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How Structure and Routine Spark Unexpected Transformation
Episode 4922nd May 2025 • The One Small Change Podcast • Yvonne McCoy
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In this episode of The One Small Change Podcast, host Yvonne McCoy sits down with special guest, Stefanie Trenholme, to dive into the power of small adjustments—particularly the role of structure and routine—in shaping both personal growth and lasting success. From making the leap to entrepreneurship as a speech-language pathologist to guiding kids and adults alike through learning challenges, our guest shares how routines not only build stability but spark transformation. Listen in for actionable strategies that entrepreneurs and parents can use to implement beneficial habits, support different learning styles, and create a more predictable—and fulfilling—path to their goals.

Guest Bio:

Stefanie Trenholme is a Los Angeles-based speech-language pathologist with extensive experience running her own private practice. Formerly the head of a speech department, she specializes in helping children with communication and learning challenges and is also the author of a children’s book series focused on routines and language development. Passionate about integrating structure into daily life, Stefanie coaches families on the value of predictability and teaches entrepreneurs how to harness routines for greater confidence, effectiveness, and growth.

Chapters:

00:00 Transitioning to Self-Employed Speech Therapy

03:21 Balancing Structure and Flexibility

08:06 Daily Sales Introduction Practice

10:22 Adapting Communication Styles

14:55 Multimodal Learning Preferences

16:45 "Entrepreneurial Learning and Sharing"

21:46 "Don't Delay Networking Connections"

25:42 Boosting Language Through Routines

29:53 Pandemic-Inspired Children's Book Journey

32:46 Embrace Change with Courage

Quote from Guest:

“Structure is really good. The routines are very good. Understand the flexibility, and I think we actually touched on a very important point that when dealing with others in business, to really take in mind, you know, their various learning styles. And even if you're one, somebody else may not be, and you may wanna try to incorporate all learning styles when dealing with people.”

Links:

Stefanie’s website, littlelolafrenchie.com, offers resources for parents on boosting language through daily routines and details about her children’s books, which are rich in practical routines and easy-to-apply vocabulary tips.

Transcripts

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Welcome to the One Small Change. I'm thrilled that you're taking time out of your

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schedule to spend some time with me to explore and

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see how we can help you transform. I'm your host, Yvonne

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McCoy, and I bring almost thirty years of entrepreneurial experience

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and a passion for discovering growth through the power of

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seemingly small change. So again, thank you for joining

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me. And this week I have a special guest who's got some

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interesting insights for you, Stephanie Trimholm.

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That's not right. Say say your last name the right way.

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Trim Trim Trim My name

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is kinetically not great for everybody. Don't worry.

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But we want people to know when they hear your name, who you

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are. So, Stephanie Yes.

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The purpose of this is what was a small change

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that seemed like it was small at the time that had an

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unexpected impact on you and helped you to transform and help

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you to do what you do now? Probably when I

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started my own business. I used to run a speech

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department here in Los Angeles. I'm a speech language pathologist, and I

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had been running a department in, you know, training

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CFs, which are clinical fellows who are going through the licensing program

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and or the licensing process rather. And I

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decided to try to open up my own practice. And

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as nervous as I was to do it, it's proved to be very successful.

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So I was glad that I did that little adjustment to no longer

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work for somebody else, but to work for myself. But for

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instance, when you did that, there was something that

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you felt you could deliver in a private practice that you couldn't

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when you were working in corporate that that steered you towards

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helping people with problems. Right? Well, I worked with

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a a clinic that was doing speech therapy. So even though

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I was running the speech department and I was taking care of a bunch

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of speech language pathologists and training, I was seeing my own case load.

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But it's very different when you work for somebody else

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versus working for yourself.

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And, while I did learn a lot at the company

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that I was at, and it gave me a lot of, you know, experience

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and confidence to be able to spread my wings and go on my

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own, there's really something to be said for working for

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yourself. I mean, it's scary because you're taking on a whole lot of different

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responsibilities and everything falls onto you. But

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if you have, you know, the right personality and the dedication, it can be

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wildly successful and very fulfilling. Well, one of

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the things that we talked about, I think that that, you know,

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we kinda hooked up with is

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how structure and routine can help your life.

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And I think for entrepreneurs, they're especially

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if they're in the spiritual realm. Right? They're

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like, I'm going to, you know, go with my gut.

