The central theme of this podcast episode revolves around the concept of non-negotiable boundaries within personal relationships. We engage in a profound discourse regarding the significance of establishing clear limits that should not be transgressed, regardless of the circumstances or individuals involved. Various examples are meticulously examined, including the implications of infidelity, financial expectations, and differing desires regarding parenthood, thereby elucidating the necessity of mutual understanding in any partnership. As we navigate the complexities of these boundaries, we emphasize the importance of recognizing one's values and the potential consequences of disregarding them. Ultimately, this episode serves as a thoughtful exploration of how non-negotiable boundaries can serve as foundational pillars in fostering healthy and respectful relationships.
Takeaways:
The concept of non-negotiable boundaries is pivotal in personal relationships and interactions.
Understanding and respecting individual boundaries is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.
There are various examples of non-negotiable boundaries that individuals may hold, reflecting personal values.
The discussion highlights the importance of communication in navigating differing perspectives on boundaries.
Many people possess specific criteria for relationships that they consider non-negotiable, such as fidelity.
The episode underscores the complexity of relationships, particularly when desires for children differ between partners.
Well, if you want to go that route, it would be like, if I, if, If you see me walking away, don't try to come after me, because if you come after me, you're not gonna like what you're gonna receive.
Speaker A:
All right, but that's a reaction.
Speaker C:
True.
Speaker A:
I want a subject.
Speaker A:
What's a, what's the mental.
Speaker A:
You got one.
Speaker B:
As far as subject.
Speaker C:
So, so if, If I'm understanding the non negotiable.
Speaker C:
If I'm understanding this right, it should, it should be like, like, like something that I don't have to say.
Speaker C:
Hey, you stepping over the line, like for instance, one's old lady or one's one significant other.
Speaker C:
What you mean like, okay, now, you know, I don't, I don't have any of these people around me, but like there's, there's, there's homies that's out here trying to, trying to, trying to hit their homeboy old lady behind his back.
Speaker A:
Yeah, all right, all right.
Speaker A:
That's a non negotiable to you.
Speaker A:
Hey, if you even look at my old lady in that type of way, we, me and you done.
Speaker C:
It's some problems.
Speaker B:
All right, well, since you put it in that aspect, since you put it in that aspect, yeah, that's definitely a big no, no, don't you even try that.
Speaker B:
I've learned valuable lessons out of two.
Speaker B:
So that being said, that's definitely a non.
Speaker B:
Non negotiable.
Speaker B:
We're together.
Speaker B:
We're together.
Speaker B:
Especially if we're married.
Speaker B:
If we're married, we're married.
Speaker B:
If you don't want to be.
Speaker B:
Be with me, then fine, just tell me.
Speaker B:
Don't go out cheating on me.
Speaker B:
If you cheat on me, I don't know what I'll do the third time around.
Speaker B:
Been through it twice.
Speaker B:
I don't know what I'll debate.
Speaker A:
All right, let me, let me help the people with some example.
Speaker A:
Example.
Speaker A:
If someone is racist,
Speaker B:
we'll bigot and stand them.
Speaker A:
But that would be, that could be considered a non negotiable in somebody's book.
Speaker A:
Or hey, you can go the opposite way around.
Speaker A:
Hey, if you're, if you don't think that we just should be with Our own kind.
Speaker A:
You out of here.
Speaker A:
You see what I'm saying?
Speaker B:
Hey,
Speaker A:
if to women, if, if this person doesn't make six figures, that's a non negotiable.
Speaker A:
You think they don't got some women out there like that?
Speaker B:
Oh, most definitely got some women out there.
Speaker A:
Hey, that's a, that's, you know, that's an example of non negotiable.
Speaker B:
You also got the, the men that want their women at the house think that their women should not work.
Speaker A:
You know, hey, they got some dudes that'd be like, in this day and
Speaker B:
time, you would have to by yourself.
Speaker B:
You had to be in the seven figures in order to even make it.
Speaker B:
To be honest, if you really want
Speaker A:
to get technical, hey, some guys, a guy could be.
Speaker A:
Hey, if someone is over this weight number, that's a non negotiable.
Speaker B:
Well, you.
Speaker B:
I got another idea.
Speaker B:
There's some people that don't want children.
Speaker B:
Hey, hey, that's their, that's their prerogative.
Speaker A:
So if you are a woman who's sitting up there wanting kids and you talking to a guy that's saying, hey, I don't want no kids, why y' all even talking anymore?
Speaker B:
Exactly.
Speaker A:
Well, the conversation be over.
Speaker A:
Right?
Speaker B:
But see then, then you have the, the other side.
Speaker B:
You got some females that don't want kids, but you got a man that wants kids.
Speaker B:
So it could go either way
Speaker C:
if
Speaker B:
they got that boundary.
Speaker B:
And it's non negotiable.
Speaker B:
If you guys can work it out, work it out.
Speaker B:
But if you can't move, move on to the next.
Speaker A:
Now here's the question.
Speaker C:
What if you, what if you think it's non negotiable but deep back there somewhere it really can be.
Speaker C:
Because I mean,
Speaker A:
you know what I just heard you say?
Speaker A:
Mental.
Speaker A:
What, what if they get you with that tricking baby and now you want a baby?
Speaker A:
Now you're a family man.
Speaker C:
Right?
Speaker C:
Right.
Speaker C:
I mean, like, if you really, you know, like people like to say love is the reason this and love is the reason that if you really love that person and you don't want children, but your partner do, and y' all done built a, an awesome life without children.
Speaker C:
Are you.
Speaker C:
Are, you know, I mean, you might, you might consider going back on that and having a child.
Speaker C:
You might, you might.
Speaker B:
I think a lot.
Speaker B:
I think that the generation that's growing up that I think they got it right this time around because they're like, no, I'm not getting pregnant now.
