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Moments That Matter: A Heartfelt New Year Message
Episode 13631st December 2024 • Stillness in the Storms • Steven Webb
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I'd like to wish you a peaceful New Year, and hope it continues throughout.

Support the podcast and keep it ad-free by visiting https://stevenwebb.uk and treating Steven to a coffee.

This podcast episode centers around the theme of interdependence, highlighting the importance of recognizing our reliance on others throughout life. Steven Webb expresses gratitude for the support he has received over the past year, sharing personal experiences that illustrate how moments and connections shape our lives. He reflects on his journey, emphasizing that life is about the moments we create with others rather than a linear path. The conversation touches on vulnerability and the need for community, urging listeners to embrace their dependence on one another. Ultimately, Steven's heartfelt message encourages us to appreciate the relationships that enrich our lives and to approach each other with kindness and understanding.

A heartfelt reflection on the past year unfolds as Steven Webb expresses gratitude and shares profound insights about life and interdependence. He begins by contemplating the significance of marking the New Year, suggesting that our human experience is far more magical than mere calendar dates. Through personal anecdotes, including his remarkable journey of completing 500 miles in an electric wheelchair for charity, Steven emphasizes the importance of moments over milestones, highlighting how life's beauty is often found in fleeting interactions and the kindness of strangers.

Steven candidly discusses his reliance on others due to his physical challenges, revealing a deeper truth about human existence: we all need each other. Whether it's seeking help to get out of bed, showering, or simply sharing experiences, the need for connection is universal. He challenges the societal stigma that comes with dependency, advocating for a mindset shift towards embracing our interdependence as a source of strength rather than weakness. This episode is a celebration of vulnerability, kindness, and the little moments that shape our lives, urging listeners to open their hearts to the help and love that surrounds them.

Takeaways:

  • Life is about moments rather than a linear journey; cherish the moments you create.
  • Interdependence is essential; everyone relies on others for support and connection.
  • We need to embrace vulnerability and accept help from others in our lives.
  • Recognizing our interdependence can lead to deeper connections and understanding among people.
  • Kindness from strangers can leave lasting impressions and create beautiful memories.
  • Being open to receiving help allows us to foster greater community and support networks.

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I just wanted to do a quick podcast to say thank you for the last 12 months and happy New Year.

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Although I don't overly subscribe to Concepts, I do think it's incredible that us humans celebrate spinning around a giant hotel gas ball on a rock, traveling I don't know how fast.

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I just think it's awesome.

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It's just.

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It's so much more mysterious and magic than the actual new year has as we see it.

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But my last year has been incredible.

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I've done some incredible things.

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I did the 500 miles in my electric wheelchair for charity.

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I learned so many things.

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I learned that life is simply about moments.

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Nothing more, nothing less.

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You don't look back in a linear way.

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You look back at moments.

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When you look forward, you look at moments that are coming up.

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And the only way to really solidify the moments is to be in the moment.

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And I realized when I look back at my 28 days going around Cornwall, I don't see it as a journey all around.

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I see it as meeting someone on that day or someone saying a lovely, kind word, or that little lad that put one pound in the bucket after chasing me down the street.

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The lovely Canadian couple that were not offended when I called them American.

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And I seen them every day for the next week.

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And just all these beautiful people being kind, whether local or whether from all over the world.

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And I think one thing I've realized and I've struggled with all my life is the fact that I'm so reliant on other people.

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I need people to get me out of bed in the morning.

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I need people to shower me.

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I need people to do the most intimate things and everything.

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I literally cannot put on a jumper without someone helping me.

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And for many years, when people offered to help, and I still do it now, I say, no, I'm okay.

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When really I want to go, oh, my God, yeah, thank you.

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That'd be so nice.

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It's just one of those things that we don't like to be interdependent on other people.

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We don't like to have to rely on people.

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And it's possibly the worst case scenario when you're a teenager and you end up breaking your neck and you end up relying on people all your life.

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But the reality is you're no different than me.

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You rely on people.

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If something goes wrong, you need the medical services, something goes wrong legally, you need the lawyers, something else goes wrong and you need a plumber.

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We need friends for connections.

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We need people to talk to.

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We need people at the end of the podcast to do podcasts, the list can go on from the day you're born.

