If the word "purpose" has ever felt overwhelming, out of reach, or simply not built for the way your brain works, this week's More Yourself episode is for you.

In this clip from our first-ever ADHD Women's Wellbeing live event, Purpose Expert, Author and Accredited Coach Hannah Miller strips purpose back to something personal, practical, and actually possible, without the overwhelm and panic!

Whether you're newly diagnosed, recently self-identifying, or simply in a season of life that is making you feel more unsure than excited, Hannah's framework will meet you exactly where you are.

In this episode, we explore:

Why purpose has nothing to do with job titles or grand ambitions, and what it's actually about instead

The concept of being 'directionally correct' and why moving toward the right thing matters more than having it all figured out

Why knowing where you are right now is the essential first step before any meaningful direction can be found

The four seasons of life and how identifying your current season shapes what's possible for you moving forward

How the traits ADHD women have long seen as flaws are often their most powerful and underused strengths

The difference between good tired and bad tired, and how to use this recognition to find your purpose

It's okay to take information from all different areas as long as you're using it to go in the right direction

This is just a taste of what was captured on the day. The full audio experience goes so much deeper into helping you piece all this information about your hormones, brain, identity and purpose together! You deserve to have it all in one place. Now you do.

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Inside the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Live Recording, you'll find:

• Kate Moryoussef on post-diagnosis growth and her gentle framework for what comes next
• Dr Hannah Cullen on the neuroscience of ADHD and why your brain works the way it does
• Hannah Miller on reconnecting with purpose through a neurodivergent lens
• Adele Wimsett myth-busting on hormones, HRT, progesterone and perimenopause

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Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity and clarity.

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Episode here on a Monday.

And today I'm bringing you something a little bit special.

Now I'm sure many of you heard that a few weeks ago we had our very first ADHD Women's Wellbeing Live event.

It was truly, truly special.

55 Women in a room and we had the most incredible speakers.

And I know so many people wanted to come and they couldn't.

I kept it sort of quite purposefully, purposefully small and intimate for my first event.

So we sold out quite quickly and I know that lots of people were saying to me, please make sure you record it.

So we did.

I actually invested in some brilliant AV and my editor was there on the day and she has helped create a fantastic audio experience.

So as a little taster, I have given you some of Hannah Miller's talk today on today's episode.

Now, Hannah is the founder of Sidekick.

She is also the creator of the Purpose Pursuit and has written a book of the same name.

And she is an award winning speaker and an accredited coach.

And she helps individuals and organizations uncover their strengths, understand their personality, navigate change and pursue purpose.

She was incredible on the day.

Hannah really does understand the neurodivergent mind from a very personal perspective and many of her community and her clients on neurodivergence and she has family members and she suspects she is herself.

So I am bringing you today a part of Hannah's talk because she came in post lunch, everyone was a little bit, sort of, you know, like needed a bit of energy and she brought the energy into the room and she covered fantastic topics.

Like literally it was just, you know, 45, 50 minutes of really groundbreaking, earth shattering, straight talking information about purpose and, and meaning and creativity through a late diagnosis of, you know, adhd, autism or just being able to acknowledge neurodivergence for the very first time.

So we talked about squiggly careers and seasons, you know, embracing these non linear paths without shame and reflecting on where you are and just accepting that, understanding our strengths and knowing what they are, identifying what energizes you to use it well and how to take action, how we can test out what really does feel truly aligned.

So I wanted to share this section of Hannah's talk with you because you'll hear from her lots of brilliant concepts and topics about leaving maybe what's not working for you, or figuring out where you are right now and learning what your starting point is.

So we use this as a metaphor of seasons in our life to figure out where you're at and to learn your focus and what your purpose should be right now, not having to figure it all out for the rest of your life.

And we do this obviously through a very ADHD affirming lens.

So I really hope you enjoy this clip from Hannah's talk and remember that the whole audio experience is available to buy.

I've made this really accessible.

It's packaged up of different talks from the other experts, which include Adele Wimsert, the doctor, Hannah Cullen and myself.

And we've created it sort of like a podcast that you can listen to, but it's got depth.

So you are listening to workshops and you're also listening to Q&As as well.

So I really hope that the experience kind of transforms you into that room.

And I promise that the next event that I do, I'm going to try and make in a bigger venue so we can do more people.

But for now, have a listen to Hannah Miller and hopefully you'll be interested to buy the audio experience and all the details will be in the show notes or go onto it's all there.

ADHD womenswellbeing.co.uk.

Here's Hannah Miller and there's a great.

Phrase I heard recently called directionally correct.

And what we want to be is moving in the right direction.

So it's okay if you're gathering information from different things that you've done, but what we do want to do is get warmer and not colder.

Anybody got AirPods and an iPhone?

Because I lose my AirPods 25 times a day and I spend most of my life trying to find them with my phone.

And if you've not done that, has anyone ever done that?

And it tell you're 15ft away, 25ft away, 2ft away, closer, closer, closer.

