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Are you successful? Interview with Anna Lundberg
Episode 214th August 2022 • Wedding Pros who are ready to grow - with Becca Pountney • Becca Pountney
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Do you think you are successful? What does success mean to you and how will you know if you have achieved it in your wedding business?

Today I am talking to business mentor and coach Anna Lundberg about how you can redefine success in your life and business! It's a great chat and will leave you feeling a whole lot better about your accomplishments!

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Anna:

I should be more successful.

Anna:

If you're going to look at sales or number of books, I've written,

Anna:

I should be a bestselling guru author extraordinaire, right.

Anna:

I should be should, should, should.

Anna:

And yet, what was success for me?

Anna:

Well, success was being able to travel the world.

Anna:

Success was being able to do the work I loved.

Anna:

Then success was being able to work from anywhere to move down to Dorset,

Anna:

to have my children and so on.

Anna:

Um, and so.

Anna:

If I'm kind to myself, I remind myself the whole point of my message,

Anna:

which I'm talking about here.

Anna:

What is successful?

Anna:

Those are the things that are success to me.

Anna:

And of course I can be ambitious and want to sell more or write more books or

Anna:

whatever, but ultimately in the meantime, What matters is to be present with my

Anna:

kids and to have fun and to do fulfilling work and to try to make a difference.

Becca:

I'm Becca Pountney wedding business marketing expert, speaker, and blogger.

Becca:

And you are listening to the wedding pros who are ready to grow podcast.

Becca:

I'm here to share with you actionable tips, strategies, and real life

Becca:

examples to help you take your wedding business to the next level.

Becca:

If you are an ambitious wedding business.

Becca:

That wants to take your passion and use it to build a profitable,

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sustainable business, doing what you love, then you're in the right place.

Becca:

Let's get going with today's episode today's podcast.

Becca:

Guest is just fabulous.

Becca:

And I really love chatting to her a business mentor, life coach, author,

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podcaster, and parent, who wants to inspire you today to reimagine

Becca:

what success looks like Anna Lundberg, welcome to the podcast.

Anna:

thank you so much, Becca.

Anna:

Thank you for having me.

Becca:

It's always a pleasure to talk to you.

Becca:

I love talking to you and I think that your story and everything

Becca:

that you teach is really inspiring.

Becca:

So today we're gonna be talking all about redefining success and

Becca:

how my wedding business owners can look at what success means to them.

Becca:

Do you wanna just start by telling us a little bit about your background, how

Becca:

you got to where you are now and why this topic of success is so important to you?

Becca:

. Anna: Yeah, sure.

Becca:

So I think if we go back to the very beginning at school I was that

Becca:

kind of classic good girl, and I've certainly never been entrepreneurial

Becca:

or risk taker or anything like that.

Becca:

I mean, I was, I feel like I was much more adventurous when I was little

Becca:

and that kind of got squeezed out of me through school where they teach

Becca:

you to sit and conform and so on.

Becca:

But I did really well academically because I, you know, colored

Becca:

within the lines, I guess.

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And I, I did what I was supposed to do, and I really sought that kind of tick and

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the external validation of the good girl.

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Sign that you get from your teachers.

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And of course the real world doesn't quite like that, but I continued

Becca:

on that path as long as I could.

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And so I went to Oxford, studied PPE philosophy, politics, economics.

Becca:

I then didn't really know what to do career wise.

Becca:

So I went to do a master's in Geneva in Switzerland.

Becca:

And again, I still didn't really know what to do.

Becca:

I applied mostly to international development roles, because

Becca:

that's what I'd studied.

Becca:

And I wanted to work at the UN and make a difference in the world as you do.

Becca:

And I ended up as I like to say, or don't like to say, I suppose,

Becca:

accidentally in luxury marketing.

Becca:

So at the other end of the spectrum, so for me, career wise, there

Becca:

was always a disconnect between what I thought I should be doing.

Becca:

Whether that was right or not.

Becca:

And what I was doing, and it was partly, as I said, accidental, I was just on this

Becca:

kind of conveyor belt of after school.

Becca:

You go to university after university, you go to another university and

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then you get a good job and so on.

Becca:

And of course you have student loans to pay off and, and whatever else.

Becca:

And I don't really know what happened.

Becca:

I think it was a gradual awakening.

Becca:

professionally.

Becca:

I was at Proctor and gamble.

Becca:

So this amazing company I learned so much and met incredible people and it

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was, you know, fantastic and, and a good salary and Geneva was beautiful.

Becca:

It was the best place to live in the world.

Becca:

Almost.

Becca:

I'd say it's such an amazing place, but there was something

Becca:

that wasn't quite right for me.

Becca:

There was that disconnect and I'd done kind of a design.

Becca:

Uh, conceptual creative role in marketing, I'd done more of a commercial operational

Becca:

role, and then I'd specialised in digital.

Becca:

And at the point there wasn't really an obvious next step for me

Becca:

because digital, which of course is, you know, all pervasive now was

Becca:

still quite separate at the time.

Becca:

There wasn't a clear career path.

Becca:

So I asked for a sabbatical to travel.

Becca:

Across south America, they gave it to me.

Becca:

And then halfway through that, I quit because I knew that if I came back

Becca:

to my job, I just settled back into that comfort zone and stay there.

Becca:

And so I forced myself out.

Becca:

It was the craziest decision I ever made, but of course the best one ever.

Becca:

So I've taken quite a long time to talk through the early years,

Becca:

so I'll speed through the rest.

Becca:

But really since then, so since 2013, I have been.

Becca:

Doing exactly what we're about to talk about redefining success, even though I

Becca:

didn't name it in those terms initially.

Becca:

So I questioned everything, I guess, that I'd taken for granted before about

Becca:

what you should be doing, how I should be behaving and what was important.

Becca:

I did lots of work on myself, understanding my values.

Becca:

I did a lot of traveling.

Becca:

which of course, sadly, hasn't been so possible for people the last couple

Becca:

of years, but is an incredible way to open up your eyes to different

Becca:

ways of living and, and so on.

Becca:

And I've had a few different twists and turns in my business, but ultimately

Becca:

what I've created is something that for me combines what I'm good at.

Becca:

So I haven't thrown away.

Becca:

Everything that I learned in my marketing world I've kept that, but I've also added.

Becca:

Writing coaching speaking, and all these other things that I love to do as

Becca:

well, all the while making it location independent so that initially I could

Becca:

travel the world and be adventurous.

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And now, so that I can live, uh, by the sea with my two little kids.

Becca:

So that's how I've redefined success.

Becca:

And of course it's an ongoing process, but it's.

Becca:

In fact, I've just recorded my 200th podcast episode and I've just spent

Becca:

the last half hour or so, reflecting back on the journey, using the J word.

