I’m still feeling the energies of this eclipse gate. It came in strong, but I’ve surrendered to the whirlpool and I’m feeling a delicious activation that feels like something I can trust. In this episode we’re going to talk some more about navigating the in-between and going deeper to feel and be yourself through transitions that you may have been resisting.
Part of this comes back to understanding the feminine and masculine energy within us. This isn’t a discussion on gender, sex, gender roles, or how anyone identifies externally - we all have access to masculine and feminine energy in all areas of our being.
Is your expression of these energies serving you in your path to freedom? Are you spending too much time in the doing-pushing energy, or are you valuing the feminine side and allowing yourself to use both?
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This is the first time I'm recording two episodes
Ash Johns:of the podcast in one week.
Ash Johns:And that might not seem like a big deal or like, who cares, Ash.
Ash Johns:But I, I care about it because it tells me that I'm really relaxed.
Ash Johns:I'm really tuned in to this podcasting journey and how it's
Ash Johns:deepening and evolving for me.
Ash Johns:And that I'm no longer like, holding back what I have to say and what
Ash Johns:I have to share and what I wanna document in my life and in my business.
Ash Johns:I'm not holding back to be more strategic.
Ash Johns:those of you know I am a strategist by training.
Ash Johns:And so I love to see the big picture and connect the dots and go down
Ash Johns:into the depths and bring it back forward and all these things.
Ash Johns:And so sometimes I'll have like notebooks and notebooks and like voice notes
Ash Johns:upon voice notes and boxer messages to boxer messages of like ideas.
Ash Johns:And I'll just let them sit there until I know where I wanna plug them in.
Ash Johns:And I've been shifting my approach to truly recording when I feel called when
Ash Johns:the message really drops into my spirit.
Ash Johns:And also, even if I don't record it, when it drops into my spirit, I do write like
Ash Johns:my little script slash bullet points, things to cover over an episode and my,
Ash Johns:podcast management system so that I can come back and record, when it feels right.
Ash Johns:So all that to say, this is delightful, and let me tell you like, let's set the
Ash Johns:scene, like crawl into this with me.
Ash Johns:It is Monday afternoon.
Ash Johns:I really felt the call on today's topic around like 1:37 PM I started
Ash Johns:writing my notes around 1:43 PM and now it's 2 0 9 and I'm recording.
Ash Johns:So those of you who are listening and you think about, you know, starting a podcast
Ash Johns:or any project and you're like, what does it look like and how do people do it?
Ash Johns:And you're trying to like research it to figure out other people's creative flow.
Ash Johns:I'm laying across.
Ash Johns:My bed, the sheets are all tangled around my ankles.
Ash Johns:I'm laying on my belly, I'm looking out the window at the forest.
Ash Johns:it's the first day of my bleed if that's inspiring for you.
Ash Johns:And we're in this eclipse gate.
Ash Johns:And so what feels very real for me is just staying in my body in present
Ash Johns:moment, in the energy field that I'm cultivating, which is to be true to my
Ash Johns:heart and true to, yeah, this journey, step by step, day by day, right?
Ash Johns:So, as I said, we're in this eclipse.
Ash Johns:Portal this gate.
Ash Johns:We've passed the new moon that was in Aries a few days ago, and we're
Ash Johns:coming up slowly to the full moon.
Ash Johns:So we've got another two weeks in this eclipse gate.
Ash Johns:And the reason why I'm bringing that up is because even in last episode
Ash Johns:I was talking about being in that in between and how to navigate the
Ash Johns:in between and manage your energy.
Ash Johns:In clearing your energy when you're moving through a transitionary time in your
Ash Johns:life, in your business, in your body.
Ash Johns:I mean, when are we not in transition, but there are more potent moments, right?
Ash Johns:And to me, this eclipse portal is just, it's just not fucking around.
Ash Johns:I feel it came in so strong and now it's in this Mm, I get the sensation of.
Ash Johns:A whirlpool, like it's warm.
Ash Johns:There's still activity, but I've kind of surrendered to it, and as a result,
Ash Johns:I feel a juicy, delicious, promising activation that feels like something
Ash Johns:I can trust, something that I've been longing for, something that I may
Ash Johns:have been even resisting and trying to think my way through it instead of.
Ash Johns:Feeling and being myself through it.
Ash Johns:And that's what today's episode is about.
