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Nothing Is Ever Wasted With God
Episode 197th February 2023 • What's the Story? • CROWD Church
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We go through life and we experience so many different things, some good and some bad. But as Christians, we know that nothing is ever wasted with God. He can take our mistakes and turn them into something beautiful.

Ian Dowsett joins Matt in today's episode and shares his journey of discovering this truth and learning how to trust in the Lord and not lean on his own understanding because that is the way to a richer and fulfilling life.

Here’s a summary of this week’s story:

  • Ian talks about his desire to help people deal with their emotional baggage and how while being mentored by an older Christian this desire was birthed in him. He realized that God was there for every decision, not just the big ones, and it opened up a new way for him to depend on God.
  • Ian felt called to church leadership right from his teenage years but became a history teacher after Uni because he felt God wanted to prepare him in this way. During this time, Ian faced difficult classes with students from different backgrounds and learned valuable lessons about giving people time and getting to know them on an individual level.
  • Having served as a Church of England vicar for 20 years, Ian shares how his favorite stories to come out of it have always been seeing people change and their lives transformed. 
  • Ian shares his belief that nothing is ever wasted with God, referencing Romans 8:28 which states "all things work together for good". He believes there are times of conflict and disagreement in life, but looking back now he is glad they happened because they made him stronger.
  • There is a lot of pressure being a church leader and a parent but Ian says mostly he puts the most pressure on himself. His two daughters recently decided to leave their home church, which could have been seen as a failure by others; however Ian saw it as an opportunity for them to spread their wings and grow in maturity.
  • Ian's one message is to trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. His advice is to stop trying to do things on one's own and instead get onboard with Jesus' program, as it leads to a richer life full of joy and peace.

ABOUT IAN:

Ian has been in church leadership for the last 20 years. He is married to Ruth, who leads alongside him, and they have three amazing girls and one very lazy dog. They have planted a church on an estate in Central London and now lead a church in North West London.

Ian briefly taught history, which he still enjoys reading about and is a tentative triathlete and 1-time marathon runner! He also has a heart for the homeless, having helped those on the streets since being a teenager and now as a trustee of FirmFoundation, the homelessness charity in Harrow. He has been a Christian since the age of 9 yet still enjoys discovering new aspects of God’s love and goodness.

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Ian Dowsett:

Often our baggage goes all the way back to childhood.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, some of the upbringing stuff, uh, and even along the way where people just

Ian Dowsett:

dump on us and yet God doesn't want that.

Ian Dowsett:

He wants to clear us out of all of that rubbish.

Ian Dowsett:

Just help us to be freer again.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, you know.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, just imagine all that weight and rubbish being like, you know, stones

Ian Dowsett:

put into a rugsack and, and it's like God wants to just get rid of those

Ian Dowsett:

stones and suddenly, suddenly you, you get to motor in life because you don't

Ian Dowsett:

have that weight bearing you down.

Matt Edmundson:

Welcome to what's the story?

Matt Edmundson:

My name is Matt Edmundson, and this is a podcast full of stories about

Matt Edmundson:

faith and courage from everyday people.

Matt Edmundson:

And today I am chatting with one of my best mates, Ian Dowsett, about

Matt Edmundson:

his Christian journey, the challenges he's faced in life, and some of the

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lessons he's learnt along the way.

Matt Edmundson:

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Now, Ian has been in church, uh, leadership for the last

Matt Edmundson:

20 years.

Matt Edmundson:

I know he doesn't look a day older than 21.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, he is married to Ruth, who, uh, leads alongside him and they have

Matt Edmundson:

three beautiful, very beautiful girls and one very lazy dog.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, they've planted a church on an estate in central London and now

Matt Edmundson:

lead a church in northwest London.

Matt Edmundson:

Ian briefly taught, uh, history, which he still enjoys reading about and he is a

Matt Edmundson:

tentative triathlete, uh, and uh, one time marathon runner apparently.

Matt Edmundson:

He also has a heart for the homeless.

Matt Edmundson:

Having helped those on the streets since being a teenager, and now

Matt Edmundson:

as a trustee of Firm Foundation, the homeless charity in Harrow.

Matt Edmundson:

He has been a Christian since the age of nine, yet still enjoys discovering

Matt Edmundson:

new aspects of God's love and goodness.

Matt Edmundson:

Mate,

Matt Edmundson:

welcome to, uh, the What's the Story Podcast.

Matt Edmundson:

Finally, we get to do this conversation.

Matt Edmundson:

I've been looking forward to this.

Matt Edmundson:

How are we doing, sir?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

No, very good.

Ian Dowsett:

It's, it is great to finally get around to it.

Ian Dowsett:

We've, we, as you say, we've been planning it for a long time.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, we've, we've done it in person ourselves many a time,

Ian Dowsett:

but to do it sort of live, uh, live online as well, so, yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

It's funny, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

Now we record it, so, uh, our kids will watch this back and

Matt Edmundson:

go, oh, dad, what are you doing?

Ian Dowsett:

They'll say that about you.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, they'll say that about me.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

No, it is worth saying it.

Matt Edmundson:

I did say it in the intro.

Matt Edmundson:

We have been friends for a very, very long time.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, we've been friends what, since uni, so that was back in 92.

Ian Dowsett:

Did we meet 91?

Ian Dowsett:

92?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

30 years.

Ian Dowsett:

Must be 30 years.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

30 long old years.

Matt Edmundson:

So, Yeah,

Matt Edmundson:

. Ian Dowsett: Wow.

Matt Edmundson:

Time.

Matt Edmundson:

I survived.

Matt Edmundson:

I lost the hair.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, it's funny, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

It's funny because, um, my two boys now are at uni, which

Matt Edmundson:

was the same age when We met.

Matt Edmundson:

It's funny how it all sort of comes full circle, really.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, and how out of uni, you know, you make these amazing friends and

Matt Edmundson:

you sort of stay lifelong friends.

Matt Edmundson:

And I can see it actually with my boys, uh, at uni as well.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, it's interesting, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

Interesting.

Matt Edmundson:

So, um, so for the good folks listening, you are currently in Harrow, right?

Ian Dowsett:

Currently a vicar of a church in Harrow called St.

Ian Dowsett:

Paul's.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, although we have just recently announced to our church members that we

Ian Dowsett:

are planning to move on in the summer.

Ian Dowsett:

So, yes, we've been here for 14 years.

Ian Dowsett:

We've, we've loved serving and being here.

Ian Dowsett:

We've, uh, grown up, our children have grown up here.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, but, but we feel that yeah, incredibly as God leads us through

Ian Dowsett:

lots of things that he's, he's saying, saying it's time to go.

Ian Dowsett:

And unlike some people, I don't have a job to go on to, we're trusting good

Ian Dowsett:

that he's gonna show us what lies ahead.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

And we are looking forward to seeing what that is over the next couple of months.

Matt Edmundson:

Exciting times.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, very exciting times.

Matt Edmundson:

Really.

Matt Edmundson:

I mean, that's quite a massive change, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

Because if you've been doing something for 14 years and you feel

Matt Edmundson:

then, oh, it's time to move on.

Matt Edmundson:

That's that's, that's quite a big deal.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

It's a big deal to change in the first place, I guess.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, the fact that.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, we are literally stepping out at the moment into nothing.

Ian Dowsett:

It's a bit like, you know, that Harrison Ford thing and Raiders of

Ian Dowsett:

the lost ark, where he steps out onto a, you know, an empty space.

Ian Dowsett:

It feels a little bit like that, but we kind of can see

Ian Dowsett:

something of what lies ahead.

Ian Dowsett:

We, we know that God's gonna use some of our history, our past.

Ian Dowsett:

He always does that.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, nothing's ever wasted with God.

Ian Dowsett:

And yeah, we, he's, he's using the fact that we, we love working with people.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, love praying for people, love, um, helping people who particularly

Ian Dowsett:

maybe feel a bit broken in their lives.

Ian Dowsett:

And we've just appreciated the way that God has helped us in our

Ian Dowsett:

own brokenness, uh, deal with.

Ian Dowsett:

Often our baggage goes all the way back to childhood.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, some of the upbringing stuff, uh, and even along the way where people just

Ian Dowsett:

dump on us and yet God doesn't want that.

Ian Dowsett:

He wants to clear us out of all of that rubbish.

Ian Dowsett:

Just help us to be freer again.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, you know.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, just imagine all that weight and rubbish being like, you know, stones

Ian Dowsett:

put into a rugsack and, and it's like God wants to just get rid of those

Ian Dowsett:

stones and suddenly, suddenly you, you get to motor in life because you don't

Ian Dowsett:

have that weight bearing you down.

