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S4 E6 The Value of Coaching Skills for L&D Professionals
Episode 625th March 2024 • Coaching in Focus • Become Coaching & Training Ltd
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In this episode, our host Joseph Grech is joined by Patrick Mullarkey, an experienced learning and leadership professional who works in startups and scale-ups within the tech sector. Patrick shares his insights into coaching practice and the way that it supports leadership practices and organizational development. 

On this episode they:

  • Explore coaching misconceptions, including the belief that anyone can coach and the role of learning professionals in coaching
  • Delve into the concept of conscious incompetence in coaching and its implications
  • Explore challenges in democratizing coaching within organizations and the role of external coaches
  • Discuss the importance of ethical practice and integration of coaching principles

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Joseph:

Hello everyone and welcome to our latest episode of Coaching In Focus.

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I am joined today by the

wonderful Patrick Malarkey.

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Patrick, how are you doing today?

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Patrick: I'm great.

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I'm good.

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It's been a good week.

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Life is good.

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I'm talking to you which

makes life even better.

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And my week all the brighter.

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So yeah, how are you?

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You good?

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Joseph: I'm here.

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I'm doing very well.

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And thanks for being here today.

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Patrick is a learning and

leadership professional.

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He works across a number of

different sectors and most recently

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in startups and scale ups in tech.

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As a learning professional, Patrick

and I have worked together for quite

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a few years actually and Patrick

also has an interest in coaching and

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mentoring, particularly how these

support leadership practices, leadership

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development across organizations.

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So I thought it would be great for us to

have a conversation in relation to this.

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So Patrick, thank you for spending

a bit of time with me today.

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I really appreciate it.

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Maybe tell us a little bit about

yourself, your work, what are some type

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of L& D and coaching stuff that you do?

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Patrick: I like to view myself as

being like consciously incompetent to

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a certain degree of coaching and we

might come on to this a little bit.

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I'm a learning professional by trade.

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10 years working on learning

development in various roles, managerial

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consultancies, public sector and so on.

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But most recently, found a

home in tech essentially.

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And I love the sector and the kind of,

the people and the teams you get to work

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with, and it's a very dynamic environment.

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How and where kind of coaching

comes into some of this?

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I think there's lots of nuance in

coaching, but there's also a lot of

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misunderstanding sometimes around it.

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And I think sometimes organizations and

learning teams, we suffer from like,

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there's a lack of barriers to entry.

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in parts of coaching, which I think

sometimes skews the views of what a

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good or great coach can look like.

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For me, I feel a confident say, you know,

about my expertise and ability around

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being a learning leadership management

professional, whatever label you use.

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But I've got like a respect and reverence

in terms of what good coaching looks like.

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The notion around What makes a great

coach, what effective coaching looks like,

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also how that scales in organizations,

because it doesn't necessarily always

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does, which is tricky, can be quite

drastically different to the realities

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of what people say or how people

present themselves as a exec, life

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coach, however you want to describe it.

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Um, I do think that's

changing, fortunately.

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I feel like the last, uh, It's been

refined and people have been more

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deliberate about it, but I believe

there's massive, massive value to

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how aware you apply your skills, um,

and using the coach as a resource

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and support through that journey.

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Joseph: Oh, thank you,

Patrick, for sharing that.

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So much richness, I feel, and what

you said, and I found myself like

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writing things down because I want

to ask you questions about it.

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Um, and I can echo that sentiment

having worked in L& D and how I got into

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coaching in a way I found myself being.

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I'm not saying he pushed, I wanted

to do it, but it feels like it's

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a natural progression for NLD

professionals to move from Working

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with groups to working individually.

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And sometimes there isn't that

development, that training, that

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focus on how we use coaching

skills differently from training.

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We kind of go, well, you train

big groups, train in quotes.

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One person.

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Yeah.

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Patrick: Yeah.

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Joseph: You mentioned that word conscious

incompetence in relation to coaching.

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Uh, let's unpick that a bit.

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Patrick: Yeah, yeah.

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So I won't bore people if you're

listening to this part You've

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probably got a sense of that cycle

of like consciously incompetence.

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I'm gonna get the order wrong So

I'm not gonna try and repeat it.

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Put it in the show notes.

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Yeah, the classic put

it in the show notes.

