“The thoughts that we think determine everything.” Explore how our thought patterns directly impact our experience. The power to create your own reality lives within you. Your time is now! Are you ready?

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Jani Roberts is the Owner of Alignment Essentials, a health and wellness company spanning the fitness, self-improvement, and mindfulness spaces. She is the creator of the Warrior® Workout, Moving Meditations™, Inspirational Conversations™ and all of the Alignment Essentials programming content. In addition, Jani is an International best-selling author of the book, Navigating the Clickety-Clack, How to Live a Peace-Filled Life in a Seemingly Toxic World.

Jani has over 40 years of experience in the health and wellness field. She owned and operated a large gym franchise in Florida, as well as a boutique studio for several years where she specialized in health and wellness related services, products, preventative health education, personal training, small group fitness classes, private nutrition and health coaching.

She has literally trained hundreds of thousands of instructors around the world, and she was the featured choreographer and performer on numerous training DVDs. She has presented for dozens of large Health and Wellness brands such Nike, and Adidas. She holds several certifications through ACE, AFAA and NASM.

Jani travels extensively as a speaker and presenter sharing her Alignment Essentials wellness tools and helping people find more joy in their lives and is currently training at the Shamanic Institute of Healing. 

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What? Life isn't supposed to suck? Get out of

here. Life is supposed to be good for me? I don't think so.

True. Did you know that you have the power to create your own

reality? True? Did you know that you can live the life that

you've always desired? Holy? That's right. And that's why

we're here. Are you ready? Unless you're on Joy overload,

you've come to the right place, it's time to get out of your own

way and start creating more of what you want, and less of what

you don't enough with the excuses. I'm your host, Jani

Roberts, let's do this.

Welcome back warriors. Alright, let's get to this work. This is

the work this is why we're here and what we're intended to do.

And we're going to begin with thoughts. We're going to move to

beliefs, then we're going to move on to patterns of behavior,

and to the best part of her the reality that we're experiencing,

living in alignment experiencing more of what we want, and less

of what we don't. So let's get started with the thoughts, the

thoughts that we think determine everything. First question for

you grab a piece of paper, if you'd like, it's really helpful

to write this down. What do you believe? What do you believe you

can control in your life, it's really important to know this.

Because what you believe you can control is where you're probably

going to give most of your attention. And whatever you give

your attention to is what you're going to experience more out. So

let's look at this. If I have thoughts that continue to

circulate through my mind, I am going to believe in those

thoughts. Let me give you an example. I'm told when I'm

younger, that I'm not smart enough, I'm too stupid. I'm too.

I'm too smart. I'm too young. I'm too inexperienced, I'm too

experienced, I'm too fat, I'm too thin, whatever the label is

that someone has placed on you. And perhaps that person was

someone that you felt you were supposed to be listening to

someone that you looked up to. Yeah, we've all experienced

this. What we don't always realize is that we carry beliefs

as a result of what these people have said to us now, does this

necessarily make them bad people? Not at all. I believe

that we do the best that we can with what we have. And what we

know, we don't know what we don't know. So if my mother

taught me fill in the blank, then I'm probably going to teach

my kids fill in the blank. Even if I don't know why. It's just

because it's what I know. So now here I am this kid who's been

passed down these thoughts, generation to generation. And

these thoughts that have been swirling around in my mind are

now beliefs. In other words, I believe that about myself, I

believe that life is supposed to be hard, no pain, no gain. You

know, whatever it is, there's so many scenarios, I don't want to

pretend that I know what you're experiencing. But for me, I

could certainly say things like, if you want to experience love,

then you need to trust. If you want to have things, then you

need to work hard. If you want people to treat you, well, then

you should treat them well. All relationships are worth

dedicating your entire life to, don't ever give up.

You have to persevere. If it's not working out, you just need

to try harder. Now, did anybody teach me those things? Because

they had an intention of hurting me or not helping me or

whatever? No, not at all. Now, there are many of us that are

experiencing things that are dark. People are teaching us

things that are really, really dark, because that's been their

experience. And so again, they're passing on what they

know what they've experienced, because it's all they know, you

only know what you know. So if I believe all men are just evil,

and you can't trust any of them, because that's been my

experience. And that was my mother's experience, or

whoever's experienced and they pass that on to me, then yeah,

there might be some trickle down there. And I may end up

believing that. So I want to ask you that question. What do you

believe you can control? I don't want you to grab a piece of

paper and I want you to write it down. What is it in your life

that you think you can control? And I can't answer these

questions for you. The answers lie within you. No one has

answers for you. There's guidance there's perspective.

