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Nothing to Forgive EP 92
Episode 926th August 2021 • The Demartini Show • Dr John Demartini
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Have you ever noticed that anything you say “I forgive you” for, you keep attracting into your life? Why? Because anything you forgive, you’re judging as not a part of divine order, and you’ll keep experiencing it until you see its perfection.

When most people use the term forgiveness, they mean, “I forgive you, but don’t ever do it again.” What that really means is, “I still have a button on this. I judge you, and I’m righteous enough to put you down and humble you over it.”

But the truth is there is nothing to fotrgive, only reasons to say “thank you for giving me this experience”.

In this episode go beyond forgiveness and transform it into gratitude and love.

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I always say the moral hypocrisies are incomplete awarenesses of a narrow mind

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instead of a broad minded awareness to see the whole.

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And when you see the whole, there's something to be thankful for.

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When you don't, there's something to be judging.

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And.

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Today's topic is about forgiveness.

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And I'm sure most of your life you've heard of the term,

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you probably thrown it around and probably told somebody to 'forgive this

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person', or 'I want you to forgive me', or 'I forgive you',

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these kind of languages,

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but I'd like to elaborate on some things that I've observed over the many years

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that might be eye opening about the illusions of forgiveness.

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I was speaking in Tennessee at a particular church and the

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minister before I began to speak,

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did a sermon on the importance of forgiveness.

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And I came back and did a two hour presentation that night at the church

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on the illusion of forgiveness,

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which made the minister stand up and listen.

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And the minister actually attended the program I was doing that weekend there

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and broke through that,

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and as a result of it at the particular church headquarters,

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where they do the training for the ministers,

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they decided to take some of the ideas that I'm about to share with you and

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incorporate into their teaching. So here we go,

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let's go down and explore some things. I'd like you to write this down,

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that when you are wanting to forgive somebody,

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you're making some presumptions and assumptions; one,

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that they're doing an act,

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some specific action that you assume

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you don't do.

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So there's sort of a self-righteous projection onto them,

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that what they're doing, you don't do.

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And that you have some sort of superiority of the idea that they did this and

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they need to you know, you need to, you need to forgive them,

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they need to apologize or something for that.

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And that's based on a kind of an artificial morality,

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a moral hypocrisy that what they did somehow has got drawbacks

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without benefits, which is not true.

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And that what they did that they've done, but you haven't done.

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Because it's easy to point your finger at somebody else and say, 'well,

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you did this to me' and blame somebody. Epictetus, the Greek philosopher said,

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you know, first you blame others, then you blame yourself,

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and then you finally to realize there's nothing to blame in the first place,

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when you're fully aware. But what happens is you have this event,

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you think it is terrible, they did this to you, in your mind,

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you now self-righteously assume that what they've done, you haven't done.

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Now, what I've done, I've been teaching the Breakthrough Experience,

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my signature program for many years, 32 years plus,

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and I've yet to find a behavior

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that we judge in other people that we haven't done.

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And at first you may not believe that, but it doesn't matter.

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I've taken a hundred thousand people through this process

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case,

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and I've got many facilitators that's taken millions of people through this and

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found this to be true.

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So you only judge things and other people that represent a part

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of you that you're internally judging.

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If you resent something on the outside it's reminding you of something you feel

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ashamed of on the inside. If you admire something on the outside,

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it's reminding you of something you're proud of.

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And when you're shamed or proud, you're not being yourself.

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So the first question you want to ask if somebody does something to you that you

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want to say, 'oh, I forgive you' for,

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is go to a moment where,

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and when you perceived yourself displaying or demonstrating this specific

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trait, action or inaction, that they've displayed, that you despised,

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disliked and go find out where you've done it, and identify where you did it,

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when you did it, who'd you do it to and who perceived you doing it?

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And that's called reflective awareness.

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Because once you own and see where you've done your behavior,

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and first you're going to swear you've never done it,

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but I'm absolutely certain I've been doing this a long time, you have,

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you only react to things that remind you of something about yourself.

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And so if you go and look, you'll find that you have the trait.

