In this episode of “Shooting It Straight,” hosts Randy Black and Coach Jim Clayton delve into the essence of resilience and perseverance. Broadcasting live from Sports City U studio in Hurricane, West Virginia, they continue their exploration of resilience through powerful quotes from various sources. The discussion kicks off with a Japanese proverb, “Fall seven times, stand up eight,” emphasizing the importance of persistence and emotional endurance. The hosts explore how perseverance is a habit developed over time, not just a momentary response. They stress the significance of small victories and the compounding effect of habits that lead to success.

The conversation transitions to the idea of inner strength and self-reliance, drawing from quotes by Viktor Frankl and Ralph Waldo Emerson. The hosts discuss the necessity of being tested to build inner strength and the importance of changing oneself when circumstances can’t be altered. They highlight the role of mindset in overcoming adversity and the power of intentionality in achieving success. The episode concludes with a reflection on the quote “Tough times never last, but tough people do,” encouraging listeners to embrace vulnerability as a part of resilience and to keep pushing forward despite challenges.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bam son!

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Coach Jim Clayton: This is Shoot It Straight, the podcast where life blessings don't come sugar-coated and excuses get bitched.

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I'm Randy Black, podcast guy, professional question asker, and apparently the only one here who doesn't yell bam!

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well we're working on that Randy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm Jim Clayton, coach, mentor, motivator, and the guy who still thinks a whistle may be the best motivational tool known to man.

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Each week we're taking what Jim's learned from the court.

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The drills, the discipline, the drive, and translating it into real-world success.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: This ain't just about basketball.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's about showing up when life presses full court.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's about pushing through when the clock's ticking down.

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If you're looking for flood,

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Well, you might just want to ride the bench.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We're here to help you believe bigger, achieve louder, and motivate strong.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So buckle up and whatever you do, keep shooting it straight.

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Bam, son

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Welcome back to Shooting It Straight.

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I am Randy Black, joined by my co-host, Ghost Jill Clayton, and we are coming to you once again.

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In our last episode, we started unpacking what resilience really looks like through powerful quotes from some truly inspiring people.

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And today, we're picking up right where we left off.

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We've got five more quotes that go deep into what it takes to keep going when things get hard.

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These aren't just words.

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They're hard-won truths from people who've been through the fire

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You'll hear everything from ancient wisdom to modern grit, all reminding us that real strength comes from within.

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And sometimes from those moments when we feel like we've got nothing left.

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So Jim, let's jump back in and keep going on this conversation about grit and look at our next quote.

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The next quote is a Japanese proverb that I came across.

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And this is a traditional Japanese proverb.

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It reflects a a cultural value deeply rooted in the samurai and the martial arts teachings of the people.

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It emphasizes persist persistence and emotional endurance.

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And it's rooted in those those beliefs about those martial arts and about persistence uh or a persistent effort in the face of repeated failure.

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And that proverb says this.

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Fall seven times, stand up eight.

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Why is perseverance

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Resilience, getting back up.

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Why is that a habit and not just a moment that occurs?

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What do you think?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, because perseverance is, you know, believing in yourself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, and if you don't believe in yourself, don't expect anybody else to either.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So when things happen, whatever that is

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Coach Jim Clayton: There's always a better way to do it again.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not give up.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Remember, the greatest the biggest room most people want to be in is the room of success, not of failure.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All right, but see, the majority of people think, if you ask them, that success and failure are are opposites.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're not.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They run side by side down the highway of life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you can't really have one without the other.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And see people go, well I never thought about like that.

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The people who are the most successful have failed more than anybody else.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh my are you kidding me?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean over and over and over and over and they just what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't give up

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Coach Jim Clayton: They go, what happened?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What what caused this problem?

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Coach Jim Clayton: How am I gonna fix it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: And how am I gonna get it right back right now?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What are we gonna do?

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Coach Jim Clayton: We're not gonna wait a week, a month, a year to get, we're gonna put it back on track right now.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, it comes also back to people's mentality where you they say, well, I'm not ready.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, if you're who's ready?

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You'll never be ready.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah, you're never gonna be ready.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So

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Coach Jim Clayton: A year later go, I'm still not ready.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well that means it's called the law of diminishing intent.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Diminish means go down and intent means you were going to do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And what that says is this

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Coach Jim Clayton: The longer you wait to do what you're supposed to do, the less likely it's ever going to happen.

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Yes, very much so.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And we've all gone down that road at some time in our life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, it's like measure twice, cut once.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so those types of things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I always said when you f get knocked down, you know, if you can look up, you can get up.

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Yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the question is, how bad do you really want to get up?

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Well, it's it's kind of like you you you have to train yourself to keep going

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You can't just let things happen.

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You've got to train yourself to keep pushing forward, to keep moving forward, to keep trying to bounce back from what life has put at you that may be a stumbling block

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Well, perseverance is not an automatic response.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean it's something that you got to develop over time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that takes repetition.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That takes you know reps, reps, reps.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It doesn't matter what it is, and then it becomes a habit.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now what's a habit?

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Coach Jim Clayton: A habit is something that you do without thinking.

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And it's it's those small habits as you work them and build them

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They compound to become the giant habits that lead your life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, you are so right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I call those little victories.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And every day

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Coach Jim Clayton: We can get a bunch of those little victories.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that helps build your confidence.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That helps build everything that you want around that, your culture, you know, all that stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then them little victories, guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: One day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh man, you're gonna knock it out apart.

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Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's gonna be the biggest victory you've ever seen in your life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But see everybody thinks that stuff happens overnight.

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No, no, no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It does not happen overnight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to have you have to have the repetition.

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You have to have the practice.

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You have to

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to to to to build all those up to be able to be able to do that daily.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh there's no question about it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, in our world everybody wants to I want to be where you are today.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well my question is are you willing to do what I did to get where I am?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, 90% of the time, guess what the answer is?

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Coach Jim Clayton: No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I just want what you ain't gonna happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: There's just certain things in life that you can't buy and you can't put yourself in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to go through it to make it happen

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to pay the price and you gotta go through the process.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And everybody in the world that is successful

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Coach Jim Clayton: They've been through the process, which takes what you just said, time, and they paid the price.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So the bottom line here is this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you're not willing to reinvest in yourself,

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you filled in the blank.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Neither is anybody else.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's the thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What are you doing to grow?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What are you doing to get better?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because remember, success, which is what we all want.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's a complacency disease.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's comfort zone style.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I just stay where I am because everything's going so good.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, that's when you better start paying attention.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When things are going well.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, well most people don't.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They only pay attention when things are going bad.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, you can see things start to happen

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can see shifts starting to develop.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then all of a sudden, bam.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it happens.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You go, what the heck happened here?

