If you’re inspired to build the life you would love, Dr Demartini reveals an intrinsic value-driven approach to life where sustained effort aligned with your highest values leads to fulfilment and mastery of your destiny.

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I'm a firm believer that if you patiently

work towards something that's deeply

meaningful and there's no

turning back, you get it.

But it needs to be something

that's not just a whim.

As I travel the world and I ask people,

how many of you would love to master

your life, be a master of your life,

a master of your destiny?

Almost every hand goes up.

How many of would love

to live your dreams,

the things that you are inspired

to go and fulfill? The hands go up.

And then I ask people, well,

how many you feel like you

are making progress on that?

And most people put their

hands up, making progress,

but maybe not to the fullest.

And so I'd like to share with you some

ideas that can help that achievement.

I know I set out when I was 17 years

old to travel the world and teach and

research and learn, and learn

how to speak and be an educator.

And I've not given up on that.

I've still working on that.

I've been blessed to travel over the

world and I really believe that you can

live your dreams. You can

create a masterful life.

So I know when I was about 18

years old I set out to master life.

And I thought, what does that mean?

And I thought, well, I want to,

there's seven areas of life

that I'd broken life into,

we have a quest for waking up our

mental faculties and using our brain to

the fullest and coming up with original

ideas that serve human beings and be

creative with our minds. We have a desire,

most of us have some sort of desire to

make some sort of contribution as far as

some sort of business. I mean,

we may not think of raising

a family as a business,

but we're actually producing a product,

service, idea and satisfying a customer,

which may be a wife or husband

who's helping pay for that.

But that's a business. So we want

to have some sort of business.

I knew I wanted to have a business

that went around the world.

I knew I wanted to be

financial independent.

I didn't want to have to

work my whole life for money.

I wanted some money to work for me.

I wanted to have a global family.

I didn't really feel at home in a little

suburb somewhere, in a little house,

I mean some people love

that, it just wasn't me.

And I knew that I wanted

to be part of the world.

I always thought the universe is my

playground, the world is my home.

I wanted to have a social

influence and meet amazing people,

anybody that had a global influence I

wanted to meet and hang out with and

associate with and have as clients.

And I also wanted to have a vital

physical body and energized,

which so far I'm still

cranking on that at nearly 70.

And I want to be inspired and wanted to

create some sort of inspiring movement.

So I wrote down what I wanted.

And I'm a firm believer that you

want to start with what you know.

Start with what you know about what

you really want and define your dream.

And make sure it's really

congruent with what you value.

Your life demonstrates your values.

That's why I spend so much time on

values because your life demonstrates it.

Tell me what your values are and

I'll tell you where you're headed.

And if your dream is

congruent with those values,

or your values are

congruent with your dream,

you have a high probability of achieving

it, living your dream. If they are not,

you have a lower probability.

So that's why I have people go on freely

onto my website and take advantage of a

complimentary and private

Value Determination process

to take a look at what your life is

demonstrating is important to you.

What exactly is true? Not the

fantasies. If we set up fantasies,

don't confuse fantasies with real

dreams or real things that we're really

committed to accomplishing, real

objectives in life. Many people do.

And then they beat themselves up

and wonder why it's not happening.

The reason why they're not living their

dreams is because they're either setting

up a fantasy or trying to live

in somebody else's values,

or they're not coming up with a

strategy in their executive function,

to come up with a strategy that

they can take actions to do.

Or they're immediate gratifying,

they want immediate fix and they

don't want long-term effects.

And my observation,

people that want immediate gratification

don't go as far as people that are

patient and long-term and willing

to do what it takes to get the goal.

Overnight success takes 25

years is an old proverb.

I have some goals that I've been

working on for 35, 40, 50 years.

I set out to go to every country

on the face of the earth and teach.

I haven't reached every

country yet, over 150 of them,

but I haven't got them all.

But I still am working on that.

And so some of my goals I'm having to

be patient for, and it's a slow, steady,

consistent, year by year

progress towards that objective.

Some goals I get done immediately. Some

are short term, some are long term.

But defining your dream and making sure

it's congruent with what you value is a

very important component.

Because you spontaneously tend to

act and are inspired to act in your

highest values.