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I'm gonna decide something different. And if you're doing something else,

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you have the shiny, you know, object syndrome. And so you're, like,

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doing like this. And routine seems

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like the last thing that you wanna do, but it's really what you need.

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Well, you do because, I mean, having your own

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business, you have to have some more sort of structure and routine

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because, you know, for example, in my own company, I have to be able to

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do my billing, doing my notes, organizing reports,

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talking to different kinds of professionals, that

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are seeing also the children that I see. I mean,

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while, yeah, there is some sort of flexibility,

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and we had talked about how, you know, I may have a therapy session

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planned in my mind to see a kid, and the kid arrives and they don't

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wanna do what kind of I've planned out. I have to be very flexible and,

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you know, adapt and try to still get my goals with something that they wanna

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do, but I can't run a practice doing that every single day. I would

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not be successful. I would not be meeting my kids' goals,

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and I wouldn't have been in business for as long as I have if I

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was just very, you know, easygoing

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and flying by the seat of my pants. I mean, how would I be able

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to submit bills or paperwork or, you know, show up for meetings

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for IEPs for kids? I mean, there has to be some level of

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structure. Well, not only that. You're talking about

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kind of tangible structure. Mhmm. And I think

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that structure also comes in the form of

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mindset. So one of the things that I teach is, what is your vision?

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And I call that dead reckoning. What is the thing that you're always aiming

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for? Because you have to adjust and adapt. You

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always do. It's kind of the the term dead reckoning comes from an old

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sailing term that you pick a point on the shore that you're always going

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to even if you have to tack and get on weed with those.

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Going that way. Right. You're still headed in that direction. So I think

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there are I think a lot of people think of structure and

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organization, that kind of thing, as being only

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the task that you're doing, but it also is your

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mindset. You have to have some kind of idea

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because that impacts that impacts the

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quality of the work you do. It impacts who you work

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with. It impacts you know, it keeps you from that

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shiny object syndrome because you could say, I'm headed here. I don't

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need to go over there. Right? Right. And so,

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you know, the one of the reasons I think that that I asked you about

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this is because you talked about children with,

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learning disabilities. Right? And I

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think that there are probable well, first of all, as I

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said to you, my philosophy is that you can't divide yourself in half.

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You can't, you know, be an entrepreneur, turn off the switch and then be a

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person, kind of. And so

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if you can deal with any of those kinds of learning

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situations, whether it's you as an adult or help

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your children or, you know, when you're communicating with other people,

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I think it's really helpful. And I am running into more and more

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adults that are discovering that they have some kind of a

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learning disability late in life, which is why

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they've avoided certain things. Right. So that

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was, I think, one of the reasons that I wanted you to talk about how

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structure can help you if you're experiencing those kind of

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things, particularly if you are an entrepreneur and you don't have structure.

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Well yeah. So we had talked about one of the things in my practice, and

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this is not just necessarily children with communication

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challenges or learning challenges, but all children, the way that

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children learn is through that routine and that

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structure. So, one of the things I'm always working with my families and

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teaching them is how you can grow in

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vocabulary and concept development through daily

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routines because there's a sense of predictability. Plus it gives a

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child a chance to hear the vocabulary associated with that routine

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over and over and over again, and that repetition is how they

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learn. And that's how all of us, anyways, learn. It doesn't matter if you're

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a kid. I mean, you know, I'm sure anyone, when they

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started a new job, even if they went to school in it, once they started

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doing it and doing it and doing it, it became easier.

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So that sense of predictability is what helps us

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learn and move forward. So it's not necessarily,

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like, if you go off the beaten path is bad, but

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you have to still have the same, like you said, the same end view

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in sight. And so, like I said, even with my therapy sessions,

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I may be working on a particular goal, you know,

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getting a child to use more complete phrases, and I have an activity

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planned, and they don't wanna do it, and they wanna do something else. Am I

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able to still get to my goal even though I'm going off course?

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Yeah. And it it's funny because I talked with someone who was

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a sales trainer. And one of the things that

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she has her people do is to give their

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sales I call it an introduction, not a pitch. Do you

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know? Give their sales introduction every day of the

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week, even if they have to do it to their family and friends.