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What, how, why do I describe myself as

falling into that bracket is that I've

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got a notion around kind of certain

coaching models, uh, in conversations

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and techniques, but in terms of

formalized deliberate practice for

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myself as a coach or mentor, it's been

quite piecemeal and not deliberate.

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As strategic as say, I think of some

of the individuals you've had on this

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podcast previously and people who are

full time coaches who have been accredited

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via programs that you run or elsewhere.

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They've got a very deliberate set

of toolkits and frameworks they

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can refer back on, but also that

sense of deliberate practice.

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And there's something here, and

this is where it gets a bit gray,

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I think, and this is where the

barriers to entry suddenly lower.

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There's something around temperament.

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There's something around application

of skills that are akin to

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counselors as well that you bring in.

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And then suddenly you bring certain

coaches start bringing techniques around.

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So for example, cognitive behavior

therapy and stuff like that just to

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help challenge limiting beliefs and

all of that stuff I find fascinating.

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But I am, I feel as though across

the board, there's very levels of

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competence, but I'd bucket it as

like, I would not feel as though I'm

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an expert, which is partly why I say

to my stakeholders when I work with

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them, here's my benefit of value add.

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Here's the areas like, okay.

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You, I'm nailed on succeeding for

you, but here's the gaps as well.

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We might not need these skills or gaps

for our projects or in the organization,

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but let's be really deliberate.

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So we're kind of on the same page.

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And then the flip side is as well,

to your point earlier, and this might

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be a slight tangent is, um, I've seen

it a lot as a natural progression

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for learning professionals who've

gone from these group settings to

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gradually more intimate, refined,

single group experiences as they perhaps

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they've gone up the management chain.

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They become nearer C suite

or senior leadership roles.

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And those can be really fulfilling

and as well, frankly, commercially

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more impactful for your bank balance,

but they are exposing as well.

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And again, that's where the

piece around, I suppose.

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You've got to treat access

to those opportunities as a

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consequence, not a reward.

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So it's a consequence of your

behaviors, your, uh, deliberate

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practice and stuff you're doing.

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Not just the reward for tenure

or service sometimes or framing

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yourself as some sort of I hesitate

to use the phrase life coach.

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I'm not trying to damn any One

in that element of the coaching

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industry, but presenting yourself

as, as a self declared coach.

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Yeah.

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I think it'd be tricky.

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Joseph: That's the trick of it, isn't it?

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Whether you're a life coach or executive

coach or business coaches of a aspect.

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It's how, because the

industry is unregulated.

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So to a degree, anyone can

call themselves a coach.

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If we think from an L& D point of view,

like the CIPD has got quite a strong

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hold in terms of a qualification pathway.

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Yeah, we do have that from coaching,

like the ICF and other awarding bodies.

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But there's a lot of differences.

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Like if you do an ILM program in

coaching, it is very organizational based.

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It's very much so transactional.

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So you might probably not

go into cognitive behavioral

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work or limiting beliefs.

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But if you're doing an

ICF one, which is broader.

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But there isn't this unified kind of

standard that L& D professionals or anyone

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can just pick up on and get trained on.

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There's a lot of different

training programs, lots of ways

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how you can become a coach.

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Patrick: Yeah, and it's partly as

well, and that's before, it's funny,

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that's what I thought you were saying

then, that's before you even put like

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regional variants in, like of like say,

established providers or bodies in the U.

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S.

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versus EMEA and so on and so forth.

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And then there's even like the

cultural rapport pieces that layer

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underneath around like, you know,

how people interact and around

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communication and culture and so on.

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But again, that's why as well,

I think it's really valuable

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for like a learning function.

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If you have a learning professional who's

moving in that direction and goes down one

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of the paths you've outlined, fantastic,

like they're refining their craft towards

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an outcome or goal of being perhaps a full

time coach or that being a key feature

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of their offer as an employee, but this

strength and power and saying, actually,

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like, you know, I, I find those areas

fascinating, but I'm not in this point in

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the career where I'm about to, you know,

Narrow in and do a specific qualification.

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I might be in the next 18 months

full depreciation to anyone who sees

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my LinkedIn in the next two years.

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You're always welcome to join

one of our Yeah, I knew that.

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A warm lead for you Joseph.

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Joseph: You'll be very welcome.