But you need external motivation to

get you to do things that are lower.

So if you're not setting goals that are

really congruent with what you value

most, you're going to

need outside motivation,

reminding and incentives and constant

reminders to get you to do what you say is

important. If what you say is

important, if you're not acting on it,

it's not important.

So be honest about what's truly important

to you and what's really valuable and

what's really a dream and a real

objective and not a fantasy.

Many times people compare themselves

to other people and put people on

pedestals, inject some of their values,

think I need to be like them and compare

themselves to the Jones and then think

they have to have all the same things

they do or do the same things they do.

And many of the times the

Joneses are actually facades.

If you actually got to know them,

their life's not what you thought.

And so you're setting up an unrealistic

expectation and fantasy to be somebody

you're not and live in a way that's

not even the way they're living.

And this lets you up for let down.

And so I'm a firm believer

in prioritizing your life,

making sure the goals are really

congruent with what you value,

making sure you strategize and

mitigate the risk and come up with real

strategies that'll give you an outcome.

What are the real action steps

that'll help you fulfill it?

In the Breakthrough Experience program

that I teach pretty well, not every week,

but almost every week,

I teach people how to make sure that

when you're setting goals and objectives,

it's something that's truly important,

and not just a temporary whim. You know,

a lot of times at the end of the

year or beginning of the year,

you have New Year's resolutions, and

these are mostly jokes for people.

They've just over eaten at Christmas and

they've overspent, so they set a goal,

I'm going to lose weight, I'm

going to not spend so much,

I'm going to save my money. And

then two or three weeks later,

the whole thing is forgotten. Because

they went back to their routine,

they're now dropped their weight,

they're no longer overspending,

and now they had a temporary thing.

It's wise to set goals that

are truly meaningful to you,

that way you have meaning in life.

Something that's so important to you that

you are willing to do what it takes to

get it. When the why is big enough,

the how's take care of themselves.

And wasting your time on

trivia is not the answer.

You're not going to be fulfilled on that.

But breaking down big projects into

small bites and being realistic about how

you're going to get it and being

willing to do the work. You know,

I was watching an interview that

they were doing on Elon Musk

and he says, you know,

most of the people he knows that are

actually doing great accomplishments are

working between a hundred, well

eighty to hundred twenty hours a week.

I certainly do 80 to 120

hours a week many times.

And it's a pretty standard

for me. I think part-time,

I think 40 hours a week's like not even

part-time. But that's just my thing.

And that doesn't mean you have to do that,

but my experience is the people

that put the extra hours in,

get the extra results.

If you put a lot of energy into

something that's really important to you,

you get a result. Time X

intensity gives results.

The more intensity you focus on

something, the faster you get a result.

And I'm a firm believer that if you

work twice as hard as somebody else,

you get there half as

fast and half the time.

And I did that all the way through

schooling and I did that ever since then.

So I put in the hours to get what I

dream about, and that's how I achieve it.

And I ask myself, no matter

what's happened, how's it

helping me get my dream?

You know,

there's seven questions that I talk

about in the Breakthrough Experience.

I'll just give you some of them now here.

What is it I would absolutely love

to do in life? I wrote that down.

I wanted to travel the

world and teach. Great.

How can I get handsomely and beautifully

paid to do that? Because If you ask,

how can I afford to do that? You're

going to go and get in debt to do it.

If you ask, how can I get handsomely

and beautifully paid to do it,

you'll come up with an answer to do it.

And then you'll realize how do you do

what you really want to do in a way that

serves other people, that people

will get a benefit enough to pay you?

Then you get to do what you love

every day and get paid for it.

So I figured that out.

I worked towards that and I answered that

question and I came up with solutions.

And then the question is,

what's the highest priority actions

you can take today to move you in the

direction of what's important, what

you say you would love to do? So I ask,

what are the highest priority actions I

can do today that'll help me travel the

world and teach and get handsomely paid

to do that? And I came up with answers,

and slowly but surely,

I developed a strategy on how to get

that and build momentum doing it.

And then I asked the question,

what are the obstacles I might run into

and how do I solve them in advance?

What might come in that

might be an obstacle?

