Find out exactly how to manage distractions, what impacts high vs low engagement, how emotions play a role, why determining your values is key and the importance of asking quality questions to increase your engagement, enthusiasm and productivity in any area of life.

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Welcome everyone. My name is Emile van Biljon.

I'm part of the team here at the Demartini Institute.

It's inspiring to bring you Dr. Demartini live today.

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from all over the world.

The topic for today we're going to discuss is managing or manage distractions

and increase your engagements.

These were questions or this was the main topic we got from the questions

engagement we did with Dr. Demartini. Dr. Demartini, are you there? Great. So

the first one Dr. Demartini

or what are the factors that drive high versus low engagement when it

comes to kids or staff or ourselves?

Well engagement, hi everybody.

Engagement is being

present and inspired to participate

in what's whatever's going on or whatever the responsibilities you have in life.

So engagement at work could be being present and productive at

work,

engagement at school could be present and productive at school,

in a relationship you could have engagement in relationship

inspired by being with that person.

So engagement can be in any of the seven areas of life, but engagement is

a perception that

whatever is happening or you're doing,

through your sensory perceptions or your actions,

is helping you fulfill what's most deeply meaningful and most,

most important what's highest priority, what's highest and value in your life.

So to increase engagement in an individual,

one of the greatest questions that an individual

can do is ask,

'How specifically is what I'm perceiving or learning or taking

in', in my senses,

or 'how specifically is what I'm doing with my motor

actions, attentions, or intentions, how specifically is doing that,

helping me fulfill what is most deeply meaningful

to me, what is what's most priority to me, what's most highest value to me.

If one can ask that question, answewr that question,

hold yourself to that question and make a link.

The more links you make in your brain, neurologically, plastically,

you become engaged.

So I think everybody has had a situation where they've read a book

and they've just been engaged in the book and they didn't want to put it down.

And other times they've read a book and that just put them to sleep and they and

they just, they just couldn't,

it just would fade and they just wouldn't remember what they were doing.

One was engaged. One of them was disengaged. The same thing in a movie.

You could be in totally engaged in a movie and won't miss a thing of it,

but at the same time, another movie, you could just be faded out in seconds.

So anything that grabs your attention like that that's engaging is because you

perceive it helping you fulfill what's meaningful to you.

So by asking the question,

'How specifically is whatever's happening helped you fulfill what's most deeply

meaningful?'. Of course you need to know what's really priority to you.

A lot of times,

people haven't really narrowed that down and they haven't taken the time to do a

value determination, for instance,

to find out what really is their life is demonstrating is important to them.

And they think something's valuable to them, but then when they do it, it isn't,

they're not engaged because what they're actually thinking is important isn't

what's really important. And that happens a lot. I've asked people about,

how many want to be financially independent and

but actually how many people want to be financially independent is very low.

They want to spend money on lifestyle and not buy assets that accumulate

wealth, for instance. So what they think is important, financial independence

isn't what it is,

it's about spending money when consumerism and buying things for immediate

gratification So whatever's highest on one's value,

if you can link whatever you're perceiving and doing to that, you're engaged.

We've had people at work who were not inspired by their job.

And we've asked them a simple question.

So let's take the job responsibilities that you have,

the individual actions you do in a day and itemize them down. Not broad,

vague generalities, like accounting, but the specific actions.

And 'how specifically is doing that, helping you fulfill what you value most?',

after we've defined what the values are. And at first they go, 'It's not', well,

then they're going to be disengaged. If they can't see,

a child who's not inspired at school is because they can't see

how that class is going to help them do what they want to do. They love,

children, love learning, they just want to learn what's important to them,

but if they don't see how that's going to be important to them,

they're not going to engage.

I personally think that it's a responsibility of every teacher to

share, identify what the values of their students are,

and then share how that class is going to help them fulfill their values,

so they're engaged. I think it'd just be a standard procedure.

And if they do that makes a difference,,

we've made a big difference in education by doing that.

So identifying what it is thatt's

really valuable to you,

identifying how specifically some job action is helping you do it.

If they answer that question and make links, keep making links,

the more links they make, the more engaged they become.

I can take a person who's not inspired at work and who

is distracted, not focused, wanting to take breaks, wanting to eat,

wanting to consume, go on the internet, whatever,

and sit down and ask them that question.

'How specifically is doing THIS job duty, and these series of responsibilities,

are going to help you fulfill what's really meaningful to you?' And in a matter

of minutes to hours, if I make, the more links I make,

the more engaged they become and their focus, their productivity,

their creativity, their willingness to endure challenge,

their resilience their innovation all go up. It's really so simple,

it's being overlooked. It's just mind boggling how simple it is,

but it's the taking the time to do it.

And most people would rather bitch and be frustrated and disengaged than

just simply do the things that actually make it work.

So it doesn't matter what it is,

it really doesn't matter what's happening around you.

You can take whatever's happening around you and even whatever you're doing,

t doesn't matter,

'How does this help you fulfill your highest values?' The more links you make,

the more engaged you become.

And Dr. Demartini can you just quickly briefly walk us through just the steps of

the value determination that you've got in terms of just to see how somebody can

get to their engagement?

Well, if you ask somebody about what their values are most

people unknowingly are, because

they've been raised by mothers, fathers, preachers, teachers,

and because they've been, inculcating,

the mores, traditions,

conventions of peer groups of different scaled sizes,

they have been injecting the values of those that

are leaders in society's ideals.

