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Natalie McMillan - @nataliemcm and @shopnataliemcmillan 

What we're drinking: Sparkling Watermelon Juice 

TOPIC: 

We've both struggled with following our intuition and making decisions, so we’re breaking down what to do when you’re dealing with those fork-in-the-road moments. The average person makes 35,000 decisions per day一it’s no wonder why we struggle with decision fatigue and analysis paralysis. We discuss how to be more decisive and share questions that can help guide you through periods of existential crisis. Plus, we talk about our go-to tools that we use to make concise and concrete decisions. 

In this episode, we discuss:

• How long it takes the average person to make a decision 
• Why decision-making can be so hard for people 
• The connection between lower self-esteem and indecisiveness 
• What an anchoring bias is an how it affects the choices we make 
• The best thing to do when you’re having trouble making a decision 
• Why we love to set self-imposed deadlines for ourselves 
• Simple steps to get out of the cycle of decision fatigue 

RESOURCES MENTIONED: 

Episode 111 - How To Journal

END OF THE SHOW: 

Corinne and Natalie introduce Hottie of the Week: Meryl Streep 

WINE RATING:

Sparkling Watermelon Juice  = 7 / Meryl 

WRAP UP:

To wrap up the episode, Corinne and Natalie play a new BFF quiz! Corinne tries to guess which era Nat would choose to live in and what decade has the best fashion. Nat is tested with figuring out the first movie that Corinne saw in theaters and what tattoo she would get. 

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Hey welcome back to another episode of am I doing this right? I'm Corinne Foxx.

And I'm Natalie McMillan

and we are best friends confidants millennials and the hosts of am I doing this right? A life how to podcast from the perspective of non experts.

And each week we cover a new topic and we drink a new beverage beverage

you guys we are.

It's another wine free week.

Yes, we're entertaining. Less Yes, wine on the show. And this week, we are talking. This just also came to me while I was walking and I was like, we have to do an episode on that. Yeah,

it's a good episode,

what to do when you don't know what to do. We're gonna be talking about why making decisions are hard, how to be more decisive, and how to navigate those fork in the road kind of moments in life. Always. I feel like, you know, we talk this whole show is about like, I'm an adult. I feel like a baby. I don't know what I'm doing.

I don't know what's happening.

I don't know what I'm doing with my life.

Right? So this is that episode. This is like how to pick a direction or how to like, you know, get out of that flailing baby.

It can be very paralyzing to this. It can be like, I'm just stuck here like staring because you're like, I don't know how to do this.

Yes. And also, I feel like we get written in a lot of our listeners, right? And then they're like, hey, like, I don't know. Should I do this? Should I do that? Should I move across the country? Should I not? Should it hey, this is uh, this is the episode for you. Yes. And you guys know you can always write into the show with an episode request that am I doing this right pod@gmail.com or DMS at am I doing this right pod? If there's something that you're confused about that you don't know how to do? You want us to research it will do the work for you.

And we prioritize

these guys email us that you believe will in about two episodes later. It's gonna be your episode. Yes. So not only what are we drinking? You brought this fun drink. I feel watermelon, which is I know you pick that out because you seem like a watermelon flavored girlie.

I do love watermelon. This is okay. It's called Blue Monkey sparkling watermelon juice drink. I don't really It looks foreign. Is it French? Vietnam

was from Vietnam. Okay, the ingredients are watermelon juice and carbonated water and juice. Oh, here we go. Oh, that was good. Oh, okay.

You know, I got it a gal sins. So I was like, it's gotta be fancy. How much was this? Like? 20 bucks. Wow. Oh my god. Oh my god. Okay, we'll review at the end. But you guys, this was fun and flirty.

It's it's fun and flirty and fruity. Wow. But we'll we'll circle back.