And how do I try to solve that with

foresight? Most people live by hindsight,

they don't, they only

focus on the fantasy side.

They don't want to get an objective.

They don't want to mitigate the risk,

they don't want to think of the negatives,

they only want to think of the

positives, which is foolish.

And then what happens is they're

unprepared and they get distressed by,

smacked by the things they overlooked

because they're now living in hindsight

and reacting.

But if you foresight it and think of

what are the obstacles in advance and how

do I solve in advance, you're

prepared. You're pro-act, not react,

and you have foresight, not hindsight.

And that's what differentiates us from

the animals. Animals live with hindsight.

They have teleonomics

instead of teleology.

And we end up having the ability to have

foresight and purpose and meaning and

to prioritize our life and live

through an inspired pathway.

So ask what worked, what

didn't work, next. And ask,

how did whatever happened to me today

serve me? If you ask whatever's happened,

how's it helping me get my dream,

then you'll see it all on the way,

not in the way, and you won't

be resistant and living in fear.

Anytime you accumulate something that

you think is in the way where that's not

on the way, you're going to be

living in anxiety and fear about it.

But if you ask yourself

and be accountable and ask,

how did whatever happen to me today,

help me move one step

closer towards my objective?

And if you do that and you ask

what worked and what didn't work,

and how do I do it more effectively

and efficiently tomorrow?

And then you listen to that and metric

that and document that and actually

refine what you're doing and work towards

refining it, you'll get your goal.

You can manifest this process.

So I'm a firm believer in clarifying

what your purpose is in doing it.

In the Breakthrough Experience I

have a whole manifestation formula.

You know what exactly is the

purpose you're doing this for,

dominating your thought

on it. And by the way,

if it's really congruent

with your highest value,

it's spontaneously comes

out of your thinking.

I don't have to be reminded or

motivated or incentivized to think about

traveling the world and

teach. I love doing it.

It's what I think about every day.

So find out the thing that you

don't need to be motivated to do,

that's spontaneously is inspiring

for you to go after and do.

And then find a way of getting

handsomely paid to do that,

which means you have the accountability

and responsibility to do it in a way

that serves people.

If you don't have a philanthropic

objective of making a

difference in the world,

don't expect to achieve your dreams.

It requires being of service to people.

It requires contributing to people in a

way that makes them feel fulfilled too.

If you help other people get

what they want to get in life,

you get what you want to get in life.

So that's why you want to go after

what it is you really want to do,

to tap dance to work as Buffett says.

If you can't wait to get up in the

morning and be of service to people,

people can't wait to get your service.

We've all been into a restaurant

or department store, whatever,

and you can see when somebody's

not present and they're

not engaged and they're

not inspired by what they do. And

then you can see when they are.

And you'll be more likely to refer

people to the people who are engaged than

people who are not. I've gotten,

when I used to live in New York City,

sometimes I'd get in a cab and there's

sometimes you get in a cab and it's

filthy and dirty and smelly and there's

a guy in there and if you ask them,

so how long you been driving a cab? About

three years. I said, do you love it?

And they look in the mirror, are

you kidding, man? It pays the bills.

They're not engaged, they're not

inspired, their cab shows it, it's dirty,

it's filthy, they don't take care of it.

They don't really have an

engagement in what they're doing.

Then you can get in the

cab sometimes and you go,

it's clean and it's spotless

and it's shiny and it's fresh,

and the guy smiles and said,

where would you love to go?

I know this city inside and out.

How long you been doing a cab? Oh,

I've been doing it for 13

years. My father did the cabs,

my grandfather did the cabs, we're a

cab company family. And I said, well,

you sound like you're inspired by.

I love it. I love the people I meet.

I love taking them places. I

know this city inside and out.

You can see when they're engaged because

they're doing something they're really

inspired to do. You don't want to

have regrets at the end of your life,

Bronnie Ware's five regrets.

You want to have an inspired

life by prioritizing your life.

That's why in the Breakthrough Experience,

I teach people how to define their

values, prioritize their lifestyle,

dissolve all the emotional baggage that

they think is in the way of them living

their dreams, and get on

with it, and prioritize it,

and live their love life.