Ian Dowsett:

So that's what we love praying with people.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, and helping them feel that same weightlessness freedom that

Ian Dowsett:

comes from being with him and getting stuff in their past dealt with.

Ian Dowsett:

So we're hoping to do that with, uh, all sorts of people, uh, where that

Ian Dowsett:

would be one of the key things that we, we sense for the future for us,

Ian Dowsett:

for Ruth and me, uh, working together.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

So the, this desire then, I mean, I kind of know the answers before I ask

Matt Edmundson:

them, but I, I'm aware it's funny, isn't it, when you talk to someone

Matt Edmundson:

that you're very familiar with.

Matt Edmundson:

but this desire to help people, um, deal with the baggage, to take the

Matt Edmundson:

metaphorical rocks outta the rugsack.

Matt Edmundson:

Was that there when you started at the church in Harrow, that same desire?

Matt Edmundson:

Is that why you started there?

Matt Edmundson:

Or is that sort of something that's happened and sort of

Matt Edmundson:

come out of your time in Harrow?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, no, it was, it was already there.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, I think particularly for me, there was a key moment actually in

Ian Dowsett:

the place we were in North Kensington.

Ian Dowsett:

Before that I was journeying with an older Christian who was kind of

Ian Dowsett:

a bit of my mentor and, and he was, uh, going through some stuff as well.

Ian Dowsett:

And just as he went through that, that journey of finding freedom, he

Ian Dowsett:

kind of helped me process that stuff myself and uh, and really would just

Ian Dowsett:

open my eyes to the fact of things that I'd, I'd read in the Bible

Ian Dowsett:

before, things that I'd seen true, but never really applied it to my life.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and it was like, I've been a Christian, like you say, I've been

Ian Dowsett:

a Christian since the age of nine.

Ian Dowsett:

but sometimes we, we read stuff and, and we know stuff, but we don't live it.

Ian Dowsett:

We don't actually action it in our lives.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and so for the first time I actually started actually sort of, you

Ian Dowsett:

know, really depending on God mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

about decisions that I was making.

Ian Dowsett:

And it, I think, I think at one stage I just believed, oh, God was only

Ian Dowsett:

there for the big decisions in life and actually start, started realizing God

Ian Dowsett:

is there for every decision in life.

Ian Dowsett:

He really is.

Ian Dowsett:

Does care about, you know, the small stuff.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and actually it's often when we, we don't see God in the small stuff,

Ian Dowsett:

that that's when our kind of our lives start to kind of go off track and they go

Ian Dowsett:

track up a little, then they go track a lot if we keep going down that pathway.

Ian Dowsett:

So for me it was, it was so good, so good to, to find people I could go, do you

Ian Dowsett:

know what, this is not right in my life.

Ian Dowsett:

I need to deal with.

Ian Dowsett:

To admit I've got brokenness in me to admit that actually, uh, I'm not

Ian Dowsett:

this superman that, you know, culture makes us or want to be, uh, that

Ian Dowsett:

I have got insecurities within me.

Ian Dowsett:

I've got, uh, a sense of failure sometimes, or a sense of overwhelm.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and actually just to be able to share that with, with God, but also with

Ian Dowsett:

trusted people around me was fantastic.

Ian Dowsett:

And then to pray into it and see God speak.

Ian Dowsett:

The wonderful thing was God would give us, we, we call it sort of original design.

Ian Dowsett:

It's like, you know, God unrolling his blueprint for for your life and kind

Ian Dowsett:

of going, is this how I made you to be?

Ian Dowsett:

when I designed you, you know, when I designed you, Matt,

Ian Dowsett:

Ian, it's how I made you to be.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

. And there's just some lovely, lovely, affirming words.

Ian Dowsett:

I mean, you know, God spoke over me that I'm a man of integrity, a

Ian Dowsett:

man of humor, uh, a man of courage.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, and these are things that I am, but I'm also becoming, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

I'm not fully formed in that yet.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, I'm, I'm not that fully formed person.

Ian Dowsett:

It was so affirming to, to have someone speak these things over me.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and God would use images that were pertinent to me.

Ian Dowsett:

There was stuff that no one else would know or very few people would

Ian Dowsett:

know, certainly not the people who were praying these things for me.

Ian Dowsett:

And it would blow me away.

Ian Dowsett:

It's like, on how Earth know that God?

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, you know, how, how on earth did that person know that?

Ian Dowsett:

It could only been you.

Ian Dowsett:

So it was incredible.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, absolutely incredible.

Matt Edmundson:

Wow.

Matt Edmundson:

So you have this sort of, this, um, encounter for, want of a better

Matt Edmundson:

expression than when you are leading a church in North Kensington.

Matt Edmundson:

All these things sort of come out.

Matt Edmundson:

You then hit the ground running in Harrow, um, and just, uh, let everyone know

Matt Edmundson:

you are married at this point, right?

Ian Dowsett:

Yep, that's right.

Ian Dowsett:

Married to Ruth.

Ian Dowsett:

Married, uh, already number of years by that stage.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

So I read out in the bio that you started out, uh, your working life.

Matt Edmundson:

So uni finishes for us.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

You go off and become a history teacher.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, and, and then all of a sudden you say, again,

Ian Dowsett:

why are you laughing?

Matt Edmundson:

I'm just gonna

Matt Edmundson:

Just, why not?

Matt Edmundson:

Um, and so , so all of a sudden they, you, you sort of, you start down this

Matt Edmundson:

road of being a history teacher, and then you're like, no, actually I'm, I,

Matt Edmundson:

I'm gonna go into the Church of England.

Matt Edmundson:

I'm gonna do my, my training.

Matt Edmundson:

What happened there?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Well, it's, you know, we speak of, of maybe a call.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, and I felt called to be a leader in the church of some at some point,

Ian Dowsett:

right from when I was a teenager.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

So in one sense, it wasn't a new thing.

Ian Dowsett:

It wasn't like I've started being a teacher and oh, I'm suddenly backtracking.

Ian Dowsett:

It was, it was more that I knew God was calling me into church leadership.

Ian Dowsett:

And when I came out of university, I said, okay, God, I'm ready.

Ian Dowsett:

And he said, well, I'm not sure you are.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and so he kind of said, I want you to do this first.

Ian Dowsett:

And so for me, part of my, I guess, being made ready for being a church

Ian Dowsett:

leader was actually to go into teaching.

Ian Dowsett:

And it, it wasn't the, I don't think it was the teaching bit that was relevant.

Ian Dowsett:

I think it was the relating with life relating with you know, children whose

Ian Dowsett:

backgrounds were very different from mine.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, some children who had had really hard backgrounds coping with lively

Ian Dowsett:

classrooms where people weren't so interested in learning all the time,

Ian Dowsett:

more interested in staring out the window or distracting the person next to them.

Ian Dowsett:

And so, yeah, for me that was part of my, my shaping, my forming.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and God knew that.

Ian Dowsett:

I certainly, after the first year of teaching, it had been hard work.

Ian Dowsett:

I had had one or two classes particularly that were quite defiant.

Ian Dowsett:

really rowdy, you know, this is just a normal state comp.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

. Um, and after the first year I thought, ah, do you know what

Ian Dowsett:

I, I've done my year of forming.

Ian Dowsett:

I, I'm done.

Ian Dowsett:

I'm gonna move on now.

Ian Dowsett:

I spoke to a very wise person, my dad.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

And he said, pleasure, you know, Ian, Don't run away from it.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, if, if, if God's calling onto church leadership, wait until he calls

Ian Dowsett:

you to to move on, don't run away.

Ian Dowsett:

And it was really helpful cuz the next year I only did another year

Ian Dowsett:

of teaching, but then the next year was totally different and it.

Ian Dowsett:

I was able to face up with some of the things that I've been struggling with.

Ian Dowsett:

Some of the fact that, um, the things that hadn't been going well, I was

Ian Dowsett:

able to sort of work on, uh, and work through, both in terms of the class

Ian Dowsett:

themselves, but also the stuff in me that I needed just to deal with.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and I became, you know, I was, I, I left, I left knowing that

Ian Dowsett:

I had, I, I wasn't running away.

Ian Dowsett:

I left knowing that I faced up to those things and seen them through.

Ian Dowsett:

. Um, and yeah, I, I, I left with my head held high in that sense.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and not beaten.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and it was good.

Ian Dowsett:

And it was good cause I actually saw some of the children who'd been in real pain

Ian Dowsett:

in the first year actually really turned around and I learned a lot of things.