Ash Johns:You know, navigating your energy and the experience of the in
Ash Johns:between is what we talked about last episode, letting go, even though
Ash Johns:you haven't yet embodied something.
Ash Johns:And as I went deeper into that medicine and lived into that messages medicine even
Ash Johns:more, I was reminded of a conversation I had months ago that came back to
Ash Johns:the surface and it kind of touched on.
Ash Johns:The story that I even shared a little bit in last episode around the guy that's
Ash Johns:in the in between as well and how he was feeling like, just disconnected.
Ash Johns:because in that conversation we were also talking about, or I was sharing with
Ash Johns:him that a lot of us are really missing that marker of change or that line of
Ash Johns:delineation or that crossing over that's usually marked by a rite of passage.
Ash Johns:Right.
Ash Johns:Either from your community, from your family, from an achievement.
Ash Johns:you know, we're in an age now where we have to give our own, rights of passages,
Ash Johns:our own ceremonies, our own titles.
Ash Johns:And I know there's a lot of people that have conversations and like
Ash Johns:feelings about self initiating and all that kind of stuff.
Ash Johns:And there's layers to that.
Ash Johns:And that's true in Dandy, but.
Ash Johns:Where we're going.
Ash Johns:It's a combination of the all.
Ash Johns:If you don't see and know who you are, and choose to step into it and put
Ash Johns:yourself through the fire and the ringer.
Ash Johns:Who else is going to initiate you?
Ash Johns:You know, like elders are leaving, um, new elders are coming in,
Ash Johns:look young, but they're old.
Ash Johns:You know, these indigo kids are like rocking out.
Ash Johns:These Gen Zs are like, you know, fuck y'all noise.
Ash Johns:You millennials are weird.
Ash Johns:You know what I mean?
Ash Johns:So yeah, I've been thinking a lot about self initiation and ritual.
Ash Johns:And so this particular episode on valuing the feminine has been
Ash Johns:on my heart for a long time.
Ash Johns:A long time.
Ash Johns:I am definitely talking about, I don't want there to be
Ash Johns:even any confusion at all.
Ash Johns:This episode I'm talking about the masculine and feminine
Ash Johns:energy within, and even without.
Ash Johns:And while some people are rolling their eyes and they're completely
Ash Johns:over this trend, quote unquote, um, or this topic and everyone who's
Ash Johns:like, I'm a goddess and I'm a feminine and polarity this and all that.
Ash Johns:I don't know if you guys are seeing that on social media, but
Ash Johns:I definitely have noticed it.
Ash Johns:And I've even seen it in spiritual groups and like women's groups where people
Ash Johns:are like, if someone comes to me, you know, kind of like making fun of it.
Ash Johns:But I just wanna say that I was led into this expression
Ash Johns:of my work of understanding the masculine and the feminine energy
Ash Johns:within, by the work that I do.
Ash Johns:You know, it was the ancestors and my own ancestors who led me to these
Ash Johns:understandings, and yes, to some elders and some teachers to help support and,
Ash Johns:bring contacts and understanding to.
Ash Johns:This work from their lived experience and who passed on
Ash Johns:information and journeys to them.
Ash Johns:So, you know, not to knock anybody who's literally looking for feminine
Ash Johns:teachings and what is it to be a feminine woman and all that kind of stuff.
Ash Johns:And like, if that's your journey and you did it from a somatic perspective, like
Ash Johns:great, I'm, I'm excited to share some things that I have learned and what I'm
Ash Johns:living and what I've been taught just through the energetics of healing with
Ash Johns:your ancestors through your lineage.
Ash Johns:For your life and for your legacy.
Ash Johns:So the first thing I wanna say is like, I remember this actually coming
Ash Johns:up last year in the Elevate cohort.
Ash Johns:There was a woman who was in the program who was highly accomplished.
Ash Johns:I think she even worked in like the science and tech field and, um, We
Ash Johns:were talking about her relationship to men and how she had this like
Ash Johns:knee jerk reaction to a man coming up to try to ask her on a date.
Ash Johns:And it was like this very angry, mean, hateful man, you know,
Ash Johns:hate men, kind of response.
Ash Johns:And she was questioning herself like, God, why was I so mean to that man?
Ash Johns:Like, he didn't do anything wrong.
Ash Johns:He was just coming to, you know, try to flirt with me,
Ash Johns:talk to me, ask me on a date.
