In this episode of The Karen Kenney Show, I talk about the ​"missing pieces​" in our live​s.

Not just the painful things that happened to us​, but ​also the love, protection, ​witnessing, or tenderness ​that we didn’t get​, ​but should have.

W​e get into how that silent absence ​of what was missing, can become its own kind of ​not often talked about trauma.

I share about a recent death in ​t​he family​ and why I’m ​sad about and grieving ​a​ person I never met or got ​the chance to know​.

I also connect how that ties into ​both what I call the “never life​" - which is the life that didn’t happen and ​now (for whatever reason) can’t​ happen...

And, the lonely grief​ of what Cheryl Strayed calls the ​"sister life​" - that life you only got to live in your dreams and imagination.

We explore childhood neglect, the trauma of omission, ​and revisit Linda Thai’s powerful teaching that​, “​Trauma isn’t just what happened, it’s what didn’t happen that should have happened​.”

I also walk​ through how I ​often work with my own missing pieces:

1) Sitting with my feelings ​(instead of abandoning myself​).

​2) ​Being gentle and merciful with younger parts of me.

​3) M​a​king my way in the direction of acceptance.

​4) Eventually asking, “Now what?”- so ​I can start leaning back toward the light​ and new dreams.

If you’ve ever felt sad about the family you didn’t have, the love you didn’t receive, or that​ version of your life that never got its time in the sun, ​then this ​one’s for you.

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Karen Kenney is a writer, speaker, podcaster, certified spiritual mentor, and coach.

She’s known for her dynamic storytelling, her sense of humor, her Boston accent, and her no-bullshit approach to spirituality, self​-development, and transformational change work.

Karen helps people to navigate this whole “being human” experience using a variety of practical tools, personal stories, and universal principles.

She's been a yoga teacher for 25+ years, has been a Thai Yoga Massage practitioner since 2008.

She's also a Gateless Writing Instructor, the creator of WRITE CLUB , and the host of The Karen Kenney Show podcast.

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Hey, you guys. Welcome to the Karen Kenney Show. I'm

really happy to be here with you today, and just please forgive

me, my brain's a little discombobulated, and I'm going

to do my best to try to make this helpful to you and also

helpful to myself, because one of the things I know for sure is

that everything that I say on this show is also for my ears,

my mind, my heart, my well-being, as well. You know,

at the end of the show, I always say, you know, may we leave the

people, the animals, ourselves, whatever, better than how you

found it. That's me too. I'm always hoping baby Jesus in a

walnut shall help me. I'm always trying to leave myself better

than how I first found me as well. So I'm going to try to

connect a couple of different thoughts that occurred to me

over the last last, I don't know, 24 hours. I'm going to

start, of course, with a little bit of a story, and then

hopefully some of the stuff that I share will be, will be helpful

to you as well in some way. So, there was, so we had a death, we

had a death in the family, and it wasn't a person that I had

the opportunity to know or to meet, and yet I find myself just

really deeply sad. So I've been thinking about this, and a

couple of the things that have occurred to me, and I want to

share these thoughts with you, because I think that they're

relatable. I think that other people are going to be like,

yeah, me too. But this is something, the thing that I'm

going to talk about today. I, me personally, maybe it happens in

other communities, or whatever, in other groups of people, but

for me, this isn't something that gets talked about a lot. I

think, in a big way, or publicly. So, I'm going to start

with this, this idea, and like a little story, and then I'll get

into what, what the hell I'm talking about. So, I think I'm

going to call this episode The Missing Pieces, and as soon as I

thought that word, The Missing Pieces, right, it made me think

of Shel Silverstein's book, so Shel Silverstein is a children's

writer, but also his books have, I feel like, adults as well, you

know what I mean. And he had this book that I've thought

about for a really long time, you might know him for, like,

Where the Sidewalk Ends or The Giving Tree, or whatever, but

this, this, there's two books, I think, I think it's two books in

this series, and the first one is called The Missing Piece, and

The Missing Piece is kind of like this philosophical fable

about this little - I call him this little guy, but he looks

like a little Pac Man. I think of him as like a little rock or

a stone, and he's like, think of him as a circle who's missing a

wedge, he's missing a piece of himself, like a piece of pie has

been cut out, right, like that kind of a shape, and it feels

this lack, it feels this missing piece, and so it sets off on

this journey to kind of find its perfect fitting missing piece,

and of course, as it rolls around, it tries to, like, you

know, pick up missing pieces, and some of the pieces are too

big, some of the pieces you know are too small, some of the

pieces go in backwards. There'll be a piece that gets picked up,

and then whatever, right? And so it thinks it's finding, you

know, this perfect missing piece, but once it gets that

perfect missing piece, it starts to roll too fast, and then it

can't sing and do all the things it like to do anymore. It's a

really interesting book about the journey, the like being on

the journey rather than trying to have this perfect outcome.

