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How to Calm Anxiety Fast During Divorce: Nervous System Reset Tools (with DNA Expert Elaine “Lane” Kennedy)
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Divorce stress, anxiety relief, nervous system regulation—this episode shares practical tools to calm anxiety fast during divorce for women over 40. If divorce stress has you spinning out, this conversation will help you regulate your nervous system, calm anxiety fast, and find clarity in the moment. Host Lesa Koski welcomes DNA nutritionist and mindfulness teacher Elaine “Lane” Kennedy to talk nervous system regulation, stress management, and how lifestyle habits influence gene expression. You’ll learn what to do when self-coaching feels impossible, why movement can help more than journaling in traumatic moments, and how support and community help you navigate divorce stress with more calm and confidence. If you’re a woman over 40 navigating divorce, anxiety, and overwhelm, this episode offers real tools and hope—because midlife isn’t a crisis, it’s your comeback.

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  1. (00:00) Welcome + why this episode matters for divorce stress and anxiety
  2. (02:10) Meet Elaine “Lane” Kennedy: DNA nutritionist + mindfulness teacher
  3. (06:00) The “white truck” moment: how stress shows up before we notice
  4. (11:20) Why “pause” is the first step in nervous system regulation
  5. (16:10) When “feeling your feelings” is too much: what to do instead
  6. (19:45) Move your body to calm anxiety fast: shaking, walking, getting outside
  7. (24:30) Why trauma shouldn’t be handled alone: community and co-regulation
  8. (30:10) Protecting your peace when a partner is dysregulated
  9. (36:40) DNA testing + gene expression: why one-size-fits-all wellness advice fails
  10. (44:20) Alcohol, anxiety, and stress: why it often makes things worse
  11. (49:10) The missing piece: fun, joy, and nervous system healing in midlife
  12. (55:30) Closing encouragement + how to connect with Lane

Key Takeaways:

  1. Pause first: nervous system regulation creates clarity when divorce stress is high.
  2. Move before you process: in traumatic moments, movement can calm anxiety faster than journaling.
  3. Co-regulation matters: hard seasons feel lighter when you’re supported by safe people.
  4. Protect your peace: you are not responsible for regulating your partner’s emotions.
  5. Personalized wellness wins: DNA-informed lifestyle changes can support long-term health and resilience.

Guest Bio:

Elaine “Lane” Kennedy is a California-based DNA nutritionist and mindfulness teacher who helps people reduce stress, regulate the nervous system, and support health through personalized lifestyle strategies. With a background in mindfulness practices and DNA-based wellness education, Lane teaches practical tools to build capacity, calm anxiety, and create sustainable habits that support whole-body resilience.

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Hey, I just wanted to pop in here and tell you that this

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week I'm doing divorce different.

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I have a great podcast for you.

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It is all about how to deal

with really, uh, stress right

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in the moment when it's frantic.

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You know how it's almost like you can't

use the self-coaching tools because you're

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right in the middle of it, and my guest.

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This week, Elaine Kennedy is so

in alignment with my thinking and

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she taught me a lot of new things.

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She is a DNA expert.

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She's um, she's in sunny California,

so I'm a little bit jealous being

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here in Wisconsin right now.

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But she was so helpful, so

knowledgeable, and she has the.

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Amazing story about what, what letter

to do this genetic work and how we

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can change how our genetics play out.

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So if you are feeling a little anxious or

if you're going through something really

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hard or want to be prepared, because you

know what hard stuff happens and I love

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being ready for it by knowing what to do.

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So stay tuned.

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This is a great episode.

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I.

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Speaker: Welcome listeners.

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I have a treat for you today.

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I have the lovely Lane Kennedy

with me, and she's a smart cookie.

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She's a DNA nutritionist.

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She's a mindfulness teacher.

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We're gonna kind of hear lane's,

authentic story as to what letter to

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do this work, and you know, if you've

listened to this podcast, you know,

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this is my kind of, my kind of people.

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Mm-hmm.

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Because I have done my

genetic testing to see.

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What I might need to eat to do better, but

we're gonna talk about that a little bit.

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But we're really gonna talk a lot

about stress management because a

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lot of my listeners are going through

something hard, and so if we can

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talk about managing stress a little

bit, lane helps people with that too.

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And then I did want to also touch on.

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Food.

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Mm-hmm.

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And daily habits and how they can

influence how genes are expressed.

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So I'm so excited to learn lean.

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Thank you so much.

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She's in sunny California and I'm so

jelly in my cold barn in Wisconsin.

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Speaker 2: Oh, Lisa,

thank you for having me.

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It's just a pleasure to meet you and.

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It is sunny today.

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I will say,

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Speaker: well, I'm, it's

sunny here too lane.

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It's just, it was negative 13

when I went to my yoga class.

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It's not, it's warmed up a itch, but

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Speaker 2: yeah, no, I couldn't do that.

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I, no, I would be crying,

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Speaker: so.

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Yeah.

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But you figure, you figure out

ways, like I do heat it yoga

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classes under infrared lights.

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I've got an infrared mask.

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That's nice.

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You make yourself bundle

up and go see the horses,

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Speaker 2: you know, you just,

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Speaker: you gotta feed them, so.

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Speaker 2: right.

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Speaker: So, well, lane, welcome.

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Thank you.

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And you're, you're a new friend

to me and so I really, yeah.

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I'd love to get to know what

led you to do this work.

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Mm-hmm.

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The work that you're doing.

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And you've got a lot of followers.

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I mean, people can find

you in a lot of places.

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So you've been doing this a while.

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I think.

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Speaker 2: I have been doing this for

a while, which I'm really grateful.

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Uh.

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It's completely by mistake.

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Like this was not my plan.

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Um, I started my life modeling

and I modeled for many,

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many years into my forties.

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And I, I thought that was it.

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And, uh, I didn't really think

about stress management, or I didn't

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really think about, um, DNA until,

uh, things kind of fell apart.

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That's, that's the story.

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Um.

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I found myself driving in.

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We have a neighborhood here

called The Hate Ashbury, and I

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was trying to get across town and.

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A speedy time.

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Like I had an appointment and the

person in front of me in a little

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white truck didn't realize that

I had an appointment to go to.

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here and you can't really go around.

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car and I was honking, and all of a

sudden I was yelling and screaming.

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And then all of a sudden I was out

of my car banging on his window.

