Today, we’re diving into a powerful discussion about personal growth, healing, and the challenges of navigating relationships.

One of the key points we tackle is the universal need for acceptance and validation that drives many of us to stay in unhealthy situations. Our guest, Rania Effat, a certified relationship coach, shares her journey from experiencing toxic relationships to helping women uncover their self-worth and rebuild their lives.

She emphasizes the importance of being aware of our circumstances and taking action toward change. We also explore how our upbringing shapes our understanding of love and relationships, and how breaking generational patterns can lead to profound healing.

Join us as we unpack these vital topics and offer insights that could resonate with anyone on their path to self-discovery.

Takeaways:

• People are seeking acceptance, validation, and love, which are fundamental human needs.
• Awareness is the first step towards change; without it, nothing can progress.
• Healing leads to empowerment, allowing individuals to embody their true selves fearlessly.
• The generational impact of healing is significant, as healed parents raise healthier children.

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Warrior Spirit, people say, well, how are people gonna accept me?

People are looking for acceptance.

People are looking for validation.

People want to be loved.

And that's the bottom line, what every single person needs.

And we can take this back to your spiritual warfare, because if I'm just going through life la de da, whatever, no one cares.

But if I'm awake, if I'm fierce, if I'm empowered, if I'm emboldened and I want to reach back and help those behind me, somebody on the other side has suddenly woken up and going, oh, we have another warrior on the battlefield.

We have to.

We have to fight them harder, and we have to make their life harder so that they'll give up on their mission to helping the others.

Because when it becomes hard, many people find reasons to stop.

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I've walked through fire with shadows on my heels Scars turned to stories that taught me to feel lost in the silence found in the flame now we're my battle cry without shame this isn't the end it's where I begin A soul that remembers the fire within.

Welcome back to another episode of A Warrior Spirit brought to you by Praxis33.

I'm your host, Darrell Snow.

Let's dive in.

Welcome to the show and today I have my special guest, Rania Efat.

Rania is a certified relationship coach.

She's a Reiki practitioner, she's an author, she's a speaker.

She's a host of her own podcast, the Healing Train Podcast, and she's an avid change maker.

Rania helps women in toxic relationships uncover the abuse, heal from their traumas, and rebuild their lives.

So as if she's not busy enough, she decided to join me, and I appreciate that.

Rania, thank you for joining me.

Hello, Darrel.

Thank you.

So you have quite a litany of things you are and do, but where did your beginning start?

I believe you're currently in Canada, but where did you grow Up.

Yeah.

So I come from an Arabic background, Egyptian background to be exact, and immigrated to Canada when I was young girl, just hitting my teens.

And I grew up here.

Yes, lived here most of my life.

I mean, lived in other countries for some time as well.

But yeah, mainly here in Toronto, Canada.

What was it like transitioning from Egypt or Egyptian background to Canadian especially?

Young girls are in a transformational state anyway in their teens, early teens.

I mean, life in general is a transformation.

So what was it like growing up where you started versus in the teens where you ended up?

Lots of transformation, lots of changes, lots of shock.

Culture shock, we use normally the term, but I think there was more than that for me.

There was just a lot of things, I guess, I didn't know and I was exposed to at that impressionable stage.

Right.

Because it was taboo and not talked about in my culture.

Because that's the norm.

Right.

And yeah, I mean, you're talking an Eastern world versus a Western world.

So you could just imagine anyone who understands the difference between the Eastern world, especially the Arabic culture.

Now, I come from a Christian background.

I know there are people who under the misconception that most Arabs are following the Islam religion.

However, that is incorrect.

There is also Christians there, so I come from the Christian denomination.

But yeah, I mean, it's just.

It was different in so many ways, but I found a way, somehow, some way, I found a way.

In an Islamic nation, we'll predominantly say being Christian already set you apart.

Was it something that you and your family were able to openly embrace, or was it a kind of a shield that you hid behind only in your own home?

How did you navigate that kind of.

Because I. I presume.

I don't know.

I'm a white guy living in the Midwest.

I don't know.

But I. I presume that growing up in that area would be a little challenging, being a Christian and not in Islam.

So how did you and your family navigate that?

So, to be honest with you, Daryl, because I was very young, I did not.

I was not aware of what that dynamic truly looked like.

As far as I was concerned as a kid, everybody's.

We're all the same.

You know, I had Muslim friends, I had Christian friends, we had.

My families had friends also from both.

Right.

So I never felt that there was a segregation of any sort.

Now, later, as I grew older, I started to understand that there were challenges that my parents faced.

For example, I can just share a very small story.

My mom, when she was in her early years, before I even came into the World.

She had the opportunity to be a professor in the university where she graduated from.

But she believes, again, I mean, there are no facts, but she believes that due to her religion, that she was Christian, not Muslim.