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Right? And she said, it just makes it so that it's the more you do

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it, the more relaxed you get, the more, the

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easier it is to do. And then of course, the flip side of

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that from my perspective is I think one of the reasons for

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doing it is you can start to read how other people are are

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responding to it. You know, if it's the right crowd and they're not responding,

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then you're like, oh, I need to do something different. You know,

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but the more comfortable you are in doing it, the better you

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can do it, you know, the more confident you come across. So, you know,

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and, and you listen

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to so many stories about, you know,

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athletes. They talk about practice, practice, practice. And that's what

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repetition and structure really does for you. Right. I

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mean I mean, it's even think of a doctor. I mean, yeah, they do

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their first surgery. They're successful, but the more they do it,

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the better they get. They could probably do it with their eyes closed. Do you

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know what I mean? So, you know, we do need to have that sense

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of predictability and organization to get us to

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somewhere. And I just think it's important

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all around. I mean, especially as an entrepreneur. I mean, not only working with

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kids, but then, like I said, having your own business, any business that you have,

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I mean, you have to have some kind of organization,

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or how are you gonna be able to be successful?

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Well, you know, one of the things I think I shared this with you was,

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you know, if you can't be

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predictable in some way, your client's not gonna find

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you. You know, because if it's like one day you're selling this and the

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next day you're selling that or one day you've got you know, it's like,

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I'm confused. Validity to it. It's the key with certain validity.

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So yeah. I mean, definitely. But I

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think the other thing that that you were talking about, you know, kind of in

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terms of communication and how we learn,

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the more okay. This is my my my

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feeling. The more I learned about how I learned

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and the different styles that other people had, I think

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the better a communicator I became because I became

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aware that I have to give people

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information in a way that they that they can accept it. So,

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when I found out that I was, like, highly visual, and

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when I talk, I go, do you see this? You know, have you seen that?

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I mean and then, you know, my husband who is

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very auditory tends to say, did you hear

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this? Right? And suddenly I started listening to my

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kids. How do my, you know, when they were younger, how do my kids talk?

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What are the words that they're using so that I can communicate with

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them? But the same thing is true when you're talking to

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people that you want to work, you know, adults that you want to work with,

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if you're, if you're selling them, you know, to

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to to kinda test out what words are can you see this? Can you hear

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this? How do you feel about this? So the words

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that they use gives you a clue about how you have to give

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them information. At least that's been my experience. Well, it is. So

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what you're talking about are their various learning styles, and there generally are three

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learning styles. Like you said, a visual learner, an auditory

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learner, and the kinesthetic learner. Those are who learn by doing.

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So someone who takes apart a bike and puts it back together, they're kinesthetic.

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Most people are visual learners. So, actually, when I'm

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doing speech therapy sessions, I actually incorporate all three

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learning styles because I don't know what a kid is very young off.

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Majority of people are visual learners, which

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is kinda funny because I go into school sometimes and, you know, they have all

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the visuals on the walls of the classroom, but it's highly

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overwhelming. So it's, like, to the nth degree. But, you

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know, as we get older, you know, a lot of the teaching is auditory,

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and that's actually the least common learning style. But, like I

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was saying, when I'm working with my kids, I have kids learning by

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doing, by learning by seeing, and also the auditory.

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I'm working always on those three learning styles, and it is very important

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that people know what learning style they are because some people,

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you know, they are not auditory learners at all, and people just tell

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them something and they'll never remember what you're telling them. Or you may

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have to send them a memo or give them you know, teach them how to

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work on a a calendar. One of the things I do in my job, which

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also does with structure and routine, teaching older kids, you know, they get those

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school planners. A lot of kids, especially kids with learning challenges,

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don't wanna fill them in. They don't they don't actually write their homework

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assignments in, and then they're lost, and they don't know when things are due. So

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I actually have to physically teach them how to do that so they know what

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to expect. But then now they see it, and they're like, oh, yeah.

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That's when that's due versus trying to remember the teacher said,

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oh, that assignment's due in two weeks, and it goes in one year and out

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the other. Well, it's interesting because this really

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dates me. Before we had Zoom, before we had all these other things,

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I took my my coaching. They were

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teleclasses. So you actually called into a, you know,

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a conference call and you got your class, which was,

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like, horrible for me. I mean, I had to actually because I'm a

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I'm a visual kinetic. I like to touch it. I like to see it, and

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I like to touch it. Right. So for those

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classes, I actually had to buy

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myself a toy to play with

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so that I could focus and listen. And I have since

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learned that if you highlight, you know, that the the the act

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of highlighting things and, you know, people who are highly visual

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and and kinetic take massive amounts of notes that

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we never read again. Do you know?

