Let's explore the grounding magic of living intentionally. We're unpacking the importance and power of setting intentions, and then following through. Moving with the seasons, we're harnessing the power of the Sagittarius New Moon to do some daydreaming and goal setting. This is the time to dream big, yet manage our expectations and show self-grace during the journey. Let's all carve out time for goals and be more intentional with our plans.

We dive into the idea of shaking off societal and family pressures, and instead choose our own personal and family holiday traditions intentionally. We invite you to a collaborative intention setting project over on Patreon, fostering a supportive environment for personal growth.

Topics this week include:

• Training ourselves to do things we hate with tiny rewards and cheesecake
• Boldly living live with the face you were born with (or not, and it's all cool)
• Overlining lips
• Strep Throat
• Bouncing back after a tough week
• Celebrating how far you've come, even if it's gradually
• Allowing your voice to be heard
• The pressure to do ALL THE HOLIDAY MAGIC, even if it's stuff we hate

This weeks challenge: Make a list of the little rewards you can given yourself, and join us on Patreon to set an intention, then and make a plan to follow it through!

Relevant Links:

• The Wild Unknown Animal Spirit Deck by Kim Krans

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• Healing Happy Hour on Instagram
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• Healing Happy Hour on Facebook
• Healing Happy Hour on TikTok
• Crystal on Instagram
• Vienna on Instagram
• Healing Happy Hour Website

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I was over here trying to blame Jimmy's hollandaise

sauce that he made for dinner.

And he is like, I'm fine.

And I was like, all right.

Well I guess it's the antibiotics wreaking havoc.

Oh, probably.

Well,

antibiotics always fuck my stomach up to no end

like

an

stomach girlies rise up.

I know.

It's,

it's a life, a lifestyle

I'd IBS here.

It's amazing.

It's a good time.

Um, how are you?

Oh my gosh.

I'm doing, um, so much better than I was a week ago.

Um, yeah, it was a little tender morsel last week, but I'm doing much better.

How are you?

I'm good.

I also had a roller coaster of a last week, although I guess not so much

a roller coaster as just like a long downhill . It was not a great week.

Our entire house had strep throat, including myself.

I had like a run-in with my doctor, or not my doctor, but the minute

clinic nurse practitioner who just didn't really believe me when I

said I was allergic to penicillin.

She thought I was like trying to be cute and quirky.

Um, so I ended up having an allergic reaction to my

Oh my God.

That's scary.

yeah, and then of course I beat myself up 'cause I was like, I know I

should have pushed back because it said on the label like, do not take this

one if you're allergic to penicillin.

And the pharmacist said.

I don't think you're supposed to take this.

You're allergic to penicillin.

And I was like, I don't know your girl.

Like just over there in the minute Clinic said that I could have this.

It is so hard because it's like the reason why you go there

is to find a trusted and educated individual to like guide you, you know?

Right.

It was not penicillin, it was a different antibiotic.

It was Keflex, which said is okay, for most people, as the NP said, even

if you had a real penicillin allergy,

oh

my God.

No, they did not,

Yes.

She was like, only 5% of people with a real penicillin

allergy will react to this.

So I was like, okay, like my throat hurts.

I'm not gonna fight with you because it hurts to talk.

right.

gonna assume that you know what you're talking about, my

2-year-old is throwing a shit bit here.

I don't wanna make this take any longer than it needs to.

right?

So I believed her and I shouldn't have.

And I then was like, I knew I should have pushed back on it.

But I didn't.

I'm sorry friend.

That is very frustrating.

I did have that moment where, like the second day after the allergic reaction

when most of the swelling goes down and you just keep looking in the mirror.

Like maybe I should get some lip fillers though.

I knew

you were gonna do it.

I knew

you were gonna say that.

Listen.

Can we talk briefly about, are you pro lip lining?

Like over the line or under, or like on the line or under the line?

Like what's your stance?

I very rarely have seen it look good in person

for the overfilling of lips.

I think . It tends to look better in photos when you can't see the

border from like a side angle.

I've just never seen it look great in person.

I just wanna implore you hose to stop, to cut the shit and

stop lining underneath your nose and telling us that those are your lips.

Cut it out.

And I know I say this as a blessed full lipped girly.

Um.

have a beautiful lip.

But you know what, I was actually thinking this, I won't give too many

specifics about when but I was, I regularly speak with someone who

has like no upper lip, like at all.

It's just not there.

And it is a little distracting because I think of it, but not in a bad way.

Like I think of it as like, look at her out here in the world with no

upper lip and just living her life.

LOok at you fearlessly walking into with no fucking top lip.

She's a wonderful person.

. So . That's why I don't wanna like get any specifics, but

I mean, you can't help it.

I listen.

no, it's not your fault

not your fault.

with no upper lip.

And yes, there are things we can do to mitigate.

We can mitigate it.

Okay.

If

you were subconscious about it,

She doesn't want to like, I mean I assume she doesn't

want to, I have yet to ask her.

'cause that's like a rude thing to ask somebody like, Hey girl, does

it bother you that you don't have a

hear that your gums are exposed, um, I just feel like.

I would so much rather this is just aesthetically me.

And listen, I'm not anybody, so what I say doesn't fucking matter.

But I would much rather see you and all your thin lipped

glory than see one more person.

like lying so excessively over their lip line,

Yes,

like

I am just not into it.

point.

That's exactly what I'm getting at.

Listen, it is about to be 2024.

We, you know, the options that are available to you, you know

that there are ways to augment what's going on if you wish to.

And the fact that people are like, you know what?

Like, fuck it.

This is my face.

This is the face I was born with.

That's beautiful.

I love that

I do too.

for them.

Don't.

Don't bring it over here.

But for you, we're happy.

Knock yourself out.

Good job

Yeah.

Yeah.

Happy for you.

So I like, people are gonna be like, God forbid this is ever

the clip that goes on TikTok.

'cause you know, people are gonna be in their comments like, and

look at you with your nasty ass.

Like

Anti, anti acceptance bitches.

Meanwhile, you don't know how many times a day I cry when I walk

past my reflection of the mirror.

So shut up.

But that reminds me you'll love this.

I, was on my Zoom call with my trainer yesterday and, and her son is so cute.

He's so cute.

He's probably like three or four.

I don't think he's that old, you know?

And he was like, mom, is that a boy or a girl?

I mean, I get it.

And he was like, oh, I thought it was a boy.

That's why you posted that TikTok.

That was like looking like somebody's Uncle

you know, I put in the caption, I was like, I'm gonna delete this.

And I did eventually, but I laughed at it a lot, um, because I was

like, I could be someone's daddy or uncle in another lifetime, you

know, or this lifetime, depending on

how I that day

god bless.