She did not get that position because it so happened that they decided for that particular year, instead of taking the top three, they were gonna take only the first.

Just for that year.

Right.

I mean, things like that.

Right.

So, again, I can't speak for something I never personally experienced, but from my understanding that it is there, there is sometimes the separ.

Their religions, and it's the adults that experience it, I would say, more than the children.

So did your.

Did your family migrate to Canada or did just you?

Because I've spoken to other people who've left their.

Their birthplace, and sometimes it's just them, and sometimes it's, you know, them and their family.

So was it you and your family or just you?

Yes.

No, actually, it was my whole family, like, and beyond, you know, we're talking even my grandparents and aunts and uncles and the kids and everybody.

So it just.

It started by one family at a time.

Like, one family decided, and then the next one followed, and then the next one followed, and next thing, you know, the majority, and it's my mom's side, I'm talking most of my mom's side lived here in Canada for, you know, and still do.

And then at some point, everyone kind of did their own thing.

Some went to the States and, you know, and so forth.

But it.

My dad's side is still in Egypt.

That's interesting in my life, because my wife is Portuguese and her family was the same.

One person snuck on a boat to come on over to the US and then establish themselves.

And then soon after, the rest of the family, family by family, migrated over, you know, so it's kind of an interesting dynamic.

Why did your family choose Canada?

I think because it was easy at that time, I believe it was you had to stay three years and become a citizenship, but America, I believe you had to stay 10 years.

If I recall.

Again, I was a child at the time, so I can't remember all the details, but if I can remember correctly, it took shorter time to become a citizen here.

Yeah.

And maybe also because the first family that decided to come came to Canada.

Like, well, we might as well all of us be together if we're all immigrating.

Might as well, like, relocate all of us again legally and everything.

So that's how it worked.

How long did it take you to learn the language and to then Feel like you were fitting in because, again, you came at a younger age where, you know, it's already difficult for young ladies.

So how long did that process take you?

Well, darl, let me surprise you.

I was a smart cookie.

Okay.

That does not surprise me.

I knew three languages.

Wow.

So I had, like, my whole life, I was in Catholic schools, so I. I knew Arabic, obviously, and I learned English from the very beginning, and French, so I continued with those.

So when I came to Canada, I knew English.

It's not like I didn't know.

Perhaps it's the being comfortable in speaking it and expressing myself on a daily basis that was the challenge.

But as far as, like, I knew my grammar, I knew the structure of the sentence.

I knew how to write, you know, like proper essays, I guess, if you could say, at that age.

But, yeah, so I didn't have a difficulty with the language, per se.

It's just to learn to express myself.

And then eventually, Arabic started to become, like, taking a backseat.

And all I wanted to do now is speak in English.

I even find it difficult now to, like, speak with someone who doesn't know English.

Like, the older generation, for example.

Like I should say with my grandparents, they didn't really know English.

So for me to express myself, to tell them, just to explain something to them, so simple, I'd be like, you know, like, trying to speak in Arabic in that way.

And then the English word would come, and I want to tell them.

I'm like, wait, wait, wait.

What's the translation of that word again?

So now I became more English versus the Arabic.

But it's interesting, so I didn't really have a hard time with the language.

So what did you struggle with?

Because there has to be something that led you to dealing with women in toxic relationships and people in my experience who go into helping others help them in an area they have experienced or have witnessed and want to change.

So what hardships brought you to this profession that you're currently doing today?

We're jumping, like, from A to Z here, Darrell.

There's a lot of things that happen in between.

Yeah.

So fill in the gaps.

Let's fill in your gaps.

I mean, it's actually hard to go back and see everything how it happened from the very beginning.

But just briefly, part of the upbringing that I lived caused me to feel like I am not the person that I wanted to be, because there was expectations for me to be a certain individual and to follow the culture that I come from.

However, there was a part of me that just wanted to Rebel.

And I did.

I rebelled.

And I questioned everything that I was taught to believe and to follow.

And I went down a path where I wanted to discover who I was and what made me happy.

And in that process, I ended up with the wrong, let's say, relationships.

Okay.

And it just guided me on a path where I needed to figure out who I am and little bit by little bit, unlearn and be deconditioned and deprogrammed and to where I am today.

And I'm like, fast forwarding here, but during that process, yes, I ended up in toxic relationships myself.

And when I got out of it and started to do the healing work, that's when I decided that whatever I went through wasn't just for me.

It was for me to help others, too.

And so this path that you chose, and this sounds like a very familiar path from the tons of people that you and I both speak with.

You know, there's something that we are rebelling against, whether it be parents, culture, ideation, whatever.

And we go and we try to explore who we are, and sometimes that takes us down the wrong path.

We discover what we shouldn't be.