Becca:

And it has been, yeah, it's been quite a ride, but my goodness, the

Becca:

best few years in my life and career.

Becca:

Wow.

Becca:

What a story, what an incredible journey.

Becca:

And I find it so interesting because when we think about success, most people would

Becca:

think that first half of your journey.

Becca:

Is what success is.

Becca:

So doing really well at school, going to Oxford, going to a top

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university, getting a top job.

Becca:

And we would think if we are having our own children, yeah.

Becca:

This is exactly what we want to teach them to do.

Becca:

So why do you think maybe that isn't always the right path?

Anna:

Well, I think that's the question.

Anna:

Is it the right path?

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

And I don't think we ask that question is the point because.

Anna:

For me, at least I had, I suppose, academic parents who had gone to

Anna:

university and even their parents, which is unusual for their generation

Anna:

had also gone to university.

Anna:

So that was just assumed.

Anna:

And I imagine, and I've come across people who had very entrepreneurial

Anna:

parents and their, the assumption is you're going to be entrepreneurial.

Anna:

If your parents are in media and TV, you know, often Hollywood actors

Anna:

have kids who then continue on.

Anna:

So your upbringing is very much colored by what you see as possible around you.

Anna:

And for us, the assumption was always go to university and so

Anna:

on, even with a subject choice.

Anna:

And, and for a long time, I kind of blamed my parents in society for this,

Anna:

but I take ownership now, but I was so easily swayed by what people said.

Anna:

I loved writing and I wanted to write, but people said, oh,

Anna:

you'll never make it as a writer.

Anna:

You should.

Anna:

Do a more sensible degree.

Anna:

And then you can always write in your corporate job, which is of course not

Anna:

the same thing, or of course you'll never make it as an actress or anything,

Anna:

more creative, all those things.

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

Even in the media industry, I loved film and so on.

Anna:

And as you know, I'm jealous of the background you've

Anna:

had in your career as well.

Anna:

Um, but you know, it was just, it's easy to be then.

Anna:

Swayed, unless you are super strong and, and convinced that you are going to like

Anna:

a lady Gaga, you have to have such inner conviction that you are going to succeed.

Anna:

At least in my case, I was too weak and I was easily swayed.

Anna:

And, and like I said, I didn't really ask those questions, but hang on.

Anna:

What does success mean to me?

Anna:

And let's be honest.

Anna:

It's really hard to answer that when you're 18, I do have some

Anna:

younger people come to me or their parents saying, how can I guide?

Anna:

There's like to be honest, it's quite hard.

Anna:

You almost have to make.

Anna:

These mistakes or at least have different experiences to work out what your

Anna:

values are, what doesn't work for you.

Anna:

What's important and so on.

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

But to, in a long-winded way, come round back to your question for me, success.

Anna:

I think when we don't explicitly ask what it means is something like,

Anna:

well, first of all, let me ask you.

Anna:

Yeah.

Anna:

What would you say spontaneously, if you didn't know all this, like nuance

Anna:

that we'll talk about now, you, as you said, you talked about the Oxford degree

Anna:

and the job and that kind of thing.

Anna:

Right?

Anna:

That's what you usually think.

Anna:

The kind of American dream, big house, big job, right?

Anna:

Yeah.

Becca:

I suppose I would think success was doing well in education,

Becca:

achieving what you are able to achieve at the best of your ability and

Becca:

then doing something that brings you fulfillment in the rest of your life.

Anna:

Yeah, see, but you've already made those shifts yourself.

Anna:

So you are, you've already woken up to the truth, right?

Anna:

The second two parts of that is so important.

Anna:

If you Google the definition of success, you do get the kind of fame, fortune and

Anna:

so on piece, but you also get exactly that achieving your aim or purpose.

Anna:

Which of course brings you that fulfillment, but you have to

Anna:

know what that aim or purpose is.

Anna:

And I think for most of us, we don't explicitly define that.

Anna:

So either we inherit it from our parents or from society, or we

Anna:

don't ask the question at all.

Anna:

And then often, and those are the people who come to me, we achieve that success

Anna:

and suddenly go hang on a second.

Anna:

Now what, I don't have that magical fulfillment that I was told I was

Anna:

supposed to get, you know, I'm caught in this kind of golden cage, golden

Anna:

handcuffs, whatever you wanna call it.

Anna:

And, and that's not actually.

Anna:

Success for me.

Anna:

So that's why it's so important.

Anna:

I think we are walking through sort of sleep walking through life,

Anna:

just working towards these goals.

Anna:

And then if, and when we do achieve.

Anna:

now what, you know, that's, that's actually not what matters to us, perhaps.

Becca:

I think it's so fascinating to think about where this all starts

Becca:

for us as well, because you're right.

Becca:

When we are younger, it is harder for us to make those decisions or

Becca:

to know what journey we want to take, but yet it's so pivotal to

Becca:

where we start out in our career.

Becca:

And I think it's interesting in your own story as well.

Becca:

You went right back to your childhood.

Becca:

And one thing I've seen recently with my children in school, so my

Becca:

little girls in reception, and we just got her report home from school.

Becca:

And you know how, when they.

Becca:

School reports, these days they're always positive, but sometimes you feel

Becca:

like there's an underlying message.

Becca:

And one of her comments in her report was she is a born leader and she likes to

Becca:

show other people how to achieve success.

Becca:

And that really made me laugh, because I thought, I can't tell whether they

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think that's a good thing or whether they think that just means she's really bossy

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and tells everyone else in the class.

Becca:

But those for me are traits that are good in the workplace or as an entrepreneur.

Becca:

But maybe won't help you so much when you are in school.

Becca:

So I don't know what you think about, I know we're going off on a bit of

Becca:

a tangent, but about the education system and how they define success

Becca:

to children as they go through that.

Anna:

Well, to be honest, my, uh, understanding of it still dates back

Anna:

to the eighties, nineties, right.

Anna:

And my kids are not old enough to be in school.

Anna:

What I've seen through my niece and nephew.

Anna:

And I've been seeing lots of report cards in the last few days, because it's

Anna:

the end of term and everyone's sharing.

Anna:

I'm not sure how much it has evolved.

Anna:

I'd like to think that it does has.

Anna:

I was talking to someone the other day, because through my adventures over the

Anna:

years, I've met people who've done.

Anna:

Of course, homeschooling world schooling, taking their kids out.

Anna:

I met an amazing couple who to be fair were teachers, both of them.

Anna:

They took their kids out and traveled in the van around the country.

Anna:

They did Ted talks and had a campaign, uh, for plastics, free

Anna:

oceans and all these things.

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

They were incredible and we're learning so much more outside of school.