Ian Dowsett:

I learned the power of really giving time to people.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, getting to know people, you know, if, if you get to know a child's name and get to

Ian Dowsett:

know something about them, it makes it.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

That's super powerful, man.

Matt Edmundson:

And it's, um, I mean, teaching, for me, being a teacher, certainly

Matt Edmundson:

in a, what we call here in the uk, a comprehensive school, a

Matt Edmundson:

high school, uh, state run school.

Matt Edmundson:

It's a hard road man.

Matt Edmundson:

And my hat's off to anyone that does it well, um, because, geez, but the.

Matt Edmundson:

. It's interesting, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

You talk to, you didn't run away and I, I think there's this phrase that we use

Matt Edmundson:

a lot called Finish well or end it well.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

not everything ends well.

Matt Edmundson:

Not everything can finish well, but wherever, wherever possible,

Matt Edmundson:

you try and get things to end well.

Matt Edmundson:

And um, at least that's one of my philosophies.

Matt Edmundson:

Right.

Matt Edmundson:

And so listening to you talk, that's what I'm kind of reminded of.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, so how important was it for you, do you think, to do that extra year?

Matt Edmundson:

To finish well, to end it well, to listen to your dad?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

I mean, I think, I think for me it was really important, I say for

Ian Dowsett:

me, not in the sense of, oh, I, I decided that it was really important.

Ian Dowsett:

I think just it was important for me.

Ian Dowsett:

It's like I say, it was what God was doing in me in that year.

Ian Dowsett:

It was ultra important and not, not so much for, because I thought it was

Ian Dowsett:

a good thing, so I'm glad I did it.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, and, you know, I'm really, I, I, I certainly learned,

Ian Dowsett:

as I say, I was a teacher.

Ian Dowsett:

I learned more that year probably than anybody else did.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, so I think that's why it was so key.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, it was key.

Ian Dowsett:

And you know, as I say, it's about, So much about life is about people

Ian Dowsett:

and about wrestling with difficult situations that you have with people.

Ian Dowsett:

And, uh, and, and the kids in the classroom.

Ian Dowsett:

They, they were part of that, and they were part, they were partly my teachers

Ian Dowsett:

in terms of learning how to cope and manage people who can be difficult

Ian Dowsett:

or people who are, who are struggling because they've got brokenness.

Ian Dowsett:

Again, it, you know, it really does come back to that brokenness.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, a lot of those kids, they were pretty young and

Ian Dowsett:

yeah, they'd already experienced some really hard stuff in life.

Ian Dowsett:

And me just being aware that that was the case meant that I could be more

Ian Dowsett:

patient, more tolerant with them.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, and yeah, I came out of it definitely having, uh, learned those lessons or

Ian Dowsett:

learn, certainly learnt some lessons about how to relate to people better.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

And so you, you then leave and you head into, um, uh, I wanna say Bible school,

Matt Edmundson:

but it's not the proper name for it.

Matt Edmundson:

Is it

Ian Dowsett:

Vic?

Ian Dowsett:

Vicar Factory?

Ian Dowsett:

I dunno.

Ian Dowsett:

Theological college.

Matt Edmundson:

Theological College.

Matt Edmundson:

That's the one I'm looking for.

Matt Edmundson:

Vicar Factory which is brilliant, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

So, . So you, you head over to the Vicar factory.

Matt Edmundson:

I'm just, that's all I was just wanting to call it.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, you go to the Vicar factory.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, how old are you when you, when you hit this place?

Ian Dowsett:

Yes.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, we, so Ruth and I get married just as we are going, uh, so just

Ian Dowsett:

before we go, we get married.

Matt Edmundson:

And isn't, isn't Ruth famed for saying she

Matt Edmundson:

was never gonna marry a vicar?

Ian Dowsett:

I don't think.

Ian Dowsett:

that is not true?

Matt Edmundson:

I thought, I thought I heard Ruth at some point say she

Matt Edmundson:

never wanted to be a vicar's wife.

Ian Dowsett:

No, then she gets married to someones who was gonna be a Vicar.

Ian Dowsett:

There you go.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Okay..

Ian Dowsett:

But yeah, we, we literally just got married.

Ian Dowsett:

We as newlyweds went away, went away from our friends that

Ian Dowsett:

we'd made, uh, in Twickenham.

Ian Dowsett:

We were now in Oxford, uh, kind of leafy Oxford.

Ian Dowsett:

Nice sort of pleasant environment.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and yeah, we were just trying to, I was trying to learn how to be, uh, how

Ian Dowsett:

to be a vicar and do the job they were.

Ian Dowsett:

And, uh, we were also at the same time, um, yeah, newly married, trying to learn,

Ian Dowsett:

learn how to relate well to one another with some mistakes and some errors and,

Ian Dowsett:

uh, some good stuff on the way as well.

Ian Dowsett:

But

Matt Edmundson:

yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, it's funny, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

That whole, um, That whole figuring life out in your early twenties,

Matt Edmundson:

uh, and especially when you, you, uh, when we got married, cause we

Matt Edmundson:

all got married quite, quite close to each other, didn't we really?

Matt Edmundson:

In terms of age range?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

But you, and you'll remember, you know, you remember that even before we got

Ian Dowsett:

married that, you know, there was a bit of a, oh gosh, there's a bit of a hiccup.

Ian Dowsett:

Was this the right thing that we're doing?

Ian Dowsett:

And, and again.

Ian Dowsett:

Praise God we did.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

All worked out in the end, didn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

Had, uh, you have three beautiful girls, um, and, uh, you, so you,

Matt Edmundson:

you, you go from Vicar Factory , and then you go to, uh, your first post

Matt Edmundson:

in London, and then from there you.

Matt Edmundson:

Am I right in saying that from that you go to Harrow?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, that's right.

Ian Dowsett:

So we were in North Kensington.

Ian Dowsett:

So we went from this leafy suburb of, of Oxford.

Ian Dowsett:

Literally the, you know, we looked out onto this, this, we were in

Ian Dowsett:

a flat, we looked out onto the garden at the back of the flat.

Ian Dowsett:

We didn't need net curtains, anything like that.

Ian Dowsett:

Cause it was all quiet.

Ian Dowsett:

And at nighttime there was hardly any lights at all.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

. And then we, we moved to this house in the middle of a, a London estate right on

Ian Dowsett:

the corner of the road where we, we'd have these motorbikes, which were, were around.

Ian Dowsett:

That's, you know, they'd start about eight o'clock at night and then keep

Ian Dowsett:

going until about 11, 12 at night.

Ian Dowsett:

And, uh, and we thought, well, have we done, we've moved from idyllic country,

Ian Dowsett:

uh, side type place into, into the middle of, uh, what felt like noisy.

Ian Dowsett:

Noisy hell, almost.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

. I mean, we had a guy got stabbed right outside the door.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, couple of weeks in, I think.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, he, he didn't die fortunately, but, you know, um, and we

Ian Dowsett:

thought, what have we done?

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and, and the, one of the verses that really, um, you

Ian Dowsett:

know, scripture's always good.

Ian Dowsett:

I find for me to hold on to when I've got a particular passage that, uh, and, and

Ian Dowsett:

for me, it was when we moved that time as Psalm 27 verse one, uh, which is the

Ian Dowsett:

Lord is my light, uh, and my salvation.

Ian Dowsett:

Whom shall I fear?

Ian Dowsett:

The Lord is the stronghold of my life.

Ian Dowsett:

Of whom shall I be afraid?

Ian Dowsett:

You know, quite honestly, it was scary.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, it was scary to stop, be lying in bed and hearing these noises go round

Ian Dowsett:

and round and see the light to the cars.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and to, to begin with, you kind of thought, well, what have we done?

Ian Dowsett:

And, you know, it was while we were there that we had kids.

Ian Dowsett:

So we had young kids, you know, kid, we had three kids under

Ian Dowsett:

four, uh, in that, in that place.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and at times you kind of think, what one earth are we doing?

Ian Dowsett:

But God was with us, uh, and.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, he did.

Ian Dowsett:

He, he really, he, he, he was really gracious to us in that place.

Ian Dowsett:

And we, we, we, we would sit on the front door with all these people

Ian Dowsett:

coming past and get to know them.

Ian Dowsett:

And that was part of our ministry was just getting to know them, that

Ian Dowsett:

the neighbors and, and, and the community and really saying to people

Ian Dowsett:

in the community, look, you matter.