What would you say you were rebelling against the most?

Conforming.

From a very young age, I had this urge to be free.

Free from what exactly, I didn't know then.

It is now that I understand what I truly needed to be free from.

And it's free from the version of me that was created by all the influences in my life, including my upbringing, including the culture, including religion, including just cultural and societal expectations.

I needed to be free from all of that.

And I've done a lot of work to get to this point where I. I kind of feel free now.

I do.

Because nothing ties me anymore.

I don't have something I follow.

I follow me.

Right?

I follow my heart.

I follow my instinct, my gut feeling.

I follow what feels right.

I know that I am guided by a greater higher power.

And I know we call it different things, the universe, God, divine, whatever you want to call it, to each their own.

But I. I rebelled against.

And I know some people may not like what I say here, but I'm going to say it anyways.

I don't believe in the religious institutions.

I don't.

I just.

I don't.

I left it years ago.

And I have no intention of ever going back.

Even though I've been told by different people that I've strayed away or that I've been brainwashed or that whatever, all that stuff I'm reading and Doing that's all like changing me and I'm going to hell, right?

So I've been told all of those things.

I'm like, okay, if that's what you believe.

I came to a point there where I'm like, I'm not going to excuse or defend where I am, because I know that that's my truth, where I stand.

And I also understand that that's their truth, where they stand.

I'm on my journey, they're on their journey.

And that's the same thing I do now with my coaching practice or on my podcast.

When I speak, I will share what I know.

I will share my story.

I will allow my guests to share their story.

But at the end of the day, I am not imposing any of those beliefs or knowings or whatever conclusions we've come to on anyone.

I leave it up to the individual to decide for themselves, because at the end of the day, we all have sovereignty.

We all have choice.

And that is what I'm free from.

I am free from following.

And I've given myself permission to be my own leader, to lead my own life.

And while I'm doing that, Darrell, I take it very seriously because I feel responsible for the way I show up in the world because someone is watching, someone is picking that up on whatever it is I am doing and saying.

So I need to be mindful of what I say and what I do.

There's a certain level of you talked, you use the word freedom a lot.

And there is a certain level I wish that every person could experience that level of freedom, because to live that authentically, where you're just comfortable in your own skin and you're comfortable in your own being, is a state of experience that many miss because they're so often trying to conform to who they.

They were told they were supposed to be or who the world told them to be or who the lies they even told themselves in the mirror of what that was supposed to look like.

And to reach your level of I don't give a shit is really, really empowering, and it's really, really special.

And I work really hard with my clients to try to get them there as well.

I'm still trying to actually attain that full level myself, but it is so rewarding once you do.

And I'm just, you know, ecstatic that you have given that gift to yourself, because it's a gift many people don't give.

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We're speaking with Rania and you were in the middle of expressing how you stepped into who you want to be.

And you said a couple.

You said a lot of really wonderful things, but you said a couple that I resonate with.

You no longer subscribe to religion, but that doesn't mean you don't have a connection to spirit or God or whatever label wants to be put on it.

Am I correct in that?

You're absolutely correct.

I just don't believe in a business like, I mean, I don't know how else to say it.

That's how it feels like most.

Again, this is just your and I's opinion and I've expressed it for 60 years, so I'm still okay expressing it today because I grew up in Catholic Catholicism stuff as well.

Most religion is a man made business.

I mean, there's a reason the Catholic Church in Rome is one of the most wealthy entities in the world.

It's a business.

But true connection is a personal relationship.

Wherever you find it.

If you find it in a pew listening to someone, great.

If you find it in a beach watching the waves, fantastic.

If you just find it sitting in your room meditating, perfect.

But spiritual connection to a higher self is a personal relationship and religion tries to turn that into a business.

And you will appreciate this.

I talked to a guy last year on my show.

He grew up in a Catholic church and he told me that when he grew up, because he's a little older than I am when he grew up, the priest would actually come every year and sit down with his parents and they would go over the amount that they were going to give for that coming year, like an accounting session.

And I was floored by that.

Even though I had been in the Catholic Church most of my life at that point, I just couldn't imagine mom making tea and dad sitting in his shirt and tie while we discuss with the preacher how much we're going to give them that year.

It just blows my mind away.

I mean, if I May Darrell, to just.

I know the conversation is not about religion per se, but I just want to add in a few points.

There is good and bad in everything.

In everything.

And there's a time for everything.

So in this day and age where we are, I believe that as humans species, we have evolved so much and we're tapping into.

I'm just going to use the word our gifts, because not everybody's on the same level.

So let's just use that word that we all have our own gifts where we can be in tune with the God within us, right?

Whatever religion you choose to believe in, there is a God within you.

Again, I'm being careful.

The choice of words I'm using and that when you tap into it, you connect to the source itself, God, source, whatever you choose to call it.

