Get all the inside secrets and tools you need to help you develop your intuitive and leadership skills so you are on the path to the highest level of success with ease.  Magdalena shatters the idea of reaching balance!

In this episode you will learn:

• Protect the vibrant core
• Intentional culture  achievement, accomplishment - worthy of celebration
• Alter your autopilot

A former corporate leader, now entrepreneur, Magdalena Raj has played many roles. Whether balancing clients with play dates, business turn-arounds with math drills, or building a business, she intimately understands the rewards, impacts and pitfalls of HOW you manage those roles. As a certified coach, speaker, healer, and author, Magdalena draws on her varied background to help her clients achieve their goals with greater ease, and, in ways that also empower, enrich and sustain their lives.

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Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

host Jennifer Takagi and today is my favorite day it's PATA

Palooza Day. And I have another amazing guest join me today.

Magdalena? Is it, Raj? Yes. Did I get that? Right? Awesome. She

is. She goes from business, to coaching, to healing to

neuroscience, she has a whole entire magic bag of a plethora

of things that she brings to the table. Tell us a little bit

about how you got here. And what like what your favorite way to

work with clients is your

so I am a high impact coach. And what I do is I

kind of work a lot with stressed over high achievers, and even

the high achievers that don't call themselves that. Because

there's a lot of us that don't own up to it, you know, I didn't

back in my corporate days, I would have never thought I was

that I wasn't running the country. I wasn't running the

billion dollar corporation. So you know, I'm kind of trucking

along, I would have never thought about a high achiever.

But there's kind of a mindset, and then it becomes a body

mechanism that goes along with that, where you drive and you

just go and you go. And in my career, I saw folks like that,

and you know, things look great on the surface. But then you

start to see that there's other challenges going on behind the

scenes, because so frequently, the last place that comes out is

in the workplace. And I found the same in the entrepreneurial

space. As I meet entrepreneurs, right? We you present in a

particular way. But there's things going on in the

background. And those things can impact how you show up. Because

if you can't bring your best self into the room, and you

can't show up as your best self, then you're actually going to

wind up impacting not only your relationships, and your health,

but also that income. That's important as well.

And it all plays in together doesn't it?

does.

It absolutely does. And I you know, I saw it,

as I said in the corporate world, I I love my life. Now

there's a place a time when I lost almost everything. And in

doing that, you know, it was like my marriage ended the

company that I had worked for for 10 years and poured

everything into one of the largest bankruptcies in the US.

And then I found out my personal investments hadn't really been

managed. So it was like no husband, no investments, no job,

no income, no 401k, no stock, no severance, oh, no health care,

because it all fell into the bankruptcy court. You know, and

at that point, you want to freeze. But I have one wonderful

thing there. And that was my little two year old. And so I

couldn't crawl into like the snail shell where you want to

stay, I had to step out. And I got help. And that kind of

opened my eyes to coaching. I had kept therapy and coaching

and looking at things and looking at the relationship

because I didn't want to be there that way again. And then I

said, Okay, what do I do now. So I have to rebuild. What the

heck, I'm older, I have a two year old I've got life is

complex. So my runway shorter, which was my trajectory is

higher. I really got a bus to move, so to speak. So I knew my

what I knew my why might that little darling. But it's in the

how is the how is where we live. And that's what what's the most

important thing is what goes on in the house. Because that's

every day. And so you go back in and you throw yourself in, and

you get working and you go at it. And then something happens,

because we all have that, right? All of a sudden, maybe my gifted

child isn't turning in the homework. Didn't see that one

coming. family member has something really awful going on

didn't see that one happening, something else goes on and we

can it can hit us and when you when I say the high achiever,

right, it's the, I'm going to keep going, I'm going to make it

happen. I can keep loaded on, I gotta keep going. And what you

wind up with is you kind of start treating yourself like

this infinitely renewable, natural resource. And we know

those don't exist. And really, you're moving yourself towards

extinction. Because I'm, trust me, I love a challenge. So I

could take on the corporate business challenges and do all

of that. But it's, you know, it's so seductive, but it can

become ultimately reductive. If you don't do it in the best way

for yourself. And when you try to give that 150% All the time.

Just like anything else you can make an investment of there's a

point when you run out, you know you're back then that resources

getting tapped. Just like anything else if you run out of

time You gotta go the bank. Well, here's what you do. You

borrow on your tomorrow. Oh, wow. You borrow on your

tomorrow. And that comes in the shape of the relationships you

have. It comes in the shape of your health. And ultimately,

your mindset. And ultimately it will impact the thing that seems

to be the most important, which is the thing that's giving you

the income that's letting you keep moving forward, moving

forward. So I saw so many people where it looked great, but

behind the scenes, the crackling was happening happening. And

what's funny is, I mean, I looked at my toolkit when I

started up with this again, and I and I pulled out the work

ethic I got from my little German grandmother Work Hard, Be

nice, you'll do well you don't. And then my mother was the first

generation to she was all about everything worth doing is worth

doing well. So yeah, for also perfectionism and there with it.