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I remember going to an Oxford dictionary and went through 4,628 traits,

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and I found every human behavioral trait in that dictionary that I could find.

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And I found out I had done them all. I lived, I've done every one of them. Nice,

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mean kind, cruel, pleasant, unpleasant, peaceful warful, positive,

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negative, you know, honest, dishonest. I had done every one of those in my life.

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So it's not a matter of if you've done it,

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it's a matter of just going and identifying where you've done it,

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when you've done it, who you've done it to and who perceives you doing it.

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And if you will stack up the memories of the moments where you

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have done this until it's quantitatively and qualitatively equal to what they've

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done, you'll find yourself going 'well, who am I to judge them?

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Why do I need to say,

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'I forgive you' when I'm doing the same thing?' It's sort of a moral hypocrisy.

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It's going around and saying, well, you know,

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it's almost like a denial of yourself and an exaggeration of projection onto

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them. So I don't find that productive,

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because I find that whatever you swear that you say, I forgive you for,

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you keep attracting because it's your button still.

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You've still got a button on that behavior because it's still something you're

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festering inside a judgment on yourself. And so,

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I'm not interested in going around saying,

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'I forgive you' and then having it come back again. And 'I forgive you',

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and to have it come back again and draw into your life things that are trying to

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teach you how to love the parts of you that you haven't been loving. So

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I don't find that productive. It's sort of superficial.

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It's like telling your kid after he beat up on your brother,

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the two brothers 'now say you're sorry'. Or say 'I forgive you'. And it's just,

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it's just a cliche. So I don't,

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the only time I use the word forgiveness is 'thank you for-giving me this

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experience'. That's it. So, what I found is, by going in and owning the trait,

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that softens the need for it. And then I go this way,

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I go one step further. I say, go to the moment where,

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and when I perceived them doing the behavior that I think I needed to forgive

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and go find out when they did it at that moment and from that moment till now,

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how did it serve you?

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Because sometimes we're blind to the benefits and upsides of behaviors.

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And we think something is terrible. And then a day, a week, a month,

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a year or five years later, we look back and go, 'wow, thank you that occurred.

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And I didn't see it at the time.

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And there I judge that individual only because I didn't see how it served me and

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didn't see my role in why that happened and the blessings that it offered.

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So instead of jumping to the conclusion with a narrow-mindedness and a highly

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moral hypocrisy,

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that it's a bad thing because somebody told you it's bad and

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automatically because it challenged you and may have humbled you from your

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pride,

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why don't you go in there and find out how it serves you so you're no longer

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reacting to it? When you see that it serves you,

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there's no button on it and you're liberated.

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It also helps you look back at yourself and find out maybe when you've done it,

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how it might've served too, to clear the shame and guilt over it,

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and to clear the resentment over it.

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When you're done you may not even have a need to say,

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'I forgive you.' You may be able to say, 'thank you.' I'd much rather say,

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thank you than I forgive you.

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I'd rather find the hidden order in it and assume that there's a message to it,

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to me, than it is to just assume that it's not an,

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I'm an innocent victim and they're the perpetrator.

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I don't find that model productive. A blame model doesn't accomplish anything.

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Now you could even go one step further.

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Go to the moment when they did display this trait,

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if they had displayed the opposite trait,

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the way you wished they had done in that moment,

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what would have been the drawback?

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And if you crack the fantasy about how they're 'supposed to have been',

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so you can appreciate what actually they did,

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you might find out that you're holding onto a fantasy,

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and that's the reason you're judge in the first place,

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it has nothing to do with their action.

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It has something to do with your fantasy about how they're supposed to be.

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Because if we're addicted to praise we get hurt by criticism.

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We get addicted to support, we get challenge, we get hurt by it.

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Then we are angry about it.

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And sometimes we're immature and we're holding onto a fantasy of a one-sided

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world and not embracing the two sides of life, which we need to grow.

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Maximum growth and development occurs at the boarder of support and challenge.

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So if we're addicted to support, challenge hurts.

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But if we understand that we need both support and challenge to grow,

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then the challenge doesn't hurt. There's nothing there, except 'thank you'.