And they confuse what is really important to

them, individualistically, compared to what they think it should be.

Whenever you hear yourself saying, 'I should do this',

'I ought to be doing this', 'I need to do this', 'I gotta do this',

'I have to do this', 'I must do this,' 'I have to do this',

that's an imperative, deontological duty that you feel

you're going to do.

You're living by 'ought to's' instead of what you would really

'love to's'. And most people don't even know what their values are.

And I've asked gosh,

tens of thousands of people over the years to define and write,

what they think their values are. And then I do a more objective evaluation,

and it's not the same, what they write are ideals,

you know, honesty, integrity, peace, and all this other stuff.

It's just bullshit,

instead of what their life is actually demonstrating as important to them.

So I had to develop, as a result of that,

a series of value determinants that gave at least

a little bit more objective view based on what their life is actually

demonstrating. Because if you go by what they say,

they'll give you an idealism or they'll give you an injected value by outside

authorities. And that starts at a young age, for instance, it starts at age one,

the second you stand up and start to walk around and everything else,

you got to baby proof the house, your mom starts saying, no, yes, no, no, no.

Yes, yes.

And they start inculcating as a result of dependency on the mother,

the values of the mother.

And so now there's a conflict between their own values and the mother's values.

And we've called that socialization,

we've called that how to fit in and conform to society.

But that's great if you want to conform,

but society doesn't evolve by conformists.

It evolves by individuals that are innovative,

that are willing to possibly be ridiculed for having new ideas.

So most people conform,

99% of the population conform,

and you have varying degrees of injected values instead of their own true

life demonstrating values.

So I had to go through there and identify something that would indicate what

their life is demonstrating, not what they think it should be.

And I look at how they fill their space because even a

baby in a little, a baby crib or bed, will,

if you toss something into the baby crib the playpen or whatever, it will,

if it's something that it wants,

that's really valuable to it'll stick in its mouth and it hold onto it and look

at it and observe it and explore it and keep it close to it,

to the baby. But if it's something that it doesn't want,

and it has no value on it, it will kick it out, throw scream, cry, push it away.

Because anything that is close to us, that's proximal to us is valuable.

Anything that we push away and don't want around our space is obviously less

valuable. And so the,

what is measured in our intimate and personal space,

our foot and a half to four feet around us has a lot to do with what we value.

So on the first value determinant is, 'What do we fill our space with,

our intimate space and personal space?' What are the three highest priority

items that most consistently we have around us?

It could be our cell phone. It could be our computer. It could be our children.

It could be technology. It could be food, clothes,

it depends on what we value.

My daughter is involved in fashion,

so around her were fashion items and clothes and things,

so that was, she was looking at creative ideas. Myself,

it was books for many years, and now it's a computer, really?

So if you look at what a person's space is

filled with, it tells you what they value. The second one is time. You know,

if you look carefully at what you spend your time on, you make time, find time,

spend time on things that are really valuable to you. You run out of time,

don't want to spend time and can't find time for things aren't,

and you may have a moment to moment variation based on the urgencies,

but overall, the scheme of your life is demonstrating this.

So you look at how you fill your space and how you spend your time.

Those are two really great indicators of what's really valuable to you,

because if you say, 'I want to be financially independent',

but your life doesn't demonstrate that you're accumulating wealth and there's no

demonstration of working and investing in money and stuff like that,

then it's just a fantasy.

The third thing is 'What energizes you?' When you're really around something

that's valuable to you, your energy goes up. And when you're not,

your energy goes down. So you look at what energizes you most.

You know, I love, I always have energy for doing presentations and educating,

and also my research, but I don't have energy, or patience you might say,

a lot of energy for going to a cooking class for instance or a driving class.

Or going to a car show or something. That means nothing to me. So I would have,

I'd be bored with that.

So you look at where you're energized and where you're not, and that energy,

what grows your energy, and you always have energy for it.

You're energized by doing it. And you can wake up and you're animated.

Your reticular activating system is alive when you're doing it.

That's an indication of what you value.

The next one is what you spend your money on and find money for.

You'll find money, you'll make money,

you'll spend money on things that are valuable.

And you won't want to spend money on something that's devalued.

Who wants to spend money on something that they don't think there's a value.

They don't want to exchange that way.

So look at where you spend your money and it tells you what you value.

When I was in my twenties, I was buying 40 to 70 books a week on average.

And so I obviously had a value on learning and books and was reading

voluminously books. Later on in my life. It was different things,

but right now it's investments and education and getting messages out

to the world. So you look at what you were spending your money on.

The fourth, fifth thing, pardon me, is where are you most organized and ordered?

Because things that are not really important to you,

you don't put order to them,

it's chaotic and etcetera but where your highest order is?

My highest order is the knowledge that I've accumulated.

My research is organized. My traveling is organized. My speaking is organized.

So I look at where I'm most organized, and that's what you value.

And if you say, 'Well, I'm not organized,' you are,

you're not paying attention to it,

and if you think you're not organized it's because you're comparing yourself to

other people and you're expecting to be organized in something that's not really

important to you, but you think it is because you've injected that value.

And that's confusing. So people are 'not organized', yes, you are.

You're organizing what's valuable to you. I've been doing it a long time.

I guarantee you it's true. The next one is,

'Where are you most disciplined and reliable?'.

You can count on me to be researching every day you can count on me to be

looking up articles.

You can count on me to be updating and writing in my manuals for seminars.

You can count on me for up until recently, traveling.

