Intention's Effect On Your Results

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Hey, everyone, I'm Kelly Mobic, a coach and a

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leadership trainer. And I'm super passionate about helping

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you find out who you are authentically as a leader, own

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it and go out and make an impact in your life and the lives of

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others. This world needs your leadership, your gifts, your

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unique brilliance. And I believe that real leaders don't wait.

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They create. I know firsthand that life is going to throw us

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curveballs that we're going to doubt our greatness, our ideas

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and our contributions. And my goal is that you believe in

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yourself beyond reason. And I get to be a coach and a champion

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for you each week, so that you feel inspired, motivated, and

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most important in action towards your unique impact in this

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world.

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So let's jump in. Hey, there, everyone, this is Coach Kelly,

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and welcome to episode 160. I feel a little milestone II there

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hello, Episode 160. Of let's be honest, before we start

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pretending, and we are continuing with one of my

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favorite coaching tools, one of my favorite life tools, one of

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my favorite tools as a leader, intention. And we are really

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dissecting intention in many, many ways. We started out with

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looking at intention utilizing the 3ds Because what is

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intention, intention is thinking and doing, thinking and doing

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and creating the magic and the results that you want. And we

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utilize the three Ds to help do that. And the three Ds are

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decide make a decision, declare, declare it out loud, and do

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that's the action piece. Then in the next week, we looked at,

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okay, how do I even know what my intention is? How do I get clear

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on what my intention is, and we talked about the four components

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that make up getting clear on your intention. And those four

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things are really understanding what it is you want. That could

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be your vision, your outcome, the goals that you have for

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yourself, really knowing what you want and being super

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specific about it. Remember what I said, vague creates vague, so

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specific, create specific, so you want to be very specific.

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And then the second component, understanding your purpose for

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it purpose answers the question why, but dive a little bit

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deeper in that like, why really? Why now? And why is that

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important? Okay, dive a little bit deeper into that. The third

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component energy, what's the energy required to have this

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happen, and energy goes hand in hand with focus, you might

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remember I said, energy flows where your attention goes. So

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you want to understand where's my attention? What is it that I

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want to focus on? There's an episode on that. And I will link

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these things into the show notes because they're great

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refreshers, so that you can go back and listen at a deeper

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level. But like, where what's required of my energy? What is

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the energy I'm bringing to this? And the final component is my

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commitment. What is my commitment? Am I going to do

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whatever it takes within legal not not illegal to actually get

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this done? Really, and truly, and remember, commitment, shows

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up in action, and shows up over time. So those four components

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are split into two, what you want and why you want it is the

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thinking components. And then your energy and your commitment

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are the action components, right? And the clearer you are,

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the easier is going to be to generate the result that you

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want. Okay, and so today we're going to talk about results. And

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this is where I'm gonna lean in to leveraging your lessons. That

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was the episode that was the very last one in April, which

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was episode 157. Leveraging your lessons because when we are

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working with intention, it is really important to check your

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results because results don't lie. And then ask yourself, did

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this all line up? Sometimes it will, and you'll almost make it

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look easy. I gotta tell you losing the 12 pounds did not

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feel hard. It did not feel hard. It did not feel desperate. It

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actually felt easy, and I was able to surprise myself with

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ease. Okay, you might remember that I was saying, holy cow.

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There was a time where losing seven pounds would have been not

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a problem, snap, snap, let's go. That is not this time in my life

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anymore. And that's okay, because it can still happen. it

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right and really understanding it can still happen.

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circumstance circumstance. Okay. And so the reason that that

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didn't feel hard or desperate is because I was so rock solid

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clear on my intention. And I used to the three Ds true story,

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true story. And then not only that, when I hit the result

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called 12 pounds, and you might remember, I had to lose seven, I

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declared to lose 15, I lost 12. So some of you might be like,

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Coach Kelly, you didn't hit it, you didn't get it? True. I

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didn't hit the 15. That's absolutely true. I hit the 12.

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And I'm here for it. I'm here for it. Because like I shared

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before, had I not declared 15, I wouldn't have lost 12. Right. I

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was not willing to declare seven and not hit it. Now part of that

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comes from years and years and years of reviewing my result, I

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understand the lesson, I understand the assignment. And I

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know me, and the only way that I can know me, is by going back

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and doing what I'm going to share with you today. And that

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means going through every single one of these things I'm sharing

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with you in May and part of June is this is this is a habit, this

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is no longer simply a discipline that I have. It is a habit. I do

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this without even thinking about it. I do this intentionally. And

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because it's a habit I do this without thinking about it. It's

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just part of the daily routine, like brushing my teeth. And this

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is what helps me generate way more of the results that I want.

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Hey, so going back to leveraging our lessons, this is how you do

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it. Is you check your results. So for instance, I lost 12

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pounds. Awesome. I was thrilled. I was thrilled. There was no way

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I was going to rain on my own parade. Not going to happen. Not

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on my watch. Not today. No, ma'am. Okay. I was thrilled

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because I hit exceeded the half two, I exceeded the half two I

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broke through the half tail. Now, could I have lost the 15

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pounds? Probably. Probably I could have lost the 15 pounds.