And then there's, I think, there's a second piece it calls

like the missing piece meets the big O, or something like that.

But really, why I'm telling you this is this: there's this

premise of like we're rolling around in the world, right?

We're just going about our business, we're like trying to,

trying to do this whole being human thing, this big ass

experiment in life school that we're in, and a lot of us are

walking around with like these big missing pieces, and it got

me to thinking about this idea of trauma, and how, like, you

know, these days, like, trauma is everywhere. People are

talking about it, people are using the word wrong. Oh, it's

traumatized because my, my, they made my coffee wrong. No, no,

you weren't traumatized by that. Sorry, but it's just a word that

kind of gets used a lot, and it's thrown along, or thrown

around a lot. But one of the things that we often talk about

in trauma is what happened, these things that happened, but

what gets like the conversation that I think that is often

missing more often than not is talking about those missing

pieces, so let me explain, so. I remember when I had Linda Ty.

Linda Ty is a brilliant teacher and speaker and storyteller, and

she's a trauma therapist. She's about to start writing a book.

She flies all over the world, educating people, people, and

doing psychodrama experiences. Like, she does so much. She's

incredible. And I've been lucky enough to have her on my show

twice, and I'll never forget the first time I had her on my show.

And you can just, if you want to listen to, I highly recommend

going back and listening to those episodes. I think the

first one was Our Bodies Hold Our Stories, or something like

that, but you can just find a Karen Kenney Show, Google Linda

Ty, T H A I, and I'll never forget talking to her, and all

of a sudden she said something that I had never ever heard

before, and she said, you know, trauma isn't just what happened,

it's not just all like the bad things that happened. So her

quote was, trauma isn't just what happened, it's also what

didn't happen that should have happened. I remember when I

heard that, I was like, whoa, whoa, like, stop. Can you please

repeat what you just said, not only for my listeners, but like

I needed to hear it again too. She said, trauma isn't just what

happened, like it's what didn't happen that should have

happened, and I was like, oh my god, and it would just like hit

me like a ton of bricks. It was like, trauma isn't just the bad

things that happen to us, it's also like the emotional support,

the protection, the validation, the unshaming witnessing, the

unconditional love, the, you know, all of it that should have

happened but didn't happen. So, I think of it like this. So,

trauma doesn't only result from these bad, tragic, awful,

abusive, whatever things that happen. Sometimes it's also a

result of the good things that didn't happen, and so often we

talk about, we fixate on the events, right? Whether it was, I

mean, there's a million ways we can get traumatized, right? It's

like, whether it's a war, or you had to flee your country, or

somebody got killed, or a parent died or there was a murder or a

rape or a physical, emotional, mental, sexual abuse. I mean,

this, there's so many bad things that can happen, and we talk a

lot about those things, and we talk about the interventions to

those things, we talk about the therapy for those things, the

healing for those things. How you can go about like finding

support groups or seeing a counselor or finding whatever

you know, but so much less attention is paid to the very

real and the deeply. what's the word I'm looking for?

Significant, I guess, effects of what was missing, like, yeah,

this event happened, this thing happened, we can talk about

those things, but it's like the things that were missing.

Sometimes it's called, like, some.. sometimes we'll say,

like, well, there was childhood neglect. I remember somebody

talking to me about that, saying that I was.. they described me

as, as being, being neglected, and I kept, like, looking at

them, like I always use this example, you know, when a dog,

he has like a funny sound and they tilt their head, right? I

was like, wait, what, like neglected, because my ideas of

neglect, right?