And then I'm like, I'm here and I can't find them.

It's a bit like that with our sense of purpose that what we want to do is to feel that we're getting closer, getting closer and we're not getting further and further away.

So please be encouraged that the bravest people, the wisest people, when they get the data, this isn't for me, they actually work out how to move on.

What's worse is to stick at something that's not working for you.

Why is there a prize for 40 years of longevity in a career in that you absolutely don't enjoy?

Yes, we have to stay and provide for our families.

I'm not suggesting we all just wildly irresponsible.

I'm saying there's a space in between Both of those things.

Okay.

Right.

So the route.

Where are you now?

So the first thing you need to do is you need to consider where you are.

You need to know where you are before you can go anywhere.

If I had time, I'd tell you many stories about I get lost often.

Most people follow me on Instagram because I have a travel nightmare every single week that is the main source of entertainment.

What's Hannah done?

And actually, there's a point in this that a lot of people will come to me for help, where should I go?

But they haven't really thought about where they are now.

And you can't.

You know, when you're trying to get going on a journey, but you haven't got GPS at the start, you can't begin your journey if you don't know where you are.

And so I would encourage you, first thing to do is to take stock of life right now.

Where are you now?

What does life feel like?

What's good?

What's the bad?

What's the ugly?

How do I feel about the work I'm doing, the life I'm in?

What things do I enjoy?

And I think this is especially important if you are diagnosed more recently and you've got new information and your world has perhaps taken a bit of a disorientating moment and orientating, probably both at the same time.

Where are you right now in your life?

And I think one of the things I talk about in the book is this idea of seasons.

This has resonated with a lot of people, and paying attention to the kind of season you're in is a really good idea.

I'm just gonna quickly tell you what my idea of the season are.

And by the way, you could be in a season in one aspect of your life and a different season for another aspect of your life.

Do you feel like you're in a spring?

Spring is.

We're literally.

I love spring.

I. I'm like, oh, my gosh, it's blossom.

It's a crocus.

Spring is that time when new things are beginning.

It's when the foundations are in and you can start to see shoots of new life.

Maybe you've been putting hard work in in the background, and all of a sudden you're beginning to see some new beginnings.

Maybe it's that early season of parenting, if we were going to use the kind of arc of life.

But it's that phase of your life where perhaps you're in a new career or a new phase and things are beginning to spring up.

It's not in its heyday yet, but it's pretty good.

And you think the signs are coming, that you're on the way up on the curve.

A second season is the summer.

Who wants to be in that for eternity?

Because we all do.

And in reality, we aren't going to be, and we would love to be.

But the summer season is when everything is going well.

The sun's out, things are growing.

There's a feeling of, you know, I'm at the pinnacle of what I'm doing.

I feel like I'm in the heyday.

It's perhaps the time, if you've been, you know, I don't know, doing house renovations, you're in the house now, or, you know, you're enjoying that sort of finishing touches and beginning to feel like things are in a summer.

And some of you might be sitting here and think, yeah, probably on balance, life's a bit of a summer.

Some of you might be feeling like you're in an autumn.

And an autumn is like not.

Not the end yet.

But you sense changes coming.

You sense that things are finishing and something else might be coming.

I've got a friend I walked the dog with early this morning and she said, I think by the end of the year I'm going to have moved on from where I work.

And she's worked there for 10 years, and it's a charity she really cares about, so she's probably what you'd call in an autumn.

She hasn't moved on yet, but it's coming.

There's a sense of it coming for her.

My children are on the verge of moving out.

They'll probably.

Well, my eldest is getting married.

Can you believe that?

So he won't be moving home, but the other two, I'm sure, will probably come back after uni.

But I'm in the autumn of the parenting years, I guess.

I mean, I'll be.

It'll be new season, it'll be another one.

But I'm not in the.

Everyone in the same house all the time.

I'm not in that phase.

I'm not in the kind of the tween years when everyone's lives revolved around one another.

I'm in the autumn of that season and therefore things have got to be.

We've got to begin to let go.

Winters are those time where we just feel like things are really barren.

We feel that we've had to let go of loads of things.

It's the end of stuff.

We can't see that new beginning yet.

We just feel really Bad broken and there's nothing growing.

We maybe we are empty nesting, to use that example.

Or perhaps you've, you've just completely gutted that house.

You're going to renovate and at the moment all you can see is a broken, empty building and there's, there's no signs of life yet.

Or you're at the end of a period of your life that feels the end of a relationship.

Or you've maybe had a bereavement that can feel like a winter time.

I lost my mum in November and my last year has felt like such a hard winter, really has.

But you know the good thing about in wintertime?

Roots are going down.

You can't see it, you can't.

The trees look bare, but the roots are going down and growing in that time.

So that when that new time comes.

I think you talked about post traumatic growth this morning.

Yeah.

When that new time comes, your spring comes.

Actually, you have grown in that winter.