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And based on results, my intention was 12. My intention

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was 12. Now I have to tell you, it's that's kind of a twofer.

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It's a result that I absolutely wanted. And it was a result that

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I didn't want, right? Because in the beginning I said 15 Now

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you're hearing me share with you I am thrilled with it. Because I

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know myself I am a go bigger go home. I know that by by

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stretching outside of the comfort zone, which going from

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seven to 15, which is doubling in a time period where I wasn't

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sure I could write and I use the example I'm 56 years old, it

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wait doesn't just melt off of me anymore. I had to believe beyond

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reason or doubt that this was going to happen. The only way

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that I know this works for me is again through leveraging my

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lessons. Okay. So one of the things that I remember a mentor

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sharing with me is if you want to get really good, if not

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great, if not masterful, at your intention, can you imagine

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masterful. It's like you're just like out there, Bippity,

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boppity, boo, and alike. There we go. The pumpkin is now a

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carriage right? But she was serious, she was serious. You've

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got to look at the results you're not creating, you've got

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to look at them. You've got to look at the results you're

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creating, and look at the results you're not creating. And

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if you want to get really good and even masterful in intention,

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you've got to look at where it didn't happen, so that you can

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learn from it. Okay, hence why I say lessons are platinum,

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because you can leverage them you can use them on and on. And

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that really, really stuck with me. Now, I gotta tell you,

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that's not always fun to look at in an accountable way when we're

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not creating the results we want. It's not fun. Okay. Well,

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boohoo, okay, if you are willing to stay in that growth mindset

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and you're willing to generate more of the results you want. It

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would be whom you to do it anyway, whether it's fun or not.

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And how do you do that? How do you make it fun? You become the

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scientist and leave the judge at home. Because if life is a great

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lesson And then it is also an experiment. Right? If it's a

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great lesson, which I believe it is, it's also an experiment. And

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we get to look and see what works and what's not working,

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because then we can shift. Okay? Things that are working, keep

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utilizing them with a caveat until they stop working. Okay?

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Have you ever noticed that, that you could have a practice that's

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working, working, working, and it's so great and a practice is

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something that you're simply doing, like brushing your teeth,

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okay? Until suddenly, it's not working anymore. You're like,

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wait a minute, how is it this was something I learned, right?

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Going through life, like chugging along, and then I

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remember hitting that certain age, perimenopause and menopause

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that age with a woman. And suddenly some of the same things

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that I was doing, were no longer working. I was gaining weight.

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And like nobody's business, I'm like, wait a second, what is

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happening here, okay? Same practice, not working, have got

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to create something different. That's just an example. So for

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you women out there that are going through that you're gonna

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know exactly what I'm talking about. I'm for everyone else,

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think about something that you do that after a while, is no

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longer working in the same way. That's your clue. It's time to

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create a new practice. Okay, it's time to create a new

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practice. So that's why I say, leverage what's working until it

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doesn't work any more and be willing to shift and start

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something new practice something new, okay. That's how we learn.

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That's how we grow. Okay, that's how we grow. That's how we

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learn. Same thing. And then when you're looking at results, and

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you're seeing like, Okay, what didn't work, what didn't work

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when I look at the 12 pounds, and I didn't hit the 15. And I

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looked at what didn't work. And again, I was really consistent

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in my practices, right, I was really consistent in my practice

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is something that I think I could have done better. A

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practice that could have supported me, even better, was

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upping my fiber. I didn't even think about that. I didn't even

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think about that until later. And I was like, you know, that

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could have been supported. Okay, I was like, all over the protein

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lowered, my carbs are eating the healthy carbs, the right amount

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of high fat, high fat, the right amount of healthy fat, not high

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fat, healthy fat. And, you know, like I was paying attention.

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Well, there's a fourth component, and that's called

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fiber and I wasn't even thinking about it. So that would be

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something that as I'm continuing on this weight loss journey,

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because it isn't over. And it doesn't stop just because we had

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the surgery, there's another surgery coming up. But it

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doesn't stop because of that doesn't start or stop. Because

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of that. It's been because of the bigger health goals I have

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in being vibrant and staying in integrity. Now, I got to see

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that something was probably not working. And there was something

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missing, I got to discover that. So now I can add that in. Right

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now I can add that in and against keep the process going

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and looking and seeing what's working and not working. And

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that's the thing. And oftentimes, when you're looking

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at results, again, easy to do when we're hitting it easy to

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do, what the challenge is, is do you stop and actually do this.