Ash Johns:And I remember as we were starting to work with her and kind of unpack.
Ash Johns:Some questions and some inquiry to, to till the land so we can
Ash Johns:go deeper into her lineage on why she is behaving this way to men.
Ash Johns:And by the way, she, she was single at the time.
Ash Johns:I have no idea now.
Ash Johns:But, I remember her saying as we were talking about feminine energy
Ash Johns:and protection and boundaries and openness and receiving and
Ash Johns:all these different concepts.
Ash Johns:She was like, oh, I'm feminine.
Ash Johns:You know, I dress to the nines and I wear heels, and I have nice
Ash Johns:dresses and I always smell good, and my nails are always done, and
Ash Johns:my makeup on point and my hair this.
Ash Johns:And at that moment I was like, Ooh, at some point I'm gonna have a whole
Ash Johns:container and process about this.
Ash Johns:Because the internet, the world, our lives, even our mothers and aunties
Ash Johns:and grandmas have taught us that it is the external presentation.
Ash Johns:That determines if you're feminine or not, and that's just not true.
Ash Johns:You know, it's a misunderstanding that being feminine is what you do or how
Ash Johns:you dress and how you present yourself, because really that's only one aspect of
Ash Johns:it and a surface level aspect at that.
Ash Johns:There's also a misunderstanding that the masculine is tough and harsh and
Ash Johns:logical, but it's so much more than that.
Ash Johns:And so as I've sat with my own ancestors and exploring these things, really by
Ash Johns:just working my lineage, sitting with the women of my lineage, sitting with the
Ash Johns:men of my lineage, and seeing how they present themselves and what wounds and
Ash Johns:patterns and survival mechanisms have come up, but also seeing it with clients.
Ash Johns:You know, this isn't even about some.
Ash Johns:codes and downloads.
Ash Johns:And what does your lineage show you about your relationship to your
Ash Johns:feminine energy and your masculine energy that we all have, regardless
Ash Johns:to your sex and your gender, and any cultural and societal Conformity.
Ash Johns:This is facts like when we look in nature, that is what this planet was created like.
Ash Johns:We literally have the sun and the moon.
Ash Johns:We literally have like God spewing into the void and created earth is
Ash Johns:what you know, certain books say so.
Ash Johns:And ancestral healing work.
Ash Johns:My clients and I have en encountered ancestors on the maternal line and
Ash Johns:these quote unquote women, and I'm gonna only say women in brackets because
Ash Johns:some of the ancestors didn't identify as women, even though they were.
Ash Johns:Female and on the maternal lineage.
Ash Johns:All right, so all the things we're talking about as far as how you identify
Ash Johns:in present sense, this is not new.
Ash Johns:Humans have had lots of different ways that they present themselves, and
Ash Johns:there's lots of reasons why that is.
Ash Johns:Whether you were born two-spirited, the number of traumas and experiences
Ash Johns:you and your ancestors have had that has made us shift and evolve to be a
Ash Johns:certain way for protection or for ease or for access or whatever that might be.
Ash Johns:So I'm just gonna say women in quotes.
Ash Johns:And we can go on from there.
Ash Johns:But they presented sometimes as men in their energy and as behavior, even though
Ash Johns:we were working on their mother's mother's line or their father's mother's line.
Ash Johns:And the same thing on the paternal lineages.
Ash Johns:I've personally worked on my father's father's lineage and my mother's father's
Ash Johns:lineage, and the quote unquote men.
Ash Johns:Sometimes who were being trampled over because they were living,
Ash Johns:and led by their feminine energy more than their masculine energy.
Ash Johns:Even though we all have access and they have access to both.
Ash Johns:So the expression of these energies and their dominance and a person, as we all
Ash Johns:know, I assume at this point, at least I do know this, it's on a spectrum.
Ash Johns:You know, and some of us are going to align more to one or the other and
Ash Johns:in different aspects of our lives.
Ash Johns:The other energies are gonna be more, pronounced.
Ash Johns:So for example, I was watching something on Netflix today in my relaxation day, and
Ash Johns:someone was talking about how, sometimes the way that she mother, she really feels
Ash Johns:a masculine aspect of her motherhood.
Ash Johns:And I was like, yeah, when you have to be fierce and when you have
Ash Johns:to be strong, when you have to do things to take care of another.
Ash Johns:Human and they're of the rightful age to receive that Nurturing.