And then this is really bad. But there was this commercial by

background before going in the workforce. And until this tall

will be blonde, right? Going through different What will you

see the resemblance, right? I did. You know, you should go

through her life. And she's got the mother, the professional

woman, the homemaker, the sexy spouse, and I can bring home the

bacon, fry it up in a pan never let you forget you're a man

because I'm a woman was wonderful. Yeah. So but you can

have it all. If you do it all, you can have it all. And here's

the funny thing, there was a tagline, sometimes it's good to

read the taglines, it was the eight hour perfume for the 24

hour woman. Take, you know that. But it was gonna take you 24

hours to do all that stuff. See, I didn't focus on the tagline.

And you're gonna get, you're gonna get support 30% of the

time. But that's kind of where we go with having it all and

doing it all. And I finally said, you know, as I looked

through, it's like something is wrong with this equation. When I

shifted, I said, Okay, as I left the workforce and said, I need

to do something different. That's how I got into the

coaching cycles. I said, Well, how do I, how do I shift this?

And that's where I got into the healing. I didn't expect myself

to ever go into energy healing. And that's when you find out,

Oh, I've been operating up here from the waist up, I'm all in my

head. Isn't this lovely? And where's the rest of me and you

start to put the pieces back together. And I found that a lot

of it was all these different roles we play. So let me let me

let me play with you for a moment when you meet someone,

right? The first thing you say is so so what do you do? What's

among the first things right? And your answer? And you may say

I'm a podcast host, and oh, I'm a coach. I'm a doctor. I'm an

engineer, I'm a teacher. But none of it's true. They ask what

you do. You tell them what you are. That's a title of your main

role. So it's kind of like if you see the speaker, the other

keynote speaker, and then you know, looking all wonderful

professional up there. And then you find out oh, I don't want to

talk last night. Let's see, I have this four year old who has

a great future in fluid dynamics. And they'd like to see

how water works with things dropped in it. So they were a

plumber at 11 o'clock last time. And we play 35 or more walls in

our given day. Like, give me a morning, get up in the morning,

right? I'm a fashion consultant figuring out what I'm going to

wear doesn't matter if I'm leaving the house, and it's only

from the waist up. And it's presume. And then maybe you've

got kids so you got to be a drill sergeant getting them up

and you're a short order cook and you're making them breakfast

or lunch and then you're oh, what's the logistics expert?

Who's going where and how are this? How's that happening? And

if your parents your communication, because you're on

the WhatsApp and then you look at what the Capitol obviously

got to get back to see if you gotta worry about it. And then

maybe somewhere your chauffeur, you're getting kids places and

maybe makeup artist right before the camera goes on or you walk

in the office. Oh, that's right, you're starting your day. And I

can go on to the rest of the day and that, but the thing is, we

operate that way. And what wrongs come with is baggage.

Doesn't matter if it's an old duffel bag or Louie baton

student trucks, it's baggage. And the baggage is in the form

of expectations. And expectations mean this it means

energy and effort and emotion from you. And that hits your

time because the expectations aren't just what you have. It's

what other people have. And we're caught in it we say to

each other. Well, that's your role. That's my role. And

there's five different types. There's majors and minors and

the stick on one's the one when you go to help somebody wants

and then it kind of becomes a thing. It's like when you had

that little stick kick me thing on the back, it sticks with you,

right? And then there's the stealth ones, the ones that can

saboteurs that sabotage you right like the smart one, the

reliable one, the good kid. Right? Or then maybe it's the

loser or any of the other names that go with it. Right? Those

are the hidden ones that come out and impact us but all of

that we feel in our body. And as it is impacts your effort and

your energy, it's chewing up your time. And you cannot

possibly function the best way you want to be.

That's true. So now that we know, I mean, you've

like put a magnifying glass on it, we might have had a thought

is, but you've now put a magnifying glass and a

spotlight, I'm gonna say both. So what can we do to slow it

down? Or stop it or step out of it? Like, now what?

Where I go from there is when I work with

hoaxes, I think there's three key things that help three P

factors. And one is, you need to have a core a really vibrant

core. What I mean by that is, who are you? Often we think we

know, but we're really got an image that's like, maybe 10

years old, or 20 years old, or whatever point we fixed it. And

we're kind of operating like that. So who are you? What are

your values? What are your beliefs? What are the things

that are important to you? What are your non negotiables? Who

you are, who are you? Where do you want to go? And how do you

want to be seen as you get there? How do you want to show

up. Because if you can't show up the way you want to be seen, you

won't be. So that's kind of your core, and you need to protect

that that core is what everything operates around. If

you ever see a plane, you know, me show you the dashboard on the

plane, right? Well, back in there's a gyroscope, and

everything operates off that gyroscope. So if you don't have

your core straight, you don't know where you are within

relation to things, and you can't navigate through the

clouds effectively. The next thing you need is an intentional

culture. And what does that mean? What is your culture? Do

you just have a culture of achievement? Do you have a

culture of accomplishment when you do something? Does it count?