Natalie and I went to the movies last night. And this episode's coming out a little bit later. But we were left reeling. I guess that's the best way to describe it is reeling. We saw. Don't worry, darling. More. So for the cultural awareness right now. And obviously we love Florence Pugh. Yes, I'm a big hairstyles gal. And I was here for it. I thought their performances were amazing. Yes. And then Natalie and I had to step out of the theater at the end and just go, I don't want to spoil it for oh, no, we will. We won't say that. No, and we won't say any of the details. But it was like we were saying it was so close to being a great. It was it was sin. It's so hard. I think everyone should see it. I think I do see it and form their own opinions. And I think that Natalie and I at the end definitely had questions. So many that I might I don't know if like all the questions were intended to be left at the end. But I was definitely on forums and reading theories and was like, I need answers. I know. Well, then also, I was looking at some forums and theories last night, and people were like really trying to make meaning out of some of the things and somebody commented and was like, You know what, I think that this just wasn't that deep. Like I think you're trying to find depth in something that there's no depth there. It just simply is let me say though that twist the twist. So obviously you guys are gonna know like there's a twist in the movie like most movies have a twist it's a thriller everybody knows it's a psychological thriller The Twist and I'm pretty good at like guessing what a twist is. I'm like okay, I see where this is going. It it through the whole fuckin theater. The theater was gathered out of their mind gas out of their minds. We were not expecting the twist. The twist is iconic. It really unforgettable. I just wish that they did more with it because I'm like, it was crazy. I wish I could There needs to be a separate movie on what the twist was Natalie's. But like the whole twist, I would have loved to see Harry Styles in the twist role, which I won't talk about what like I would have loved to see a whole movie on that. Me too. It was really, if you haven't seen you cannot believe what the twist is. I know. And like people also have to see it in a theater if you can. Because the audience reactions were there were so many girls there that were just there for hairstyles. The girls in front of us were smoking weed.

They weren't sure what are their friends was in it? Because they kept like clapping every time one of these one of the chicks came on the screen. Oh, really? It was it was like a very minor. It was like her face popped. Oh, and they were like, Yeah, okay. But yeah, people were very interactive with very interactive and there are parts where it is laughable. Yeah. There are some parts. It's like, they just really catch you off guard. Yeah. Let me just double down on that. Florence Pugh is the most beautiful person I've ever seen in my life. I stared at her face the whole time. And I was like, her nose or hottie. She's up there. No, no, no, no, she's not she hasn't. She's an upcoming holiday of the week. She did. Amazing.

Okay, Natalie, let us get into speaking to us, again to how to make a decision. All right.

Well, we all reach that fork in the road moment where we have to make a big decision where you can either choose A or B or maybe there's even a C. You know, we've both struggled with trusting our guts and making a decision big or small. So we thought it would be helpful to break down why decision making can be hard, and what to do if you feel stuck. Yes, we get into some factories, decisions. Okay, I found these really interesting facts about how long it takes us to make decisions.

So the average person takes around 10 minutes to make an everyday decision a study has revealed so late and not an everyday decision. I'll get into it. Okay, I'll get into it. But it's not just like, What should I eat? You don't sit for time. Right? Right. But like, Okay, here's some examples. Deciding which film to watch takes an average of six minutes and 52 seconds. Whether to buy a new item of clothing takes 10 minutes, and eight seconds. Oh, wow. I am way off of these. What do you mean? Oh, it takes me legitimately day weeks probably to decide if I'm gonna get a piece of clothing. Oh, hi, then movie Oh, films. You're talking 45 to an hour? Well, we spend less than eight minutes deciding how much money to put into savings. But we take four days considering how to spend spare cash at the end of the month interest. Yes. And it takes an average of seven days and 13 hours to decide on where to go to vacation. It takes an average of 10 days and six hours to decide what to get your partner or spouse for their birthday. It takes about 15 days and five hours to decide which car to buy. Wow. Isn't that interesting that anyone even studied? I know there was also like a million more. I just chose ones that I thought were like, really interesting, right? Like, I wonder how they did that? How did they quantify it? I guess like they found people like are you thinking about buying a car and they're like, there were like track. When you decide to let us know. You're like, hey, three weeks later, three, three weeks and 47 minutes later? I've decided yeah, but it's, that's a lot of time in our brain that we are spent that we spend just like thinking about what should I do? Yeah. And why is decision making so hard?

