Have you ever felt like a failure because you failed to stay on track with a goal? Many of us often fall into the trap of believing that creating unshakable habits means never making a mistake.

By the time you finish listening to this episode, you'll discover:

• A proven 5-step process for overcoming setbacks and getting back on track
• How to analyze and understand the root cause of your slip-ups without judgment.
• Effective strategies and immediate actions you can take to get back on track quickly and consistently.

Tune in to find out how you can turn your slip-ups into opportunities for growth and make your habits truly unshakable!

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Here's an inconvenient truth.

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Anytime you are creating new habits or routines, You're going to have slip up.

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It's not a matter of if, it is a matter of when.

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And the question is going to be, how will you bounce back.

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Do you have a rock solid plan in place for getting back on track?

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If you don't, you're Today's episode is going to be one you're going

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to love because I'm actually going to tell you the five steps that I

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personally take to quickly get back on track and that's coming up next

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right here on Unshakable Habits.

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The right habits can help you have it all.

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More time, better health, improved relationships, and less stress.

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But most people lack the tools to stick with those habits

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long enough to see results.

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That is about to change.

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Welcome to Unshakable Habits with your host, Stephen Box.

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It's time to take your habits from unsustainable to unshakable.

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Welcome back to Unshakable Habits.

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This is episode number 71.

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I am your host Stephen Box.

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Today we're talking about what do you do when you have a slip up?

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When a You fall off track with your goals or when you're

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trying to create new habits.

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How do you get back on track as quickly as possible?

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And one thing I want to share with you here is, as I mentioned in the

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intro, first of all, it's not a matter of if it's a matter of when

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we're all going to have slip ups.

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And a lot of times when I talk to people about the concept of unshakable habits,

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when I talk about taking your habits from being unsustainable to unshakable.

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People get this idea of, oh, that means I'm going to be perfect, that

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I'm going to knock it out of the park all the time, that this habit is

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just going to be flawless, and that's not what an unshakable habit is.

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An unshakable habit is one that you can always get back to.

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That's the key to making habits unshakable.

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How do we get back on track as quickly as possible?

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Because even for myself.

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Someone who practices habits.

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Someone who thinks about habits all the time.

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Coaches habits.

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Who talks about habits.

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I still have slip ups.

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I still have times where I get off track, but you know what?

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I always get back on track very quickly, and that's why my habits are unshakable,

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because I don't fall off and stay off.

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I get right back on.

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So today I want to give you the five things that I do, the five things

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I look at anytime I have slip ups.

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And these are what helps me to get back on track so quickly.

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So before I jump into those, a couple of quick things I want to make note of here.

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So number one is, a lot of times when we have these slip ups, it is very easy to be

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very hard on ourselves, to beat ourselves up, to think that we're failures.

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And all that.

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And I just want to remind you that, like I just said, all of

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us are going to have this happen.

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Doesn't matter how smart you are, how talented you are, how good

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you are, how disciplined you are, you're going to have slip ups.

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It's just the way that we're built.

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It's human nature.

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don't beat yourself up, because beating yourself up is not going

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to help you get back on track.

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The goal is to get back on track as quickly as possible.

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And that's what I'm going to help you to accomplish today.

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Step one for me is to always reconnect with my why.

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The deep reason why whatever goal it is that I have, I'm working toward it.

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I want to be very clear here.

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A lot of times we hear about goals and visions and purpose.

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Those terms can become interchangeable in our minds and they're not the same thing.

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Purpose is a bigger thing in life, right?

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I believe that we all have a God given purpose.

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I'm actually reading the Purpose Driven Life right now.

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And it's something that works on a much larger scale.

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Goals, a lot of times, are just things that I want to do.

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They're things that I want to accomplish.

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And they're identities that maybe I want to establish.

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And I need to understand why it's important to me.

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I have to have a meaning.

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behind wanting to accomplish that specific goal.

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And so I always try to connect back to that anytime I have one

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of these slip ups and just remind myself of why it's so important to

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me to do this in the first place.

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So as a quick example, let's take exercise.

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I see myself as a healthy person.

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When I think about what a healthy person does, what are the

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behaviors of a healthy person?

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One of those is that they regularly get intentional movement and

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exercise into their routines.

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And why is that important?

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Why do they need to get exercise into their routine?

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for me anyways, is so that I can be physically fit.

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So that I can be pain free or, at least relatively pain free as I get older.

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So I can still move around, be functional.

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So that I can hopefully live a long life and be around people.

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for my wife.