And you can live your dreams.

You can master your life and live your

dreams, there's no doubt about it, but,

it's work. I'm not going to give you a

fantasy that it's going to be overnight,

you know, achievement. When I look at

the things that I've set out to do,

it's slow and methodical. It's

patience that gets you there.

Learning how to speak

was a patient process.

Learning how to read was a patient

process. Learning how to travel,

finding out how to do that, working

away. If it's really important to you,

you don't give up. When you have

a no turning back objective,

you get it. There's no obstacles,

there's no no excuses. There's just,

you move forward. And when you get to

that point, you find you get your dream.

And that's only going to

occur in your highest values.

That's why I tell people in

the Breakthrough Experience,

let's find out what your highest values

and let's set goals that are congruent

with that. And let's strategize

with our executive center.

Whenever you're living by priority

and living in your highest values,

your executive executive center comes

online and you start to strategize,

you see your vision. If you don't see

your vision, you're not likely to get it.

If you see it in your mind's

eye, you can see the strategies,

you have a real sound strategy and

you're willing to refine the strategy,

if you get feedback and you, no matter

what happens, you keep refining it,

you'll get your goals. And you

deserve to have your dreams.

So I'm a firm believer that if you

patiently work towards something that's

deeply meaningful and there's

no turning back, you get it.

But it needs to be something

that's not just a whim.

And I find people very commonly wanting

immediate gratification and not being

willing to do patience, having patience

to get something. But I don't know.

I think of, again, Elon

Musk. He wants to go to Mars.

You think that's an overnight thing? No.

You think he's done it for really

quick? No, he's put the hours in.

He's hired the top people, he's

put the engineers on the thing,

he's had explosions and

he still moves forward.

There's an interview on

him called I never give up.

And that's worth watching if you

haven't seen it on Elon Musk, Elon Musk,

never give up.

That's the kind of attitude I try

to teach people in the Breakthrough

Experience, because if they have that

attitude, there's no turning back.

There's no option but to move

forward to get your goals.

So you can master your life. You

can empower all areas of your life.

Any area of your life you don't

empower, people will overpower.

And the over powerment that other people

give you will frustrate you enough to

get yourself in gear and power your life.

So if you're not empowered intellectually,

you'll be told what to think,

and that'll frustrate you

until you eventually say,

I want to think for myself.

If you don't empower yourself in

business, you'll be told what to do,

and that'll frustrate you until you

finally decide to be an entrepreneur.

If you work for others, you'll pay the

most tax. If you work for yourself,

you'll pay less tax. If you

invest and have long-term vision,

you'll pay even less taxes. The world

rewards people that live masterfully.

And if you do that, you'll go places.

And the same thing with money.

If you want to quickly,

immediate gratifying and spend money and

compare yourself to the Joneses instead

of deferring gratification,

well, you'll have money you know,

run your life and you'll basically be

buying consumables that depreciate,

you won't get ahead financially,

you won't master that area.

Deferred gratification

financially pays off.

I learned that a long time ago to save

a little bit and incrementally increase

that amount and invest it.

And I've been investing 42 years

and I never stopped investing.

And I've not spent it. I'm a net

buyer like Warren Buffett taught me.

And I just kept buying and buying and

buying and buying stocks until they grow

and they work for me.

And I'd much rather have money working

for me than me having to work for it all

the time. You want to do both.

You want to do something you really love

to do so you don't care about working,

you do it because you love

doing it. But at the same time,

you want your money working for you and

you want to grow the business that you

dream about.

And you want to be able to be able to

think for yourself and not be just an

automaton reacting and parroting what

other people who may have a different

intention have on you.

And you want to be able to decide

how you want your life to look.

It may not be what matches your

tradition or convention or your family's,

or it may, but be honest about it

and what is really important to you,

because your life will go by and you'll,

repressing what you really want

in life is not where the power is.

Giving yourself permission to do

what you really love is liberating.

And the same thing socially.

Everybody around you is

going to be imposing their

values onto you and trying to

get you to live in their

values. And the question is,

is do you want to conform and fit in or

do you want to stand out? When people,

I ask them, how many want to make

a difference? They all say yes.