So whatever's highest on your value you're extremely disciplined in and

you spontaneously do things and that tells you what you value.

The next three are, 'What do you think about,

what do you visualize and what do you internally dialogue with

yourself about most, about how you would love your life to be,

that shows evidence of coming true. And you take each one of those and your top,

write down the top three answers to each, one after another,

and they may be slightly different answers,

but there will probably be a scheme there, a theme there, it will be reiterated,

but what is it you think about, visualize and affirm,

about how you would love your life?

And make sure it's how you would love your life, not how you don't want it.

And make sure there's evidence that you're making progress on it.

If there's no evidence, don't write it down because that's a whim or a fantasy.

I need to know what is the evidence.

I have evidence that I wanted to travel the world teach.

I don't have evidence of other things that I fantasize about that don't show up.

Don't write down things that aren't showing any evidence, write down what is.

And you'll see a pattern. I guarantee there will be a pattern there.

The next one is, what do you want to converse with other people about most?

And what do you keep engaging in conversations with people? If you do,

you start to be extroverted and talk and you tend to be engaged and listening,

that tells you what you value.

The next one is 'What is inspiring to you,

and what's consistent to the people who inspire you?' If I look at who've

inspired me, it's been the great Nobel prize winners and all their works,

all the great philosophers and thinkers,

all the leaders in various fields that were innovative,

that created a new form or 'the father of this', 'the mother of this',

'the originator of this' - anybody who's creative and original in their ideas.

I've been inspired to read and study their biographies.

So look at what is inspiring to you and people,

and what is the things that you do that bring tears to your eyes.

Every moment you actually get a teary eye from anything,

listening to music or going to a movie or whatever, and you get a tear,

write down what it was that was in your mind at the moment of the tear and

document the inspirations because they're guides.

The next one is what are the three most consistent things that you,

three most consistent,

persistent goals you have about what you want to create in your life that you're

showing evidence of coming true?

What are the goals that are actually coming true? You know,

I had desire to travel world,

I had a desire to gather a vast amount of information and share it.

They are coming true.

There's other things that I thought were whims that I wanted to do,

but never got around to doing them.

Those eventually fade out and you realize that they're just whims,

they're not real.

You gotta look at what your life is really demonstrating to know what's really

important to you. And the last one is what do you love studying about,

reading about, learning about, listening to about, most,

that you just spontaneously want to learn,

because you want to learn what's important to you. You don't want

to learn things that aren't, you want to fill your mind with what's important.

But what's interesting. So,

what's interesting is that if you answer all 13 of those questions and

answer it with integrity and not write down what you fantasize or what you wish

it would be or hope it would be what it used to be, but what it is now,

and recently, and most consistently,

if you do and answer three answers each,

it'll summarize and you'll look at which of those answers are repeated

most, second most, third most, fourth most,

and you'll have three to five answers that will be the top three values in your

life. And if you look at that, you'll,

get a sensor and it'll be obvious and you'll see your identity revolves around

it. You'll see that the thing you love learning, it revolves around it.

You'll see that that's where you're most disciplined.

You'll see your identity as I said, revolves, you'll see that you're actually,

there you have an engagement,

but by identifying through the value determination process,

the 13 value determinants that I created,

it increases the probability of being clear about what it is.

And if you link what you perceive, what you decide,

what you act on to that you're going to be engaged.

There's absolutely no reason why we can't be engaged. I tell people,

either go do what you love through delegating.

Or go love what you do through linking.

And engaging is about linking whatever you're doing, whatever you're perceiving,

to whatever's highest on your values, so you start to see things on the way,

not in the way. And you see things as feedback, not frustration or failure.

A lot of people feel,

I had a woman who was in a marriage and the marriage broke apart

and she was beating herself up because she felt that she did things to undermine

the marriage. She had a fantasy that it was supposed to be forever.

And so then she failed and labeled herself a failure.

She actually went around and said,

'I failed my marriage.' I' had a failed marriage.' And I asked her a

simple question.

'What specifically are you defining as a failed marriage?' And she wrote them

all down. I said,

'How is each one of those helping you fulfill what's highest on your value?' We

first determined her values by doing the value determination.

And I just asked that question.

And in two hours, yes,

it took two hours to me about 40 minutes or so to get the values out of her.

And then it took another hour and 20 minutes to make the links.

And when I got through, she goes, 'I didn't have a failed marriage.' I said,

'No, you had a clarity about what your real values are.

You realize that you had a higher value on your children and on your career than

on your husband.

He went off with somebody else because he wanted to get more appreciation.

And that's not a failure. It's just learning about who you are,

and that you wanted to have babies. And you used the man to get the babies.

And, and now,

and now you're seeing that it's actually helping you because that made you

become more independent, helped you build your career and not rely on a guy.

And when we started looking at what her values are,

it was actually in line with what she really wanted.

And she goes, 'I didn't. So the whole story about I failed,

it's not true.' I said, 'No, you were unconscious of what your values were.

And you were manifesting them unconsciously, and

And she goes, 'I did really.' I said, 'So don't be a failure, just thank him,

thank yourself, move forward.

We only perceive ourselves making mistakes when we compare our actions to

other people's values,

and we only perceive other people making mistakes when we compare their actions

to ours, but they live in their own values,

Eevery decision they make is based on what they believe will give them the

greatest advantage over disadvantage at that moment. And the same thing for us,

we make decisions based on what we think will give the greatest advantage over

disadvantage in our own values.

