B is for Blow Job
Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is B and B is for Blow Job.
Cosmopolitan has published three articles on blow job tips in the last 2 years. Being able to give a great blow job is considered a skill that every woman should have. Some talk about blow jobs as the ultimate submissive act of worship. Others call blow jobs the ultimate in powerful acts.
Joining me today to discuss where the power lies – in the giver or the receiver is Zak Jane Keir. Zak Jane Keir is a writer and editor who has been involved in erotica for over 20 years. She used to review fetish clubs for a variety of top shelf magazines and is currently contemplating her memoirs. She also sells books at various fetish markets and occasionally finds time to do terrible things to people who ask nicely.
We started by talking about blow jobs and the difference between a dominant giving a blow job and a submissive giving a blow job. Zak talked about restraining someone, telling them they are not allowed to have an orgasm and then sucking cock. She spoke about some of the different ways of doing predicament bondage (also sometimes called a mind fuck) with a submissive that could include suggesting that teeth might be involved, or that there would be punishment if he reached orgasm and then making sure that he couldn’t avoid reaching orgasm.
We talked about attitudes towards sex in BDSM. And also spoke about the differences between the way submissive women and submissive men approach dominants.
Zak’s key tip is to use crème de menthe or if you don’t like alcohol, toothpaste and hold a bit in your mouth and then start sucking as it will add a tingling sensation. We also spoke about massaging the area behind the scrotum and in front of the anus. And sucking on balls.
For all of this we emphasised that everything must be negotiated and consensual.
As she was speaking about naked blow jobs, I raised the issue of safe sex and the choices we make. We spoke about how important it is to have knowledge about risks, an understanding of your own health and clear knowledge of any issues you have and knowledge about your partner so you can make a good risk assessment. We highlighted the importance of taking responsibility for your level of risk when at all possible.
Zak recently edited an anthology called Truth: An Eroticon Anthology which has 28 stories, some fiction and some non-fiction. You can grab it here.
Today we talked about blow jobs, blow jobs in BDSM, safe sex, risk assessment and taking responsibility for your own level of risk.
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