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And also, I mentioned earlier that the idea of purpose, I do believe that

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God has a purpose for me and I want to be physically capable of fulfilling

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that purpose if it's something that requires me to be physically fit.

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So for me, it's just, it comes down to physical fitness is the starting

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point of living a better life.

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And so it's something that I want to identify with.

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It's an identity I want to create.

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And that's my bigger why.

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So if I have a slip up and I miss a workout for whatever reason, the

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thing that gets me back on track is first thinking about that identity.

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You're a fit person.

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Fit people don't miss a lot of workouts, right?

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You're gonna miss some.

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You're not gonna be perfect, but you're not gonna miss many, right?

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The second thing that I do, and this first part of this is very

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key, Without judgment, I ask what really caused the slip up?

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Was it a one off thing?

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Did I just have some super crazy thing happen in my life that made it impossible

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for me to do what I needed to do?

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Was it a breakdown in the systems that I've created?

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Was it due to a poor decision that I made, right?

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If I can start to understand why I had this slip up, I can see, is there

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adjustments that need to be made?

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Because you know what, sometimes things just happen, and we don't really need

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to adjust anything, we just need to go, Bummer, back on track, let's go, right?

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Step number three is, if I determine that it's not just a one off thing,

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and that maybe there was a problem in the system, or I made poor decisions,

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or whatever, I look for the lessons.

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What can I learn from this slip up?

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What kind of things do I need to take away from this?

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Step number four is I adjust my strategy.

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I set new boundaries or I plan around obstacles better.

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Or I just look at what my thought process is, my mentality, and I ask

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myself, am I out of alignment here?

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Is there, was my playing out of alignment with what I want to do, or was my

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thinking out of alignment with my goals?

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Or what exactly happened here and what changes do we need to make

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if we've determined that it's something that is controllable.

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And then number five is I take immediate action to return

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to the path that I was on.

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I don't wait until tomorrow.

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I guess sometimes you are gonna, maybe the next day start Oh, it's too late for me

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to get my work ended now, but I can do.

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Something tomorrow, but you guys already know when it comes to exercise.

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Anyways, I'm using that dial method that we talked about earlier this week I'm

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at least getting something in right?

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I'm at least keeping the dial at a 1 So I am literally not gonna wait until

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tomorrow unless I have no choice but to wait tomorrow to fix whatever is going

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on So those are the five steps that I take to get myself back on track.

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So let me just go through those again for you really quick.

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so number one is reconnect with your why.

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That deep reasoning why that goal matters to you.

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And like I said, a lot of times it's easier if you would, if you choose

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an identity to associate with that.

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Number two, without judgment, ask yourself what really caused the slip up.

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If it's something that was outside of your control, Let it go, move on,

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skip to step five, which is to take immediate action and get back on track.

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But if it's something that was within your control, something you

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can change, Then go to step three.

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What are the lessons that you can learn from this?

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Once you understand what the takeaways are, what you can learn from this,

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and how things might need to change, then you can go to step four, which is

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to make adjustments to your strategy.

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do you need to set some different boundaries with certain people?

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Do you need to be more aware of obstacles that might come up?

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Maybe make some changes to what you're planning?

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And work to work around those obstacles because sometimes, obstacles come up that

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we didn't anticipate and now that we know they're there, we can work around it.

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And then back to step five, take immediate action, get back on track.

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So that is the five step process.

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Super simple, right?

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And I think a lot of times where we get ourselves in trouble is

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not thinking through these steps, but also beating ourselves up.

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Being super hard on ourselves, telling ourselves how we're,

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failures and all this other stuff, thinking that we need to be perfect.

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And remember that, again, being perfect, creating an unshakable habit, is not

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about having everything be perfect.

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It's about getting back on track as quickly as possible.

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It's about being consistent with those habits.

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So if you guys found this helpful, I will put a link down in the

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description and I have a free guide.

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It's a 19 page ultimate habit checklist and mini guide that will actually help

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you to create better strategies for creating more habits with less stress.

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So if you want to get that completely free, I will put the link

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down in the description for you.

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And if you are ready to take the next step with creating Better Habits.

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Head on over to unshakablehabits.

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com and schedule yourself a free roadmap call today.

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There will also be a link in the show notes for that as well.

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Make sure that you join us next week.

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I'm going to have a special guest, Adam Javlin, joining us and Adam's

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going to be talking about fear.

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The fear of change, the fear of success, the fear of failure, and some

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really great insights coming your way.

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Adam will be with us all week next week.

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So excited to bring that to you guys.

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But until then, enjoy your weekend.

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And as always, I remind you that while none of us are born unshakable,

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we can all become unshakable.