So anytime we expect ourselves to live outside our values and in somebody else's

values, we're going to perceive ourselves as making mistakes. But we don't.

We just think we did because we've compared it.

When we finally realize that we're making decisions based on our own values and

once we can get clear that whatever's happening in our life is helping us do

that, then we see things on the way, life is on the way, it's not in the way,

there's no mistakes and failures on there, it's just perception.

So if you want to be more engaged, you want to be more inspired,

identify what your values are and set sail as captain of your ship,

master of your fate in the direction of what you value most,

find out what's really,

truly highest on value and prioritize your daily life to fit that Delegate

the rest.

That means you will have the accountability of going

people that earns an income to be able to pay for the delegation,

or, take whatever you're doing, that may be a little lower on your values,

and link it to what is higher on your values,

so you can take all of those things and super-task them, not multitask them,

but super-task them, because once you see them on the way,

they're not in the way, and you're energized again,

and you're vital again, and you're engaged again.

I do both of those in the Breakthrough Experience.

I teach people how to do both of those mechanisms in the Breakthrough to expand

because it's a science and it,

because if you don't know how to, you have control over your perceptions,

decisions, and actions,

if you don't know how to take command of your perceptions and link whatever

happens in your life to what you value most,

you don't know how to take command of your actions and prioritize your actions

according to your highest values - you're not going to have a fulfilling and

inspired life, it's that simple. There's no rocket science here,

mastering those two things,

which I explain in the Breakthrough Experiences and show you what to do,

make you do It, are two extremely crucial actions to master your life.

And many people think they're victims of the world on the outside.

There's no victims in the world on the outside.

There's just people who have taken events and seen them in the way and

labeled them, and made them bad or good or whatever.

And didn't realize it had nothing to do with what happened out there,

it has everything to do with your perception.

You can see that an event in your life that starts out terrible, a day,

a week, a month, a year, five years later,

when you discover the links of how it's helped you in your life,

you're now going, 'Wow, thank God that occurred. I didn't see it,

but now I can see if it wasn't for that, I wouldn't be where I am'.

And the things you think are terrific. You think, 'Wow!'. And then you,

sometimes weeks, months or years later, you look back, 'Oh God, I was blind',

but it's all perception.

And if you can take whatever's happening and find out how it's fulfilling your

highest value, you're engaged and inspired and adaptable and resilient.

You're more objective. You're more expanded. You're more leader.

You're more innovative. There's just, you get the most self-actualizing results

by doing that. In the Breakthrough Experience,

I teach people how to take whatever they perceive and whatever they're doing and

how to link it or prioritize it so they can maximize

their potential in life. And it's, and it's amazing. It's really amazing.

And it's, it has nothing to do with what we perceived or did.

It's all about our mindset towards it.

And knowing how to do that is partly what the Breakthrough Experience is about.

Partly why I do that because I found for myself,

that's what allowed me to be resilient and move forward and accomplish more,

and it also allowed me to help other people do the same.

And there's no reason why you can't do that in life.

It's just a matter of taking the time and learning a few simple exercises and

steps, and then practicing them and making them part of your daily life.

Dr. Demartini. Another question I've got from one of the attendees is:

'I run my own business and I have a big team that always asks me for help.

I find that distracts me from being super focused on one task.' What

advice can you give to this attendee?

Well,

there's a number of possibilities here I can speculate cause without talking to

him I can guess. First of all,

you want to make sure that you don't

feed and thrive on being the solution for the

people's problems in the sense that sometimes

we say, 'this is distracting and bothering me', but at the same time, you go in,

engage, instead of them figuring things out themselves,

and answering questions themselves, they keep relying on you. So instead of,

they brain offload,

they don't want to take on the accountability and so you just solve it.

And then you're distracted,

cause you're now sort of of halfway delegating it and not really releasing

it. So, if the individual that you hire,

when you're hiring them is not seeing how the job description

that they have is going to help them fulfill what they value most,

they're not going to be engaged and when they're not engaged,

they don't want to solve problems,

hey'd rather offload them onto you. And then if you rescue them,

they're not going to ever do it themselves.

So this is why if you take the time to have them do a job description,

first identify their own top values and do a job description and link it to

their job description,

their job description to their highest values and get them more engaged.

The more engaged they are, the more they actually enjoy tackling problems,

coming up with solutions, innovating,

and the more freed you are to go on and do what you want.

So you want to make sure that you're not actually feeding their dependencies

by one, rescuing them, so they can't make a decision,

or judging their decisions and punishing them if they're not right,

so they don't want to make decisions and take on the answers.

Or you're not,

you're not showing them the resources where they can look up those answers and

you're answering it more than once instead of writing it down and giving it a

policy

so they know what the answers are, or you're not, you're just rescuing them.

And if you do, you're going to be distracted.

So you have to stick to your own priorities and then

own accountabilities. I remember many years ago when I was in practice,

we wanted,

the the staff was bitching because we'd go past six o'clock and they

wanted to go home at six because we worked from a certain time to six o'clock

and I said, 'Well, then finish out your paperwork.

'So we can't finish out the paperwork until you're through with the patients.' I

said, 'Okay, well then finish the paperwork before they go back,

take care of the transactions before they go back after 5:45,

anybody that comes in after 5:45, have them do the payments upfront,

everything else because, you know what the procedure's going to be,

cause it's already signed,

and do it all.' And and so what happened is they,

they came up with a solution and they figured out the solution and they did it

and they took it on and I made a suggestion, just do that in a simple way.

