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Can you even truly know yourself without being single for an extended amount of time

in your adult life?

Welcome my single friend, this is the very first episode of All About Being Single.

I'm Violetta here host and I'm super excited to have you listen.

Whether you are single by choice, by consequence of your actions, or by pure luck, or divine timing

whatever it is that you want to call it, whatever the reason is you think that you are single

right now, you will resonate with this podcast I hope because I will explore all the good

and all the bad about being single.

Yes, I said that, all the good and the bad because it's not just all good and it's not

just all bad honestly.

We're here to vent about how unlucky and love we are, how hard doing life solo can be

emotionally, financially all the things. We'll cover dumb things, coupled up people, love

to say to us, whether condescendingly or misguidedly, we're also here to lift each other up to

finally have a community feel seen and heard and understood in.

I hope, at least that's my hope for this podcast.

I grew up around a lot of people who just about all of them were in relationships.

I was pretty much the only one and even up to this day I'm pretty much the only one who's

constantly single and I just wish that a podcast like this existed that when I was dating,

whether it be in my late teenage years, my, any and all of my 20s or even my early 30s,

like I just wish that more content like this was out there so that I didn't feel so alone

and so like the odd one out, the one who's, you know, never able to like find the right

person.

Now, let's get into the most misunderstood thing about being single that I really want

to focus on in this particular episode and two things can be true simultaneously and

that's definitely the case with being single. You can feel conflicting emotions about

being single. In the case of being, you know, being single, you can both enjoy your life as

much as you can while you're single, while also still longing to be partnered up to find

your person while also being frustrated and disappointed that you haven't found this

person while feeling behind in life. There's nothing wrong with being single and I know

you being single, you know that, but I do want to just reiterate on that fact, there's

nothing wrong with being single, just like there's nothing wrong with being single and still

also wanting to find somebody. I know that I'm not being punished, although sometimes it

does feel like I'm being punished. Like, why am I still single at 38? So I know I'm not

actually being punished, but sometimes those thoughts do creep in and it's like, yeah, why

is this still my life situation when I know I deserve a life partner. I know I deserve

two of kids and I want to have those things. And I don't know about you, but I'm friends

with a lot of people who are in relationships. Whether they have kids or not, they found their

person, they're married and this duality is so difficult for a lot of them to understand

about our single life. You know, especially for those of us who are in our 30s who have

been perpetually single, who have dealt with heartbreak so many times over and over and

over again, I am, you know, our friends who haven't dated in the last two decades. They just

don't know what dating is like now. A lot of people find their person while they're in

school. They don't know what it's actually going to dating app or try to meet people in

your 30s while you're out and about with the very few friends that you still have left.

A lot of people will tell us to enjoy being single because relationships are hard and it's

kind of those cliches that yeah, I know relationships are hard. I've been in relationships.

Being single is also hard. Having to do everything by yourself is extremely difficult. Not having

that support system of somebody who also does things with you. That's extremely hard. So

I just don't know many people who truly understand what it's like to be single, especially in your

30s or even late 20s because I think that those thoughts start to creep in in your late

20s. And obviously as you keep progressing and still not finding your person, then, you know,

they just keep getting worse sometimes. You know, they don't understand what it's like to go

through various milestones of your life and not have a person right there with you. And I truly do

believe that nobody can really understand what somebody else goes through until they've been

put into that position themselves. And so there's things I don't know about. There's things that

I've never done. I can't fully speak about, but I have dated a lot. I have been in serious relationships.

I have been single for such long periods of my life that it's like those are three things that I

am very, very knowledgeable and those are things that I have done so much of and made so many mistakes.

Which, you know, have obviously helped me to grow. And I am honestly thankful for those mistakes now.