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Here's an interesting way I think we can look at it.

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You know, you and I both were educators.

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And there's been a big shift in education over the last decade, 15 years to move more toward mastery rather than that classic A through F grading scale.

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And mastery isn't something that happens overnight.

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The same, you know, when you look at not just students and and and learning, but look at athletes

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They have to practice.

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Musicians have to practice.

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Professionals have to hone their skills at whatever it is they're doing.

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Like

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I can't just walk in and look at a computer in my job now that I've never seen before and go, oh yeah, we just take this off and it fixes it.

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I've got to take the time to learn what's there, what parts, what components.

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And that's me taking the time to master my skill set.

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for that specific moment.

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And it's no different.

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We all have to do that for whatever we're doing in life if we want to be able to be able to to reach that level of mastery.

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to reach that level of being able to persevere, to be able to be resilient, um, even after setback after setback after setback.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It doesn't matter what happens to you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It just matters what you gonna do about it.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's the bottom line.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What you gonna do about it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, some people are gonna tuck their tail and run in opposite direction.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And some people are gonna they're they're gonna stand there knee deep in the crap and they're gonna fight the fire.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's what good true leaders do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Leadership is an action, not a position.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So they're gonna step up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're gonna step out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're gonna step into the problem.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, see, everybody's not willing to do that, but everybody wants that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's like you think about in the army, a master sergeant.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Woo

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, you've seen the movie, you've seen those movies where those master sergeants are busting.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're busting those guys, you know, because what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're trying to bring out the best.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So, you know, it it's everybody does when you first start out, you're not gonna be your best.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you're still doing the same thing

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now you've been doing 10 years ago and you haven't developed anything new.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I can tell you what you're in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's called a rut.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Same old, same old.

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You are wasting your time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh my gosh

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You are probably digging that rut deeper.

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It might even be past the point of being a rut to be in a ditch.

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It might even be the point of being a hole.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, sometimes when in that rut, we just talked about this earlier, is in those rut times for me, that's where my creative juices flow the most.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not when times are going good, I'm thinking like, okay, what's the next step?

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What is I and sometimes I can't think of that

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then all of a sudden I get into something, and then here them ideas start flowing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Woo!

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean there's so many of them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If I don't write them down, I've forgotten.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's what happens to people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, sometimes you gotta get in that, but to get out of it, you gotta get in it.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you gotta know how to get out of it and you can't quit.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Can't have that, oh I feel sorry, but myself

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you know, you can't be pitiful and powerful at the same time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All of us in this world have our little pity moments.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But they can't be 24 hours.

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No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They might be 24 seconds.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Then you reach up there and go, flick, okay, end of conversation.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Let's go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We're moving.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, I had my moment.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's done.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to be strong.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You got to be.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to be

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you gotta have a backbone instead of a wristbone.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, there's a big difference.

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And that that idea of being strong kind of takes us into our next quote on our list here.

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Uh Bob Marley.

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Bob Marley was a Jamaican singer and songwriter.

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He helped bring reggae and the message of peace and resistance to international audiences.

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And he continued touring and recording despite receiving a terminal cancer diagnosis.

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And cancer, I know, Jim, you hate that word.

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I hate it.

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And well what this quote is, there's there's nowhere I can find that this quote is actually shown to be from, Marley, but it's often attributed to it.

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And the idea here is it's it's tied to his choice to continue performing through that illness, and it speaks to discovering strength.

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What we just talked about there.

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through necessity.

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And that quote is, you never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.

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Strength by necessity.

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That's that's you know that's that's what's sticking out to me here.

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What's that look like in daily life for people?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What do you think, Jim?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, that quote right there is exactly pretty much what I live by daily.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I've been diagnosed with stage four cancer and you know a lot of people they just think that's a death notice, you're just wasting, you know, you got time left, that's it

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Coach Jim Clayton: Uh-uh.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That ain't working for me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's not going to define me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But so what happens is when I come to the gym every day, we're in the gym.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I've been here working people out, motivating them, getting them fired up, sharing stories with them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All my problems, I still got them, but they're in the parking lot.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: I left them in here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Don't carry them in through the door.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not carrying them in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'm moving and shaking.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Maybe not as fast as I used to, but hell, I'm 70 years old.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nobody moves and shakes at 70 like you did when you were 20.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I'm moving and I'm putting one foot in front of the other and I'm not even thinking about that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now my doctors have told me they said hey coach

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Coach Jim Clayton: That has helped more than anything that you're moving, that you're shaking, that you're active, that you're not sitting around, you know what I mean, feeling sorry for yourself.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, it's the same thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it's the same thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta keep on going.

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Right

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I got things to do, you know, and I ain't got time to be waiting around.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So, you know what I'm doing?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm doing everything I can to fix this issue

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it lot you know a lot of it, like I said, right there, mentally.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's a mindset.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Being strong is a mindset

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and you look at these guys like look at a bodybuilder.

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Coach Jim Clayton: At one time he was a scrawny little skinny kid.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: How do you get like that?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because he started working out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He started to understand the m muscular system, how building muscles developed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he kept doing it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he kept doing it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well she kept doing it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And now you look at him and go, woo

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, that didn't happen overnight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can't buy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a product of repetition.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a product of discipline.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a product of desire.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a product that I'm not giving up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you see, that's the thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's when the strong just keep getting stronger.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the flip side of that is the same thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the weak sometimes, guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They keep getting weaker.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And and that's how I do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean it's that that's just gotta be your it's and that's a mindset.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's not something that's gonna show up every day because

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Coach Jim Clayton: I see I got that mindset.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's gonna be there automatically.

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No, it's not there automatically.

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It's not.

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We talked about it.

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We talked about how that resilience isn't an innate skill.

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You have to learn it.

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You have to teach it.

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It's it, you know, what what some people may view as resilience being instinctive, it may come across that way

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But the experience and how you move with it and from it is going to take that and cultivate it and make it stronger.

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It's going to make that so that you are using the experience, you're reflecting on it, and you're using the support around you to learn from it to make your situation better.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, there's no question.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I like for me, I've been stuck on these I've been watching these reels.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I've been watching these reels about people

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Coach Jim Clayton: Just normal people in life that are not willing to accept things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I watched one yesterday about a little girl named Sarah, and she ran a little restaurant.

