Could there be something holding you back from taking action to create what you say you’d most love to achieve?

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The beliefs that are holding you back are the beliefs that you've inculcated

from outside authorities in many cases,

or beliefs in yourself when you're not living congruently and doubting yourself

and not walking your talk.

This topic today is, are your beliefs holding you back?

Are your beliefs holding you back in life? Now,

I think that most people have had a situation in their life where they've run

into individuals that they hear themselves saying, Well,

I can't do that because of this. I can't do that because,

well, if I do that, this will happen.

And they've got assortment of inculcated ideas

or beliefs that have in a sense curtailed them from taking action.

So if you're taking notes and want to write something,

first thing you may want to write is that every decision

that you make,

primarily from your amygdala's vallance, adding

judgments.

But every decision you make is based on what you believe at that moment will

give you most advantage over disadvantage, most reward over risk,

most positives over negatives you might say.

And even though life has a balance of those,

we still have a kind of an interpretation that allows us to go and try to get

the advantage over disadvantage. When we get there, we think, Okay,

well when we get there, we find new discovery downsides,

and sometimes the things we thought we wanted to avoid, we found upsides to,

but at that moment, based on the data that you've got in your awareness,

you're making decision to try to get more advantage than disadvantage.

This is what the amygdala does. It wants to avoid predator and seek prey.

So our decisions are partly amygdala based.

Now there's also above the amygdala,

which is subcortical, a cortical area of the brain,

the media prefrontal cortex,

which calms down the impulses and instincts,

the seekings and avoidings,

the skewed subjective biases that the amygdala imposes and

tries to get it more centered so you can spontaneously act on things,

instead of reacting to the awareness of the environment that you're having.

In other words, an inspired mission instead of an emotional reaction.

Whenever you are living by your very highest values and living congruently and

integrally with what you really feel your identity revolves around,

your mission for life, the thing that you feel is you're calling, if you will,

and you're letting go of the lower priority things

people and just sticking to the thing that's most meaningful,

you spontaneously act. It's not even a decision,

it's not an avoidance or seeking mechanism. It's not extrinsically run.

It's a spontaneous action from within.

In the brain it's called a spontaneous potential vs an evoked potential,

from stimuli outside, which are conditioned.

But whenever we're doing something that's high in our values that we're really

engaged in, that we're really inspired by, that we feel fulfilled by,

that's really meaningful to us, that we spontaneous take action on,

this is where we excel, this is where we achieve.

Whenever we do,

we start to accumulate a belief that what we say we're going to do,

we're going to do. We're disciplined, reliable, and focused in this area,

and we tend to walk our talk, not limp our life.

And so our belief in ourself goes up. When we say we're going to do something,

we do it, as I said, we walk our talk.

But the second we do something that's lower on our values or attempt to do that,

we attempt to procrastinate, hesitate and frustrate,

and we tend to start to limp our life instead of walk our talk.

We tend not to do what we say we're going to do. You know,

my highest value is teaching, researching, and writing.

I pretty well do that every day. I don't need to be reminded to do that.

Nobody has to motivate me to do that. I love doing that.

But when it comes to cooking and driving,

I would need somebody to motivate me do that. And so if I said to you,

I'm going to cook and I'm going to do this, or I'm going to drive this car,

I'll probably let myself down and won't do it,

because I delegate that. And my belief in myself in that area goes down.

Anytime you set an objective,

a goal that is not aligned and congruent with your highest value,

you automatically start having self-depreciating thoughts and

your belief in yourself goes down.

And you make decisions by offloading them onto other authorities.

So whenever you're living by lower values, not highest value,

you tend to be uncertain, doubtful,

and you start to take and inject the values of others that you think are

more successful or more achieving in those areas, and you subordinate to them,

you inject the values of them and you take on what some people have called

limiting beliefs.

Why they're limiting is because you've taken on a belief that doesn't match your

own highest value and you start to think,

I need to be doing what that or that is,

and expecting yourself to do something you don't get around to do.

And so you start doubting yourself.