I was like, well, I had like a roof over my head, like I was

fed, there were like clothes on my back, you know, like holy

shit. So a lot of times neglect can be like difficult to see,

and if you were a kid who like kind of grew up like feeling

invisible or your needs weren't met, or you weren't allowed to

have needs, or your distress, or your fear, or your whatever was

not met with compassion, or kindness, or a listening ear, or

somebody to console you, or comfort you, or see you, or

support you, or love you, right, like, like that was a really big

deal, and again, when we think about trauma, we're looking for,

we're looking for the presence of these like really harmful

experiences, but it's also somebody once said it like this,

I wrote this down, it says neglect requires us to notice

the absence of the necessary ones, it's like we have to

notice the absence of the necessary experiences that we

also needed, you know, so they sometimes call this the trauma

of a mission, the trauma of omit. And it's they call it

there's a deficit, there's a deficit that can happen in our

childhood that really, really shapes us, and it shapes not

only us, it shapes our behaviors, the way we think

about ourselves in the world, it shapes our nervous system, you

know, so well, you know, they say active abuse, or like, you

know, those big traumatic abuses, and all the different

ways, of course, it can cause direct harm, but the absence of

those necessary experiences, like examples, could be like

being soothed when you were scared, or worried, or upset, or

like again, you were taught that your feelings didn't matter.

There was no unconditional love, like all those things, right?

These things also create these invisible wounds. So, the things

that didn't happen that should have happened also leave a mock.

They also have an impact. It's these missing pieces where maybe

we again we didn't get the emotional support, the physical

support, the nourishment that we needed, the nurturing that we

needed, you know, and this can really, this can have an impact,

and the reason why I'm talking about this, as we go back to the

beginning of what I said, is that, you know, there are just,

we, I did, we just had this loss, and I was like thinking

about, like, well, I didn't know this person, I didn't have a

chance to meet them, like, and I was so sad, and I was like

crying, and.. and it occurred to me, it occurred to me that what

I'm about to say next is tied to this idea of the missing pieces,

you know, the things that didn't happen that should have

happened, and now I realize the grief that I'm feeling is for

the things that now won't happen, because that person is

no longer in the world, and it's like, you know, there have been

so many times, maybe you can relate to this, but there have

been so many times, you know, where I've been out driving, or

in the car with my sweetie, or whatever it is, and let's say

it's the holidays, it's around the holidays, like Thanksgiving,

Christmas, right, so it gets dark a little bit earlier, so,

of course, you know, I prefer, I prefer a high sun, high light,

high summer, right? Like, that's my time of year, but when those

warmer, I mean, when the colder months, the darker months start

to show up, you know, some of the nice things that help me to

get through it, you know, and I don't, I actually don't have

seasonal depressive disorder, those seasonal affective

disorder SADS, I don't have it, but I crave, I crave the light,

right?

I know this, but the reason why I'm saying this is a lot of

times you drive around in neighborhoods at night and

you'll see the lights on right around the holiday, you see that

warm glow coming from the inside and you see all the holiday

lights up and you see, like, 1000 cars, like, packed in the

driveway or along the road, because everybody's getting

together, and everybody's, you know, enjoying the holidays

together, and there is a part of me that sees that, and what I

feel like, I, for so long, I was like, why do I get teary-eyed

whenever I see that, and yes, there's a part of me that is

like, I love that. I love knowing that families are

getting together. I love that it looks so warm and cozy, it's

nostalgic, it's beautiful, whatever. But I also realize

there's a part of me in there that has like this longing,

there's like this desire for that kind of like connection

with family, or you know, just that scene, and who's to say it

could be a shit show inside that house, right? Everybody could be

drunk and fighting, who knows, right? Always it's the outside

looking in, but we have this idea in our mind of what it

could be like, and I was thinking about this, so we

sometimes think of this sadness, or this longing, or this grief

that we're feeling a lot of times. It's like for the things

that we wanted that never happened for us. You can think

of it like people call it different things, but you can

call it like the never life. You know, the never life is the life

that didn't happen, or the things that didn't happen, those

missing pieces that didn't happen, and I think Cheryl

Strayed, the writer Cheryl Strayed, she calls it the quote

unquote the sister life, right? So think of it like the path you

never went down, the life you dreamed of having that didn't

happen, for whatever reason, it just didn't happen, right? It

never came to be. Your ideas, your dreams, your thoughts of

how it should be, or you wanted it to be, or whatever. It didn't

happen. It's the thing that we, we hoped for, or the thing that

we thought about, or the thing that we dreamed about, or maybe

for some people it's even like what they expected to happen.