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Coach Jim Clayton: on an army base.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And all she wanted was to create a little atmosphere where the soldiers could come in, whether they were active or veters

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Coach Jim Clayton: They had a place, you know what I mean, where they can sit down comfortably, relax, talk to people, do whatever, not a pressure situation.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, all of a sudden one day she's in there and the health inspector showed up

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Coach Jim Clayton: And one gentleman was a vet and he had a service dog with him.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And lady the guy comes in there with his clipboards.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know how I know what that's like.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he goes, well, you know, uh, you can't have a dog in here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She said, that's a service though.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She says, well you got to tell him to leave.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We're going to shut you down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She says, that dog's not leaving.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You are.

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Coach Jim Clayton: About that time the supervisor comes in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he said, that's a veteran.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That guy's fought for your.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Freedom.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's his service dog.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't care if it's a service dog or no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm thinking to myself, oh, how's this gonna play out?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, all of a sudden, somebody was there filming that

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Coach Jim Clayton: They sent it to the general.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All of a sudden, man, because it was right there at the base, on the outside of the base, five seconds

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Coach Jim Clayton: Here comes about five or six hum bees.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They make a noise when they're coming down the road.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody's looking like, what's that noise

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Coach Jim Clayton: Here he comes in dressed in his, I mean, to the tip.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I mean, I'm thinking, oh, this is gonna be good.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, so anyway, then the boss comes in and he's talking to them and everything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The boss comes in and says, Sarah, I hate to say, but you're gonna be fired.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She just looks at it, walks out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now she's fired for doing the right thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's what I'm watching.

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Coach Jim Clayton: How is this going to play out?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because some people need to do the right thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't have guts and courage or strength to do the right thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They fall victim to the prut.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so he comes in, he says, gives her a letter, says, you might as well sit down when you read this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And

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Coach Jim Clayton: She owes a letter.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it's an invitation, which don't come very often from the Army, for an outside person to come in and take over a program that they're looking to.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Developed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They weren't looking at her because of their status or whatever.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're looking at her what she had done.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What she had created created an atmosphere, right?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Where

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Coach Jim Clayton: The veterans, the service that could come where they felt comfortable because a lot of their scars don't always show up when they come back.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're years later where they come out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they don't have anybody to talk to.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I watch that thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And every time I watch these things, every night, I watch them every night, one before I go to bed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Man, it just brings me to tears.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, I know not tears of sadness.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But tears of joy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because she did the right thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They made that space and guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: That that veteran with that service dog

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Coach Jim Clayton: He still comes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: To this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he sits in the corner.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the dog lays down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now there's other service dogs that have come in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: More, and it's packed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The place is packed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now they're looking to put that type of situation all over the country where

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Coach Jim Clayton: Military bases aren't stuck.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: All because of one little young lady named Sarah who had the guts and the courage to do the right thing.

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Nice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I watch that kind of stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, that motivates me, not negative, negative, negative, negative.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I want to see what people do when their box gets walked.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She says, you're fired.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She didn't try to argue.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, no, no, no, no.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She just walked right out the door.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And great things were about to happen that she didn't know was going to happen.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That happens to a lot of people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Great things are going to happen to you that you don't know is going to happen if you got the guts and the courage to what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Keep on going.

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Stay strong.

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One one last thing with that, with this idea of of you know, being strong when it's your only choice is that, you know, for a lot of people, when they think of being strong

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They think that's just themselves, that it's internal only, that it's not something they can rely on other people, but that's just simply not the case.

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Strength doesn't mean isolation

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No.

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Strength is sometimes having the courage to admit I can't do this on my own and asking someone else for help.

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That's a huge thing.

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That's a huge sign of strength being able to reach out and ask someone, please help me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And people struggle with that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Especially people, sometimes I struggle with that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because in my life, I'm used to being the opposite.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm used to giving the help.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I've given the help.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, that's what we're all here for, to add value to others.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Every day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's not about us.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So when you add value to people every day, you had a great day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Then there comes a point in time where

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, you need some help.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I've noticed this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, when people say, hey, if you need anything, call me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That means they're not going to do anything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Got good intentions.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now, the guy that doesn't call you,

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Coach Jim Clayton: Like my house has been flooded.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know how bad that is.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mud, nasty, funk, stink, bacteria.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The guy that doesn't say nothing and he knocks at your door with his boots and his gloves and his shovel because what do you need?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What can I do to help?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, that's a different guy

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Coach Jim Clayton: So don't tell me what you're gonna do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If somebody needs help, get in the car and go help them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Go help them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and don't tell me what you're gonna do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That means you ain't gonna do nothing.

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Right.

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I agree.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But then you go, well, I I I I offered.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well see some people are gonna say, hey, I need you to come over here and do this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So they show up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I had one of my buddies, my best friend, shows up the other day with a piece of strawberry pie.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I like strawberry pie.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And now strawberries are out season, so you can't buy them strawberry pie.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Like at Bob Adams, Jim's head, you know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going, man, what'd you do this for?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm just sitting at the table, totally unexpected.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because man, I s I I went and got one of these.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I know you love strawberry pie.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I knew as soon as I brought it here, he was going to go right to the get to get to four.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And by God, he did.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I mean I defired that thing like it was gone.

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Oh, I'm sure.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He goes, Oh, I guess you like that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, Well, can you tell?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nothing left.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I mean stuff like that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You do things unexpected and you don't announce it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And see that's what that's that's when I'm saying about somebody help.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Some people just don't go, hey, hey, hey, I need you, can you do this for me?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Can you do that for me?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm still I'll still struggle with that.

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Like it's you know, as

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And it's it's gonna I'll get I'll get her back around to it here.

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As a as myself, as a Christian, you know, people will ask, you know, pray for me, pray for me.

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And I'll pray for anybody.

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That's not a problem.

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But it is so hard for me

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To ask somebody to pray for me.

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Like it's it's it's one of those it's a hurdle that I've got to get over.

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And it's the same the same idea, you know?

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For me to say, hey, I have this going on.

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Can you pray for me?

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That's that's tough.

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Because it's not who I've ever been.

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I've always been so, I gotta be strong, I gotta be able to handle this on my own.

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And I see now that

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It just doesn't work.

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And it's it's it's helping me to to come out of that shell a little bit, to be able to ask for the help, to be able to say, Hey, can you pray for me?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so you know when I see stuff, I see people that need prayer automatically, boom, I'm in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They didn't invite they say, oh would you please do this for me?