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Patrick: Joseph will also

include his mate's rates

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discount in the show notes too.

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Yeah.

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Um, but again, I don't think

there's frictional tension.

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In between, if I was to say the two camps

of learning and coaching professionals

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per se, but I have seen certain

stakeholders in the learning camp who

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not, it's threatened the right word.

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I don't know, but like slight cynicism

around like, Oh, what does that coach do?

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Is it, isn't it just the grow model?

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Is that it?

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Is that all they got?

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And it could be, but actually more

often than not, there's a lot more

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to it that they actually bring

to the, to the table challenge.

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I think in organizations that are.

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Changing rapidly or growing fast, like,

you know, that's the story of my previous

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three or four years is, um, trying to

get coaching practices that scale is

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very, very difficult because just the

cost involved and in the quality control.

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And I think there's some

organizations and some companies

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who are doing some brilliant stuff.

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Uh, using technology to

address that challenge.

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And I think it's, it will not become

as big a challenge as it currently

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feels today, but I can see as well,

like the notion of democratizing

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coaching can be tricky 'cause giving

it to the c-suite, senior leaders,

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you'll see ime you can, you can, the

impacts can resonate really clearly.

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And then if you try and spread that

out over hundreds of people, that's

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trickier to manage, but also deliver on.

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Did

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Joseph: you know that at Become, we offer

a number of different coach training

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programs to people just like you.

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If you're new to coaching, there is a

level one diploma in integrative coaching.

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If you've been coaching for a while,

or perhaps you're already an ACC coach,

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then we have the advanced diploma in

integrative coaching, which leads all

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the way to the PCC credential by the ICF.

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We also have a number of CPD

programs and certificates,

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including mentoring and supervision.

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To find out more, go to tubicam.

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org or just check the show notes.

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There's an analogy that

came to mind actually.

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It's like where you have a really

good Sales practitioner and then

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they get promoted to a sales manager,

but actually they don't understand

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this, that like they, that they've

not been trained as a manager.

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And I think sometimes in L& D, we're

a really good trainer facilitator.

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We, we then start doing coaching, but

we don't get trained into coaching and

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there's different, you know, there's the

expectation that we can, we can do both.

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The other aspect is around

democratizing coaching.

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And.

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That is a challenge because in a

lot of organization coaching is

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offered at like at exec levels.

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What I'm finding is there's a lot

more kind of train the trainer

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approaches where L& D is coming in and

let's say training line managers on.

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I do generally believe that not

everyone It needs to be a coach.

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I mean, kind of like, I do think everyone

would benefit with coaching skills, but

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just, uh, like knowing the growth model is

better than not knowing anything, knowing

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some CBT kind of type discussions that

you could have with your team members

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is better than not knowing anything.

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So a little bit, I feel

like goes a long way.

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Um, and an L and D I'm

finding that we're doing.

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We're doing some of that.

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Like a lot of NLP practitioners are

becoming coaches so that they then

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train their own managers on how to

have coaching conversations rather

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than just an hour coaching session.

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I mean, what do you think?

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Are you seeing this more in practice?

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Patrick: Yeah.

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And part of it is skills building

for the individual concerned.

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Like that's definitely a motivator, but

there is a perception around if, you

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know, that train the trainer approach.

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I'm not necessarily It has its moments

depending on the topic or task.

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I always say to people though, that can

work, but let's be conscious around who's

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your trainer for because you're training

out their preferences and biases as well.

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If we're comfortable, whatever

they're bringing to the table.

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And I, and when I say that, I

include myself in that is like, you

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know, I've got certain preferences

and work style facilitation,

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however you want to label it.

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Are we happy to duplicate those?

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and amplify those behaviors.

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If so, great.

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But if not, or we have a risk

or concern we need to manage,

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let's have that conversation.

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And this kind of feeds into more

broadly, like, have you done an effective

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analysis or discovery piece at the start?

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I think as well, frankly, that there's,

I hesitate to say this, but like, I

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think sometimes we, I say we, learning

industry, learning professionals,

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learning leaders, we have to deal with

our stakeholders perception, their own

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experience of education and learning.

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So, for example, I'm going to

make wild generalizations now just

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for the benefit of this, but just

stay with me, Lister and Joseph.

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C suite individuals have got to their

point in time in their career via certain

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experiences, projects, and outcomes.