Anna:

And yet if I were to make that choice for my own children, I'd be very

Anna:

nervous about taking such a big.

Anna:

Uh, rebellious, I guess, move away from what everyone else is doing, because then

Anna:

you're kind of sticking your head up.

Anna:

It's one thing for me to reimagine, but to potentially, you know, affect their

Anna:

whole future is quite a scary thought.

Anna:

So I, I don't know what the education system now.

Anna:

Certainly I don't think they are still now teaching us the

Anna:

skills, even like financial.

Anna:

Education right understanding of these life skills that we need, um, investing

Anna:

and those kinds of things, or, uh, in fact, work life balance, mental health,

Anna:

I hope is coming more to the fore, um, taking care of our physical health.

Anna:

And so, and I just don't think those are the life skills that are being taught.

Anna:

I think it's still very much the academic, you know, quite, um, rigid.

Anna:

Black and white kind of here's how you do this math and

Anna:

here's how you do this science.

Anna:

And, and as we of course know any kind of neuro divergence or anything like that,

Anna:

people aren't fitting into those boxes.

Anna:

So I recognize that I'm very lucky that I ticked all those boxes and I did well,

Anna:

but so what am I more set up for success?

Anna:

I don't think so.

Anna:

I see more and more people in the public eye and people I speak to who.

Anna:

Did not do well at school.

Anna:

And yet I look at them with admiration and think they were actually better

Anna:

equipped to deal with the world because they hadn't suceeded,

Anna:

because they were more resilient.

Anna:

They were more independent.

Anna:

They weren't as affected by negative comments because I was

Anna:

so tied to doing well at school.

Anna:

You know, was they kind of, I guess, because they weren't

Anna:

doing well, they didn't care.

Anna:

And they found their own way and so on.

Anna:

So, you know, without oversimplifying, there are so many different paths

Anna:

and I think ironically, perhaps, so traditional schooling doesn't.

Anna:

Give you the best start in your life.

Becca:

Yeah, that's so true.

Becca:

There's so many different options and we don't need to be

Becca:

all pushed down the same route.

Becca:

And we talk a lot about this in our members group for my wedding

Becca:

pro members, about how so many of us have entrepreneurial parents.

Becca:

And that's how we were encouraged.

Becca:

To take that step and take that leap to work for ourselves rather than through

Becca:

the school system and the careers advisor that told you to get a traditional job.

Becca:

Now, obviously you did go down that corporate route and you talked

Becca:

about taking your sabbatical and then basically quitting your job.

Becca:

Now, for many people, they might be listening to this thinking.

Becca:

I've got my wedding business, I've still got my full-time job as well.

Becca:

And I know that really, I wanna be doing my wedding business.

Becca:

That's where I find my fulfillment, but I'm too scared to take that leap.

Becca:

How did you find that inner courage?

Becca:

How did you know it was the right time?

Becca:

How did you prepare for that?

Becca:

Did you prepare for it or was it a total risk?

Anna:

Do you know?

Anna:

That's such an interesting comparison because I imagine those

Anna:

people in your community are more savvy than I was because I was

Anna:

not having started a business.

Anna:

I didn't realize how hard it was.

Anna:

So there must have been an element of naivity in thinking, oh, yay.

Anna:

I can just go off and be a blogger and travel the world.

Anna:

And I don't know what I thought or be a consultant.

Anna:

And to be honest, I landed on my feet initially with digital marketing

Anna:

consulting, because that was a skill I had and a network, and it was very in

Anna:

demand and so on, it became harder when I then tried to follow my passion more

Anna:

and do the writing and the coaching.

Anna:

And so on, as it turns out, putting up a website to say, Hey, I'm a.

Anna:

Doesn't mean that people are suddenly going to pay you

Anna:

lots of money for coaching.

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

I had an established reputation in one area and, and it took a

Anna:

long time to build the audience and credibility in the new area.

Anna:

As I always say scary and exciting tend to come together.

Anna:

And that's a good thing.

Anna:

And there is a point at which you'll probably need to make a call because

Anna:

if, if you are full-time especially, but even a part-time day job as it were, is

Anna:

getting in the way of you being able to grow your wedding business further than

Anna:

you have to this point, then obviously there is a moment at which you're going

Anna:

to have to make some kind of decision.

Anna:

If you're happy to continue as you are.

Anna:

That's fine.

Anna:

Um, But there is always going to be a bit of a leap into the unknown.

Anna:

Having said that there is so much preparation to do.

Anna:

And what I do with my clients now is of course, look at what

Anna:

does success look like for you?

Anna:

What's the right business model for that.

Anna:

So of course, if you're going to make that pivot, you want to look

Anna:

at the wedding business as it is.

Anna:

And okay.

Anna:

If I had more time.

Anna:

Could I easily scale it up what you're doing in your one day, two day.

Anna:

Now, do you have the strategies and systems and audience and so on

Anna:

in place so that yes, with the, as soon as you get a day or two extra

Anna:

boom, you can scale your business.

Anna:

You know, you can double and so on.

Anna:

If not, then perhaps you're not quite ready to, to take a leap.

Anna:

And it's better to, to work with you, for example, on getting those

Anna:

strategies in place so that you are able to, so that you have more

Anna:

confidence at least that you can grow the business to where you want it to be.

Becca:

Yeah, that's really helpful.

Becca:

And I think sometimes as well, people lack that confidence because they have

Becca:

this belief that their wedding business or their side hustle, isn't proper,

Becca:

isn't a proper business and they've gotta keep that proper job alongside

Becca:

having a bit of fun in their business.

Becca:

How do you think people can change that mindset and realize actually

Becca:

you can do whatever you wanna do.

Anna:

It is the mindset, as you say, and it's around what we call

Anna:

in coaching, limiting beliefs.

Anna:

We have these long lists of beliefs that might not even be voiced around.

Anna:

As you say, I need to have a proper job and a stable salary.

Anna:

It's more, it's safer to stay in my job.

Anna:

Um, You know, I need all the benefits and so on.

Anna:

I can't afford to quit.

Anna:

It's risky to be an entrepreneur.

Anna:

Those are stories we tell ourselves that may have been inherited from

Anna:

struggling parent entrepreneurs or from society from social media,

Anna:

whatever, or from our own experiences.

Anna:

But ultimately we need to ask ourselves, are they true?

Anna:

And generally they're not.

Anna:

True.

Anna:

You could find evidence to the country and then are they serving us?

Anna:

Well?

Anna:

No, because actually I'm burnt out in my day job.

Anna:

I don't like it there.

Anna:

It's not what I wanna be doing.

Anna:

I have this passion and I even have a, a functioning, thriving business here.

Anna:

So it's much more powerful to reframe those beliefs.