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I find that whenever I'm getting criticized is because I'm some up above

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equilibrium and I need a little humbleness. Then when I'm getting lifted,

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it's because I'm below equilibrium, I'm being lifted.

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I'm a firm believer that whatever's going on in your life,

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is trying to get you authentic. If you see life that way,

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you may find and yourself being grateful for the events in your life,

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instead of actually assuming that there's a mistake in the universe.

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Maybe there's not a mistake.

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Maybe when you project your values onto people and expect them to live in your

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values, you think there's mistakes. But they're not here to live in your values.

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And you're not here to hold onto fantasies.

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They're here to break those fantasies and those prides and humble it,

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and get you back into authenticity. If you're proud or shamed,

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those are two facades and personas that are covering up the real you,

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but the real you is an authentic state of grace and love.

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So if you're in that state, there's nothing there to forgive.

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There's just something to be thankful for. Now,

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if you go a step further and you find out at that moment,

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where has this individual done the opposite in their life? Look at a moment,

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go to a moment where,

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and when you perceive this same individual displaying the opposite trait than

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what you judged. And you'll find out that at times they're the opposite,

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and then you can't label them that way and then you realize that there's,

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when I'm doing things that support their values, they're one way,

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when I'm doing things that challenge their values, they're another way.

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And they're just a human being, an individual, with both sides like I am.

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And then I, when I go in there and I dig for that,

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I find out that they're just human beings. And who am I to judge them?

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Who am I to judge them and forgive them?

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Or who are they to have to apologize to you?

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We can easily cliche things and say, 'oh, I'm sorry.' 'Okay.

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I forgive you.' But whatever you say, you forgive,

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you typically keep attracting. It's like the husband that comes home late.

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He's got a value on building his business and sustaining his income.

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And she has a value on making sure that the food is on the table,

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or maybe it's the other way around,

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maybe the man's doing that at home and the woman's working,

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today you never know, with gender it could be a complete spectrum,

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but whatever it is,

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somebody may have a value on being home and cooking and another person may be at

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a home working there and working and making income, whatever it may be, if

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the person has a value in business and they come home late because they're

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trying to solve their business and they come home and this person's upset with

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them and says you know, 'Apologize to me. You're late.' And 'Okay,

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I forgive you.' It's just, what it is, is it's immaturity in my opinion.

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Because it's basically saying that,

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that you're supposed to be living in my values, which is the cooking.

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And you're not supposed to be living in your values, which is the working,

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and that's a superiority inferiority. And if he says, I'm apologizing,

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he's subordinating to your values. If you say, I forgive you,

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that means you're projecting your values onto him. I don't find that productive.

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I don't promote that. I think it's antiquated.

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I'd rather respect each other and level the playing field and understand that

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that individual made the decisions based on their values and they're not here to

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live in your values, and you're not here to live in their values,

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and you're not here to project your values onto them cause that undermines the

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relationship.

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Anytime you project your values onto them and expect them to live in your

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values, or they inject the values of you into them,

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and they try to live in your values, it's a matter of resentment coming.

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And so I don't find that productive.

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I find that respecting somebody for their own individual values as much wiser.

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So I'm not a promoter of that. I don't go around, you know,

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forgiving people for things.

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I'd rather be accountable for my perceptions and realize I'm drawing these

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things into my life for a reason as a lesson and it's my stuff,

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they're not responsible how I feel, they're responsible for what they did,

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but not how I feel.

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And how I feel about it is my perception and my accountability. So,

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if I go and find out what is it that they've done,

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where I've done it and own it 100% and realize I'm not any different than them,

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find out how it served me until I'm grateful,

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find out if they had done the opposite and break the fantasy of how they 'should

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have been', find out where they've done the opposite,

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where I don't put a label on them,

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and then find out at the exact moment they did what they did,

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who is doing the opposite, cause there's always a pair of opposites in life.

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When you do, you realize there's nothing there, except thank you.

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And I'd much rather go through life and being thankful to somebody than to say,

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I forgive you and have it keep showing up again.