Ash Johns:Nurturing isn't always soft, like nurturing can be strong, hard, you know,
Ash Johns:extractive, even if I wanna use that language, because a mother can be using
Ash Johns:her energy, externalizing her energy in order to give that energy to her child.
Ash Johns:So, There's a lot that I wanna say, but I'm just gonna get all this out
Ash Johns:and then we're gonna go from there.
Ash Johns:I wanna share with you a question, and this question has helped me and
Ash Johns:my clients many of times as we were doing healing work in their life.
Ash Johns:And it came down to balancing the energetics in their body in their.
Ash Johns:System and in their lineage so that they can be in harmony with these energies and
Ash Johns:in harmony with the opposite sex and in harmony with same sex and same genders
Ash Johns:and opposite genders and all the things.
Ash Johns:Right?
Ash Johns:So here's the question, and I'll put this inside of access too, just so you know.
Ash Johns:is your expression of these energies.
Ash Johns:Masculine energy, feminine energy, serving your path of freedom.
Ash Johns:How are they and how are they not?
Ash Johns:Another way to ask this is, is your expression of these energies keeping you
Ash Johns:in cycles of fear, protection, and ego?
Ash Johns:How or how not?
Ash Johns:Right?
Ash Johns:Because something I've noticed is like this whole feminine movement,
Ash Johns:and again, I'm, I'm not gonna be all like, I'm anti feminine movement.
Ash Johns:Like there's aspects of this y'all.
Ash Johns:If y'all don't know this now I live in the nuance for sure.
Ash Johns:Like there's no doubt about that.
Ash Johns:this woman's movement, this boss babe, Epidemic that's going across our culture,
Ash Johns:modern western culture where it is making you famous and it's growing your
Ash Johns:investment accounts and you're visible and you're seen as this and that.
Ash Johns:A lot of those women, because they have been quite a few of them have been my
Ash Johns:personal friends and private clients.
Ash Johns:They have all the things externally and yet internally and in their real
Ash Johns:life and in their heart of hearts, they're unhappy and they're lonely.
Ash Johns:And even knowing people who are like on the track to be like the next
Ash Johns:Gabby Bernstein, you know what I mean?
Ash Johns:Like celebrating a marriage out on Instagram, but then secretively
Ash Johns:not telling people that.
Ash Johns:She's separated and really struggling in her relationship with her husband,
Ash Johns:you know, or people that I know who are multimillionaires and have successful
Ash Johns:businesses and have been invited and been on the stages and have the two
Ash Johns:book deals and, deeply wants to be in a relationship with a man and just
Ash Johns:cannot surrender or open or receive.
Ash Johns:And so I'm like, gosh.
Ash Johns:What I know for sure about this theme of 2023 is that we are in a time
Ash Johns:of great change, personal change, cultural and collective change.
Ash Johns:Energetic change.
Ash Johns:Spiritual change, right?
Ash Johns:Like paradigm changing and that this is a time of seeking out balance.
Ash Johns:If you've noticed, at least I have.
Ash Johns:It seems like there are less arguments happening all over the internet.
Ash Johns:People are still saying what they have to say, but a lot of us are just like, I
Ash Johns:don't even have any energy to address it.
Ash Johns:Like I said, my piece, you said your piece and we're done.
Ash Johns:Like moving on.
Ash Johns:Just looking for that sal, that acceptance that, yeah.
Ash Johns:The only word I can say is balance, you know?
Ash Johns:And there was a reason.
Ash Johns:We have contrast up and down, in and out, black and white, right?
Ash Johns:And that in the relationship of the two, we find the nuance, we find the
Ash Johns:gray, we find the opportunity, we birth something that is beautiful.
Ash Johns:And so I'm just looking at these trends of like so many women saying
Ash Johns:that we're tired of being oppressed.
Ash Johns:And if more women have more money, then the world is better.
Ash Johns:And yet, on the flip side of that, we're saying that we are exhausted and we're
Ash Johns:lonely and we're still unfulfilled.
Ash Johns:And this is work that I've been doing for a while and I've been noticing
Ash Johns:this for a while and talking about it in various ways for a while now, but
Ash Johns:it just feels like it's so important to devote an entire episode to it.
Ash Johns:And there's gonna be so many more cuz there's like, this is
Ash Johns:barely scratching the surface.