But wouldn't happen, didn't happen, couldn't happen, and now

won't happen, and the, the never life is a deep grief, you know,

it's like, and it could be about anything, it could be about your

career, like, oh, I always thought I was going to be right,

I've seen this happen to people who thought that they were going

to be like professional athletes, people who thought

that they would be in a different place by now, whether

it's in corporate or in their career, or somebody who's an

artist of some kind, a musician, a singer, whatever, a writer,

right. It's the things that didn't get explored, the things

that I would say didn't get their time in the sun, the

things that didn't come to fruition. Maybe it's the

relationship ended, there was a divorce, or you never had kids,

weren't able to have kids, or I mean, the reality of it is, is

that it can show up in so many different forms, and it's

really, it's really individual, right? Like any grief that I

might be feeling about those missing pieces, or about the

never life, the life that didn't happen, or the sister life.

Cheryl Strayed says that a sister life is like the life you

didn't live, but could have lived if you had made different,

different choices, or there had been different circumstances.

It's, it's, she says, quote, well, I'm quoting, but I don't

know if it's her exact quote, but it says it's the version of

you that exists in theory, but not in reality, and I think a

lot of us, as adults, you know, we sometimes get confused about,

like, why am I feeling this way, why did that picture, that song,

that sound, that scene, right? Like, sometimes you'll, I mean,

mine can be very obvious, right?

My mother, you know, being killed when I was 12, like, I'll

sometimes see a commercial or whatever, and there's a mother

and daughter doing things together, and I just start

crying, and I'm like, oh my god, because you're thinking about,

like, for me it's the things that won't happen, and when I

think about this person who just died, it's like now the things

that won't happen, I'll never get to meet them, they'll never

get to be a moment of fill in the blank connection, knowing

that person, reconciliation for what was possible, for the

things that never happened that didn't happen, and now can't

happen, you know, and so, like, I was saying, we'll see, we'll

see these, we'll hear a snippet of a song or a smell or

whatever, and we have these feelings that well up inside of

us, and it's like, yeah, like 5057 year old me can totally

rationalize it and be like, well, you don't need those

things, you have a life you love, right? You have your

sweetie, you have all your furry kids, you do work that you love,

you have friends that you love, etc. etc. right. And, and yet,

there's a part of you that there's a kind of grief and pain

that the quote unquote never life like brings up, because

you're really aware of what's now missing, you know, I think

about it. It's like my mother didn't get to see me, you know,

graduate from like junior high and high school. She didn't get

to see me go to college and graduate from college, didn't

get to see me start my own business or get married, or like

all the, you know, million and one things that have happened

since, since she's been gone, you know, all these years, like

45 years, you know, it's just crazy, and it's there's a

loneliness that comes to this kind of grief, I think, the

missing piece grief that nobody ever really talks about, because

I get it, you know, we're kind of told, like, focus on what you

do have, and I 100% agree with that. Like, we want to be

grateful for what we do have. We want to be grateful for all the

dreams that did come true, all the life that did happen. And I

think we would be remiss if we didn't talk about those

invisible pieces, those missing pieces, the longing that's still

there, you know, and it's, I mean, in death can feel like

this very final thing. It's like, oh, well, now this is

never going to happen, you know. And sometimes, sometimes we find

out more about people, we get to know them through talking with

others or seeing their home or doing research or whatever, and

yeah, we can still find out and try to fill in some of those

gaps, fill in some of those missing pieces, but there's also

going to be this like the longing for the unknown, right,

this thing that now it's just not ever going to happen, and I

just wanted to talk about that, because it can, this kind of

feeling, this kind of grief, call it, and those kinds of

traumas that we talked about earlier, they can really easily

be overlooked because. Kind of unseen, and people will just be

able to just focus on the good stuff, focus on what you do

have, right? Yes, and we want to be able to, we want to be able

to kind of give, give voice, I think, to the Neva life, to the

sister life, to the things that now, first of all, to the things

that didn't happen that should have happened, you know, but

also to the things that now won't happen, those missing

pieces that are never going to be able to get filled in the way

that you had hoped or dreamed or wanted, and it's a real mourning

process, right? It's like, first of all, there's grief, grief,

right? And when I was thinking about this today, like, why are

you so sad, and I was like, okay, well, again, I can

rationalize and justify that new grief, it stirs up old grief.

I was like, yes, I'm like, that's true, so I get it, and I

was just like, oh, I realized, like, I'm really, really sad now

for the things that are never going to happen, and so the

advice that I gave myself, that if you find yourself also

experiencing this again, whether you're going through, you know,

a miscarriage, or you haven't been able to get pregnant, or

you know, again, your relationship ended, or your

career took a turn, you didn't get fired, or you didn't get the

job you wanted, or the book didn't sell, or whatever, right?