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Because anything you say you forgive is stored in your subconscious mind and

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you're wounded by, and it's basically assumed that there's some sort of,

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you know, down without an up, and you're storing that. And if it happens again,

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you're angry again, and you're going,

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'why are you doing it again?' And I don't find that very productive.

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Now when some people say, 'well forgiveness means to release it',

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but anything you judge that you still store morally as a good or bad or

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right or wrong or whatever, doesn't go away from your mind.

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I've been doing this, studying human behavior a long time,

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you don't let that go. You only let it go if it's balanced.

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Anything that you infatuate with,

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that you're conscious of the upsides and unconscious of the downsides to occupy

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space and time in your mind as long as you have that perception,

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and it will stay in your mind for days, weeks, months, years, decades.

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I've seen people upset or pleased with a fantasy for decades.

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And anything you resent that you're conscious of the downsides and unconscious

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of the upsides that you see all the negatives on,

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you're going to store that in your psyche too.

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That's going to be stored in your space and time in your mind and run you.

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And therefore you're going to be frightened about it.

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You create an instinct away from things that you see downsides more,

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and you have an impulse towards, and you're like an automaton reacting,

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avoiding and seeking. And you're basically reacting.

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And that's why forgiveness is based on a moral construct,

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that what they did is morally bad and there's no benefits in it.

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If you're saying apologize,

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that means you did something you think has got no upsides,

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and they've never done it. And I just find that that's not complete awareness.

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And why would I want to promote something that's not complete awareness,

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just because of a moral hypocrisy that people are trapped in about how people

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are supposed to be? When my observation is human beings have every trait,

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my observation is that if you look really carefully, if I said to you,

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'Sometimes you're nice, sometimes you mean, sometimes you're kind,

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sometimes you're cruel.' You'd immediately go, 'Yeah.' But if I said,

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you're always nice and never mean, always kind, never cruel, you'd go, 'Nope'.

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So why promote a fantasy about how people are supposed to be?

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I don't think that's productive.

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I know that that's exactly what Christians and Judaism and Islamic followers and

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various religious people like to promote but, I don't find it to be true.

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So I'm just going to be able to share that right now with you so,

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so I've been doing the Breakthrough Experience for you know, 32 years plus,

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and I've had people come into the programs with a lot of resentment about

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certain things in their life. And when they come in, they're,

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they're so raged and upset sometimes it's like crazy. And then when they go out,

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they realize there's nothing there, except thank you.

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All I did is asked them a series of questions.

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The quality of your life is based on the quality of the questions you ask,

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if you ask some amazing questions to equilibrate the mind,

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you liberate your mind from a lot of emotional baggage. So I don't,

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I don't find it productive to say, 'I forgive you', or 'I'm sorry'.

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Cause I found out that whenever I do, I just keep repeating it.

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I keep doing the things I'm sorry about.

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And I keep attracting the things that I forgive.

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And I find that that's just a frustration to try to do that.

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So let's reiterate again, let's take a look at it.

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Whatever you see in other people that you think they did,

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that has more drawbacks and benefits, you can sit there and say,

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I forgive you and hope they don't do it again and live in fear and anxiousness

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about them doing it,

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and then be an automaton reacting to whatever goes around you and then

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facing that situation again and say, I forgive you again if they do it again,

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or you can actually go and own the trait 100%

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and humble yourself and then go find out how it served you

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until you're grateful. And then go find out how if they had been the opposite,

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what were the drawback to crack the fantasy about how life's supposed to be,

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because most of the problems that we face in life are the comparison of our

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current reality to a fantasy we're addicted to.

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We're addicted to the idea that everybody's supposed

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not cruel. I remember my grandmother used to say, 'Be nice. Don't be mean.

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Be kind, don't be cruel. Be positive. Don't be negative. Be generous.

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Don't be stingy. Be peaceful. Don't be wrathful.' And then five seconds later,

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she'd go and yell and scream and bitch and demand from grandpa.

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And we were like going, wait a minute now,

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we're told one thing and it's hypocrisy.

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I have no interest in a moral hypocrisies.