Ash Johns:And so it, it brought me to a conversation I was having, um, couple
Ash Johns:months ago, maybe three months ago.
Ash Johns:I was on a walk with my fiance and somehow we got on a conversation
Ash Johns:of him bringing up how.
Ash Johns:When people are in successful relationships, no one knows.
Ash Johns:Like they don't talk about that.
Ash Johns:And I think he was using LeBron James as an example, being like,
Ash Johns:he's been married a long time.
Ash Johns:His wife is amazing, you know, but she's not out in the limelight.
Ash Johns:And everyone just thinks about him and celebrates him, but we all know that, you
Ash Johns:know, she supports him, she inspires him, she holds him down, so on and so forth.
Ash Johns:And I was like, Ugh.
Ash Johns:Yeah, I have a lot to say about that.
Ash Johns:You know, same thing about like Marjorie and I'm just gonna use
Ash Johns:celebrities cause it's easy, right?
Ash Johns:Marjorie and like Steve Harvey where he was like, she is the woman who
Ash Johns:has helped me, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, and all the things.
Ash Johns:And I was like, well I think it's so interesting that the masculine in
Ash Johns:the sense it's the man presenting.
Ash Johns:Is the one who is celebrated and put on the cover of the magazines, and everyone's
Ash Johns:has their name and lights, but the feminine, in this case, the woman, the
Ash Johns:wife, is hidden and kept in the home and is just, you know, accessible to him.
Ash Johns:And then the other scenario is, All of these major coaches or speakers or
Ash Johns:teachers or whoever, famous women, they're all operating again off of the masculine.
Ash Johns:So even though they're women, or even though they're feminine
Ash Johns:or female, I should say, they're still operating from the masculine
Ash Johns:energy of doing externalizing, pushing, selling, drawing attention.
Ash Johns:You know what I mean?
Ash Johns:All those like energetic ways of exerting energy, I guess is the
Ash Johns:only way I can, I can say it.
Ash Johns:So anyway, as we were, me and my fiancee were having this
Ash Johns:conversation, he was like, yeah, I think it is interesting that.
Ash Johns:There's not a lot of women that we can think of off the top of our head who is
Ash Johns:famous because of their femininity, right?
Ash Johns:Who is considered nurturing and soft and like, and has as big of a following
Ash Johns:as all of the people who are presenting in like power and do it and take action
Ash Johns:and you know, all of these things.
Ash Johns:And I was like, yeah, why is the feminine not valued?
Ash Johns:You know, or the expression of valuing her or cherishing her really is
Ash Johns:not expressed in the same way that it's expressed in the masculine.
Ash Johns:And is that just the way that it is?
Ash Johns:Like, who created that?
Ash Johns:Why is it that way?
Ash Johns:And so I've been in that inquiry for a while and it brought me
Ash Johns:back to something I used to feel.
Ash Johns:Before I got deeper into this work, again, via my lineages, my lineage work.
Ash Johns:And it was that I understood and I was told how masculine energy definitely wants
Ash Johns:to be respected and appreciated, right?
Ash Johns:and the feminine energy needs to be cherished and loved,
Ash Johns:like unconditionally loved.
Ash Johns:And I was like, mm, respect and cherish.
Ash Johns:If I were to feel respected and cherished, would I be the most balanced
Ash Johns:version and creative version of myself?
Ash Johns:And I was like, yes, actually, if I boiled it all the way down, yes.
Ash Johns:If I respect myself and cherish myself, that is exactly what makes me feel
Ash Johns:the most abundant, the most open, the most magical, the most powerful.
Ash Johns:And a while ago, I would describe this as, I want people to know me and
Ash Johns:appreciate my work, respect my work.
Ash Johns:And I also wanna feel significant.
Ash Johns:I used to use the word significant a lot.
Ash Johns:It wasn't about being quote unquote powerful.
Ash Johns:It was about having importance, which really is about cherishing.
Ash Johns:Like, I love this person.
Ash Johns:I ador, you know what I mean?
Ash Johns:Like there's a, there's a sweetness to the word cherish that significant in these
Ash Johns:other adjacent words just don't capture.
Ash Johns:which is why I was like, oh, cherish.
Ash Johns:That's exactly it.
Ash Johns:So as I've continued on my own ancestral and lineage healing, embodying instead
Ash Johns:of digging for new information.