Ian Dowsett:

You matter.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, you know, some, some of you may have lived broken lives, but you matter to God.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and we wanna do things that, that, that celebrate that.

Ian Dowsett:

I can remember one thing we did was, um, we did a, a good Neighbors award.

Ian Dowsett:

Okay.

Ian Dowsett:

And literally we just, we just went around the neighborhood saying, Hey,

Ian Dowsett:

do you wanna nominate one of your neighbors for being good neighbors?

Ian Dowsett:

We heard some stories about bad neighbors as well.

Ian Dowsett:

. I bet you did.

Ian Dowsett:

Yes.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, but, but, but we, you know, we wanted, but the thing is, we were so fed

Ian Dowsett:

up for people knocking where they lived.

Ian Dowsett:

We just wanted to say people look, there are good stories here too.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

And so what we wanted to do was draw out just some of that, those good stories

Ian Dowsett:

and say, look guys, it's not all bad.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, if you could, if you will just open your eyes for a

Ian Dowsett:

moment, you'll see God at work.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and so it was just a way of, you know, hearing some stories.

Ian Dowsett:

And then we literally, we, we, we then invited these people who'd been

Ian Dowsett:

nominated and just gave them all a lovely certificate and, you know, got,

Ian Dowsett:

I can't remember, got sort of dignitary to come along and sort of, uh, uh, give

Ian Dowsett:

them their prizes and stuff like that.

Ian Dowsett:

And, but it was great.

Ian Dowsett:

It was great just to celebrate that.

Matt Edmundson:

Interesting.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

I imagine that actually went down quite well.

Ian Dowsett:

Oh, it was, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

No, it was great.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, I think, I think the people, people who were nominating,

Ian Dowsett:

uh, as well as the people who, who, who, who won prizes that they, they,

Ian Dowsett:

they liked telling their stories.

Ian Dowsett:

They, they wanted to tell about their, their, their, their neighbors

Ian Dowsett:

who'd really helped them out.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, the people who'd sort of looked after their kids when they

Ian Dowsett:

couldn't, couldn't be there, or, you know, the people, um, yeah, who, who

Ian Dowsett:

who've done incredible things themselves.

Ian Dowsett:

We, um, funnily enough, one, one of the people.

Ian Dowsett:

Who was nominated was, uh, guys that lived next door.

Ian Dowsett:

And it was just, you know, the, just the way they cared for, for their son who,

Ian Dowsett:

who had, um, physical difficulties, uh, and somebody else had nominated them.

Ian Dowsett:

And it just, just, it was just lovely to sort of celebrate the

Ian Dowsett:

way they parented this child who.

Ian Dowsett:

Who, who, you know, he, he, he, you know, he was, he had a

Ian Dowsett:

lot of physical difficulties.

Ian Dowsett:

It meant they had to sacrifice a lot to care for him.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and yeah, they did that and, and, uh, and it was lovely to

Ian Dowsett:

celebrate their, their effort.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, bet.

Matt Edmundson:

And I, I would imagine it, it's those kind of things where you'll go

Matt Edmundson:

back to their house 20 years later and some of them must still have

Matt Edmundson:

their certificates out all there.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Do you know what I mean?

Matt Edmundson:

It's really fascinating, uh, how you, how you see that all these years later.

Matt Edmundson:

And it still means a lot to people because actually a lot of people aren't told

Matt Edmundson:

good things, um, certainly about them, uh, all that often, which is a shame.

Matt Edmundson:

So I'm curious, mate, right, you've been doing church leadership now 20 years.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, you've been a, a, a vicar for, uh, in, or you've been in the Church of

Matt Edmundson:

England, haven't you, for 20 years now.

Matt Edmundson:

What are some of your favorite stories to come out of that?

Matt Edmundson:

Because I mean, you get to walk with people through birth,

Matt Edmundson:

through christenings, through marriages, through funerals.

Matt Edmundson:

You have to do it all, don't you?

Matt Edmundson:

As, as a, yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

A vicar of a church of England, and I'm just kind of curious, what are

Matt Edmundson:

some of the, the, the hero stories or, no hero's the wrong phrase, but

Matt Edmundson:

some, some really heartwarming stories I suppose, that have come out of it.

Ian Dowsett:

I think, I think always it's seeing people change.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, those are the heartwarming stories.

Ian Dowsett:

It's seeing people, um, whose lives sometimes are.

Ian Dowsett:

, uh, not good.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and, and just incredibly that they, they, they sort of meet with you a, a

Ian Dowsett:

as, I guess, a representative of God, and then they get to meet God themselves.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

And, you know, to me it's not about meeting me.

Ian Dowsett:

It's not about, you know, Ian being a wonderful person.

Ian Dowsett:

It's about the fact that I can, I, I've just got someone that they can

Ian Dowsett:

be introduced to and that they can be introduced to Jesus and get to

Ian Dowsett:

know him and, and realize that he's the one that makes a difference.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

When we left North Kensington.

Ian Dowsett:

One of the, I I, I'd worked along the road at the community center with a

Ian Dowsett:

number of young, uh, children and one of the, one of the young girls who,

Ian Dowsett:

who joined our, our, our club, uh, kind of youth club and then eventually

Ian Dowsett:

started coming along to, to church.

Ian Dowsett:

She wrote me, um, she wrote me a letter and, you know, it was all

Ian Dowsett:

about how she'd changed because she'd met Jesus through me and for

Ian Dowsett:

me that that's a heartwarming story.

Ian Dowsett:

Cause it, oh yeah, I bet he's somebody you, you know, who's

Ian Dowsett:

directly saying, you, you've made a difference in my life and mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, you know, and it was, it was great to see, you know, he was a, um, a girl

Ian Dowsett:

who was from a broken family, you know, mom loved her dearly, was certainly

Ian Dowsett:

looking after her, but, um, she was living up living on this estate where,

Ian Dowsett:

you know, and she could have gone anyway.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and yet she chose to, and she came along to church.

Ian Dowsett:

She, you know, mum wasn't sickly up for coming, but she

Ian Dowsett:

came along to church anyway.

Ian Dowsett:

Her mum was supportive, but you know, didn't particularly want to come herself.

Ian Dowsett:

And, uh, and so she just let her daughter come along and, and

Ian Dowsett:

her daughter just flourished.

Ian Dowsett:

And it was, it was great to see.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, so that, that, that's heartwarming.

Ian Dowsett:

And what we've seen here, we've seen that as well.

Ian Dowsett:

We've.

Ian Dowsett:

people whose people whose, whose lives ha have turned around.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

again, one, the people who's now working on staff with us, uh, here at St.

Ian Dowsett:

Paul's.

Ian Dowsett:

Oh, wow.

Ian Dowsett:

She came to us as somebody who I, I'm not interested in this stuff.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, you know, I've never really been interested in, in God or Gods stuff.

Ian Dowsett:

I've ignored him all my life.

Ian Dowsett:

And then just was walking along one day, saw the fact we'd got a poster up to

Ian Dowsett:

do Alpha, which is a kind of, come and ask questions about Jesus type course.

Ian Dowsett:

And um, so she just felt drawn to come in and she did.

Ian Dowsett:

And she probably didn't know what she was doing at the time, . Um, but she

Ian Dowsett:

came on that and she, she made, she, you know, as she was going through,

Ian Dowsett:

she, she asked the questions that she'd got and came to the point where

Ian Dowsett:

she went, Do, you know what I mean?

Ian Dowsett:

There's something in this.

Ian Dowsett:

I'm gonna, I'm gonna go for this.

Ian Dowsett:

And she, she made a commitment to say, you know, God, come into my life.

Ian Dowsett:

And she hasn't looked back.

Ian Dowsett:

She's, you know, incredibly been changed.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, a as I say, to, to the point where she's now working on staff with us, uh,

Ian Dowsett:

at the church and is blessing loads of other people and is, is generous, is

Ian Dowsett:

warm hearted, has come out of herself.

Ian Dowsett:

I think probably in ways that she, she would've been a very

Ian Dowsett:

defended person in the past.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, it's just wonderfully warm and uh, and giving now and

Ian Dowsett:

yeah, I think she would look back on her old self and sort of say.

Ian Dowsett:

I've just, I've been transformed.

Ian Dowsett:

I've been changed.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

And that's what,

Matt Edmundson:

that's awesome.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

It is in the business of doing that, isn't he really?

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, the, the whole transformation thing.

Matt Edmundson:

You mentioned earlier, actually, one of the statements you made was,

Matt Edmundson:

um, nothing is ever wasted with God.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, and I'm kind of curious, let's dig into that a little bit.