Amen.

What a, what a odd and tender week this has been.

Yeah.

And we should acknowledge that we did not have an episode last week, and that was

fully because I was like, I'm stressed.

Everybody's sick.

I can't do it.

I'm so sorry.

yeah.

, this is not the podcast where we are gonna push ourself through strep also,

like I, was just with Sour too and I was like, not like,

oh, thank God the has strep.

But also like, um, I had a betrayal last week that was very big.

Um, and

I,

We don't have to talk about that, but yeah, it was,

I won't give any energy to it, but I will say that I like

licked my wounds about it for a solid week.

Um, and it was a lot.

So here we are.

We're back.

We're emerging into the world again.

we are And are, are you, is your Vyvanse Vyvanse thing right now?

The Vyvanse is vying, actually, it's fading a little bit, which means

the hinges are coming a little loose.

Um, so ready for tonight.

I am so excited.

And it's so funny because it's not like we have anything wild.

But, this is the most prepared I've been for an episode in

like a solid six episodes.

And that's what happens when you take your second dose of Ritalin at the appropriate

time.

You obviously asked if I am vy because I've done

nothing of the outline today.

And you're like, there ain't no way that this girl has touched her meds.

That

is not

the case, but I am proud of you nonetheless.

I feel like you're

allowed to, to not

hiring this.

Oh my gosh.

Like,

and listen, we are blessed for it,

so you're welcome everyone.

How about that?

up in here with no preparation, just vibes.

Well, this is the, the beauty of it.

If we're being real, like this is, this is a podcast about some real ass

everyday life nonsense and like just the things that, that come and go.

In your everyday life.

You're like, how could I make this better?

So sometimes it's like that with this actual podcast.

because we are living very regular degular lives and trying to do

extraordinary things in the midst of it, it's just gonna be like that sometimes.

And so I feel like we should definitely embrace it.

Roll with the punches.

You're right.

We're like doing the thing for real.

Like 12 times.

12 times we showed up to this thing that we committed to.

And listen, if you've ever like made a podcast, this is a labor

of love, it's time well spent.

But it's all the stuff that you don't see in the background.

It's It's the vulnerability hangovers that we get like week

after week, even though like.

in the grand scheme of things, like there's nothing absolutely out of control

that we're saying, but all of it is new to us and it's an exercise in like our

ebb and flow and it's definitely one of those things because like doing it

because we feel called to and because we love to, so that's why we're here.

You know

what I mean?

and it feels, it feels so nice to get to show up to something

with a friend that you enjoy doing and enjoy spending the time with them.

Like there's nothing, I'd rather be staying up late doing

than editing this like crazy on Wednesday nights.

That's like always like my mad dash to get it out and scheduled for Thursday,

but like that's what I want to be spending my time doing anyway because

it feels like I don't have a choice.

I feel like

you feel like you have to.

Yeah, if I kept this all just inside to us, it doesn't feel right.

It feels uncomfortable.

Yeah, it's very

cathartic

for

bless, bless, the airwaves with this wisdom

with our unhinged feeling.

This is one of those things in our life where we're like,

we are, are called to do it.

So we just, just, just should.

It's funny, I was talking to my mentor, about that yesterday, working in the

healing space, it doesn't matter, whether or not I get paid to do it, I have to

do it because that is my, my purpose.

gonna be a part of my life no matter what.

And I feel very strongly about like.

Just the practice of sharing like, and committing to being heard and

being okay with being heard and being seen in a more public way.

Because I truly do think that, like even in the smallest capacity, the more we

talk about just what it feels like to kind of seek healing on a regular basis in

different ways, the more normal it'll be.

And hopefully the more people will feel, you know, called

to go on their own journey.

And I think it's like all for the awareness,

Did I send you that that recording of when I walked out of my last ceremony?

Like my last session of my yoga training?

I can't remember if I sent it to you or not.

honey,

you did.

And like.

I just needed to record something in that moment.

'cause I was like, I've I don't, I don't know if I had that feeling before,

It is so overwhelmingly beautiful, isn't it?

I can, I'll put it in.

I could really put it in here

Oh, I hope you do.

Oh my God.

Let people hear

this.

It's so beautiful.

I just left my last session for my 200 hour yoga teacher training.

I got my certificate.

I said goodbye.

I met some really incredible people and I just felt the need to sit here and mark

this moment and just say something and I don't know what I meant to say but I think

I'm in awe of the person I've become.

I didn't know it was possible.

I am so eternally grateful for the people that I met, the things I

learned, and the doorways that have been open to me in the past eight months.

I didn't know.

I didn't believe I could do this.

I didn't know I could be this person.

I kept saying, I kept saying that I thought by the time class is rolled

around I would be this different person.

And I wasn't, and I just had to keep doing it as myself.

But I think I did turn into a different person, but it just happened so slowly

and gradually I didn't realize it.

And I think I really love that person.

I think she's really, really cool.

And silly and unserious.

And I'm proud of her.

I like her a lot.

I recommend that everybody, if you have a moment, just send yourself

like a, a one or two minute voice message, because I think it's important

to capture how you feel in that moment.

It's, especially if you're anything like me, it's so easy to gaslight yourself into

being like, it wasn't that big of a deal.

It didn't make a difference, but you can't really deny how it feels in the moment.

I'm, I'm glad I've made that message

I'm so glad you

shared

that.

I mean like just being able to speak and have a voice and

be comfortable with being heard.

Whew, that's a journey.

Yeah.

Big time.

That your, your level of the grace that you are giving yourself these days

versus when you started and just like this space to expand and contract a lot.

If we did nothing else, this episode, I think that, like hearing that

is so beautiful for, for people.

it's, it's actually perfect for today because we're talking about setting

intentions for you to share that you look back on yourself, like, I

didn't think anything was gonna happen at the end of this period of time.

And you get there and you're like, oh shit.

nOt only did I do it, but look how amazing I feel afterward and the pride

that you have, all that you had to juggle while you were in this training.

The being vulnerable and showing up and the, the consistency and just

being open to the experience at all.

It's, like the perfect love letter to yourself.

if you visualize a goal you wanna achieve in like a year's time, right?

Or like five years' time, what, however long it takes, if you visualize what

it would be on the other side of that.

Are you still, you?

A lot of the time when I'm visualizing who I'll be, when, when I'm checking a box.

It's not actually me, it's like a different person.

It's the idealized version of myself.

It's not actually me.

And I think that is what I thought was gonna happen.

Like, I thought I was gonna be like, okay, at the end of this

program I'll be a different person.

But it's so much more powerful to look back and say like, no shit.

I did it as me.

Like I was me through it and like I accomplish it.

I didn't have to turn into Blake Lively to do this.