As we go throughout the next couple of years, I'm super, I'm super excited to be sharing my

experience with you. But I do think that because the people around us who are in long term relationships

don't fully understand what it's like to be as I do think it's very important for us to have a

community of other single people. And I'm hoping this podcast can turn into that community into a

space where you guys feel seen. And I really hope that we can all talk to each other basically and

figure out how to make this single era easier on us. I hope it's a space where we get to be honest

about both the good and the bad aspects of being single. And not pretend like being single is just

this amazing era, which it can be, it can be amazing, but it also can be heartbreaking. And I don't

want to keep pretending that we don't need anybody else because we do. We need other people. If we didn't

need other people, nobody would ever get married. Nobody would ever get into relationships. Like me,

for example, I would love to be in a relationship. While technically I'd love to just be married and have

kids and do all the family stuff like I want to be a parent. But that's clearly not happening for

me right now. And I just think that my time is also wasted if I sit around and just cry about it. I

definitely want to at least try to be some kind of a help to anybody else who's going through this. So

especially if you're in your 20s early 30s, obviously also my age or even older, you know, sometimes

we all learn different lessons at different times of our life. And some of us are a little late with

those lessons. Some of us get there a little bit sooner and either way is okay. But overall, as I was

saying, it's like, I'm not meeting my person. I'm not meeting men that have their stuff figured out.

Like I'm not meeting men who have healed their past trauma. And this isn't, I'm not trying to like

talk shit about men because I feel like we are all in this loneliness epidemic together. And I think

we need to come up with some answers together and how to get out of it, honestly. But I just, like,

I just haven't been lucky enough to find my person yet. And that's okay. Like that's just my timeline.

And I want to be hopeful that I will. But obviously, I don't know. And I don't know for you. I don't

know if you're ever going to find your person. But while we're here, while we're single, we might as

well make the best out of being single and try to be the best version of ourselves. Because I do

also strongly believe that you cannot expect to be with somebody who's amazing. If you're not

amazing yourself, like, like I'm looking for somebody who is intelligent, who's funny, who's creative,

who has their shit together, who's done their healing work, who's been through therapy, who knows

themselves very well, who has a good job, who's got hobbies, you know, like I don't want to be somebody's

only like outlet. But I also don't want somebody who, you know, hangs out with their friends all the time

and goes out drinking all the time. So like I really want somebody who has done the work. Because I've

done the work. And I know I deserve what I put on the table. And I know you deserve what you also put

on the table. And I do believe there's like a honeymoon period for being single. And just like a

honeymoon period for being in relationships, it varies in length for each one of us. Like for me,

I know I can be happily single for about like a year and a half. That's a year and a half, two years.

So literally like a honeymoon period. But so what I mean by that is we can be happy being single

for a specific amount of time until we're kind of like done with it, you know, until we kind of see it.

I don't want to say see it for what it is, but until it just doesn't hit as nice as it used to. So,

you know, for me, and I think you can probably relate, it's like at the beginning, whether you're just

relieved that you like just broke up with somebody or you're super sad that somebody broke up with you

and you want to get back together with them. You know, usually I think there's like a little period

of that where like we're trying to get back with somebody or you know, we're crying about them all

the time. But then we get into this whole, oh, I'm fine without them. Like I am totally fine. I'm

enjoying being single. I love my free time. It's nice not to have to answer to anybody. It's nice to

get to do whatever the hell I want to be doing. And then you like, you know, if you're still young enough

and you have a lot of friends or people that actually are single with you, you know, you might be going out.

So you might be enjoying that time. For me, every time I'm done with a relationship, whether I break up

with the person or they break up with me, I go into a very like reflective mood and I love being

reflective. I love self-awareness in myself and in other people. So I love to just look at what went

wrong in the relationship, what I did wrong with the other person did wrong. And I like to learn my

lessons and I enjoy that process so much. I enjoy getting to peel off the layers of me that I didn't

even really fully know were there. And so that's why I do enjoy that honeymoon period. And then I'm like,

okay, these are the things that I really need to work on to let me work on them now while I'm single.

