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Real Life Coaching: How To Bring My Creativity Into The World with Melissa Moran-Ep: 091
Episode 911st May 2022 • She Coaches Coaches • Candy Motzek
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Join me for a real-life coaching demonstration with my client Melissa. We talk about creativity and passion projects and how to bring more of them out into the world.

This is a common challenge creatives face. We have so many amazing and brilliant ideas and then they get stuck in draft. We talk about how to get the right ideas out into the world and how to manage our UFOs (unfinished objects)

Endnote: Check out the result of this coaching. Two days after this coaching session Melissa published her journal, The Narrator Planner 2022 and she is now a published author

 

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Candy Motzek:

Hey welcome to sheet coaches, coaches, I'm your

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host, Kandi motsek. And I'm going to help you find the

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clarity, confidence and courage to become the coach that you are

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meant to be. If you're a new coach, or if you've always

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wanted to be a life coach, then this is the place for you. We're

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going to talk all about mindset and strategies and how to,

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because step by step only works when you have the clarity,

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courage and confidence to take action. Let's get started.

Candy Motzek:

Hello, friends, and welcome to this episode of she coaches

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coaches, I've got another real life coaching demonstration for

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you. It is with one of my favorite clients, Melissa. Now,

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I know you guys are gonna say candy, you say all of your

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clients are favorites. And they are. They're all my favorites in

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different ways. Melissa specifically, is a creative

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genius. And what you're going to hear in this coaching is what so

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many of us creatives struggle with. We have so many brilliant

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ideas. But which ones do we make real? Which ones do we put out

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in the world? And which ones are just ideas to keep that divine

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inspiration pump flowing. I hope you enjoy it as much as I

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enjoyed coaching her. So what's changed since the last time we

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met? What do you want to talk about today?

Melissa Morgan:

Huh? Wow, I'm so good question. I thought I had

Melissa Morgan:

it. Um So last night, I was going a little crazy. And this

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kind of ties into what we've talked about in the past, with

Melissa Morgan:

my desire to go 5 million different directions. Because

Melissa Morgan:

once I get an idea in my head, I'm like a dog with a bone. And

Melissa Morgan:

I started to work on this project last night. And I just

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felt so much passion for it, that like I didn't go to bed

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until almost midnight. And then I started to ignore my work that

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I had to get into this morning because I was still working on

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that project. And finally, I just kind of gave up and decided

Melissa Morgan:

to outsource some of it. Because I didn't know how to finish off

Melissa Morgan:

the rest of it. But yeah, I feel like if I don't. The problem is

Melissa Morgan:

I feel like if I don't finish it right away, I'm going to lose

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the the excited feeling I have for it, and just give it up. And

Melissa Morgan:

then I'll be disappointed in myself.

Candy Motzek:

And okay, yeah, so you have an idea. You get super

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passionate about

Melissa Morgan:

it super, like can't sleep, because I'm so

Melissa Morgan:

excited about it.

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You dive in, you start you put other things to

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the side. And at this point, the reason that you do that is

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because you think that the emotion of the satisfaction of

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that new passion project could never be captured tomorrow.

Melissa Morgan:

And it's it's so frustrating because like, I have

Melissa Morgan:

so many things like that, where I I get so excited. And then I

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started and I I realized in doing it that it's not coming as

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naturally as I had hoped. And so I start slowing down on it, I

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lose my excitement, and then it goes away. But then a week

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later, I'll think about and I'm like, I should finish that.

Candy Motzek:

Where's the switch? Where does the switch

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happen? You have the excitement and you kind of rising This is

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great. We're gonna do this, this is good. You get started. And

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then something happens and then it starts is kind of like

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puncture a balloon with a pin right? And then what happens

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there? Is it common like is it a thought or?

Melissa Morgan:

I think it's that. Okay, so I'll give you

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specifics. So I came on With this project that I could self

Melissa Morgan:

publish, so I went on. And it's something super simple. And I

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think that's part of the problem. So it's something super

Melissa Morgan:

simple that I came up with, that would help my community. And one

Melissa Morgan:

of my careers, in my, in my narration career, I thought of

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like a really exciting tool that would really, really super help

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my community. And maybe I can make a little money off of it,

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too. So I thought, Okay, I'm going to self publish it, it's

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going to rock, I did the templates, I get to the website

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to upload everything. And I realize, Oh, my God, this is

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going to take so much more research than I thought. And it

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I think that's when the balloon pops because I, I get so excited

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because I and this is see, even when talking about it, I

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realized how silly it is. Knowing how to upload something

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on KDP or whatever, anything technical. Why do I expect

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that's just going to come naturally?