Well, it's agonizing. For one, having difficulty making decisions can be a sign of depression, even when one is in the throes of despair. There may be a pessimistic view of reasonable options and an inability to act. It can also stem from anxiety, which is sort of this fear of making the wrong decision and then suffering the consequences or remorse that might inhibit people in some way. Yeah, worrying about a mistake and feeling guilty remissed exposed or ignorant. That's very common. Sometimes people are paralyzed by a fear of hurting or alienating another like a breakup, like, oh, I don't want to hurt them. What do I do and then you're just stuck. I think I think my indecision definitely comes from the fear of making the wrong decision, I think yeah, just like I get into like, what if this isn't the right thing? Well, I get into this thing called analysis paralysis. Oh, where I literally freaked my brain freezes. Like it just stops working. You As an ADHD thing, apparently.

So other studies found a correlation between neuroticism and in decisiveness. The study also suggests that self esteem affects in decisiveness. Lower Self Esteem is associated with higher levels of indecision because you can't trust yourself. Yeah, you can't really trust your own. I mean, that's, I guess, when you can't trust your gut, and it's just like, yeah, coming from a place of, you're scared, you know, you're not secure in what you're thinking. There's also something called the status quo bias, which might also be to blame as to why it's so difficult to make decisions. It's our tendency to stick with what we know, instead of choosing something new and different. We see the alternative as a risk or just not worth the trouble, even if it might be better. And without realizing it, we can become overly resistant to change. Yeah, I mean, it makes sense, like what you know, is safe and choosing something new or going down a different path can be really scary. Yeah. There's this other thing called anchoring bias, right? Yes. So anchoring bias can also affect the choices we make. So when people are trying to make a decision, they often use an anchor or focal point as a reference or starting point, psychologists have found that people have a tendency to rely too heavily on the very first piece of information they learn, which can have a serious impact on the decision they end up making. So like, for example, if you first see a t shirt, and it costs $1,200 dollars, it's a Yeezy t shirt. Have you ever seen a t shirt and it costs $1,200? I wonder if any $1,200 T shirts exist? The second one, you run up on Gaza? $100. Then you're prone. You're probably like, wow, this is the cheapest shirt I've ever seen when in reality $100 for a T shirt wild. I'm sorry, you guys. I did not know that. That that was going to be the example. Wow. It's so yeah. Okay, so just to clarify, if diverse t shirt you see is 1200. And then the second one's 100. You're like this is a deal. $100 t shirt is insane. Right? So you're anchoring to that first piece of information that can make it really difficult or maybe like have you make the wrong choice. Yeah. Decisions can also be difficult due to choice overload, choice, overload can happen anytime we feel overwhelmed by the sheer number of options that we have. And we have such a hard time comparing them that they're less likely to choose anything at all. That's like me with the analysis paralysis thing. My brain can't. It's like, there's too many things. I can't do it.

I took this class at USC called The Science of Happiness. It's like one of the most coveted classes, I took it my senior year. And one big thing that is determinant on happiness is not having a lot of choices. Because if you have too many choices, you're like you always have that what if in your head, you're always like, well, what if I did that, and that's where they said a lot of wealthy people are not as happy because they can they can buy anything, they can have it all. And so like their choices are unlimited, and like they're never happy with the thing they have.

Well, and that's also why I read this exact same thing about why dating today is so bad, because you could just swipe for somebody new wipe for days were like before you know how to really get to if you got on a date with somebody got set up? It would it would took a lot of work to get that and you'd be like let me just really invest my time in person and or like think of if you were given five choices, and they were like, these are your five choices for a month. Talk to one of them. You know, instead it's like, that's a really good idea for dating app. It really is. Wow, if any that comes out like you and you What if you get matched at the top of the month? Right? You have one month with that match? Yeah. And at the end of the month, you both decide if you want to unmatch or match Yes. Wow. Because yeah, you'd have a smaller pool. It'd be like I would love a smaller pool, because you just keep you know, your stripes. So yeah, but you guys if you're indecisive there actually is an upside to in decisiveness. Yeah, it's not always a bad thing. Sometimes hesitation gives you valuable time to think about the situation gives you the chance to gather more information and to weigh the facts. If you can't make a quick decision, it may be a sign that the choice really matters to you. If you're second guessing yourself that could be a warning that you're about to make the wrong decision. The important thing is to not let indecision keep you stuck forever. Yes, you can have like a little Think it over. What about some hard decisions that we face in life? Yeah, one so

the common big decisions that we all make in life. One is choosing like a college major. Deciding on your career making a career change, deciding whether or not to go back to school, figuring out where to live, like you just said, Who to date, if we want to end a relationship, if we want to buy a house, me buying a house, oh my god, that was like the, it was a huge decision, deciding whether to get married whether to have kids, there were all these huge pivotal moments in our lives where you're like, Okay, I'm going one direction or the other, right? And it's almost anxiety inducing either way. Because even when you have a really good thing happen, it's a change where you're like, Oh, my God, you know, yeah, rocks. Yeah. So what are some tangible steps on how to make a decision?