And so then I work on them. And then again, it's my honeymoon period. Like I'm really so busy and

focus on myself and working on myself and enjoying that so much. But then again, after a while,

okay, this is kind of enough working on myself. And then I enjoy that. So then there's a period

in that honeymoon period where I'm like, okay, I'm enjoying the fruits of my labor and that's when I'm

like, okay, like I'm kind of over this phase. I want to get into a relationship. And anything we're

talking about today, I think it's kind of like a preview of some of the stuff that we'll cover more,

some of the topics we'll cover more in future episodes. So we'll get into all of this more. And if

you have any comments, suggestions or any experiences yourself within your this, please also feel free to

send me any voice memos. Go on all about being single.com. And there's like a little turquoise button on

there where you can just click on and send me a voice memo. And I would love, I would absolutely

love to hear from as many of you as possible. And this brings me to our next segment, which is the

never again segment. This is where I'll share and reflect on red flag or mistake or boundary I've

claimed through my experience or other people's experiences. And quite often multiple ones that I

didn't learn the first time. But it's basically stuff that I officially retired in my life, anything

that had me acting some type of way that I would never want to act again. You know, could be a type of

person I used to date, it could be a dating habit, whatever, the kind of things that we look back on

after they're over and we're just like, God damn it. Yeah, never again. Well, I do this. So that's with

the never again segment will be. So here's mine for this week. Never again will I grieve the loss of a

man I didn't even like while dating him and I've done that quite a lot. Like never again will I cry

over personality trait that was only potential like things that I thought this person was could be

graded that day literally were never graded it was just all in my head. You know, I'll never spiral

over a boy. I'll never remain that sounded bad. Definitely not dating boys. There's been so many times

when like somebody broke up with me and I'm just like I literally held onto the relationship that

shed us relationship for the life of me. So I should have broken up with them way sooner but then they

broke up with me and then I was super hard broken over it for like months afterwards. Like I'm not doing

that again. So basically I'm also always gonna listen to my intuition because it's always right.

This feels like a personal diarrhea honestly. Maybe it should be a diarrhea entry. But here we are.

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This episode I did want to cover some major pros and cons of being single. So here's some pros, right?

You get to know yourself so much more than you would without being in a relationship, right? So like

you get to know yourself for real for real. It's the best position to put yourself in to understand

your needs, your desires, your wants, your patterns, your values, like anything that really makes you

you that you love and anything that makes you that you know that you probably need to change in

order to live a better life. You also get to not be settling, right? So you get to choose yourself

over the wrong person. I think that's so important. Like I think there's almost like a hierarchy,

right? So there's being in a healthy good relationship that's obviously first then right underneath

that is being single and making the most out of this singleness. So really enjoying your life but also

working in the things that you know are in your way of you living your best life. And then under that

is being single and unhappy honestly. I think that's quite a few steps down from that because when

you're single and just like hating it, you're really you're really just doing yourself at the service.

But then underneath that is being a name, toxic relationship because that's just not good for your

mental health. And then underneath that is like all the extra really bad abusive relationships.

And you know we definitely don't want to get into either one of those. You also have more energy

for yourself because you expand so much energy and other people when you're in a relationship

on your partner. You get to focus on friendships more. You can develop those friendships more. You

can focus on your hobbies more. You can basically build your empire right. So like if you're trying to

start a business or trying to get promoted at work, you can get there because you have all that

extra time and energy to spend on your business side of things. And you have you do a freedom which is

nice. You know you choose how you get to spend your time. You don't have somebody else telling you you

cannot move out of the country or go on a month-long trip. Really just living for yourself. So you do get

to make any choice that you want to make whether it's getting a pet, whether it's buying a house.

