Do people under 50 know what a yoke is? I honestly don’t know. When I consider that millions of Americans don’t know how to use a rotary telephone, I can easily believe they might be unfamiliar with that wooden implement used to unite a pair of horses or mules or oxen so that they might be able to “pull together” and accomplish things that neither of them could have done alone.
You have people in your life to whom you are yoked. You are connected to them.
We have names for these connections: Husband. Wife. Sister. Brother. Life partner. Business partner. Co-worker.
Regardless of how you are connected, you can strengthen that connection and create a wonderful partnership by doing two simple things:
- Make a list of all the things you admire about your partner.
- You know their superpowers. You know their shining moments. Focus your attention on their talents and skills.
- Celebrate your partner.
- Tell people about the marvelous things you have seen your partner do. Your audience will be impressed and wish they had a partner like yours.
Your partner will be happier. You will be happier. There is literally no downside to this.
But the person who really needs to hear these stories is you.
Feelings follow actions. When you focus on your partner’s superpowers – those things they do remarkably well – and tell happy stories about the things you have seen your partner do, you will remember how lucky you are to have that person in your life.
If you are frustrated with your partner, it’s probably because you have been noticing their weaknesses and complaining to others about them.
You’ve been telling the wrong stories.
Feeling follow actions.
Did I just hear you say, “I can’t help how I feel?”
Of course you can!
Instead of telling the negative truth about your partner, look for those things your partner does well and begin telling a different truth; a positive, affirming truth.
Your feelings will change. And your partner, will, too.
Roy H. Williams
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