Anna:

And of course it's easier said than done, but sometimes it is as simple

Anna:

as saying I'm choosing to believe.

Anna:

That it's actually safer to have my wedding business where, and ideally,

Anna:

perhaps diversified income streams from other things too, especially after the

Anna:

experience of the last couple of years, but it's safer to be your own boss to

Anna:

be in control of your income and not be tied to an employer who look, let's

Anna:

be honest, can reorganize mergers, acquisitions, redundancies are made.

Anna:

Um, unfortunately that it's not as safe as we perhaps pretend it to be.

Anna:

So there's a bit of a change of mindset.

Anna:

As you said, there's also a big.

Anna:

There's a quote from Helen Keller, which of course I can't remember now,

Anna:

but around the importance of hope and faith and optimism and optimism

Anna:

is a really key part of resilience.

Anna:

And so it's not blind naivety.

Anna:

Being unrealistic.

Anna:

It is just a faith in the fact that it will work out, not by just

Anna:

sitting on your bum doing nothing, but alongside the strategies and

Anna:

getting help from experts and so on.

Anna:

There is an element of, of optimism that you need to adopt.

Anna:

And so if you are stressed and pessimistic and, and not believing that it's gonna

Anna:

happen, that unfortunately does almost make it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Anna:

You need to think, how can I.

Anna:

Bring myself back to why I started this in the first place and bring that confidence

Anna:

and belief and, and joy and optimism back.

Anna:

So

Becca:

much good stuff in there, Anna.

Becca:

So if people are listening to this and they're thinking, right,

Becca:

I understand what Anna's saying.

Becca:

I need to look at what success means for me.

Becca:

How do they go about kind of doing a health check of themselves or

Becca:

of their business to work out?

Becca:

Am I doing what I think to be successful?

Becca:

Or is there areas that I wanna change?

Becca:

Is there some kind of, kind of health check or something that they

Becca:

could be doing to look at, um, what success should be meaning to them and

Becca:

how they define it for themselves.

Anna:

So, so when you, I like the idea of the health check in a way, I do have

Anna:

a, um, little assessment that I can share if that's appropriate, because that's

Anna:

sort of a, literally that an assessment.

Anna:

Um, I came up with the five areas in your life that matter.

Anna:

So, you know, we talk about work life balance, and that's a whole other.

Anna:

Um, topic or podcast perhaps, but I'm quite anti that concept because it's

Anna:

really pitting the two against each other.

Anna:

There's a zero sum.

Anna:

You either have work or you have life.

Anna:

Um, and they're not two different things, especially when you are your own business

Anna:

owner, when you are following a passion where you're doing work, that you love

Anna:

and so on around a family or whatever.

Anna:

Work is a part of life.

Anna:

It's an important part, but it is just a part, nonetheless.

Anna:

So I look at these five areas, which are your health and wellbeing, your

Anna:

relationships in your life say family romance, but also peers and community.

Anna:

And so on your career of course, is part of that.

Anna:

Your development and growth.

Anna:

You're learning and also fun because yes, we should also have some time for

Anna:

as we'll talk about later, I'm sure.

Anna:

Chilling out and, um, just enjoying ourselves.

Anna:

Right?

Anna:

So those are five areas.

Anna:

Um, if you do wanna have a go at answering those questions, there's

Anna:

like 10 questions for each one.

Anna:

It's one step outside.com.

Anna:

Forward slash success.

Anna:

One step outside.com forward slash success.

Anna:

And it's just a quick kind of checklist almost of those areas.

Anna:

So that's, that is a literally a health check you can do.

Anna:

Um, but apart from that, of course, there are exercises we can do

Anna:

is taking a step back and asking ourselves what is actually important.

Anna:

What are our values?

Anna:

That's a really useful exercise, even spontaneously thinking, because

Anna:

you can imagine if you value.

Anna:

Just off the top, top of my head, you know, freedom, curiosity,

Anna:

creativity, family, and kindness.

Anna:

That gives you a very different basis and structure for a business than if you

Anna:

value, um, achievement, wealth, uh, power, you know, I'm being quite sort of black

Anna:

and white in the, in the distinctions and no judgment there, but you need to

Anna:

understand what's really important to you.

Anna:

And then that will help you filter.

Anna:

Decisions of the types of clients you want to work with, or the types

Anna:

of the type of schedule you even want to be working and so on, right.

Anna:

And the choices that you're making in your business.

Anna:

So the values is a really concrete exercise you can do as well.

Anna:

I

Becca:

love action taking.

Becca:

So if you're listening to this, first of all, I'm gonna put a

Becca:

link to Anna's success check or health check in the show notes.

Becca:

You can go and take that and go and see where you are struggling or where

Becca:

you're not happy in your business.

Becca:

And also I would love to encourage you.

Becca:

Go away and just write down what five values are important to you in

Becca:

your business and reflect on that.

Becca:

Also going back to something you said about fun, Anna being

Becca:

one of your five pillars.

Becca:

I think that actually answers that question.

Becca:

So often that we talked about before, which is when people feel like

Becca:

they haven't got a proper business.

Becca:

And I think that's because that part of their business, that part of their

Becca:

work, they enjoy doing it so much.

Becca:

They love.

Becca:

Building a bouquet of flowers or they love making the cake

Becca:

that it doesn't feel like work.

Becca:

And actually that's okay.

Becca:

It's just, it's just society that's told us work should be hard.

Becca:

Work should be long work should be boring.

Becca:

Work should be you wake up on a Monday morning and you

Becca:

don't wanna get out of bed.

Becca:

And so when people.

Becca:

Don't feel those ways, they feel like they're not doing it.

Becca:

Right.

Becca:

Do you think that resonates?

Anna:

Yes.

Anna:

A hundred percent.

Anna:

And I think that's the Protestant work ethic, I think from our culture.

Anna:

No, I did sort of a brief historical analysis of work and the work,

Anna:

the word for work in ancient Greek is aponus which is pain torment.

Anna:

So like in the past the Greeks and Romans of course they had slaves, so

Anna:

that's not something to, um, particularly bring back, but they didn't value.

Anna:

Hard manual labor, they valued philosophy and art.

Anna:

And by all means, you know, a rich, um, Roman could craft something beautiful if

Anna:

they wanted to, but not out of necessity.

Anna:

It was all around.

Anna:

You know, think of Leonardo DaVinci, even the Renaissance men, women, and so on.

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

It was a totally different view.

Anna:

And I think it's the Protestant work ethic.

Anna:

And then of course, the industrialization that led to these factories and long

Anna:

hours, the nine to five, by the way, was initially a positive development, right?

Anna:

It was a, an improvement versus the 16 hour days, a hundred hour weeks that

Anna:

people were doing and predictions were that we should be working much less

Anna:

by now, which of course hasn't quite happened, but you're exactly right.