You want to buy land, and you want to build a like there's

1001 ways that we can find ourselves with missing pieces.

So I was like, okay, number one, what do I want to do with this?

I said, well, we're not going to push it away, right? We're not

going to abandon ourselves, right? I just did an episode

about that a few episodes ago about not abandoning ourselves,

so I'm like, "Alright, I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna abandon

myself. I'm gonna sit with this, and I'm going to be with these

feelings, because I want to feel these feelings. And then the

other thing is, one of the, one of the missing pieces of my

childhood was tenderness and mercy. I don't think I got

enough of it. I don't think many of us, a lot of us like mass

holy blue collar kids, didn't get enough of it. It was the

whole, we're the whole suck it up and stuff it down kids. You

know, I'm like, alright, be gentle with yourself. It doesn't

have to make sense. You feel how you feel. It doesn't have to

make sense. So, so let's just be with it. Let's be gentle with

ourselves. Let's be like tender and merciful and compassionate

with our feelings, and then you know, slowly, and I'm not saying

it happens quickly, I mean, I can turn things over pretty

quickly, I've had a lot of experience at this, but it

doesn't mean that I always should. Do you know what I mean?

So I'm trying to give myself grace, and I'm trying to give

myself that space to like sift through the ashes of of the

never life, the thing that is burned down with with this with

this death, so it's like, okay, being in the acceptance of it,

moving towards that acceptance, sometimes it will come quickly,

right, sometimes it takes some time, and then after that, for

me, it's always like that question. This is me. I'm not

saying this is how you should do it, but like step one, let's be

with it, be with your feelings, sit with it, spend some time

with it, you know. Be gentle. Number two, be gentle with

yourself, compassionate, be tender, be merciful, like

nurture and nourish those younger parts of you that are

doing the grieving that didn't get what they needed, and now

are thinking about the things that now won't happen, or can't

happen, or didn't happen, or whatever, you know, and we move

towards acceptance, and part of the acceptance, there might be a

lot of different practices in there, right? Maybe you journal,

maybe you do whatever, right, maybe you write it down, maybe

you see, seek therapy, whatever the thing is, but we're moving

towards the acceptance of this is how it is. A lot of times our

suffering is coming from the resistance to what actually is

and what happened, so we're, you know, being with that. And then

the next step is the one that I always call now what? Yes, these

things happened. Yes, this is the new reality, whether we like

it, don't like it, confused by it deeply, and mourning, grief,

whatever. And then for me, it's always like, now what? And it's

another way, like this is like, because what happens is when

we're in the missing piece pot, it's all of the what ifs, it's

all of the what ifs, what could have been, what didn't happen,

what we wished happened, it's all those what if that, what if

I had done that, what if I didn't say this, what if I

didn't do this. It's like all of that, the never life stuff,

right?

But at some point we get to focus on call it new pieces or

the new dream, or now that this is how it is, now what? What can

I focus on now, like, where can I put my energy now, or how can

I reconcile this now, or whatever the thing is, but we

get to move on, we get to move, and that doesn't mean you get

over it, doesn't mean you just go like, move on, get over it,

it's not that, it's like, you know, when I think about, you

know, we were outside the other day, down in the. And we have

these milkweed plants, I didn't even know they were milkweed.