But they went on and figured out all the strategies and figured out and we're

out at six o'clock. And that means it didn't shortcut their services.

They didn't short cut their responsibilities.

They just figured out how to do it more efficiently because I didn't rescue

them. I gave them an idea, but they went out and figured it out.

And every time that you let them figure it out,

they become more confident to make decisions.

And eventually you want to be surrounded by people that can make decisions,

so you're not bombarded by decisions.

Otherwise you're creating a dependency on you and they're offloading their

decisions onto you.

And you're now distracting yourself from what are higher priority decisions,

higher priority actions.

So you have to stick to your own priorities if you want them to.

And you need to hire people that are engaged or you need to get them engaged

with a value determination process and the value linking process.

I have a Values Training program just for that for companies to help them do

that, to maximize productivity and profitability andthings of this nature,

but in the Breakthrough Experience,

I also show you the science of asking those questions and the

spillover,

If you've got kids that are having difficulty in school,

if you're having people at work that are unengaged,

you got people that are not connecting in their relationship,

you're disengaged in relationship.

You got kids that are not inspired by what they're doing in school or whatever.

I assure you, what I teach you in the Breakthrough Experience,

and also the linking process is a gold mine.

It can save you a lot of aggravation because for some bizarre reason,

nobody's taught this. I devoured the literature, it just isn't out there.

So I've introduced something that apparently is somewhat

because it's a major need and it works and it's reproducible,

but it hasn't been thought through. I think people are so used to thinking,

'Well here's the values, this is what you have to do,

and it's autocratic and that's what you have to live'.

And most people think that's what you're supposed to do.

They're so used to subordinating to outside authority they never think about

their own values.

And they don't ever think about how they could take whatever's happened to them

and link it. So when I've introduced that it's novel,

and it's spreading and it's helping companies and individuals and families and

people at school and educational systems and guidance counseling systems,

it's spreading.

So I'm absolutely certain that you can take the

people at work, get them more engaged. They'll take on more responsibilities.

Don't rescue them, ask them what is their decision.

And if they say the right decision, say great, that's exactly what I do.

Trust yourself, and go make decisions and allow you to learn by trial and error.

And don't distract yourself from the higher priorities and train them and let

them go, let them learn. And don't robb them of accountability.

If you rob them of accountability, productivity, and dignity,

they won't produce. And then you'll be, you know,

be micromanaging people all day long and putting fires out and distracting

yourself from what's higher.

And you could be producing way more by going on what's priority.

And the cost of having to go down instead of up,

costs the company and everybody else from producing their fullest.

And Dr. Demartini any advice on what the leader in a business would be

wise to do during this time to keep their team moral high and to help the

team to stay focused on the business goals.

Well,

if you're sitting there and not seeing it as a leader,

not seeing the benefits of what's happening in your own business

and you're showing crisis and adding to the insecurity,

that's obviously gonna have a ripple effect down.

So you have ultimately the ultimate responsibility to link

whatever's happening, on the way,

because the second you see whatever's happening on the way your executive center

comes online and you get creative and you come up with solutions and you

innovate and you come up with more powerful and more

what you want done. So I'm a firm believer in the asking first,

write down every single thing that you think is in the way and challenge and

problems or whatever, write them down and ask,

'How specifically is it on the way?', If you have a solution,

immediate solution for it, on what you can do, great.

But a lot of times there's fantasies about the way it's supposed to be.

And you're comparing what's happening to what the fantasy is instead of

actually, and not discerning between a fantasy and a problem.

And a problem is something that you can come up with a solution to. A fantasy,

you've got to break your fantasy.

And if you're expecting something that's unrealistic and you then create

problems because of that, you need to know what those are. But most of the time,

if you just ask, 'How specific is whatever's happening,

how can we use it to our greatest advantage to fulfill what's highest on our

value and link it, how is it on the way?'right amazing

The morale goes up because people now see new ideas.

They learn how to process challenge. They learn how to innovate.

They learn lots of things.

And you can be an example of what's possible as a leader and initiate that.

And that's, you know,

in the Breakthrough Experience I have people coming to the Breakthrough

Experience and they're saying, 'Well,

my husband had an affair.' 'My wife had an affair.' 'My wife had to,

is having this problem, or they did this.

And so and so this.' And I ask a really simple question, 'Great,

how'd that serve you? And they go, 'But it didn't.' I go,

'That's because you're choosing to see only the downside.

And that's not the whole picture.

So how is it helping you get what you want in life?' 'Well it's not.'

I go, 'No. How specifically, answer the question, be accountable.

You want my help,

but now you're wanting to not do what I'm telling you will work.

So ask how specifically is what has happened, serve you?

Does it teach you about communication.

Did it teach you about what your husband's values are,

did it teach you how to communicate effectively with your husband?

Did it teach you that if you don't meet your customers needs they can go

somewhere else? Has it made you realize they're not committed to you.

They're committed to their own values.

And you've been living in a fantasy and you need to break your fantasy and grow

up and mature? How is it helping you fulfill your values?

How is it getting you empowered in your life. And once they dig,

it's always there. I've yet to see anything that the

that you can't turn into opportunity and thank you. So once they do that,

their morale goes up, their appreciation goes up, their engagement goes up,

their creativity goes up. So you as a leader,

have the responsibility to find that out and set the standard for everyone

below in the chain of command there to do the same and

holding them accountable,

to ask them the questions and getting them to come up with creative ways of

finding out whatever is going on, is helping them.

