You got the kids down. The house is finally quiet. You sat down with a drink and waited for your shoulders to drop — and they never did.

If that's you, this episode is about what's actually happening in your body, and why "just relax" has never once worked.

Andy walks through the two settings your nervous system runs on, why a thousand years ago it knew how to come back down after a threat, and why your modern day never gives it the chance. There's real research behind this: in a study of 109 executives, ninety percent of the stressed ones were in chronic stress — and their cortisol stayed elevated even at rest, even sitting still, even when nothing was happening. Their bodies had lost the ability to fully stand down.

Then the part most people get wrong. "Just relax" fails because you're using your conscious mind to solve a subconscious problem — speaking English to something that doesn't speak English. What the subconscious does understand is imagery, repetition, and safety.

You'll hear how this shows up at different stages of life — the scroll, the car in the driveway you can't get out of, the drink at five, the conversation from 1997 replaying at midnight, the habit of finding the exits in every room. Same problem, different uniforms.

Andy also tells the story of the stretch where he was working till eight every night and drinking to slow himself down enough to sleep — and what he eventually understood about it.

Then three things you can start tonight: an intentional transition, a single-task hour, and a thirty-second body check.

The episode closes with a guided wind-down — a few minutes of relaxation and imagery you can use whenever your body forgets how to let go, ending with a full count back to alert.

Please listen safely: the wind-down at the end is a relaxation and guided-imagery exercise. Never listen to it while driving, operating machinery, or doing anything that needs your attention to stay safe. If you have a history of seizures, or have dealt with dissociation or a serious mental health condition, just listen along rather than following the exercise, or check with your provider first. This show is educational and is not medical advice, and it isn't a substitute for care from a doctor or therapist. If you're dealing with something serious, please see a professional who can meet with you face to face.

Free Reset Card — a one-page card with the three tools from this episode, for your fridge or your bathroom mirror. Go to calmopshypnosis.com and drop your email; it comes straight over.

Work with Andy — Andrew Azevedo is a certified hypnotherapist and the founder of Calm-Ops Hypnosis in Portsmouth, New Hampshire, working in person locally and by video anywhere. The first session is an hour of conversation about what you're feeling and what would actually help. Book at calmopshypnosis.com. There's a military rate on the site for service members, veterans and their families.

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00:03:34 Welcome To Unpacked

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00:10:35 How Stress Shows Up By Decade

00:16:35 Speaking Your Subconscious Language

00:23:22 Three Resets You Can Try Tonight

00:30:28 Guided Relaxation To Your Safe Place

00:38:20 Work With Me And Free Reset Card

To the one who just got in from work.

You haven't been able to take off your work uniform.

Still in your shoes. Lying in the living room couch.

Maybe the kitchen chair. And your body is trying to relax.

But it can't. Maybe the spouse is in bed already.

And the kids have been put to bed. And you're in the silence.

And by all measures, you should be relaxing.

I mean, you have a beer, a wine, or a tea.

Something to kind of put you in that moment of relaxation.

And you notice that your shoulders are still tense. You've got a headache.

Your jaw is clenched.

And you're telling yourself, man,

this is what I've been waiting for all day.

I've been waiting for this feeling of finally getting home away from the stress.

But you can't. It just, it's not possible.

You have this feeling of exhaustion. Maybe you're annoyed or irritated or angry even.

And it doesn't matter how safe you are in your space.

And you know by all logical means you should be, you simply can't.

So you sit there and your brain is just idling at 6,000 RPMs.

Well, if this sounds like you,

or even if this is you half the time, then this episode is for you.

So let me ask you one quick question. Where are your shoulders right now?

Are they tight and tense? Up by your ears?

Or are they nice and relaxed?

And how about your jaw? Is that clenched and tense?

Or is it relaxed as it should be? And finally, notice your head.

Is it still pounding?

Is it still feeling irritated by sounds and the light?

And the more you think, the more it pounds.

If this is you,

then stick

around.

I'm Andy,

and this is Unpacked with Kallmops Hypnosis.

In this episode, we're going to talk about why you can't relax,

even though you should be able to.

And we're going to talk about why your body simply just does its own thing.

You know, it doesn't relax.

And you're going to be able to tell why after we're done.

People usually give you advice, things such as, you know, relax, you know,

don't think about it. But that's probably useless advice. It's not that easy.