And therefore those beliefs are holding you back. I've had some people say,

Well, no matter what I do, I can't seem to get ahead financially, but,

I know I should be saving more. I shouldn't be spending as much.

Any time you hear yourself saying, I should, I ought to, supposed to, I got to,

I have to, I must,

I need to - you can guarantee those are injected values of outer authorities

that you subordinated to because you're living by lower values and you're brain

offloading and giving them the power to inject those,

and you're trying to envy somebody else and imitate somebody else and trying to

be somebody you're not, losing your identity.

And your brain doesn't want you to lose your identity,

so it'll create symptoms of self depreciation and these quote limited

beliefs to make you feel like you're sabotaging and not achieving something in

order to get you back to your highest value,

where is it you're authentic and you're inspired again,

spontaneously, where you just don't have to even motivate yourself to do it.

I don't need motivation to teach, but I would need motivation to cook or drive.

I just don't do it.

Anything I require motivation to do I delegate to other people and find somebody

that would love to do that so they can do what they love while I get to do what

I love. That's a life of inspiration, not a life of weighed down desperation.

So are your beliefs holding your back? Yes. Now what's interesting,

or maybe in this case if you're trying to live by somebody else's beliefs,

but what's interesting is, is people will say to me, I want to save money,

I want to get ahead, I want to be financially independent.

And then they go back and they're buying immediate gratifying consumables that

depreciated in value and they never buy something that goes up in value that

gives them passive income to be able to build wealth, financial independence.

So what they say and what they're actually doing are two different things.

That's why I have on my website the Value Determination process to try to get

people to go there and take the time to answer 13 simple

questions to help discern what really is valuable to you.

So you have the highest probability of setting real goals that are really

objectives that are spontaneously act upon that you're disciplined, reliable,

and focused on,

so you don't end up having the beliefs that you think are holding you back.

The beliefs that are holding your back are the beliefs that you've inculcated

from outside authorities in many cases,

or beliefs in yourself when you're not living congruently and doubting yourself

and not walking your talk. And those beliefs, sometimes call limited beliefs,

if you want to use those terms, do hold you back,

but they're designed to hold you back.

They're designed to hold you from doing something that's not truly

authentic to you, to frustrate you enough, to self depreciate you enough,

to get you back on track with what is really important.

That's one of the reasons in the Breakthrough Experience program,

the program that I teach almost every week or two,

is designed to assist people in knowing what their values are,

their highest values,

and to start organizing and structuring their life functionally around what is

important to them. Their self confidence goes up, their accomplishments go up,

their leadership skills go up, their space and time horizons expand,

they give themselves permission to do something more extraordinary.

They start having more of a legacy focus and a long term vision focus instead of

immediate gratification. Anytime you're trying to live in other people's values,

you're going to end up feeling futility and then your belief in yourself's going

to go down. And then you're going to have this so-called belief that, you know,

why can't I get ahead financially?

If you don't really have a wealth building financial goal or a real high value

on finance as a wealth building,

you won't when the why's big enough the how's take care of themselves.

If you have a big enough reason for doing something, you'll do it.

Something that's high on your value gives you a big enough reason for doing it,

and you don't let obstacles interfere with you. You stay focused on it,

spontaneously.

But anytime you trying to live in somebody else's values or try to go into lower

values in your own hierarchy of values,

you're going to automatically have belief systems that are going to come in that

goes, I don't do what I say, I can't seem to get and stay focused.

I can't be disciplined. In the 1980s when I was lecturing all over America,

I noticed when I asked people, What is the most common question you have?

Write it down what's the common question for this seminar.

I'd go speak at a seminar and I'd have everybody write down the number one

question. I was amazed. I didn't expect it,

but the number one question I got from people in the eighties was,

How do I stay focused? If you have to ask, how do I stay focused?

That means you're not living by what is most important to you.

That's why in the Breakthrough Experience,

we go and identify what that highest value is.

And that's why I have it on my website,

the Value Determination process to help you determine that,

please take advantage of that. It's complimentary on the website.