Matt Edmundson:

What do you mean by that phrase?

Ian Dowsett:

Well, as a phrase, uh, in Romans, which says that all things work

Ian Dowsett:

together for good, for those who love God.

Ian Dowsett:

And, um, there's a lot of things that happen in life, which we have to say that

Ian Dowsett:

isn't, that in itself wasn't a good thing.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

. Um, so we will, you know, um, we, we've had lots of conflict, I

Ian Dowsett:

think, you know, as church leaders.

Ian Dowsett:

Ruth & I as wife and husband, you know, we've had, uh, we'll

Ian Dowsett:

have times of conflict and disagreement and, and actually.

Ian Dowsett:

I, I would, looking back on it now, I would say I'm glad we've had those

Ian Dowsett:

conflicts and worked through them and it's the working through the key

Ian Dowsett:

bit there, but I'm glad we've had the conflicts and worked through them.

Ian Dowsett:

I don't think our marriage would be the same if we hadn't had those things.

Ian Dowsett:

. Mm.

Ian Dowsett:

So when I say nothing's wasted, it's like we might have times when we've

Ian Dowsett:

fallen out and we've, um, had to sort of really sit down and talk through.

Ian Dowsett:

Why is it that you do that, Ian, why does that, why don't you understand me?

Ian Dowsett:

Why aren't you caring?

Ian Dowsett:

Um, and then I've, you know, I've been able to sort of say my bit and,

Ian Dowsett:

and we've had to wrestle through, you know, often to a place of

Ian Dowsett:

compromise, uh, in order to realize.

Ian Dowsett:

Actually, now that we've taught that through, we know one another better.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

And now that we know one another better, our relationship is stronger.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

And now actually we are in a better place than we were.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

So, you know, it's all very well said.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, and I, I meet, I meet people when I'm getting them

Ian Dowsett:

ready to being married, you know, when I'm marry them in church.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and I'll always say to people, you know, have you, have you,

Ian Dowsett:

have you had a falling out yet?

Ian Dowsett:

Have you over some people, They haven't yet, but you kind of go,

Ian Dowsett:

well, I hope you do soon, because, you know, actually part of the

Ian Dowsett:

relationship is disagreeing well, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, learning how to cope with conflict well and coming through it.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and I know I've shared with you in the past, you know, as a, as, as a

Ian Dowsett:

close friend, you know, sometimes when we've had, you know, there've been

Ian Dowsett:

difficult things in church life where we've, you know, people have been.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, maybe haven't understood why we're doing things, uh, and therefore

Ian Dowsett:

have kind of got the hump with us.

Ian Dowsett:

Or maybe we've sometimes, maybe sometimes we've got the hump with others.

Ian Dowsett:

But, um, you know, actually, but, but when you work, when you really sit down

Ian Dowsett:

and, and hear one another well generally, if there is an openness on both sides,

Ian Dowsett:

then you can work those things through.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Occasionally you just have to walk your separate ways.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, but, but, but those, those times can be incredible.

Ian Dowsett:

Or, um, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

We've had, you know, a number of people who we've, I can think of,

Ian Dowsett:

you know, certainly quite a few people who we've had to sit down.

Ian Dowsett:

I've had to sit down and go, look, I, I, I've got the feeling here.

Ian Dowsett:

All is not well between you and me.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, you know, they're a bit cold to me.

Ian Dowsett:

Then they're not speaking to me.

Ian Dowsett:

And then they'll, they'll, they'll, they'll turn around and say, , Ian, you

Ian Dowsett:

said this or you did this and, and you know, it made me feel really rubbish

Ian Dowsett:

or it made me feel like you didn't think what I had to say was important.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, and, you know, I'd worked through with them nine times outta 10.

Ian Dowsett:

It was, they maybe misunderstood me slightly or I'd.

Ian Dowsett:

I've missed said it when I was doing it.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

And I said, sorry.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and we've moved on from that, or, or they've kind of gone, oh, okay.

Ian Dowsett:

Actually I realized I misunderstood you.

Ian Dowsett:

Sorry.

Ian Dowsett:

And, you know, we've moved forward together.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, yeah, those are, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

So things aren't wasted.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and I do think often those are the things that make you stronger.

Ian Dowsett:

I think they say that when you're, you know, you break a

Ian Dowsett:

bone, but then it heals again.

Ian Dowsett:

Actually sometimes it, it can be even stronger in that place of the break that.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, uh, so yeah, it's not all bad.

Ian Dowsett:

It's not all bad.

Matt Edmundson:

It's, it's really powerful lesson, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

Because I, I, like you, I can look back over my life and I can go,

Matt Edmundson:

well, that experience wasn't great.

Matt Edmundson:

, but out of that has come this.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

I'm not saying that God caused that experience over there.

Matt Edmundson:

Right.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, but what I am saying is out of that, God has created something wonderful,

Matt Edmundson:

uh, and he's not necessarily been, uh, derailed for want of a better

Matt Edmundson:

expression by probably my own stupidity.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, and it's interesting how you talked about the transformation.

Matt Edmundson:

, you know, the, the heartwarming stories and then, you know, you talked about

Matt Edmundson:

yourself and Ruth and conflict with church members, so the transformations

Matt Edmundson:

not just for people who are necessarily outside of church or broken.

Matt Edmundson:

I'm listening to you talking.

Matt Edmundson:

It's as much for you as it is for your congregants.

Matt Edmundson:

Is that the right word?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

It will probably, we're, we're, we're all, we, we've all got

Ian Dowsett:

brokenness and we'll never not have brokenness this side of heaven.

Ian Dowsett:

For me, it's about not wanting to remain broken and it's sick feeling

Ian Dowsett:

when I realize that I'm broken.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, so yeah, it's, you know, I think sometimes people think.

Ian Dowsett:

And people think the problem with church is they're full of perpetrators

Ian Dowsett:

and they're full of people who do things that they shouldn't be doing.

Ian Dowsett:

And reality is that's because they're broken people and

Ian Dowsett:

they're, they're on the journey.

Ian Dowsett:

If somebody's not changing at all, then I would argue that then they're probably

Ian Dowsett:

not opening themselves up to Jesus, uh, in order that you can help them change.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, but I think if we are open to it.

Ian Dowsett:

God can change anybody.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

If, if they're open to it, you know, it doesn't matter whether you've been

Ian Dowsett:

a Christian for 40 years, you can still sometimes have really deep-rooted stuff

Ian Dowsett:

in your life that still needs dealing with, uh, uh, and you can be in somebody

Ian Dowsett:

who's completely new to faith, uh, and God can be at work on you there as well.

Ian Dowsett:

And sometimes there's a grace.

Ian Dowsett:

I think sometimes there's a grace for people who've just

Ian Dowsett:

come to faith in Christ.

Ian Dowsett:

Sometimes you think he, he solves things really quickly for them and other times

Ian Dowsett:

they, they just, yeah, you have to work those out at a long period of time.

Ian Dowsett:

For me, one of my things was growing up I was often quite, um, angry internally.

Ian Dowsett:

So if I got cross, I would internalize it.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, hide it, push it down, and then suddenly snap.

Ian Dowsett:

And if I snapped, normally what I would do is I'd break something that was

Ian Dowsett:

around me and that, that, you know, as a kid, that's, that's kind of how I

Ian Dowsett:

would cope with my negative emotions And so one of the things in, in later life

Ian Dowsett:

is, is kind of learning to give that to God, learning to express it earlier.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, um, rather than pushing down, pushing down and having this sort

Ian Dowsett:

of explosion type thing come later.

Ian Dowsett:

And, you know, that's important cuz you know, when you've got kids,

Ian Dowsett:

uh, around in the house, you don't want to be just flying off the

Ian Dowsett:

handle at any time, and you know, occasionally that would still happen.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, but certainly I was, you know, I know I'm, I'm a less angry, more balanced

Ian Dowsett:

person for the fact that I've been able to give that stuff to God.

Ian Dowsett:

See him work on me.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

No, that's a fair comment.

Matt Edmundson:

It's interesting isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

How um, uh, you know, when we, when we look at the, I have

Matt Edmundson:

this conversation quite a lot.

Matt Edmundson:

I dunno if you're like me digs where because my kids are of a certain age,

Matt Edmundson:

I'm very interested in the current culture that they're growing up in.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

And I'm, I'm very aware of the, the sort of the ideals of society and I'm

Matt Edmundson:

like, that's just weird, or that needs to change or that needs to change.

Matt Edmundson:

But quite often in the midst of that, as you are praying, God.

Matt Edmundson:

You know, sort it out.