And I want to explain the reasons why in this episode. And stick around to the end.

I'm going to teach you tonight exactly how to reset your body.

It's going to be small and quick, but I'll show you the power of hypnosis and

how that's going to be able to at least give you something to walk away

from this episode. Welcome to Unpacked.

This show is for those who have been carrying very heavy baggage for very long.

And it's meant to show you how to slowly unpack those things.

My name is Andrew Azevedo.

I'm a certified hypnotherapist and the founder of Kallmops Hypnosis here

in Portsmouth, New Hampshire.

My practice has been heavily dedicated to those who have been carrying things

for a very long time and who have tried everything but haven't seemed

to find the solution. I want you to understand that this isn't a miracle.

I'm not going to teach you how to make it go all the way.

I had to learn the hard way through trial and error just like everyone else.

But I found that hypnotherapy made that journey easier for me.

And that's what I'm going to be teaching you as we go down through all

of these episodes, the power of hypnotherapy.

So a little bit of statistics.

I want you to understand that if you think you're alone in this, you're not.

75% of Americans have reported experiencing chronic stress.

And if you take the 83% of workers that that study had showed,

they were saying that work was stressing them out,

which could pretty much be everyone. The numbers keep climbing every single year.

This isn't a you problem.

This is simply the air that we're breathing,

something that we're experiencing all the time.

And just a quick note, this is not meant to be medical advice.

This isn't a replacement for therapy or seeing a doctor.

If you're dealing with something serious, please go to a professional who can meet

with you face to face.

And what we're talking about here in these episodes are educational.

It's conversational and it's a place to start,

but it should not replace the genuine care of a doctor or a therapist.

And real quick, if you are listening to this show, wherever you are,

please give me a quick review.

It generally helps people who need this to find it.

And that's the whole point of the show and a game like this is being able to offer it

to people, especially those who, you know, might need hypnotherapy. So let's dive in.

All right.

Let's talk about a couple of things that you probably already know

about the sympathetic and the parasympathetic fight or flight,

or what we like to call gas pedal and break.

So how do these things work?

Well, when your body triggers a response specifically that you're in danger,

that's when your sympathetic system comes in.

That's the one that makes your heart race and you start feeling alert

and you're getting ready to respond, whether that's fight or runaway.

And then once the danger is over, that's when the parasympathetic comes in

and that's going to relax you. It's going to lower your breathing.

It's going to lower your heart rate.

It's going to be able to recover, sleep and digest.

That's kind of how that system works.

So there's things that trigger us,

especially when it comes to the sympathetic system or the gas pedal,

right? So it's not just simply danger. It could be a bunch of other things, right?

It could be traffic.

It could be, you know, a cork or a boss or something like that.

And that's kind of what we encounter nowadays.

Because if you think about it a thousand years ago, right,

or maybe even longer than that, the basic instincts for someone,

let's just say someone that was in primitive world timeframe,

they were worried about an animal like a tiger, a lion,

or a wolf jumping out of the bushes, right?

And it could be simply wind, but that's kind of what they were faced with is

that danger, that actual danger of being killed.

So what do they feel is that sympathetic system comes up, they get alert,

they get ready to, you know, either run or fight.

And then it could be an animal, but it could also be the wind.

And then once they realized, okay, there's no animal, it's the wind,

then the parasympathetic should automatically kick in. And that's it.

That's exactly how the system works. It's kind of like a spike.

And then as soon as the spike happens, then you're going to resolve and recover.

And that's kind of the system, spike, resolve, and recover.

Unfortunately, in our day and age now, it's not that easy.

We get triggered a lot. A lot of things cause us to spike.

And if you think about it very logically, traffic, spike.

Alarm doesn't wake us up, spike.

Kids wake us up, spike.

We get to work and we're already irritated because we can't find a parking space,

spike. Coffee isn't made, spike.

Boss comes in or someone that we don't like, spike.

A deadline that's due at the last minute, spike.

And then you just keep getting these spikes over and over and over again.

So all you're doing is spike, spike, spike, spike, spike.

And somehow your body doesn't seem to be doing the rest of the part.

You know, the part where you recover and you rest, right?

So what is the issue here?

Your nerves aren't really responding the way that they're supposed to be.

They're not resolving. They're not recovering.