Anna:

It's society for whatever reason is telling us.

Anna:

That work is supposed to be at a certain elements at least of society.

Anna:

That work is supposed to be hard.

Anna:

And I'm exploring this idea of lifestyle business at the moment,

Anna:

which people have a mixed response to.

Anna:

But it's exactly that that people say, it's not a, there's an indication

Anna:

that it's not a real business versus a proper VC funded startup with a team.

Anna:

And, you know, there's seed funding, whatever that's called

Anna:

all these stages and so on.

Anna:

And even, and a bit of vulnerability here looking at my business, you

Anna:

know, I actually quit my job in 2013.

Anna:

even the coaching business ultimately was, let's say 2015 that's seven years or more.

Anna:

I should be more successful if you're going to look at sales or number of books,

Anna:

I've written, I should be a bestselling guru author extraordinaire, right.

Anna:

I should be should, should, should.

Anna:

And yet, what was success for me?

Anna:

Well, success was being able to travel the world.

Anna:

Success was being able to do the work I loved.

Anna:

Then success was being able to work from anywhere to move down to Dorset,

Anna:

to have my children and so on.

Anna:

Um, and so.

Anna:

If I'm kind to myself, I remind myself the whole point of my message,

Anna:

which I'm talking about here.

Anna:

What is successful?

Anna:

Those are the things that are success for me.

Anna:

And of course I can be ambitious and want to sell more or write more books or

Anna:

whatever, but ultimately in the meantime, what matters is to be present with my

Anna:

kids and to have fun and to do fulfilling work and to try to make a difference.

Anna:

And also to relax sometimes and to go paddle boarding on the sea, whatever.

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

So that's part of the process as well.

Anna:

So it is, you know, it's not that we just do this health check once and

Anna:

tada we're on track for this more meaningful definition of success.

Anna:

We do have to check in now and then remind ourselves.

Becca:

This is why I love talking to you, Anna, because you resonate

Becca:

with me so much and everything you're talking about just, just hits me.

Becca:

And I know it's gonna hit some of the people listening as well,

Becca:

because especially in the online world, we can be bombarded with these

Becca:

messages of how to make six figures, how to make seven figures, even

Becca:

in the wedding business industry.

Becca:

Something that I don't do, but I do see people doing is, you know, how

Becca:

to turn over six figures in your wedding business, how to sell out.

Becca:

You know, selling 20 million weddings a year.

Becca:

And the reality is if people do that, they are gonna burn out and it's

Becca:

incredibly hard work yet, even when we are trying to push against that,

Becca:

which I am, I definitely would describe myself as more of a lifestyle business.

Becca:

You still have this thing in your head saying, I should be earning more money.

Becca:

I need to earn more money.

Becca:

I need to earn more money to prove that I'm successful.

Becca:

So to how do we.

Becca:

Fight that kind of urge and disappointed feeling when actually, so often we have

Becca:

all that we want and people listening.

Becca:

If you've got the business that you love and you're happy going to work

Becca:

every day and you're bringing in enough money to pay your bills and you're home

Becca:

with your children, if that's what you wanted to be, then you don't need to

Becca:

beat yourself up for not always hitting those huge financial targets, because

Becca:

maybe that's not what you're looking for.

Becca:

So how do we stop ourselves in this kind of, you know, virtual beating

Becca:

ourselves up and feeling guilty?

Anna:

Such a good question.

Anna:

And of course, if I had the answer, I'd probably be more successful

Anna:

than I am because then I would be some incredible guru, however, my

Anna:

contribution to that would be, first of all, it has to start with coming back.

Anna:

Of course.

Anna:

What your vision is, what success is, what matters to you.

Anna:

And when I first started my coaching and when I first quit my job, I

Anna:

was so goals focused of course, coming from the kind of achiever

Anna:

background and, and work and corporate and, and whatever else in school.

Anna:

And it was all about, I wrote a bucket list and I had goals and I

Anna:

was coaching my clients on goals.

Anna:

And I've relatively recently just had this massive insight, that those things

Anna:

don't really matter to me anymore.

Anna:

I'm not really into.

Anna:

Checking boxes that had a really important role for me at the time, because it

Anna:

helped me to, to get out of my comfort zone and do exciting things and so on.

Anna:

But if now I'm setting my vision for the, I'm not that motivated by yeah.

Anna:

I'm gonna triple my sales the next three months, or I'm gonna write

Anna:

five more books or speak, you know, I'm, I'm actually not so.

Anna:

Maybe your vision of success is just, I wanna do work that I enjoy and have

Anna:

time for my family, you know, that's it.

Anna:

And that's a pretty good, you know, I, I did another podcast episode the

Anna:

other day on the three things you need to nurture, which is yourself,

Anna:

your family and your business.

Anna:

And of course within that, it gets more complicated.

Anna:

But ultimately if I remind myself that's all that matters,

Anna:

that's sort of the first thing.

Anna:

And then I guess more practically, if you have then a strategy to help

Anna:

you focus on those things, then you know, you can kind of close your eyes.

Anna:

I went through a phase definitely of every time I met someone else,

Anna:

oh my gosh, they're doing this type of workshop and they're doing

Anna:

speaking and I should be doing this.

Anna:

And they did a virtual summit.

Anna:

And why am I, you know, and that's so distracting, but actually if you have

Anna:

your own vision and strategy, You can kind of shut out that noise and know,

Anna:

you know, no I've done the due diligence.

Anna:

I've done the work.

Anna:

This is what I wanna do.

Anna:

And I'm on track and this is what I'm focusing on.

Anna:

And then I guess the final piece, of course, which we always talk about is so

Anna:

important is having the people around you.

Anna:

And I, unfortunately, sometimes I suppose if it's the wrong kind of

Anna:

people, not even the wrong kind of people, but certain communities, maybe

Anna:

it is more about the, you know, oh, I'm making this much every month or,

Anna:

um, this is what I've done and so on.

Anna:

But if you're in the right kind of community of people who.

Anna:

also perhaps putting family first and this more lifestyle business focused

Anna:

and so on, they'll remind you of what really matters and support you and cheer

Anna:

you on, in the struggles of having the kids over the summer holidays, or, you

Anna:

know, kids are off sick from nursery or, um, whatever it is and, and help you.

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

So surrounding yourself with like my people, I think is a really

Anna:

important way to anchor, um, in, in that, and, and maybe unsubscribe from

Anna:

those channels, which I do all the time, um, when they're all pushing.

Anna:

that kind of more traditional messaging of get to eight figures

Anna:

and you should be doing this.

Anna:

And if you wanna buy a Lamborghini, you shouldn't be sitting in front of the TV.