Or is it only one it's achieving? And when you get that

kind of high achiever mindsets, like Is it worthy of

celebration? So do you have a culture celebration? And what do

you celebrate? And is only major thing to have a culture of

exploration? Are you teaching your kids that? Do you have a

culture of failure? Where it's okay? And do you have a culture

of learning? So maybe have a culture of consequence, and

that's fine, but you have one of learning to? That's okay, we

learned that one, I can go on with them. But what are the

things you build into your culture and all too often it

becomes very, it's like two or three things that you focus on.

And then the last thing is, how do you do that alignment. So

when I work with my clients, there are things we do from like

neuroscience, where you start to train you change, right habits

or behaviors that are repeated, you start to look at those

things, but you get a little deeper as to what's driving them

and you practice your practice so that when you are in the high

stakes moment, or in the crunchy moment, you can show up in the

best possible way as your best self. And we work with the

energy so that the same thing happens is you sit there and go,

Oh, let me see what this is like, let me see what I'm

feeling here. I'm gonna like blend those together. Because we

are one person. That's like that whole work life balance, where

we pretend that it's like, you know, it's a binary situation

here, it's a sheet of paper, it's only two dimensional. We

got 12 dimensions I work with folks on. And when they start to

look at that, that's one of the first things we do they realize,

oh, I don't even focus on that part of me. I think it's just

going to happen on its own. But if you don't alter your

autopilot, which runs 90% of your life, you're going to be

fighting against it. And the last thing you need to do is be

fighting against yourself. Because you want to have greater

ease and less effort to go forward. So that's we go

I love that what's your vibrant core, your

intentional culture? I love that the culture is intentional, like

we choose and decide what we're going to have it be? And then

how do you align? How are we in alignment? So um, I love this

conversation. So how do you work with people? How can we get

ahold of you? And what does that look like?

I work with people in my coaching program.

It's called mold your life. And the best way to do it is I

actually, well, there's a download that kind of helps you

take a little look at where you are to get you started. Kind of

your show up meter. Take a look at that, see where that goes.

You can reach out to me at talk magdalena.com and get some time

on my calendar and we can have a chat and we can look at what can

you do that gives you the greatest impact with your next

step. Oh, as you do a high impact coach, that's what we

focus on. It's not undoing everything. And it's not just

cutting things out. It's very intentional to say where you are

right now, what gives you the greatest benefit across all

those 12 dimensions of your life because that starts to lift

things and we start with More things to see you start to get

some traction.

Yeah, sometimes the littlest shift can make the

biggest ripple, kind of like a little pebble in a pond, and

absolutely goes out. And we often focus on like the big

thing. Sometimes it's the little thing, it's that you know,

Princess and the pee, it's the pee under the mattress, not

everything else around this,

it is I would leave your listeners with three

quick things, the first thing to do is give yourself permission.

You have to give yourself permission to play, to explore,

to consider, there could be something different for you,

whatever you've locked in, whatever you're absolutely

adamant, well, it can't be different. Give yourself

permission to open your mind with it. To go and spend some

time being aware. Look at what goes on in your life. And in

your day, take a moment to step back, step out of it and see how

you're reacting, how you're what's going on around you.

Maybe what triggers you. So just for a week, jot down things

become aware of it. And then the third thing is pick one

behavior. Maybe you're going to walk in the door, and no matter

what happened, you're going to say I love you, someone you

actually did. Maybe you're going to do it five times a day. Maybe

it's a behavior, maybe you're going to look in the mirror and

say I love you and say to yourself, pick a behavior. Just

do that one, start with a small little ship. And you can do that

tomorrow. Or today. I love

that because sometimes things just get too

big. They look too big. I've been in coaching programs and

it's like, do all these things. And I struggled and I did all

those things. And it still didn't work well because like

the first thing wasn't quite right. Right. So you got to

start small. I love it. And I loved our conversation today.

Thank you for your great insights. It's very helpful.

Oh, I'm glad I enjoyed being here with you. And

this has been fun. Thank you for your time.

How to Palooza is a great day. It is it's a

busy day. It's a very busy day it is nonstop. Well thank you

for your time and sharing with the audience. connections with

Magdalena will be in the show notes. You're already on your

phone. Just click down grab the show notes. Click the link you

get there. Thank you for being here today. It was really great.

Thanks so much.

I'm Jennifer Takagi and I look forward to

connecting with you soon