Like I did it as me.

And that's so much fucking cooler.

Um, and I think it's something that's hard to, to see when we get down on

ourself and we're like, oh my God, look at me like just a little fucking failure.

Can't do anything, right.

Can't blah, blah, blah, blah.

To challenge that view so much by saying like, no, I'm gonna

do it and I'm gonna do it as me.

I'm gonna be me the whole time.

It's gonna be me taking that first step, that second step, that

Mm-Hmm.

.Mm-Hmm.

And That's.

all you needed to show up as.

There was nothing else that you could have done, but show up

as yourself to get through it.

And

Yeah.

like, I remember when I was taking, um, my reiki master

apprenticeship, so like the, the program that I did, it's almost a year.

It's not like a weekend It's not a weekend.

And I know that, um.

My mentor, Jessica, uh, gentle Hands, Ricky Woo.

That she, she, does that by intention.

She does it by the seasons, by, this very intentional plan that she has

laid out for all of those months because there's so much to cover and

she doesn't wanna rush you through it.

when you, when you begin something that is, um, really designed to crack

you open in a way and you're like, I don't know what I'm gonna find

in here, and you keep showing up to do, um, what is this healing work?

You, it's funny because like you do it thinking like, this is something

that I'll use for other people to help other people when, like, the person who

obviously gets the most out of it is you.

I.

At the end of it, and it's like that commitment to yourself,

especially because we know how many things that like we could be doing.

That commitment to, to self is my God unmatched

it has to work on you before you're able to bring that to anybody else.

And I think it does have to take a long time too.

Like I see a lot of, you know, really quick programs or

like weekend sessions, right?

But it's like, how are you going to change as a person

Right.

in that short amount of time?

You need to have challenges along the way.

You need to be facing life changes.

You need to have all these things come up over the space of this healing work so

you know how to turn it back on yourself.

I think it needs, you need to test it a little bit.

I love, This is a beautiful thing for you.

I'm very, I'm like very, very, very proud of you for this.

remember you being like, I think I'm gonna sign up for this thing.

And I'm like, girl, you better do it.

And you're like, maybe I shouldn't, like, like, and you were like, I should.

And like, here you are, a whole fucking yoga teacher.

She,

a whole teacher.

I know.

And then I'm like, you know, it's, it's nighttime.

And I'm like, oh my gosh.

I have a 6:00 AM class tomorrow that I gotta be teaching.

Let me make sure I have my flow already for that.

Don't you worry.

I do.

I have my flow already.

she is

got her flow.

So you do need to come check it.

Mm-Hmm?

So speaking of flowing, we're gonna flow into the

spirit run really quickly here.

Mm-Hmm.

. Crystal: Um, I'm using the Animal Spirit guidebook today, the Wild

Unknown Animal Spirit Guidebook.

It's one of my favorites.

It's by Kim Kranz, who I love.

She just does a really beautiful way of tying in, like healing with the elements

and breaking healing down into these animal, in this book animals that like

reflect different parts of healing.

And I just love that.

There's something for me that is very raw about this deck and I just would

love if we could tap in, grind our energy for a second and listen in for

a quick message from the universe, from our guides, our higher selves and our

elevated ancestors about what we need to know as we move into this, time

of year Okay, so we have the hawk.

The hawk is watchful all seeing and a messenger of divinity.

And in the description it says, the sharp eyes of the hawk watch are every move.

This keen eye bird has the ability to see every little detail as

well as the bigger picture.

This is so lit when this cart appears.

Fate has its eyes on you and the winds are shifting.

It is said that the hawk carries news upon its wings and is sent

from divinity itself to deliver it.

The message should not be taken lightly.

Though it may seem small or insignificant, it will eventually redirect your course.

And so when the energy for this is in balance, you're able to see things clearly

and really tap into your intuition.

When it's out of balance, um, you see like too much and you're

suspicious about everything.

And to bring it into balance, you need to shift your perspective.

I love this in, in conjunction with what we're gonna be talking about.

Because sometimes that the bigger picture is easier for us to get

and like it's the, in the detail that we have trouble if in what?

By me, we, I mean me.

Today is the Sagittarius New Moon, y'all.

So with the New Moon, it's a really good time for you to, of think about your

goals and intentions for, um, it could be any goals or intentions you have,

but it's always great when you can think about it, uh, with this particular season

that we're in in Sagittarius season.

Let's just talk about Sagittarius a little bit.

This is the sign of like, , adaptability and flexibility.

I feel like this is the sign of debate and philosophical, I don't

wanna say arguments, but people who love exploration, going over

different ideas, shooting the shit with others about this I, these ideas.

They're curious.

They love to travel, they love adventure, and they're very much free-spirited.

They're fire signs.

They're, they are so fun and sometimes so over the top.

And I, I personally love it..

I have I say all this to say that like this new moon in Sagittarius is a

really, really good time for us to think about, what we want as it relates to

our abundance, um, among other things.

And I definitely encourage you to go look it up, but, reason why that struck me is

because Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter and that is the planet of expansion.

And so when I think in terms of abundance, I'm not necessarily saying financial

abundance, although that is included.

Um, but there's so many things, I wish to be, to have in abundance in my life.

So I'm thinking a lot about that.

And, starting to set some intention.

And it's funny because yesterday, as, as Vienna knows, I am in like the

process of kind of revamping how I do things as someone who wants to continue

being in the healing space and what that looks like for me and what my

creativity looks like, rebranding and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And yesterday I was like, I'm super fucking uncomfortable with writing while

also loving writing and always having wanted to be a writer in some capacity.

And yesterday was the day that I was like, I have to fully commit that this

is something I'm gonna do because I have to, because I'm called to again.

So I'm just gonna fully commit to this path, not fully understanding where

it's gonna take me in the future, but just doing it because I have been told

many, many times in many different ways, this is what you're supposed to do.

Don't worry about why just do it.

So I was, it's funny how, um, for me anyway, as a cancer, because

I'm ruled by the moon, I often will feel that energy very, very strongly

before the actual date arrives.

And, um, it just got me thinking about what it is to manifest something, or I

actually kind of hate the word manifest.

Um, I really just like the phrase bring to fruition 'cause I'm old.

Um, but I, I much would much rather say like setting a goal or being

intentional about how I'm gonna be using my time, um, in these cycles as

opposed to like the word manifesting.

But how

I'm going to do that in this season, you know?

Yeah.

Manifesting, I think is.

Especially as like a white woman, it's very hard for me to

be like, let me manifest this.

'cause it's like, is it manifestation or is it white privilege?

Like, let's just take a seat on that one.