All those choices are yours and that freedom can be super, super nice. And then some major cons

though too right that go along with it. So loneliness I think especially the older you get or the more

perpetually single you are, the more loneliness does creep in. So like while it is nice that you get

to spend a lot of time with your friends, a lot of your friends do put a partner first. And as they

showed I think that's just kind of the way of the world. Although some friends do treat you like a second

class citizen. And we'll talk about that too. And I have definitely learned to not really focus on

those friends anymore. But yeah loneliness can creep in and it can creep in quite often especially if

you want to have kids and you're getting older and you know the dating world seems bleak like all

of that that's having effect on your mental health. You know and having to do the most things so

low especially the older you get the more your friends are doing things with a partner or their families,

it really can get pretty lonely. And you don't have that built in support network right. So like it's

harder to keep going with even everyday things. It's nice to have a partner who can push you to doing

things that you want to do. It's nice to have that support with you know. So going to the gym,

it's nice to have somebody pushing you. They might be working out you might also work out. So it's

that support that you just that some people take for granted honestly. You know you can't be the

odd one out right. So like you might have to be going places by yourself. You might have to go to

movies by yourself. You might have to go to some parties by yourself. And again that does also get

lonely. Dating does also expand a lot of energy or we expand a lot of energy on dating and people

don't realize people who are in dating. They don't realize how difficult it is to actually date and

how much heartbreak you go through by just going on tons of dates and never getting a second or never

wanting a second or you know getting in through month three thinking this is your person and then

dumping you which is very common. Or you realizing hey I don't know if I like this person and you

having to dump them because it sucks also having dump people. I mean it's a lot of energy that most

people don't realize you have to expend. So what I try to do with the podcast cover is I really wanted

to kind of emulate the statue of liberty. You know I think that it stands for a lot of the things that

I want this podcast to stand for. You know the torch lighting the way the hope in the direction

that you know I think we can try to explore that single life intentionally that we can try to

you know still hope to meet our people you know because I think most of us single people are hoping

to at some point meet somebody. You know sometimes we go through a period of being single or just like

we've been through a lot of bad trauma and relationships and then we're like okay I don't want

to date I never want to date. And usually that subsides and usually that changes once you

kind of add that situation for a while. The other part is also you know that freedom from dependency

and other people from codependency, from people pleasing. I really want to focus on those bad

relationships for us and freedom from toxic relationships from toxic situations. I think the

statue of liberty is also very welcoming so I think you know it's got a little bit of welcoming us

turning inward and welcoming yourself. It's really what I want to focus on as far as some of my

message you know we really need to focus on the things that we need the things that we want out

of this life. Not just focus on what this person that I might be in a situation should be in a

relationship with what they want like what is it that I really want. You know I think it's also for

the lost and the hopeful and I think sometimes being single you feel lost you feel confused as to

hey why am I still the only person that's single like why is everybody else getting to meet their people

but here's me still single after all these years or no matter what I do you know because sometimes

we can do everything right and we still might not meet the right person or we still might end

that big single like nothing's guaranteed in life and it sucks but I still also do have that hope

for us right like so yeah we might be lost we might be feeling lost but I also still want us to

hold on to that beacon of hope and you never know you just never know it's gonna happen in my

life I am an immigrant so I was born in Poland I came here when I was 12 so I think that the

stretch of liberty for me also signifies opportunity and I think that again for us singles you know

I really want us to get into the mindset of trying to get more opportunity of meeting people whether

it be other single people to be friends with or whether it be people we might potentially be

interested in dating it's also that whole hope of having a better life and I really want a single

people to not think of this chapter of our lives as just something to pass by while we're here whether

we want to be single or not we might as well enjoy that time we might as well make the most of it

and we might as well work on ourselves not to the extent where it's like all you're focusing on

is working on yourself because you also need to have some joy in your life do what we can to really

maximize the single time that we've been given to actually unlearn some bad things and

learn some good behaviors and boundaries and just really become the version of ourselves that we

are so proud of that whether or not we find somebody to do life with that we still are confident

in who we are as people and that whole give me your tired you know man so many of us single people

are just so fucking tired we're so tired of like trying to find the right person I'm 38 so I've

been looking for so long and I've dated so many people and it just gets to be so exhausting going on

new dates you know where you're expanding so much energy you just get so tired of doing it and