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You need people to nourish and care for you, and you need people there when it goes wrong, and you need people there to share when it goes right.

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And I equally need people to share in my wonderful experiences.

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That's why I share what I do on here, because I think you guys are awesome.

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And all the messages I get, it brings me to tears.

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And sometimes I don't reply for several days because I don't know what to say to you.

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So if you're one of those ones that donate three or four coffees and I don't reply for three or four days, it's because I don't know how to thank you.

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I don't know sometimes what to say.

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It's quite overwhelming.

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I do what I do because I love what I do.

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I love helping people.

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And for me, that's enough.

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Unfortunately, it does cost money to do it, and luckily we've got wonderful relationship that we don't have to do any adverts and, you know, the coffees are enough to pay for it.

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But that's why sometimes it takes me a little while to thank you, and then sometimes some months, the donations are really brilliant.

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And I feel like phoning up and giving it all back and saying, you've given me too much money.

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I don't need it.

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But it's just.

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It gives me a new mic or it gives me a new bit of equipment to make my life a little bit easier.

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So I think if I had a New Year's message, it would be, we're all interdependent.

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We all need each other.

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And if we can only learn to realize that everybody else is where they are, and you can.

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You cannot do anything about that.

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You know, the level they are, the thoughts they are, the conscious level they are, the they are if you.

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If you take it.

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Everybody's climbing up the same mountain, but from different points on that mountain, different elevations.

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They can all see different things.

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Unfortunately, we're all yelling at each other, saying, this is what I can see, and you're wrong.

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And someone else is saying, this is what I can see and you're wrong.

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And clearly it's wrong people, and clearly it's right people.

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But nobody's 100% wrong, and nobody's very rarely 100% right.

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And I think when we become a little softer and a little more vulnerable and leaning into our ability to be wrong, then we can listen to others.

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The more we open up, the more they open up, the more we go at it overstanding, the more they will lock up and move away.

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So I'm learning to say, yes, I'll take that help.

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I'm learning to lean in.

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And, you know, like, you'll notice my later podcast, I go, hey, if you can get a coffee, it'll help with the podcast.

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And it's really difficult to do those kind of things.

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And if you don't, you don't.

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And I've mentioned it twice on this podcast.

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Don't donate on this podcast, because it's not about that.

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I just want to wish you a happy new Year.

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And I wanted to share that we're all interdependent, and once we embrace that and once we realize that my granddaughter's now one, and I look at her and she smiles, and I just want to cry.

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I went to see Lion King this morning, the new movie, and I cried in that.

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I reckon Zen masters have wrote some of that.

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You know, if all kids would learn to listen to Lion King as the most wise wisdom book film of all time, we would all be a little kinder.

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There's real life lessons in that.

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There's forgiveness, there's betrayal, and then forgiveness.

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There's working together, working with different people.

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There's the interdependency.

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They cannot do it alone.

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There's so many lessons and teachers in that.

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And I went there to do with my daughter, 28, on the way in.

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She wasn't there at that point.

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So I looked up to the guy at the plaza, and I looked up and goes, yeah, can I book two tickets for this afternoon?

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It's me and my daughter.

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And then she walked up, and I'm sure he was like, oh, yeah, my daughter's 28, but, you know, she loved Lion King when she was a kid.

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We love Lion King now, and she liked this movie even more.

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So I'm just rabbiting, rambling, rabbiting on now.

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I just wanted to take a deep breath, and I've got a wonderful podcast coming out in the next couple of days about who really has our backs and it's not who we think.

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And in all uncertain times, how do we lean in and be truly vulnerable?

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I tell you how we do it.

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We do it by recognizing our interdependency on everybody else.

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There's very little we can do alone, but there's very little we cannot do with the help of everybody else, the community.

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I'm sure someone famous said that once.

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That's certainly not my words.

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I'm not that wise, but it's certainly true.

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So I know I'm sharing this on my inner peace meditations as well as the stillness in the storms.

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I just want to say thank you to all of you and I want to say something really important and I want to explain.

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I end my podcast very often with I love you.

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And the reason why I can say that is because I accept you fully who you are.

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I don't want to change a damn thing about you.

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You are where you are and I love you.

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Sa.

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