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I find the people who are most adamant about it are usually the people that live

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in a complete hypocrisy. So I'm not going to promote that.

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I don't find that productive. I'd rather go and be accountable.

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That way the world doesn't run you and you're not waiting to make the world fit

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into the way it 'should be'. You're able to embrace the world as it is.

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The magnificence of the way it is is far greater than any fantasies you'll

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impose on the world. And living by how it's 'supposed to' be and 'should be',

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to me is not as powerful as honoring the way it is.

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And when you can honor it the way it is, it's a lot more liberating.

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And so I basically tell people, I said, 'listen,

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go to the point and find out where and when you've done it. Again,

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go to a moment where,

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and when you perceived yourself displaying or demonstrating the specific trait,

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action or inaction. Where are you, when are you, who you're doing it to,

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and who sees it? Then go to a moment when they've displayed it,

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the behavior that you dislike and find out at that moment,

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from that moment til now, how did it benefit you?

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How to help you fulfill your highest values? Because see, you know,

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you can be victims of history or master of destiny.

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If you take whatever's happened in your life and you ask yourself,

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how's it serving you? It's now on the way, not in the way.

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And then there's nothing there, except thank you.

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Why would I want to go and run around forgiveness and then want to avoid this

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person, then be frightened of them doing it again,

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and then having a false expectation and expect them to supposed to live in my

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little values, my little, my little safety box,

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and instead of it being resilient and adaptable and take whatever happens to me

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and turn it into opportunity? Then I want to ask this question, what am I doing

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that's initiating that reaction from them? That's a real good one.

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I remember this one woman came to me and she says,

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'I can't get my daughter to stop lying to me.' And I said,

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'Really?' I said, 'Well, maybe there's some reason why she's lying to you.

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Cause is she lying to your husband?' 'No, she goes and tells him the truth,

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but she won't tell me the truth.' I said, 'That's because of your reaction,

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probably.' you know,

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people do things based on what they think will give them the greatest advantage

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over disadvantage, so if they think that telling you the truth,

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you can't handle it and there's going to be some really challenging

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circumstances if they tell you the truth,

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they're not going to tell you the truth and you're training them not to be

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truthful, because of your emotional reactions. So going through and going,

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you know, 'Now say you're sorry that you lied to me' or whatever,

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and get all in caught in that moral game

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instead of getting awareness of why you're triggering that in your child. Much

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wiser to,

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if you have a reasonable response to what they do when they're doing a behavior,

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they're more likely to be open about it and tell you this is what they did.

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But if they think the consequences are going to be dire,

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they're probably not going to open up.

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They're going to want to lie to you because the odds

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50, 50 chance you might not catch it.

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So it's to their advantage to try to do it and you training them into lying.

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So going in there and finding out how it serves you,

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finding how if they did the opposite, what would be the drawback?

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And the most important one is finding out who's doing the opposite whatever

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they're doing. That's a mindblower. If you've never done that,

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in the Breakthrough Experience, I actually have people go in there and say,

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okay, when somebody verbally criticized you, who is verbally praising you,

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in reality or virtual reality in your head?

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And you'll find out that you were puffed up,

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you don't attract criticism unless you're puffed up in some way,

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elevated above the norm. For instance,

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if I walked in a room and you said, 'Oh, Dr. Demartini, you know,

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you're this and this.' And you praise me in some form.

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And I walked in and I humbled myself below what you imagined me to be,

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you'd keep lifting me up.

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But if I walked in and you were praising me in and I walked in, I go,

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'I'm more amazing than you can imagine.

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You have no idea how amazing I am.' And I puffed myself above what you perceive

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me to be, you'll immediately criticize me.

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Because people praise or reprimand people when they perceive them above or below

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what they perceive them to be normally. And so that's a normal response.

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Criticism is not a bad thing. It's a response to perceptions.

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And people are going to do it and you've no matter how hard you try,

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you're not gonna avoid that in life.

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You might as well be resilient and you know,

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discover how it can serve you and use it to your advantage.

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It may be waking you up. It may be humbling you.