Matt Edmundson:

He tends to focus on me first.

Matt Edmundson:

, Do you know what I mean?

Matt Edmundson:

It's like, and if I've never, I've never dared pray the Prayer, God,

Matt Edmundson:

you need to change Sharon, my wife, cuz she's just bang out of order.

Matt Edmundson:

Because I know as soon as those words come out of my mouth, God's just gonna, it's

Matt Edmundson:

almost like God's gonna slap me upside the head and go, Matt, dude, come on.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, hange starts with you.

Matt Edmundson:

Right?

Matt Edmundson:

And um, it's interesting isn't it, as listening to you talk, but

Matt Edmundson:

actually a lot of this stuff, uh, God deals with is with us first.

Matt Edmundson:

Right?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

No, it's good.

Ian Dowsett:

There's, there's a guy called Danny Silk who, who, um, is a church pastor

Ian Dowsett:

in the States, and he wrote a book about parenting, which I found really helpful.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm.

Ian Dowsett:

And it, he talked about, um, often as a dad, he'd be like, this big

Ian Dowsett:

yellow truck, you know, like, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, he'd come into the situation, he'd just roll over it, you know.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, and he'd, he'd, he'd try and ta take charge and like, you know, one

Ian Dowsett:

of those big, you know, massive wheel dumper trucks would sort of essentially

Ian Dowsett:

kind of come into the situation like that.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and, and I recognized, yeah, that was me quite often.

Ian Dowsett:

That was me.

Ian Dowsett:

That was what I was doing as dad, I would kind of come into the situation as

Ian Dowsett:

dad and sort of stomp all over the kid, not literally stomp all over the kid.

Ian Dowsett:

It's ok.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, but, but, um, but you know, I just take charge and, and actually I

Ian Dowsett:

realized that I actually had to start

Ian Dowsett:

treating my kids, listening to them, hearing them better, listening to what

Ian Dowsett:

they had to say, listening to their perspective that two of them had been

Ian Dowsett:

fighting, actually sitting down and really hearing what both of them had to say.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, and learning to, to not be that dumper truck thing.

Ian Dowsett:

And actually, as you say, learning that I had to actually kind of go, it's

Ian Dowsett:

not actually their stuff, the first thing I've gotta do is deal with how

Ian Dowsett:

I am responding to this situation.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Deal with my response.

Ian Dowsett:

Okay.

Ian Dowsett:

So I'm getting fed up that I can't read my newspaper or watch

Ian Dowsett:

TV because they're making noise.

Ian Dowsett:

They're kids, they're playing, they're having, you know, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

It's like, you know, they don't know that I've had a hard day.

Ian Dowsett:

They don't know that.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and it's kind of having to go, okay, Lord.

Ian Dowsett:

Alright.

Ian Dowsett:

That's, that's my stuff there.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and it's actually, it's incredible how their stuff seems more manageable

Ian Dowsett:

when you've dealt with your stuff.

Ian Dowsett:

their stuff more manageable when you've dealt with your stuff.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, totally.

Ian Dowsett:

Is, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Just in that place of you, you, you are more peaceful.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, you know, if they're, if they're sort of answering back

Ian Dowsett:

to you, it's less of an issue.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

When you are more at peace, it washes off you a bit more and you're able

Ian Dowsett:

just to deal with the actual problem.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, just ignore that sort of backchat.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, you know, and just get to the heart of it.

Matt Edmundson:

How have you found then, um, being both a parent

Matt Edmundson:

and a husband as a church leader?

Matt Edmundson:

Because it's, as a church leader, you are under a constant microscope, aren't you?

Matt Edmundson:

Everybody's watching how you do things.

Matt Edmundson:

So have you felt the pressure to try and be a, I dunno what the right word

Matt Edmundson:

to, to use is, but sort of be a better parent or a better husband than maybe.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, you would've felt had you not been a church leader because

Matt Edmundson:

you're not under that microscope.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

It's interesting.

Ian Dowsett:

There's been a few times when people have said things either said things directly

Ian Dowsett:

to our kids about their behavior and, uh, or I know an occasion said, you

Ian Dowsett:

should know better because you are the Vicar's kids, or something like that.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, and that's a required patience on my part to not snap,

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Punch 'em in the head.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, , but you actually, you know, I'll be honest, generally

Ian Dowsett:

the, the church we've been in has been a really gracious church generally.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

. So I would say not too much.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, I would say most of any, most of the pressure, most of the expectation

Ian Dowsett:

would probably be myself on myself.

Ian Dowsett:

Right.

Ian Dowsett:

Rather, rather than from other people, if I'm honest.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, um, it's been interesting recently, um, in the last couple of years, two of our

Ian Dowsett:

girls are no longer in the church that we worship at, they, they still love Jesus.

Ian Dowsett:

They still go to church, but, um, they've kind of come to us and said, um, you

Ian Dowsett:

know, this church that you are running, um, we, we don't wanna be here anymore.

Ian Dowsett:

uh, for various reasons, you know, and, and, and it was just more a case.

Ian Dowsett:

I think it's more of a case that they need to spread their

Ian Dowsett:

wings and do their own thing.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

and I get that.

Ian Dowsett:

And, you know, I think we could have.

Ian Dowsett:

We could have said, oh, well what will people think about us?

Ian Dowsett:

You know, will they think, oh, we've failed with our kids cuz they're,

Ian Dowsett:

they're not coming to our church.

Ian Dowsett:

Our church not good enough?

Ian Dowsett:

If your children aren't coming here, why should I send my children here?

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

. Um, and I think we've just gone like, you know, this is

Ian Dowsett:

what our children need for now.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

This know, they're, they're all over, over 16 when they did it, it wasn't,

Ian Dowsett:

you know, um, but it's been fine.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and they actually, what I've seen is, They're, they're,

Ian Dowsett:

they're, they're much more mature.

Ian Dowsett:

They're, they're much more excited and engaged in life.

Ian Dowsett:

Hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, they've got to know new people.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

They're more rounded for it.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, so I, we, and we've lost nothing from it.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, so, yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

And actually they've gained, cuz obviously I know your daughters and

Matt Edmundson:

you kind of go, well, they've got, they've got actually quite wonderful

Matt Edmundson:

relationships with God themselves, and they're not on mum and dad's faith.

Matt Edmundson:

Right.

Matt Edmundson:

They're, um, they're, they're, they're very much, no, this

Matt Edmundson:

is my journey, my story now.

Matt Edmundson:

And that's quite wonderful to see because I think it's easy to, to

Matt Edmundson:

sort of just drift along, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

And they've not done that, so hats off to them, you know?

Matt Edmundson:

And I think it's funny watching my own kids, um, I just, it.

Matt Edmundson:

the sort of, the two boys have gone off to Uni and you kind of think, you look

Matt Edmundson:

at the fact that they've got involved in church, they've got involved in the CU,

Matt Edmundson:

they're different churches, different, and it's actually been really good for them.

Matt Edmundson:

You know, they're figuring it out for themselves and I, I quite

Matt Edmundson:

enjoy watching that You know.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Really enjoy watching that.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, Let me just come back to it.

Matt Edmundson:

I, I, I always write notes, mate, whenever I'm doing interviews and I,

Matt Edmundson:

I wrote down the word letter and I circled it and I just want to come

Matt Edmundson:

back to a point you mentioned earlier about how someone wrote you a letter

Matt Edmundson:

saying how their life had changed, um, because they met Christ through you.

Matt Edmundson:

Right?

Matt Edmundson:

If you are listening to this podcast or if you're watching it on YouTube,

Matt Edmundson:

uh, and you are part of a church, can I encourage you to write to your dear

Matt Edmundson:

church leaders and just say thanks, um, because that simple act, I mean,

Matt Edmundson:

you talk about it with a smile on your face and you know, and it, it's one of

Matt Edmundson:

those things where I think it makes a big difference, right to church leaders,

Matt Edmundson:

just the encouragement from people who are just heartfelt in their thanks.

Ian Dowsett:

I, I still re, I still remember the day as a teacher, uh, when

Ian Dowsett:

one of the other teachers said something complimentary to me, , uh, you know,

Ian Dowsett:

and it was like okay, that's good.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, it's like, you know, we, the things that people say when they

Ian Dowsett:

say thank you or well done, you know, sadly, sometimes we can count on,

Ian Dowsett:

you know, maybe one, maybe two hands.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, but because we, we just sometimes don't do it enough.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

It's interesting.