But actually answer the questions on the website as integrally as possible.

Don't lie to yourself and don't write down what you think the answer should be

or supposed to be. You won't be honest. Write down what your life demonstrates.

If you had a drone looking over you and looking down on your life and how does

your, what is your life demonstrating?

Your life demonstrates what you value most.

And anytime you set a goal that's not matching what you really value most,

you're designed to self depreciate and create quote beliefs that holds

you back. Because you're being held back from something that's not true for you.

That's why when people,

if they don't really have a value on wealth building and financial, you know,

mastery, if it's not really in their top three or four values,

you won't get around to doing it. If you have something higher on value,

your children's health, you're going to,

instead of spending money on investments,

you're going to spend your money on your kids' health.

If you have a higher value on clothes and shopping then you're going to take

your money instead of putting in investments,

you're going to put it into clothes.

And then you're going to have this thought that, oh, I keep sabotaging.

Why I can't get ahead? Because I should be saving.

Because that's an injected value by some outside authority that you admire

because they had wealth. Or same thing it could be not money,

it could be relationship. You think I should be dating or married by now.

You know, what's wrong with me? Why am I keep not doing that?

But what you do is you have your own hierarchy of values and your own hierarchy

of values is determining how you perceive, decide and act.

And you're actually acting according to your values many times,

but you're trying to live in other people's. You're acting according to do,

but you're trying to live in others therefore,

when you do what you do according to your own values,

but you're expecting it to be in their value,

you beat yourself up and you think, I should be doing this,

I ought to be doing something else than what I'm doing.

But your life is demonstrating your values and so you're doing what's really

valuable to you,

but you're not appreciating and honoring it because you're comparing it to

somebody else. That's why Ralph Waldo Emerson said,

Envy is ignorance and imitation is suicide.

We're not here to envy somebody else. We're not here to put people on pedestals.

We're here to put them in our heart.

So when I go and do the Demartini Method

in the Breakthrough Experience Program,

what I'm doing is I'm taking all the self judgments that we have and

the judgements we have of other people.,

see if we infatuate with somebody and put them on a pedestal,

we're going to tend to inject their values. If we put them in our pit,

we're going to tend to project our values onto them.

And anytime you expect them to live in your values, you have futility.

Anytime you expect to live in somebody else, you're going to have futility,

you're going to have a limiting belief, you're going to doubt yourself,

self depreciation, you're going to question yourself. You're going to make,

you know,

offload your making decisions to somebody else again and you're in a vicious

cycle.

But the second you do the Demartini Method and dissolve the infatuation,

dissolve the resentments, which you inject or project your values from,

and go in and find out where you're proud or shamed as compensation for the

resentments and infatuations and dissolve those,

and you become authentic and love yourself and go back to your highest

value, your beliefs and everything they don't hold you back.

Because now your belief is that I do what I say, I walk my talk,

I'm doing what I love, I'm loving what I'm doing. I'm inspired by my mission.

And all of a sudden you don't have the beliefs.

You build incremental momentum that are building and

accomplishment. You don't have these limited beliefs there all of a sudden.

That's why it's so important to prioritize your life.

That's why in the Breakthrough Experience I spend so much time on values and

how, what values are and how they function and how to make your perceptions,

decisions and actions according to what's really valuable to you and not

subordinate and not superordinate,

and listen to other people and be trying to please everybody around you or

trying to, trying to control everybody around you.

Whenever we put people in our heart and we love them and have equanimity within

us, we're not proud or shamed,

we're authentic and we're loving somebody else and have an equity with them,

we liberate ourselves from a lot of emotional baggage.

So that's why those two things are in the Breakthrough Experience,

teaching you how to identify your values and live accordingly.

And every time you live by your highest values,

you decrease the probability of having emotional baggage that you need to clear.

And then so I have the Demartini Method for clearing out the emotional baggage

and bringing you back down to your higher level brain function. See,

when you're living by your highest values, your blood, glucose,

and oxygen goes into the forebrain, the executive center,

and you re-empower your life and you start making wise decisions as an

executive and you become a leader and you end up having self worth and you end

up having a greater space and time horizons.