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It may be taking you down from pride. It may be putting you into authenticity.

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It may be making you insightful. It may be help you refine skills of some form.

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It may help you go and study more. If you go in and find out how it serves you,

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there's nothing there to forgive. You have something to thank.

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And I always say that anything you can't say thank you for is baggage,

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anything you can say thank you for is fuel.

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So I'd much rather go in through and dig deep and find out what that

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blessing is. So if you go in there and you do that,

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you'll find out that there's 'thank you'. In the Breakthrough Experience,

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like I say, we have people from all different walks of life,

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all different ages that have some sort of a major infatuation with somebody or

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major resentment with somebody, and we show them how to neutralize that,

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so it's not running their life. Cause fantasies of people you infatuate with,

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you can minimize yourself to and lose your identity and lose your authenticity,

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or people you resent and you go into pride and put on a persona and live in

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anxiety about them being around and go around and think they need forgiveness.

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And think they need to apologize and get trapped in all that emotional drama.

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I have no interest in that drama. If you want to live in drama,

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you want to live in compassion for people that are suffering and all that other

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stuff, that's just, that's not mastery of life. That's for the masses.

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That's the people that don't want to be accountable for their life and don't

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want to master their perceptions. I have no interest in that.

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If you want to go that route, that's fine. But if you want to master your life,

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it's about owning accountable perceptions and realize that it

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has nothing to do out there with what's happening with your life.

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It's everything to do with how you perceive it. How you perceive,

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what you decide to do and how you act upon is where you have control over.

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You only have control over perceptions, decisions, and actions.

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And so if you go and balance out your perceptions,

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you'll have a loving decision and action and you'll be grateful.

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And when you do, you don't have a bunch of baggage. Actually,

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every time you're in a state of gratitude,

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you store that experience in your superconscious mind,

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which is more light and more expanding.

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And every time you judge something and you're in this idea of blame game and

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shame game or whatever,

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you store that in your subconscious mind and you weigh yourself down and those

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things will keep running your life until you finally liberate yourself by loving

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them. So why have the wisdom of the ages with the aging process,

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when you can have it without it? Why not go and dig and ask questions?

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The quality of your life's based on the quality of the questions you ask.

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And if you ask questions that help you balance your perception,

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there's nothing there to forgive. There's nothing to say you're sorry about.

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I remember Jampolsky many years ago wrote a book,

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Love is not having to say you're sorry kind of thing, at first I was, 'Oh,

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that's interesting'. But now I understand it fully.

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When you actually get to a point where you see the whole picture,

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not just the moral,

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I always say the moral hypocrisies are incomplete awarenesses of a narrow mind

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instead of a broad-minded awareness to see the whole.

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And when you see the whole, there's something to be thankful for.

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When you don't, there's something to be judging. Remember,

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when you're infatuated with some of your conscious of the upsides,

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unconscious of the downside, that's a judgment.

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When you're resentful to something you're conscious of the downside,

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unconscious of the upsides. But when you're conscious of both sides,

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you're thankful and you feel love,

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then there's nothing to forgive and nothing to say you're sorry about.

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There's just something to be appreciative of. And then you appreciate in value.

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You help them appreciate in value and you move forward in life.

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Anything that you can't say thank you for is baggage,

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you tell me how you want to live. So that was my special little message today,

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is to understand that maybe there's an alternative to the idea of forgiveness,

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unless you say, thank you for-giving me this experience.

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That's the only time I use the word forgiveness.

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I don't go around and forgive people. And I don't find that productive.

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I think it's childish. And I don't go, 'I'm sorry.

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I'm sorry.' I've see sometimes parents do that,

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'Now say to your brother you're sorry.

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And say you forgive him.' And they're both going,

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'We're just having a normal fight mom. This is not a big deal.

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This is your stuff.' And yeah, it's nice.

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It's a nice social cliches. It's nice to,

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it makes people think that that's somehow resolved,

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but I find that the people that say, 'I forgive you',

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they still harbor the idea that there was something there to forgive in the

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first place.

