Artwork for podcast Own Your Calendar: Aligning Your Business & Life Goals
How Unshakable Routines helps you master your habits for health, mindset, relationships, faith, and professional growth
Episode 61 • Bonus Episode • 28th March 2024 • Own Your Calendar: Aligning Your Business & Life Goals • Stephen Box
00:00:00 00:23:47

Share Episode

Shownotes

Do you ever feel overwhelmed and dissatisfied with the direction your life is headed?

In the latest episode of Unshakable Habits, Stephen Box shares a solution to help you prioritize your health, manage work-life balance, and achieve your personal and professional goals with confidence. Learn how to build unshakable routines for a more balanced and fulfilling life. Ready to create a positive shift in your daily habits? Tune in to discover how!

Learn more about Unshakable Routines: https://unshakablehabits.com/unshakable-routines/

Book your complimentary, no obligation, RoadMap Call: https://unshakablehabits.com

Liked this episode? Share it and tag me @unshakablehabits

Love the show? Leave a review and let me know!

CONNECT WITH STEPHEN: Website | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | LinkedIn


This podcast is hosted by Captivate, try it yourself for free.


Copyright 2023 Unshakable Habits, Stephen Box LLC, all rights reserved

Privacy Policy Disclaimer Terms and Conditions Affiliate Disclosure

Transcripts

Stephen Box:

Do you ever find that sometimes you feel like life is

Stephen Box:

headed in the wrong direction?

Stephen Box:

There's maybe a sense of overwhelm or just general dissatisfaction with your

Stephen Box:

life, or maybe things really aren't that bad, but at the same time, you don't

Stephen Box:

have the time for the things that are really important to you, which kind

Stephen Box:

of creates this exact same feeling.

Stephen Box:

If so, I have something that I'm going to share with you on today's episode that is

Stephen Box:

going to really help you to look at this problem from a different perspective and

Stephen Box:

help you figure out how to move forward.

Stephen Box:

So guys, welcome to Unshakable Habits.

Stephen Box:

I am your host, Stephen Box.

Stephen Box:

So before we can jump into the solution, we need to get really clear

Stephen Box:

on exactly what the problem is that we're actually dealing with here.

Stephen Box:

So here's a couple of things, four things actually, that.

Stephen Box:

I've noticed consistently showing up in the people that I've been helping.

Stephen Box:

And these might apply to you as well.

Stephen Box:

So the first thing is that at least two to three days a week you look at

Stephen Box:

your to do list and feel like you've barely even scratched the surface on it.

Stephen Box:

There's just not enough time to do all the things you need to do.

Stephen Box:

The second thing is that You tend to break promises to yourself to

Stephen Box:

consistently prioritize your health.

Stephen Box:

And I'm willing to bet this has probably happened at least

Stephen Box:

once in the last three months.

Stephen Box:

And it's probably happened multiple times in the last year.

Stephen Box:

The third thing is that you are bringing work home with you just to keep up.

Stephen Box:

Because again, going back to that first thing about your to do list, always Being

Stephen Box:

so overwhelming, it forces this to happen.

Stephen Box:

And if you are bringing work home with you on an even somewhat regular

Stephen Box:

basis, is probably leading to tension in the home, leading to arguments

Stephen Box:

with your spouse, leading to you maybe not having the time that you want to

Stephen Box:

dedicate to spending with your children.

Stephen Box:

And so you've now got these two competing priorities.

Stephen Box:

Your family is really important to you.

Stephen Box:

Your work is really important to you.

Stephen Box:

And you're struggling to set that boundary and figure out how

Stephen Box:

to make the two work together.

Stephen Box:

And then the fourth thing that I've noticed with people is that Even in

Stephen Box:

those moments of motivation, even when they maybe feel like the willpower

Stephen Box:

levels are in an all time high, they end up getting distracted, or they

Stephen Box:

end up losing sight of any personal and professional goals that they might

Stephen Box:

set, or you just procrastinate and you just never really get started on it.

Stephen Box:

So if any of those four things.

Stephen Box:

sound familiar to you, then you are exactly who I'm

Stephen Box:

going to be talking to today.

Stephen Box:

If you're still listening, I'm going to assume that this episode is for you.

Stephen Box:

or that you think it might be for you.

Stephen Box:

So let's talk about some of the things that you might be doing that you're

Stephen Box:

attempting to solve these problems, but it's actually making the problem

Stephen Box:

worse without you even realizing it.

Stephen Box:

So the first thing is that you've invested in some complex

Stephen Box:

productivity tool or system, right?

Stephen Box:

You've gotten apps or calendars, you set reminders, you've done all these things.