But if you don't and you're not clearing out the baggage and living by lower,

you know,

emotional volatilities all the time and putting out fires and doing low priority

things,

you're designed to have those belief systems accumulate that limit and then

are holding you back.

The holding you back is actually guiding you back to what is on true,

what's true and what's on track for you. But they're misinterpreted.

In the Breakthrough Experience I show you how to take those beliefs and I show

you how to dissolve the perception that they're holding you back and turn them

into something that's an opportunity. And use it as a feedback.

In other words if you go out and you touch a fire and it burns,

your brain and body says, Okay, wait a minute,

it gives you reflexes to hold your hand back.

And the same thing when you're doing something in your life,

you create symptoms in your life to guide you and give you feedback to let you

know that's not what's working.

And so in the Breakthrough Experience I teach people how to live by their

highest values

so they're less likely to be in their amygdala and more likely to be objective

and set real goals.

And I teach them how to do the Demartini Method on how to dissolve all the

baggage that emerges and how to interpret it in such a way that you extract

meaning out of your existence and out of those events.

So you're not carrying around baggage all your life.

You can carry round baggage in your subconscious mind on all the things you

haven't loved,

or you can carry it around in your superconscious mind and be inspired and do

what you love.

And that's why I tell people to come to the Breakthrough Experience,

to help people go through and learn the method, the Demartini Method,

which is a series of questions that methodically hold you accountable

to see what you've been unconscious of, to take people off pedestals,

to take people out of pits,

to take yourself off pedestals and out of pits and to put yourself in your heart

and put other people in your heart so you can love people,

where there's no noise in the brain, where you're grateful for your life.

So you can empower the brain.

Your brain when you're living by your highest values has less noise.

The higher signals from the spontaneous potentials in the brain come through

and you're inspired and you're intrinsically driven.

running your life by other people's expectations and opportunists taking

advantage of you. And if all of a sudden you're living that way,

you're more inspired by your life.

But if you're sitting there going into your amygdala and living by lower values,

you're automatically designed to create chaos.

You can either see the hidden order by living by your highest values or you can

live in chaos.

And the chaos is a feedback of missing information to try to get you back to

what's on track.

Anytime you go from order to disorder and you go into the amygdala and you go

into that, you're uncertain and you have missing information,

you have chaos and you have disorder.

And that disorder is a feedback to let you know, hey, this is not my path.

I'm in my karmic wheel as the Buddhist says instead of my darmic path.

And so you just keep having all this volatility and emotions that weigh you

down. So your noise in your brain is all that.

But a clear consciousness is when you live by priority and you do the Demartini

Method,

it clears out the baggage and clears out the noise and it allow a clear mind for

a moment. The same thing in your business,

as long as you put people on pedestals and minimize yourself,

you'll sacrifice your profits and if you go and put them down and exaggerate

yourself, you won't make any profits,

because nature's trying to get you in a state of equanimity and equity,

trying to have sustainable fair exchange in business. So again,

if you live by your highest values where you're more objective and more

balanced, you end up with more profits in business.

And if you do the Demartini Method and clear out the baggage and appreciate

people for who they are and not exaggerate and minimize them,

it helps your business. The same things when it comes to finances,

as Warren Buffet says, if you can't manage your emotions,

don't expect to manage your life, don't expect to manage money.

So what happens is if you basically dissolve all the

yourself to be poised and present and clear and certain and prioritized and

purposeful, you maximize your money and your self worth goes up.

And if your self worth goes up,

you're more likely to want to have fair exchange and value yourself and save a

portion of it so your money works for you instead of it working for,

you working for your money all your life. The same thing in relationships.

Everybody wants to be loved and appreciate who they are.

They don't want to be put on pedestals or pits. They can't live up to those.

And they don't want to be, you know, negated or exaggerated.

They just want to be loved for who they are.