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Coach Jim Clayton: They didn't ask me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's an automatic response for me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Lord, please put your your your

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Coach Jim Clayton: Blanket of health over these people, look after 'em, care for 'em, know that they're in good, great hands, the best hands ever.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, whatever it is that you say

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, but I'm the same way you are about that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not asking you to do it, but people will do it

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Coach Jim Clayton: Subconsciously you don't even know.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You don't even know.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, it's just it's just I and that that never ceases to amaze me today.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: How many people are behind the scenes and stuff that you have no idea that are pulling for you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That are pulling for it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I mean that's the great thing about being an educator.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Over the years, you know, the tens of thousands of people that we've educated, you don't know what they're thinking about, say.

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Nope

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then all of a sudden they'll they'll send something to you and you go, Well thanks so much for thinking of me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They'll send you something back and say, I think about you every day, coach.

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Mm-hmm.

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Every once in a while I'll get one of those Fred requests on Facebook and it's from somebody that I had and when they were in my class as a student.

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And, you know, like the the best one I ever got from a message from one of them was, you know, when I was in your class, I didn't like you.

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And I said, okay.

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And they said, but I get it now.

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I understand what you were doing.

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You were trying to help us be ready for the future.

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I said, okay.

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I said, I appreciate that.

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And it's it's it's a powerful thing when when somebody comes back to you and says, you changed something in me.

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It's it it feels so good that you you helped guide them in a way that helped them in their life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah, and you've got so m so many of those that you don't even know about.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you look at some of them and you go, Oh, I can see that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I can see it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because, you know, for me, you know, when I look at people

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I look at players or I look at students and I coach or whatever a train or wherever I'm speaking to a group, I don't look at you the way you want.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody sees that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I look at you the way you could be.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then it's my job to help you get on the right path where you can see the same vision I do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And once you see that vision and you see a little light at the end of that tunnel, woo!

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Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, you get that little crack in that door, and you're gonna kick it down.

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Mm-hmm

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're gonna kick it down because you know what's on the other side and you want to get there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's like somebody running a marathon, they're not crossing the finish line.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: What's the point?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or oh, you gotta be kidding me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't care about a crawl, you had to carry me, I'm crossing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I ain't running no marathons.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm just sitting there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I might ride my electric bike marathon.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I could cross that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I can act like I'm running.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But uh, you know, I I got you, man.

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You're right on it.

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So these first two quotes we've talked about this evening here kind of, you know, build us as this idea of resilience or grip from the ground up, you know, being able to

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You know, you fall seven times, you stand up eight.

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You don't know how strong you are until it's your only choice.

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The the idea that you're you're being able to pick yourself up and move on from those things.

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What we're going to move toward now is more about mindset in a lot of ways.

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So our next quote is from Victor Frankel.

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He was an Austrian neurologist, psychologist, sorry, psychiatrist, and a Holocaust survivor.

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His main work, his big work was called Man's Search for Meaning.

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And it remains a very powerful study of finding purpose in suffering.

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And from that, Frankel believed that even in the worst suffering, people could find purpose by choosing how they responded.

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And here's the quote.

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When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.

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Wow.

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So

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The idea here would be kind of like we can reframe the circumstance because it's out of our control.

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Would you agree?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, 100%.

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Coach Jim Clayton: There are things that are out of your control.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Can't do a thing about it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But we spend all the time doing stuff we can't do anything about.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I always had one of my favorite lines is everybody wants to change their circumstances, but nobody wants to change themselves.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So one day I'm gonna do a t-shirt

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Coach Jim Clayton: I've been wanting to do this t-shirt for 20 years.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it says on the shirt, no change, no change.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Everybody gets that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's so simple.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No change.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta be willing to change yourself because I can I can't change you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, kid has got discipline.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I can't change them

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Coach Jim Clayton: Only you can change you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can't change nobody else.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now you can give them things, plant seeds, give them opportunities, put them in an environment, but still ultimately it comes down to them making the decision.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But see the problem is how many people are living in the past?

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Coach Jim Clayton: How many people are worried about and what is it 99% of things you worry about never happened anyway?

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So we're in this past, you know.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Uh it's we know what we should do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's all about your perspective.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I put a quote out on my my story the other day that says, you know, we're addicted to tomorrow

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'll get that tomorrow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'll start that program tomorrow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'll work out tomorrow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'll start eating healthy tomorrow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well the last time I checked, tomorrow's not a day.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And we're hooked on that tomorrow thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not interested in tomorrow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm interested about today.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tomorrow's not gonna come for some people.

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Oh, it's true.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hate to say that.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Today's the day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's my motto.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Today's the next one we got.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, it's I I love that because that change

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Coach Jim Clayton: That word change is a really hard pill for people to swallow.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Woo, it's tough.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, I you know, I got I taught at Huntington East.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they shut that school down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they combined Huntington, Pony Express, and Huntington or Huntington East Highland.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So it was called the Huntington High Highlanders.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So when I went over there, when I shut that down

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Coach Jim Clayton: At that moment I kind of had the best of both worlds.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I honestly thought I was going to retire there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Then all of a sudden out of the blue, I get a transfer of notes.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they said, well, you got two choices.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can go to middle school or high school.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I'm not going to middle school.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I went to Cabal Middle.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Best thing that ever happened to me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now when it was happening, I didn't really like it.

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No

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Coach Jim Clayton: But when I got up there, they said, man, you're gonna love it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So quiet.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, ah yeah, right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bunch of high school kids, 2,500 students.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, at that time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I got up there

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I believe.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now those are a lot of country kids.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, FDA, you know the man, future farmers of America, all that stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm a city guy

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Coach Jim Clayton: I told him, I said, man, the guy's wearing their boots.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They come to fit his head class and boots.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He goes, that's only 10 shoes I got.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, well, that's working for you, big daddy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's working for me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, then when I got a chance I said what size shoes you wear?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I found out I get them some shoes because that time I was working for Nike.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Get them some shoes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, they thought that was a great sh.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I never owned a pair of cats.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yes, I'm a So it was an it was an opening experience for me.

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It was a very different population than what you have.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh Lord.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what I mean?

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You know, I yeah, I'd I had actually been at Cabble Midland uh as a long-term substitute and then went to Enslow.

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As a long-term substitute.

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Big difference.

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Very big difference.

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And then I ended up teaching at Enslow for two years before I went back to Capil Midland.

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They're different, completely different worlds with the populations that we had.

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And it wasn't even like it wasn't even like a socioeconomic thing.