Hello, City Kid, like a few years ago we had these two

rando, like, like little flowers, tall flowers, and I

took a picture and I put it on the internet, because, yeah, I

know I can Google, I know I can Google it, but I like to ask my

smarty pants friends, so I put it on Facebook or something, I

was like, hey, hey, nature people like God, and is what the

hell out of these things? And everybody wrote back, it's

milkweed, you're so lucky, the butterflies love them, blah blah

blah. Well, I can tell you that over the next last two years,

last two years, there's now like a shit ton of them, and we're

just kind of giving up a portion of our yad to them, because we

love the butterflies, so we're like, okay, but when we were

down in the yard looking at him, that was a little side, that was

a little side quest. I apologize, and I'm back, but my

sweetie said, 'Look at them, they're all leaning towards the

sun, and they were where the sun was in the sky. The plants had

all kind of like turned, and they were like, 'How sunflowers

do, and they were like leaning towards it. And when we get to

this, this last step here, the new dreams, the now what that to

me is like my leaning towards the light. It's like I'm not

going to run from the dark, but I'm going to drag this darkness,

these feelings that I have, and I'm going to bring them into the

light. That to me is like how I think of the healing process. I

always say I don't want to sit in the shitty diaper, I don't

want to sit in the pain and the remorse, and the regret, and all

the stuff. It's not that I can't be with it. I personally don't

believe in being with it any longer than I need to. Like,

it's more like, and it doesn't mean that it doesn't still flash

in my mind, or things don't come up. I'm not like wiping my hands

and tying these things into neat little bows. I don't think life

is like that. I think there's always going to be like residual

grief. I think that's just the way it is, right. Life is life

is intense, a lot of things happen, but what I'm saying is,

at some point we turn back towards hope and we start to

turn towards what could be, right? So, instead of that never

life or that sister life or those missing pieces, we start

to create the new life, a different life.

I can't always say if it's going to be better or not better, but

there's still, there's still so much to look forward to, and so

I hope this has been helpful for you in some way, I mean, for me

it was really about just acknowledging that there's these

lonely kinds of grief about grieving the life that didn't

happen and now can't happen, right, but it's also right that

trauma, because trauma is not just the bad things that

happened, it's also the good things that didn't happen that

should have happened, you know, and it could be everything from,

like, you know, if you're a little kid and you're a child

of, like, divorced parents, and one parent is supposed to pick

you up on certain days of the week, but then they would just

ghost you, or they were, like, deficit dads or missing moms, or

whatever the thing was, and they didn't keep their word, or they

always let you down, or whatever it was, you know, there's really

real, I mean, there's really real and significant effects to

the things that are missing. So, my hope for you, you guys, is

that you start to find those missing pieces within yourselves

and within your hopefully loving and fruitful, and what's the

word I'm looking for, reciprocal relationships, healthy

relationships, where the love you give is also the love you

receive. This is how we heal. We're not islands, we don't heal

on our.. we, I mean, not that we don't have the capacity, our

bodies can heal on their own a lot of times, and I think a lot

of times we can do the work to heal, quote unquote, ourselves,

but I also think that it doesn't happen in a vacuum. I do think

we need each other, and I do think this is one of the

greatest gifts of, like, good family and good friends, is that

we, that we help each other on our healing journey, and

sometimes it's just somebody's very present presence, somebody

who can really be with you, who really sees you, can listen and

can support you and love you. So, if you are in a season of

mourning the never life, or if you are in a season of mourning

the things that should have happened that didn't happen, you

know, if you didn't have an unshaming witness, if you didn't

have somebody to protect you, if you didn't have family members

to step in to stop it, if you had people who everybody just

turned a blind eye, you know, 1001 ways where we harm and hurt

each other. My heart is with you, and I'm sorry, and I'm

hoping that you know that you know I always say this, like

just to my example of this person who I didn't get to know,

who, who died, and I'm grieving that, you know, it's like I

don't have to know you, quote unquote, personally, like we may

have not have met in real life, but I still care about you, and

I still love you, and if you're out there and you feel alone,

just know that there's another person in the world who I. Hold

you in my thoughts, even if again I've never met you, or

whatever. My love, my love extends to you wherever you are

in the world. And I hope that you can sit with yourself and be

gentle with yourself and your feelings, and as time allows,

and tools are available, and you have hopefully a soft, gentle

listening ear, that there's an acceptance to the things that

have been missing, and now we can go about to finding and

filling our own missing pieces in a beautiful, in a beautiful

and loving way. So that's what I have for you today, guys. Thank

you so much for being here. I super duper appreciate you. I

never take for granted that you're spending some time with

me, whether we're in the car together or walking your dog or

out in nature, or wherever you're listening to this or

watching this. Just thank you for spending some time with me.

I really appreciate it, as always. Just go to my website,

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If you want to find out what kind of shenanigans I'm up to

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thing. This just, you can find me, Karen kenney.com And just,

thank you for so, for being a part of the Karen Kenney Show,

our little community. I really appreciate it. Okay, wherever

you go out in the world, may you leave the animals and the planet

and the other people in yourself better than how you first found

it. Wherever you go, may you and your presence and your energy

and your love and even your missing pieces, right, the parts

of us that we are slowly, I always say gradually, but

inevitably, healing. May it be a blessing. Bye bye.