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Their point of reference,

therefore, for success, i.

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e.

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how do we help people get to my level,

is based on their own lived experience.

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So that might be a trainer trainer

approach, but it's not necessarily

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the most effective in terms of

dealing or rolling out behaviours.

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And then that's where it gets

interesting to say, well look, and go

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back to my preferences and bias piece.

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Would we benefit from using a third party

or a supplier to scale this up and out?

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I often think organizations are quite

receptive to a conversation around not

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an ongoing engagement like people joke

about like a supplier being like a

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barnacle on the side of a ship you just

can't get it off once it's on in but

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taking like a phased approach and being

honest with suppliers say look first

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three to six months We're going to be

leveraging so many of your people to

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roll this out during our embed phase.

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But gradually a metric for success

is growing our own and embedding the

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behaviors that we want to mirror.

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If the people you're getting in the

supplies are good, effective at what

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they do, I don't think it's, I think

it might be overambitious to try and

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match their expertise, but try and

get like 78 percent of the way, and

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then the 20 percent might be nuanced,

that's organizational specific.

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Sorry, it was a bit of a tangent.

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I'm not sure I've answered your question.

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Joseph: I'm also getting the feeling

around, you know, Some of the advantages

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of using, let's say, external coaches

for the coaching itself, not just

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about building the programs and the

strength trainer approach, but also

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this idea that that's why a lot of

organizations still kind of really

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rely on external coaches because of

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Patrick: that.

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Yeah.

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And they play the role

of a neutral third party.

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I think my most prior to where

I am now, my second to last

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organization, there was like.

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elements of like a coaching

program that was rolled out.

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I can think of three or four individuals

who continued the engagement with

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that coach privately, not like on an

ongoing yearly basis year on year, but

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like for a specific period, because

what they found was the program that

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brought them together as a coach,

coachee had a specific aim or outcome.

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As the coaching relationship developed,

they found really, you know, The problem

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outcome, the organization one, was

actually not what the coachee needed

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help with, and that was kind of separate.

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But they wanted to address

both, so they're exploring both.

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They couldn't have done that, say, in the

same way or same effectiveness of say, me

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as a fellow peer employee was the coach.

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They'd get some value, but they

perhaps wouldn't have gone to as

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vulnerable, as sensitive in areas.

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That they did in the end, some of

those individuals, I won't breach any

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confidence for going in detail about it.

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And again, going back to your point

around that we talked about earlier on

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quality, I would be able to get them

so far in terms of that, the depth and

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value of that coaching interaction.

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But someone who has that wealth of

experience qualifications was able to go

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really deep and in a way that was, um, I

don't know if safeguarding is the right

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way to kind of bring it up here, but.

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You, you can uncover some really deep

stuff that's sensitive linked to someone's

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identity and personality not just their

professionalism and their skill set But

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there could be anchors you're raising

from the ground that have created limiting

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beliefs or behaviors that have held them

back for decades That's again, that's

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where you need someone who's not just,

you know, effective at, you know, looking

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like you Um, signals and signs around

safeguarding or challenging conversations,

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but it knows how to navigate those.

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And, and again, quality of

coaches bringing out some of

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those counseling skills as well.

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That's where you see it shine through.

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Don't get me wrong.

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Sometimes it's just not feasible.

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And also it's not the top

priority to, to use coach

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suppliers in your in house space.

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But, um, look at it this way.

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If, um, this is too simple, but I had

a friend who used to talk about it

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in this context, if I break my arm.

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Do I go to a GP to then get triaged

and referred, or do I go to hospital

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to speak to the arm specialist?

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If I've got a choice, I'm going to the

hospital to speak to the arm specialist,

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same way if I've got like a coaching

engagement who someone's gonna work

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through a challenge, would I rather do

that or use the learning professional who

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might have mixed ability in that space?

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Joseph: What's really interesting

in what you're saying is though your

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awareness of ethical practice Right.

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And I feel that's quite unique because

sometimes when I'm speaking to coaches who

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might not be accredited or might not be,

uh, have been fully trained, that's one

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thing that I noticed there isn't as much.

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So it's really nice to see

that in you, this idea around

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safeguarding and ethical practice.

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And you know, the example that you said

around not being to enter into dialogue

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around some sensitive information,

that's also the coach's awareness.