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It wasn't, it wasn't

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These are the poor kids, these are the better kid uh the the the wealthy kids.

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It wasn't like that at all.

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At Capitol Midland, we we had kids who were from that lower level of the socioeconomic scale.

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It's just different than what we saw in in the kids who lived in Huntington.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Total different very different populations.

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But no don't be wrong.

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I loved working in both places.

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I loved the kids at both places.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh I did too.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I did too.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I I'll give you a great great story.

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Coach Jim Clayton: One of my managers on my basketball team's name is Michael Young.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He had a nickname called Crash.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He looked like Crash Hawley that Well Crash looks just like this guy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he was a wrestl wrestling guy

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Coach Jim Clayton: So all of a sudden, I said, Crash, you're not going to believe this, buddy, but I got a transfer.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going to Cal Middle.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now he's a hunting high, true blue, all the way down the trail.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He goes, Oh live.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I need a favor.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I say, I got my stuff in my office up there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I need you to help me move.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'll be down to the speedway, pick you up, 8 o'clock in the morning.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I drive down there, pick him up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He walks out of the speed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, I about fell out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I couldn't believe it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I looked at him.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Here he was.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He had red

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Coach Jim Clayton: He had black.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He had gray.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, look at you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, what are you doing?

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Coach Jim Clayton: He goes, well, coach, if you're going to be a cabal man tonight, I'm going to be one too.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he'd already dressed up and everything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, he'd already made the change in his mind.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'll never forget that long as I live, man.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it's it's just I mean he'd already made the change.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because I'd made the change.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it ended up being it ended up being one of the greatest

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Coach Jim Clayton: Years of my life teaching.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I would have never thought in a million years at that time that I would have been hooked on country music.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I had a little boy in my car, driver's in a car, and he says, Coach, can we turn that channel over to country?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, you know, I'm not really a big coach.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He said, Well just let's just listen to one song.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I turned it over and man I really like that song.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I said, man, I like that song.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's full of these songs.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I started listening to the next song.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's the only that's the only channel I put on.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'm going, that boy by asking me to do that, that young man, I did it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I was willing to what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Compromise I say, okay, let's now I go to Kenny Chesley Concerts.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I do all I'm I listen.

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It's kind of i it's the idea of growth.

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Not suppression.

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I'm not holding things back.

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We're we're allowing ourselves to grow.

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We're allowing ourselves to to change by, you know.

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And it doesn't even have to be, like, you know, with with with the quote here from from Frankel, it's about the pain and that what you're experiencing.

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But you can still find purpose.

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Through whatever that is, it could be pain, it could be just some form of adversity that's hit you, a change that's happening in life.

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Rather

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than avoiding it.

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Because if you avoid it, you don't have the opportunity for the growth to occur.

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You don't have the opportunity.

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You are, you know, by avoiding it, you are you are in a way making a change.

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But what are you learning from it?

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What are you gaining from it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, the thing about it is it comes down to two things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Are you going you gonna accidentally become good at something?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Heard a guy get one time in an education seminar, say this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Can't remember anything else he said, but I heard him say this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I use it all the time: success by chance, or success by choice.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so I said to myself, I said, ooh, I like that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Anybody who goes through adverse times on the journey, on the process road

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Coach Jim Clayton: To get to the top.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They didn't get to the top accidentally.

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No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It was, big word here, intentional.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to intentionally do it every day, no matter what.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Whether you want to or not, you gotta get it done.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So you can't become great accidentally.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You have to be intentional.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that takes time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Again, we're talking about this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Doesn't happen overnight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Effort, attitude, grit, grind, perseverance, discipline, all those intangibles, right?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: To get there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you can't leave any of them out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And everybody's got there, guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: So now when you get there, guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You are in control.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not out of control.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't want to be WWOC way way out of control.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I want to be in control.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can be in control.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or you can be what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: The opposite.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's a choice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: There it is.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No change.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No change.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's what it comes down to.

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So next on our list, we get to Ralph Waldo Emerson.

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He was an American essayist, lecturer, and philosopher.

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uh in the night mid-19th century, and he was pretty much the leader of the transcendentalist movement that was taking place in the United States.

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And his writings emphasize self-reliance and the power of the individual

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And this quote's often paraphrased, but the message captures what Emerson's transcendentalist belief in the inner strength and self-reliance was.

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And the quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson here is that what lies behind us and what lies before us

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are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

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Woo!

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That's that's deep.

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So, you know, we look at it as inner strength.

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The idea of inner strength

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Where in the world does that come from?

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Where do we build that inner strength from?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Personally, I think you build that from small victory.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Successes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The heart.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, people love it when you speak from your heart.

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Can your heart is in it?

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Can can you build that inner strength without being tested?

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No.

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I don't think so either.

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Nope.

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I think you you have to be tested.

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You have to have the struggle.

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You have to be able to reflect on it.

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You have to have something in you personally that makes you realize

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I've been pushed this way a little bit and I gotta find out if this is the way I really want to go.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No question.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I tell my players this all the time, you know, smessy smaller players.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's not how big how big you are, bud.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's how big you play.

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Yes

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they look at me like, ah, get out of my way.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because see, that's that's the thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You don't look at, I mean, you know, you've heard this, can't judge a book by its cover.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I mean, yeah, you can't judge.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, that's why I like those, I was telling you about those reels.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I like it because people judge people all the time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They judge you by looking at you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Know anything about me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, have I ever done that before?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I think everybody's been guilty of that before.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm

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Coach Jim Clayton: I agree.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But, you know, that's because I didn't know any better.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I didn't know I was just a young little turkey.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, thought I knew everything in the world, you know, wish I didn't know anything

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's just just a normal thing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But when you watch people, you know, and you watch these people that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Take up for people, you know that somebody's done that too.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Ooh, I like it because guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's what he's talking about.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's what's inside of you.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then boy, you might be cool, calm, quiet, silent type, never says anything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then this line comes out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Woo!

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Coach Jim Clayton: I never saw that one coming.

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Yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Didn't need to play that card till now.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you see, what's in you, all of us are stronger inside of us than we ever know.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you never really know that sometimes until you have to.

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So how do we how do we help others

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kind of discover the idea of resilience and that inner that inner strength they have.

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You know, what how how can we go about trying to help them to see you can do this.

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You have this in you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well I always say I'll work backwards.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I work backwards on.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Why are you in this situation?

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Coach Jim Clayton: How'd you get in this situation?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: What caused it?