Stephen Box:

And you're just hoping that you're going to find the right tool

Stephen Box:

that's going to magically solve all the time management issues and

Stephen Box:

get you what you're looking for.

Stephen Box:

But the thing is, a lot of times they're so complicated and they're

Stephen Box:

so time consuming to maintain.

Stephen Box:

That they just basically double down on the problem.

Stephen Box:

And I think a big part of this is that we tend to believe that we

Stephen Box:

need to be doing so much stuff.

Stephen Box:

We're not focused on the right things.

Stephen Box:

We're trying to focus on doing everything.

Stephen Box:

Because society has told us that busyness equals productivity.

Stephen Box:

And so it makes sense that we're trying to do these things.

Stephen Box:

Another thing that happens is Not only does society tell us that business

Stephen Box:

equals productivity, but a lot of times, especially I think for men, but I think

Stephen Box:

this really does apply to everyone, is that success, especially today's

Stephen Box:

world, is measured by your professional achievement or your financial status.

Stephen Box:

And this can lead to us prioritizing work above all else.

Stephen Box:

We end up skipping breaks and working late hours and.

Stephen Box:

Bringing the work home with us and all of those things and you've

Stephen Box:

probably tried to set some boundaries.

Stephen Box:

You've probably Made some attempts to I'll say compartmentalized things, right?

Stephen Box:

It's like you try to have work and then you have to try to have family time and

Stephen Box:

you try to separate the two But they just end up bleeding together Because you

Stephen Box:

don't really maybe know how to set a clear healthy boundary and then enforce it.

Stephen Box:

And again, that's a common thing because it's honestly not something

Stephen Box:

they were ever taught how to do.

Stephen Box:

So it actually makes a lot of sense.

Stephen Box:

Something else that you might be trying to do is consuming

Stephen Box:

a lot of self help content.

Stephen Box:

So you're listening to a podcast like this, Or you're reading books, or

Stephen Box:

courses, or whatever, and you feel like just by simply consuming this

Stephen Box:

information, you're going to get some insight that's going to be the thing.

Stephen Box:

And here's the reality.

Stephen Box:

It helps, right?

Stephen Box:

I hope that you guys get some insights.

Stephen Box:

from this podcast that you're able to take with you.

Stephen Box:

That's one of my goals.

Stephen Box:

I hope that when you read a book or you take a course that there's

Stephen Box:

something in there that does shift things in the right direction.

Stephen Box:

But the reality is this.

Stephen Box:

Knowledge alone isn't really going to solve your problem.

Stephen Box:

Remember the old G.

Stephen Box:

I.

Stephen Box:

Joe saying that knowing is half the battle.

Stephen Box:

So we have to not just consume knowledge, but we have to know

Stephen Box:

how to put it into action.

Stephen Box:

And a lot of times what we need for that is systems.

Stephen Box:

So that is another common thing that I see people doing.

Stephen Box:

Another big mistake that I see is The people were setting unrealistic goals,

Stephen Box:

and I think especially when it comes to our health, this is a huge one,

Stephen Box:

because most of us when we're setting health goals, we're not setting them

Stephen Box:

proactively, we're not setting goals to be healthier or move better or things

Stephen Box:

like that, just because they happen.

Stephen Box:

Makes sense to do.

Stephen Box:

We're doing it because we don't like what we see in the mirror.

Stephen Box:

We don't like being out of breath, playing with the kids.

Stephen Box:

We don't like being tired or having your knees hurt, going up the stairs.

Stephen Box:

So the thing is.

Stephen Box:

When you're looking for an immediate fix to a problem, you're more likely

Stephen Box:

to set unrealistic goals because you want that problem to go away.

Stephen Box:

And that makes sense.

Stephen Box:

I totally get it, but it doesn't work.

Stephen Box:

And that's the problem.

Stephen Box:

And so what ends up happening a lot of times is people will

Stephen Box:

bounce around from diet to diet or exercise craze or whatever.

Stephen Box:

Or they're buying the latest health gadgets or the newest

Stephen Box:

supplement or whatever.

Stephen Box:

And they're hoping that's just going to get them the quick

Stephen Box:

result, but it never does.

Stephen Box:

And again, I get where this is like a normal thing, because this is what

Stephen Box:

society is pushing on us, right?

Stephen Box:

They're always pushing all these, solution type things.

Stephen Box:

And we're told that we live in this world where, that's the expectation is that

Stephen Box:

things are supposed to work quickly.

Stephen Box:

And so we assume that they should.