of trying to find this person and of feeling like a failure sometimes because you're just not meeting

people that you're interested in so I really also want to focus on discussing all of that and hopefully

we can both laugh at the mistakes that I've made and hopefully you can learn from my mistakes and

overall I just want to welcome you to this podcast and I'm very happy that you're listening but so

that was the gist of why of what I was trying to do for like my picture for the podcast cover what

ended up happening is my podcast covers looks like I'm flying in some might say looks like I'm about

to riot I don't know whatever what everybody guys want to think you can do everything right I'd

still have it not workout and that's how I feel about my podcast cover not the look I was going for

is supposed to look more of like the statue of liberty holding my microphone you know and that

fire and it literally definitely doesn't look like it but that's that's okay it's staying I like it

I did have some single friends and me some of their voice mammals talking about their experiences

so let's hear them now becoming single made me realize how much I poured into my partner while

draining myself having the time to just focus on myself has been so eye opening in so many ways

realizing that I can make myself happy and do things for me is something new to me

since I've basically been pouring into a partner for over two decades hello my name is Israel from Chicago

and I just want to say probably one of the hardest things about being single it's the social events

and mostly the holidays when everybody gets together and you know everybody's buying key for everybody

so you know that creates a sense of loneliness and you know yeah that has been the hardest part for me

so far

for any of you who do want to call anything in you don't have to do a voice memo you can either email me

at all about being single at gmail.com or you can go on the website all about being single.com

and that's where you can leave a voice memo okay whatever whatever's easy for you if you feel like

giving me your name and or like you know what city you live in or general location you can also do

that but you don't have to you can always stay anonymous whatever you feel most comfortable with

and that's the thing so many of us are going through that same experience of being single and you

know feeling excluded also there's you know the positive things about being single some of us are

finally learning what it's like to be on our own what it's like to take care of us first in our own

needs and knowing what we actually want and zyre out of this life and it feels good so is a balance

next thing what I introduce is something we'll be doing every episode as well so it's called note

to self so this is your moment to reflect and to be honest with yourself and don't worry it won't

take long because I hate when people ask me to do stuff that is like a whole journal entry

but basically just grab your notes app grab your phone do a voice memo you can write it down

in an actual journal or whatever whatever's by you and if you're driving please don't do any of

those things maybe just think to yourself about the answer and there's my cat scratching one of my

chairs but yeah however you want to do this right so just take a minute and answer this note to

self question afterwards afterwards down doing this I believe we all should do a couple of things

every day one of them is dancing and another one of them is laughing and I'm hoping that you guys have

at least left today and if you haven't danced yet we will get a chance because I am going to do a little

break where I dance for about a minute that gives you about a minute to either think about this note

to self I will say writing it down is usually better because then you're kind of getting it out of

your head but however you want to do it or if you want to dance with me when we do this one minute dance

break that also is great also again if you're driving please don't do that I'm talking to those of you

who are either walking as you're listening to this podcast or maybe you're cleaning your house

maybe you're organizing some stuff maybe you're just laying on the couch I know that was a very

long winded way of saying this is our note to self today how is being single right now serving you

so just answer that question how is being single right now serving you in this time of your life

so think of maybe one aspect you know you might be surprised with kind of what comes up

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♪ So I can't do it with you, but I'll be with you ♪

♪ So I can't do it with you, but I'll be with you ♪

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♪ So I can't do it with you, but I'll be with you ♪

♪ And I'm alive ♪

♪ And I'm alive ♪

♪ And I'm alive ♪

♪ So I can't do it with me ♪

♪ So I can't do it with me ♪

♪ So I can't do it with me ♪

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♪ It won't be easy, easy, easy, easy, easy ♪

♪ So I can't do it with me ♪

Okay, now going back to a question from the very beginning

of the episode, can you really know yourself

without being single for at least an extended amount

of time in your adulthood?

And the answer to that to me is, and oh, sure,

is it possible, yeah, it's possible?