Candy Motzek:

Right? Yeah.

Melissa Morgan:

Um, so because when they're not like, matching

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vibrations, like I have this idea, and I do it, and I have

Melissa Morgan:

the templates, and I'm gonna be like, yes. And that I get to

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that point no, like, no.

Candy Motzek:

Talk about the matching vibrations? Is it that

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you move from the from the place of imagination and vision to the

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3d world where now I have to push the button and it's going

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to be real? Or is it something about the mechanics of a system?

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That kind of squishes that creativity?

Melissa Morgan:

Yeah, I think it's the mechanics of it.

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Because, as far as I'm concerned, like, I can't wait to

Melissa Morgan:

get it out into the world, I don't really have any kind of

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imposter syndrome about that. It's just the the technical

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side, it doesn't match my passion. Like, I think I'm gonna

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get on there and go click, click, click, click, click. It's

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out in the world. And in

Candy Motzek:

just a second here, so but you know this, you

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know that you have that arc. And more and more interestingly, is

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that this idea that if I have this idea, and it's a great

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idea, it will only be a great idea, if I do it right now, it

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won't be a great idea tomorrow. What's the deal with that? Like,

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how does that not serve you? Well,

Melissa Morgan:

I mean, it doesn't serve me because I have

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all of these unfinished projects that I once felt super excited

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about. And now they're just sitting there. And it doesn't

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serve me because it, it feeds into my narrative that if I

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don't get it done now, it won't be good.

Candy Motzek:

Or this. There it is. Yeah. And then. So do you

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notice what happens here? Sorry, I can't look at you while I'm

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doing this. You have the idea. You make a start? It gets hard,

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you lose interest, you don't quite complete it. And then it

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goes on to that pile of unfinished objects. And all of

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those unfinished objects. I mean, there might be two or

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three or five, it doesn't matter, right? All of those

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unfinished objects are amazing ideas that never make it out

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into the world.

Unknown:

Mm hmm. So that piece,

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the place where maybe like you said, you could

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use some help completing them, maybe that's something where you

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learn to rely on somebody else to say, Listen, I'm the idea,

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visionary person here. I need somebody to help me make that

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part real. Or maybe there's something else about piling

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another unfinished object on an already brilliant pile of stuff.

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Like if just one of those things got done. How would you feel?

Melissa Morgan:

Oh, that'd be amazing. Yeah. And especially

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this because it's, it's not like a whole book. Like it's a very

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simple project, but I know it could be a huge help. And no, it

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I think it it could even start the the domino effect because I

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think, you know, like, we've talked a little bit about

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publishing and all that and I think the hardest thing to do is

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to just get that first thing done. I mean, They're all

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challenging in their own ways. But I think once you've done the

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thing, it's just that much easier to get it done again.

Unknown:

And,

Melissa Morgan:

yeah, because I just I, I have so much

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admiration for people who publish things like anything,

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you know, they they have the drive, and creativity, and

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something inside of them that says, I am putting this out into

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the world.

Candy Motzek:

Like Eisen, I'm just gonna interrupt you right

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there. Because somehow you're saying that you're not that

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person. Somehow that you're saying that I have the great

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idea that it doesn't get done, then that means I am not one of

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those people that has that drive and determination. And I don't

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think that's true. If you've got a pile of unfinished stuff, can

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you give yourself the gift of just completing one? Too much?

Melissa Morgan:

I mean, I know if I could get over this hump

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of, of, you know, dealing with this technical stuff, if I could

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get over that hump,

Unknown:

I think I could. Um, and,

Melissa Morgan:

yeah, I think maybe I just overwhelm myself

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with thinking or would have, like, in terms of, of writing a

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book. I think when I think of a book, it's like, 200 300 pages.