Anna:

That's one I saw the other day.

Anna:

That's uh, fine, but I'll live without a Lamborghini.

Anna:

It's okay.

Anna:

Um, you know, so unsubscribing is another good tip in terms of a tactical

Anna:

practical thing you can do today.

Anna:

Really

Becca:

helpful and yeah, I think it's important.

Becca:

Isn't it for us all and this is definitely a work in progress for me.

Becca:

It probably is for you and lots of people listening to just find contentment

Becca:

in the things that we want in life and not think that we've always gotta

Becca:

be better than we are right now.

Becca:

Now, Anna, when I was researching for this podcast, I was having a

Becca:

look at some of your blog posts and I came across a blog post that

Becca:

I thought was really interesting.

Becca:

And it just hit me when we're talking about this subject called

Becca:

the five regrets of the dying.

Becca:

Now this is a blog post you wrote a little while ago.

Becca:

Things that people were saying before they died.

Becca:

All the things that they'd regretted in life.

Becca:

I just wondered if you could just talk to us a bit about that, because actually I

Becca:

think that really resonates that there's some things we'll get to the end of

Becca:

our life and actually it doesn't matter how much money we've got in the bank

Becca:

account or how big our house is that as other things that are more important.

Becca:

So talk to me about why you wrote that post and maybe a little bit about what's

Anna:

in it.

Anna:

Yeah, well, it was part of, again, my relatively early discovery too,

Anna:

and there are so many stories.

Anna:

I know.

Anna:

There was a coach who gave me an exercise, which was the rocking

Anna:

chair exercise, which you sort of project yourself into the future.

Anna:

You're sitting there in your rocking chair.

Anna:

You are aging, you're sort of nearing the end of your life.

Anna:

And what are you thinking?

Anna:

You know, reflecting back what was important to you and what do you regret?

Anna:

And, and this is a book.

Anna:

Um, 5 regrets the dying by Brone Ware.

Anna:

She's an Australian palliative care nurse.

Anna:

And without being too critical, I didn't love the book.

Anna:

And I've seen criticisms of it not being scientific or whatever.

Anna:

It doesn't matter.

Anna:

She worked with people who were nearing the end of their lives

Anna:

and she collected their insights.

Anna:

And exactly, as you say, they are incredibly profound and the top

Anna:

one is, I wish I'd let myself.

Anna:

Live a life that was true to me rather than be caught up, you know, in, in

Anna:

what other people or what I thought other people, you know, wanted me to do.

Anna:

Um, but there's also, of course I wish I hadn't worked as hard.

Anna:

I wish I'd let myself be happy.

Anna:

I wish I'd spent more time with my friends and family.

Anna:

And it's so obvious.

Anna:

And yet why don't we listen to and learn from these people who unfortunately

Anna:

can't now change anything, but we have this incredibly luxurious.

Anna:

Opportunity to make shifts in her life now and be present and

Anna:

remind ourself of what matters.

Anna:

What matters now?

Anna:

And my mum told me a story and I'm sure it's, it's not, um,

Anna:

unique and it's, uh, sad tale.

Anna:

She had a colleague who hated her job was so stressed, only counted down the

Anna:

days, weeks, years to her retirement.

Anna:

And then on retirement had a brain tumor and unfortunately sadly

Anna:

passed away seeing thereafter.

Anna:

And it sounds almost farcical in its, you know, sadness, but it that's, the truth.

Anna:

Life is short.

Anna:

We don't know what's gonna happen.

Anna:

And as much as it's a cliche, it's also painfully true as we've again seen in

Anna:

the difficult years, the last two years.

Anna:

So we have to remind ourselves of what really matters.

Becca:

Yeah, it's easy to say.

Becca:

Yeah, I'll make that change next week, next month, next year.

Becca:

But actually I think COVID definitely has taught me.

Becca:

We need to live more in the moment.

Becca:

We can't wait till next year, next week.

Becca:

You know, if the, if at all possible let's make these changes now

Becca:

and I'm gonna encourage everyone to go and read that blog post.

Becca:

I'm gonna link to it in the show notes underneath, because I think that alone.

Becca:

Reading through that will help you as you sit down to think about those values

Becca:

and think about how you want success to look for you in your wedding business.

Becca:

Now, Anna, when we're talking about all these things, having a lifestyle

Becca:

business and making sure we've got this balance and making sure we're success

Becca:

is exactly what we want it to be.

Becca:

That doesn't mean we're just sitting around, lying on the beach all day.

Becca:

Does it?

Becca:

You're an incredibly busy person.

Becca:

I said, right in the intro, you're a business mentor, a life coach, an

Becca:

author podcast, a parent like your life.

Becca:

Busy.

Becca:

So how do you balance all of these things?

Becca:

How do you achieve all of those things whilst also trying to

Becca:

have the things that you value?

Anna:

It's a question and balance is such a tricky word.

Anna:

I think we, we think that we can achieve it.

Anna:

And of course we can't, it's sort of an ever moving beast

Anna:

and, and constantly tweaking.

Anna:

And of course we discuss briefly, you know, that as our festival, as we have

Anna:

kids that changes our life completely.

Anna:

And then as.

Anna:

Suddenly under school, then that shifts our time and so on.

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

So part of it is just necessity and there's that joke that, you know, if you

Anna:

want something done, give it to a single mother with young children or something

Anna:

because you have such limited time that you have to, to, you know, do so much.

Anna:

I was gonna say, do so much more, but actually it's not about

Anna:

doing more is it's doing less.

Anna:

So.

Anna:

In terms of my current situation.

Anna:

We've got the kids at nursery three days a week.

Anna:

They're long days, but that is it.

Anna:

Mondays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, we are actually speaking on Friday is

Anna:

because I've got an extra day today, which as you can imagine is magic.

Anna:

And I'm, I've had a really productive week this week.

Anna:

Um, but I believe it's totally possible to build a business in those days.

Anna:

And of course I.

Anna:

Did start pre-kids but to be perfectly honest, I think I worked way less than

Anna:

I do now because I was so again, naive as to what, what I thought was possible.

Anna:

I certainly wasn't structured.

Anna:

I was rebelling against that whole corporate structure of the nine to five.

Anna:

I didn't want an alarm clock and I didn't really know what I was doing.

Anna:

So it took me far longer than it should have to get to even

Anna:

a viable business at all.

Anna:

In terms of the coaching business.

Anna:

Now, what helps me is that I've done this work that I have a really clear vision.

Anna:

I've got my routine.

Anna:

Of course, of the things I've gradually laid things on.

Anna:

I obviously didn't start.

Anna:

And if you are just starting out, don't compare your, you know, year one to

Anna:

someone else's year five or in my case almost year 10 now, um, I started with

Anna:

blogging once a month and then I maybe started blogging every couple of weeks.