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And I had this out-of-body

experience, Lisa, and I was like.

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What am I doing?

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What am I doing?

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And this, this was a pivotal

moment in thinking, I'm not right.

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I'm not right.

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And mind you, I am in recovery, long-term

recovery from alcohol and drug use.

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And so I was suddenly

thinking, what, what?

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What am I feeling?

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So I had this internal anger and

this internal rage that was just.

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his little white truck, and I

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suddenly went back to my car.

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I got in my car, I looked at my son and I

was like, this I, I, I needed to change.

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And this is when I went down

many, many rabbit holes.

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Um, I found.

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The work of Judson Brewer, I found

the work of, uh, mindfulness.

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Um, I went deeper into

a meditation practice.

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Um, I became a yoga Nidra practitioner.

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Uh, it just, I had to make

change because of that incident.

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Speaker: Wow.

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That's impactful.

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I mean, I think that's, I

mean, and you know, sadly, that

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is how it happens sometimes.

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And Lane, I'm gonna tell you,

when I went through my hard Yeah.

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I was kind of get, I kind of

didn't feel good, but, and so I

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was slowly working towards it.

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So those are, and you know.

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Sadly, sometimes we have to go

through those things, but I feel

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like if people can listen mm-hmm.

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To this, they can be prepared.

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They can know where to go for help.

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They can be ready for it.

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And so, okay, so say you had someone,

a good friend come to you and they're

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like, my husband just asked for a

divorce, and they're freaked out.

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Maybe they're 50, they're thinking

about, maybe they're even a little

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older thinking about retirement.

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So they come to you and you know

how when you're in the middle of it.

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It's been in spin and spin and I

have this whole process of, you know,

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feel your feelings, blah, blah, blah.

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But I remember being there.

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Mm-hmm.

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And kind of not really.

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I just had to sit, I just had

to sit like a deer and hunt

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headlights for a little while.

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And feel it.

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And it took a while.

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So what do you tell, what would

you tell your best friend if they

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came to you and want it to kind?

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Because we know we can, we can

control our mindset, right?

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Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

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Speaker: Mm-hmm.

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So what would you tell 'em?

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Speaker 2: So if she's coming

to me and she's sitting in, in

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this decision around divorce,

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Speaker: well she's spinning

out because it's scary.

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Her husband asked for it.

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She didn't expect it.

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Whatever your scary is.

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Speaker: That's what I say.

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Speaker 2: It's really, you know,

we live in the society of just go,

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go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go.

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Do, do do, do, do, do, do.

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And the nervous system is what regulates

our life, what regulates our emotions.

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It regulates how we interact in the world.

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And so if you can just pause

and I know that seems so simple.

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It's, it's, it's like what?

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Just sit down, you know?

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And I say, and this is one of

the first things that I teach

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in, in my, in my class, is like,

just sit and look at a tree.

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Look, look out your window.

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Look out your window, you

know, and look at the distance

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between you and that space.

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You know, you and that tree.

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You know what, what's happening

in that moment in the world?

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And that it, it can

just shift perspective.

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Speaker: I feel like you're my

little soul sister because I mean,

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that's like the first thing when

I try to walk people through.

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It's stillness.

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Speaker: Yeah.

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Just have to sit.

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Speaker: And you take a deep breath.

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Sometimes I rub my fingers together

so you have like some other idea,

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but that is my first one and I

didn't even know that was yours.

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Speaker 2: mm-hmm.

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It, it again, I don't

think people take time out.

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Speaker: It's a gift.

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It's a gift to yourself and you

don't think you deserve it, and

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you think you have to hurry up.

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Speaker 2: Right, right.

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love is when I have a student and

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they say, um, I'm here because I

don't have any other time in my life.

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To practice to do this.

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waking up, they're waking up

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to take time for themselves.

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Speaker 2: And I, again, it's like

we're just not, and I see so many people

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suffering from so many different things.

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Um, you know, and mental

health is just spiraling.

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And if we just could take a timeout and

I like to call it soul care, just take.

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Five minutes of Soul Care, 10 minutes

of Soul Care, build that bank.

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Speaker: I love you and my, I

have the Soul method for, that's

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how I walk people through.

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So I love that you're saying this.

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That's awesome.

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I love it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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It's really, again, we we're living

in a deficit, so what are the

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things that we can do to increase

our space, the capacity to be.

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So now, now tell me if I'm right

or wrong in where I lead people.

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Next is I go, okay, in

that stillness mm-hmm.

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Look at what you're feeling.

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Speaker: say that.

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Speaker 2: it's, it's

overwhelming to look at that.

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Speaker: Okay.

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So tell me what you do, because you

know how lean sometimes, and this is

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what I learned before my heart mm-hmm.

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That I didn't use during my heart.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker: I learned that

sometimes if you really feel it

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Speaker 2: mm-hmm.

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Speaker: And you sit with it and

you name it and you, um, it kinda

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like, and then I surrender it too,

it kinda loses its hold on you.

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Speaker: But are you saying that when

you're in the middle of something

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really traumatic, you can't feel it?

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something super traumatic, it's,

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it's move your body, shake your

body, um, get outside, take a walk.

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overstimulate the nervous system and

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we're trying to unwind it, right?

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you know, I had somebody just say,

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oh, I'm gonna journal about this.

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don't journal about it.

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your body, get it outta your body, and

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then come back and journal about it.

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Speaker: you want, okay, so this could

be, I'm sorry to interrupt you, but I

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even thinking when I'm in the middle of

a, a divorce mediation, that gets heated.

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come back, but I could just say, get

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Speaker 2: shake your body.

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hands just to get the movement out of you.

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Speaker: All right.

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Speaker: And that's when you're

just right in the middle of it.

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So the work comes mm-hmm.

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Speaker: To process it.

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Speaker 2: Yes.

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So you have some capacity.

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We call it capacity.

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I'm writing this.

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Can you tell I'm taking notes.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're taking notes.

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I love it.

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Speaker 2: I'm please.

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Speaker: And they, they're

jumping up and down and they're,

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they don't even know what to do.

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days and weeks and months ahead

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Speaker: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't think trauma

is to be done alone at all.

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Like mm-hmm.

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We're, we're community

driven tribal people.

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We need people around us to hold

our hand, to sit next to us, to talk

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to, to just look at, like this kind

of work should not be done alone.

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I don't think.

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Speaker: Okay.

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like an introvert, but I have my

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community, I have my little, yes.