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of their own boundaries, uh,

in the coaching relationship.

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So there is also that professionalism

and that increased self awareness.

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Do you see what I mean by that?

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Patrick: Yeah, absolutely.

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And it's interesting when, um, I hate

the phrase, but people recognize it.

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Like the beauty parade you go

through sometimes with suppliers

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and they're presenting like their

model and products and how it fits.

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I always do it whether it's

a learning or coaching thing.

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I'll say looking forward to the meeting.

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By the way, here's a list of FAQs.

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Can you clarify what?

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mechanisms or tools you have in

place for some of these questions.

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And there'll always be something

around what do you do when you have

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a safeguarding risk or concern?

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How do you manage that in a way that,

uh, doesn't compromise integrity and

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the confidentiality of the relationship?

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How or whenever have you dealt

with instances in the past?

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And it's always interesting.

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I've raised that in sales calls

sometimes with the sellers, the sales

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team for the coach and provider.

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And when you throw that out there, that's

quite telling because the amount of

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them that say, Hey, I've got no clue.

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What do you mean by that?

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I don't quite understand.

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Versus the sales teams who say,

we've got a process for that.

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I don't have its hand.

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I can email it straight after

this call and I can get a

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coach to talk you through it.

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It's really important because

the thing is, is, you know, I'm

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going to butcher this phrase.

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You can correct it.

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You'll probably notice better than I was

like, you're not coaching the problem.

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You're coaching the

person in front of you.

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You're dealing with all their You know,

sometimes there's not just a stakeholder

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relationships in a professional

life, but their personal life too.

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And their own, um, I use that word

again, their sense of identity, their

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persona and where they see themselves.

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So that like, again, this is all coming

back around to that point of like, you

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know, patriarchy can do apply coaching

principles and grow model behaviors,

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whatever it might be a framework.

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But Dealing with some of these really,

really like detailed facets of an

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individual requires like, you know, a

certain level of professionalism that

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you should not accept anything less.

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Joseph: That element of coaching is

not just a transactional activity

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where you are saying, you know,

typically like grow, I find is

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used in a very transactional way.

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Like, what's your problem?

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Whereabouts are you with it now?

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What can you do about it?

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Let's move on.

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Patrick: The end user, the

coachee, is very aware of that.

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Like the proliferation of the model.

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And again, this isn't a

critique of the model.

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It's just, it's out there everywhere.

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And I seen it the flip side,

like, um, it's like tangent.

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There's been like two or three

times I've used counselling services

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at various points in my lives.

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I remember the second time I could

laugh about it now, but the way the

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counsellor managed the conversation, I

was like, we're doing a grow model here.

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Hang on.

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What?

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Like, And we're literally,

we're navigating through this

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so we don't overrun on time.

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And I even got a fact sheet at the

end, like this little crib sheet.

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I was like, hang on, what is this?

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And I was like, it was a great

example, like the same principle

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of like, um, I think sometimes your

intrinsic motivation will come out

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quite starkly in your behavior.

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Again, like the grow model is fantastic.

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We can, by the way, if anyone's listened

to this, we're not bashing the grow model.

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It's just kind of, it's just so

familiar and normally present.

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Joseph: A lot of our listeners though,

just, and this is not, this sometimes

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come up, that's one thing that we actually

talk about quite a lot on the Diploma

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that The whole reason why I created the

Diploma is because in my experience, I was

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putting the model in front of the person.

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I learned Grow when I was

just using Grow all the time.

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Then I learned CBT stuff and I

was using those all the time.

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And I found it was

really highly unethical.

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So, irrelevant of any model

that we're choosing, if we're

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stamping out that model onto the

individual, It doesn't feel right.

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And the integrative diploma focuses on

how do we integrate coaching principles?

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How do we integrate your own values?

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How do we integrate all of these

different models are psychologically

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evidence based in a way that

supports the client and not just.

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You and the session to run the session.

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Patrick: Yeah, and that's interesting

then because suddenly you're talking about

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moving away from a more transactional

moment, which can have value to

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something that's sustainable beyond

the conversation, because if you're

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exploring around my values, my drivers,

my principles of behavior as well.

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You feed it into like standards

of performance and professionalism

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and personal, not standards of

personality, that isn't a thing.

