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It can be dangerous to only hear your voice.
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Sometimes you need to be open to feedback.
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On the weekend, I attended a workshop.
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It was virtual and it was
supposed to be an hour and a half.
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And after the first hour of the
workshop, I remember thinking to
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myself, wow, the webinar has really
taught me absolutely nothing.
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And what the title of the webinar was
and what it proposed to be teaching
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attendees was nothing of the sort.
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Really, it was this guy just kind
of talking about his experience and
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talking about all of his past successes,
talking about his backstory and how he
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can now use that program to help you.
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But it wasn't even clear how
exactly it would help you.
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There was no tangible information
other than, trust me, I have a
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system that works that would make
you want to try it for yourself.
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He didn't go through step one to give
you a preview, take you through it so
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you could see how it works for yourself.
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And you could at least go and apply that.
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Because I do think that, you know, if
you're going to teach somebody and you
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want someone to buy your methods, you
should at least get them a little bit for
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free so that they can understand if they
want to work with you or if they want
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to purchase whatever you have to offer.
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So anyways, I was just thinking to myself,
wow, this has been a waste of an hour.
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And a part of me was like, I can just
hang up off the zoom at any time.
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But I was like, no.
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There's going to be value
at some point, maybe.
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And I was kind of doing other
things, so I didn't really mind
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to have it on in the background.
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And eventually some people in the chat
started writing and complaining and
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say, can you get to the point, please?
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We're not getting a lot of value here.
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We're not really learning anything new.
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And the reaction of the presenter was
simply, you can leave, you can hang
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up and leave if this is not for you.
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And the thing is, I understand
if they were saying that, you
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know, his program had no value.
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But they were actually giving.
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a good critique.
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The presentation at least until
that moment, had not been of value.
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It wasn't a reflection on his program.
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It wasn't a reflection on him.
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It was a reflection on
that current webinar.
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And I thought to myself, wow, he was just
so quick to say, guys, you know, never
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mind, like, just hang up, just go, bye.
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As opposed to taking that
feedback and saying, you know
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what, maybe my presentation.
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is not structured properly.
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Maybe I need to tweak it.
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Maybe I need to give people more.
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Maybe I need to talk about
myself less because this is not
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driving the impact that I want.
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If multiple people are saying that
they're not finding value in it, to
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be honest, as a presenter, that's like
the worst thing that you could ever
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experience is people saying that they
don't find value in your presentations.
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Take it from me.
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I do public speaking.
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I do presentations all the time.
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And it is always something
I am hyper aware of.
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It's something I actually
do check ins along the way.
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I'll do many stop points.
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Is this, is this resonating with you?
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Are you learning something here?
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Is this valuable?
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Is this beneficial?
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Because if at any point I ever
get feedback that says no.
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Then I need to pivot immediately.
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I can't wait till the next presentation.
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I have to fix it then and there because
that's where my audience is, and I
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might not get another opportunity.
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And so for this presenter, he really
missed an opportunity to think outside the
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box or think on the fly and just try to
change his presentation so that it could
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actually bring value to the attendees.
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People still stayed around, but in the
end, a lot of people, myself included,
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end up hanging up because I just
couldn't figure out what the value was.
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And it's not my job to
figure out the value.
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It's the presenter's job to convince
me of the value and not even convince
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me they should just provide value
and make it so obvious that I
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immediately say, yes, this is amazing.
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This is so helpful.
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I want to dig deeper.
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So.
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That's the message don't just be so used
to the way you do things and only looking
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at something through your perspective,
only hearing your voice, that you're so
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confident in whatever it is you're doing,
that you've drowned out everybody else's
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opinion, you've drowned out everybody
else's feedback, especially the feedback
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of those that you want to listen to you.
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Sometimes there can be negative feedback
and you have to close your ears to that.
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But if multiple people are saying the
same thing over and over again, take it
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under consideration and step back and say,
Is there merit in what they're saying?
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Is it possible I might need to tweak
something or improve something?
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Or is it possible that if I
utilize their feedback, I can
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develop a better version of myself?
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Or Or a better product, or a
better service, or whatever
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it is that you're doing.
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We weren't made to be in
this earth by ourselves.
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So people's opinions do matter.
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It doesn't mean that they have
to be the end all and be all.
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We shouldn't just live in a world
with only our opinion, because
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then we would all be in little
earths by ourselves, but we're not,
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we're all on one planet together.
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So part of community, that exchange,
that reciprocity, give and take.
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So make space to hear other
people's opinions and just see,
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because it might be mirroring and
reflecting something back to you.
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That's important and you
don't want to miss it.
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Until next time, continue to serve
yourself, your loved ones, and
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your communities from a full cup.