Okay, well, these were based on findings by Bob Ty, BB WBA. He's been a practicing counselor for over 45 years. So the first step is to focus on the ends, not the means. So once you've got a clear idea of what you're ultimately trying to achieve, your freedom to think of other means. So maybe you're feeling unsatisfied at work. And you know that you need to make a change, instead of completely changing careers, which would feel very overwhelming, get clear on what problem you really are looking to solve. Maybe the reality is that you don't like being around the energy of your co workers. So in that case, you could approach your boss and ask if you can move departments, so that makes the decision smaller and less intimidating. Another one of the steps is to focus on your values. By being clear about your boundaries, you discover bottom lines and priorities and by building on them avoid regrets in the future. So let's say you are unsure about the person you're dating. Think about if your values truly aligned with theirs, maybe religion is very important to you, but your partner hates the concept of it long term, you know, it's not gonna really work out and as hard as it might be your values. Make the decision for you. Yeah, that's a very good way. That's a really that's how I was aware of my last relationship. I was like, Yeah, this ankle workout, right? You've made the decision.

Step three, take action. It is easy to get stuck on the fence because you want to make the right decision. And you don't want to do anything until you're very sure. But the best thing to do is to take a baby step in some sort of direction, apply for the new job and see what happens. Go for the interview, see how it goes, send that email you've been meaning to send, and just see what response you get. If you're always waiting for the quote, unquote, perfect moment to do something, you will always find a way to just keep pushing it off. Yeah, my mom always said least having kids, she's like, you're always late. There's never a perfect time to have kids, you could always have more money. I think that's also her trying to coerce, we're gonna have children. She's like, every time she sees me, she's like, grandchildren. I'm like, Mom, I'm literally not even married. I'm not even married. I've given no money. Cool it. Anyways, another step is to talk it out journal and get a second opinion in the process of talking aloud, your thoughts often become more clear, and the dots connect? I'm glad to hear that. Because I talked to myself, Oh, me, too. Day two, I would be put away if so Oh, yeah, I respond myself. Similarly, by getting another's feedback, you get feedback about whether or not you're thinking makes sense. So this can come from a friend or a family member, a person working on another team at the office, someone working in the field, that you're thinking of moving into your therapist, really anyone whose opinion you value and trust. And I think that's important is that you value and trust their opinion. And if this doesn't sound good to you, you could do some journaling, we actually have a whole episode about it, Episode 111. Sometimes when you start writing, even if you don't know really where it's headed, you will start putting the pieces of the puzzle together and are able to see your predicament more clearly.

I find that very accurate. Me too. All right. Step five. Trust your gut. If at some point your head starts to spin with too much information, it's time to look down and check out your emotions and instincts. Here affirming your values and reflecting on your past experiences in making big decisions are good ways of getting those gut reactions. With that being said, you don't want to confuse the good information of emotions and instincts with impulsive reactions and potential acting out. So for example, just because you've been having a rough week at work doesn't mean that you need to impulsively quit and start something new. Pay attention to your overall feelings and emotions about this thing that you're going through. And try not to base your decisions on a temporary feeling or frustration.

That's great advice. Yeah, yeah. Because you can get really hot and heavy in a moment. Yeah. And you're like, fuck, that's right. But maybe not. But then, you know, maybe maybe take a little stock Have the past two weeks or something and be like, oh, you know what that was actually just like one day? Yeah, yeah, I don't need to move away. Another great tip is to just sleep on it, which I love. Giving your mind the opportunity to shift and settle is important. This is like the resting of the dough and making bread or the incubation stage that we find to be so important in the creative process. So give it a day or more focus on other things, see what comes to the surface. And you may be surprised about how you feel towards a certain situation, when isn't the sole focus if you're every waking moment? And I do think that like during sleep, there is this sort I mean, that that's what dreaming is like, right? There is a sorting of your thoughts that you wake up and you do have so much more clarity on something. So sleeping on it is something that I 100% Yeah. And I also just do think like giving it space to breathe. If you keep focusing on it, then you're just, it's gonna be that like, yeah, hamster wheel, hamster wheel, of course. Okay,