We don't really need to be manifesting . I'm saying it's uncomfortable for me, but

I do like the setting intentions because where you're spending your energy and

your time and your thoughts, like that's where things start to take root and that's

where things actually start to happen.

And it's not just in the like wishing and making a vision board.

Oh my God.

a, that's a great place to start,

Literally not like,

that is literally the easiest part of like what you will do,

Yeah.

And truthfully, it is where I have a really hard time.

Right?

Like, full disclosure, I did make a vision board last week,

I

love that though.

But you, but now you're probably like, well, fuck, now I gotta

figure out how to do this

right.

That's it, right?

So like also on my vision board is about writing, and I'm like.

Yeah, when the fuck am I gonna do this?

When am I gonna write?

I have all these ideas for things I do wanna write.

I am like, it would be a really fun activity for me to write thank you notes.

'cause we talked a couple episodes ago about how I love to write thank you notes.

I wanted to write a thank you note as like a short story

that I wanna give to somebody.

And I have like the plot all, you know, done in my phone, in my notes app.

But I'm like, what am I gonna sit down to actually write it?

And you know what I'm, I should do that is when I'm spending 11

hours per day on my phone or nine hours or 14 hours or whatever

I am guilty

tell me that I'm spending.

But like maybe the intention there is also put my phone down a little bit.

Maybe that could be my intention.

Spend less time playing bubble pop.

I also

have bubble shooter on my phone.

So, I mean, this is the hard part, at least for me, um, as well, like

I, I was born on a new moon and I'm a generator at that in human design.

So like I'm great at getting things started, superb at it.

Um, but as a generator, if I'm not excited about it, I'm not gonna fucking do it.

It's hard because it's like, it's not that I'm not excited about an idea or

a thing that I wanna do, like I'm not excited about, like, the planning of it.

it.

feels overwhelming for me.

I am a very much, sometimes like a big picture kind of girl as opposed to

like a detailed girly, ironic because, um, I'm an executive assistant, but.

I can't be in that zone all the time.

And so sometimes goal setting can feel really daunting for me.

But lately, I have just been feeling so scattered and everything is to the wind.

And I think that it really started when I lost my job back in the

summer when I was laid off.

I just felt like I didn't have any power.

And I was like very taken aback by how much I just started to flounder.

All of a sudden I looked up recently and I was like, girl, what is going on?

You have got to get on some kind of pathway because you

are literally vibes right now.

And like, they're not all fantastic vibes.

So I'm how can I take some power back?

And I.

Put some things on paper and, you know, so to speak and move myself forward

because it's not like I don't have goals.

It's how are we gonna achieve them?

How can we break them down into these bite sized steps where I'm not like,

fuck this shit like after starting.

I think I'm a little bit in that scattered just vibes place right now.

This is also just a hard time of year, I think, it's like time isn't real.

Hmm.

like, I'll get back to you in the new year.

And it's like, we still have a couple of weeks.

Yeah.

get it that we're all taking time off, but it just,

nothing is going as scheduled.

I had, you know, yoga ending, I, I just feel so scattered right now and I think

a little bit of putting it down on paper, taking little bite size, morsels,

one thing

Mm-Hmm.

time would be really helpful.

But I think when you're feeling this scattered, it's also hard to know, yeah, I

have goals, but what's the one year goal?

What's the five year goal?

What's the one week goal?

Like, what's my goal for today?

They all feel a little insurmountable and really nebulous.

I think that's a challenge like sitting down to in intentionally

think about your own intentions.

Mm-Hmm.

At the risk of sounding like a crazy person, but I think

that's becomes really important.

Oh my gosh.

I, I, am in full agreeance with that.

Having just wrapped up such a major thing that you've committed to in the past,

it's totally okay to be in a state of I don't know, , I'm not really sure yet.

And that even if the goal is to just sit with yourself enjoy where you're

at and do that for a while, while you think about what's next for you.

That's totally okay too.

You know,

like

Crystal, some of us are uncomfortable sitting with ourselves.

, Crystal: I

too

that's something , some of us don't like to sit with ourselves

Ooh girl.

that feels gross.

I have been hiding in my house for a solid week, um, sitting with

myself and I cried every day for the last seven days, So like, yeah, I get it.

It's fucking

rough.

It's rough out here in these, in these healing streets.

But, , oh my God, it is hard.

It's easier said than done.

That's for sure.

You know, I don't know where

it's, it's easy to, to find other things that are so pressing then, you

know, taking a moment to prioritize

Mm-Hmm.

A little avoidance.

what we need.

Yeah.

Well, again, if we're, breaking it down , what if you just start by

daydreaming about what feels good.

I don't know, maybe it's like my neuro spicy, but sometimes I have such a

big vision for something and then I'm like, oh my God, oh my God, I can't,

like, I can't, I can't, I can't.

And I, I just get like very overwhelmed and offput by the whole thing

because it feels so unattainable.

It feels like, how fuck am I even gonna do that so much?

And I have to literally go back to third grade and draw a

bubble with my idea in it.

And all of the different offshoots, ideas and, the web of things that

come off of a certain idea or intention and take one thing at a fucking time.

I cannot look beyond that one thing.

You just like put me in a time machine.

I totally forgot about those bubbles with the lines and then other bubbles and

like all those things.

That is such a great way to think about it because I think like when, yes, I also

have that big idea and that big goal, and I get so far down the line of thinking

what it should be in a lifetime, right?

Like, but it's not there right now, so forget about it.

Like I'm never gonna be able to do it.

It's a little bit of that is like, it's really scary to say it out loud.

Because it opens it up to criticism, it opens it up to a little bit of pressure

testing of people poking holes and saying like, oh, well how are you gonna do that?

And I'm not the kind of person that takes that as constructive criticism.

Sometimes I can get really defensive and just shut down

and be like, yeah, you're right.

I definitely can't do it.

And so, you know, the question might have been like, oh cool.

Like where are you gonna do that?

And I'm like, you're right.

You're telling me that I'm a failure and I'm never gonna get there.

Well, you said it and I'm not even gonna try.

And it's hard, it's hard to like say something that you want out loud have to

just sit there with that in the air a little bit to say , no, this is what I

want and this is what I'm gonna fight for.

This is what I'm working towards.

And then everybody knows if you didn't do it.

it is so hard to be like, I'm gonna do this thing

and make that announcement.

And then people be like, Hey, what, how many like doing this thing?

And listen, if I had a dollar.

Okay, but like, can you put it out of your head?

This is what I, I'm trying to learn how to do.

So when I ask you the question, it is rhetorical, but can we put

it out of our head for a moment If oh, let's talk about this.

'cause this is for real.

I am, uh, reworking my budget.

Rework

wanna talk about that.

awful.