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But, I mean, for instance, I went to the bookstore the other

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day, and I was looking through all the different styles of

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books that are out there, like there are endless, like, books

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about this size, that are illustrated, and adorable. And,

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you know, they don't have like, a massive amount of written

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content, but they're amazing little books to have. And I'm

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like, maybe I need to reconsider my, my thought of what a book

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is, it doesn't have to be like 300 pages of written word. Maybe

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it could be, like a, like a journal style or illustration,

Candy Motzek:

is that what is that? What's going to be

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satisfying? Or is this another sort of hot track?

Melissa Morgan:

Um, I think either one would be just as

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satisfying. Maybe even more so. With illustrations, because that

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would marry so much of my, you know, like, creative life into,

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into it.

Candy Motzek:

So listen, I'm going to challenge you to not

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create a new project. And I think there is something here.

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And I've probably shared this with you in the past, you know

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that I have my journals, right. And every month, I start with

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one of these journals. And then at the back of my journals, I

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always have, here's my random great ideas, ideas that I would

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love to work on. And I capture it in there. So I know that I've

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kind of honored that creative thought. And then I don't forget

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it. Because a lot of times and like you said, you kind of come

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back is like that is a great idea. Like it comes back to you.

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But I would love to challenge you just to complete the one

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project. And the one that you started use already said, hey,

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it's not that big of a deal. It's only a little technical

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hump. What resources do you have available to you in your

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community? Like that somebody you could ask for help. And then

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you could just be like, off to the races and call that one

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done. And then you can go on to maybe I want to publish 100

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Really cool illustrated fun books, but start with the one.

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So what's the one resource? The one piece of help? The one thing

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that you can do to make this one project complete? Yeah,

Melissa Morgan:

it's it's just finding someone to help me get

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through the the technical side, whether that's on a like, like a

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virtual assistant kind of a website or even someone in my

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community.

Candy Motzek:

Yeah. So what's your first step for today?

Melissa Morgan:

I'm looking up who could help me with that?

Candy Motzek:

Yeah. Okay. And you're gonna circle back with

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me, and let me know.

Melissa Morgan:

Yes. I will, and I will. And I will show you the

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final project.

Candy Motzek:

Yes. Will that be satisfying? Well, that sort of.

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It's not just satisfying. It's like, does it kind of complete

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that need of finding that passion and really bringing it

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home? That's this piece that is seems important.

Melissa Morgan:

Yeah, it is important because it will, it

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will say, like, you can finish things. And you can also do

Melissa Morgan:

something that helps other people. And how cool is that?

Melissa Morgan:

And that, that would open up a whole world of who else can I

Melissa Morgan:

help? Ooh, what else can I do? That might get me into trouble

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in the future? Because that's

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okay. We care about the one right now. Do one

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at a time. And once you get one done, then you can decide if you

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want to do another or not. Like, no matter what, for the rest of

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your life, you're going to have a bazillion creative genius

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ideas. Like that's kind of a given, right? Yeah, you get to

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choose, which are the ones that you're actually going to make

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come into this world and which are just going to be, I don't

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know, just kind of like fun ideas just to play like play in

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your head. Some of that's just fine, too. Right. Okay. So

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that's it for the little coaching. How was that for you?

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So thanks for joining us listening to that real life

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coaching. And I know it was a bit of an abrupt end, our

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conversation went on a little bit longer. But what I really

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wanted you to know is that two days later, I got an email from

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Melissa, she had published that journal that she had designed.

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From this coaching, she took her brilliant idea that was already

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there and started and it didn't take her long to now become a

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self published author is one more creative endeavor that she

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has succeeded at. I am so proud of you, Melissa, for taking that

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idea and making it a reality. Now, I am going to share the

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link to her narrator's journal in the show notes. You guys

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should check it out. It's pretty amazing. I gotta say. So thanks

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again for joining me in this episode of she coaches, coaches.

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And I hope that you listened to the coaching in a couple of

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ways. First, how does it apply to you? What can you learn? How

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do you resonate or have a similar challenge in some area

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of your life? And secondly, as a coach, what did you notice about

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the coaching itself? What can you take away? And what can you

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do to continue to improve and master your coaching skills,

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becoming an amazing coach is a lifelong journey, where you are

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right now is just perfect for you. And you can always grow. I

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appreciate you being here. And if you'd like to find out more

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about how to work with me, I'll put the link in the Episode

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Notes. I'll talk to you on the next episode. Thanks again for

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