now if your decisions feel more existential, sort of like, I don't know what to do with my life. Yeah. Try asking yourself these questions. Number one, what am I doing when I'm slacking off at work? What do you love to research? What do you look up online? Who do you follow on Instagram? All of those things are great insight into what you care about, and what you're like interested in. Yeah. Another question that you can ask yourself is like what blogs and books do I love to read. So when you click on and flip open, when you're relaxing, can provide some insight into your interests. But it's the material that you mentally devour that can further unlock your passion. Mm hmm. Also, you can ask yourself, if I could be anyone for a week, who would it be? Who we admire is a huge indicator of who we secretly would like to become. I'd also works for shadow work, maybe we should do an episode on how to do shadow. I don't even know what that is. So like, if you think of who you're jealous of, or like, what you like, really don't like an oh, I don't like how this person did it. It's always a reflection on you. Yeah, you're really reflecting and being like, why? You can also ask yourself, what do people come to me for? Allow yourself to remember past accomplishments times, you've really helped others let the parts of you that you might secretly feel proud of truly shine. For example, if you're constantly organizing your friend's birthday parties, which always end up being Instagram gold blowouts, taking a course and event planning might be worth your while. A lot of people do have like extraordinaire, extraordinarily good at something. Yeah, they're like, Oh, I didn't know I can really even do this.

Yes. And lastly, what pure and simple fun. For me, it's definitely worth mentioning that what you do for the rest of your life may not even involve quitting your day job, so to speak. In deciding what to do, when you don't know what to do, you may conclude that the career path you're on is fine. And having steady income is good. In this case is more about finding an extracurricular means for injecting more joy, maybe maybe a little cash also into your life. Yes. And okay, so what if your decision is less existential, and more concrete? What are some things you can do to help you make a decision that way? Number one, pro con lists, I love a pro con list, you love a pro. So you just bust out the I literally have like, I make a big T pro con and I go down and I told that to like this when we were researching upset with my ex boyfriend, I had a pro caught if you're if you're making a pro con list about someone you're in relationship with this side, but my ex boyfriend I had a pro con list and it went missing. And I was like, Oh, well, luckily, he never found it. And luckily, we're not together tomorrow.