I'm only gonna use this example one time because it makes me ill, but I'm reworking

my budget and I knew I needed to do this.

And the the thought of looking at all of my financial expenses at

one time, physically makes me ill.

I wrote everything out on a list.

Everything that like this, like looking at my budget along with many other

things, I did a brain dump onto a random mass piece of paper in my house.

And I was like, okay, write down everything that you're

worried about right now.

And I had to break it up into three categories.

What can I control?

right now, like in the immediate, I need to do this week.

What do I need to do in the near future?

And then what do I need to consider far down the line when I'm like a

little bit more stabilized, right?

And every week I pick something to focus on.

Once I got past that handful of things where it's like, no bitch,

you need to take care of this today.

One of them has been I have to go to the social security office and change

my name back to my maiden name before I can legally begin to use it everywhere.

I've gotta do that, but I fucking hate doing shit like that.

It's like gonna, the MBA, I hate it and you can't do it online.

I can avoid this, I could drag this shit out into fucking February, March.

Okay, because that's me baby.

That's what I do.

But the goal here is one little bit at a time.

Last week I filled out the form.

This week I'm going to go physically to the office,

that is something to be proud of.

I am trying people.

Next week I'm gonna try, hopefully after everything is approved, I will do the

daunting task of sitting down and fucking changing my name in my bank and all that.

I hate stuff like that.

I hate it, but it needs to be done.

And so I get really overwhelmed at dumb things like that.

I would rather do literally anything else.

I would rather empty the silverware container from my dishwasher all day long.

Which is a personal hell.

Yeah, that sounds, that sounds really terrible.

In the interest of being a good friend, I'm gonna tell you like you can do it

and also once you do it, it's done.

So

Mm-Hmm,

that's really great.

That's it.

have to do the scary part once.

And also I think we could maybe Pavlov ourselves into

doing things we don't wanna do.

So what if after you went to the social Security office,

you went to Cheesecake Factory?

Oh my God.

What if I did

Yeah.

Like you just are gonna go deal with the meanest people in the world and

then you can go deal with, I don't know, people who don't give a fuck about you.

'cause they work at the Cheesecake Factory, but they'll bring you some.

, they'll bring you real good food.

And like our little homie on the TikTok did get that extra sauce on the

Oh my God.

You know, he was a vibe and I was like, oh God, it looks good as shit.

So you know what I should do?

That's an excellent idea because I'm very food motivated.

I'm like a fucking pit bull.

Okay, I should go Friday.

Um, and then afterward I should take myself out to lunch to the Cheesecake

Factory and be weird and sit at the bar by myself and eat like bang bang

shrimp or something like that, and have a glass of wine that is far too sweet

and take home a piece of cheesecake for me to enjoy later that night.

And that's a vibe.

I mean, I cannot speak for the Cheesecake Factory employees, but based

solely on what I've seen as a Cheesecake Factory, um, connoisseur, if you will.

I'm gonna say that.

A real fly little lady sitting at the bar by herself

is not even close to the weirdest thing they've seen that hour.

That's, that's true.

probably see some crazy ass shit.

Take me to Cheesecake Factory.

I'm cool with that.

Take me to the Cheesecake Factory and then take me afterward

because that ship is romantic.

Okay.

Vibe.

I've talked about this like all the time with my therapist, but there's

some connection for me around paying the bills and a full fledged anxiety tech

and it is not even me paying the bills.

When my husband pays the bills, if I see that he's , has this bank account

website open and he's paying some bills, I think I'm about to get in trouble.

That is just the connection I have.

It's not a great connection and it's not from him.

I wanna say that there is no financial abuse going on in this household.

There's definitely not y'all because like Vienna stay fly.

And I know that Jimmy loves it.

So

iT's one of those things that's just ingrained that

I'm like, oh, paying bills.

, there's about to be a fight.

Things are about to get scary, things aren't gonna be good.

I think part of it is that I need to start Pavlov myself.

Maybe he and I take our laptops down to the Cheesecake Factory every

month and we pay bills from there.

Although maybe that'll taint my safe place.

, maybe that's not such a great idea.

Um, I dunno.

Maybe something like that, right?

Where you start to pair things you really don't wanna do and you've been

putting off to something that's like a nice little reward, a little treat.

it It is, it is nice So one of the things I started to do in the

past year, but most specifically in the last few weeks, is chunk my time.

So I'll do 20 minutes or 30 minutes of on time, and then like 20 minutes of

off, where I'm, I'm doing something where I have to get up and move around.

Even with little goals, I find that to be really, really helpful, it feels

like, a micro achievement for me.

Maybe building that into my time, it would be helpful

saying , okay, push really hard.

Give, give this your all for this amount of time, and then be

intentional about right afterward.

Setting some time to come down from that and get re-grounded.

And a part of that can be something that like, I look forward to.

I know we are joking about like going to two rac, which I'm probably

still gonna do, but like, for

example,

not a joke.

yeah, like, I mean, I'm gonna do it now that we said it.

Bang, bang, sure sounds so good.

For example, I wanna be more intentional about setting time to write.

So if I say, okay, it's hard, if you've ever tried to write shit,

you just stare at the screen.

But if I can give myself an hour, or even if I'm just brain dumping

or brainstorming or whatever, and then after that I can reward myself

with something that I really like.

It will start setting this cycle of Hey, you don't have

to do this hard thing forever.

There is something really good at the end of this.

And after a couple times of doing that, you start to see some

progress and, and you start to see how the consistency pays off.

So that's something hope to do a little bit more of or to do it maybe on a larger

scale, , with these bigger goals as opposed to just when I'm, I don't know,

entering expenses in our work system and that like, you gotta do this for next

hour and then you can take a break to stretch or to read a book or whatever,

or zone out for 20 minutes on TikTok.

That to me is like a good balance.

It also, like a nice first step of that is brainstorming a list

of , what are those little rewards?

And that's a fun one to do because you're just breaking a

list of all the things you like.

That's an easy list to make

yeah, yeah.

Load

that list up.

fun, right?

Like other than like a list of all the things you need to

budget for, like, fuck that.

That's awful.

But make like a list of 30 things you like to do.

I like to fuck around on TikTok for a little

I do.

I've been fucking around

on TikTok all week.

I like to play bubble pop.

I like to do

Bubble

bunch of stupid shit.

bubble pop,

Vienna.

Speaking of TikTok,

I posted TikTok today and I forgot that, um, I made it public.

I.

I was like, oh my God, people are looking at this TikTok, and

I got completely freaked out.

But it's really funny.

It was the one I sent you earlier.

If you are a Young Bloods fan, the song, if you don't give

a damn, we don't give a fuck.

I suggest you go look at my TikTok right now,

because

That's a good TikTok.