Ash Johns:Cause at this point I feel like we have journeyed through so many things in my
Ash Johns:lineages and I understand so many of the wounds and they've been elevated and like
Ash Johns:I'm definitely in a time in my life of being what my lineage has asked me to
Ash Johns:be, what I agreed to be when I came into and I decided to come into this family.
Ash Johns:And do this work.
Ash Johns:And so I've come to a couple understandings that
Ash Johns:I wanna share with you.
Ash Johns:I believe that we, women don't really know what we want.
Ash Johns:Our actions are an opposition to what we say that we want.
Ash Johns:They literally don't match.
Ash Johns:And I don't know about you guys, but I've been watching, I do love the dating
Ash Johns:shows, but I don't watch all of them.
Ash Johns:I only watch like, love Is Blind married at First Sight and the Indian Matchmaker.
Ash Johns:So I'm watching the Indian Matchmaker cuz they had a new season come out
Ash Johns:and there is, what was her name?
Ash Johns:Mall I think it was, or no, the guy she was with was be mall, I can't remember
Ash Johns:her name, but cute little London girl.
Ash Johns:I'd already been divorced and in her profile with, sema, auntie from
Ash Johns:Mumbai, SEMA from Mumbai, she's like, yeah, I want someone who's emotionally
Ash Johns:mature and I want someone who is open.
Ash Johns:I want someone.
Ash Johns:There's all these things of us women saying we want our men to be.
Ash Johns:And then when Simani connects her with a guy who is being, he's like pursuing her.
Ash Johns:He likes her.
Ash Johns:He is like, I am in my masculine, letting this woman know I want her.
Ash Johns:I am here to pursue her, to hold her, to protect her, to spend time with her,
Ash Johns:to get to know her, to cherish her.
Ash Johns:And then she's like, it's too much.
Ash Johns:I'm overwhelmed.
Ash Johns:I'm pushing him away.
Ash Johns:And I was like, oh, that's so interesting.
Ash Johns:what is it in her lineage, which many of us have experienced, I know I have
Ash Johns:and still do sometimes, um, where we say we want something and then when
Ash Johns:it comes, we feel unsafe to have it.
Ash Johns:Especially when a man is genuinely showing up give you his best and what he feels you
Ash Johns:need, and he feels you need them based on what you told him you wanted and needed.
Ash Johns:I'm like, Hmm, this is a thing.
Ash Johns:And it was also interesting how all of the women that she's matching in this show,
Ash Johns:I resonate with them as many of us do.
Ash Johns:Any of us who grew up, in single family homes or with hardworking
Ash Johns:women or being the first in our family to have good money.
Ash Johns:And so all these girls have gone off to have these great degrees, have
Ash Johns:these great jobs, and now they're like, I can't find a partner.
Ash Johns:I'm like, wow, we're all doing this.
Ash Johns:This is like a global thing that the woman is becoming so independent and she loves
Ash Johns:what she's achieved, and yet she's lonely.
Ash Johns:And again, there's a lot of nuance to this and we can talk a lot about that.
Ash Johns:And I know some of you were like, well, it's because of the men.
Ash Johns:we'll have plenty of episodes, trust me, like, but uh, just
Ash Johns:let this marinate right.
Ash Johns:And even take note, take note of what you're thinking as you hear me talk about
Ash Johns:this, cuz I'm hearing all the things that I also wanna say and I'm just trying
Ash Johns:to stick to what we wanna say here.
Ash Johns:but yeah, I've asked myself why is the masculine celebrated externally
Ash Johns:or openly or on the stage more than the feminine as an experience.
Ash Johns:I mean, think about this even from the coaching industry.
Ash Johns:Everyone's like, okay, what's gonna be the result?
Ash Johns:What is the steps?
Ash Johns:How many weeks am I gonna do this?
Ash Johns:How long is my sessions?
Ash Johns:Like all of those questions are from a masculine perspective
Ash Johns:and wanting to be taught from a masculine perspective of structure,
Ash Johns:and we've all been indoctrinated as western people into a masculine
Ash Johns:framework of educating and filling.
Ash Johns:Safe structure.
Ash Johns:But if it's too much of that, going back to the question I asked you, there's
Ash Johns:no room for the journey exploration.
Ash Johns:Figuring out on your own feeling into it, surprise and delight.
Ash Johns:That's why the feminine loves to be blindfolded.
Ash Johns:I don't know about you guys, but I love that it's one of my favorite kinks.