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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It's a idea of self-reflection.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah, they don't ever nobody ever self-reflects.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't go back and look

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, and that's you know that's how I did and that's how I learned I go backwards and try to figure out the root cause.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, here's how you got in this situation.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Here's what's causing the problem.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now let me show you the fix

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's not hard to do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you're not gonna be great at it the first time you do it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nobody is.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nobody who's a perfection who's a master of anything was great the first time they did it.

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Right.

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Oh, you should hear my first podcast.

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It was horrible.

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Well no, I'm sure it wasn't, but it was pretty bad.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't care what you do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's never great the first time you do it.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and you know again, unfortunately, you know, like for me, I d I about didn't graduate from college.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Had to take one class.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, number one phobia in America.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now you're gonna find this hard to believe right now as you listen to me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But public speaking.

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Uh-huh.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh God, I put that on, put that on.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If I didn't get to take this class, I was gonna flunk.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Had to get up in front of people and you don't watch students.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You watch students in high school.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you put them in front of the class

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Coach Jim Clayton: Man, that that they're just like they're glued to if they've got a paper in front of them, they're glued to it.

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If they've got a screen in front of them, they're glued to it.

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Yep.

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Um they try to put every bit of information they can on the screen if it's up that or do it digitally and just read it

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They can't they they don't know how to just to speak.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They just don't know how.

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They don't know how.

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We haven't taught 'em.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well I did that class.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And when that class was over, I could have kicked myself a million times in the b Yeah

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Coach Jim Clayton: Why did I place that on me that I couldn't do it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I had the most fun ever.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I remember that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now does that mean does that mean that my heart don't pound a little bit when I get ready to do a speaker?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh it does.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm sure.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh I'm excited.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm excited

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know, when you're when you're when you're trying to get people through this, you know, excitement goes a long way.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, I say enthusiasm is caught, it's not taught.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So that's kind of enthusiasm like culture.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So when you look at that, I mean how do you get them to do it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You put them in an environment where they can see success.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it's okay if they mess up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But remember, and I said this the other day to the group of teachers, people live in two cultures every day in their world.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't care whether you work for a job, whether you're a teacher, whether you're a coach, I don't care whatever it is.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You live in two cultures.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You live in a gross culture.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, it's okay to learn, grow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You might make some mistakes, but you don't make the same mistake twice.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a choice.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or you live in a punishment

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Coach Jim Clayton: Where every time you mess up, player messes up, sit down, come out of the game.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That ain't gonna build confidence.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's not gonna teach him anything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Nothing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Every time and school's worst because if you flunk

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Coach Jim Clayton: Man, you're terrible.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, you know, last time I checked, when you go to get your job interview

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Coach Jim Clayton: And successful people have done this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't ask you what you made on your F C T.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not usually.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't ask what you made in English class in tenth grade

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't ask those questions.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're interested in who?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's the key.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But we put all this emphasis.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it's like it's like for example, I heard this the other day, and I don't know if it's true, but you'll be the one to tell me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They don't let kids flunk anymore.

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Well, they will.

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They just make it really easy for them to recover their credit.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I flogged geometry one time.

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Yeah, you told us about it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And

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Coach Jim Clayton: I had to go to summer school.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Which guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: That wasn't really working.

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I'm sure it was not enjoyable.

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Coach Jim Clayton: To take the subject that I hated the most.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you know what happened?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Long story short, I passed the class.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that teacher that I had became my favorite teacher ever.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And she's the number one reason why I went into teaching

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Coach Jim Clayton: Awesome.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now how do you go I'm flunking something?

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what I did when I left out there?

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Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, I'm so proud of you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, thank you very much

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, but you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: She said, what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I still hate this girl.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And she laughed.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, I don't care if you hated it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, but the way she, I mean, just she is one special

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Coach Jim Clayton: unique young lady who was about total opposite of me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And, you know, you know, back back in the day, you think about this, you know, I was an athlete.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then we always thought guys that played in the bands, you know, stuff like that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Man, I was the dumbest person ever in the world.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Thank God.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I told a band director down in Kentucky Tuesday, I said, man, the one thing I regret in a lot is I didn't learn how to play a musical instrument.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah and I told him the story about the you know they used to have that thing called drums across the tribe state.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't know if they still do it at the at at the time they do it much smaller much small back birth.

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Yeah, it was huge.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I was in my facility in Huntington

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Coach Jim Clayton: And it was clo we were closing up.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It was hot as crap.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Five o'clock sun was cooking on that out there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I heard this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going, what the world is that?

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I walked out and looked out my door.

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Coach Jim Clayton: There was ten drummers standing on a curb.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The heat was smoking on them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They're going pop pop.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They were all in sync, all ten of them.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the coach was across the street sitting like this, watching.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So finally, you know I had to go ask the coach.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Coach, what's going on?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, we're rehearsing our part of the for drums across the tri state.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, man, it's awful hot out here.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Man, these guys are out here just sweating.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, just standing straight up carrying that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going, oh my God.

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Coach Jim Clayton: She goes, well.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If you're going to be the number one band in the country, this is what it takes.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I said, amen, ma'am.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm telling you, hey, the conversation, pow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: But that wasn't basketball.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I knew exactly what she's talking about.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so I'd go down to when I was in high school, Mr.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tweel used to be the band director in the 1980s.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I go down there, he'd let me sit in, play the drums a little bit.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I go to a football game, I'd go over into the band where they be at the end of the stadium, you know.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm thinking to myself

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Coach Jim Clayton: If when I was in high school, there ain't no way in America you'd get me to do that, but you know what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I got smarter.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because I was stupid

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know what I mean?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I didn't I had the wrong mindset because that's just the way it was back then.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now, man, if I was going back to school, I'd learn how to play.

Randy Black: 00:47:36

Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I still do my sports, but I gotta learn how to play.

Randy Black: 00:47:40

Yeah.

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I remember I remember my my senior year at Spring Valley, the first year the school was open, we had um

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We had one, two football players who would come out and march with uh with us at halftime in their football gear.

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Because they still wanted to be a part of the band.

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I loved it.

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I love it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It was great.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I love it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I mean it's just stupidity.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And we've all done these stupid things.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Because we didn't know.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'll be the first one to admit it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm just gonna tell you, I admit what I did.

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The flip side of that though, and it kind of goes with this, you know, you know, for for years everybody referred to him as as the band geeks

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We owned it.

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We're like, heck yeah, I'm a band geek.

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I don't care.

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And my son, my son is a C will be a senior.

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He starts school in a couple weeks.