Stephen Box:

But the problem is, they don't, another thing that I see people do is they're

Stephen Box:

always waiting for that right moment, that perfect condition to come up right

Stephen Box:

after this vacation, once the kids are back in school, once this work project

Stephen Box:

slows down, I'm going to start doing whatever and the reality is, There's

Stephen Box:

never going to be a perfect time.

Stephen Box:

We as human beings are very good at elevating the importance of certain

Stephen Box:

And we will always find something that needs our attention something that

Stephen Box:

needs our focus So those are some of the common mistakes that I see and some

Stephen Box:

of the reasons why they're happening.

Stephen Box:

Hopefully you guys are getting some perspective here right now that is

Stephen Box:

starting to click to use some of the mistakes that you might've been making

Stephen Box:

Why they're not working, but I'm not just gonna leave you there guys.

Stephen Box:

I'm going to offer you a solution today So again, I just want to check in with

Stephen Box:

you guys really quick here before we move into the solution and I want to

Stephen Box:

make sure that These are the things that you're looking for So so first of all, I

Stephen Box:

want to help you figure out how to build a strong mind and body That is ready

Stephen Box:

to handle life's challenges head on.

Stephen Box:

The second thing is I want to help you to elevate those relationships

Stephen Box:

and create deeper connections at home, even at work, and in the community.

Stephen Box:

Because a lot of you may be, not only are you potentially a husband or a

Stephen Box:

wife or a parent, but maybe you're a leader at work or in the community too.

Stephen Box:

And so those relationships are super important for you.

Stephen Box:

the third thing is, and this is something that, some of you may resonate with, some

Stephen Box:

of you may not, but this is a huge part of my life and something that I have found

Stephen Box:

so important is to grow in your faith and, or connect to a bigger purpose in life.

Stephen Box:

so for me, that is.

Stephen Box:

My faith that allows me to connect to something bigger, but I absolutely

Stephen Box:

believe that everyone should have something bigger than themselves

Stephen Box:

that they are connecting to.

Stephen Box:

And then the fourth thing is, I want to help you gain the skills

Stephen Box:

and the confidence to actually consistently achieve those

Stephen Box:

personal and professional goals.

Stephen Box:

But let's be honest here for a second.

Stephen Box:

Building habits is hard and to be very clear with you.

Stephen Box:

The things that you're experiencing, all those problems that we talked

Stephen Box:

about earlier, you've been trying to fix them with some of the

Stephen Box:

things that I've talked about.

Stephen Box:

And the reason it's not working is because it's not just time management issues.

Stephen Box:

It's not just a matter of getting the right diet or the right workout.

Stephen Box:

It's not about setting just the right boundary or learning

Stephen Box:

to communicate better.

Stephen Box:

Those are all part of the equation.

Stephen Box:

But what you really need is a system that helps you build those habits

Stephen Box:

to be able to do those things.

Stephen Box:

You don't need necessarily the perfect plan.

Stephen Box:

What you need is something that you can consistently show up and do every day.

Stephen Box:

Because most people, their biggest struggle when it comes to

Stephen Box:

creating habits is sticking with them long enough to see results.

Stephen Box:

And the reason why that's so hard for most people is because it

Stephen Box:

requires a whole new set of skills.

Stephen Box:

Most of which, honestly, are counterintuitive to what comes

Stephen Box:

naturally to us, and is something that people don't know how to do.

Stephen Box:

And anything else, building the right habits is about doing the right things,

Stephen Box:

the right way, and the right order.

Stephen Box:

And if you're just relying on willpower or you're just guessing your way

Stephen Box:

through, you're just throwing things at the wall and hoping this stuff

Stephen Box:

works, it's a recipe for failure.

Stephen Box:

And you don't need to go about doing it.

Stephen Box:

Because I want you to stop for a second and imagine a life where you had the

Stephen Box:

knowledge and the skills to turn your daily chaos into clarity and purpose.

Stephen Box:

What if you could actually have consistent habits for better health?

Stephen Box:

What if you actually had the ability to set clear boundaries between work

Stephen Box:

and home without causing conflict in either one, what if you actually

Stephen Box:

had time for the activities and the hobbies that really matter to you?

Stephen Box:

Would that bring passion and joy back to your life?

Stephen Box:

Now, I know that these things might seem like fantasies.

Stephen Box:

This might seem very farfetched, but.

Stephen Box:

I want to just share a quick personal story with you guys.

Stephen Box:

A couple of years back, I found myself in a situation where I was

Stephen Box:

starting to be in your situation.

Stephen Box:

Trying to shift the focus of my company from just health and fitness

Stephen Box:

into this broader idea of habits.