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Speaker: And then my community that I

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Speaker: Yes.

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Speaker 2: Really important.

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feeling like they can't afford to

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hire someone to help them through it,

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Speaker 2: then, and then feel, they

feel connected to a colleague or

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a best friend where they can say,

this is what's going on with me.

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hold the space, not give them any

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commentary, not give them any advice.

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of this, as a friend, keep that in mind.

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point where I would say that sometimes,

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Speaker: I, I don't want you to, I

just wanna be able to tell you this.

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on, like, if I've say I'm coming and I

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need to talk to you about something about

my spouse or another friend or whatever,

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it's, I don't want you to judge him.

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Speaker: Because sometimes your

best friends can go, which I

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just did to a friend who this guy

broke up with her through a text.

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I'm like, asshole, you don't

want him in your life anyway.

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I don't know.

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really it's up to us to learn, right?

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From our experiences anyway.

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person, it provides it's nervous

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systems work together, right?

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Speaker 2: So, you know, like you both

wanna come at it at a regulated, you

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know, like if you're telling your best

friend and, and she's anxious or she's

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gonna give you some kind of feedback

that's just gonna dysregulate you again.

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giving that information and

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sharing that information with.

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Speaker: Okay.

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Lane, that brings me to another

question that I just thought of.

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So say you're trying to stay

in a relationship, you're

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working on it and maybe.

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relationship with you has this

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energy and you get around them.

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And sometimes I'll say to my

hubby, don't steal my joy.

389

:

Yeah.

390

:

Don't steal my joy right now.

391

:

Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah.

392

:

Speaker: Okay.

393

:

But, but how can I protect myself?

394

:

Speaker 2: When

395

:

Speaker: he is really stressed out

and having, and he is a great guy.

396

:

We've been married 34 years.

397

:

I'm not leaving him.

398

:

We're, we're together.

399

:

But how do I, when he's having a bad

or he'll get real stressed out about

400

:

something, I don't wanna go there.

401

:

Speaker 2: No.

402

:

Speaker: How do you do that when you're

saying your nervous systems work together?

403

:

Just get away from him.

404

:

Run

405

:

Speaker 2: step, step back.

406

:

Speaker: It's always happens

in the car when I'm trapped.

407

:

Speaker 2: Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no,

408

:

Speaker: no.

409

:

Deep conversations in the car.

410

:

Speaker 2: Maybe not have

those conversations in the car.

411

:

Um, but that, that is something, if

your, your partner is in one of those

412

:

moods, it's protecting your energy,

protecting your nervous system because

413

:

you don't want to have to bring

their nervous system up and you don't

414

:

wanna regulate their nervous system.

415

:

Speaker: No, and I think, I try,

I think I thought that was my job.

416

:

'cause I'm a people pleaser.

417

:

Yeah.

418

:

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

419

:

Speaker: And that's

really, really difficult.

420

:

And so now I just kind

of have been like, okay.

421

:

Speaker 2: Yeah,

422

:

Speaker: I don't feel

that way and that's okay.

423

:

And I'm not responsible,

424

:

Speaker 2: right.

425

:

Speaker: For how they're

feeling and react.

426

:

And that's kind of how I do it.

427

:

'cause we are in community

with these people.

428

:

Yep.

429

:

And they're gonna be the good

and the bad and the ugly, right?

430

:

Yeah.

431

:

I mean, it's gonna happen.

432

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

433

:

Speaker: Um, so you just kind of

remove yourself from it and then just

434

:

try to stay in that place yourself.

435

:

Speaker 2: Because your nervous system,

your, your body, your presence, right?

436

:

You, you can go out and do

other things in your life.

437

:

Go, go to the store, go meet a friend,

go to the library, read a book.

438

:

Right?

439

:

Take care of yourself.

440

:

And then when you come back,

if that person is shifted

441

:

their mood, that's great.

442

:

If not, you don't have to come

in hot and be all excited and

443

:

trying to change them, right?

444

:

Like just.

445

:

Keep yourself nice and even, you

know, stay connected to yourself.

446

:

Speaker: Yeah.

447

:

It's funny because this is a

new light bulb mo moment for me.

448

:

Mm-hmm.

449

:

Because I am just realizing

that that is something that I

450

:

would just come in all happy.

451

:

Yeah.

452

:

Or, or even if I'm maybe feeling down.

453

:

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

454

:

Mm-hmm.

455

:

Speaker: Um, he doesn't

want me to feel down.

456

:

He doesn't like that.

457

:

So then I feel like I

have to make myself well.

458

:

Speaker 2: No, no, and

this is many women, uhhuh.

459

:

We are trying to regulate our partners

and trying to make them come up

460

:

and trying to match them and meet

them, and it's just, it's energy

461

:

that we don't need to be spending.

462

:

Speaker: Right.

463

:

Speaker 2: Current.

464

:

Speaker: Yeah.

465

:

Speaker 2: You know,

466

:

Speaker: so that's probably my

first little piece of a aware.

467

:

Just be aware.

468

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

469

:

Speaker: Become aware when I'm doing it.

470

:

Aware.

471

:

Yeah.

472

:

Yeah.

473

:

I love that.

474

:

Okay.

475

:

Taking it out there.

476

:

All right.

477

:

Now tell me, um, your genetic testing.

478

:

You do genetic testing and

I've had genetic testing done,

479

:

um, after my breast cancer.

480

:

I wanted to, I don't even know

what kind it was, so don't

481

:

ask, don't go into detail.

482

:

My, my friends a functional

assessment doctor.

483

:

Speaker 2: Great.

484

:

Great.

485

:

And so

486

:

Speaker: she, yeah, I've been working with

her for quite a bit and it's very helpful

487

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

488

:

Speaker: To see like what I might.

489

:

Lean towards and to learn other things.

490

:

Like, well, you don't really

have an issue with this.

491

:

Mm-hmm.

492

:

That you thought, well,

everybody's gluten-free.

493

:

I probably should be.

494

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

495

:

No.

496

:

Speaker: You know what I mean?

497

:

So it, it's interesting.

498

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

499

:

I got into the DNA space, um,

well, when my son was born.

500

:

So that's, it's been while now.

501

:

And it

502

:

Speaker: was before the aha moment.

503

:

Speaker 2: Yes.

504

:

Speaker: With the little white car.

505

:

Speaker 2: Yes.