And I think there's some outliers,

there are some people who truly found out who they are

while being in a long-term relationship.

However, for most people, when they're in a relationship,

they're just so focused on living out that dynamic,

they expend so much energy on that relationship,

they're constantly playing a role

on who they are in that relationship

alongside that other person,

or maybe even people, right, if people have kids.

So Tater, love it.

Being single does give us that opportunity

to actually learn more about ourselves, our own needs,

to really use the energy that otherwise would have been spent,

you know, on going on and dates with people,

on, you know, being with a partner,

on taking care of a family,

you can actually spend that time

and be a little bit more introspective as to who it is that you are,

and that's such a huge positive.

Women especially spend so much more time being conditioned

to take care of a household and really focus on,

their boyfriend's or husband's, they're, you know,

whoever that their partners.

So they really, almost their self-worth

is kind of linked to their partners.

So I think when they are in a relationship,

they put themselves second.

So it is such a good time to have that opportunity

to really get to know who you are while being single

without somebody else and being able to put yourself first.

And once you do it, you'll never get into a toxic relationship

again.

Once you realize that you are your own priority,

you'll date like a man, which is also a positive thing.

And again, for the men listening to this,

you probably agree with me that everybody should be looking

at for themselves, for number one.

And yes, of course, you can do a little bit of some kind of healing

while you're in a relationship.

I'm not saying you can't.

But when the universe really forces you to be alone

with your own thoughts and to be truly single,

is when you can truly focus only on your own needs,

you know, ditch societies and your friends

and whoever's programming and expectations

and you get to self-reflect without that companionship

and emotional support.

And that's honestly the hardest because again,

we don't have that support when we're single,

but also that is, in a sense, the best part about it

because that's when you're forced to really look at yourself

and how you've been standing in your own way

or look at yourself and realize how wonderful you are

and all the great qualities about you

that maybe your past partners didn't really appreciate enough

and sometimes you don't get to see that

when you're in that toxic relationship

when somebody's not appreciating you.

But once you're out of that dynamic

is when you're able to be like, oh my God,

I cannot believe this person,

I didn't actually see me for who I was.

And so, yeah, being forced to be single sometimes

allows us to see those things

and it's so rewarding once you see it too.

Once you're out of that fog really

and you work on yourself and you truly realize

what you do deserve and what peace actually can be

and look at those relationships when either

you're forced to be single

because somebody breaks up with you

or when you decide it's enough,

but then afterwards is really when you're able to

be out of that fog and really see that relationship

for what it was.

And as much as it sucks at the time,

a few of the people who did break up with me

basically forced me to see myself better

and I'm so thankful that that's happened

because I would never settle for people like them ever again.

Be, I now know that I have deserved the best even before

'cause I was such a great person

and of course I've made mistakes, obviously

we'll talk about those too,

but it's just nice to know that I can do better

and now I truly believe that I actually can do better

versus being in those relationships.

It's like I could tell I could do better in a sense,

but also I was too nervous and too freaked out

over an unknown future and having to be single yet again

for me to have been clear in my mind and my thoughts

about just breaking up with those people

and not fully realizing how much better life will be

once those ties are severed.

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All right, the no like to stand on segment.

This segment is my personal favorite.

It's your space to vent and finally feel hurt, okay?

So we'll talk paper critical comments from the merits

unhelpful dating advice, settle shame

that is often thrown our way

and then just any bad bullshit singles

you have to hear way too often.

And this is also the corner where you get to also talk

about your frustrations, your disappointments

anything that's in your era of this life

that you really wanna share with us.

So if you've ever been given advice that makes no sense

or any comments that have no like to stand on

about the single life and are dating,

this is your space to let it all out.

Okay, here's my vent for today.

When someone tells me to enjoy being single

when they themselves have not been single in decades

or even years, honestly dating scene has changed.

I'm getting older, obviously I am a woman who wants to have kids

so while I'd like to believe this isn't true,

A, my biological clock is ticking and I can tell

and yeah, I don't have like 20 more years,

most likely to have kids.