Stephen Box:

And in the beginning, it was a little tough.

Stephen Box:

And so I'm trying to grow the business.

Stephen Box:

I'm trying to work on that, rebuild my client roster.

Stephen Box:

And at the same time, I'm starting this podcast.

Stephen Box:

I have a sports podcast that I also do, and I also took over leadership

Stephen Box:

in a small group at my church.

Stephen Box:

And on top of all that, my mom had to come and be with us for a little while.

Stephen Box:

After she had surgery.

Stephen Box:

And so that turned into a longer experience than what

Stephen Box:

we had originally planned.

Stephen Box:

And I had all of these things going on and I'm wearing all the hats in my business.

Stephen Box:

And at the same time that I'm doing all this, I'm trying to set aside

Stephen Box:

time to read and exercise and be a good husband and find social time

Stephen Box:

to hang out and talk with friends.

Stephen Box:

Or just maybe be able to sit down and relax.

Stephen Box:

And this is all on top of, the other things that have

Stephen Box:

to happen every day in life.

Stephen Box:

And I really was at a point where I was overwhelmed.

Stephen Box:

it's ironic, right?

Stephen Box:

Someone who's teaching about habits found themself in this exact situation

Stephen Box:

where I had to take a hard look in the mirror and be honest with

Stephen Box:

myself about where my habits were.

Stephen Box:

What I realized is my habits themselves weren't the problem, right?

Stephen Box:

I had good habits.

Stephen Box:

I created really great habits.

Stephen Box:

What I didn't have was systems.

Stephen Box:

What I didn't have was a way to organize those habits.

Stephen Box:

I had created a list of independent habits that Individually worked great,

Stephen Box:

but then when things hit a critical mass where we hit that tipping point

Stephen Box:

where the to do list got too big, even though I might be able to stick with

Stephen Box:

the individual habits, I had trouble getting all of them at the same time.

Stephen Box:

And so what I realized is I need to create better systems.

Stephen Box:

And when you start to think about what a system really is, it's a routine.

Stephen Box:

And so when we create better systems, a.

Stephen Box:

k.

Stephen Box:

a.

Stephen Box:

when we start to create routines and we figure out how do we fit our

Stephen Box:

habits into those routines, all of a sudden it becomes so much easier.

Stephen Box:

And this is what I did with my own life and it made such a difference.

Stephen Box:

Today I'm running my business.

Stephen Box:

I'm not overwhelmed.

Stephen Box:

Maybe there's some days where I put in a little extra work.

Stephen Box:

And then there's other days where I barely work at all, so it balances out

Stephen Box:

and overall I've just found that I'm a lot happier and a lot more satisfied

Stephen Box:

with where my life is right now.

Stephen Box:

And this is something I wanted to share with people because I feel If I can help

Stephen Box:

people to create these new routines and really build their habits into these

Stephen Box:

routines, it is such a game changer.

Stephen Box:

Because again, I've seen it personally myself.

Stephen Box:

And so there's, excuse me.

Stephen Box:

So there's five key areas that I like to focus on.

Stephen Box:

Health, Mindset, Relationships, faith, and then professional growth.

Stephen Box:

And I say professional growth because for some of you, that's a career.

Stephen Box:

You work for somebody else.

Stephen Box:

Some of you are going to be business owners.

Stephen Box:

And so I say professional growth to encompass both of those things.

Stephen Box:

And so when we start to look at these things, and we start to really understand

Stephen Box:

like a strong body and mindset, it helps you face life's challenges.

Stephen Box:

I absolutely believe those are foundational components of being able to

Stephen Box:

be resilient and handle life's challenges.

Stephen Box:

Another thing is your faith or your spiritual health.

Stephen Box:

when we can help you to build habits that strengthen that.

Stephen Box:

It makes room for what's important in your life.

Stephen Box:

It gives you peace and purpose and then your relationships, our

Stephen Box:

relationships are our support systems.

Stephen Box:

We need strong support systems.

Stephen Box:

if we can develop habits to help to strengthen those relationships,

Stephen Box:

again, whether they're at home, at work, or in the community, then

Stephen Box:

those are going to be huge for us.

Stephen Box:

And then there's professional growth.

Stephen Box:

if we can help you to build habits for professional growth, then you

Stephen Box:

can actually become more effective.

Stephen Box:

efficient at work, and that's going to help you to create those boundaries that

Stephen Box:

you've been struggling to create because you're going to be able to get things

Stephen Box:

done much quicker and more efficiently.

Stephen Box:

So with that, what we've done is created a new program called Unshakable Routines.