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That was me in school. Yep. And so now what I've

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learned is I take massive amounts of notes still,

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But as I'm going through, I'll highlight something. So if I

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ever just right. So, like, I can go back and go, this was a good

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point. This was a good point. This was a good point. But, you know,

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I think part of one of the lessons that entrepreneurs can take away from

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this is if you're making presentations, you need

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to hit all those things. Yeah. And even when I still go to

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my continuing education classes, because to be able to maintain my license,

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I have to go do the CEUs. And I

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really don't like when I'm just being lectured at. I

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you know, having learning challenges myself, auditory processing,

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you know, I just I cannot stand just being talked

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to. I like when they give you examples and you're engaging and you're

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having conversations with people or you're acting things out, you know,

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and there's things on a board. Like, I want it to be a

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multimodal, and that's even something we've discussed with even my kids.

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Kids that may not be necessarily verbal, and they're nonspeaking,

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and they're learning to talk. They need a multimodal communication system,

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which includes the gestures, which includes signs, which may include pictures,

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which may include words. So it's

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everywhere. Like, the learning styles are literally everywhere.

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Well, it's funny because I went, I was I'm gonna be in a

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summit, and so they had a speakers thing. And so one of the

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things that they said, and I didn't relate it to what we're

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talking to, but it makes perfect sense is, you know, she was saying

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instead of put the you know, saying put yes in the chat, you

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should say write this down. Because when you write

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stuff down, chances return. Right.

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And so Nobody actually really realizes that.

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People think it's very laborious and cumbersome. Oh, gosh. Do I have to take notes?

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But, actually, it's been proven time and time again, there's something that

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goes activation in your brain with you actually doing the physical motor

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of writing actually activates parts of your brain to

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help you learn versus, like, people taking one

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word notes, you know, like, or one word. I'm like, what does that mean? It's

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not gonna help you recall anything. So that's that

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that tip right there is is worth gold, people. As an

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entrepreneur, both in your family life and, you

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know, and in your business, when you're talking to people to

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try to be in as many different modes as possible, If you're

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giving a workshop or you're giving a presentation to encourage

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people to write it down. Now, what I, I have a model

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called Make Your Learning Last and it's, you

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learn something, you apply it, and then you

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share it. And the act of sharing it helps you to

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clarify if you really understand what it is you think you got.

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But in terms of being an entrepreneur, it also makes you a generous

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expert who's willing to share new things. And then you put a time or a

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thought trigger on it. When am I gonna use this? Because that to

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me is the piece that's missing. When I was in corporate, I would learn

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something really fantastic. And then when the chaos hit, my reaction

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was, what binder is that in? And I could never I could

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never get back to it. So you have to to be proactive and use your

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learning. You have to actually you know, you've applied it once.

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When when is a good time to apply it again?

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So you've given

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I don't know where you wanna start. Let's start with

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three three ways that entrepreneurs can can

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learn, you know, can come up with things that they can use in

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their business that that revolve around structure and learning

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styles? Well, don't

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put things off, number one, because everybody always says we're gonna get to things

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later, and I think that's a kiss of death as an entrepreneur. You should really

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if you're gonna do something, do it right away because chances are, A, if you

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don't write it down, you're gonna forget about it. And things

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can happen in the interim, so don't put things

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off. I live by notes. Post

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it notes are my best friends because they're easy. Even in my

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books when I'm doing assessment tools, I post a note books to find

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things easier. You know, if I'm trying to find standardized scores to be able

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to report things in an assessment, so I'm

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highlighting as well all the time. So post notes, highlighters.

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You know, people think when you're done with school, you shouldn't take notes, which

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I don't agree. You should always be taking notes.

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And definitely keeping some sort of a schedule. A schedule

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is very helpful in keeping you organized and on

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track. But understand that that schedule may have to change every

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so often and being able to be flexible with that because there are always

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hiccups in the world. So there a couple of things that I

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that I found is that

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when you're scheduling, people tend

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to schedule specific tasks, you know, like

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I'm meeting with this project. I think that the

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piece that people are really missing is they really miss

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putting in time to be creative and thoughtful about their business,

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right, or to take care of themselves. Because they're like,

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I'll do it later. I'll you know, like you were saying, I'll do it later.