Now, the way we pray is just simply the way we express our connection to that God source.

So for Christians, we will do the cross sign, right?

For Muslims, they will pray to Allah and they will do their traditions and the Buddhists will do their thing and the Hindus will do the thing and so on and so on.

And in each thing there's their own denominations within.

It's just a way it becomes traditional and then tradition becomes habit and then it just gets passed down from generation to the generation.

So you just end up being born in this family.

Your family is following this tradition that doesn't even know where it came from.

And they're just following it and it continues on.

But what it takes, Darryl, is, I mean, I'm not making myself anything amazing here, but it takes someone like me in a way and like yourself to stop and ask, why am I just following this?

What does this really mean to me?

And to question, am I really a bad person if I don't go to church on Sunday?

Am I really.

Am I gonna go to hell because I didn't do confession or take communion?

Like, you understand what I mean?

Like, it's all these things that were implanted seeds that were planted in people's minds that are fear based, not love based.

And when people start to stop and question, is God love or is God fear?

Is God punishment?

Is it all about punishment here?

Or is it about truly just being enwrapped in God's love?

And what does God really mean to you?

Right to this day, darl, I have no problem going and sitting inside of a church by myself.

I'm not against the church.

No, at all.

I'm against what happens afterwards and all that.

Again, I don't want to make this about a religious talk, but I just wanted to say that we.

Every person has the choice to decide for themselves what they.

The good they want to take out of it and what doesn't resonate with them.

To question, to step back and do what suits them, not just follow.

Because that's what you're supposed to do.

Yeah.

And that's where I think that the discussion, even though this isn't a religious discussion, I think it's a vital part of how you navigated to where you are right now.

Because you questioned what you were being told.

You questioned what was happening in your life.

And even when you were in those toxic relationships, something questioned.

Is this really what I'm supposed to do?

And if it's not what I'm supposed to do, is it really what my fellow human, especially female, is supposed to be living?

No, it's not.

So you took yourself out of those situations and you changed your circumstance because you were willing to question what was going on around you.

So when you found yourself in this toxic life and then you got yourself out, what within you reached back to help these women that you're helping now?

We're all connected, Dara.

I'm her, she's me.

And even he is me.

Because I.

There's also men who end up in toxic relationships too.

It's not just women.

I just focus on women because that's where I can relate.

Right, Right.

There is the domestic violence.

There is.

The abuse is usually.

I mean, sorry, you're a man and I'm talking here, but like the.

A lot of times it is the.

The men that end up laying their hands on the women.

It is very rare when you'll find a woman beating up a man simply because we've been again, told to believe, and it is somewhat factual, that a man physically is stronger than the woman, so he can dominate her physically.

It's.

It's simple.

He's stronger.

And that's hands down, that's the way we are built.

Right.

So when he is using his physical strength to threaten, to bully, to control, to manipulate, to whatever.

Right.

Because of whatever sickness that he's dealing with, because at the end of the day, he's just an unhealed person going through whatever it is and he's projecting it or taking it out on her.

So I can relate to that.

And that's the woman I'm helping.

I understand to some degree, because I'm never gonna say I know exactly what each person is dealing with, because everyone has their own story, their own dynamic, and no two stories are the same, but generally speaking, it stems from lack of self worth, lack of confidence, just learning to believe in whatever you've been told.

Conforming again, being scared.

Fear.

Fear to question, fear to stand up, fear to speak up, fear to fear of everything, right?

And it goes from religions to parents to society.

You're afraid that you're not going to fit in.

People say, well, how, how are people gonna accept me?

People are looking for acceptance.

People are looking for validation.

People want to be loved and that's the bottom line, what every single person needs, right?

So we end up staying in these relationships, taking it upon ourselves to fix the relationship, change ourselves, please the other person, do whatever they want just because we want what?

Love, acceptance, validation.

And I think that's universal.

I think in, you know, in all of the traumas.

And I've, you know, I built this program to give the voice to the voiceless, to help turn their mess into their message and make it a survival guide for others.

And I don't think there's anything unique about our traumas.

I think the Circumstances may be 2 degrees worse or better.

But all of us have some thing we've come through and so do we stay in that thing and just play the pity party or do we find a way, find people like you to help us through that so that we can step into who we're supposed to be.

And that's what I love about what you do.

And you, you know, your, your logo, R to R coaching a happier you.

I mean, everything about this logo, the heart, the butterfly, a happier you, it says, let's move to the better version, the heart centered version of who you're supposed to be.

Can you describe R2R for me,.

Darrell?

I'm floored by how you took my logo and described it the way you did.

It's a different spin, for sure.

I kind of designed this logo.

I had someone, of course, finalize it for me, but the idea was mine.