Well, how do we solve it?

Ultimately it's about filling clients and customers and consumers needs

and doing it in a way that's inspiring to us. So we asked,

'How specifically can we serve the greatest number of people and be the most

inspired and efficient at doing it? If we asked that question,

'How's it helping us fulfill what's most valuable to us?' We'll get that

outcome. And there's,

nothing that you can experience that can't be turned into that. And, and,

and if you have difficulties knowing how to do it,

come to the Breakthrough Experience and let me show you how to do it.

It's not that hard. It's just a matter of doing it. And once you learn it,

you got it for life.

And it's a powerful tool for the rest of your life actually on how to

how to basically be resilient and adaptable and creative and innovative and

productive. And that's when we feel the most fulfilment,

when we're making some sort of contribution to people anyway,

and we feel the most fulfilled when we can solve our own problems,

depending on being,

and having to depend on other people to solve our own problems,

or is a dependency. Now, things that are low on your values,

you want to delegate people to do it, but things that are inspiring to you,

you want to keep at the cutting edge and keep tackling new challenges.

The greater,

the challenges and problems you solve in your life will be the greater the life

that you live.

How big a problem have you solved in life that will tell you how big a life

you're going to have,

how valuable you'll be in the world and how much income you'll probably

generate,

because income is a result of solving people's problems and solving your own.

And Dr. Demartini what about emotions impacting the focus of engagements?

If somebody is highly angry or depressed you know,

then what can they do to get back into their focus?

Well, anger is unmet expectation and

99% of all anger is, if it's directed to somebody else,

it's a self righteous perception of the individual

projecting their expectations in their own values onto somebody else and

expecting somebody else to live in their values. And/or,

they're expecting them to live one sided lives positive without negative,

Nice without mean, kind without cruel, delusions. And they're,

or they're expecting them to match the fantasy that they have about how they're

supposed to be, which is just a plain delusion. See,

the reality is which reality is, and anytime you're not,

you're expecting something other than reality with reality,

you're going to be upset. You're going to be angry. You know, I had a,

a woman that, she said, 'Well, my husband's late every night.' 'Okay. Okay.

And what's he doing?' 'He's working.' 'Okay. So he's,

he's feeling like he's, so I've got a question for you.

Is there something you're doing,

that's making him not want to come home early?' She goes, 'No.' And I said,

'Are you sure? You might want to ask him that. And two,

is it because he's got a high priority things that is important to him because

you're focusing on the kids and he's focusing at work and he wants the freedom

to do it.

So he's mind is clear when he comes home and you might want to ask these

questions.' I said, 'How's it benefiting you?' 'It's not.' 'Well, no.

How does it benefit? I didn't ask if it was, I said, how is it benefiting you?

Is it making sure that you say, okay, you have a, you have a box,

a fantasy that you have to have kids and family eating every single night.

And that's ideal, but that's not always going to be real.

He does that about five out of seven nights a week or five out of six,

but maybe one night, a week, he's going to be late.

So how does that serve you?' 'Well,

he should do that.' People don't live by other people's 'shoulds',

that's not how to live your life.

You got to wake up and quit projecting self-righteously your values onto other

people. And then if you're angry at yourself,

you can't live in other people's values.

Nobody can sustain and accept moments of infatuation,

when you first get together with them,

you can sacrifice yourself for other people temporarily,

but eventually that wanes.

So if you're expecting yourself to live in other people's values,

you're going to beat yourself up. In the Breakthrough Experience every weekend,

I'm shattering those myths, showing people how to get real,

showing people what their values are, showing how to communicate,

helping people break through those delusions,

because that undermines more marriages, more business dynamics,

more customer arrangements,

more friendships by living in a delusion that people

are supposed to live in your values,

and they're supposed to be one sided and you're supposed to live in their

values, and you're supposed to be one sided.

I crack the 15 most common myths in the Breakthrough Experience that people

cause anger with and depression is a comparison of your current reality to

a fantasy about what it once was or what it's 'supposed to' be.

I've yet to see a depression. By God,

I'm so frustrated sometimes with this, this delusion,

that it's a pharmaceutical problem with depression.

I've not seen one clinical depression in all the years I've been working with

people that didn't have completely delusionary,

unrealistic fantasy expectations, running their lives.

One or many of them. There's 15 I outline in the Breakthrough Experience.

And I watch it every single weekend. And there's people come in with, you know,

Paxil or drugs or whatever. And they have this fantasy. And the process,

what they're doing is they're comparing their reality to these fantasies and

these unrealistic expectations,

and they ended up beating themselves up and feeling depressed.

And it's rewarding to be able to break that and show them how to dissolve it and

take them off the medications in many cases.I don't do it. They do it.

But the point is that,

but it's just showing them how to do it and freeing themselves up with that.

Because people are walking around thinking they have a deficiency of drugs.

They don't, they have a delusion about how they run their life.

And it's insane,

hat goes on in the world today that people just run for a pill instead of

learning how to master their friggin life.

I'm interested in teaching people how to master their life and how to ask new

questions and how to prioritize their life and how to engage themselves and how

to get inspired at work and get inspired to learn and get inspired in their

actions.

There's absolutely no reason why you can't do that in life. No reason.

All the bullshit that's basically been taught, about the quick fix,

take a pill for every ill and everything else,

there's a place for it when you have a true emergency and a true crisis and a

true issue, and a brain that's not working, that's fine,

but that's not 99% of the population.