Stephen Box:

And this is a 16 week program designed to help you master your habits and create

Stephen Box:

these routines for these five key areas.

Stephen Box:

So I want to just share with you guys a little bit about the program here.

Stephen Box:

So every single person when they sign up for this program is going

Stephen Box:

to get a 60 minute kickoff call.

Stephen Box:

Now if sitting down for a 60 minute call is too much for you, I'm happy to

Stephen Box:

split that into two 30 minute calls.

Stephen Box:

But what we're going to do with this call is we're going to help

Stephen Box:

you to set your priorities, identify roadblocks, and we're going to create

Stephen Box:

a personalized habit roadmap just for you in those five key areas.

Stephen Box:

Once we have that set, I'm going to schedule another one on one call

Stephen Box:

with you and I'm going to work with you to help actually craft out.

Stephen Box:

Your ideal week and your ideal days, and we're going to focus on actually

Stephen Box:

creating five routines in your life, a morning routine, a midday routine,

Stephen Box:

and an icon routine, and then in addition to that, we're going to also

Stephen Box:

set some really let's get started.

Stephen Box:

Important routines here for pre and post work so that way you can integrate your

Stephen Box:

professional and personal time together.

Stephen Box:

And then every two weeks, we're going to have a group coaching call where

Stephen Box:

we will have a hot seats and things like that to help you to stay on

Stephen Box:

track and in a supportive environment.

Stephen Box:

And as you start to get these habits in place, as you start to

Stephen Box:

get these routines and built out.

Stephen Box:

We're going to track the progress and then we're going to make adjustments as needed.

Stephen Box:

Now, if the idea of being in a group is not appealing to you and you just

Stephen Box:

want one on one service, there is a VIP option for this where you can just

Stephen Box:

go one on one and then have the option to attend the group calls as well.

Stephen Box:

Guys, if this sounds like something that you are interested in, I want to invite

Stephen Box:

you to check out Unshakable Routines and let's get you on the path to creating

Stephen Box:

a strong mind and body that's ready to handle life's challenges head on.

Stephen Box:

Let's help you elevate your relationships and create deeper connections at

Stephen Box:

home, work, and in your community.

Stephen Box:

Let's help you to grow your faith and connect to a bigger purpose in your life.

Stephen Box:

And let's help you gain the skills and the confidence to achieve your

Stephen Box:

personal and professional goals.

Stephen Box:

Let's help you to overcome procrastination.

Stephen Box:

Let's help you to stop relying on willpower.

Stephen Box:

Let's stop, let's help you stop wasting time doing the things

Stephen Box:

that are not working for you.

Stephen Box:

So guys, if this is something that you are interested in learning more

Stephen Box:

about, I'll drop the link in the show notes or go to unshakablehabits.

Stephen Box:

com and you click on work with me, you'll see a drop down menu and

Stephen Box:

you'll see unshakable routines there.

Stephen Box:

We are going to limit this right now.

Stephen Box:

This will be the first intake we have for this.

Stephen Box:

we're going to limit the intake to only maybe about 10 or so people.

Stephen Box:

the first spot is actually going to open up on, or the first group

Stephen Box:

is going to kick off April 22nd.

Stephen Box:

The spots will not last until April 22nd, I'm going to tell you right now.

Stephen Box:

so if this is something that you're interested in, head on over

Stephen Box:

there and, I'll Get started today.

Stephen Box:

And by the way, just an FYI for you, I'm so confident in what I'm

Stephen Box:

offering you here today that I'm going to give you a 14 day free trial.

Stephen Box:

That's how confident I am.

Stephen Box:

I know that when you come in, you're going to get this 14 day and this, by the way,

Stephen Box:

it means you're going to get that kickoff call where we're going to go over all your

Stephen Box:

priorities and help you create a roadmap.

Stephen Box:

And you're going to get that second call where you can go and

Stephen Box:

get the game plan to go implement.

Stephen Box:

So you're going to get everything you need in those first 14 days.

Stephen Box:

And if you are not absolutely wowed by it, if you do not have absolute confidence

Stephen Box:

in the plan that we put together.

Stephen Box:

you can cancel and pay absolutely nothing.

Stephen Box:

That's how confident I am that I'm going to be able to get

Stephen Box:

you results with this program.

Stephen Box:

So guys, I just wanted to come on today and share this program with you.

Stephen Box:

It's something I'm super excited about and I know it's going to

Stephen Box:

make a huge difference for people.

Stephen Box:

So with that, allow me to remind you as always, that while none of us are born

Stephen Box:

unshakable, we can all become unshakable.

Chapters

Video

More from YouTube