That was on your private one or on your personal one, right?

yes, it's

a good TikTok.

should follow that.

You should also always make your tiktoks public.

Hmm.

I know.

You know, I just am becoming so unhinged that I'm starting to like give in.

I'm like, just, just, say it.

Just say it.

Deal with the consequences later.

I like where you're coming from though, with intentionality even

about how you're spending chunks of your time because it's so easy to let

the whole day get away from you and then the whole week gets away from

you and that it's like, oh my God.

I'm almost fully like, how did that happen?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, we can also take it to like seasons though.

This is a big one that I think about for holiday season and even

summer season, you know, are you on like any of your local face or

no, you're not on Facebook anymore.

Good for you.

You're better than the rest of

I'm on

there, but I'm hiding and I have like two, literally two friends, and I'm there for

The PTA, but like I'm there

so I can look, look things up if you have something good, you know.

But like, they're not good.

I, I was gonna say that it's bad . All the local mom groups around me

are like, what's your Christmas bucket list of what all the things

you're gonna do with your kids?

And it's like 47 activities.

Each of them cost approximately $159 per person plus taxes,

plus $25 souvenirs and snacks.

Um, and, you know, are an hour and a half drive.

And, and, and, and basically, um, and they do this for every season, right?

Like, there's the summer bucket list of what are the thousand things

you're gonna do over summer vacation?

Like, I don't know, I used to watch Maury, like,

Uh, oh my God.

right.

Like Maury the box.

If you are old enough to remember the box.

Fianna, are you old?

I think you are.

I, this is like the music video one, right?

I

Yeah, yeah, yeah,

yeah.

we did not have cable when I was at that age, so.

Oh man.

It was channel 30.

I remember like it's yesterday.

That's where.

watched it at my friend's houses who were lucky enough to

have cable at that point, but

That's, it was a wild time.

The box was a wild time.

'cause there were some videos on the box that were not on MTV and

they was Nancy, I remember it.

But like, yeah,

we stayed home.

We watched Bold and the beautiful, if you're, Monica and I,

you watched passions

when we went high school.

Shout out to

passions and Timmy rest in peace.

Like you wash nonsense.

You didn't have, like, you weren't doing stuff.

You know what I mean?

And

No.

tHere was no mother in the eighties or the nineties who was sitting down

at the beginning of the summer to make a summer bucket list, or like at the

beginning of the Christmas season to be like, what's our Christmas bucket?

Like, it just wasn't happening.

And I'm not saying that like.

My mom was great.

Like my mom was worked in the school system.

Speaking of intentions, she intentionally chose to work in the school system as

a public school secretary because she wanted to have summers off with us.

She wanted to have the same hours

I love her.

she chose to do.

Yeah, and like we, we went to the beach club every day in the summer.

We did not have an extra penny.

We brought like our, and I think it was wonderful, like I had

a wonderful summer as a kid.

But that was about the intention of it, right?

Like that wasn't getting so overloaded it was her choosing the thing

that was important in the summer.

It wasn't a million things.

It was like, let's be reasonable about what the budget is, , right?

Let's think about what our time is gonna be and let's

pick the thing we're gonna do.

And I think that's really great and that was something that my therapist

and I have been talking about a lot, especially around Christmas.

'cause I get myself so worked up where I'm seeing all these people

doing all these things that look so magical and so wonderful.

And like a lot of 'em are just like not my vibe or not in the budget this

year and some of that I'm okay with.

Some of that is harder to come to terms with.

I'm really sad that it wasn't in the budget to do a trip to North Conway

and do like our New Hampshire weekend extravaganza and like I am sad for that.

I do miss that.

of course.

But I also have now internalized guilt and shame that I haven't taken my

kids to the mall to see a mall Santa, which is not something I want to do.

Like that is not something that I feel good about.

That . That is not a thing I wanna spend my time.

No, it sounds that, listen, if that is your intention of how you wanna

spend your time around Christmas, I wanna say your kids are probably

better listeners than mine are.

Um, and I love that for you and I love that that's something that works for you.

But.

When we get so caught up in just doing the things that it looks like we're

supposed to be doing, it's really easy to start doing all these things

we don't actually want to be doing.

And that's wasting so much time.

I asked my kids tonight at dinner, I was like, Hey, what are, what

are the things you wanna make sure we do before Christmas?

Because I also realized that it's like people are talking about the

holiday season, like it's already over.

Like we still have a couple weeks, we have time, there's time for this.

And also at the end of, I think the big rush, especially like with parents and

with being a mother, the guilt that comes up is like you only have a couple of

Christmases to do this with your kids.

Mm-Hmm.

have a couple years to make the magic.

So you have to make a count.

You have to squeeze in as many mall Santa as it as you can, as

many . Magical things, and it just doesn't, like, I get that they

are only little for a short time.

But I'm also seeing people who I used to work with, whose kids are coming

home from college for winter break and they're going on vacations and they're

posting pictures and like, maybe it's not, you know, elf on the shelf magic,

but like, I don't know, it looks pretty fucking magical to get to hang out

with your kids when they're older too.

And I think that that's coming

for you.

It's coming.

It's.

much pressure, like we

It's so

pressure on ourselves.

much.

It is.

And as I told you earlier, I'm just gonna say it, as I told you earlier, um,

I don't think that any of your kids are gonna look back and be like, my mom did

not take us to the fucking mall Santa.

I could sit on this stranger's lap.

Like what they're gonna think about is the very beautiful and intentional way

that you did spend your time with them.

Because like, there there is the coulda, shoulda, woulda, and then

there's the like what matters.

I can remember like one time I went to see Santa and like, I don't remember

like, I don't know, it was weird.

It's creepy.

I don't know you.

I'm sitting on your lap.

That's weird.

Like why are we

doing

that

that is exactly what came with my, with my therapist today that I was

like, and she was like, well, did you always do them mall Santas?

And I was like, honestly, I don't know if we ever did.

So

Fucking weird.

What a weird tradition.

Think about that shit.

Let's just.

We are taking, I'm gonna pay you to take a picture of my kid

sitting on a stranger's lap.

We're doing

gonna be a good picture, it's gonna be like at least one kid

who's like, huh, get me outta here.

That's Enzo.

He would absolutely wreck shit.

He would be like, I'm not touching that man.

I know that man.

Hot in there.

There's other kids.

I don't know.

It's not gonna be a good picture.

Somebody was posting that.

They're $40 to get the picture now.

no, I will take a picture of you with like a stuffed Santa.

You know what, take a picture with me because I bought all your presents.

I'm your Santa.

Merry Christmas Crystal's out here to ruin

Christmas for everyone.

are you drinking eggnog now too?