I'd rather teach people how to regain their power and claim their,

and how to get grounded.

I've seen hundreds and hundreds of people that have been quote "clinically

depressed," dissolve it by learning how to crack their fantasy,

set realistic expectations, not be angry.

I call it the anger, anger and aggression, blame and betrayal,

criticism and challenge, despair and depression, desire to exit and escape,

frustration, futility grouchiness and grief, hatred and hurt,

and insanity and irritability.

Those are the ABCDFGHI's of negativity that are underlying every depression

and anger. And it's so simple on how to dissolve.

I show people how to do it in the Breakthrough Experience,

and it's insane that people aren't just taking advantage of their power inside

instead of running and taking some pill and with all the side effects

and the psychosis and the symptoms of the pills over time,

and half of them are placebo anyway.

And thanks for that, Dr. Demartini I know as a result,

what's happening in the world,

we've made the Breakthrough Experience available online. Now,

can you speak to the attendees,

what they could expect if they could attend the breakthrough experience

experience with you?

Well, yeah.

And what is the objective of the breakthrough experience?

What do you want people to get out of the Breathrough Experience?

I want them, I'm interested in, I had a dream since I was 17,

18 years old to, you know, do something amazing with my life.

I wanted to empower my life. 18 to 20 I wanted to,

I set a goal to you know,

create original ideas that served on this planet.

I wanted to create an international business.

I wanted to create financial independence.

I wanted to create a global family dynamic.

I want to create a social influence and hanging out with moving, amazing people.

I wanted to have a vital body. I wanted to have an inspired life.

And so I set out to do that at that age.

I'm 66 now, almost,

so I'm going on 66, 65 going on 66.

And I'm absolutely certain that's attainable.

And I've gotten the opportunity to live that way.

And what I've done in the Breakthrough Experience is summarize and condense

highly intense information,

designed specifically to empower the seven areas of life.

And I teach the people how to basically identify what your values are,

how to structure your life.

So you can live congruently according to their highest values,

so you're filling your day with high priority action,

so it doesn't fill up the low priority distractions, how to delegate,

how to free yourself up, how to link whatever happens on the way,

not in the way. I teach the Demartini Method on how to dissolve any emotion,

any emotion; anger, resentment, infatuations, pride, shames, grief,

any emotion that is any way other

than, thank you, I love you. I appreciate you. I'm certain, I'm grateful.

I'm inspired. I'm present.

I'm only interested in what I call the transcendental states.

And I show you a science with the Demartini Method on how to transform any

emotional baggage that's stored in the subconscious mind onto how to liberate it

and get on with your life and be fueled and inspired by what's happening because

there's nothing in your way of doing something extraordinary on the planet,

nothing.

And the Breakthrough Experience is my science and methods to do that,

that I've used for myself, and I've helped thousands of people do it,

I've been doing the Breakthrough Experience for, this is going on 32 years.

And I've done it 1000, almost 100 times.

Just getting almost at that point this year, this, this next weekend.

And I also show you how to not subordinate to people on

the outside. Cause as long as you subordinate to the world on the outside,

you're not going to recognize your genius and power on the inside.

Any area of your life, you don't empower. People are gonna overpower you.

And so I show you how to empower those seven areas of life.

Because if you don't empower yourself intellectually,

you'll be told what to think. You don't empower ourselves in business.

You'll be told what to do. If you don't empower ourselves in finances,

you'll be told what you're worth.

If you don't empower ourselves in relationship, you'll

you know 'how you're supposed to be honey'.

If you don't empower yourself socially,

you'll be told propaganda that you live by,

if you don't empower yourself physically you'll be told what drug to take and

organ to remove, which is crazy. If you don't empower yourself spiritually,

you'll probably be taught some antiquated model that, God knows how old it is,

that's really not up to date. And if you empower those areas,

you're free to get on with doing something that's meaningful to your life.

And I want people in the Breakthrough Experience to go do something

extraordinary with their lives. I want them to show you how,

as Abraham Maslow would describe it,

to self-actualize your existence and how to own the traits of the greats so

you're not liberating and living in the shadows of people,

you're making your own wise decisions and becoming captain of your ship and

master of your fate and living by design, not default.

And not victims of history, So you can be masters of destiny.

I'm interested in people learning how to manifest things and following a formula

and taking their inner most dominant thought andmaking it their outtermost

tangible reality and taking command of what they want in life.

And so the Breakthrough Experience is very powerful, you know,

24 hours with me doing whatever I can to share what I've learned over these

years. And I've taught literally tens and tens of thousands,

hundreds of thousands of people of how to master their life.

I'm very much inspired by that. I love it. If you're there, if you're,

if you have any interest in that,

if you're interested in not living in the shadows of people,

but standing up and not brain offloading and giving everybody else to,

you're having to depend on them,

but you want to be more autonomous and you want to build in power in

those areas come, let me help you.

I'm absolutely certain that what I'm going to share is going to be valuable.

I've proven it. It's, there's no question in my mind about its impact. And yeah,

it's the Breakthrough Experience.

One gentleman made a difference in my life when I was 17, 18,

I set out to do the same for as many people as I can.

I learned from Zig Ziglar when I was 20,

if I help other people get what they want to get in life,

it helps me get what I want to get in life. I'm committed to that.

I think I got a good track record of it. The Breakthrough's got a track record.

And so all I know is all you gotta do is sign up and make it happen,

and you'll see, the result will be the result. You'll see it.

They'll see the impact.