But we each individually have to do the work because that's where

the magic is. That's where the answers lie. That's how we

expand. That's how we really experience peace, joy, and

alignment. So from my perspective, the only thing that

we can really, truly control our own thoughts. I can control my

thoughts. I can't control your thoughts. But I can control

mine. Now, easier said than done, for sure. There was a time

when I, I didn't think I could control my thoughts at all. I'm

a complete I'm a total crazy person like I'm, I'm thinking

all these thoughts. It's like I'm, I have split personalities,

there's so much going on. And I can't quiet my mind. There's so

much incoming. I don't know where I picked up the belief

that what other people think about me matters. But somewhere

along the line I did. And it's really forcing me to be in a

complete state of struggle. I can't find any piece because I'm

never going to be what I think other people think I should be

particularly when I don't even know what that is. And they

can't articulate it. So certainly I can't. So again, if

the only thing that we can control is our thoughts, then

doesn't it seem like a good idea that we start working practice

that helps us to do just that? How do we do that? How do we

start to learn? How do we just get started? How do we learn how

to control our thoughts? Not only control them, but recognize

them for what they are? What I would like to suggest is step

one, first of all, understanding that absolutely nothing is more

important than that you feel good. I'm going to repeat it.

Nothing is more important than that you feel good. You can't

serve yourself and you can't serve others. If you don't feel

good. Feel well feel whole, feel worthy. So let's say that in the

eye, nothing is more important than that. I feel good. Now this

can feel awkward, it can feel selfish, it can feel ridiculous.

Like as if you don't know what's going on in my, in my house, you

know, you don't understand like, the only thing that matters is

that everybody else feels good. Not that I feel good, but that

everybody else feels good. My kids, my boss, my partner, did a

dog, it just goes on and on. Freeze. Just give it a chance.

Nothing is more important than that. I feel good. Okay. So

that's true. How am I going to make it so I have to start

paying attention to how I feel. This is going to help me to

identify my thought patterns. So I begin a process of practicing

this, paying attention to how I feel identifying how I feel. I

do this on a regular basis. I've been teaching this practice for

decades, you're never going to get it done. I'm never going to

get it done. But it gets so much easier. And now it's second

nature. There's no quick fix to this. This is why we're here.

This is the work.

So I focus. And I take a few minutes, minutes, just a few

minutes a day, in the morning and in the evening. And identify

this, how do I feel? Because then I can start to recognize

the thoughts that are connected to how I feel. Because what I'm

thinking is directly connected to how I'm feeling. This is law.

And you can identify this truth very quickly. All you have to do

is the next time you start having a conversation with

yourself, which by the way, you're having one right now,

while you're listening to this podcast, you're going on I don't

know maybe I'll actually I resonate with that. I don't know

about that part. Maybe you're having a conversation all day

long. The only time we don't is when we sleep and when we

meditate. And both of those thoughts can still come in on

some level. But we can slow it down. Okay, so here we are. I've

got these thoughts. I keep thinking them. They are directly

connected to how I feel. I'm always circling back to the fact

that I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy. I don't deserve

whatever it is. You fill in the blanks, only you can fill them

in from there. I start jotting down the patterns maybe I pay

attention for 30 days and I started noticing patterns, okay,

for the last 30 days, I've felt mostly frustrated, self

confident, worried, and doubtful. So judgment, this is

just the truth. Based on what I've been noticing, consciously,

intentionally paying attention to, this is how I've been

feeling.

Okay, good to know. Now, what would I like to be experiencing

more of, and are those thoughts and patterns serving me in order

for me to shift into what I want to experience. So again, my

thoughts are directly connected to my beliefs. So I could feel

myself circling around to that I'm not worthy. Throughout that

30 days, it's okay, right now, I'm just observing, I'm not here

to judge, I don't want that to, I don't want that to make me

feel, you know, even more frustrated, I want to just

notice, I want to learn from my own experience, this is my most

powerful teacher, this is the only thing I can control. So

now, I'm realizing and I'm understanding that by paying

attention to how I feel, I'm recognizing my thoughts. And

those thoughts are then helping me to understand my beliefs,

which create my patterns of behavior, I don't feel worthy,

because I'm believing that thought that I was taught, that

created a belief that I'm not worthy. So I just keep choosing

a partner that makes me feel thought worthy. That makes

sense. I'm not crazy, I'm not a loser, because I keep choosing a

partner that isn't good for me, doesn't serve me doesn't love me

doesn't make me feel worthy. Of course, that's what I'm going to

experience. Because my beliefs based on my thoughts are

creating this pattern. Wow, this is really powerful. This is

important for me to know, because this means I can change

it, that pattern of behavior doesn't need to one more time,

lead to me choosing a partner that's kind of the same partner

all over again. And here, I am still living a life. That is not

the life that I really desire. But now I understand why. So

what do I do to change that pattern, I have to pay attention

to how I feel. Because nothing is more important than that. I

feel good. That becomes my priority. So if you're in my

space, and when I'm around you, I recognize the fact that I

never feel good. Every time I turn around, you're saying

things to me. You're doing things that don't support me and

feeling good about myself? Do I need to resent you for it? No.

