Show Notes

Love and trust are great, but without the practical skill of good communication, your marriage might not go the distance.

Healthy Couples Fight Right

Healthy couples keep talking, even when it leads to conflict. Fighting is good and helpful if you do it the right way. 

Ephesians 4:29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

The goal isn’t to never fight. In fact when couples say that, alarm bells go off for me. Passion brings emotions. Investing in your marriage means  engaging with each other in real ways. 

Fighting for something means you care about it.

Fight Languages

Avoid the three unhealthy “Fight Languages”: escalation, withdrawal, and invalidation. These habits become the issues that derail you from talking about the issue you’re trying to solve.

Healthy Skills for communication

Healthy communicators use “I feel…because” statements instead of pointing fingers at their spouse. Learn to be an active listener and work together to find solutions.