'cause that would really just make this,

This is actually, um, wind and distilling Lion rum.

Their coffee rum

laur

with a splash of cream in it and it.

That sounds a lot better than eggnog.

And that, and I have my, my Benjamin here, my Benjamin,

him and I are hanging out.

But like, seriously, you know, all, like, I get it.

Like I, this has been a very ba hum buggy, um, year in some ways, other ways.

It's been really beautiful, but I've definitely had to pull myself out of

some funkiness as of the late, and like, I, I like get irritated by like,

the pressure even of decorations, but like, I'll be damned if I'm

not gonna pull these decorations out and do what I can do in here.

Because I know what will bring me joy at the end of it is seeing my kids

very, very happy that they get to come home and put the Christmas tree on.

And they think it's funny when Diddy tries to rip all the ornaments off of the

tree and they have their stockings up and

they're excited and we have some new traditions around that.

Like we watch a Christmas movie while we decorate the tree and I bake them

some sort of baked good and it's not a ton, but it is a tradition and it

is something that I think they'll remember and they'll remember fondly.

You know, like, just like we have specific movies like that we, we watch, like I

always make them watch, um, gremlins because my dad made me watch, my dad

made me watch Gremlins growing up.

that is not the movie I thought you were gonna say like at all.

I thought you were gonna be like, it's a wonderful Life or

absolutely.

Christmas story.

I'm very anti.

It's a Wonderful Life In Miracle on 34th Street, 24th Street,

whatever fucking street it's on.

I'm very anti.

But like I, I have recently found some favorites in the, in the Christmas realm.

Gremlins is a highly problematic movie.

However, the, the fondness that I have for it is coming from the

memory of me sitting with my dad

and like being horrified by these creatures that are like

taking over an entire city.

Um, but like we watched Nightmare Before Christmas.

We watched, uh, jingle Jangles, like, like released in the last few years

and we have committed to watching it every year.

We loved it.

We watched Candy Cane Lane over the weekend and they thought it was

super, super cute with one with Eddie Murphy and it's new, like, so those

things make me very, very happy.

Um, and I'm like, okay, I am not taking you to GABA Tree Farm to cut

down a Christmas tree this year and then haul it home because I am, but

a woman who hates, um, to be cold.

And that's okay.

What I am doing, Is setting the tradition of like, we're going to,

we're gonna decorate this tree together.

We're gonna eat some cookies or do whatever.

We're gonna watch a movie and then you're gonna rock paper scissors for

who gets to put the star on the tree.

Ooh,

And

that's like

a a little introduced like competition in the mix.

Mm-Hmm.

I like that when

they,

there.

also just let them fight it out at some point.

Like once they catch up to each other in size, just let them like

Fight club under the under the missile toe.

No kisses, fights,

Speaking of Fight Club, if you wanna join our Patreon, we will

be airing fights of our children.

at the top tier only fight club.

Just

The

We're

our

kids are gonna, might.

Might as well profit.

Um, no, it's such a good point.

I mean, so maybe that bucket list stuff of like making a holiday one, it's like maybe

you don't need to follow the local mom group bucket list that includes 75 items.

Are gonna send you into the poor house and you're gonna be cold

and you're not gonna like them.

Maybe it's like making your own family one.

I think like I've already praised my real mom here today, but to praise

other mother Taylor Swift, um, like she says in her song like This

is Our House, we make the rules.

And I think there's a little bit of like, you get to pick your own traditions.

You get to pick the things that are really fun for you.

And if that's watching Gremlins

Mm-Hmm.

got, I hope you will have the happiest Gremlin watching night possible.

I asked my kids over dinner, I was like, what do you wanna make sure we do?

And they were like, I really wanna make like fun Ginger Brin men.

I'm like, that's all you wanna do?

Shit.

We could do that.

Like, that's fine.

We do get to pick the things that we want and

Yeah, we assign, importance to things that are meaningful to us.

And I think that there is power in that and that intentionality and in

choosing, I think it is also like a massive statement for you to choose

something that can't be bought.

Um, and that's the quality time,, with your family members, with your loved

ones, because there are a lot of people, especially this time of year who wish,

you know, that they could wish that things had been different for them or,

um, that they would, you know, get, be able to get what they need and because

they didn't get it and um, you know, we're not always gonna get it right.

But I think that sitting out with the intention Hey, I know that

things aren't gonna be perfect, but I hope that when my kids are older.

That they remember this and they're like, oh my God, I used to love to do that with

my mom, or, or whatever the case may be.

Um, I think that that is like a huge, huge gift as well.

I know I might not even be around to see that gift one day, but

I hope it happens, you know?

So, Yeah,

I want to hear everybody's like weirdest holiday tradition

that they do with their family.

I feel like there's probably some really good weird ones out there

and I just love hearing about them.

I gotta dig, I gotta like dig back in the memory vault to

see like what

or what weird one you want to start doing with your family as like you

being the grownup in your house and making that rule and starting a new tradition.

Ooh.

Something we did last year that maybe we'll do again this year

because Nate has been asking for, it was a fast food french fry taste test

Oh my God.

And I don't,

Brilliant idea.

right.

We went to Burger King, McDonald's in Wendy's.

We got an order of french fries and then we did blind taste test when we got home.

I think we can like maybe add some five guys to it this

year, we can do that again.

Like, I think

I love that.

just like weird things that's like, yeah, let's do more of that.

I wanna hear what people are doing.

We'll put a prompt up on social this week for that.

I love that.

And oh gosh.

So speaking of things here, speaking of committing things, so since this

is gonna be my first go around doing something very intentional about like

setting a goal with the moon cycles, um, I'm gonna invite you to do it with me.

I'm gonna actually track it on our Patreon.

So today being the Sagittarius New Moon, um, what the intention is for today, I.

Is to really kind of sit with ourself, daydream, brainstorm, get that

bubble out and think about, what I want, what some goals are of mine.

And there are many, right?

But picking the ones that maybe are kind of close, like I feel the energy,

the energy of them so strongly.

And so they're very, very close to my heart and on my spirit.

Right?

And just maybe jotting those down, just kind of writing some things out.

No pressure to unpack it or plan it quite yet, but just give your mind some

time to wander and see what comes in.

So that is what I'm gonna start with and I'm gonna post it.

Owner of Petri, um,

I love that I, I'll join you.

I'll hit a couple things on there.

wHat I love about this and taking this action now is I think it's really easy

to put a lot of pressure on ourselves around January 1st and say like, I'm

gonna start doing everything there.

Like, it's gonna be all or nothing starting January 1st.

And it's like, maybe we don't have to wait.

Like if there's something that's on your heart right now, you

can start thinking about it.

You can

start planning

a reason.

