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Overcoming Life's Hardships: A Story of Escape, Renewal, and Clarity
Hello, Earnest Mann here! In this thought-provoking episode, I address a profound question posed by Joe, a man who made the life-altering decision to leave his home and country in search of peace and autonomy. This isn't just about relocation; it's about overcoming betrayal, emotional turmoil, and societal pressures while finding a fresh start.
When Everything Falls Apart: Joe's Story
Joe's story is a testament to human resilience. After discovering his wife’s long-term infidelity with none other than his own father, and facing the impending birth of twins from that relationship, Joe felt utterly trapped. He reached out to me at a breaking point, seeking guidance on how to escape his past and rebuild his life without interference from authorities or lingering connections.
The Importance of Autonomy in a New Life
One of the most critical lessons from Joe's story is the need for absolute clarity in one's goals for autonomy. Do you want to simply relocate, or do you want to disappear entirely? For Joe, the answer was the latter. We discuss the challenges, the psychological toll, and the necessary steps for a clean break from toxic relationships and environments.
The Role of Ambiguity in True Freedom
Success in such a drastic transformation requires careful planning and a touch of deliberate ambiguity. It's not about deception but about creating a space where your past cannot interfere with your future. I explain how maintaining a certain level of secrecy and careful planning is essential for ensuring the desired outcome.
If you're struggling with similar challenges or contemplating a major life reset, this episode offers rational advice, emotional clarity, and actionable steps for finding your way forward. Remember, you’re not out of options, and you’re not alone.
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Transcripts
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greetings and thank you for being
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here people often accuse me of being
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very gloom and doom so I'm making this
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episode to show that that's not the case
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I'm a realist not a damn
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nalist if you're watching this Joe and I
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assume you are I'm going to try to
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address your main question here as
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thoughtfully and clearly as possible
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your question being what to do with the
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rest of the people in your life now that
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you've decided to leave your home and
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Country the first thing I want to get
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out of the way Joe is just to thank you
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for allowing me to share this with
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others I'm sure that there are many
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people just like you that are dealing
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with the same level of frustration and
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apprehension that comes with making a
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difficult but often necessary decision
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to leave their home and a large group of
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people you see folks Joe came to me
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asking for my assistance to relocate he
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had decided that he had had enough of
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his current life in Canada and he needed
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and wanted a major restructuring of his
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life but he wanted to do so without
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police or FBI involvement which I
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totally understand so that's how I
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became
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involved so just so you know money was
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not and shouldn't be the top priority of
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relocation
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assistance nor is it a top priority
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concerning any actual relocation area
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what the number one priority should and
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needs to be is new considerations
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concerning family and friends or to put
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it another way family and friends are
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God's way of teaching you the Deep
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appreciation of
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futility if you feel like you're in an
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extremely difficult
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position just listen to the advice I
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also gave to
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Joe Joe put that lighter down and throw
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that gun into the river fortunately Joe
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did just
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that now I don't have the time to go
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into all the details about his home wife
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for what he did or didn't know I'm I'm
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just going to tell you that Joe felt as
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though he was at the end of his
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rope because one of several huge
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problems life was giving him was that
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his high school sweetheart Lily who
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became his incredibly beautiful wife had
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been cheating on him with another man
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for at least 5 years but this was made
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far worse by the fact that the man she
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had been cheating with Joe actually
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admired and loved and credited with
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making him the man that he was in this
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world when it was none other than his
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own father
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Bill and it had also been brought to his
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attention by Lily that she was pregnant
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and expecting twins by Bill
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in addition to all this Joe was a
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completely open transvest Hep so when he
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contacted me one early evening he told
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me he was the only one home that he was
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sitting naked on his lawn chair with a
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lighter and a
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gun so if you think you have
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difficulties give this a listen I've
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only touched the two tip of the iceberg
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concerning Joe so if my advice could
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help him there's probably a pretty damn
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good chance it can help you
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too so if I could get back to the
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original for just a
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moment one of the number one things that
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has to be taken into
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consideration is your desire for
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autonomy how much autonomy do you desire
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do you just want to physically move or
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do you want to completely fall off the
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face of the
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Earth in Joe's case it was the
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latter he said the very simplest way to
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describe his friends and family members
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was that they were all across between
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RAC crucians and Jehovah's
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Witnesses and the only way he could see
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having any lasting peace would be for
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him to kill
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himself but because he was raised
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Catholic that was not
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possible sorry it's just funny to
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me anyway so this is what I meant when I
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was explaining that everything I discuss
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is not gloom and doom there actually are
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alternatives and these are far better
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Alternatives and you'll find by having
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many hours of expensive therapy with a
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head
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doctor I can give you advice sound and
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rational advice but you simply need to
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ask yourself what do I
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want now because I had talked with Joe a
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great deal about this and this has
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nothing to do with the issue of his
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wife's infidelity with his 68-year-old
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father Jones
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34 the best course of action in his case
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would be to completely break free from
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his friends by no longer communicating
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with them and seering all ties physical
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and emotional with them and relocating
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to a place where they couldn't even
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imagine him being let alone
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physically pursue him so that is in fact
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what I
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arranged so what I'm saying is that
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everything is not doomed you have
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options and I can help you with that all
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you have to do once You' determine what
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you want as I stated earlier for
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yourself is to reach out to
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me what I can tell you right right off
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the bat is that if you feel you have
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your own reasons why you would like to
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do exactly the same thing that Joe did
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but don't want to leave the continental
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US that is also although honestly much
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more difficult possible to
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do but there absolutely cannot be any
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internal confusion confusion or
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misunderstanding concerning one's sexual
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identity or the entire procedure could
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fail and you could have some very nasty
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repercussions I'll just conclude with
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saying
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this there is a bit of magic to this a
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little bit of deliberate and
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necessary foggy Hocus Pocus in the form
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of amb
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uity this is not out of my desire but
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out of
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necessity and if you cannot understand
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the reason for this then you are
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definitely not ready for what I am able
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to offer
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kich so no matter what time or place in
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the world you may be seeing or hearing
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this I hope it finds you well and if not
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you know how to reach
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me until next time this is earnest and I
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usually always am
