Inspiring Marriages: Unmet Expectations
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We have been happily married for 32 years. We have 3 wonderful grown children, a fantastic son-in-love and a precious grand baby.
As we share our story, our desire is to inspire couples to build their friendships and thus build their marriages in all areas: spiritually, emotionally, romantically and physically.
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webstersdictionary1828.com: The act of expecting or looking forward to a future event with at least some reason to believe the event will happen. expectation differs from hope. Hope originates in desire, and may exist with little or no ground of belief that the desired event will arrive. expectation is founded on some reasons which render the event probably. Hope is directed to some good; expectation is directed to good or evil.
The same weakness of mind which indulges absurd expectations, produces petulance in disappointment.
Petulance: childishly sulky or bad tempered
Unmet Expectations:
8 But when Elisha, the man of God, heard that the king of Israel had torn his clothes in dismay, he sent this message to him: “Why are you so upset? Send Naaman to me, and he will learn that there is a true prophet here in Israel.”
9 So Naaman went with his horses and chariots and waited at the door of Elisha’s house.
10 But Elisha sent a messenger out to him with this message: “Go and wash yourself seven times in the Jordan River. Then your skin will be restored, and you will be healed of your leprosy.”
11 But Naaman became angry and stalked away. “I thought he would certainly come out to meet me!” he said. “I expected him to wave his hand over the leprosy and call on the name of the LORD his God and heal me!
12 Aren’t the rivers of Damascus, the Abana and the Pharpar, better than any of the rivers of Israel? Why shouldn’t I wash in them and be healed?” So Naaman turned and went away in a rage.
13 But his officers tried to reason with him and said, “Sir, if the prophet had told you to do something very difficult, wouldn’t you have done it? So you should certainly obey him when he says simply, ‘Go and wash and be cured!’” 14 So Naaman went down to the Jordan River and dipped himself seven times, as the man of God had instructed him. And his skin became as healthy as the skin of a young child, and he was healed! 2 Kings 5:8-14 (NLT)
Reasons for Unmet Expectations:
1. Unclear/unspoken – “if he/she loved me, they would …
a. Neither one of you are mind readers
2. Unrealistic or Soulish
Soulish Responses to Unmet Expectations:
1. Disappointment/Anger
2. Resentment
3. Withdrawal
Spiritual Responses to Unmet Expectations
1. Forgiveness/Grace
2. Don’t expect them to be a mind reader
3. Communicate
Call to Action #2
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1. Buying the ring ($1000 in 1991 is $2300 today)
2. Big disappointment turns into joy.
a. Huge disappointment
b. Studio photo session
c. Steak & Ale
d. Single Rose
e. Gift: Amplified Bible – with marriage passages highlighted
f. Open Your Rose
g. Proposal on knee
Friendship builder:
Ice cream backyard/porch and TALK
Substitutes for ice cream: fruit, cake
Romance Tips for Husbands:
Put the kids to bed
Romance Tips for Wives:
Write little notes and put it in his lunchbox
Marriage Getaway Plans:
Friday night alone without kids
Call to Action #3
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