And of course with the butterfly, as everybody understands, it's just, it's the becoming, it's the transformation, right?

Like you're, you're in your cocoon, you're the caterpillar.

And then you just all of a sudden you grow and, and you become this beautiful thing and you're just bright and shining and then you're free and then you fly away.

So, so R2R stands for ready to rise.

Ready to rise.

And that's also why I call myself Rania, the Rising Coach.

I gave myself that title.

I kind of like it.

Yeah, Ready to rise.

I love that, you know, the, the, the.

The butterfly is a beautiful analogy of transformation.

And the, the.

When I've used that as a transformation, you know, there's many aspects to it.

And I love that you are allowing the beauty of the wings to help carry you up and ready to rise.

But you said you have this quote here.

When you're healed and empowered, you embody your authentic self fearlessly and fiercely.

Describe this because it's very powerful.

You've been doing some digging, Darrel.

Wow, you're surprising me.

Yes.

I actually wrote that, I want to say three years, either two years ago or three years ago, something like that.

And it just hit me.

It just hit me one time when I realized that all it takes is us healing ourselves.

And when we become healed, then we become empowered.

It's all like a chain effect.

First you got us to work on your healing.

When you work on your healing, all of a sudden you feel like, hey, I'm not, not broken anymore.

So then you feel the, the power in you.

But then what happens after that?

If you just do a little bit of healing and find that power, but don't embody it, don't become it, don't live it day in and day out the way you're.

You need to be, then it's like you stopped halfway.

So then when you embody your true self, who you truly are, not the one, you're supposed to show the your family, your culture, the society, the real you, and not be afraid to show it fearlessly without being scared of who you are.

Just be who you are.

And fiercely is simply just a way of, like, not aggressively.

See, there's a difference between furiously and aggressively.

But when you're being fierce, you're like, I'm here, damn it.

Like, watch me, I'm right here.

There's a true power in that.

And I can relate to that because when I created Praxis 33, my three pillars are Empower, co create and transformation, or transform.

Because I want you to empower yourself to do the work which is the co creation for the transformation.

So I very much feel connected to what you're talking about because there is a distinction between being fierce and aggressive.

Fierceness is a boldness, and I don't give a shit attitude.

I'm going to do it anyway.

It may be scary, maybe hard, but I'm going to do it.

Nothing's going to stop me.

Aggressive is vastly different, so I really connect to that.

And then you also have the Healing Train podcast.

Describe this My baby.

This is my little baby.

I never knew that I would love podcasting so much, Darrell.

And this, again, was born out of my desire to be of service and to help those who need to heal.

And in the process of preparing for the show, I realized that, hey, there are so many things that we need to be talking about and heal from, other than just being in toxic relationship and narcissism and all of that.

That was like kind of the.

The idea of where it began from.

But then I just took it to a whole other level and I realized, hey, like, let's.

Let's discuss all these subjects, especially controversial subjects, especially having conversations that may raise more questions.

And the intent of the podcast is not to give advice.

It's about having the conversations with.

Whether it be I'm talking solo conversation, like with the audience, or I have a guest where we're discussing a particular subject and taking it from there, and again, leaving it on the table and letting people decide for themselves.

Maybe it's just about planting a seed for them to dig further.

Maybe they will learn something, a tip, a tool that they can use in their life.

Today, I like to leave my audience, usually with a practical tip from my guest of whatever it is that we're discussing that they can use right now.

Because so many times we are talking with coaches, therapists, whatever, whoever it is that we're talking to in a.

In a profession, and a lot of people don't have the finances to go and get that professional help.

And that's why I use my show with whatever.

I guess this discussion we're talking about to leave a tip that they can use without having to go if they are in a financial situation that they can't.

So how long have you been doing your show?

Oh, my God, Darrell.

It's coming to a year now.

I mean, that's the time we're recording our show right now.

It's.

It's kidding.

A year, so I'm very happy.

That's very good.

That's perfect.

And in that year, what's been your favorite taboo topic to talk about?

Sex.

Sex?

Really?

Yeah.

It's amazing how that is still.

Sex is everywhere in our world, yet it's still hard to talk about and a taboo subject for many.

Why do you think that is?

I had a hard time, Daryl.

I had a hard time knowing that I'm sitting in front of the camera and I'm having this discussion.

Like, I'm comfortable talking about it, but I just me knowing that the whole world is going to watch me and this is going to be online forever.

Like, once you put it up, that's it, it's done, right?

It's other forever.

And I am talking about this.

So there is a part of me.

There's a tiny little part of me, because again, I'm still healing, right?

Like, I'm not like, 100%.

Even though I'm saying I'm fearless and I'm bold and I'm.

That doesn't mean that there are still layers in there that I got to overcome myself.