Thank you for that, Dr. Demartini.

So you'll see on your screen now we've got an offer for the Breakthrough

Experience that Dr. Demartini is doing online.

We've put this package together for you where you get the Breakthrough

Experience online and you also get Dr. Demartini 's phenomenal course.

Inspired Destiny based to need where that so the value of this program is 2,399.

If you click through,

you'll see there's a link and the link also be in the common sections

Demartini.ink/engage.

It will take you through to a landing page to see the dates and the time

zones that suits you. Dr. Demartini is doing in a few times zones.

You'll see it's over a weekend.

Dr. Demartini can you just quickly explain how the day in the format or the

weekend looks like for if they attend the Breakthrough Experience with you?

different time zones, but I start at 8:00 AM and I get the principles and the,

the theoretical principles in the morning. And, and it's, that is amazing.

That's all I can say.

The people that when they go there,

I've had people come just to watch that again, to listen,

It is so packed with valuable information that shatters myths. You know,

Paul Dirac, the Nobel prize winner said,

'It's not that we don't know so much.

We know so much that isn't so.' We are bombarded by stuff out there that's not

so, that we don't even realize what is. And so,

I'm going to condense and breakthrough that we're going to go, starting out,

breaking through the delusions and myths that we're taught.

Then we're going to go and put it in the afternoon.

And that's going to determine your values.

That's going to show you how to empower the seven areas of life.

That's going to show you how to dissolve fears and guilts and Fred and James.

Then we're going to go put it in operation in the afternoon.

So the whole afternoon is the application of what I just went over her and the

theory.

So I'm going to take all of the theory and we're going to now put it in a

practical. So you get the application of it.

So not only understood practically, but you get the principles behind it.

And, uh, we work on that throughout the evening.

So we're just dissolving resentments. And in factual,

anything that's distracting, you mean present, empowered, prioritize,

purposeful, patiently, productively, uh, empowered in your life.

We show you exactly what to do and how to resolve it.

So there's nothing in there in your subconscious mind that has to distract you

from where you want to go. Then on Sunday,

it's practical and inspirational.

We go through any questions about anything that people have in there that they

have that's private.

And we show you how to define goals that are real goals and not fantasies.

And the distinction between being present versus fantasies of the future that

undermine you. What, what anxiety, fear and phobia,

what is the illusion of self-sabotage and not being,

staying focused and what all those mean and why those occur in their minds

and what they really are.

I will show you how to not subordinate to people on the outside and how to,

how to level the playing field. So whenever you see in great people,

you can find out you, you're not missing it,

At the level of the soul nothing's missing in you. At the level of the sensus,

things appear to be missing.

I show you what those voids are and how to dissolve them and how to be more

fulfilled in life. I show you how to stay more prioritized.

How to get over the distractions and let go of those things and let other people

take on accountabilities and let you delegate and free yourself up to produce

more and serve more. I show you how to manifest in the afternoon.

And we actually go through a formula, a manifestation,

and we also look at what is your mission. What is your mission? Let's define it.

Let's look at what your life and values are dictating.

Let's look at what inspires you. Let's get it down.

So you get clear because people who aren't clear about where they're going are

going to be told what to do by other people,

and they're going to live by subordination. So it's going to be a very,

very packed weekend. It's very inspiring.

It usually goes from eight till around Oh nine or 10 o'clock at night.

And then it goes all the way to around six,

seven six o'clock or so on the, on the last day.

And so we've shortened it a little bit online to try to make it where people are

not having to stay up late in case they're in different time zones,

but it's packed, it's intense and yeah, it's inspiring.

I have people that at the end, I ask them,

'How many of you learned something this weekend?

You could have gone your whole life and you're absolutely certain you would

never have learned this?' Every hand goes up.

Thank you very much for that. Dr. Demartini so,

if you'd like to take us up on the offer and spend the weekend or the weekend

that suits you and what time zone suits you with Dr. Demartini,

please take up that offer, you'll see again,

the link is going to be the comment section demartini.info/engage. And you'll

see, you'll get about a 60% discount on that offer as also,

please click through, see,

and then you can be able to join us and Dr. Demartini on the Breakthrough

Experience Online. Dr. Demartini. Do you have any last words for us?

Yeah. there's

no reason why you can't be engaged daily. You know,

people always ask me,

'Where do I get all my energy?' And it's because I'm engaged. And your,

your vitality in life is directly proportionate to

In the Breakthrough Experience, I want to help you get clear on your vision.

So you're more engaged. So you,

you don't let little things distract you from big visions,

and there's no reason why you can't be fully engaged in your life.

It's your life.

You can make a heaven or hell out of it as Shelley in Milton said,

or you can make something of a masterpiece out of it.

I would like to help you make it a masterpiece.

Okay. Thank you for that, Dr. Demartini and for those of you that joined us,

thank you very much for joining us in this livetime.

We really hope to see you on the breakthrough experience

thank you very much for your time.

And we look forward to seeing you again in a week,

or two's time again on this platform.

Yes. Thank you everybody. And have a great week.

And I look forward to seeing you at the Breakthrough Experience.

Thank you Emile.

Thanks, Dr. Demartini. Okay. Yep.

For those of you that still online, if you do have any further questions,

you can also go through to the website.

We'll be able to answer your questions there, it's drdemartini.com.

You will see there is somebody online that you can also communicate through

them, but we look forward to having you on the Breakthrough Experience online.

And we look forward to having you again on one of Dr. Demartini's livetimes.