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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request. If any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.
You may have experienced what many have experienced in recent times that ringing in your ear. The other day, some tinnitus, like a medical condition like you'd think but it's tinnitus. That's the pronunciation. So tinnitus, the ringing in the ear, what causes it? Well, there's any number of physical aspects that it can contribute to it. There's the electromagnetic field that I may have, you may have heard me talking about before, we are an electromagnetic device. And we are influenced by the energy of lots of different things, including the earth, and the energy that comes into our stratosphere is the right word, but it comes from the solar system and the planets got two magnetic fields row. Pole, sorry. So there's magnetic field all the time, and we are susceptible to other influences. But that's all well and good. But then how's that actually going to be helpful to? So what how do you actually address the root cause. So I've been doing a lot of work on this, because I've had the experience myself, I've had that ringing in my ears, that a number of explanations from it's, it's a balance, you're out of balance with something physically, it's the sound of angels. It's the upgrades you're experiencing in your growth journey. And it's also shows up when you're feeling a sense of rejection. And a thought process that you're having that makes you that takes your whole unconscious thought process and unconscious thought process to that sense of every past rejection. Fascinating, right. So I was working with someone yesterday, who had been dealing with this for quite some time, and helping them to ease the symptoms. And while we didn't get rid of it altogether, we certainly lighten the load. And this was some of those experiencing it for for many years. And I was unpacking that session the next morning, and then I was actually then had read my own ears. And then I remembered the pattern that was playing out when I was thinking it was about my own battle with that sense of rejection. These are patterns from quite a young age, right? It can be something as simple as getting left somewhere when you're quite young. Because your mom or dad we're going out or somebody's babysitting or childcare or any number of different things that are tiny mind creates this concept of rejection. And then every time it shows up again, when we get dragged straight back to that moment. It sounds like oh, it's the it's the ringing in the ears, is the rejection. And I ran it through a filter of all the different people that I knew who'd had it. And all the different people that I've worked with, through that experience that through my own experience and all that up and then quick Google search around grief and spirituality and tinnitus, and it gives you the same answer. It's that feeling of being rejected. So for you, if you've experiencing it now or you have experienced it, what's the thought process that you're going through? If it's been happening for a long time, when did it start happening? Now, a lot of people that started in the last three, four years you think about in the last three or four years how we've been disconnected from each other. So there might have been a desire to connect with people because we couldn't visit a different times and we've been locked down and all those different things then, without being able to see If people are any talk on a video or text message or whatever, then of course, that rejection is going to show up. And also, we've been given all this different information out there. And people have taken sides, and they've pointed fingers. And they've told everyone what you should be doing and what you shouldn't be doing. And everyone's got different ideas about that. And that has created some division amongst us. So that sense of rejection has really come home to play. And you may have felt that, particularly in the ringing in your ears may be particularly strong, and it may be showing up at different times. So if that's the root cause, then how do you deal with it, we'll be able to acknowledge it, first and foremost, then being able to externalize it, whether that's speaking it out loud, having someone holding space for you, while you do being guided through it by someone else, or taking your pen, and putting in your journal or a notepad and just writing everything you can think of about that. What's the negative story around that rejection, what's the negative story around the tinnitus around the ringing in the ears, and then rewrite the story, create a positive version of that. And you can start to make peace with that rejection. I've been working on that stuff for a long time, and it still shows up for me. So this is not a like, you know, magic cure that is going to get rid of the rejection and the ringing in the ears. But it's a starting point. And it allows you now to every time you recognize it, be able to have another look at another layer of that rejection, and be able to move on the other side. And what you got to find is that you got to have a flow, in your relationships, in the things that you do for joy, the things that you do for work, hopefully, there's a bit of both together, like you're getting joy out of your work as well. And in all other areas of life as well. If this resonates, if you've had the ringing in the ears, if the rejection resonates or doesn't, but you've had the really years, I'd love to know, let's start a conversation around this and see if we can start getting people heading in the right direction.
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