Joevon Barnes is a plumber, coach, speaker, radio host, and father of two daughters. But more than anything, he’s a man who chose to break cycles, stay present, and become the father his daughters needed.
In this deeply practical and inspiring conversation, Joevon joins Ned Schaut to discuss fatherhood after divorce, raising daughters, healing family wounds, overcoming anger, building generational relationships, and why showing up consistently matters more than being perfect.
Joevon shares the story of growing up as the youngest of seven children, navigating the fallout that followed his parents’ passing, and learning hard lessons about family, legacy, and preparation. He offers a powerful challenge to fathers everywhere: get your affairs in order, communicate your wishes clearly, and don’t leave your children with unnecessary burdens after you’re gone.
The heart of the conversation centers around one remarkable commitment:
For more than 16 years, Joevon has maintained a weekly Daddy-Daughter Night with his daughters. Through divorce, custody changes, career shifts, and every season of life, he never stopped showing up. Today, at ages 28 and 24, his daughters still prioritize that time together.
Joevon and Ned discuss:
- Raising daughters after divorce.
- Why children should never be placed in the middle of parental conflict.
- The importance of being present, even when life gets messy.
- How fathers shape the future relationships of their children.
- Healing from anger and childhood wounds.
- The role of mentors, teachers, and coaches.
- Building friendships with aging parents.
- Preparing for grandfatherhood.
- Financial wisdom and generational legacy.
- Why every child deserves a father who stays.
One of the most moving moments comes when Joevon reflects on his father:
“He may not have been the best of pops, but he was always there.”
This episode is a reminder that fatherhood is not about perfection.
It’s about presence. It’s about consistency. It’s about being there.
🔎 Top Questions This Episode Answers
- How do I maintain a strong relationship with my children after divorce?
- What can fathers do to build lasting relationships with daughters into adulthood?
- How do I overcome anger and break unhealthy family patterns?
- What should parents do now to prevent family conflict after they pass away?
- How can fathers become trusted advisors instead of just authority figures as their children grow older?
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