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So I'm gonna give you a formula that you can use whether you've

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hit the result, or you didn't hit the result. Either way,

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either way. My challenge to you is do it both times. When we hit

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the result. We're like, Woohoo, let's go. And like we just keep

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on going, we don't stop to really look and see, what did I

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learn from this. And that is where everything happens. And

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also, when we don't hit it, it can be hard to look at that it

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can be hard to face it. So invite your scientists to come

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on in and hold this as the great experiment. Because you didn't

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fail. And you also didn't get the a plus, okay, well, you got

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the a plus you're always getting the a plus. I got that from the

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Art of Possibility. By the way, shout out Art of Possibility

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Rosa and Ben Zander, such a great book when people ask me

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what my favorite leadership book is, I'm always gonna say the art

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of possibility and in the Art of Possibility, we are always

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giving ourselves in a so let me use a different example. You

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created a result pay. It is not when we don't hit it. It's not

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like oh, the end of the world. What is that saying? We will

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fail many more times than we succeed. So you succeed and you

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fail. Okay? When I say you didn't, it just means don't take

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on the emotion. Have it okay. Or feel the feel? Because that's

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important. Don't stuff that. But don't let it take you out of the

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game because there's always a new possibility. Yes, there. Now

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we've landed. That's what I wanted to say. Seal the field.

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So have the emotion feel the feel. But do not let it take you

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out of the game because there's always a new possibility period

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done exclamation mark, boom, there it is. Okay, so here is

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your formula. First and foremost, you ask yourself, what

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was the result I created? You've got to be in ownership for it,

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you've got to be an acceptance that this is it. This is the

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result that I created. Own it, accept it. Okay. Then you want

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to ask yourself? How did it feel? So a lot of times we We

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won't bother with this one, especially people that are like

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feelings, man. Doesn't matter? Yes, it does. Okay, yes, it

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does. We're human beings that feel right? How did it feel? You

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want to write that down? Because feelings will dissipate. And you

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have something that you can reference and leverage going

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forward? Okay, how did it feel? Third of all, what did I notice

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worked? What worked really well, here? write those things down?

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And then forth? What didn't work? What didn't work, write

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all those things down? Fun fact, sometimes when you're looking at

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what didn't work, you will actually see in that some things

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that you were like, Oh, it didn't work. But I did this

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little shift and it created something that worked, you would

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miss that you would miss it has that ever happen? where

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something comes in a curveball comes in yet you create a

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different shift, you take a different action, and then it's

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working again, if you don't examine this, if you don't take

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time to debrief and see you will miss these gems. They are

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golden, they are golden. Okay. And then the fifth question, the

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final question is this. How will I utilize this going forward?

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How will I utilize this going forward? Now, with these

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questions, what's the result I created? How did I feel about

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it? What worked? What didn't work? How will I utilize this

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going forward, I would suggest that sometimes you're going to

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sit down one and done, you're going to have it all locked

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down. Sometimes you might want to revisit it over and over and

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over again. Because the ability to self reflect is powerful,

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because self reflecting opens up space for more to get revealed

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to you. It does you hear me say it every single week, it will

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not always look the way you think it's supposed to, it will

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never look the thing, the way you think it's supposed to,

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quite frankly, more gets revealed. This is how more gets

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revealed when you are being self reflective. That is a key

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leadership tool. Que as you're taking the lead in your life,

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you want to be self reflected. And that is the formula. When

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you create a result, whether it's the one you wanted, or the

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one you didn't want, or the one that didn't look like you

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thought it was, but you're like I'm here for it. 12 pounds,

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thank you very much. You want to take a look, you want to work

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the formula to elicit the learning so that you continue to

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grow. All right, that is what we have today. So remember, you

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have a choice to lead your life or follow your circumstance.

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Life is about knowing your passions, your purpose, your

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values, being intentional, being self reflective, staying in that

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growth mindset, and who emerges from taking the lead in their

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lives are authentic and vulnerable and courageous and

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very clearly creating much more of the results they want. It

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won't always almost never will look the way we think it's

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supposed to. And we get to trust that more gets revealed as we

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move forward. So take those pauses, let go of worry, let go

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of doubt, and live fully the best version of yourselves. You

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guys next week, I have an amazing guest that's coming on.

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And we're going to be talking about intentional relationships

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with kids in into adulthood. This is where we're going to

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take these tools of intention and utilize them with the get

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with my I'm so excited with this guest who is an expert in this

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field. And where you can take this and apply this in

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relationships with your kids, or other kids into adulthood. It's

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going to be phenomenal. I cannot wait. So thanks for listening

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today. And I trust there is great value for you. So have a

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great week ahead. And if it's not shaping up the way you want

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it to take the lead and create a fantastic one. I'll talk with

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you next week. I can't wait for you to meet our guest. It's

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going to be such a phenomenal episode. I'll talk with you

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soon.

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Bye. Thanks for listening to another episode of Let's be

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honest before Are we start pretending for more resources on

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taking the lead in your life, head over to Kelly J mobic.com.

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And connect with me on Instagram at coach Kelly mobile. If this

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episode was helpful for you, please feel free to share it

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with friends rate and review it on iTunes. That's Apple podcasts

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now. And at any time feel free to connect with me and let me

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know what you want to hear next or what you're working on. I'm

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happy to help. Thanks again for listening and here's to you

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