506

:

Yeah, my, my husband wanted to look at DNA

and make sure that everything was right.

507

:

And so that's when I started to explore

DNA and in San Francisco, it was kind

508

:

of a, a bigger conversation here.

509

:

And I was like, I'm just

gonna check that out.

510

:

And I became fascinated by it.

511

:

And so, uh, understanding my

genetics opened the door for

512

:

me to help others, right?

513

:

Mm-hmm.

514

:

And at the time, I had some.

515

:

Um, detox issues.

516

:

I wasn't, you know, eliminating properly.

517

:

And so, you know, I had to go down

that rabbit hole to find out like,

518

:

why, why, why am I happening?

519

:

You know?

520

:

And so then finding out that my detox

pathways and the genes that are in

521

:

that, or the single, the snips that

are in that pathway don't function.

522

:

Great.

523

:

They're not robust.

524

:

Um, I could make changes.

525

:

I could make a choice to, um, you know,

use either products or eat differently to

526

:

make my body function more effectively.

527

:

Speaker: Mm-hmm.

528

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

529

:

Speaker: And I think, I know my

genetic testing was expensive, so

530

:

I think it's a great, yours isn't,

531

:

Speaker 2: I don't, I don't know.

532

:

Everybody's expense is different,

so I don't know what that means.

533

:

Speaker: I know.

534

:

Okay, so if somebody.

535

:

Was to come to you and wanna do

a genetic test, and then you, I'm

536

:

assuming you kind of go through it

with them because I can't read it.

537

:

Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's, it's correct.

538

:

Speaker: Okay.

539

:

Is, can I put a link in

my podcast show notes?

540

:

Oh, yeah.

541

:

So people can do that

542

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

543

:

Speaker: If they want to.

544

:

But how much does that cost?

545

:

Speaker 2: Um, it's

under a thousand dollars.

546

:

Speaker: Okay.

547

:

That's not that bad,

548

:

Speaker 2: right?

549

:

Because there are influencers out there.

550

:

I just wrote a huge article on this

around these influencers, you know,

551

:

naming out a specific gene and saying

that's the thing that has to be looked at.

552

:

It's like.

553

:

No, it's not genes.

554

:

We don't look at just one gene.

555

:

Genes don't operate in a vacuum.

556

:

We look at the whole profile, we

look at several different genes.

557

:

We look at how the, the systems of the

body are functioning, not just one,

558

:

Speaker: right?

559

:

Speaker 2: And, and he charges

and he charges, um, $1,500, and

560

:

you get a stack and you don't

even know what to do with it.

561

:

So I've had many of his people come to

me, and then I've had to interpret them.

562

:

Speaker: Right.

563

:

Well, good for you.

564

:

Good for you for doing it.

565

:

Okay.

566

:

So they, you, you come to you,

you look at your genetics.

567

:

Mm-hmm.

568

:

And then you kinda help them see what

things that might be tripping 'em up.

569

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

570

:

Speaker: And

571

:

Speaker 2: there's, there's, there's a co

there's a lot of things, you know, some

572

:

people, um, wanna know about the gluten.

573

:

We can look at that and find that out.

574

:

Um, a lot of people are

concerned about, um.

575

:

Cardiac, you know, issues,

cardiovascular issues.

576

:

Um, some people are

concerned about fertility.

577

:

Um, some people are concerned

about longevity, like what's

578

:

coming, like what's coming up.

579

:

And that's mostly what my people

are, is like, you know, what do I do?

580

:

What, what do I have

coming, you know, there my.

581

:

Mother had Alzheimer's.

582

:

Do I have Alzheimer's?

583

:

Mm-hmm.

584

:

You know, so we can look at that

and be like, well, you know, there's

585

:

maybe, yeah, this is a good possibility

that this could come, but you can

586

:

take these steps to make these

changes and the percentage goes down.

587

:

Speaker: Tell me.

588

:

Okay.

589

:

So for a person like that, be Yeah,

because I actually do, uh, have a friend

590

:

Speaker 2: mm-hmm.

591

:

Speaker: Where, where

that's the situation.

592

:

Um, what are the things that you can do?

593

:

To keep it at bay, to how, how can you

keep those, not those naughty genes,

594

:

I dunno what to call from showing

face cancer, you know, like for me.

595

:

Speaker 2: Yeah, right.

596

:

So I had a stage four breast cancer

person come to me and we took

597

:

her completely into remission and

we did it all through lifestyle.

598

:

Every single thing.

599

:

And her doctors are like,

how is this possible?

600

:

It's because we corrected her.

601

:

Right?

602

:

So infrared lights changed her diet.

603

:

She went completely keto.

604

:

Um, we went to, it's like, how

can we, what are the genes that

605

:

are firing and what are, what's

the detox pathway looking like?

606

:

Speaker: Well,

607

:

Speaker 2: in particular

around breast cancer or cancer.

608

:

Speaker: Right.

609

:

And what's interesting?

610

:

Is what works for one person.

611

:

Speaker 2: Correct.

612

:

Speaker: Isn't like the

fit and, and, and lane.

613

:

This is, I've learned this because

right around like COVID, I joined

614

:

this like coaching group, right?

615

:

Mm-hmm.

616

:

And we were, and they

were like, it was like Dr.

617

:

Mindy PEs and it was the fasting thing.

618

:

Speaker 2: No.

619

:

Speaker: Oh my.

620

:

Everybody

621

:

Speaker 2: should be fasting.

622

:

Speaker: No, everybody lost weight.

623

:

I didn't really, I maybe

wanted to lose three pounds.

624

:

Four pounds I think I gained.

625

:

Yeah.

626

:

And I was the white.

627

:

'cause I am a, this is what I was before

I was like white knuckling, right?

628

:

Mm-hmm.

629

:

I'm a lawyer.

630

:

Yeah.

631

:

You, I ran marathons.

632

:

Uhhuh, I can pass longer than any of you.

633

:

Mm-hmm.

634

:

And then I'm like, I'm

not losing any weight.

635

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

636

:

Speaker: And then as I started,

I'm like, that doesn't work for me.

637

:

Speaker 2: Nope.

638

:

Speaker: Now it does work

for me to stop eating.

639

:

At night because I know from my

little aura ring that it's not good

640

:

for me anyway when I have food.

641

:

Uhhuh also.

642

:

Okay.

643

:

Remember the day, and I know you,

you have a, a link to, um, you're

644

:

a senior sober contributor, right?