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When people come to the Breakthrough Experience and I ask them to pick out

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something that they might resent in their life to work on to clear they go, 'No,

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I don't have any resentment. I forgave them for all that stuff.' 'Okay.

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What did you forgive them for?' 'Well that they, you know,

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verbally criticized me when I was a child.' 'Okay.

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Well obviously if they did it again right now, what would that be like?' 'Well,

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I wouldn't want that.' I said, 'Well, then you're still resenting it.' 'Hmm.

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Good point.' Forgiveness is superficial.

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It's just a cover up for what's really still stored inside.

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So I'm not going to promote that.

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True love and appreciation doesn't require those terminologies.

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And I'm certain about that.

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I've been doing this a long time and if you would like to learn how to do that,

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come to the Breakthrough Experience,

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I'll make you go through the process and see for yourself how true this

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principle is and get to a point where there's nothing there, except thank you,

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I love you. To me anything less than 'thank you, I love you' is not complete.

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No therapy is ever complete until cause equals effect in space-time.

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As long as you separate cause,

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'they did this to me and I'm the effect' and never realize that,

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the cause of it is your own perception of it, not what they did,

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but your perception of it.

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And you change your perception of it then what they did doesn't really matter.

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William James the father of modern psychology said the

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generation is human beings can alter their lives by altering their perceptions

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and attitudes and mind. And that's so true. So, no,

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I'm not going to promote the idea of forgiveness and apologies and all that

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stuff. And I know that goes against everything you've probably been taught,

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but doesn't matter,

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I'm just going to share it that way and you can do what you want with it.

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And if you'd like to learn what I mean by that and how profound it is to

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actually get to a point of 'thank you, I love you' for events in your life,

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so you're not carrying baggage around and running your life as a wounded victim

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of history and want to be a master of destiny,

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come and join me at the Breakthrough Experience,

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let me actually make you do it and hold you accountable and let you experience

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it firsthand. I guarantee your life will never be the same,

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because you won't see life through the same eyes anymore. It's over with.

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The victim thinking, you know, that's all that's taught on television,

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the victim mentality, the perpetrator innocent victim mentality.

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No that's not complete. I'm not going to promote that in psychology.

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It's antiquated.

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It's there for the masses that want to blame and keeps the psychologists in

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business. But it's not the truth about life.

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And it's not the thing that empowers people to do something extraordinary with

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their life. So I'm not going to promote it,

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so you can do what you want with that.

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I just wanted to share that just in case that was an eye-opener. And also,

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if you'd like to balance those emotions for greater achievement,

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because if you're infatuated with somebody and then they let you down,

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you're going to resent it.

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And if you're resentful to somebody and you going to forgive them,

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all that is imbalanced emotional states.

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So I have a special masterclass on how to Balance the Emotions for Greater

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Achievement,

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because you're going to be weighed down by all those emotions and they're going

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to keep haunting you,

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and you can liberate yourself by transcending them by seeing both sides.

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Just by asking questions you don't do,

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your intuition's constantly trying to do it,

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but you shut it down with your impulses and instincts, your animal nature,

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instead of your angelic nature, your real executive function.

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And if you want to get this master class on how to balance your emotions right

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now, there's a free gift, Awakening Your Astronomical Vision,

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which is a very powerful audio program that I did in a planetarium in

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South Africa that I bet you'll watch more than once. It's a mindblower,

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it's about how to expand your vision to do something extraordinary with your

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life and the bigger, the broader the vision and the less narrow-minded you are,

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the less probable you'll be sitting there in 'I forgive you' and 'I'm sorry',

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because you got too much,

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why get caught in trivia when you got something massive to go do, you know,

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if you're inspired by a vision, you don't have time for trivia.

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You got too much going on.

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So if you want to go and play a bigger game and want to have a balanced your

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emotions and have greater achievement,

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take advantage of this masterclass and get the free gift.

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Might as well take advantage of it.

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And contemplate what I said about forgiveness and apologies.

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You might surprise yourself and come to the Breakthrough Experience,

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I promise it'll be a mindblower to all of a sudden finally realize what I just

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said has got some deep merit and it'll change your life.

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