They're not returning back to baseline.

As a matter of fact, something is always happening and your body's kind of like

on full alert all the time. It doesn't matter what you do.

You could be having breakfast.

You could be community and you could be having dinner or sitting in the couch.

And by the time you sit down in the couch and you've been hitting that gas pedal

for like 14 hours, then your brake system is just on and you never let off

of it. And this isn't a form of weakness.

It's just your nervous system doing exactly what you told it to do, remain on.

Now, if you think about there's some studies that were done.

This was actually done on business executives and they measured their stress

hormones and that's also known as cortisol.

So what the real crazy part about that whole entire study was that 90%

of them were in chronic stress and that even the cortisol levels stayed up

at rest.

So sitting, even when nothing was happening,

the cortisol was still increased and that's 90% of those business executives.

That's not something that's a failure. It's not weakness.

It's just biology doing exactly what biology does.

And when you ask it to be on for so long, it's going to stay on.

So if this is hitting you and you're understanding that this is actually

how you are all the time, then you are not the only one.

Millions of people right now are experiencing the same,

wondering what's wrong with them. And trust me, you're not alone in this.

This isn't a character flaw.

This is something that we've just trained our bodies to do based off

of our circumstances. All right.

So we just finished talking about the sympathetic and the parasympathetic

system.

And we also discuss about the nervous system and how you're constantly

on the gas pedal and not really being able to break. So how does this show up?

Well, let's talk about your twenties.

So your twenties should be the fun time, right?

But you do unfortunately encounter stresses.

And how do we see these things being dealt with?

Well, one of the things that I've seen,

and it's a big pattern now is doom scrolling.

One of the things that we tend to do in our twenties is, and don't get me wrong.

I'm not just going to isolate to the twenties because it is reaching the

thirties and forties bracket.

But on the most part, you see 20 year olds always scrolling.

And instead of really relaxing, you know, being in the moment or being present,

you're scrolling.

And four or five hours later, you're still scrolling and you're not really relaxing.

You're just disassociating. And that's a very important concept.

It's a habit that we form specifically.

And at some point we will talk about how to change habits with hypnotherapy.

So let's take another example, gaming.

That seems to be a very popular thing, right? Gaming all the time.

And you can spend hours, if not lose sleep because of gaming.

And you think, oh yeah, I'm really, really into this game and I'm competitive.

I'm going to do it. But it turns into something more.

And I mentioned that word before, disassociation.

Instead of really doing something to de-stress you, you're kind

of doing something to take away from the fact that you're not dealing with

that high alert system. And gaming does a pretty good job of masking that.

You sit there and you game and you game and you game.

And then by the time you're done, you're tired.

Not only did you lose sleep,

but you didn't solve any of the stressors that you were dealing with.

You didn't reset, you didn't recover. All you did was distract, right?

And another popular one, vaping.

Vaping is a really rough one because it's not only habit forming because

of nicotine being a addictive property, but it's also something that you use

in your head to reframe how I deal with stress.

You're kind of like, man, I'm stressed. Vape, vape, vape.

And you're doing this a lot just to be able to take off the edge,

but what edge are you taking off?

I mean,

the stress is still going to continue despite the fact that you just vaped.

So just understand that concept.

Now, moving into the 30s and the 40s, it looks a little bit different, right?

This is the type of individual that usually will sit in their car and

then they'll just sit there.

And they may turn on their phone and they may, you know,

listen to some music or whatever it is that they're trying to do to kind

of get ready for the fact that they're about to face something else as soon

as they enter the house or as soon as they enter a building.

They sit there and they try to kind of like put themselves in a mindset,

but in reality, they're just trying to distract themselves.

They're not really distressing. It's just more, again, another type of dissociation.

So that's kind of one of the things that seems to happen with the 30s

and 40s bracket. Another one is drinking.

And unfortunately, this tends to be a really common theme amongst people

in their 30s and their 40s is they say,

I'm going to have one drink and that's fine, but then one drink turns to two.

And then at some point they really can't keep track anymore of

how much they've been drinking.

One of the big ones too is when you try to sit there and you try to distract yourself

by watching a TV show, maybe with your spouse or your kids,

but you can't seem to concentrate on the TV show.

Instead, you're looking at, Oh, did someone text me?

Or is there a work email that I got to deal with?