645

:

Correct.

646

:

Speaker 2: Yes.

647

:

Speaker: And, um.

648

:

In back in the day it was

like, have a glass of wine,

649

:

you'll be a better mom, right?

650

:

Mm-hmm.

651

:

I mean, I think I was drinking

wine every night, a glass, right?

652

:

And it was good for my heart

and I always felt gross.

653

:

Like I would wake up the next day and

just feel like Cru Uhhuh and then,

654

:

um, you know, lo and behold, guess

what Lane it causes breast cancer.

655

:

Wow.

656

:

I wish someone would've.

657

:

Told me that, you know, 30 years

ago when they were pushing it.

658

:

Yeah.

659

:

So that was another thing

that was life changing.

660

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

661

:

Speaker: For me, and I'm not saying

I haven't had anything to drink for a

662

:

really long time, but maybe if I went to a

another country where the wine's a little

663

:

cleaner or like my favorite, you know, if

you go to a wine, a winery or something,

664

:

uhhuh, I might have a glass of wine.

665

:

I'm not saying that I don't,

but it's not good for you.

666

:

It's poisoning.

667

:

And somehow every time I, you know,

like I think about, we go out to

668

:

dinner, I'm like, yeah, no, I don't

really want any poison tonight.

669

:

Speaker 2: Yeah,

670

:

Speaker: it's,

671

:

Speaker 2: no, it's, and you're right.

672

:

It, you know, this idea around

one thing is going to fix you.

673

:

One, it's not.

674

:

And I get so upset about, you know,

the wellness space and how these

675

:

influencers are saying, this is

the thing that's going to fix you.

676

:

Speaker: It's not,

677

:

Speaker 2: but it's, it's not,

678

:

Speaker: it does work for some people.

679

:

I'm not kidding.

680

:

All those little ladies, right?

681

:

They were dropping

weight and you know what?

682

:

None of them kept it off.

683

:

They were so skinny, they looked anorexic.

684

:

Speaker 2: Oh, that's,

685

:

Speaker: and I know.

686

:

And then, and then it's, I

mean, is that really feat?

687

:

Really, you wanna do a

72 hour fast every week?

688

:

Speaker 2: No.

689

:

No, no.

690

:

It's not

691

:

Speaker: sustainable.

692

:

And I'm not, oh, that's

gonna take cancer away.

693

:

Speaker 2: Right.

694

:

Speaker: I think it

stresses your body out.

695

:

It

696

:

Speaker 2: stresses out more, right?

697

:

Yes.

698

:

Right.

699

:

No.

700

:

Speaker: Yes.

701

:

Speaker 2: But that's why I love

being able to look at somebody's

702

:

blueprint and say, here is a

protocol, a plan, a lifestyle.

703

:

That you can start moving

towards, and you know what?

704

:

You can mess up every once in a

while, that's great, but just make

705

:

sure you come back to it because your

blueprint is not gonna lie to you.

706

:

It's this is it, this is, it's going

to express whether you like it or not.

707

:

Speaker: Right.

708

:

Okay.

709

:

So for those folks who

are like, I can't do that.

710

:

I am like, I, I don't

have the funds right now.

711

:

Yeah.

712

:

I wanna do it.

713

:

I can't.

714

:

Yeah.

715

:

I think kind of what I did

before that I would just kinda.

716

:

Like try things.

717

:

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

718

:

Speaker: You know what I mean?

719

:

Like, okay.

720

:

Well let's see what this does.

721

:

If I do this for.

722

:

Like, I didn't, I went through a

phase where I didn't DI have dairy

723

:

sometimes now, but I really feel

way better when I don't, yeah.

724

:

My genetics didn't even

really say much about that.

725

:

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

726

:

Mm-hmm.

727

:

Speaker: But that is also

another way that we can learn

728

:

about ourselves and be in tune

729

:

Speaker 2: Yes.

730

:

Speaker: To our own bodies.

731

:

Right.

732

:

I mean, just kind of trial and error.

733

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

734

:

Speaker: I, I don't wanna do that anymore.

735

:

I don't wanna do trial and error anymore.

736

:

I, I want, you know, I'd rather just

know and I don't know everything.

737

:

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

738

:

Speaker: Mm-hmm.

739

:

I'd like to know more.

740

:

Speaker 2: I think it's

just empowering to know.

741

:

Speaker: Mm-hmm.

742

:

Speaker 2: You know, and I know there's

a lot of people that, um, they'll hear,

743

:

oh, I'm supposed to take this supplement,

you know, I'm supposed to take this

744

:

and it's gonna make me feel better.

745

:

And.

746

:

Meanwhile, they just

spent $60 on a supplement.

747

:

Speaker: Mm-hmm.

748

:

Speaker 2: And it's not

doing anything for them.

749

:

Speaker: Amen.

750

:

Sister.

751

:

Speaker 2: Actually be making them worse.

752

:

So like, save your money and get the

DNA test and then, and then make those

753

:

Speaker: decisions.

754

:

It's actually, it's actually so

worth it because, and that is, um,

755

:

what I did, because then she told me

756

:

Speaker 2: Yeah,

757

:

Speaker: exactly.

758

:

The supplements that I needed.

759

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

760

:

Speaker: So we got on

subscription and, you know.

761

:

Mm-hmm.

762

:

Those are the ones that I take.

763

:

And then if a new one pops up.

764

:

I float it over to her and

go, Hey, I heard about this.

765

:

What do you think?

766

:

And she'll add it on if she likes it

or won't, if it's not something I need.

767

:

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

768

:

Mm-hmm.

769

:

Speaker: Mm-hmm.

770

:

And it does save you money.

771

:

Speaker 2: It does, yeah.

772

:

Speaker: And another thing

that could save you money is I

773

:

think there's a lot of overlap.

774

:

Like I drink a green drink that

probably has supplements in it.

775

:

You know what I mean?

776

:

Yeah.

777

:

That's,

778

:

Speaker 2: yeah.

779

:

Speaker: And there's always something,

I mean, now my husband's into Sheila

780

:

Legit, or something like that.

781

:

Have you heard of that?

782

:

Oh yeah, he thinks that's the best.

783

:

I just looked in his locker room.

784

:

I'm like, what the heck do you

think we're gonna, so you like it?

785

:

Do you take it?

786

:

Speaker 2: I don't like it.