So where are you at?

Where's your season?

That's a really important question to ask.

The next thing you need to think about is who are you and what are your strengths?

Now, this is my absolute, you know, this is my, my bread and butter of my work.

And in my book there's a very simple strengths guide that I've made up to help people understand a bit more of their own strengths.

And you'll see on the middle of your tables, by the way, is a QR code to a free quiz.

If you want to do that, it's very simple.

Don't do it now, otherwise you'll be wildly distracted.

I mean, do it now if you want to.

You're here on your own terms, but it's there if you want to do it for free.

But this idea of knowing a little bit more of your strengths is really important and I think it's especially important for us this afternoon when so much of who we are, and I mean this lovingly, has now got embedded into understanding your diagnosis.

And I want you to see your strengths within that and outside of that.

If your brain is quick and inventive and curious, that's something for you to celebrate as a strength.

It might be driving you mad and we'll talk about that in a minute, but it is a strength that, if it's harnessed, is a fantastic contribution to your home, to your.

To your friendships and so on.

If you're somebody who's empathetic and you feel things really deeply, you might be feeling it's in overdrive and you wish you could control your emotions, but it's a strength.

It's a wonderful thing to be someone who feels deeply.

And we can't all have all the strengths.

You know, if you're really deeply logical then that's great.

But you're unlikely to also be deeply irrational and spontaneous at the same time.

You know, they're all important aspects and we all need to play our part.

And this guy, Donald Clifton said this.

What will happen when we think about what's right with people rather than fixating on what's wrong with them.

And his work was about looking at human talent.

What do humans do really well?

And every single one of you will do something better than hundreds of thousands of other people or do something different.

And when we don't show up, when we sit passively, when we don't contribute, that little piece of the puzzle is missing.

And so where you're maybe feeling cloudy with I wish I was a bit less this, I wish I didn't do this.

I want to encourage you to flip that a little bit and see what does look like when it's really well harnessed.

What does it look like at its best.

So what are true strengths?

They don't deplete you, they energize you.

Now they might deplete you actually, but when they're working well, they're an energy giver.

So after I leave today, I will feel like, oh, this has been really energizing.

I've used my strengths.

I may feel tired later, but there's good tired and there's bad tired.

Do you know what I mean by that?

There's a very different feeling.

You can be good tired from doing things that you've loved and you can be bad tired, which is bone numbing tiredness, which is when you've done too much of something that's not you activity.

Look at your diaries and pay attention to the bits in your week that you have loved and the bit and have energized you and the bits that have drained you.

And keep a log and learn.

Pay attention to what you were doing, every aspect of your life.

Another one, your strengths are not just situational, they're not.

Well, I have that strength because I'm an accountant or I have that strength because I'm a doctor.

No, they're much more part of your life than that.

And that's where I encourage people to think about looking at their school report.

Mine was quite, I had quite a difficult school report.

I don't know about you, but mine was rude at times.

And what was in that school report that if you flip it the other way and see that thing as a strength, what is it?

You know, if you're a bit disruptive, actually, maybe you're somebody who stands up for justice.

If you talk too much, maybe you're going to be a communicator.

Think about what's the flip in your school report that you can take as a strength.

Strengths are more about what you can do and they're also what you want to do.

Now this is really important.

You might be good at some things that you've had to get good at and you think this was mentioned earlier because life necessitates it of you, but it could be incredibly exhausting.

You may have found yourself being the one who has to organise things because people expect it of you, but actually you've just learned to do that.

You don't love it.

So it's a difference between what you've learned to do and what you love to do.

There is a difference between the two.

And pay attention, be careful.

What you get good at is a really important phrase, okay?

And when you do this, your life is better.

When you are playing to your strengths, you're going to have excellent quality of life and you are six times more likely to enjoy what you do.

Thank you for being here and listening to today's episode.

I just want to remind you that if you are looking looking for more support on your ADHD journey, there are so many resources waiting for you over@adhdwomenswellbeing.co.uk so inside the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Workshop Library you'll find practical and compassionate guidance on topics such as nervous system regulation, rejection, sensitive dysphoria, perfectionism, emotional regulation, hormones, parenting and so much more, all designed specifically for late diagnosed neurodivergent women.

You can also explore my new book, the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit, which was published by dk, which is also available in ebook and audiobook, which is packed full of tools to help you feel calmer, more regulated and more like yourself.

And if you do crave a bit more deeper connection and ongoing support, come and join us inside the More you New Self community.

It's a gentle space for learning, reflection and connection with other neurodivergent women.

And you'll also find the recordings from our first ever ADHD Women's Wellbeing live event, which brought together incredible speakers and a room full of inspiring women for a truly special day.

We have recorded it all for you and it's there to buy.

So whether you're just starting your journey or looking to go deeper, there's some something there for every stage.

Just head to adhdwomenswellbeing.co.uk to explore everything.

And as always, thank you so much for being here and for being part of this community.