I love this tip. Imagine yourself a year in the future. What are you doing? Who are you with? Does this decision that you need to make affect those things? Can you not imagine yourself at your current job a year from now? Can you not picture yourself with your partner a year from now? If not, it's time for you to move on. And your answers will tell you exactly what you need to know. I love talking to future me. It's like one of my favorite little activities so fun. Because I feel like that's how you manifest your life. It is how you it's also a manifestation thing. But also I do feel like I feel like I get a lot of guidance from her. Yeah. Another way to make a decision is the five minute rule. The idea behind this tip is to force action through a self imposed deadline. It's simple enough to incorporate anytime you have to make a decision just set the timer and begin the process. Studies show that when people know when a focal task will end, they invest more effort in it. If the decision is a big one, give your Self a longer deadline like a week or a day or you know, whatever, right? I love a ticking clock. That's when I get my best work done is when it's down to the why I have to have a deadline otherwise, yeah, that's a good why Andrew all Okay, think in black and white. This is another little little thing here. There are times when we have more choices than we need. Excess of anything can overwhelm us. But research studies show that the average American adult makes an average of 35,000 decisions a day, which leads to analysis paralysis, there it is, or decision fatigue. Use your decision making skills to judge your options as good or bad. Simplifying and simplifying the process weeding out the less optimal decisions. Another way to make a decision is called the hat trick. So if all options seem to have roughly equal value, write down your best decisions on separate pieces of paper and place them in a hat or bag, your decision will be the one you pull out at random. This is ideal for quick decision making. This also works if you have many tasks you don't want to do but all the tasks in the hat and let fate decide what to do next. Also Joe and I it's so funny. Brooke brought this up to you that Joe and I have a little bag full of vacation. No vacation idea. Oh, so this one ticked? Yeah, we both we did this three years, right when we started dating. Wow. And we put all these ideas in there. And our thought is like our next vacation we'll pull out of here. We've never done it. But we I just found it today. And I was like oh my gosh, want to save it. Yeah, I should do that for like things around my house that I don't want to do. Oh, like a bit like clean out the junk drawer, the organizing the closet and just pull one out and be like, god dammit, I have to do it now. Yeah, that's actually really good. And lastly, flip a coin. I actually do love doing this one. If you have to decide between two things, but just can't seem to make up your mind. flip the coin. Because before it lands, you probably already have a feeling as to which way you want it to land, which helps you make the decision. I always do that when people ask me like, Should I do this or that? And then I flipped the coin. You heard me do that. Once you did that with me. I'm sure I made you do that. And then I'm like, okay, What side do you want it to be? And then if you wanted heads, but its tails, you'd be like, Huh, you know that you want it the other decision? Wow. So many so many tricks. So many tips. Yeah. So we hope you guys learn more about why decisions can be hard to make, how to be more decisive, and how to handle those fork in the road moments. And we hope you guys feel like okay, I'm gonna make that big decision. Whatever your you've been sitting on. Yes, they're hard to make. But we gave you all the steps. We've given you all the stuff lots of tools here. There are a lot of tools. Let us know what decisions you make. I'm so curious. Should we introduce our hottie of the we got our hottie of the week's hilarious because, because of why later, because it's insane why we chose her. I must have been having some type of episode when I decided those two are hottie of the week is Meryl Streep. And if you're like, that's not hilarious, right? She's an icon and a legend and we love her. The reason we chose her is because she's in a movie called Sophie's Choice. Which is a horrifying, the worst decision you ever have to make possibly make in your entire I don't I don't know if it's spoiling the movie. Because it's like, yeah, but essentially she has to choose between which child lives or dies. Right. And that is Sophie's Choice which Listen, I don't none of these tools.

None of these tools help. Meryl Streep and the movie. No. So he just progressed from psychotic. We love her. She's a hottie of the week. Yes. So this let's, let's be reminded of what we've been drinking the blue monkey sparkling watermelon drink. So how are you feeling about it? You guys. It's very fun. It's very fruity. It's very effervescent. Yes. It's very strong, very strong. I will say I toned down a bit. I went a step and I was like, wow, this is really yummy. And now my tummy kind of hurts. I've had like five or six now. And I'm like, Oh, this is really sweet. Yeah, it's too sweet in my opinion. I don't know I thought it was going to be like very like lightly flavored watermelon. So what do you like to do poured this in and like mixed it with this would be a great little mixer. Oh my god, or even like, let's braid. You to cut the I don't know, sprites. Also sweet but it's like a water. It's like strong watermelon. Yeah. And it's not artificial watermelon. It's real watermelon. Yeah. Okay, what's one two Meryl Streep. What are we given blue? Give it a seven. I would give it i would give it a seven I'd give it a seven, seven out of all Merrill.

All right, this is the part of the show where we play a little wrap up game. And this week we're playing BFF quiz is brand new one. Oh, what's the new quiz we're pulling from? Okay. So Natalie, Natalie, and I essentially choose a number and then went through what? This one is 61k, one through 61. And then, I guess I don't know, the context, but we're quizzing either each other or we're asking questions, or I'm unsure but we'll see. Yeah. Okay, so I'm gonna choose 3333. Okay, so this, this is about you? Yes. Okay. If I had to live in another time period, what would I choose? Oh, I was gonna say the 60s. Yeah, but then I'm like, 70s or 80s. You're somewhere in there. I would probably go. 60s 60s. Yeah. Okay, so I always feel like I had somewhere I feel like I died in the 60s or something. Yeah, Natalie. I feel like your musical choices. You're the art. You're inspired by. I'm wearing a door shirt. Jim Morrison. Yeah, like, I just feel like that was kind of your time and your flavor. Yeah. And so I would give you the 60s. I think that's absolutely right. Yeah, I wasn't sure because you would you see why also considered the 70s and the 80s. I can see why you consider the 70s. Also, I don't feel very connected to the 80s. You know what? I don't I don't think you're the 80s either. Yeah. Okay, but I see 70 Like hippie 70s. Sort of 60s is right on the money means mainly 60s Or like, nearly Egypt. Yeah. Yeah. Or they're worded weird. Okay. So word it like you're asked? Yes. Okay, I'm gonna choose 11. Okay, number 11. Yes. What was the first movie I saw in theaters? Ah, I don't know if you would actually know this. But you can give you the one you've told I actually have told you this. I don't know why you would remember. But you could think about our age. And when would I what would be like the first movie I would see in a movie theater. It's pretty classic. Lion King Lion King. Yeah, like, theaters and like, I think most children actually just saw a tick tock on this. That Mufasa is that what you sent a girl that was? I was like, Oh my God, that Mufasa scene when he died? My mom I used to go up there and go, Mommy, you you've got some fast food. I couldn't even walk I could not watch anything psychologically scar. That was really intense. Like and then I you know, I watched a bunch and I every single time I'd go, you have to to this day. I can't watch

