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138 - The Emotional Lives of Parents Caught in the Gender Maelstrom
Episode 13827th October 2023 • Gender: A Wider Lens Podcast • Stella O'Malley & Sasha Ayad
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Join Sasha & Stella for this candid conversation delving into the intricate realm of parenting children who identify as transgender. They discuss the fear, confusion, and complex emotions parents face when dealing with their child's gender identity. The conversation touches on the challenges of communicating with their children and the potential risks and benefits of transitioning, emphasizing the importance of making the process more nuanced and less black-and-white, helping young people understand the complexity of their experiences, fostering resilience and offering a realistic perspective on the long-term impacts of gender transition. 

The conversation also explores the emotional challenges, including doubts and fears that parents often confront, such as the sense of losing their child to a different persona. They examine the loss of innocence that frequently accompanies adolescence, and the grieving process, a profound experience for these parents, acknowledging that many parents, in these situations, may grapple with isolation and loneliness. Crucially, Sasha and Stella offer a nuanced perspective, emphasizing that these feelings are normal and not indicative of bad parenting. They celebrate parents for embracing a more thoughtful and reflective path through their child’s gender exploration, even when it's difficult and unpopular, exemplifying the emotional courage and bravery required to support their children on this journey. 

This important discussion offers valuable insights into the unique challenges faced by parents when their children express transgender identities. It promotes empathy, understanding, and resilience within the family unit, fostering a more compassionate and supportive environment for these young individuals.

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Episode 70- We're Back! — Parents Lost in a Medical Scandal 

Episode 46 - Helena Part II: Advice for Parents from a Former Trans Kid 

Episode 42 - ROGD & The Struggle to Grow Up 

Episode 103 — Follow the Gender-brick Road: from Bi to Pan to Trans 

Episode 110 — Pathologizing Normal: The Lure of Identity Labels & Diagnoses 

A list of episodes featuring the parent perspective:

Episode 55 - Who Gets to Decide What's Normal: A Conversation w/ Lisa Selin Davis 

Episode 75 - Borderline Personality: Distorted Attempts to Integrate - A Conversation w/ Lisa Duval 

Episode 84 — Denise Caignon From 4thWaveNow: The View From Behind the Scenes 

Episode 85 — Mother-Daughter Story: "I Didn’t Want to be Yours Anymore" w/ Dr. Maggie Goldsmith 

Episode 98 — StoicMom: Using Her Child’s Trans Identity for Personal Individuation 

Episode 109 — What If We Are All Wrong: A Mother’s Regret with Rose 

Episode 136 - Gender as a Communication, It's Not What You Think with Maggie Goldsmith 

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