787

:

I think there's other ways to take it.

788

:

There's other ways to get

what that is into your body.

789

:

Speaker: How,

790

:

Speaker 2: yeah.

791

:

Um, I like, what is it called?

792

:

Speaker: Micro Boost.

793

:

Speaker 2: Yeah, beam.

794

:

I think this is an easier way to

get what they're going after here.

795

:

Speaker: Okay.

796

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

797

:

Speaker: Look at you got

it right there at your,

798

:

Speaker 2: I have everything.

799

:

My store is here.

800

:

Speaker: You've got such

a pretty background.

801

:

Speaker 2: Thanks.

802

:

Speaker: Yeah.

803

:

Okay.

804

:

I can't, alright.

805

:

I can't even believe our

time is going so quickly.

806

:

Speaker 2: Okay.

807

:

Speaker: But, um, okay.

808

:

So.

809

:

We've kind of, we talked about

how to help people if they're

810

:

spinning out in something.

811

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

812

:

Speaker: And then let's just talk

about taking care of ourselves.

813

:

Mm-hmm.

814

:

And if you can't get that genetic

test, it would be worth it.

815

:

We do believe it would be worth it.

816

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

817

:

Safe.

818

:

Yeah.

819

:

Speaker: And like I said, I'm

gonna put a little link to you

820

:

in my show notes 'cause I don't

think that sounds like a bad price.

821

:

And then you sit down and

go through it all with them.

822

:

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

823

:

Speaker: Um, and if that's not

something that they can do, I

824

:

mean, I guess what I would say is.

825

:

Try to stay clear of the alcohol because

you think it makes you feel better.

826

:

And

827

:

Speaker: then you wake up in the

morning and you're more stressed

828

:

out than you were the night before.

829

:

And so, and that's kind of a

little gift to yourself too.

830

:

Mm-hmm.

831

:

A gift that, you know, I'm just like, wow,

I can go to really early workout classes.

832

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

833

:

Speaker: Because I don't

feel like crud and Wow.

834

:

I've got my, you know, my husband

and I have been talking about

835

:

like, when we go on trips.

836

:

It's almost like you're

a little kid at camp.

837

:

Like you, you stay up late, you don't

like go sit at the restaurant, have a

838

:

cup wines, and come back and go to bed.

839

:

You're out, like investigating

where you're staying and

840

:

Speaker 2: yeah.

841

:

Speaker: It's, it's a whole

new life that I am so thankful

842

:

Speaker 2: mm-hmm.

843

:

Speaker: Experiencing and I

never knew I was missing it.

844

:

Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's good

to just be present with yourself.

845

:

Speaker: Mm-hmm.

846

:

Speaker 2: Like that's what you're doing.

847

:

You're not

848

:

Speaker: checking out.

849

:

Yep.

850

:

I've gotta ask you.

851

:

Okay.

852

:

I gotta touch on this before we go.

853

:

Yeah.

854

:

Because this was one of the things

that I really thought I was missing.

855

:

You know, like how I told

you I really ate well.

856

:

Mm-hmm.

857

:

I was messing up on the wine thing.

858

:

I thought I was doing okay with it.

859

:

Mm-hmm.

860

:

But I wasn't.

861

:

Um, but I out hard.

862

:

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

863

:

Speaker: Um, sleep I, you know,

I kind of try on that, but the

864

:

thing I really think was missing,

and I'm still struggling with fun.

865

:

Like, I'm like, um, workouts are fun.

866

:

Um, and I remember someone saying, no,

you gotta just do something that's fun.

867

:

I'm like, uh, work.

868

:

I like to work.

869

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

870

:

Speaker: Like I have to tear

myself away to go be with

871

:

family because I like my work.

872

:

Speaker 2: Okay.

873

:

Fun is crucial.

874

:

Speaker: I know that's what I'm missing.

875

:

How do I get it?

876

:

Speaker 2: Oh, start exploring,

get a paint by numbers.

877

:

Um,

878

:

Speaker: I did, I did get a little

painting and it was actually kind of

879

:

fun and that does not seem like me.

880

:

Speaker 2: And it regulates

your nervous system.

881

:

Speaker: Okay.

882

:

Speaker 2: Um, you know, I get a group

of friends, uh, play board games.

883

:

Um, I'm really into tactile things.

884

:

So hand eye, eye hand, motor movement.

885

:

Right?

886

:

Um,

887

:

Speaker: it started playing

the piano a little bit again.

888

:

Speaker 2: Okay, great.

889

:

Speaker: Once every three months.

890

:

Speaker 2: That much.

891

:

Baking, baking meal, prepping,

baking, um, salad jars.

892

:

Speaker: I kind of feel

sick of that, but okay.

893

:

I'm like, I wanna hire someone.

894

:

I bring

895

:

Speaker 2: your friend over and do it.

896

:

Speaker: Yeah,

897

:

Speaker 2: that's a really good idea.

898

:

That makes a world of difference.

899

:

So I do that every week with different

girlfriends and we make meal jars.

900

:

So it's a whole thing.

901

:

Um, I think food cooking is, it's a skill

and it's not anything that you don't,

902

:

you know, it doesn't have to be perfect

903

:

Speaker: so you can make mistakes.

904

:

It seems look a little

bit of a chore to me.

905

:

I mean, I feed my husband spoiled.

906

:

Like I, 'cause I'm like, if I

make it for me, I make it for him.

907

:

Speaker 2: Uhhuh

908

:

Speaker: Uhhuh.

909

:

So I'm always down in his

office and I make all the other

910

:

women are so ticked off at me.

911

:

We're like, what the heck?

912

:

Speaker 2: Uhhuh Uhhuh.

913

:

Speaker: But I think, but

that's my people pleasing.

914

:

This is a chore that I have to do.

915

:

Speaker 2: You don't have to do it.

916

:

You don't have to.

917

:

Speaker: Yeah.

918

:

Speaker 2: But you're doing it

for you to nurture your body.

919

:

Speaker: That is true.

920

:

Right?

921

:

But it's not fun

922

:

Speaker 2: then don't do it.

923

:

Speaker: Okay.

924

:

Speaker 2: Outsource it and then see,

925

:

Speaker: I mean, I can, I could just

eat lettuce and I mean, I'm not kidding.

926

:

And you know what I mean?

927

:

I don't need it to be fancy all the time.

928

:

Yeah.