And I'm okay, totally admitting that, because I'm human.

I'm human.

At the end of the day, I'm not superwoman, right?

But I'm.

I. I still have that little thing.

He was like, oh, my God, what if my family were to watch that and listen to me talk about sex and orgasm?

And I'm.

Okay, I don't want to say any more terms because it's your show.

I'm respecting your show.

But I mean, like, I use my show.

My show is an adult show, and we have talked about everything and anything.

So sex and orgasms should be, like, highlighted because, you know, listen.

Well, we'll take this back to the religion or the.

You know, people are taught that sex is bad through their religion.

They're taught to have this taboo feeling about it, when in fact it is a thing that God gave us.

And so if he gave it to us, it is humans and humanity that perverse.

It.

It is not the sex and the feelings that God created.

So there has to be a delineation between the two.

And I personally think the more these things are said, talked about and brought to light, the less taboo they are and the more they don't plague our society.

Listen, I know we're going in a direction we didn't mean to for a second, but I think it's important.

Some of the abuse that you're talking about turns out to be sexual abuse, and some of the abuse that you're talking about turns out to be sexual abuse.

Because men predominantly.

There have been women who do it.

This is not a blanket brush.

But men predominantly use sex as power and a tool to dominate whoever they're in front of.

And those atrocities that are created are not anything about sex.

They're about the act of domination over somebody.

But if we bring those subjects to light and we shine our truth on them and bring them so they're no longer taboo, they give less power.

And the less power they give, the more healing can occur and the More healing can occur, the less of those atrocities will happen.

So if you have to sit in front of a camera and your parents have to hear that you've had sex, well, surprise, you're an adult.

If they get to hear the fact that you've actually enjoyed it by having an orgasm, well, surprise, you're an adult.

Like, it's just a subject that is got to be talked about more.

Not in a sexual way, but in a way that takes the dominance away.

My two cents, your floor.

Sorry, I didn't mean to hijack your interview.

Not at all.

I. I love that.

I love that you said that.

And I do talk about that in my show, at least in.

Honestly, I think at least three or four episodes that I've recorded about sex that will be released shortly is in relation to that.

What you just said.

The.

The patriarchy world we live in, I mean, it's obvious.

And the.

The religion factor, the culture factor, all that we.

I do talk about that, and I'm.

I'm glad you mentioned it, because it's.

That was my intention.

Other than.

Yes.

To also show that sex isn't something for us to be afraid of and it's okay to talk about it and all the aspects of how it affects a relationship, how it affects a marriage.

I discuss it in a way where it's educational.

I'm not just having a.

Hey, you want to know how to.

This, please miss me?

It's not about that.

I mean, of course we can always talk about that, too.

Everything has its own place and time.

But my intent has to do again with the original theme of my podcast, which is healing.

And you not only are healing the.

The women that you're working with, but you're healing generations beyond that.

Because if a parent or a person is healed, they won't pour that onto the generation behind them.

And one of the reasons I was in such a abusive relationship as a child is because my mom was in an abusive relationship as a child with her dad and didn't know how to love.

She only knew how to be mad and hit.

And it took me almost two years before her passing for me to even forgive her for what she didn't know, to not have the tools in her toolbox to actually stop the abuse when she could have.

So you're healing these women who are then going to heal their children, and their children are both men and women, so that generation will grow up a little more healed and not pass it down to the grandchildren.

So what you do is very important.

If the people are Willing to do the work, to embrace it and step into their self and stop that generational trauma.

So what aspect of the children are you finding is important in your work?

I'm glad that you brought that up, because more and more I'm realizing that it all begins in the early years.

The early years are very impressionable, and the more healed, unconscious parents there are, they will start to teach the children the foundation from which they will base their life on.

So it begins from there, because children in this days, the way they are being brought up is so different.

The way we were brought up, the tools that they have available, the AI world, the technology, the gaming, it's a different generation completely right now.

And they're learning to compare themselves, and they're learning that this is better than this, and they're learning that I must win.

And it's.

We are teaching them narcissism.

And I'm very sorry that I'm using this term very widely and boldly, but I do feel that a lot of the parenting is not paying attention, that we are raising entitled children who aren't disciplined, who don't know what love is and don't understand the basic foundation that hurts me.

And this is why I've been working so hard right now on affirmations, affirmations for children.

And I'm trying to get that out there in the world, and I'm trying to find a way how to do it.

Because there's a lot of challenges for me, Darrell, a lot of challenges.

Because here I am, someone not with particular backgrounds and credentials.

Let's say I'm gonna be stopped from having my product out there in the right hands for parents to put those things on their children's walls, for schools to have them on their walls and to have the books in there, because who am I?

And that's sad.

We can sit here and have this conversation, and I can tell you I have all these tools that are readily available to help the next generation.