Ash Johns:You know, blindfold me, leave me somewhere, and surprise and delight me.
Ash Johns:Fuck yes.
Ash Johns:Also requires trust, also requires openness.
Ash Johns:So this is why I keep coming back to like, we've been conditioned and
Ash Johns:we have been agreeing to and also celebrating for our own egoic and like
Ash Johns:conforming to capitalism and conforming to things that we say we're not gonna
Ash Johns:conform to, but we're leaning to one of these energies more than we should.
Ash Johns:What does it look like to come into balance?
Ash Johns:With our masculine and feminine energies, so it can be restored in
Ash Johns:a way of balance in our lineages, so that can be re reflected in our
Ash Johns:relationships and in how we live.
Ash Johns:You should rewind that back and listen to it again.
Ash Johns:It's also good to note that like I'm recording this at
Ash Johns:two o'clock in the afternoon.
Ash Johns:I have not been outside today.
Ash Johns:I've eaten two meals in bed.
Ash Johns:I'm allowing myself to be taken care of, and that feels really good
Ash Johns:because what I don't see being talked about or demonstrated enough is
Ash Johns:actually the discomfort that comes when you stop doing and living.
Ash Johns:Only from your masculine channel, and I'm actually talking about myself right now.
Ash Johns:While I've done incredible work, it was doing incredible work, right?
Ash Johns:Mm.
Ash Johns:I have been offline.
Ash Johns:I've been just recording as I feel.
Ash Johns:I've been writing as I feel.
Ash Johns:I've been laying in this bed being taken care of and like creating, but
Ash Johns:it's not from a space of doing an efforting and pushing and working the
Ash Johns:way that I had been in my business.
Ash Johns:And to finish that thought off, sorry, it's a little bit disjointed here
Ash Johns:and it's because I'm like looking out the window and feeling into what
Ash Johns:I'm saying, but like it was very uncomfortable for me to actually lay
Ash Johns:in bed and be taken care of all day.
Ash Johns:And really the last four or five months I've been like
Ash Johns:thrashing and like wrestling with this and being like, Um, okay.
Ash Johns:When I change my business or when I wanna emerge, things will be different.
Ash Johns:I'm gonna go back to how I was working and I'm like, you're
Ash Johns:actually never gonna go back.
Ash Johns:Like it was time for me to transition and I'm still transitioning,
Ash Johns:but it was time for this.
Ash Johns:There's something happening, but I will describe this.
Ash Johns:There is a confusion.
Ash Johns:But joy that comes from not being visible and creating in the void and
Ash Johns:the quiet instead of on the Instagram and pushing in the emails and teaching
Ash Johns:and telling, and doing the marketing, and managing the team, and all this
Ash Johns:doing, doing, doing, doing, doing.
Ash Johns:I was like, wow.
Ash Johns:Can my business thrive even more just as, or even more than it did.
Ash Johns:If I'm more in my feminine energy than my masculine, what would it look like
Ash Johns:for me to have this global empire and this healing business and to share
Ash Johns:my wisdom and my stories of my life
Ash Johns:in a different way?
Ash Johns:There's a trust that's being cultivated that although money and lifestyle
Ash Johns:are completely different right now than what it was before, but it will
Ash Johns:return and be even greater and better.
Ash Johns:And I know that.
Ash Johns:So there's a trust that's being cultivated and me being willing to
Ash Johns:experiment with this and surrender into this and open to this.
Ash Johns:And.
Ash Johns:I knew this was gonna come, but I just didn't know what it was gonna feel like.
Ash Johns:Again, to come back to my Indian Matchmaker reference, you know, we
Ash Johns:can say that we want something and then when it comes up, what happens?
Ash Johns:Because here's the truth, when it comes up, that's when you start living it.
Ash Johns:Like that's when you actually start doing the work.
Ash Johns:It's not, when you're talking about your fears, it's not what you're
Ash Johns:talking about when you desire.
Ash Johns:It's not when you're saying, I'm ready for, and I just wanna call in.
Ash Johns:It's when it starts happening, and you have to choose, do I open to this?
Ash Johns:Am I gonna be intimate with this?
Ash Johns:Am I gonna learn through this?
Ash Johns:Am I gonna overcome through this?
Ash Johns:Am I gonna transcend this?
Ash Johns:Am I gonna actually find the trap door of healing and freedom in this?
