Show Notes:

Summary:

In this episode of "Aging with Grace & Style," Valerie challenges outdated ideas of sexiness and empowers women to embrace their confidence and self-assuredness. Valerie dives into what it means to be sexy after 50, emphasizing that it's about owning one's unique story, exuding confidence, and practicing self-care. She provides listeners with practical steps to redefine their understanding of sexy, such as positive self-talk, embracing personal awesomeness, body language boosts, creating a sexy soundtrack, and expressing their sensuality. Through real-life stories and empowering advice, Valerie encourages women to shine from within and redefine what it means to be sexy after 50.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to redefining sexy after 50

00:47 Redefining sexy as confidence and self-assuredness

01:36 Shaking off outdated ideas about sexy after 50

02:59 Taking care of physical and mental well-being for confidence

04:28 Steps to boost self-confidence and positive self-talk

06:26 Expressing your sexy through personal touches and style

08:29 Investing in self-care and exploring sensuality

09:55 Finding strength and vitality in physical movement

10:38 Rediscovering joy and intimacy after 50

12:25 Embracing your sexy at this stage of life

13:36 Closing thoughts on redefining what it means to be sexy after 50

Key Takeaways:

• Sexy after 50 is about confidence, self-assuredness, and owning one's unique story.
• Embrace positive self-talk and shower yourself with kindness.
• Discover and embrace your personal awesomeness.
• Utilize body language to boost confidence and presence.
• . Create a sexy soundtrack with empowering music and express your sensuality on your terms.

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If you're ready to ditch outdated ideas about what sexy

means past a certain age, then you're in the right place.

Today, we're redefining sexy after 50 with real talk

and steps that you can use. Forget the outdated

standards. So grab that cup of coffee or your

favorite beverage, and let's dive in.

Alright, girl. Let's get real. When you

hear the word sexy, what pops into your head?

That hourglass figure that society tells us is the

only option? Big boobs, a perfect

butt, and full lips? Here's the truth.

Sexy is so much more than that.

I want you to ponder this for a second.

Does sexy automatically translate to

sexual or sensual? Absolutely

not. Sexy after 50 is about a

whole different kind of power. It's it's confidence

radiating from the inside out, a self assuredness

that whispers, I know who I am, and I'm darn

good at it. When the world whispers

that sexy has an expiration date, we're here to

shout a resounding no. Sexy after

50 isn't about fitting into a mole. It's about

breaking free from it. It's the confidence that radiates

from knowing who you are and owning it.

It's it's the allure of experience,

the magnetism of self assurance.

We're more vibrant and self assured than ever before.

So how do we

shake off those outdated ideas? 1st

off, start talking back to negative

voices in your head. You know the ones. Let's

face it. Many of us have spent

years pouring our hearts out into raising

incredible kids who are now incredible adults.

And while that's a beautiful thing,

sometimes our own desires and our

sense of self can get pushed aside. But here's a

news flash. Sexy isn't just about

lingerie in a drawer. Although, hey.

If that's your thing, then go for it. It's a whole

mood. It's an attitude, a

way of carrying yourself. It's that knowing glint

in your eye. The way you command a room with

your presence. The way you you own

your laugh lines and the the life experiences that are

etched on your face. It's about self

care, not just facials and bubble bath, but taking

care of your physical and your mental well-being.

Because when you feel good, you

project that confidence.

So think about a powerhouse like Michelle

Obama. Her appeal

isn't just in her appearance, but it's in her poise. It's

in her smile and her zest for life. Sexy

is an attitude, a presence. It's in the

way we carry our stories, our our

laughter, and our unique selves with pride.

So, okay. We know sexy is an

attitude, but how do we get there?

Let's unpack this a bit. Step 1, it would

be self talk check ins.

Your inner dialogue shapes your reality.

Notice those little voices in your head?

Well, start showering yourself with the kindness that you'd

offer others. Catch those negative thoughts and flip

the script. Try sticking post it notes on

your mirror. I talked about this, I don't know, a few

episodes ago. I know it might sound cheesy,

but it works as a little reminder of your worth.

Step 2 would be embrace your awesomeness.