But as I'm speaking to you, I'm having obstacles and challenges in my way right now to help who I truly want to help.

I believe that those of us who are trying to do those type of changes will find those obstacles, no matter what our credentials, because the other side doesn't want us on the playing field.

And we can take this back to your spiritual warfare, because if I'm just going through life, la de da, boo hoo hoo, whatever, no one cares.

But if I'm awake, if I'm fierce, if I'm empowered, if I'm emboldened and I want to reach back and help those behind me.

Somebody on the other side has suddenly woken up and going, oh, shit, we have another warrior on the battlefield.

We have to fight them harder and we have to make their life harder so that they'll give up on their mission to helping the others.

Because when it becomes hard, many people find reasons to stop.

But if you're truly emboldened and you're truly fierce, whatever those obstacles are, you'll find a way over, through, around, under, it does not matter.

But it will be tougher because now you're on the battlefield.

And so I believe that you are finding these challenges because what you are doing is important and it will make a difference and it will change lives.

So I am not surprised that you're running into all of this.

What do you find in today's society?

Because when I say the stuff that you just said a few minutes ago about the entitlement and the, and the, you know, narcissism and all that, and I see that so blatantly clear, but when I say it, I'm just the curmudgeony, get off my lawn guy because of my age and, you know, being a white male.

So when I hear you say, brings joy to my heart, that, yes, I'm not crazy, it's not just me.

What do you find is causing the most of this issue?

Well, I believe that there's lack of discipline, number one.

And this lack of discipline comes from the fear that comes from high up where a parent is not allowed to discipline their own child or else the child has the right to call social services or call the police on their own parents.

Like what?

What's that like?

Now, I understand that parenting is difficult, and I'm going to sit here and make it very clear.

I am not a parent myself now, but I was a co parent in my previous relationships and marriages.

So I have had dealings with children at different ages because I know that's what people say, well, you're not a parent.

You don't know what you're talking about.

So here I am saying it straight up.

Currently, I am not a parent, but I did have a parenting role.

Let's get that out of the way.

Second, see, fiercely, fiercely, on, boldly.

That's right for you, right?

Okay.

Secondly, when parents are so busy with their lives caught up to pay the bills and this and the life cycle of what they're supposed to do, right?

And focusing on providing, providing financial needs and stability rather than actually spending time with the Children to understand them and to educate them and to monitor what is school actually teaching them, what is happening in their life, what's happening with their friends, that they are the new friendships that they are getting into.

The parent role isn't there anymore in all cultures, in all countries, because the society is built on that now where both parents have to go work so they don't have enough time to give to the children.

Then comes in what I mentioned earlier, the.

The fear from government and.

And all of that, where it's like parents are scared to.

To discipline their child.

Now you go to a supermarket, Daryl, and you'll see a child, you know, tantrum, temper tantrum on the floor, and you're like, oh, my God.

And the parent, whoever they are, mother, father, doesn't matter at this point.

They're like, yeah, okay.

Are you done yet?

All right, I'm going now.

Whoa.

Right?

And I want to.

I want to be very clear.

There's.

As someone who was abused as a child, there's a clear distinction between abuse and discipline.

And when my mom married my dad, my dad disciplined us, my mom abused us.

And there was a distinct parenting style of discipline and abuse.

So there is a distinction, but I think you're very correct.

And parents are afraid to discipline because in today's world, it might be called abuse.

Or I think even more to your point, we have become so ingrained on our hamster wheel of grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, we forget to be actively involved in our child's life.

If we feed them, if we hound them, if we clothe them, if we get them to their soccer game, if we get them to their friend's party and we pick them up and they're doing safe, we've parented.

That's bullshit.

You have to be actively involved in what they're doing.

And one of the reasons I'm still having family dinner every week with my grown children in their 30s is because it gives me a chance to engage with them in what's going on in their life.

And even though they're in a grown adult, I still get to guide them and parent them in the way that is now productive for their.

Where they are in their life.

And if we take that away, if we lose that, it's the chaos we find.

Yes, yes, there is a high.

I want to bring this in, Daryl, because it's weighing on my heart.

There's a high rate of.

I want to say, children, teens, teenagers, like, we're in a very impressionable stage where they will take their own life and the parents may not even know what was going on in their life, that now they're waking up and their child is gone.

This is the pandemic that we are dealing with that parents don't even know what's truly going on in their child's life because, oh, I can't.

I can't.

You know, this.

Their privacy at the age of 12, they have a phone in which they can access anything they want.

Everything is readily available.

I mean, and again, I don't want to put all the.

I'm not blaming parents.

I don't want this to be, like, mistaken that I am sitting here saying, parents don't know what they're doing.

I'm saying it's a combination of everything.