929

:

Speaker 2: The other thing that's

fun is trampoline, um, gyms.

930

:

Have you ever been to a trampoline gym?

931

:

Speaker: Well, I have a

trampoline on my little farm here.

932

:

Okay.

933

:

And I love it.

934

:

Speaker 2: D, why aren't

you doing that every day?

935

:

Speaker: Because it's 13

936

:

Speaker 2: below

937

:

Speaker: snow.

938

:

Speaker 2: Nevermind.

939

:

Speaker: But they have

those little trampolines.

940

:

Are they as fun?

941

:

Speaker 2: They're not as fun.

942

:

Bingo.

943

:

That's fun too.

944

:

Bingo.

945

:

Speaker: Bingo.

946

:

Okay.

947

:

Speaker 2: Um, what else?

948

:

Think of all the things that I do.

949

:

I go to the beach a lot.

950

:

That's fun for me.

951

:

But you

952

:

Speaker: can't, I would love that.

953

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

954

:

Yeah.

955

:

Um, hiking.

956

:

Speaker: I love hike.

957

:

Love it.

958

:

Speaker 2: That's my first, yeah.

959

:

Dinner parties are fun.

960

:

Um, crunch,

961

:

Speaker: wait lane.

962

:

When you live in this side

of the world, it's hard.

963

:

I'm not kidding.

964

:

Like, my friends we're like, oh,

we're like drinking special tea.

965

:

Well, this one's kind of making

me feel a little bit like I

966

:

do in the summer, you know?

967

:

Speaker 2: Right.

968

:

' Speaker: cause it is, it's hard.

969

:

Aw.

970

:

And we, we are dedicated to going out.

971

:

But you can't in this weather.

972

:

You really

973

:

Speaker 2: can't.

974

:

Right.

975

:

Speaker: And the ice is hard.

976

:

Yeah.

977

:

I ski.

978

:

Yeah.

979

:

Speaker 2: I'm gonna

go back to board games.

980

:

Speaker: I like to read.

981

:

Speaker 2: Reading is great.

982

:

Yeah.

983

:

What do you like to read?

984

:

Speaker: I like to read all

kinds of different things.

985

:

Yeah.

986

:

Any kind of anything.

987

:

And I'm writing, I'm

writing a book by the way.

988

:

Okay, great.

989

:

So that I've really enjoy.

990

:

I've been enjoying that.

991

:

Yeah.

992

:

And I went to Sunny California

to work with Bob Goff.

993

:

I don't know if you know who he is.

994

:

He's darling.

995

:

Speaker 2: Okay, good.

996

:

Speaker: Yeah.

997

:

Yeah.

998

:

Speaker 2: Travel is great fun.

999

:

Speaker: Uhhuh

:

00:34:37,337 --> 00:34:38,147

Speaker 2: when you can travel.

:

00:34:38,327 --> 00:34:38,746

Mm-hmm.

:

00:34:38,827 --> 00:34:42,601

Um, I think making snowflakes is

really fun too, like with, you know,

:

00:34:42,601 --> 00:34:44,161

craft paper and cutting out the

:

00:34:44,161 --> 00:34:44,672

Speaker: snowflake.

:

00:34:45,422 --> 00:34:45,601

Speaker 2: Um,

:

00:34:45,632 --> 00:34:48,572

Speaker: so, and I was trying to like,

okay, what did I like when I was little?

:

00:34:48,752 --> 00:34:50,252

Speaker 2: Yes, go back to that.

:

00:34:51,032 --> 00:34:51,661

Go back to that.

:

00:34:52,337 --> 00:34:53,672

Speaker: That would be dangerous now.

:

00:34:54,842 --> 00:34:55,472

Speaker 2: Yeah, not right now,

:

00:34:58,772 --> 00:35:00,602

Speaker: but is that

how you kind of explore?

:

00:35:00,602 --> 00:35:04,742

Because I think, and I really think

Lane in my little journey here mm-hmm.

:

00:35:04,982 --> 00:35:07,802

That's probably the most

important, important thing for me.

:

00:35:07,922 --> 00:35:12,512

And I have a really hard time not

seeing how going out for a run.

:

00:35:12,602 --> 00:35:15,422

It is my fun, but it's not.

:

00:35:15,632 --> 00:35:18,062

Speaker 2: It's not, and it's just

stressing your nervous system.

:

00:35:18,392 --> 00:35:21,867

Think about that, like you can walk.

:

00:35:23,357 --> 00:35:27,707

Because that is more calm to your reg,

your nervous system where running.

:

00:35:27,707 --> 00:35:28,367

Speaker: It's not fun.

:

00:35:28,427 --> 00:35:29,477

It's just good for me.

:

00:35:29,682 --> 00:35:31,847

Speaker 2: It's, it's better for

you and just let your mind go.

:

00:35:31,847 --> 00:35:33,467

Don't listen to a podcast, just,

:

00:35:33,497 --> 00:35:34,397

Speaker: no, I don't.

:

00:35:34,397 --> 00:35:35,387

I quit that.

:

00:35:35,387 --> 00:35:35,572

Speaker 2: Just be there.

:

00:35:36,047 --> 00:35:39,377

I think listening to music

can be really, really helpful.

:

00:35:39,437 --> 00:35:42,497

Speaker: I really rarely do that

'cause I always wanna learn something.

:

00:35:42,867 --> 00:35:46,437

My husband gets, so I'm

always listening to podcasts.

:

00:35:47,217 --> 00:35:49,767

But yeah, I'll explore it.

:

00:35:49,767 --> 00:35:50,847

I'll keep exploring it.

:

00:35:50,847 --> 00:35:54,417

Maybe I'll add a little something

on my website, how to have fun.

:

00:35:54,777 --> 00:35:57,237

And listeners just like send

me a note and tell me how

:

00:35:57,987 --> 00:35:59,097

Speaker 2: that, that's a great idea.

:

00:35:59,097 --> 00:36:01,047

It's like have people send you ideas.

:

00:36:01,107 --> 00:36:01,917

Speaker: Yeah.

:

00:36:02,507 --> 00:36:05,567

Speaker 2: Then you'll have a whole

collection of things to play with.

:

00:36:05,657 --> 00:36:06,077

Speaker: Right.

:

00:36:06,077 --> 00:36:09,557

And I, but I will say, lane, that

one thing that I notice is like,

:

00:36:09,557 --> 00:36:12,077

I used to go to the yoga studio.