So and again, like I don't wanna be single forever

and it's the advice that's given to us by people

who have no idea what it's like to be single

who don't even go grocery shopping by themselves.

Grocery shopping.

Well, I'm out here doing everything by myself.

Most of the time my friends don't even wanna hang out anymore

because they're older now so it's like

I have to do everything by myself.

Like I have to take myself out to dinners.

I have to pay the whole mortgage.

I have to cut the grass.

I have to clean the whole house.

I have to cook everything.

I have to push myself to go out to the gym.

All these things that again, I don't have that support system.

So it's very hard when you're constantly being told

to enjoy that single life when you constantly also wish

you had somebody there to help you through it.

If you have anything you do wanna voice any other comments

that the Mary's say to you and I mean anybody

who honestly says stupid things to us single people,

please reach out.

I'm go to all aboutbeingsingle.com

and you'll be able to just leave me a voice memo

or email me at all aboutbeingsingle@gmail.com.

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Okay, it's time for a weekly glow-up.

This is when we discuss small steps

that make a big impact in the quality of our solo life.

Since we don't have a support system built in,

it's especially important for us to keep taking small

little steps to make our lives better and easier.

So here we will talk one thing you can start doing each week

to evolve and elevate and glow a little.

So for this week what I highly recommend

is at the very start of each day take a very, very short walk.

I absolutely love walking.

It's like my answer to most things

because it actually does help with a lot of problems

or at least thinking about the problems

or forgetting about the problems for a little bit.

Depends on what you're really looking for at the time.

But anyhow, just walk, get up, grab a bottle of water.

You don't even have to brush your teeth.

You can just wash your face.

It's a very simple, cheap obviously activity.

All you need, bottle of water.

Put on some clothes.

Go walk, just go walk for 10 minutes, 15, 20,

whatever you're able to do.

Even if it's five minutes at first.

Just to literally take that step.

I promise you it will feel a lot better

than what a lot of people do.

Guilty of this too, some days where I will just go on my phone

and then I don't go take my walk.

And then my whole day is shut.

Like I don't feel like myself.

I'm not as productive.

I don't feel as good.

So I do highly recommend just take a five, 10, 15,

20 minute walk.

It really doesn't have to be anything super long.

But honestly, my first glass of water is the glass of water

that I drink.

Well, I'm out on my walk and then I come back home

and I'm already A.

I've already been productive.

B, I've already gotten some exercise.

C, I've usually gotten some kind of sunlight

at the time that I wake up.

D, it just sets me up.

It just makes me feel so much better.

I promise you it'll make your day start off

on the right foot, whichever foot you start walking with.

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Okay, one of the things we discussed on today's episode

is we can do everything right and still lose.

And that's a said reality.

You know, we can do all the work on ourselves

and be great people and still not meet our person.

So I'm not here to tell you that you will

for sure meet your person.

And I'm not here to tell you that single life is easy.

I am here to tell you though that you give yourself

the best chance to live the best life, single or not.

If you take this time of singleness

and make the most of it and put yourself first

and enjoy it as much as you can while also working

and improving yourself, at least you'll feel better

because you'll be working on the most important relationship

of all, yes, the one that you have with yourself.

And as cliche as that is, it is also very true.

People will come and go in your life

but we always are here to stay.

And some of us might not be lucky and love

at least not for now and people do come and go

but we are always here to stay.

So even if you hate being single as I sometimes do,

know it is okay to be single

and there are more of us out here than you think.

And always remember, even if we're late or right on time.

Our next topic or next episode

will be talking about various life lessons

I've learned about myself and the world honestly

through all the years where I was just single,

not even dating.

If you would like to feel free to send me a lesson

that you've learned while being single

by going to my website or emailing me.

Thank you for listening, I really appreciate it.

I want you to know that this is your space, your era

and your community.

There's more of us out here

than you think.

And I will talk to you next Tuesday.

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