It's a combination of the education system and parenting and whatever governing bodies that are making these laws and rules that are causing parents to be scared to discipline their children because they're scared that their children will be taken away from them because of whatever discipline that they can do.

It's like, we've come to a point where a governing body is telling you what you can and cannot do in your own home, with your own family.

That's what we've come down to, Daryl.

And we've come to a point where schools are giving the children the okay to keep secrets from their family, saying it's their right to choose.

Like, are you kidding me?

This is a good.

Yeah, I totally agree with all of that.

So if someone came to you and they said, rania, you're talking to me.

You're describing my life.

What can I do to make the change?

How can I move closer to the love and less from the fear?

How do I.

How do I.

What advice do you give those folks who just don't know?

What's your one tip?

The first thing is to be aware, Darrell.

Nothing can ever change without awareness.

Once you become aware of what you're doing, not doing, saying, not saying.

It's the awareness, and then confront yourself with it, you're like, hey, I'm doing this.

Hey, I'm not doing that.

Once you become aware, Daryl, that is the beginning of everything.

Without it, nothing can move forward.

But then once you become aware, remember how when you allowed me to explain my quote earlier, it's just the healing, then the empowerment, then the embodiment.

There has to be a step.

There has to be a process.

So the awareness is the first step.

The second step is take action.

Once you become aware, the empowered part now is to take action.

What action?

That is for each they have to decide what that action is.

It could just be them reading, it could just be them like teaching themselves or they can go to professional help, but take some action.

And then after taking the action is the practicing that which is the embodiment.

You're going to start shifting your behavior.

You're going to start replacing bad habits with better habits.

Maybe words that you used to say, negative words that you used to repeating, you're now going to refrain from that.

And that's where my affirmation line come in, where you know it's not just bogus words that you're just repeating.

Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

I am this, I am that.

No, you are actually reprogramming yourself to becoming that better version of yourself that you want to be and don't know how to be.

It begins from there.

I love that.

Sorry, I did.

I said more than one.

You said one tip and I just went along.

But I had to.

I love.

I'll let you talk for hours.

What do you want your legacy to be?

What do you want Rania to be known for when it's all said and done?

Not currently, not, but your legacy.

I don't know if you would believe me, but I think you will believe me that when I was a child I used to say the name of Rania is going to be known.

I don't know how, but I just know it will be.

And that's me as a child.

And I kept growing with that idea, thinking that I'm not just gonna be another person that came through life and gone and would be forgotten.

I don't know what it is, Darrell.

I have no idea.

I wish I knew.

But there's something inside me that feels that it's not so much my name because the name is just a given name and this body is just a human body.

A vessel that I'm just using.

And it's my soul and my spirit that's doing the work here on this planet in this particular time.

I know in my heart that I am making a difference right now because I've already taken the step to show up the way that I do.

I'm already in it.

I'm right on the battlefield.

As you said, I am warrior and get through, right?

So could it be through the podcasting?

Could it be through the books that I'm writing?

Could it be through the speaking events where I stand on stage and maybe one person will listen to?

Could it be through my one on one coaching?

Could it be through my workshops?

Yes, I am involving myself in so many things.

I'm not just strict to one thing.

I'm not an expert in anything.

And, you know, I came up with this new word.

I'm a Jackie of all trades.

Nice.

I'm like, I'm a jockey.

I love it.

The female version.

I'm not an expert in anything.

And I don't believe that anyone can be an expert.

It's all a lie we tell ourselves that they tell.

You show yourself as the expert in this and the expert.

I am not an expert.

I'd be lying to myself and to you if I said I'm an expert.

Because that means if I'm an expert, then there's no more for me to learn.

But there's always something for me to learn.

I can always be better.

I can always change and make a difference in a different way.

And if there is any legacy I want to leave behind is that to never keep yourself in a box.

Never, ever feel that you've reached your destination.

You're always on that journey until your last breath, until that last moment before you close your eyes.

You're always learning and you're always teaching.

Beautiful.

And I'm going to give you one last word.

I'm going to ask you the question I ask everyone.

What does a warrior spirit mean to Rania?

Showing up unapologetically.

Me.

Perfect.

And I'm glad that you took time to do that with me today.

It's been an honor and a privilege.

I love what you do and who you are.

And I.

And I'm looking forward to watching your podcast continue to grow and our friendship continue to blossom.

So thank you so much.

Thank you, Darrel.

I appreciate it so much for giving me this chance to speak and to have this beautiful conversation with you.

Thank you.

All righty.

And if you'd like to get in touch with Rania, you can do so on her website, R2R Coaching CA, as well as on her social media accounts, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube, and of course, on her podcast.

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As always, the journey is sacred.

The warrior is you.

So remember to be inspired, be empowered, and embrace the spirit of the warrior within.

Sa.