Ian Dowsett:

We, we've just told our church that we are leaving, so we've just

Ian Dowsett:

had a whole lot of people saying, oh, we really gonna miss you.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, and they've said this, this, and this, and, and, And, and

Ian Dowsett:

like you say, it would, it'd be great sometimes if people didn't, we didn't

Ian Dowsett:

have to go for people to say that.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

To be fair you know, some of them have said it through the years as well.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

But, but yeah, absolutely.

Ian Dowsett:

Bless, bless.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, and it, it's not, it's not just true of church leaders, I'd say,

Ian Dowsett:

but anybody in your workplaces learn.

Ian Dowsett:

Learn to learn to praise.

Ian Dowsett:

Learn to thank people.

Ian Dowsett:

Learn to encourage, uh, and speak out.

Ian Dowsett:

Don't wait until people die to say nice things about them.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, no, super true.

Matt Edmundson:

Because as, I mean, I telling you before we hit record, I, I

Matt Edmundson:

was at a funeral this afternoon.

Matt Edmundson:

Mm-hmm.

Matt Edmundson:

, uh, and, um, I came away from the funeral thinking, oh, the person

Matt Edmundson:

that had passed away, she was young and yeah, beautiful lady.

Matt Edmundson:

I've known her for a few years.

Matt Edmundson:

Had the most amazing smile.

Matt Edmundson:

But because of the way Covid was, I'd not really seen her for a few years.

Matt Edmundson:

And I came away thinking, I wished I'd called up with her a little bit, you

Matt Edmundson:

know, um, before she'd passed away.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, . And I think it, you, you're right, you can, you think of

Matt Edmundson:

these things too late, don't you?

Matt Edmundson:

Quite often.

Matt Edmundson:

And actually, um, if I think, you know, there are people that are important

Matt Edmundson:

in your life, just say thank you.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, just appreciate what they do.

Matt Edmundson:

Really, really helpful.

Matt Edmundson:

No, very good.

Matt Edmundson:

Okay, mate.

Matt Edmundson:

So we've got to that part of the show where I say to you, right,

Matt Edmundson:

um, what is your one message.

Matt Edmundson:

Like I know you, you preach a lot, right?

Matt Edmundson:

You're, you're a church leader, but if you just had one message, which you could

Matt Edmundson:

give, and the reality of it probably is like me, you've got one message which

Matt Edmundson:

you keep coming back to all the time anyway, regardless of what the topic is.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, what would that be?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, I think for me it comes back to a verse in the Bible, which is Proverbs

Ian Dowsett:

three verse five and six, which says trust in the Lord with all your heart.

Ian Dowsett:

Lean not on your own understanding, but in all your ways, acknowledge him.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

He will make your paths straight.

Ian Dowsett:

And for me, I the, I think the first time I really remember that verse was

Ian Dowsett:

a number of people gave it to me when I went traveling around the world.

Ian Dowsett:

And I totally saw that to be true as I travel around the world.

Ian Dowsett:

In fact, actually funny enough, I found an old document I came across

Ian Dowsett:

with, this is 20 things that already in about two months God had done for me.

Ian Dowsett:

In that time of traveling around the world and, and just by depending

Ian Dowsett:

on him, uh, and just trusting him.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

He helps us through life and he makes, as it were, our paths straight

Ian Dowsett:

sometimes when we don't even see where there's gonna be a path.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

For me, that's my message is, Ian, stop trying to do it on your own.

Ian Dowsett:

Stop trying to be a proud person to do it your own strength.

Ian Dowsett:

Remember there's somebody alongside somebody who, um, who

Ian Dowsett:

can help you, somebody who can do it so much better than you can.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, so why don't you just, uh, ask for his help mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, uh, and get on board with his program rather than trying to run things your way.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and that would be my sense is, you know, if you want a life which is

Ian Dowsett:

really rich, if you want a life which is really fulfilled, then stop trying

Ian Dowsett:

to do it your way and start doing Jesus' way because it's so much richer, so

Ian Dowsett:

much better, so much more, um, yeah, fulfilling and life-giving and full of

Ian Dowsett:

joy and peace, uh, if you do it his way.

Ian Dowsett:

So I, and I constantly say that on, on the days where I kind of

Ian Dowsett:

think, oh, I dunno what I'm gonna do today about this problem.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, suddenly the, I know that we've suddenly discovered that the

Ian Dowsett:

gas bill is triple at the church and how are we ever gonna pay for that?

Ian Dowsett:

And just, I just said to myself, you know, don't, don't go there, Ian.

Ian Dowsett:

Don't try and do it.

Ian Dowsett:

Figure it out on your own.

Ian Dowsett:

Go to him first and seek his counsel.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Trust in the Lord.

Matt Edmundson:

I, the, the, the husband of the lady that passed away said at the funeral,

Matt Edmundson:

uh, he said, um, in his talk that when she found out That she had cancer

Matt Edmundson:

cuz she passed away from cancer.

Matt Edmundson:

When she found out she had cancer.

Matt Edmundson:

The, when she was first given the diagnosis, the two, the first two words

Matt Edmundson:

out of her mouth were, let's pray.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, and I think as I'm listening to you talking about trust in the

Matt Edmundson:

Lord, I'm remembering that story and it's like, we've got this news.

Matt Edmundson:

It's not good.

Matt Edmundson:

Going back to the, nothing is ever wasted with God.

Matt Edmundson:

Let's pray.

Matt Edmundson:

Let's trust that God somehow in the middle of all of this, can turn

Matt Edmundson:

things around and do something quite extraordinary, uh, with what's going on.

Matt Edmundson:

That's awesome, man.

Matt Edmundson:

That's awesome.

Matt Edmundson:

So let me ask you my Oscar's question, uh, because I like my Oscar's question

Matt Edmundson:

and I'm asking everybody, uh, just cuz I can, um, so , you're at the Oscars, right?

Matt Edmundson:

You've won an Oscar, a Lifetime Achievement award

Matt Edmundson:

for, uh, digger Dowsett here.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, uh, Digger, by the way, is our nickname for Ian.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, so if you, uh, if you get to know him, just start calling him Digger.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, if you following on the podcast, um, so you get this

Matt Edmundson:

lifetime achievement award, right?

Matt Edmundson:

And you stand up at the awards ceremony and everyone's going crazy.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, And you unfurl a piece of paper, uh, and you start off with this statement,

Matt Edmundson:

I would just like to thank dot, dot, dot, um, whether it's a, a preacher, a

Matt Edmundson:

parent, family member, whoever, who's on your list of people that you, that you

Matt Edmundson:

want to thank for Dowsett Ian Reverend?

Ian Dowsett:

We've got another hour.

Ian Dowsett:

Is that right?

Matt Edmundson:

To be fair, I'm looking at your video feed right

Matt Edmundson:

and it's getting darker and darker and there, that's much better.

Matt Edmundson:

So if you're watching the YouTube video, must he's talking to himself

Matt Edmundson:

as his voice coming from somewhere.

Matt Edmundson:

We don't know, but there he is.

Matt Edmundson:

There's Ian.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, so yeah, go for it.

Matt Edmundson:

Who you're?

Matt Edmundson:

Who are you thanking bud?

Ian Dowsett:

Oh gosh.

Ian Dowsett:

Well, I, I think I, I would definitely start with the person who's helped

Ian Dowsett:

me learn more about myself than anybody else, uh, which is my wife.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, so Ruth would be the first, the first thank you would say to

Ian Dowsett:

my wife, she's been fantastic.

Ian Dowsett:

She, she's put up with me.

Ian Dowsett:

I think that's, that's the most amazing thing I can say about her.

Ian Dowsett:

But I just, I love doing life with her.

Ian Dowsett:

And, and you know, one of the great things has been we do, we do a lot together.

Ian Dowsett:

Actually.

Ian Dowsett:

We are, we are not one of those, you know, You know, we are, we love the fact

Ian Dowsett:

that we, we like doing stuff together.

Ian Dowsett:

We, we like working together and, you know, we are not the same.

Ian Dowsett:

We compliment each other.

Ian Dowsett:

There's some things that we liked that is the same and, and other things that

Ian Dowsett:

aren't, but we compliment each other.

Ian Dowsett:

Well, yeah, I'm, I'm super grateful to, yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

For her, I think I'd be re I'd say definitely my parents,

Ian Dowsett:

they, they were the ones.

Ian Dowsett:

Ultimately who started me on my faith journey.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, because they, they too love Jesus and they've always modeled that.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, I know that when it comes the my parents' funeral, there'll

Ian Dowsett:

be so many people who have said, these people touched my life.