Reason, yeah.

have to be, you know, start at January 1st and then you get to

January 5th and you haven't done it and it feels like you failed.

But let's, let's take some of the pressure off of that, because.

That's just setting yourself up for failure.

But start thinking about now, like

Start building grace into like your plans too,

like Everything doesn't need to be like so balls to the walls that

you are exhausted before you begin.

And so I love the idea of you taking some pressure off yourself.

well let me tell you the balls to the wall thing and how

ingrained it is in us because as you were saying this, I was like, ah, I'm

gonna write every day for 30 days.

And guess what?

The first day I don't do it, that plan is out the window.

We, we have.

gonna happen, right?

So then I'm not gonna do it again, but like, what if I just wanna

write more in the next 30 days than I wrote in the last 30 days?

Or what if I just wanna like, you

do you start, start with like what you know you can

do, especially with when you're already in a state of overwhelmed.

If you're already, like, if you're like Vienna and I,

our

creative eyes are bigger than our stomach, you know?

, We get these ideas that we love and adore so much that we want to see them now.

We're like, oh my God, I fucking love this.

We're so, so excited about it and it feels hard to wait.

Like, We want that reward , seeing it right there because we have the vision

so strongly in our head, but, and it's okay for it to take some time.

It's okay for it to mature.

It could Take different iterations.

It could take, you know, oh my God, so many different resources that we

don't even know that we need yet.

It's okay for things to shape and shift.

I think that what matters is holding the vision and like being consistent

about like what you can contribute.

Not like stopping when we're like, oh, fuck it.

You know what I mean?

Things get harder.

They get weird.

So give yourself some grace and just start it could be something small.

It doesn't have to be like, I'm gonna revamp my life, um, in the next 90 days.

That's a lot.

Don't

so you don't think that I should say that I'm going to write, uh, a New

York Times bestselling novel in 2024?

That shouldn't be the intention.

I personally feel like you could do anything, honey.

But listen, let's start.

Let's start with saying, I'm gonna carve out two hours a week to like write,

a friend right there.

That is a friend,

I say that as a friend who, who would like to write a novel someday?

We put this pressure on ourselves of like, if I don't do it

right now, it's never gonna happen.

But like you and I have had this idea for years and it keeps coming back up, right?

Like just of doing this podcast and it wasn't necessarily this

podcast the first time we thought about it or talked about it

Mm-Hmm.

time.

The good ideas don't just disappear.

The good creative things, they don't just vanish, they come

back to you, they stick with you.

They, they marinate a little bit and

they turn into something special that can pop up at the right time

Oh man, these are some wise words, friend.

Beautiful

words

for us too.

all.

But you know,

We're

gonna do what we can.

We're doing what we can,

but what we've got, like Mariah Carey said,

we're trying here.

A bitch is trying.

bitch is doing her best.

Okay.

Oh my gosh.

Okay.

love that you said to write these things down too though.

Because when I say things out loud, like sometimes a bitch just be

talking, I have no idea what I said.

Um, so writing them down I think is pretty powerful too.

They give, I, I am a big proponent of writing things down

because I feel like there's something about the energy of from going

from, um, within to coming without that, like solidifies something.

And that's why I love a brain dump.

Did you see the TikTok?

I literally just thought of it as you were talking.

This girl, like had read this thing of a five-year plan and to put things in your

calendar to like put it into existence for like things from five years from now.

So if five years from now you wanna be like a CEO of a certain company,

like you put on your calendar, CEO meeting for PepsiCo or whatever it is

you wanna be, she was saying that she did this and totally forgot about it.

So she had on her calendar that popped up like the wedding and she

was walking around for like a month of like, who's fucking wedding is

this that I'm supposed to go to?

And then she realized it was supposed to be her wedding that she put in

her calendar five years earlier.

Oh my God.

I'm not engaged, I'm not married.

Like, I have no idea what this was, but

What is stressful as like,

I would be so irritated with myself,

I'd be so mad.

Yeah, don't do that.

Don't put things on your calendar unless you like, have like a little

color coding system on there to be like, this is part of a five-year plan.

This is not a real thing that I have to do.

I'd be, if I had like CEO meeting, I'd be so overwhelmed.

I'd be like, I'm, I'm unemployed.

I

I'd be like, decline.

They'd be like, man, that's your meeting.

No, it's not decline.

I love that.

But you can dream big.

Go ahead, dream big, write it down.

Just not on your calendar.

yeah, just like put it in like a journal somewhere.

Like stop tripping.

wedding.

Oh my God.

I love that.

Yeah.

Okay, so for more homework, join us over on the Patreon where we can, uh, cheer

Crystal on and maybe cheer ourselves on 'cause we're gonna do it too.

And,

And um,

yes, join us as Vienna seeks to bump.

Um.

Like Stephen King's long reign on the best, uh, New York best

sellers list with a novel the next year and see what happens.

But yes, please join us.

Um, I'm really excited to do this.

It actually came to me earlier 'cause I think it'll be helpful for me to

have a little bit of accountability and for just a person, like a very

normal everyday person to, um, you know, share how I use a little magic.

So join us on the Patreon and also follow me being unhinged

on TikTok and on Instagram at Chris the mystic CRYS, the Mystic

you can also see some more crystal being really funny 'cause

she has taken over, for the most part, the healing happy hour pod.

On TikTok and it's so much better now.

. Um, we're also there.

Same name on Instagram and Facebook and you can email us at

healing happy hour pod@gmail.com.

You should email us if you have any real weird, uh, seasonal traditions you're

going to do or that you already do.

If you have, any intentions that you're setting that you wanna put in an email,

you are welcome to do that too, if you have any nasty gossip or drama of

Where's your neighbor?

Drama

people

I'm like, this is the time of year that like suspect people are gonna

be showing up in your neighbor's driveway and I would love to hear all about it.

tell me

about it.

Come on.

yeah.

And like

us know There

Vienna, where

the people find you because.

Oh yeah, I'm still glow up inside out.

I'm actually not Austria on TikTok.

I totally forgot about that name.

I thought it was the same thing, but it's not Austria.

Um, so you can find me there on TikTok, but I really just post weird shit there.

It's not great at all.

It's such a like, garbage post.

No, I love it.

My favorite recently is that Ariana Whatcha doing the

dolls underneath your bed.

Anyway, yeah, it's a

good time for me.

I enjoy them.

You should.

You should check them out,

I appreciate that.

But yes, and you can find us here.

I'm gonna get, I'm gonna say next week definitely, because we are in

a much better hesitate this week.

Um, yeah, you'll

join us We're excited to connect.

So yeah.

In the meantime, daydream a little bit and show us your brain storm bubbles.

All right.

Bye.

Bye.