When your emotional needs are unmet in a relationship, it can have significant emotional, psychological, and relational consequences. Here are some of the potential outcomes and effects:

1. Emotional Distress: Unmet emotional needs can lead to feelings of sadness, frustration, anger, or loneliness. You may experience a general sense of dissatisfaction or emotional pain in the relationship.
2. Resentment: Over time, unmet needs can breed resentment toward your partner. You may feel as though your needs are not being acknowledged or valued, which can erode trust and intimacy.
3. Communication Breakdown: Unmet needs can lead to poor communication in the relationship. You may struggle to express your feelings and needs clearly, or your partner may become defensive or avoidant in response to your attempts at communication.
4. Decreased Intimacy: Emotional intimacy often relies on the fulfillment of emotional needs. When these needs go unmet, emotional distance can develop, leading to decreased physical and emotional intimacy in the relationship.
5. Conflict: Unresolved issues stemming from unmet needs can result in frequent arguments and conflict. These conflicts may be about the unmet needs themselves or manifest in other areas of the relationship.
6. Mental Health Effects: Persistent emotional distress due to unmet needs can contribute to mental health issues such as anxiety and depression. The emotional toll can affect your overall well-being.
7. Seeking Fulfillment Elsewhere: In some cases, individuals may seek to fulfill their unmet emotional needs outside the relationship, which can lead to infidelity or the desire to engage in activities or friendships that provide emotional support.
8. Withdrawal: Some people may withdraw from the relationship as a coping mechanism. They may emotionally detach or become disengaged as a way to protect themselves from further emotional pain.
9. Impact on Self-Esteem: Unmet emotional needs can negatively impact your self-esteem and self-worth. You may begin to question your value and desirability within the relationship.
10. Relationship Dissatisfaction: Overall, the result of unmet emotional needs is often a sense of dissatisfaction with the relationship. If these needs remain unaddressed, it can ultimately lead to relationship deterioration or even dissolution.

It's important to note that every relationship will have moments when emotional needs go unmet temporarily. However, it becomes concerning when this becomes a chronic pattern or when the unmet needs are significant and vital for your emotional well-being.

Addressing unmet emotional needs typically involves open and honest communication with your partner. Sharing your feelings and needs in a constructive and non-confrontational manner is an essential first step. Couples therapy or counseling can also be beneficial in helping both partners understand and address these issues. Ultimately, working together to meet each other's emotional needs is crucial for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

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without any further ado, I'm going to dive right into today's

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podcast episode. These last couple of episodes I talked

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about your needs and how important it is to know yourself

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and know your needs and communicate your needs. Because

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I strongly believe when we don't do that our desires, our unmet

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needs will come out in one way or another and usually not in

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the nicest way. Because we are not creatures who can survive or

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want to live all too long without having our needs met. So

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people who constantly feel that their needs are not being met,

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and maybe who also haven't learned to communicate their

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needs, will start to feel depressed, suppressed by their

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partner or family.

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Those are the people who tend

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to cheat and lie and manipulate. Because maybe in the past, they

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learned that there is no other way to have their needs met. So

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it seems extremely sorry. It's extremely important. To be

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honest with yourself and to keep checking in like an inventory

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check. Where you assess your relationships, you assess your

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lifestyle, and you make sure that you find out in a brutally

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honest way, what is working out and what is not working out

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anymore. If it is your romantic relationships, and you

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constantly feel that your needs are not being met, there is a

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change that has to come and it's either you starting to express

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in a different way that you need your needs met, or you starting

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to set boundaries or leaving the situation all together. And this

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isn't just for romantic relationships. This is also for

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situations at your workplace or for instance, in friendships, or

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with your family or acquaintances So as people you

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meet on the street, you need to feel expressed, you need to feel

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seen and heard. And there is no way around that in order to feel

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healthy and good as a human being. And unfortunately, a lot

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of us haven't learned in the past how to express our needs.

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And today, I want to talk about these weird things that we do to

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have our needs met. So like I said, earlier, we would start

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lying, we start lying to people that we actually love and

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respect. Because if we don't lie, we feel our needs are not

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getting met. We start cheating, because we don't feel heard and

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understood and seen by a partner. For weeks and months,

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and maybe years, we have expressed a desire. And for some

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reason, they don't take it seriously. Or we haven't found a

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way to communicate in a way that people want to listen to us.