Ash Johns:Or am I gonna succumb to my personal and ancestral patterns
Ash Johns:and justify them through my ego?
Ash Johns:Again, as I witness my own thrashing and wrestling with this, of learning
Ash Johns:how to value my own feminine in a different way than I ever have before,
Ash Johns:I'm drawn to how often we women long for something, and then when it comes,
Ash Johns:we criticize it, we push it away, we shit on it, we squirm away from it.
Ash Johns:And if we even recognize it at all, cuz I've also had clients who did
Ash Johns:that where I'm like, wait, isn't this exactly what you said you wanted?
Ash Johns:And I show them with the receipts and they're like, oh shit, Ash.
Ash Johns:And I'm like, yeah girl, now we get to do the work.
Ash Johns:So this.
Ash Johns:Not valuing the feminine.
Ash Johns:The feminine within the feminine of the earth, the feminine in her expression,
Ash Johns:the feminine in experience, right?
Ash Johns:I can't tell you the number of you guys who are like, oh my God,
Ash Johns:I'm so excited to work with you.
Ash Johns:I trust you.
Ash Johns:This is great.
Ash Johns:And like I've heard so many great things about you.
Ash Johns:And then when we start working together, you're like trying to
Ash Johns:control the whole experience.
Ash Johns:And I'm like, are you gonna trust me or are you not?
Ash Johns:Cause I'm definitely not in the business of wrestling with you.
Ash Johns:But that's part of the healing.
Ash Johns:That's part of the healing.
Ash Johns:This feels complete for now.
Ash Johns:I just wanna drop this and let's see how it marinates
Ash Johns:valuing the feminine.
Ash Johns:What healing the imbalance of my energies is doing in my life is
Ash Johns:definitely having me slow down and seeing the whole of the woman that I am.
Ash Johns:And I'll tell you what I feel like when I feel inspired and
Ash Johns:empowered in this journey.
Ash Johns:It feels like I have so many more tools and expressions and power in.
Ash Johns:My living, like who I am.
Ash Johns:It's not just two dimensional.
Ash Johns:Either I'm relaxing and creating in Sweden and outta care in the world,
Ash Johns:or I'm doing, doing, doing, like I'm not ping ponging between two
Ash Johns:different expressions of my existence.
Ash Johns:I have a whole spectrum I know when and how under what
Ash Johns:circumstances feels right to me.
Ash Johns:I'll drop the slash gym and then we're gonna end this episode y'all.
Ash Johns:A lot of things that people are talking about feminine and
Ash Johns:masculine energy of what to do.
Ash Johns:It's still coming from the mental masculine plane.
Ash Johns:Do this, don't say this, use this script.
Ash Johns:Notice this, da da da da, da, da.
Ash Johns:No.
Ash Johns:When you're fully embodied in balance, in both of these energies, You are so
Ash Johns:present and you're living and you're making the decisions of how you choose
Ash Johns:to show up and how you communicate and how you feel, and how you move
Ash Johns:based on the truth of the moment from your heart and in the situation.
Ash Johns:So you can't look at someone else's life and say, oh, well she did this
Ash Johns:and she said this to get him, or to have that, or to close this deal or
Ash Johns:to create this opportunity because the energy underneath it doesn't match.
Ash Johns:It's the energy that then creates the right action for
Ash Johns:your path and for your life.
Ash Johns:I think this is why I had to stop doing podcast interviews that were so flat, just
Ash Johns:like, tell me what to do and give us some advice and can you give a, a ritual and
Ash Johns:how do I start to talk to my ancestors?
Ash Johns:I was like, I don't give a fuck about this.
Ash Johns:I want you.
Ash Johns:To be so tuned in to your life and your lineage, and transforming the
Ash Johns:energy that you are a part of, and that you've agreed to be a catalyst
Ash Johns:of change and transformation for that is an intimate journey.
Ash Johns:No one can tell you that, but I can guide you and I can certainly
Ash Johns:inspire you, and I'll certainly continue to share my own stories.
Ash Johns:All right.
Ash Johns:I hope you enjoyed this one.
Ash Johns:It definitely just flowed straight from my heart.
Ash Johns:Ziggy is now underneath the cover, he's cuddling with me.
Ash Johns:I'm gonna enjoy the rest of this day and I hope you're moving through this eclipse.
Ash Johns:And the best way that you know how I'm sitting in lots of love.