Write down 3 to 5 things that you absolutely

love about yourself. Your humor, your kindness,

your your resilience, anything goes.

These are your badges of honor, and reference this

list when you need a pick me up. Step

3 would be body language boost.

Your posture speaks volumes. How you

carry yourself matters. Stand tall, shoulders

back, chin up. Now the other day, I was walking by the

mirror, and I noticed that I was walking slumped over.

Girl, I immediately held my head up, put my

shoulders back. But I think for years,

I didn't walk with my shoulders back and my chest out because I have

so much chest. But, hey, it is what it

is. So practice in front of the mirror. It

might feel goofy at first, but that

power pose, it translates into confidence.

Step 4 is your sexy soundtrack.

Music has the power to transform our mood.

Make a playlist of songs that make you feel invincible and

unstoppable. Blast it while you're getting ready. Strutting your stuff

around the house. That energy is contagious.

One of my power songs is I'm Every Woman by Whitney

Houston. I blast that song around the house, and you can't

tell me nothing. Feeling

sexy inside is the first step.

Now how do we let that shine out?

Expressing your sexy isn't about dressing a certain way or

or acting out of character. It's about those subtle

personal touches that make you feel alive. For example,

find your signature. A bold lip color, a

favorite piece of jewelry, or that perfume that

feels uniquely you, or even a pair of snick

sneakers. Horse sneakers. I mean sneakers.

Today at church, I was commenting about a

young lady who always has on a different

pair of low top Jordans.

They're fun and they're colorful. Well, that's her signature.

Next would be the power of a smile or even the way you laugh.

A genuine smile lights you up from within, so

don't be afraid to flash those pearly whites.

And then own your style. It's about wearing what

makes you feel fabulous. Embrace clothes that

flatter your body. Comfort and confidence

are the ultimate ultimate sexy combo.

So here are 5 ways to

redefine sexy on your terms. One

is to explore your sensuality.

Sexy isn't just about how others see you, it's about

connecting with your own desires. Connect with what

makes you feel vibrant. Whether it's

through touch, through taste,

or setting a serene ambiance. Finding

what's find what stirs your

soul. Try a new massage oil or

rediscover a scent that makes you feel amazing

or set the mood with candles and music.

Next would be invest in you.

Feeling good in your skin is key. Treat yourself to what

makes you feel good. Whether it's that

skin care routine that you keep putting off, a bold new

hairstyle, or comfy yet flattering

loungewear, treat yourself. And

then I'd say, play with fashion. Fashion

is about expressing yourself. Dust off those items

that you love, but you hesitate to wear. Wear what

makes you feel fabulous regardless of trends.

You got a killer pair of boots collecting dust? Wear them.

A dress that you adore, but you think is too young?

Don't rock them. Fashion is

about self expression. There's no age limit on

style. Movement is

magic, so engage in physical

activities that you enjoy like maybe

dancing or yoga or walking. It's

really about feeling strong, alive, and in tune with

your body. Feeling that strength,

it and vitality is pure sexiness.

Then redefine intimacy.

Intimacy evolves. It's about connecting on a deep

level, expressing desires, and exploring

pleasure. Intimacy is about joy.

Don't be afraid to express your wants and your needs.

So here's our listeners note. So I received a note from

Diane in San Diego, and she shared that

after 50, I found a new love for salsa dancing. That

sounds fun. It's not just the movement, it's the freedom

and the joy I feel when I dance. It

reignited a spark in me and reminded me that sex

is a state of mind. Diane, your story

is a testament to finding what lights you up and

embracing it fully. That joy, that spark

is the essence of sexy.

So as we wrap up today, remember, sexy is about

embracing you at

this amazing stage of life. You are

fierce, you are powerful, and you're desirable.

And don't let anyone, not even yourself, tell you

otherwise. It's about living life on your own

terms and finding beauty in the journey. I

wanna thank you for tuning in. If today's conversation

resonated with you, then spread the love, share this episode, and

let's continue to redefine what it

means to be sexy after 50. Until next

time, remember you are undeniably

sexy. Now keep shining, keep

smiling and keep strutting your stuff with

age, style, and a touch of sass.