Or maybe there's a conversation happening and you just can't seem to just be

in the moment.

You're just so stressed and so dissociated that you just really can't be present.

And that's usually a big deal because again, we're not dealing

with the problem at hand.

And then you have the 50s and these are the ones

that are always tired all the time.

Sometimes it could be really good wired, but then they get tired.

And then they think about things at night specifically about their kids

or their parents or the retirement account or the doctor visits that they didn't do,

or they were irritated by maybe, you know,

a cashier or a post office worker or dog or traffic or some guy

that didn't turn on his signal or someone that didn't recognize you.

So these are really big for people in their 50s.

And let's talk about the real stuff, the stuff that you know, I'm here for,

which is the military first responder and healthcare workers.

This one's really rough because you go through a lot of hard things, you know,

you're constantly on alert because you walk into a room,

you're noticing the exits, you're noticing who's around,

you're being aware of your constant surroundings, you know,

and it's kind of one of those things because you had to be just because

of the things that you're facing, things that alarm you very quickly

and it's triggered that nervous system.

And one of the basic things that you see amongst all these groups is

that they are really not able to put the brakes on their nervous system.

Their nervous system is stuck on on.

And this has nothing to do with you guys being broken.

It's not about me saying you are broken, you need to be fixed.

Remember, when we talk about hypnotherapy, and it's something that's very important

for everyone to understand, is that we've built these programs specifically

in our bodies, in our subconscious, and it's part of the program that just happens

to be what we're running on.

So until we go in there and change them again, it's going to be when it resets.

So one of those things that I've seen, and especially people in uniform,

is that they can't seem to find that reset button, that program that shifts.

And that's going to be something that we're just going to keep talking about

until we can learn how to reset.

All right, so let's talk a little bit about relaxation.

I do relaxation things all the time. And this could be you.

This could be something that you can relate to.

You try to do things to relax, things like a bubble bath, or lighting a candle,

maybe going to yoga or going to the gym, something that I preferably love

to do all the time. But here's the problem.

Even doing those things, trying to take you away from the spaces

and doing something that relaxes you is a temporary fix.

It maybe will alleviate the stress for a short term time, but then as soon

as you get spiked, all of a sudden, bam, you're back to where you were,

back to that problem of being able to relax fully.

So why does this happen exactly?

I mean, I could consciously tell my nerves to be like, "Hey, lay off the gas pedal."

And that could work.

You could tell with your conscious mind, be like, "Hey,

why don't you relax for a little bit?" But why isn't it doing any of that stuff?

And it's probably because it's not the thing that's driving your whole entire

experience. Surprisingly, who's driving is your subconscious?

And your subconscious decided years ago, based off of evidence,

that it decided to do this specific behavior, not because you're broken,

but because it was trying to protect you.

It was saying, "Hey,

maybe staying ready and alert and on the gas pedal this whole time is better

than letting your guard down." So it stopped looking for the brakes.

The subconscious built that programming, that thing that I talked about earlier

about how we reprogram ourselves for safety, specifically.

So even though you have your phone not near your bed,

because you don't want to scroll and then that's going to cause you to not sleep,

or you do some meditation at 6 AM in the morning, or you're doing some type

of hot bath or stonework on a different day of the week,

it works for a little bit, but it's going to continue to spike.

And the reason why is because you are not able to get to your subconscious to change

that behavior. So let's think about it this way.

It's not necessarily that your conscious mind can't fix your subconscious problem

because you can,

but you're speaking a language that's subconscious does not understand.

So you are trying to speak to something or someone in English

that doesn't understand English, or it's like teaching your dog calculus.

And it's not that your dog is dumb, even though that's questionable.

Sometimes I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding.

It's trying to teach your dog calculus, but they don't understand calculus

because they don't know the language of calculus.

So it's the same thing with your subconscious mind.

You're trying to speak to it in a language that it doesn't understand.

So what exactly does the subconscious mind understand so that you are able to speak

to it? Well, there's three things. One of it is imagery. Imagery is a big one.

So the mind does know images.

It's like painting the picture, showing it through images, what safety feels like,

what being calm and relaxed feels like.

That's how it understands imagery, that it's its primary language.

Another thing that it does understand is repetition.

So the more you do it, the more that it gets into that pattern

because it likes that structure, that structure of being able

to feel safe constantly because it learns from that.

