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Finding True Belonging Through Integrity.

In this episode, we explore the essential connection between integrity and a genuine sense of belonging. I share insights on how lacking integrity can affect our depth of belonging and the stability of our lives, regardless of whether others are aware of our shortcomings. Drawing on my experiences with clients and referencing authors like Michael Dye and Derek Sivers, I delve into the importance of facing our failures and choosing to surrender to God as the first steps towards recovering personal integrity. The discussion underscores the role of the Holy Spirit in highlighting our destructive patterns and the power of discipline in turning our intentions into action. The episode wraps up with a series of reflective questions designed to prompt deeper self-examination and guide listeners towards making disciplined, integrity-driven choices in their daily lives.

Timestamps

00:00 The Quest for Integrity: A Deep Dive

01:31 The Path to Recovering Integrity

02:17 Embracing the Holy Spirit's Role in Transformation

02:52 The Importance of Discipline in Personal Growth

03:26 Self-Reflection: Questions to Guide Your Journey

04:02 Closing Thoughts: The Power of Integrity

About Josh Kalsbeek, LMFT

• As a Psychoherapist Josh helps people overcome their greatest struggles.

•Founder and CEO of Great Oaks Collective, and it's flagship program Overcome, a 10-Week virtual Intensive Outpatient Program for Christian couples experiencing sexual betrayal and addiction. www.greatoakscollective.com. 

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Links

Michael Dye, ​The Genesis Process​

Derek Sivers, ​How to Live​

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128 On Recovering Integrity Belonging

is a fundamental human quest.

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If you lack integrity, you lack depth of

belonging, whether others know it or not.

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If you have fallen short of

God's standards, you must

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recover your own integrity.

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Without personal integrity,

you will never truly belong.

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Without integrity, you will lack the

solid foundation to build your life apart.

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The more influence you want to have, the

deeper your roots of integrity must be.

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The taller the tree, the deeper the roots.

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Without integrity, you can grow in

skill and influence, but it won't last.

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Your life will crumble away

beneath you as you grow.

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So even if you experience

success, and others are not aware

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of your unconfessed issues, it

will catch up to you eventually.

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And then, those that matter to

you the most will be devastated.

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I see this all the time with my clients.

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Some have all the success in the

world, in a beautiful family.

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They are the picture of success.

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But without integrity, life teeters

on the brink of ruin, and they

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desperately try to recover it all.

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Everything in your life, if you

want flourishing to last, Must

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be built on rock solid integrity.

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You recover integrity first by choosing to

surrender to God instead of running away.

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Face yourself and the reality

of how you have fallen short.

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No matter how far you've

strayed, return to the Lord.

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With humility, the greatest courage

is finally choosing to stop running

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and to face whatever God has for you.

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It turns out that facing your fears

is the only way to overcome them.

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Choose to be rigorously honest.

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And let others in.

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Choose to risk letting

people disciple you.

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Let them see your darkness

and your difficulties.

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Choose to be vulnerable and

submit yourself to their wisdom.

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Quotes.

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I believe that the main work of

the Holy Spirit is to search your

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heart and life, bringing destructive

patterns into your awareness that

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hinder your God given potential.

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Conviction is a product of love.

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Trusting God by giving Him control is

what is necessary in order to change.

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The mission of the Holy Spirit is

to set you free and to reduce the

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enemy's influence in your life.

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The most powerful and successful changes

come from participating with what He is

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bringing into your conscious awareness.

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By Michael Dye in his book

The Genesis Process Discipline

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turns intentions into action.

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Discipline means no procrastination.

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Discipline means now.

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Choose the pain of discipline,

not the pain of regret.

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An undisciplined moment seems

harmless, but they add up to disaster.

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Without discipline, the tiny

things will be your downfall.

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Derek Sivers, in his book, How to Live.

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Questions.

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How have I fallen short?

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What do I need to turn from?

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What have I been avoiding?

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Am I willing to fully surrender to God?

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Will I choose to entrust the outcomes

and all that is out of my control to Him?

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What is the simplest way

to grow in integrity today?

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What is a small disciplined

step forward that I can take?

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Use these questions as a journal prompt

and to guide your prayers this week.

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End note.

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Get honest today.

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Build the foundation of personal

integrity and watch what God will do.

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Live wisely.

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Josh