the live action one. Did you see that one I did. Also very devastating. It's so sad. So sad. I mean, we could have just if we wanted Mufasa to be killed. I wouldn't have to do it like that. Because that that stayed with me. I do want to do one more. Yeah, we'll do one more. I'll do well. 4545. Oh, this is funny. Huh? Which decade? Okay, it's funny that you chose decade one. Which decade in your opinion? Do I think had the best fashion trends? The 16 decade Do you do you think has the best fashion? Oh, no, no. Well, you're really inspired by the, like, early 2000s 90s. Like, I feel like you've really leaned into that kind of vibe. Yeah, I was gonna say the probably the 90 The 90 Always. Even like back in middle school high school. I was very like grunge. Yeah. And flannels, like, I would say 90s. That's like kind of your awesome. I really feel like you look back at the 90s and it's like, there's a lot of very classic like timeless look. Look early to that. Yeah, I'll take early 2000s back. Yeah, early 2000s is a train wreck. train wreck and the layering the layering, like the long scarves for no reason. Yeah, actually, it was it was an absolute train wreck in fashion. And I don't Yeah, I'd say you're more of a 90s dress and gown. I'm gonna say that is spot on. Know how Okay, okay, I'm gonna do 2929 and feeling fine. Oh, this is I'm so curious about this. If I were to get a tattoo, what would I choose? Oh my and why? Because I don't really fully know. But I'm curious what you would think I'm not I'm open to it. Maybe I'll get a tattoo on day four. You would think I would choose. Oh, okay. This is so weird because I feel like I feel like you told me this one time. And I could be making it up. This could have been a dream. But I feel like you told me that when you were abroad in London, you considered getting, like some sort of London related tattoo. My roommate got a tattoo at London to maybe that's it. Maybe that's what I thought of. Yeah, cuz I wouldn't. That's not something that I think you would do. But I, okay. So I know what it would be so confident. I believe it would be something to do with your children. Okay, like a really pretty like their name or like something to do with your children. Okay, you're not far off because I've always considered getting a tattoo for my mom. And my mom is like really connected to ladybugs. So I've always thought about and my mom wants to tattoo really bad. Like if I called her right now let's go get a tattoo. She'd come down here, but she's also I love her to death. But this woman is crazy. And so I was like, oh, it'd be cute if we ever got like matching like ladybugs. Yes. So it was like a family connection to your family. But I could also see I don't have kids, but I could see me being like, oh, yeah, you do something for them? Yeah, because I know the name of one of your so like, I'm picturing an ID it could because I love that letter. Yes. Yeah. Oh my god, how fun was this is a good question. This one's way better than the other one. All right, you guys. Well, you know, you could always write into the show with episode requests that am I doing this right pod@gmail.com If you have something going on, that you don't really understand a big adult situation or like add on Oh, what is this? I'm a widow adult? Yes, we will do the research and make an episode for you. You can also DM us at am I doing this right pod? And we are bringing back solicited advice. So if you have something going on in your personal professional life, you don't know what to do. If you don't know what to do, we went over is why don't you email us? And we can give you some advice or tip that said, Ask for us as somebody you trust. Hey, we've been here for you every single week, two whole years. You can trust us. And we'll be back next week with another episode. Love you guys. Goodbye.