How To Stop The Cycle of Fighting In a Relationship

Is marital conflict normal? How about natural? Could it even be necessary? Sharla and Robert are here to prove to you that it's a resounding 'yes' to all three questions – and that after this episode, you'll never look at conflict the same way again.

Robert has a sexy radio voice from a late flight and he's also brought back with him a 30,000 feet-high point of view with regard to respecting the differences he and Sharla share on raising their son.

Sharla is boots on the ground (not shoveling snow), and together, this masterful couple is helping the rest of us master our marriage by talking about that one conflict that just won't go away. And the good news is we don't have to solve every problem in our marriage.

The aerial view from the plane is that we start by acknowledging what we do have in common as a couple (wanting to raise a child who responds and acts from a place of love, for example) and then find compromise, seek empathy, and open the door to healthy dialogue. This way, we learn to manage our perpetual problems, not solve them.

Robert and Sharla teach us that we shouldn't define a marriage by one set of values alone. Considering that no two people are going to see the world the exact same way anyway, let us learn to suspend judgment, lead with curiosity, and honor both sets of dreams that we have as a couple.

The beauty of conflict is that we can learn to become more open-minded about seeing the world through our partner's eyes. Even if only one of us is flying at 30,000 feet.

"How you disagree is what can make (or break) your relationship." ~ Robert Snow

In This Episode:

- Robert and Sharla discuss their differences of opinions with regard to raising their son

- Roughly 7 out of 10 disagreements in a relationship are perpetual

- Why do we disagree? Finding compromise, seeking empathy.

- How much information can our conscious mind actually process?

- How your individual upbringing has shaped the way you see the world

- Keeping the door to dialogue open – avoiding gridlock

- What is the deeply held belief or core value that is at stake?

- Four steps you can take to start working toward compromise!

And so much more!

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