Do I need to understand that you are also trying to figure this

out? Yes. And do I need to take ownership for what I'm

experiencing? Of course I do. Because that is what I can

control. Now you might say, well, that's really easy for you

to say, but I can't move out of here because I don't financially

I can't do that. etc, etc, etc. Okay, I'm not here to judge your

situation. I'm just here to crack your heart open to the

possibility of having different perspective about what you're

experiencing. Maybe it's gonna resonate with you. Maybe it's

not, I don't know, I don't have the answers for you. You do?

That's what I'm here to share with you is that you do so just

try it. What have you got to lose? Give it a shot. And let me

tell you something else here that's really interesting. The

people that tend to just agitate, keeps showing up in a

different way, shape or form. They're here to teach us what we

don't want, which really draws our attention to what we do want

so in a kind of messed up way. They're serving us because we're

absolutely sure that's not what we want. It's like when I got

divorced I was crushed it was all my fault what's wrong with

me I'm not worthy. I don't deserve to be loved. Bla bla bla

it was very real. I'm not making light of it. However, I can

honestly say at this point in my life, I just like wrote a thank

you lover letter. a thank you letter. Almost a thank you

lover, which is kind of interesting, huh? Very

interesting, because I'm grateful. Thank you for showing

me early in my life. What I absolutely do not want even

though I really was sure I did. I do not want a relationship.

That's not what I want. I could have stayed there for decades.

And if I had, that's okay too, because we're never going to get

this work done. We only know what we know. So when people say

it's never too late, that's what they're talking about.

All we have is time. We think we don't have any, but it's all we

have. What are we going to do with it? Let's see, I can worry,

I can stress, I can be frustrated. I'm saying all these

things because I've done it. I can be angry, done that for

decades. I can be sad, depressed, lonely, isolated. And

I'm not saying I didn't experience any joy in my life,

experience tons of joy in my life. But all of those other

emotions and feelings were there as well. And knowing what I

know, now, I can honestly say to you, from my heart, that I don't

have to do that anymore. It doesn't need to take as long

because I'm doing the work. And now I recognize it more quickly.

Why? Because nothing's more important than that, I feel

good. And if that is really true for you, if that inner being

whatever you want to call it, your inner child, your gut,

whatever you call it, if that's always nagging at you going, you

deserve more, what if? What if nothing was more important than

that? You feel good? What if you let the rest of that shit go.

And you start controlling what you can control, you start doing

the work that you came here that you intended to come here to do,

which is to experience alignment, joy, peace. And you

can actually come to the place where you're grateful for what

hasn't worked in your life. Because once you come into

alignment, you're able to look at hot and go, thank you. Now I

understand what cold is. You can look at anger, hate, as a

powerful words. And you can say thank you. Because now I really

know what love is. Now I really understand compassion. You can

look at isolation and loneliness. And go Thank you.

Because now I appreciate my relationships in a way that I

never could have if I wouldn't have known what it was like not

to have them. You're doing so well. You created this, this

conversation that we're having today. You created it, you

attracted it into your experience. You're flipping

through podcasts going, Oh, that looks interesting. No accident.

You are guided, you are powerful. And you have the

ability to create your own reality. You can live in

alignment. Is there work to do? Is there a gap to close? Hell

yeah. But the ride is going to be interesting. The ride is

going to be exhilarating. No more resistance, no more pushing

against. Okay, that's not totally true. There'll be some,

there'll be some, but you'll have a sense of humor about it.

Eventually. It just takes a little time. You already know.

This is the work that you need to do. Now, let's get to it.

It's time to live in alignment. Your time is now. This is it.

We're going to get started. That's all we have to do. Once

we get started, the momentum kicks in. And the party is on.

Thank you so much for joining me for this episode. I can't wait

to chat with you next week. We're going to continue this

ride. There's no turning back now once you know what you know.

There's no going back. I look forward to talking to you soon.

Be well. W Well, warriors, that's a wrap. Until next time,

step into your power and remember, we're all in this

together and your time is now time to live the life you

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to begin your journey. We're outta here. Peace.