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Maybe people are scared to hear our truth. But what I noticed

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with my clients is more often than not, it is my clients being

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scared to express their needs out of fear of being rejected or

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looked at weirdly, you know, a child who goes through puberty

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and then youngster age, has been told that yeah, you shouldn't be

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crying, you shouldn't be showing emotions, you shouldn't be so

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difficult and complicated. You should just conform and go with

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the flow. If you hear these sentences on a regular, and

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forgive me if I'm wrong, but I feel society. And the school

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system tends to communicate these values to us that we're

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supposed to conform and shut up. Then in adult years, in a

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romantic relationships, we feel that our emotions, our needs or

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desires are not valuable enough to be communicated. So we grow

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up navigating through life, thinking that people just don't

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care about us. People trample all over us. And we kind of

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slowly but surely, slide into victim mentality. All along,

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thinking that this world is a dark place, not a good place,

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not a safe place. But we don't reflect about ourselves on how

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we communicate our needs to the world. And maybe we do it in too

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subtle of ways. Maybe we don't communicate it at all. And to

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make assumptions that the other person should know what we need

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is absolutely wrong. In relationships, especially in

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romantic relationships, we have to, at the beginning, over

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communicate, we have to be so clear with the other person

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about who we are and what we need, that they truly know that

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we value ourselves and that they know who we are, if you do not

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take yourself serious, and do not communicate to the outside

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world, how you want to be treated, which boundaries you

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don't want to have violated and what your needs are. You cannot

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expect anything from anybody, not even from your parents or

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your caregivers or your siblings. Because we are all so

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incredibly unique, unique in a in a very beautiful way, but

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also unique in a very complex and complicated way. So just

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imagine yourself being

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a little computer with a very unique

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software. And the software needs to be and needs to get updated

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on a regular basis. You can't run around with your software

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from when you were 13 years old or three years old. And your

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software is very unique and has to be expressed and out there

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for other people to see and understand. And they don't have

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a manual for that software. Only you haven't, but you don't need

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doesn't have that manual, if you don't do the work within and

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finally get to know who you are. That's, that's really the thing

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that the red line, the threat that I keep repeating, you have

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to know who you are. And if you happen to cheat and lie, you

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have to know why you're doing that. If you tend to manage

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manipulate people guilt trip, people blame people always point

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the finger at people saying that they trigger you and they are

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difficult, and they don't love me, you have to start looking

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into the mirror and really realizing that you are the

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common denominator. And you have to find out what your needs are,

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and how you want to communicate them in the future. Because what

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my strongest and biggest intention is, is for you, and

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five years, 10 years, 20 years down the road to look back and

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to be so effing proud of yourself and of the decisions

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that you made of the action you took of the boundaries, you said

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of the needs that you communicate it, I don't want you

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to look back and regret. I do not. And I work with a lot of

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elderly people right now. The people who regret the most, or

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the people who ran around in their lives on autopilot, they

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were not self aware, they didn't learn their lessons. They didn't

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reflect about their actions. And they just kept making mistakes

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or mistakes or mistakes. And then they reach old age. And

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they're super depressed, and don't even want to be here

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anymore. And the people who age, I have people in their 90s, mid

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90s, even who who tell me that they stood up for their values,

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they set boundaries, they apologized for their mistakes.

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And then again, they apologize for their mistakes. And they

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learn from their mistakes. Those are the people that are happy

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and content. When they reach the deathbed, I want to say so and I

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want this for you to I don't want you to look back and regret

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that you were living on autopilot. And it's okay to lie,

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it's okay to cheat. I'm the last person who's going to judge you

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on that. But it is not okay to be unaware of why you're doing

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that. And to keep repeating

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this safe to say self destructive

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behavior because ultimately, when you manipulate when you

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cheat, when you lie all this, you are doing yourself an

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enormous disservice. And you're hurting the people around you.

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Having these uncomfortable conversations first with

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yourself and then with other people will be the fundamentals

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of creating beautiful relationships. And that is what

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I want for you. I want beautiful, kick ass resilient

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relationships that you can count on. And the most important

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relationship is the relationship with yourself. To Know yourself

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to know your needs, your limits your boundaries, to know why you

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have an unhealthy default system that you want to address. And

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then slowly let go off. Alright, I love you so much. I respect

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you so much for the work you do for the self reflection that you

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have. And I'll be out there very soon again. Bye bye. Also, if

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you want to meet me in person Gatestone coaching journey, join

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a yoga class be the public yoga class or one on one please come

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visit me at the year to experience. I'm also hosting

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intimacy retreats and workshops. And yeah, I'm always eager to

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collaborate and work with people together to create something

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unique for people who want to experience something cool in the

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forest in a yard and do something for their soul and

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their mind. Until next time, bye bye. Don't hesitate to reach out