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It's amazing how many blessings are around you if
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you actually slow down to look.
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I was driving to meet my friend for
breakfast as I'm on vacation, and I have
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also rented a convertible, which has been
a lot of fun driving at the beach, and I
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wanted to really take advantage of that.
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But of course, being by the ocean
often in summer means Thunderstorms.
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I kept looking at the radar, and I
wanted to make sure I could drive, and
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I saw heavy clouds in the distance.
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I wanted to make sure that
top wasn't going to be down.
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Wouldn't you know, I took the risk.
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I literally drove around the storm.
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Literally did a big horseshoe
with the directions I was taking.
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The clouds were encompassed within that.
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I did not cross one storm.
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On the way back as well.
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On the way back, the storm was behind me.
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I didn't have anything.
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It was amazing.
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Some would maybe ignore it.
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Some people might tell the
story, Oh, it's crappy.
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weather.
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Of course, the day is ruined, right?
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My story was, holy shit,
that was a miracle.
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Despite it being thunderstorms, I
literally got to cruise top down
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and enjoy myself, both directions.
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Is it raining now?
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Yes, I made it home with minutes to spare.
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I made it into the restaurant
with minutes to spare.
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All that is, is a change
in perspective and story.
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That's the only difference between person
who had day ruined and seeing a miracle.
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It's the same exact
situation and instance.
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It's the same exact details.
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It's just what you choose to look at.
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So don't disempower
yourself through your story.
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That is where your superpower is.
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Reframing, changing your approach
to how you look at anything in life.
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So what does this have to
do with people pleasing?
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Well, to me, people pleasing is abandoning
yourself for a story that disempowers you.
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It's the story of, I have to try to
control all Outcomes of my choices,
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and I have to try to control how
they might impact other people.
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So, I'm going to modify and change my
choices to avoid any uncomfortableness.
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That's a story, through and through,
that's a story we tell ourselves.
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The people pleaser version of my
convertible would be pleasing the rental
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car company by, oh my gosh, I better not
put the top down because it might rain,
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when simply I literally could just pull
over to the side road and pull it up.
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It's not a big deal.
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I chose the story of it being
a miracle and it was a miracle.
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So same thing with your relationships,
starting to make decisions for
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yourself that feel aligned with what
you need and is for the highest good
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of yourself and for all and trusting
the miracle of it working out.
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Sometimes having the conflict
occur, having awkward experiences,
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having tension, is a miracle.
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That is the miracle that's needed.
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Because sometimes, People need a
kick in the pants, yourself included.
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And guess what?
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Sometimes it's going to be divine
timing where you're the pants kicker.
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Sometimes that's what we need , I'm
going to make up a number, 97.
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865 percent of the time, we do not grow
and change from a place of comfort.
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We change when we face adversities,
uncomfortable moments, when people give
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us kicks in the pants, when things seem
to be thrown into chaos and are going to
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shit, that's usually when growth happens.
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It reminds me of the
phrase, no mud, no lotus.
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The lotus flower grows in
mud, , and then from that comes
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this beautiful lotus flower.
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So, no muck in your life, no
mucky murkiness, no flower,
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no blooming, no growth.
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No expansion.
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So give yourself space to
process when that happens.
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And start reframing the story of,
what is this trying to show me?
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From being a victim or being full
of fear to, okay, that happened.
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What's this trying to show me?
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Where do I go from here?
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A little more introspection, a
little less outer world expectation.
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Start from the inside out.
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Don't work your life from the outside in.
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Outside in is people pleasing.
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Inside out is alignment.
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That's spiritual.
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That's connection.
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That is true, authentic living.
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So don't avoid the thunderstorms, but
see them as miracles in the making.