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Um, but suddenly that those are

much broader, I suppose, um,

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bigger things to, to adapt and

change and they're sustainable.

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Beyond the conversation as well.

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That's quite interesting.

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Joseph: Yeah.

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Yeah, very much so.

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Um, what do you feel, uh, some, perhaps

we already talking about some of

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them, but what could be some common

misconceptions that L& D professionals,

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you know, may have about coaching?

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Patrick: There's a contradiction to what

I'm going to say, but I'll share it.

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One is that anyone can do it or on the

flip side, learning professionals a

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better place to do it than say, L& D.

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another part of the

organization or, or, or a team.

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That second part, let me just

speak on that for a moment.

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This is my own bias coming out.

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So I worked at a management

consultancy years ago and, um, I had

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a colleague in the marketing team.

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I got on really well with her.

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We didn't work that close together, but

always grabbed a coffee now and again.

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And then she mentioned, she said,

Oh, We were talking about some of

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the projects I was working on and

I said something about coaching or

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workshop delivery, something like that.

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She said, Oh, I'm doing

my coaching qualification.

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And I remember my reaction.

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It was so ignorant.

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I was like, you, you're a market,

what are you talking about?

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And, um, again, a sign of how immature

and junior I was at that point.

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And she was like, yeah, cause like, you

know, I like, I want to apply some of

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this to like, just my own sideline side

hustle, but also my day to day work.

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And it really brought to life to me that

conversation that just, we used to laugh

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about it since, but it's like, I think

there's a misconception sometimes around,

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we are sometimes operating at a higher.

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standard of, I'll use that word

again, competency, or we're starting

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with a higher floor than some of our

peers in other functions or areas.

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Some of the best coaches or application

of coaching skills I've seen have

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been in from quite technical business

areas with leaders who just get the

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notion of actually being of service

to the person in front of them and

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how that informs their behavior.

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Then applying good skills from that.

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But I think that's, that's like,

it's more of an, I'd say as well,

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like I, again, my preferences,

my biases are coming out here.

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So anyone listening, don't

shout too much if you disagree.

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I think that like learning has that,

learning functions have that more broadly

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around So, for example, facilitation, I've

seen it with certain learning functions,

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try and train, say, presentation skills

that are just an easy one to talk about.

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Try and train a population up on

that skill set when actually some

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of them are more capable than the

people facilitating and running the

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learning or education in that space.

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So, I think the notion that somehow

we're starting with a head start because

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of our day job, um, is a misconception.

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Being curious and intellectually curious.

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around your own development

and the person in front of you

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will bridge many of those gaps.

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Joseph: It's the idea that the

emotional maturity in a way is more

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important, isn't it, than the role.

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And we do get that.

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We have a lot of marketeers through the

program, a lot of lawyers, um, teachers,

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all sorts of different professions.

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And people will say, I just want to

do it for myself because I want to

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communicate better with other people.

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I want to understand myself better.

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Patrick: If anyone I know has gone

through some sort of program, they've

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come out the other side saying, Their

expectation was one thing, but the

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outcome was the self awareness that

they didn't, they hoped for or did

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not expect is leveled up so much more.

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And that's powerful.

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And then once you're informed of

that stuff, you can't go back.

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You can only get forward.

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So that's good stuff.

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Joseph: We're getting pretty close

towards the end of this podcast.

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Patrick.

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And it's been wonderful talking to you

about, you know, some of these applied

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coaching principles, like in practice.

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Um, so thank you for sharing,

you know, some of your knowledge.

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Like I appreciate it.

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I know it's going to be something

that our viewers will also

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really enjoy listening to.

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Patrick: Nice.

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No, it's been great to talk about it.

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And you and I know we could talk

about for hours about this and

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it's all just to acknowledge you.

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As someone, a massive help in my career

as, as like a coach, a manager, a leader.

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And, um, it's so great just to see what

you're doing now with the pod and the

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business and beyond and stuff like this.

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We need more coaches like yourself, so.

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Oh, thanks Patrick.

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And

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Joseph: to yourself, you know, um, Stop

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Patrick: it.

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Stop

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Joseph: it.

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Patrick: Everyone's been sick,

cringing, listening to us now.

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Joseph: No, they're

not, they're not at all.

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But thank you once again,

Patrick, and lovely to see you.

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Patrick: Cool.

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Take care.

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