Ian Dowsett:

And I would certainly be one of them and say that, you know, they gave me life.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, but also they, they, they showed me so many great

Ian Dowsett:

characteristics about life as well.

Ian Dowsett:

So they're, yeah, they're fantastic people and

Matt Edmundson:

they are absolute legends.

Matt Edmundson:

And, um, I mean, for many years we'd, we'd power around your house on New

Matt Edmundson:

Year's Eve, uh, take over the house, uh, as we, as our friendships grew and,

Matt Edmundson:

uh, we, we all got married and they were so gracious and, and wonderful and it

Matt Edmundson:

was, we always look forward to seeing Pete and Mary every, every New Year's,

Matt Edmundson:

you know, and it was just fantastic.

Matt Edmundson:

And, um, I remember early on in our marriage, Sharon had a few questions.

Matt Edmundson:

, uh, about a few things and she's like, I'm just gonna call Mary.

Matt Edmundson:

I said, I'm just gonna call Mary.

Matt Edmundson:

I'm just going, I'm gonna do, and she ends up speaking to your mum

Matt Edmundson:

and go, what do you think about that I was like, thanks very much.

Matt Edmundson:

I appreciate that.

Matt Edmundson:

And so, no, your parents are legends, absolute legends.

Ian Dowsett:

Brilliant.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, no, they're great.

Ian Dowsett:

I think one of the other guys who I would, I mean there's many people

Ian Dowsett:

who, who helped me through my early years, but I think one of the guys

Ian Dowsett:

who's been uh, absolutely fantastic is.

Ian Dowsett:

Lees is a guy who was a, he was a curator at our church when I was growing up.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, but I've stayed in touch with him for ye for years now.

Ian Dowsett:

We're still in touch at the moment.

Ian Dowsett:

Uh, and, and it's been great because actually our relationship has changed.

Ian Dowsett:

It's changed from sort of, I suppose, sort of the person I sort

Ian Dowsett:

of look up to more now to being more of a big brother type figure.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, and you know, Yeah, he was, he was the, the person I, I, I said earlier about

Ian Dowsett:

really was moving on in freedom himself and, and helped me move on in that.

Ian Dowsett:

I'm super grateful that, uh, I was around when that happened

Ian Dowsett:

for him and in order that I could kind of follow along and yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Catch up and learn stuff from him.

Ian Dowsett:

And he, he's always been super generous, super vulnerable.

Ian Dowsett:

Mm-hmm.

Ian Dowsett:

, no, that's, that's part of it.

Ian Dowsett:

He, he would, he'd set, share the bad stuff that was going on for him in order

Ian Dowsett:

that I could learn from that, uh, you know, he'd be really honest with me about

Ian Dowsett:

some of his failings in order that Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

You know, that I, he, he was a real person, you know?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

And it's like, I, I, I think that, , you know, but I look at you Stuart, and you,

Ian Dowsett:

you seem like you've got it all together.

Ian Dowsett:

And then he'd, he'd tell you something about his inner story and he'd kind of,

Ian Dowsett:

I'd be like, yeah, but that's how I feel.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

I, I don't, and, and so just the fact that someone would be vulnerable with

Ian Dowsett:

you, uh, that just is so precious.

Ian Dowsett:

Um, so I'm so grateful to, to, to him for, for that vulnerability and just,

Ian Dowsett:

uh, journeying with me for so long.

Ian Dowsett:

And occasionally managing me too.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, it's funny, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

That whole, um, mentor thing, uh, was a word you used earlier.

Matt Edmundson:

That whole, someone doing life with you who's probably just a little bit

Matt Edmundson:

further on, we sometimes throw around this phrase, discipleship in church.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, but it's that whole kind of thing, isn't it?

Matt Edmundson:

Just doing life with people.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, and I'm.

Matt Edmundson:

I, I'm very aware of people that have done that with me.

Matt Edmundson:

You know, I think about Dave Connolly and um, and you just kind of think, oh,

Matt Edmundson:

I'm so grateful for these people who were vulnerable, willing to share, encourage me

Matt Edmundson:

when I needed encouraging, punch me in the head when I needed punching in the head

Matt Edmundson:

Do you know what I mean?

Matt Edmundson:

They're just awesome, awesome people.

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And it's one of the things that I love about the church

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is this, we're not perfect.

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Like you say, we are a bit hypocritical on occasions.

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But there is a genuine desire to see God's kingdom come.

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Uh, and when you find somebody with that kind of heart, man,

Matt Edmundson:

your life changes, doesn't it?

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Ian Dowsett:

I mean, I think you know that that's it, isn't it?

Ian Dowsett:

We we're not perfect people.

Ian Dowsett:

But if we're trying to change, uh, then that's, that's an important thing.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah, definitely.

Ian Dowsett:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, totally.

Matt Edmundson:

So digs, you're a legend.

Matt Edmundson:

Legend.

Matt Edmundson:

Thanks for being my mate all these years.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, I still remember when we first met at uni, uh, and started

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getting together in, in halls.

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I was a very new Christian at this point in time and, and you and

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Dan Pryor and people like that totally encouraged me in my faith.

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And so whilst mentors are good, good mates are good too.

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Uh, and, um, I'm super lucky that we.

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Say again.

Ian Dowsett:

I forgot to mention you as one of the people.

Matt Edmundson:

I don't think you forgot at all.

Matt Edmundson:

That's way down the list.

Matt Edmundson:

That's fine.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, but, that's awesome.

Ian Dowsett:

Well now I'll not be broadcast.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

We'll just edit that bit out.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, totally.

Matt Edmundson:

So, Uh, if you would like to get a hold of Ian, if you'd like to connect with

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him, find out more about what he is doing, then you can reach Ian through the

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Crowd Church website, www.crowd.church.

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Or you can go to the What's the Story website, which

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is whatsthestorypodcast.com, which I is exactly the same.

Matt Edmundson:

You'll think, oh, this all looks awful lot like the Crowd Church website.

Matt Edmundson:

Did they go the same place?

Matt Edmundson:

Its just what it is.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, but digger.

Matt Edmundson:

You're a legend, man.

Matt Edmundson:

Love the bones off you.

Matt Edmundson:

Thank you so much for joining me on the podcast.

Matt Edmundson:

Time has gone by so quickly.

Matt Edmundson:

We might have to do this again, part two.

Matt Edmundson:

Yeah, that'll be follow up.

Matt Edmundson:

Um, yeah, you're a legend, you and Ruth.

Matt Edmundson:

Awesome, awesome people Love you Loads.

Matt Edmundson:

Thanks for being on the show, man.

Ian Dowsett:

Well mate, lovely to be with you.

Matt Edmundson:

We will of course, link to Ian in the show notes.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, if you wanna get hold of him, like I say through the Crowd Church stuff, uh,

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it's all on the website along with the transcripts and all that sort of stuff.

Matt Edmundson:

And of course, if you'll sign up to the newsletter, that all comes

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straight to your inbox automatically.

Matt Edmundson:

So there you have it.

Matt Edmundson:

What a phenomenal conversation with my very good mate.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, thanks again to Ian for joining me.

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Remember to check out Crowd Online Church.

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www.crowd.church is the website.

Matt Edmundson:

Even if you don't see the point of church.

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We are an online church on a quest to discover how Jesus helps

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us live this more meaningful life that Ian was talking about.

Matt Edmundson:

We are a community, a space to explore the Christian faith and a place

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where you can contribute and grow.

Matt Edmundson:

And you are welcome at Crowd Church.

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Be sure to subscribe to what's the story wherever you get your podcast

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from, because we've got some more great episodes lined up and I

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don't want you to miss any of them.

Matt Edmundson:

And in case no one has told you yet today, You are awesome.

Matt Edmundson:

Yes, you are.

Matt Edmundson:

You are created awesome.

Matt Edmundson:

And it is a burden you just have to bear.

Matt Edmundson:

That's the way it goes.

Matt Edmundson:

Uh, what's the story is produced by Crowd Online Church.

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You can find our entire archive of episodes on your favorite podcast app.

Matt Edmundson:

The team that makes this show possible is Sadaf Beynon, Josh Catchpole,

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Estella Robin and Tim Johnson.

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Our theme song is written by Josh Edmundson, and if you'd like to

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read the transcript or show notes.

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As I said, head over to the website whatsthestorypodcast.com

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and sign up to them weekly newsletter, while you are there.

Matt Edmundson:

That's it from me.

Matt Edmundson:

Thank you so much for joining us.

Matt Edmundson:

Have a fantastic week.

Matt Edmundson:

I will see you next time.

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