The question is how are you going

to make a difference fitting in?

You're going to make a difference

standing out and then being yourself,

but yet at the same time,

communicating what you're committed to

in terms of other people's values to meet

their needs. You can't do

it narcissistically. You

can't do it altruistically.

You can't sacrifice, you can't

sacrifice them for you or you for them.

You have to have sustainable fair exchange

to maximize your return socially and

economically. And the

same thing in your health.

When you're living by priority and you're

basically doing something you love to

do, your wellness quotient goes up, your

resilience and adaptability goes up.

Your distress levels go down. So

it's to your advantage to do it.

And if you prioritize your life and live

by what's most important and live your

dreams, you're more inspired by your

life and grateful for your life and your

fulfillment in life is how

much gratitude you have.

If you're not grateful on a daily

basis, you're missing out on life.

That's why I keep a record on a daily

basis and I encourage people at the

Breakthrough Experience to keep a record

of every day of the gratitudes that

they've experienced. Every day I do

that, I don't miss a day on that.

It's a document every single day.

I metric the achievements and

I document the gratitudes.

And now I get to have something, I

had the opportunity to do this today,

had the opportunity to meet these people,

had the opportunity to go this place,

had the opportunity to

do this presentation,

had the opportunity to read this book.

I keep records of that because I learned

from my mom when I was very young,

four years old, those that count their

blessings have more blessings to count.

I was born on Thanksgiving Day so I'm

a firm believer that that's the key.

So if you follow those formats

and get clear about your mission,

dominate your thought on it,

visualize it in your mind's eye,

affirm it in your head

so you can articulate it

clearly so you're clear about

what you want, until you're

actually inspired by it,

you can see it and you feel

that's what I love. You know,

when you're grateful for your

work, you love what you're doing,

you're inspired by a vision,

you're enthusiastically working,

you're certain about your skill

and you're present while you do it,

you're going places.

And if you then write it down in space

and time and plan it out with strategies

and you take spontaneously action

on it with the energy that you have,

because when you're living

by your higher priorities,

your energy goes up and your resources,

your brain automatically filters out

information in your highest values and you

can see more opportunities

and more synchronicities.

And if you're grateful for it and

you feel your self worth going up,

because you're living your life more

congruently, you'll manifest the things.

So you can master your life and

live your dream. But it takes work.

It's not going to, you're not going

to happen by just fantasizing.

You're not going to do it by reading

a book, one book or, or you know,

watching a movie or something.

You're going to do it by getting your

elbow grease in there and start doing the

highest priority actions that help you

move in the direction of your dreams.

I've just been doing that for 51 years

and people go, well, you're lucky. No,

I'm not lucky. Luck is preparation

meeting, opportunity. And no,

it's not because , you know, I'm gifted.

People say, oh, you're gifted. No.

If you saw how many hours I put into

it, you wouldn't think it's gifted.

You'll see, I don't want

to call people gifted,

I want to say I found out

how many thousands of hours

they put into something.

I met with a guy that was one of

the greatest pianists in the world,

a concert pianist since

nine years old. He's 80.

I asked him how many hours

average he did a day on a piano.

He said 13 hours a day he practiced.

That's why he became a master.

So don't be afraid to get in there and

put your elbow grease together and go to

work. You work for what you

want, you get what you love.

That's why I'm a firm believer,

that's why I don't even

hardly take breaks .

I don't want to be distracted

by low priority stuff.

I want to keep going on what I love doing.

And if I fill my day with

what I really am inspired by,

it doesn't fill up with what I don't.

So just wanted to share that little

message that you can live your dreams,

you can master your life. It's

work. It's not necessarily,

if you're looking for immediate

gratification and you're looking for the

shortcut, the Lazy Man's Guide

to Enlightenment, forget it.

But if you're willing to

do what it takes, travel,

whatever distance and pay whatever

price to get what you really want,

what you really want is yours. So I

just wanted to share that message.

Hopefully that's meaningful.

And I know that if you come to the

Breakthrough Experience and spend 25 hours

with me, some of that's going to rub off.

So if you got something out of this

30 minutes, come and join me there.

because I know I can help you live

your dreams and master your life.