And then finally,

you have the one thing that really makes a huge difference is safety.

It needs to feel safe.

It needs to feel like it's in a place where it can let its guard down,

where it doesn't have to feel like it's in danger because the whole reason of

why it created that program to begin with was that at some point there was something

that made you feel danger or something that worried you or made you feel on

that high alert and it created that program that now you find

that you can't seem to take away or you can't relax.

So the reason why I'm saying these things is because that's happened

to me a long time ago.

I remember this one time I decided to take over this department

and I remember being stressed, really,

really stressed because I had to get these things done before a certain

timeframe. And the person that I took over for left it a complete mess.

And I mean a complete mess. And this is my first time doing this job.

And I'm just like, man, like how am I going to get this done?

So I'm spending like all these hours, all of my time, all of my resources constantly

on stress mode because I don't want to fail. I don't want to feel like a failure.

So I'm giving it everything that I've got.

But what's happening is I'm also neglecting everything

that normally balances me like my family life,

like my ability to relax and do the things that I loved.

But instead I was just so focused on not feeling that I put myself

in a very high stressful, high alert and in that programming of, Hey,

this is danger mode, right? Because you don't want these things to happen.

So now I'm creating this high stress, full on gas pedal kind of situation.

And unfortunately it caused me to drink.

I was drinking a lot and I was kind of finding myself to just be like, man,

this is the only way I can de-stress.

And it wasn't that I had a drinking problem because I was able to resolve

that afterwards, but it was because I put myself in that moment,

that high stress moment.

And I was finding a way to cope, a way to disassociate like we were talking

about earlier. And I want you to know that this is how it works.

This is kind of the problem that occurs when it could be something as simple

as trying to take on a job and it's something that you have created

as an alert system.

It doesn't have to be something crazy like a tiger or a wolf or anything like that.

It could be something as simple as you don't want to fail.

And then all of a sudden you've created that very high strong,

high stress moment that now has caused you to program that alertness at all times.

But hey, guess what? There's a solution.

And this is what I was talking about earlier is hypnosis.

Hypnosis is exactly that.

And I'm going to talk a little bit more about what it actually does

in a little bit more detail.

But what you need to understand is hypnosis talks that specific language

that your subconscious needs, the imagery, the repetition, and the safety.

And it's an actual technique that we apply so that we are able to talk

to your subconscious and be able to change that programming so that you're not

on high alert all the time and you can actually relax the way that you're meant to.

Let's talk about what you can actually start doing tonight.

So a little word on the side.

I am a certified hypnotherapist and this is exactly what my practice is built on,

changing that wiring and speaking to the subconscious in a language

that it does understand.

So like I spoke to you earlier, this is about providing imagery,

being able to do it in repetition and making your subconscious feel safe.

That way we can actually change the programming that is very difficult to do

on your own.

So if this is something that you need help with, we'll then hang on to the end.

By the time that we are done with all this, I'm going to tell you exactly

how we can work together.

So for now, I want to at least leave you with three things that you can walk away

from this episode specifically.

So let's start off with one and let me preface before I start

that this isn't a quick fix.

This isn't me trying to sell you something that's going to change your life forever.

But what I am trying to do tonight is to try to give your body some clues so that

that way it can consistently start learning a new pattern,

a new pattern of relaxation, so to speak. So like going back to number one, right?

So one of the things that I want you to understand is sitting in your car,

you know, before you transition from work to home is not a bad thing.

And sometimes I think some people feel guilty about this feeling, but it's not.

It's just your body knowing what it needs to do.

Unfortunately, the problem is, is that you're not setting an intention behind it.

So what you do is you kind of sit there aimlessly and you scroll or you listen

to something or you're checking or you're trying to distract yourself

from something, but it's not really doing the intention of relaxation,

of doing a mind reset or a mind reframe.

So that's kind of the problem is that you're never really transitioning

from one day, you know, like a work stressful day

into your stress free home life, hopefully, obviously,

because you're trying to reframe yourself, but it's unintentional.

So you've never really taught it how to be intentional about that transition.

So let's make it intentional.

So what I want you to do is I want you right before you go inside, you know,

and you're sitting in your car, I want you to take three deep breaths

in through the nose, hold it

and now through the mouth.