Well doing the Demartini Method in the Breakthrough Experience helps you do

that. I guarantee if you do the method and thoroughly do it on somebody,

you're going to have tears of gratitude for the individual that you may be

judging. You can transform any judgment.

I haven't seen anything that the mortal body can experience of judgment that you

can't love with your own real soul. The state of unconditional love within you,

the authentic self is able to do that.

That's why I teach people the Breakthrough Experience and the Demartini Method

for that. And in socially, if you're living by your highest values,

you're automatically waking up your leadership skills.

So if you want to develop your leadership,

if you want to have more love and appreciation, if

if you want to go and have more stability and sustainability in your business,

you want to have less noise in the brain. And if you want to have more vitality,

because a lot of the things that rob people of vitality are all those emotions

that keep distracting us that cause distress. And

Your brain needs the most amount of energy and it gets, it needs blood,

glucose and energy. When you live by your highest priority it gets it.

And it calms down the autonomic dis-regulation,

distresses that we have in life.

So you get more vitality and more inspiration and you're inspired by

doing that. Whenever you're living by your highest values,

you're inspired by your life, you're more grateful.

So if you want to be more grateful,

you want to have a more vital body and more balanced physiology,

less symptoms and all the other things I was talking about,

that's why I teach the Breakthrough Experience,

to teach you the Demartini Method and to get you back on track with the highest

values.

That's just some of the basics that I cover in the Breakthrough Experience.

Cause I want people to master their life.

And you're not going to master your life being caught in traps and limited

beliefs, and the beliefs that are basically holding you back,

but the holding you back are actually holding your false persona back,

and trying to get you onto your true self.

The false personas and masks we wear are what's being held back.

But you're attached to those personas.

And I have people coming to me in the Breakthrough Experience and they say,

I want to do something, they don't want to, they're not doing it. And I go,

Why you're not doing it, it's very simple,

is because what you say you want to do is not really important enough to do it.

You have unconsciously more drawbacks than benefits doing it or you'd be doing

it. And that's primarily because of the conflict you have between the injected

values or projected values and your real hierarchy of values.

So let me help you transform and transcend those

limited beliefs, if you want to call it that,

or those beliefs that are you think are holding you back and transform your

perception and show you how to turn them on the way into, from in the way.

I show you how, what they mean.

It's not really that difficult when you actually know how to ask the right

questions, which I teach you in the program,

you can all of a sudden extract meaning out of your existence and find out the

blessings that are going on in your life that you haven't been able to see

before. So if you'd like to do that,

come and join me at the Breakthrough Experience.

I want to show you how to empower all those areas of life and how to take the

beliefs and make them,

I believe that I'm capable of doing something extraordinary on planet Earth,

and then go do it.

Instead of sitting there and having the doubts and uncertainties and the

self depreciations that most people live with.

A quiet of life desperation as Theroux would say,

instead of a life of inspiration, which I'm trying to teach you.

So come to the Breakthrough Experience and let me help you learn these tools

that have helped me and helped thousands of other people do extraordinary things

with their life, and be able to love their life again.

So they're not weighed down that with some sort of belief that's holding them

back, at least in their perception.

And show them how to turn whatever's in the way to on the way.

I'm absolutely certain that what you'll learn there, at the end of the program,

I ask people every week,

How many of you have learned something this weekend you could have gone your

entire life and not learned if you hadn't been here? And every hand goes up.

If you'd like to learn something novel, something original,

something I've been working on for 50 years of research on human behavior,

come to the Breakthrough Experience and let me help you break through those

perceptions and belief systems that you think are holding your back because I

can show you how to turn those into opportunities and fuel yourself to do

something more extraordinary with your life.

Join me at the Breakthrough Experience so I can teach you these principles that

have helped me achieve what I've set out to do in my life.

I set out to travel the world and to teach,

and I get get to do it every day and get handsomely paid and beautifully paid to

do something I love to do.

If that's something inspiring to you sign up now and join me.

I'm absolutely certain what you'll learn there,

you'll have for the rest of your life and you'll be able to use it to transform

whatever you think is in the way to on the way.