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And

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He stopped band when he was in seventh grade.

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And he's now, as a senior, back in doing marching band, playing saxophone that he hasn't played since seventh grade and loves it.

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And I looked at his band director, Wes, who I've known now for twenty-six years, and I said, Wes, you did something I never could do.

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He's like, What's that?

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I said, You turned my son into a band geek.

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And he said, yes I did, and I'm proud of it.

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And my son owns it.

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He loves it.

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You know, and I I loved it when I was back in the day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well I'm gonna tell you something about the bands.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The bands put more time in than a lot of athletic teams.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And they're out there on that asphalt pavement marching.

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My son got sick last week doing it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And how could you not have respect for that?

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I loved it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I look at that and I go, man, I'm clapping.

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I mean they if now if a if a student does four years of marching band

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They give them a PE credit.

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I don't blame 'em.

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And they should.

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They they've earned it with everything they do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So especially how they teach phys ed to dut.

Randy Black: 00:49:29

Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Here's a ball.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No, no, I taught it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They didn't like that either.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you know, like I said, I I just applaud 'em.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I applaud 'em.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And uh, you know, it's it's what you learn after you think you know it all to count.

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You know, it's it's it's having that strength and and the ability to

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to to to persevere through it and and and to be tough, which kind of leads us here to our last quote.

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Robert H.

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Schuler, who was an American Christian televangelist

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And he was a motivational speaker.

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He was known for founding the what was known as the Crystal Cathedral, and he hosted a TV show called The Hour of Power.

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And he has a from his book and his sermons, he popular popularized, that's a hard word to say, this line as a message of hope.

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And a perseverance that's rooted in faith.

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And I've heard you say this one myself.

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That's why I put it at the end here.

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And Schuler's quote here is that tough times never last.

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But tough people do.

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It's the idea that, you know, you know, what does it mean to be tough?

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Is it is it a meaningful thing?

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Is it a superficial thing?

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Why?

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You know, how is it?

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You know, what how do we look at that?

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And, you know, I look at it and I'm talking about it as it's about staying grounded.

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It's about not pretending that everything's okay.

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Sometimes you have to go through the tough situation to come out on the other side in a better place.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, there's no question.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I remember, you know, I say it all the time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tough times.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You gotta have thick skin.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: So here's the thing about tough times.

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Coach Jim Clayton: If there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do you no harm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right

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Coach Jim Clayton: So it's kinda like the old guys that used to ride the horses with the sticks and they try to poke you I don't know what that was called jousting.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well they all had those metal uh those plates on plates on.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You got 'em on too.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When people start telling you this, you just let it bounce off like bing, bing, bing, bing, bing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hey, that ain't gonna get me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not gonna get me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's just not gonna get me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I'll give you a quick story on that one

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Coach Jim Clayton: Right before my basketball coach in high school, he's passed away.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he said, well, if you don't go see him

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're not gonna get a chance to sing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I called his wife.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, can I come see him?

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Coach Jim Clayton: She said, Oh, he loved sea.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I'm not sure about that

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Coach Jim Clayton: But I went over there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He's laying there.

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Coach Jim Clayton: As soon as I walked in, he couldn't hardly say much to the he looked at me, he saw me come in, he kind of said isolated, kind of raised up and I said, Hey coach, how you doing?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, and I said we got to talk about stuff.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, I gotta ask you a question.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I've always wanted to know this

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Coach Jim Clayton: My senior year in high school, I broke my foot and I had it in a cast for eight weeks.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not a boot.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They didn't have those then.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: White cast with a rubber thing on the back called a walker.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I hadn't run, haven't done anything for eight weeks.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They take me out of that cast.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Foot's healed, feels good

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Coach Jim Clayton: And we're going to go down to play Logan.

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Coach Jim Clayton: At Logan.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Big rival.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Huge rival.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He says, I'm going to put you in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going to start you

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Coach Jim Clayton: He says, because they just play better when you're on the floor.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, no doubt about that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: He said, but then I'll take you out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, okay, coach.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean I was limping.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I couldn't hardly run.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, it wasn't my foot hurt.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It was just stiff.

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Because you hadn't used it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And my calf was like dinky compared to my other one.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So all of a sudden we're playing

Randy Black: 00:53:04

Coach Jim Clayton: And I grab my shirt and I tuck at it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Coach, he goes, he shakes his head east-west.

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Coach Jim Clayton: No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm going, what am I going to do?

Randy Black: 00:53:15

Coach Jim Clayton: Am I just going to run off the court?

Randy Black: 00:53:18

Coach Jim Clayton: Just played the whole game.

Randy Black: 00:53:21

Coach Jim Clayton: We got down to the end, had a chance to win.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They called a foul with no time on the clock.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Imagine that and Logan.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And the guy makes two foul shots.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We lose by two.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So I said, coach, I gotta ask you a question

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Coach Jim Clayton: Remember when I did this?

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Coach Jim Clayton: I said, why didn't you take me out?

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Coach Jim Clayton: He looked at me and says, because you're tough as hell.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It gives me cold chills.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean, w when I say that, because I haven't said that to very many people.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But with him saying that to me, he was a tough guy too.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Coming from him on the last couple days of his life

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now I know.

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Right.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now I know.

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Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Did it hurt like heck?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Heck yeah, dude.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Did I get on through it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Heck yeah, dude.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yep

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: So again it doesn't matter.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tough times don't last.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Tough people do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But see, sometimes we just give up too easy.

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Yeah, it it even with even with the idea of being tough of uh with this is that

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You know, at times, you have to be vulnerable too, though.

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Oh yeah.

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You have to, because if you're open, you can actually become more resilient.

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If you're open to allowing that vulnerability to to show itself and show that

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Yeah, I'm tough and I can make it through this, but sometimes, sometimes there's a crack in the armor.

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Sometimes I'm I'm not as strong as it as it looks.

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And it's not that you're denying your toughness.

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You're showing your perseverance.

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You're showing your ability to move through it.

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You know what I call that?

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Coach Jim Clayton: A lesson.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That's a lesson in life.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And lessons.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Like that in life are blessings.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They are blessings.

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Definitely.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And some people don't look at it like that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And I'm not sure I ever did either too.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I got older and started reading and and doing things I

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Coach Jim Clayton: I ne I wish I'd have done but see that stuff wasn't available because we didn't have that stuff available.

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Coach Jim Clayton: That stuff that I'm talking about wasn't in an encyclopedia.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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We didn't you you didn't we didn't I mean even up until I was a teenager

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We didn't have that instant access to information that we have.