And I want the exhale to be longer than the inhale.

And the reason why I want you to do this is because you're trying

to activate your vagus response.

And that vagus response is what causes that relaxation to set in.

And while you're doing that breathing, I want you to think in your head,

in your mind, I am done working for today.

Give your mind, your conscious mind, that reset, that intentional reset.

So again, three deep breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth.

And simultaneously saying I am done with work for the day.

And that's not very difficult.

Three breaths, one sentence and you're not forcing,

you're simply just signaling your body and your brain to match that response

of what you're trying to do. Transition and reframe.

And what that's going to do is eventually in like a couple of weeks,

you're going to start noticing that that reset is going to help you relax

for a little bit.

Again, not a full solution for the rest of your life,

but it is something that can help bring you into that mindset of that repetition.

All right, so step two. And this one is also along the realms of intentionalness.

So what I want you to do is I want you to pick an hour in which you solely do just

one task and it could be any task. It could be dinner.

It could be watching TV, talking to your spouse,

but I want it to be the only task that you focus on mindfulness,

something that I'm pretty sure you guys have heard of, but being aware

and being present of the moment.

So whatever it is, if you're watching TV, then really just sit there

and watch the TV. Don't scroll on your phone. Don't have a conversation.

Don't let your mind start wandering and doing other things.

And it might feel a little weird to just be like, let me sit there

and do nothing else because your body naturally wants to idle and do a bunch

of other things.

And that's something that you've said it, but you are now intentionally telling it,

Hey, you're back home. You need to relax.

This is what we need to do so that we can reset for the evening so that we can get

into that head space of no stress, but really a recovery and repair phase.

And then finally, step three would be to do a body check.

And this isn't something that I want you to change specifically

because it will happen naturally over time, but I want you to be aware of it.

Again, bringing in that mindfulness concept.

So from time to time, just take 30 seconds throughout your day, you know,

at least once and scan it and see if you're relaxed.

Notice the things that we talked about earlier in the first part of the episode,

your shoulders, your jaw, all of those things that you notice that you are

when you're really, really tense. I know for me, it's my shoulder blades.

That's usually where I feel attention.

I'm constantly having to, you know, kind of open up my back a lot because that's

where I hold it.

But everyone hold this, holds their stress specifically in different places.

So wherever it is that you hold your stress, notice that in your body,

really pay attention to where it is and then just simply be aware of it.

And then as you're doing these resets and these things that we're talking

about the three step process, you'll notice that by the time you get

to step three in time,

you'll start noticing what actually relaxing feels like.

And then that gives you a perfect presentation

of what your body should feel like when it is in relaxed mode.

So before we go into my, you know, winding down little small little hypnotherapy gift

that I'm going to give you that you can listen to, I want to preface

with some advice prior to. So just a quick safety note before we do this.

This is a relaxation and guided imagery exercise.

So never do it while you're driving or operating heavy machinery or do anything

that requires you to need to stay attentive and safe.

And if you have a history of like seizures or you've always had like some things

that like maybe cause you to have a disassociation

or you maybe might have a mental health condition,

just listen this time.

And instead of rather than following the exercise, I want you to just pay attention

to the words, but I also want you to check with the provider just in case and note

that there's not going to cause any type of, you know,

awareness into something that you don't want to be aware of.

And for everyone else, this one is for you.

So find a comfortable position

and close your eyes wherever you are.

Take a deep breath.

That's just a little deeper than the last one

that you

took.

Let

that

breath out very slowly.

Be very controlled.

And I want you to become aware of where your body is sitting.

Is it laying down? Then great.

If it's sitting upright in a chair,

then that's perfect.

Notice the surface you're sitting on.

And now it's supporting you. Be very aware.

That's it. You aren't having to do anything for that to happen.

You're simply just bringing awareness.

Notice your head. Is it heavy or loose?

And what is your jaw doing?

And for the next few minutes, you don't have to be on

for anything.

Your phone can buzz a million times, but you'll have tomorrow to worry about

that.

For the next few minutes, you're not on duty.

I want you to think of a place, and it doesn't have to be a real place.

It doesn't have to be somewhere you've actually been.

Just somewhere in your mind.

When you go there, you just relax.

And your shoulders fall,

and your jaw unclenches.