Anna:

And then there was a newsletter and there was a Facebook group and so on.

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

It's not that I did a podcast and a book and YouTube and Instagram

Anna:

and all this stuff from day one.

Anna:

So.

Anna:

Again, taking a step back.

Anna:

What is it you wanna achieve?

Anna:

And then, so I say dream big and start small, I suppose, in a nutshell,

Anna:

before I keep, um, rabbiting on about different aspects of it, but, you

Anna:

know, have a really clear vision, but know that you can't and don't need

Anna:

to achieve it all at the same time.

Anna:

You know?

Anna:

So one year, um, 2018 was a really big year for me.

Anna:

I launched a, my first group coaching program.

Anna:

I published my book and I launched my podcast.

Anna:

And the reason I was able to do that was because.

Anna:

After several months of failing to do that.

Anna:

I took one thing at a time.

Anna:

I said, look okay.

Anna:

I can't, I was doubling in each of them.

Anna:

I was like, no, I have to do one thing.

Anna:

So I was like, course, I mean, group program launched that.

Anna:

Then I said, okay, I'm gonna launch my book by my birthday, which was 3rd of

Anna:

October public accountability commitments.

Anna:

So I had to do that.

Anna:

And then the podcast was just December, 2018.

Anna:

So I just about managed by the end of the year.

Anna:

Um, but it's, you know, knowing what your focus is, the one thing that matters.

Anna:

Other tactical things.

Anna:

I'm a really big fan of time blocking I block the morning.

Anna:

So I don't have any client calls in the morning.

Anna:

I start, you know, Thursdays now for me are writing because getting my next book

Anna:

done is a really priority client calls in the afternoon because I know that they're

Anna:

gonna get done and I'll be present.

Anna:

But if I fill the morning with that, I'll be so drained that I won't

Anna:

be able to do the work and so on.

Anna:

Right.

Anna:

So it's understanding your own energies, what your priorities are.

Anna:

Um, And importantly, I'm really, um, prioritizing exercise and so on.

Anna:

So I've been working with a personal trainer and nutritionist

Anna:

for the past year or so.

Anna:

Um, I prioritize that first thing in the morning nursery drop off, and

Anna:

then I do my strength training or run and that's that's first actually,

Anna:

before even I get to work and so on.

Anna:

So I'm really.

Anna:

Doing my best to prioritize family and fitness and health and

Anna:

sleep, unfortunately suffering a bit, maybe because of the

Anna:

kids and the heat and so on.

Anna:

But otherwise sleep would be a priority in so far as it's possible.

Anna:

Um, and that foundation is what then gives me the energy to, to

Anna:

focus on the, the vision I have.

Anna:

So

Becca:

prioritizing what's important and being efficient with your time.

Becca:

So important.

Becca:

And I I'm definitely the same.

Becca:

I think the less time I have the more efficient I become.

Becca:

So for example, today, as we are recording this, I know it's my last few hours

Becca:

before the kids break up for school.

Becca:

I have been incredibly efficient this week because I know that my time.

Becca:

Is short and I needed to go out this morning and I ran out to the shops.

Becca:

I got some shopping, I've got some things I need to do, and I've got

Becca:

back and I've achieved more than I might do on another day when I'm just

Becca:

at home, you know, working normally.

Becca:

So I think sometimes we underestimate how much we can get done because we're so

Becca:

easily distracted and we are not focused.

Anna:

You feel the time that you have available, right?

Anna:

Just like, I guess the bigger handbag, the more things you put into it.

Anna:

And that's the classic the day before your holiday is the most productive day.

Anna:

Now, the thing is you can't maintain that energy always.

Anna:

And I think there is a certain ebb and flow.

Anna:

There's a sort of up and down, which I think is fine, right?

Anna:

There's a bit of a rhythm to it.

Anna:

So sometimes I've had a week or two where I've boom, I've launched

Anna:

my course and I've done 10 podcast episode, this, that, and the other.

Anna:

And I think, wow, I'm on a roll and I'm gonna keep going.

Anna:

But inevitably, because I've done so much.

Anna:

I have a couple of weeks where I'm a bit pooped and maybe I'm ill or the

Anna:

children are ill or something like that.

Anna:

So there's a bit of a wave of up and down and that's okay because

Anna:

we're in it for the long haul.

Anna:

And that's the key thing, right?

Anna:

Especially when you've got kids or perhaps your own chronic illness to

Anna:

deal with or family or whatever it is.

Anna:

Again, being kind and compassionate with yourself, being patient, taking those

Anna:

little steps, but, but working towards the longer term, knowing that that's

Anna:

what matters missing a day or two, isn't gonna make a difference, right?

Becca:

Yeah.

Becca:

So, so important as wedding business owners, it definitely ebbs and flows

Becca:

for people because as you can imagine, the summer season can be crazy

Becca:

and then the winter can be really quiet and it it's definitely an ebb

Becca:

and flow in terms of productivity.

Becca:

Busyness now, Anna, before I let you go, there's a new feature that I bought to the

Becca:

podcast, which is all about wedding pros.

Becca:

It's time to take a break.

Becca:

Now I know that the wedding business owners who listen to this podcast

Becca:

are terrible at taking a break.

Becca:

In fact, they're probably even listening to this while they're

Becca:

editing or doing some other work.

Becca:

So we wanna encourage them to take a break.

Becca:

So I've been asking my guests, what sort of things do you do

Becca:

to relax and get away from.

Anna:

Yeah, I'm not good at that either.

Anna:

Although I feel generally quite centered and, and calm because I

Anna:

think I've designed the business in a way that I'm not, you know,

Anna:

I'm not pushing myself too much.

Anna:

And I think a wedding business is, is a very different beast,

Anna:

especially the summer period.

Anna:

One of the things I've done recently is I've stopped listening to so many

Anna:

things because I used to squeeze in podcasts and obviously everyone's got

Anna:

their phone all the time and so on.

Anna:

And now I've actually not listened to podcasts and books and things on runs

Anna:

and walks and things just to have.

Anna:

You know, 20, 30 minutes of no noise and just reflecting.

Anna:

And it's probably, I mean, it's waste of time in a sense, because I'm not

Anna:

learning anything new and I'm not achieving anything and so on, but it's

Anna:

just a little bit of peace in my head, a little bit of reflection, and sometimes

Anna:

you get great ideas and sometimes, Hey, you don't, but at least you've

Anna:

had a bit of a, kind of a mental break.

Anna:

So that's a big one for me.

Anna:

I think turning things off, um, Yeah.

Anna:

I mean, again, putting the exercise first, it's not so much a break, but

Anna:

it's making sure that that comes first.

Anna:

And I am trying to read books.