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No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And that's man, that is phenomenal.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And kids today know how to get it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And so, you know, I spend my l in my lane where that's what I do.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm not going outside my lane over here, not anymore.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I know my path.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And now it's got a lot of curves in it, 'cause I got a lot of weight with things to cook.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But, you know, I don't care

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I don't care.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's just, can you stick with something?

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, everybody has that give up mentality.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's too easy to quit.

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It is.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And if you quit once

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Coach Jim Clayton: It makes it easier the second time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Then that makes it easier the third time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then you just keep on the game.

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And then you're just putting everything.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When they go on against fan, oh bad, when the crap hits the fan, some people run and some people stun.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I don't know if you've ever seen that movie with Al Pacino called Synth of a Woman, where they tried to frame that little guy, Charlie.

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Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And he went to battle for him.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, he got an Oscar for that for that stage speech.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It was awesome.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, what kind of are you producing here?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, I I mean I had the whole thing down to a science.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And uh

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know, that boy right here is gonna make you proud one day.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But what are you doing?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh, you selling him out to hang out with this guy who's a liar, a thief, a cheat, you know, and you're sell you're you're oh man, I I just get fired up when I see this.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So you know, I like I said I I that that quote is one of my favorite ones of all time.

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Yes.

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That's why that's why I it was originally number nine on the list, and I moved it to ten, so because I wanted to close out that one.

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But

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You know, we've taken the time, we've looked at these great quotes here on these last two episodes, but now we've reached that point in the show where our own Coach Clayton is going to share his wisdom of the week.

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Cheesy Announcer Guy: Now it's time for Jimmy's Wisdom of the Week.

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Cheesy Announcer Guy: This is where Jimmy shares one of his famous genius to inspire the listener.

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Okay, Jim, so you gave me a piece of paper down.

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stairs before we came up here.

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And it had a quote on it you wanted to use for the wisdom of the week.

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And it says that sometimes when you're in a dark place, you think you've been buried, but actually you've been planted.

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Break that down for us.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, so sometimes when you're in the dark, you think, man, it's closing in on me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay, you see coming in.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well guess what

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Coach Jim Clayton: Go we're gonna go outside this door right now?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Guess what it is?

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's dark.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well guess what's gonna happen about seven o'clock tomorrow morning?

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's gonna get light.

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Coach Jim Clayton: It's gonna get light

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you see, we're not thinking about that.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We're stuck in the rut.

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Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well what a lot of people don't realize is it's like parachute.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When you jump, you know when your parachute comes out, you haven't watched you go up.

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Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But when you actually jump out of the plane

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Coach Jim Clayton: Before the parachute comes up, you don't go up.

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No.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You go up?

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're going down.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, that's the same thing with when you're planting.

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Coach Jim Clayton: When you plant a seed in the ground

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Coach Jim Clayton: All the action, the foundation of that plan begins where nobody can see it.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then all of a sudden, boop, something little pops down to earth.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Ow, sunlight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then that thing what?

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Starts to grow.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh my gosh.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And you can use an example of a tree.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Look at where they get planted.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And then look at them twenty or thirty years later.

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Oh my gosh.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Okay.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So it's a mindset.

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Yep.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You can feel like it's everything's closing in on you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Well, did it only

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Coach Jim Clayton: What are you going to do about it?

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Coach Jim Clayton: Let it?

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Or are you going to come with a different mindset attitude?

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Coach Jim Clayton: So again, just don't think about when things are going tough.

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Coach Jim Clayton: There's always hope.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hope.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Optimism.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Not negativity.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You know.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hope's not a strategy.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But let you know that there could be a good side.

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Exactly.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Now it's up to you to make that happen.

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Yes it is.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So you can feel like, oh man, throwing the dirt in on me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Oh yeah, but I ain't ready to go

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Coach Jim Clayton: Hold on.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You're kicking that out there and you come flying out there like, oh my gosh.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Yeah.

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Coach Jim Clayton: See, and that that that that's what that means to me.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I mean it's just like I said.

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Coach Jim Clayton: A plant to grow takes time.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And guess what?

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Coach Jim Clayton: So do you.

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Yes.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So do you.

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Take time.

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And the and you have to also look at it as

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If you're the same person you were a decade ago, you ain't grown.

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You haven't grown at all.

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You're stagnant.

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You haven't grown.

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You're you're that tree that got to be seven feet tall and never moved above it.

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And you may not even be leap putting out leaves that are are good at this time because you stopped growing.

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Coach Jim Clayton: And a lot of that is where we have learned what we learn to put limitations on ourselves.

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Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: We're our own worst enemy.

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Yes, we are.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Definitely.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I always tell people all the time this no one's more qualified to be you than you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Mm-hmm.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So be you.

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Awesome.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Step out

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Coach Jim Clayton: You were born to step out.

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Coach Jim Clayton: You were not born to blend in unless you're hunting.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'll let you.

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Coach Jim Clayton: But you see, the world doesn't need any more copies.

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Coach Jim Clayton: They need originals.

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Exactly.

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So thank you, Jim.

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Another inspiring nugget in our Wisdom of the Week segment.

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If there's one thing that these last five quotes we looked at tonight make clear, it's this.

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Resilience isn't always loud.

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Sometimes it's quiet.

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It's the decision to stand back.

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Uh up on your feet to push forward or to find meaning even when the world feels like it's closing in on you.

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Whether it's a paw proverb about persistence

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uh Marley's call to find strength and necessity, or Frankl's insight on changing ourselves, each of these quotes invites us to reflect

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and maybe even reframe how we see our own struggles.

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These aren't just lessons from history.

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They are fuel for today.

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So here's your challenge, listeners.

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Think about where you're being stretched right now.

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Is it in your work, your relationship, your faith?

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What's one quote from today's episode that spoke directly into your situation?

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We want to hear about it.

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to keep going how you're bouncing back.

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We'll be back next week with another episode of Shooting It Straight.

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In that episode, we'll be taking some scriptures from the Bible

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that relate back to the idea of resilience.

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We're going to break them down and we're going to we're going to see what we can learn from the word of God.

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on the topic of resilience.

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Until next time, I'm Randy Black.

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Coach Jim Clayton: I'm Coach Jim Clayton.

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Coach Jim Clayton: The great ones don't just start strong.

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Coach Jim Clayton: finish strong.

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Coach Jim Clayton: So matter where you are in your game, stay locked in, stay faithful, and remember, keep shooting it straight.

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Coach Jim Clayton: Bam son