Maybe it's a beach or a forest,

a front porch on a summer night, a kitchen with your grandparents,

where the oven is on and you smell one

of the favorite desserts that they bake.

There's no wrong answer.

Wherever your mind goes, that's where I want you to go.

And look around in this place. Notice the lights.

Is it bright? Are they soft?

What time of the day is it?

What does the air feel like? Is it warm? Is it cool?

Breezy, perhaps?

Or is it simply still?

And what do you hear? Do you hear birds? Perhaps?

Waves crashing? No, you're there.

So don't cheat yourself.

Think of something that sounds like it's supposed to be there.

How does the ground feel?

Whether you're standing

or sitting, perhaps even laying down.

Wherever this place has you,

what does it feel like underneath

you?

And take another breath in this place.

Let it out

slowly.

As I told you before,

your body will know exactly how to relax.

It remembers what it feels like to be here.

Just been so long since you've given it the chance

to feel this way.

Body didn't know that you meant it

to be this way this whole time.

You're safe right now

in this moment.

You can feel that,

can't you? Feeling of safety.

This is what it feels like.

If your body remember,

it's okay to let go.

Take one more deep breath.

This

place.

As you breathe out, let the last thoughts marinate for a second.

The body knows how to relax.

It remembers what it feels like to just unclench.

Smooth out.

Relax.

Think about when you get into your bed

to sleep.

Do this one-minute reset we just finished.

And as long as you lay there, listen.

Your body remembers what it feels like to relax.

And you can come back

to this place any time you

want.

I'm going to count from one to five.

With each number, you'll come back a little more.

And on five, you'll be fully alert, fully aware,

feeling calm and refreshed.

So that at one, awareness is coming back to the room.

Two, notice the sounds around you.

Feel the surface beneath you, supporting you.

Four, take a deep breath, enough to stir your ribs

and wiggle your fingers and toes.

And five, eyes open, fully awake, fully aware, feeling refreshed and good.

Welcome back.

One, two, three, four, five, eyes awake,

fully alert and fully aware and feeling refreshed

and good. All right. So how did that feel?

I bet you did not know that your body needed that,

especially your nervous system, meaning that reset.

And I want you to understand that this is exactly what we do here.

Little hypnosis goes a very long way, especially when it comes

to retraining your body and your mind.

And if this is something that you have resonated with,

and you feel like this is who you are all the time,

then this is what I will be offering to you.

Comopsicnosis.com, that's my website. You can feel free to go there.

I explain a lot of that stuff in my website regarding the FAQs,

how the experience will go.

You can do an in-person session, something that I am providing in person

in New Hampshire, Portsmouth, is we have a zero gravity chair.

Something that's very different from most hypnotherapists.

I wanted to add vibro acoustics and the zero gravity chair to further enhance

that experience. And that's something very unique to comops hypnosis.

So if you're able to do an in-person session, by all means I recommend it,

especially giving you a whole new experience to what hypnotherapy is.

But if you can't and you're further away, Zoom works as well.

No pressure, no fuss, no muss.

So feel free to check out my website, comopsipnosis.com.

And if you're not ready for that, that means that's not a big deal.

Continue to come to the show, listen, support.

Next week I'm going to be talking about one of the big things that affects the

military community, something that I've seen very constantly within my experience.

And that's the drink at 5 p.m.

A problem that we don't think is a problem until it becomes a problem.

So tune in next week.

This is going to be something that I think is going to awaken a lot of people.

And if you know someone that potentially needs to hear this by all means,

send them the link to my channel Unpacked with Comops Hypnosis

and have them take a gander.

One thing that I do want to say is if you're not ready for the hypnotherapy

journey and it might be a little bit too much for you,

at least let me send you away with something.

I've created a free reference card, a PDF that shows you the three steps

that we talked about during this episode.

And it's something that you can probably post on your bathroom mirror

or your refrigerator, even your car, somewhere where you can see it.

And it walks you through those three steps that we talk about so that you're not

having to play the episode. Now if you have a great memory, great.

But if you want something a little bit more tangible by all means,

that's a great way. All you have to do is just email me [email protected].

It's on my website and just tell me you're interested in the reset card

and I will send that right over to you for you to use as much as you need,

specifically for the small little reset session that we did.

So this is the end of our episode.

I just want you to let you know you're not alone, not in this.

So be good to yourself. And until next time.