opportunity

for us to learn and develop ways in

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which we can compensate for that.

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One of the last things that I think

of immediately that you can do to make

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sure that that fire, even once it's

started, it will burn brightly, is

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making sure that you have the right

ingredients to keep that fire alive.

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It isn't just about the wood.

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It's not about the kindling

that you put into it so that it

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actually jumpstarts itself again.

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It's about all the other things in

our life that we have been able to

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find that are enriching ourselves.

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Maybe it's that experience that we

once had; that was the turning point,

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but maybe there is something else that

we want to learn from that experience

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that will help us to go even further,

so revisiting what we have been able

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to do can be a great step forward.

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Being able to take that step forward

means that we also have to make a list

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of all the different things, all the

different areas that we can develop within

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ourselves, that we can show that we are

capable of becoming that best version of

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ourselves, that we are able to grow, and

mature, and see that on that other side

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of that fire, is the dawning of a new day.

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Night might come and that fire might be

the way in which we navigate the darkness

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and sustain ourselves overnight, but

once the fire goes out, because we don't

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need it anymore, that's when the day

will provide its own sunlight, its own

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way in which we're able to move forward.

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Pushing everything that I said for the

last 13 and a half minutes away for a

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moment, and thinking about this from

an objective standpoint, I'm sure that

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there are many of you that can think of

people, even yourselves for that matter,

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that need that encouragement, that need

that advice, they are able to be stewards

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of the light that are given to them, and

being able to find comfort, especially

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in the coldest of days, and nights for

that matter, to be the safe beacon to

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be able to find where that fire is that

we've been missing all of our lives.

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It could be with someone

that you love deeply.

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It could be with someone that you

care about that you really want

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their affection, and if you haven't

told them today that you love them

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or care about them, even if it's a

friend, family member, or significant

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other, pause, and do that right now.

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Find that person, find that place, find

that thing that will help you so much,

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and don't get overly addictive to it,

because sometimes we can over obsess.

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There are addictions to bad things:

alcohol, drugs, sex, all the different

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things that have been trauma in our lives.

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We've had a number of guests that

have talked about how they have been

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able to extinguish those vices, and

be able to ignite the fire that's

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inside of them in a whole new way.

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Finding those ways in which we can

experience that sensation, how we're

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able to create that opportunity of a

lifetime to conjure up those thoughts

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so that we are not as busy as we once

thought we were, because we were putting

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them aside can help us with building

that roaring fire, and I know that maybe

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this might be a difficult experience.

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It means that you have to challenge

yourself in ways that you have never

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challenged yourself before, but I will

tell you that through those experiences,

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you will be a better person, and for me,

especially with all the clients that I

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have ever worked with, and the experiences

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know that those opportunities will exist.

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I know that I will be a different person

when I record the last episode of this

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year, whatever number that will be,

because I will have that perspective,

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I will have that depth, and I will have

that attitude that will change it all.

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That will help me, become the best

version of myself, and ignite the roaring

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fire that has yet to even grow even

larger, even brighter, to help others.

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But I must digress.

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It's not about the size

of the fire that matters.

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It's not even about the quality of

the fire in which it prolongs itself.

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It's just about the effort, and

that's all I'm asking you today

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in this episode to consider.

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Do you want to sit in your own comfort,

knowing that that fire will always keep

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you warm, but will always push you aside,

saying that you're not worthy, that you

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are stuck in this moment forever and ever

and ever, or, are you going to challenge

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yourself to go beyond the fire that is

built now, to help others bring around

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the circle, whether that's in your house

or outside, the opportunity to have a

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conversation, to be able to grow, to

prosper in ways that both financially,

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knowledge wise, or some other mechanism,

will help you see greatness in a way

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in which that roaring fire will make

you even greater than you once were.

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Stepping outside your comfort zone isn't

just about finding the fire, but it's

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also having the courage, the ignition in

which will help jumpstart that process,

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so that you will become not just the

best version of yourself, not just

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the way in which you're able to ignite

the flame that's inside of you, but to

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know that you are ever enduring, ever

pushing forward, with determination

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knowing that you have what it takes.

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You know deep inside yourself what it

means not only to become the best, but

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the best of them all, and I think even

looking at all the things that you

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have done, even up to this point, even

looking at all the things that are yet

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to come, can help you ignite that roaring

fire that is only just getting started.

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Thanks for listening to episode

number 183 of Speaking From the

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Heart, and I look forward to

hearing from your heart very soon.

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