:

00:36:12,077 --> 00:36:12,167

Mm-hmm.

:

00:36:12,412 --> 00:36:12,452

Mm-hmm.

:

00:36:12,532 --> 00:36:18,227

And it's like a heated, hardcore, we have

weight classes and I would go and I would

:

00:36:18,227 --> 00:36:19,697

leave and I wouldn't talk to anyone.

:

00:36:20,187 --> 00:36:22,167

Now I am like a different woman.

:

00:36:22,197 --> 00:36:25,137

I'm chatting courses.

:

00:36:25,347 --> 00:36:25,947

That's fun.

:

00:36:26,247 --> 00:36:26,907

Speaker 2: That's great.

:

00:36:26,907 --> 00:36:30,477

Speaker: So even though the yoga class is

hard, I am getting the fun out of that.

:

00:36:30,597 --> 00:36:31,167

Speaker 2: Yes.

:

00:36:31,227 --> 00:36:32,697

'cause you're connecting with people.

:

00:36:32,727 --> 00:36:32,997

Speaker: Yes.

:

00:36:32,997 --> 00:36:34,257

And I never used to do that.

:

00:36:34,257 --> 00:36:35,217

'cause I was in such a rush.

:

00:36:35,217 --> 00:36:36,957

I had to get back here

to the bar and to work.

:

00:36:37,017 --> 00:36:38,217

Or cleaning the house or

:

00:36:38,247 --> 00:36:38,712

Speaker 2: No, no.

:

00:36:38,817 --> 00:36:39,057

Cook a

:

00:36:39,057 --> 00:36:39,417

Speaker: meal.

:

00:36:39,717 --> 00:36:40,407

Speaker 2: No.

:

00:36:40,972 --> 00:36:41,192

No.

:

00:36:41,967 --> 00:36:42,327

Right.

:

00:36:42,417 --> 00:36:44,607

And when you're with

those other people, right.

:

00:36:44,607 --> 00:36:45,777

Think about the nervous systems.

:

00:36:45,992 --> 00:36:46,292

Right.

:

00:36:46,292 --> 00:36:46,622

Your

:

00:36:46,627 --> 00:36:46,827

Speaker: yes,

:

00:36:46,857 --> 00:36:49,112

Speaker 2: your little nervous

systems are firing up and going, yay.

:

00:36:49,867 --> 00:36:50,027

Yay.

:

00:36:50,342 --> 00:36:51,662

Speaker: Right, right.

:

00:36:51,662 --> 00:36:54,242

And I think too, I have to

remember that I have grandchildren.

:

00:36:54,632 --> 00:36:54,842

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

:

00:36:55,082 --> 00:36:58,322

Speaker: And um, you know,

you can get the mindset of, oh

:

00:36:58,322 --> 00:36:59,852

man, I gotta go babysit today.

:

00:36:59,972 --> 00:37:03,032

You know, like you said you

would, but you can change that.

:

00:37:03,032 --> 00:37:03,122

Yes.

:

00:37:03,242 --> 00:37:04,172

And you can go, I have

:

00:37:04,262 --> 00:37:04,862

Speaker 2: fun with that.

:

00:37:04,892 --> 00:37:05,912

Speaker: That's my mind.

:

00:37:05,912 --> 00:37:07,982

You know, I can go, I get to go play.

:

00:37:08,207 --> 00:37:09,407

Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a gift.

:

00:37:09,587 --> 00:37:10,607

Speaker: That's so fun.

:

00:37:10,607 --> 00:37:10,697

Yes.

:

00:37:11,537 --> 00:37:11,807

Oh my gosh.

:

00:37:11,807 --> 00:37:12,612

They're the best.

:

00:37:12,917 --> 00:37:13,697

Speaker 2: Yes.

:

00:37:14,027 --> 00:37:15,587

And you can plan activities.

:

00:37:15,887 --> 00:37:16,157

Speaker: Yep.

:

00:37:16,187 --> 00:37:16,397

Right?

:

00:37:16,397 --> 00:37:16,547

Because

:

00:37:16,547 --> 00:37:19,037

Speaker 2: they have a lot of

firsts to do and explore, right?

:

00:37:19,037 --> 00:37:19,247

Speaker: Yes.

:

00:37:19,817 --> 00:37:21,377

Oh man, it is so fun.

:

00:37:21,467 --> 00:37:22,037

Speaker 2: Yeah.

:

00:37:22,097 --> 00:37:24,467

That's like so rich and

rewarding for your heart.

:

00:37:24,647 --> 00:37:25,277

Speaker: Mm-hmm.

:

00:37:25,283 --> 00:37:25,532

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

:

00:37:25,727 --> 00:37:26,567

Speaker: And you feel it.

:

00:37:27,152 --> 00:37:27,722

In your heart.

:

00:37:27,722 --> 00:37:27,782

Yeah.

:

00:37:28,807 --> 00:37:29,157

Stuff.

:

00:37:29,222 --> 00:37:29,432

Yeah.

:

00:37:29,432 --> 00:37:29,912

It's awesome.

:

00:37:29,972 --> 00:37:33,362

All right, lane, I have to let

you go, but I'll have all your

:

00:37:33,362 --> 00:37:35,192

information to collect people.

:

00:37:35,192 --> 00:37:37,052

Is there anything you

wanna tell people about?

:

00:37:37,052 --> 00:37:39,272

I think you also have

a community, don't you?

:

00:37:39,722 --> 00:37:40,652

Speaker 2: I have a community.

:

00:37:40,712 --> 00:37:45,962

Um, it's just focused around stress

and DNA and empowering yourself

:

00:37:45,962 --> 00:37:47,552

and regulating your nervous system.

:

00:37:47,942 --> 00:37:48,362

Speaker: Cool.

:

00:37:48,422 --> 00:37:48,692

All right.

:

00:37:48,692 --> 00:37:48,902

So yeah.

:

00:37:50,102 --> 00:37:53,942

Listeners, if you want look, you'll

find Lane Kennedy if you look her up,

:

00:37:53,942 --> 00:37:55,472

but I'll have her in my show notes too.

:

00:37:55,472 --> 00:37:57,512

Selene, thank you so much for joining me.

:

00:37:57,542 --> 00:37:59,012

Speaker 2: Thanks Lisa, I appreciate you.

:

00:37:59,342 --> 00:37:59,827

Speaker: You take care.

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