Anna:

, I'm very big fan of, uh, business development obviously, and,

Anna:

um, non-fiction books and on audible and Kindle and so on,

Anna:

but I'm trying to read physical.

Anna:

Books.

Anna:

And for example, with the summer, now, the kids are out in the paddling pool

Anna:

and I sort of optimistically thought I could sit there in the sun with a book,

Anna:

but I did manage 10, 15 minutes or so.

Anna:

And that was quite nice to have my own little time what they were splashing

Anna:

about, but have a physical book I think is quite a good way to disconnect as

Becca:

well.

Becca:

I try to do exactly the same thing.

Becca:

My kids were in the paddling pool.

Becca:

I lay down near.

Becca:

By with my book and within 30 seconds, one of them had poured

Becca:

a bucket of water over my back.

Becca:

So, you know, it's never as relaxed.

Becca:

Oh no.

Becca:

As you, as you think, I thought

Anna:

you were gonna say on each other because that can happen too,

Anna:

but yeah, pouring it on my book would not have been appreciated.

Anna:

So yeah, it might not work.

Anna:

Sorry about that.

Anna:

it's

Becca:

all good fun.

Becca:

And if you are.

Becca:

Sitting at home then watching the TV, just chilling out at home.

Becca:

I'd love to know what your recommendations,

Becca:

what are you listening to?

Becca:

What you are watching right now on Netflix, Amazon, that

Becca:

people might wanna tune into.

Becca:

If they're looking for something new to watch.

Anna:

I don't know, unfortunately, we watch way too much TV.

Anna:

I realize when we talk to people and that's part of what I'm trying to

Anna:

do, I've been having tennis lessons on Tuesday evenings, and my partner

Anna:

has now, um, cricket on Wednesday.

Anna:

So it's good because otherwise our go to is just to get in front.

Anna:

TV and watch something.

Anna:

I'm not sure if it's a new recommendation, uh, Westworld.

Anna:

We are watching at the moment, which is really not relaxing.

Anna:

It's so complicated.

Anna:

I'm exhausted just by trying to understand what's going on it.

Anna:

We thought we were onto final season, season four, and it turned out after

Anna:

watching half an episode, we had no idea what was going on and there

Anna:

was a whole season we'd missed.

Anna:

So we've had to now go back to season three to watch that.

Anna:

Um, so I'm not sure if that's a good tip.

Anna:

What I would say is if you haven't watched it, I'm gonna put a little

Anna:

vote in there for stranger things, which we eagerly watched as soon as

Anna:

it was out, um, the season four of se stranger things is the best season ever.

Anna:

So I don't know if that's your thing, the whole sci-fi thing, but

Anna:

the eighties nostalgia is amazing.

Anna:

And that was a lot of fun and a very much a disconnect from real

Anna:

life, which is very appreciated.

Anna:

And

Becca:

sometimes we need that.

Becca:

So that's west world and stranger things.

Becca:

Yeah, there you go.

Becca:

I haven't watched either of those things yet, so they are both going

Becca:

onto my list of things to watch over the next few months, because none of

Becca:

us have time to sit and go through the Netflix or the Amazon library

Becca:

to see what on earth there is.

Becca:

So I am always appreciative of all the recommendations.

Becca:

happy to help.

Becca:

Now the final question, Anna, before I let you go, is, is there

Becca:

one thing that you wish you'd understood or known sooner in your.

Anna:

yes.

Anna:

That there is no right answer because I, again, coming back full circle to

Anna:

the whole good girl thing, looking for the tick and, and the gold star.

Anna:

I think we tend to, and especially at the beginning, we're procrastinating.

Anna:

We're not putting things out there because if we just have to do one more course,

Anna:

so just need to learn one more thing.

Anna:

I have to make this better.

Anna:

I need to find the person who's going to tell me, you know, is it this?

Anna:

Or is it that there is no right answer.

Anna:

And of course people can help you and people who've been there done

Anna:

that and they can advise you on strategy and some, but ultimately it

Anna:

comes down to what you want to do.

Anna:

What fits for you?

Anna:

What you have the energy for what you are good.

Anna:

And trying things, learning from it.

Anna:

And then, you know, continuing that on that journey.

Anna:

And it, it sounds both easy and hard, I suppose, because it's much easier

Anna:

to just take someone's blueprint and go tada, come to that six, seven

Anna:

figure business, but that's the biggest learning and it's hugely

Anna:

empowering to take the pressure off.

Anna:

You don't have to find the right answer.

Anna:

You work it out to your best ability in terms of strategies and visions.

Anna:

And so, and then you give it a go and then you see what happens and

Anna:

you kind of tweak and go from there.

Anna:

But it's, it's a much more relaxed way I think of doing business because

Anna:

you're not trying to get it right.

Anna:

You're just, I guess, trying to improve a little bit every day.

Anna:

I.

Anna:

Yes,

Becca:

Anna.

Becca:

And this is why I love talking to you, because you make me feel so much

Becca:

better about myself and my business.

Becca:

And I know that you're gonna be making people listening,

Becca:

feel so much better as well.

Becca:

So if you're listening, take the pressure off, just do what you wanna

Becca:

do and take it one step at a time.

Becca:

Anna, if people wanna find out more about you, where's

Becca:

the best place for them to go.

Anna:

well, if you listen to the podcast, I imagine you are a podcast listener.

Anna:

So the best thing to do is probably to head on over to reimagining success.

Anna:

So you can search reimagining success on your favorite podcast app.

Anna:

You can go to reimagining success, podcast.com and I talk all these things.

Anna:

The, the five pillars as I call them of building a life outside the nine to

Anna:

five, of course, redefining success, work, life integration, as well as some

Anna:

things around personal branding and so on and choosing the right business.

Anna:

So have a good mix of that business strategy, as well as the, the more kind

Anna:

of positive psychology life coaching concepts that we've danced around today.

Anna:

Amazing.

Becca:

I'll be linking to Anna's podcast and all of the other resources that

Becca:

we've been mentioning as well in the show notes, Anna, it's been a pleasure as

Becca:

always take care and I'll see you soon.

Anna:

Thanks Becca.

Becca:

Oh, I loved that chat with Anna.

Becca:

Wasn't it so inspiring and such a good reminder to us that we don't

Becca:

always need to strive for more, but we need to remember what success

Becca:

means to us and why we started our business in the first place.

Becca:

If you enjoyed hearing from Anna, then I've got some great news for

Becca:

you because Anna's recorded some additional content, which you can find.

Becca:

Inside of the member's lounge.

Becca:

So if you wanna hear more from Anna, become a member of the member's

Becca:

lounge, it's the place to be.

Becca:

And you can go back and watch her keynote from last year's summit.

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