What deserves your energy in midlife—and what are women wasting far too much time worrying about?

In this bonus game episode of The Iconic Midlife, Helen Christoni joins Roxy Manning for a rapid-fire round of Worth It or Waste of Energy?

From hustle culture and people-pleasing to wellness trends, guilt, boundaries, and reinvention, Helen shares her candid opinions on the habits, pressures, and expectations women face every day.

Some answers may surprise you.

In This Episode

• Is hustle culture still worth it in midlife?
• Are women overcomplicating wellness?
• Why guilt may be one of the biggest energy drains
• The truth about protecting your peace
• Reinvention after 40
• Letting go of other people's expectations
• Prioritizing yourself without apology
• What women are wasting way too much energy on

About Helen Christoni

Helen Christoni is an entrepreneur, wellness executive, and co-founder of Make Time Wellness. After experiencing profound personal loss and witnessing the impact of dementia and cognitive decline on loved ones, she became passionate about helping women prioritize their health, well-being, and quality of life.

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I mean, ladies, don't be dismissed. No one's talking to women about their brain health. And you need to really go out and advocate for yourself. You do not need to have brain fog.

You do have to be mindful of your social battery. I have a very big social battery, but when it is out, it is out.

Hustle culture in your 40s and 50s.

I mean, like, if you're not gonna hustle in your 40s and 50s, like, when are you gonna hustle? Like, what are you waiting for? You just need to be true to your heart.

So this game is called Worth it or Waste of Energy. So basically, I'll throw out some different habits, pressures, trends, and you tell me what you think.

Okay.

Okay. The notion of trying to age perfectly. Worth it or waste of energy?

Waste of energy.

Right. There is no perfect.

Never.

No. Never. Women pretending that they're not overwhelmed.

No. Right. Wasted.

Wasted. Right.

Yeah.

We're all in this together. We're all feeling it. Okay. This is leaning a little bit into the health tracking every wellness metric imaginable.

Waste it.

Okay, so you're not. Even though you are in health and wellness. Don't.

Well, not everything. I mean, it's like. I mean, that's like a whole other anxiety attacking and throw us all into, like, you know, total paranoia.

No.

Yeah.

Totally wasted. Are there any trackers that you like that you find effective?

I love the OURA ring, you know, and so I think OURA is a great. Is a great. Like, we're really pro sleep at Make Time Wellness, and so I think it really helps learn where you're at.

And also, like, you were talking about resilience earlier. Like, if you're. If your resilience is low, don't push it. So it's a good. It's a good kind of like cop.

It's like, I call it my Helen police, and it lets me know how hard I can.

Hustle culture in your 40s and 50s. Still worth it or overrated?

Worth it. I mean, like, if you're not gonna hustle in your 40s and 50s, like, when are you gonna hustle? Like, what are you waiting for?

3 Instead of Al? It's a hard one, because sometimes people are in your life for a very, very long time.

I mean, I think this is a. I think if it's worth it for you, you should.

Okay.

You know, because our brains say some things and our hearts say others, and so I think that you just need to be true to your heart. Yeah.

Yeah. That's the way that's the way hustle culture in your 40s and 50s still worth it or overrated?

Worth it. I mean, like, if you're not going to hustle in your 40s and 50s, like, when are you going to hustle? Like, what are you waiting for?

And I think, like, I mean, I'm there now, like when I'm going to wait, you know, I mean, this is it. Like, I have all the energy, so I'm on the worth it train on that.

Right?

It's good to be active.

It's good to keep it going and have that fire. Right?

Yeah. Hustle is the muscle. I say it all the time.

It's true, it's true. Women feeling guilty for wanting time alone, waste it, right? Sometimes you need to just not have anybody around, you know, it's like just that quiet.

Nobody's talking to me. No one's asking me for anything.

I'm surrounded by people constantly. I listen to myself talk all day long in some capacity or another. And you do have to be mindful of your social battery.

I have a very big social battery, but when it is out, it is out. And it's so important that you just take a moment, an hour, whatever, 20 minutes, just to kind of just turn it all off.

Do you consider yourself a total extrovert or is it like the. I think it's called ambivert, where it's like a little of both.

I'm an extrovert, you know, and my, my little girl in size feels like an introvert, but I'm absolutely an extrovert and I go out there and I get it done.

Yeah, yeah, nice. Brain fog. Being dismissed is just stress.

Worth it. Yeah. I mean, ladies, don't be dismissed. No one's talking to women about their brain health. And you need to really go out and advocate for yourself.

You do not need to brain fog. Like, we can fix your brain fog, so let's do it.

Yes. Well, so many of the doctors too, also, you know, blow you off when you go in for your appointment and you're talking about these things.

My own, my own primary care doctor, I like to, like, I'm like, you know, Dr. So and so. I'm not going to call her out here, but I'm like, you need to get it together, girl. I'm like, really? Like, we need to work on this.

And it's just they didn't have the training, right? And so it's just, it just is what it is. They have. They weren't trained. They weren't trained for women. I mean, that's for sure.

We really need to advocate for ourselves when it comes to our brains.

Yes, definitely. Reinventing yourself in midlife worth it, right?

Why not?

Why not? Why not? Now's the time. Now's the time. What is one thing women in midlife are wasting too much energy on?

Oh, okay.

What's the question?

Yeah, what people. What other people think?

Yeah.

I mean. Yeah, like, what other people think?

Yeah. It doesn't matter.

Right? Matter. I mean, you know, who. What does Mel Robbins say? Mel Robbins says, let them. I'm with her. You know, let them.

Just let them think what they're going to think. Whatever. Like, we can't control what people think, period. And so I think, like, just not letting it affect you is.

And you gotta be you, unapologetically yourself. And that is so important. Don't wait to be your whole authentic self.

This is amazing. Thank you so much, Helen. So wonderful.