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Right. But if you put it in your calendar and say,

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I'm gonna take half a day every month that I'm

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gonna sit and kinda take a look at my business, that kinda thing.

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And it adds a structure to it so that you can add to it and,

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you you know, you can kind of evaluate what's going

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on. So I think that's really important in terms of

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structure too is it's not just, you know, I'm gonna take

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this phone call. I'm gonna do the that you you prioritize

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and put in the priorities. So one prior

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analysis, the reflection, which a lot of people don't do.

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So, like, I even like, if I've had a therapy

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session and it didn't necessarily go the way that I had planned it,

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I gotta sit back and reevaluate because I've been doing this for a long

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time. What could I have done differently? What

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why why did potentially this not work out? You really

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need to also you're making a good point. Schedule

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time to evaluate how things are gone and being able to

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make modifications. So, yeah, keeping certain appointments,

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being able to set up meetings, whatever. But a successful

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business also evaluates, and that's even people evaluating

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how things are going. Well and and when we talk

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about systems, right, so, I mean, we take something as simple as

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networking. If you don't give yourself time

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to follow-up after the networking, you've kinda, you know,

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cut the impact down. So if your networking

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event ends at two, you know, give yourself a half an

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hour so so that you can look at what you've done and the notes make

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sense and you can contact people on LinkedIn or whatever because

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tomorrow, you're not gonna remember what those notes mean. And that's why I

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said don't put things off. Whenever I'm at networking events and I

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ask, are they on social media? Are you in LinkedIn? I just reach

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out right away. Or if I get business cards,

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I try to deal with them right away because they'll get lost. You'll forget.

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You can't remember who who so and so is, you know, even

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when I get a new client. And, you know, I get referrals all the time.

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I take notes in my phone. Even if I say them in my phone, I

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actually put notes in what's their challenge, what their you know,

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I just what areas of need do they have? Because down the road

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when a parent follows up with me, I'm like, oh gosh. Who is Susie again?

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It doesn't make me also look really good if I don't remember, you know, as

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a certain child. And and and I think also, I

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think the important thing is

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systems and habits don't have to be the

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systems and habits that you had as a kid. I mean,

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but there are some through lines that stay with you. So for

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instance, I am definitely into color coding.

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I love color coding. And so, you know, I I will give

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a project a, you know, a color. And so, you know, like, if

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right I right right now I'm trying to reorganize my calendar. So

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initial contact is now green, clients are

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blue, podcasts are red. So I know when I look

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at it what you know, I don't have to know who it is. I just

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know. Right? And that's that can be part of a

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habit that can make your life a lot simpler, but you

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design the process and the habit. I

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mean, because one of the things I talk about about productivity

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is is can you automate something? And when I mean

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automate, I don't mean necessarily technically, but there's a

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process for it. So when my kids got to be, like,

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young teenagers, double digits someplace, And I

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was, I was working and, you know, my husband was

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working. We had this this thing about, you

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know, about dinner. So on Saturday, I cooked the one

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pot meal. I'm the queen of the one pot casserole. My husband's

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a real cook, you know, so on Sunday he cooked the big meal. Monday and

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Tuesday, we had leftovers. Wednesday, my daughter did spaghetti, so we you

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know, or some kind of pasta. So we called her the pasta queen.

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And then on Thursday, my son did sloppy joes. And on

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Friday, we did go for yourself, clean out all the left. I

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mean, it was but it made it such a Because you have

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a sense of predictability. Now that doesn't mean that one day on Thursday,

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you're not gonna go out to dinner or something comes up. Right. But at

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least if you have that sense of predictability, and that's the same thing that I

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try to explain to parents in my office, when kids

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have a sense of predictability, their stress level goes

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down. And it's interesting since we're actually on winter break right now and

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seeing some of my kids over the holidays, they don't have that

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structure. They don't have that routine. They don't have that sense of

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predictability. And And guess what are up? Their behaviors,

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their frustration levels. Because they're not in school, they're not doing

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that. So, I mean, like, that goes back to our

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routines and structure. It's helpful. It doesn't mean you have to

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live by that, but at least it makes

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life easier. Well, it's funny because

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when I was when my kids were younger and they were in day care, when

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I would pick them up on Fridays, their teacher would just say,

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all you need to do is maintain maintain

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what we've what we've put together. You know? You don't have to invent

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something totally different. You just have to maintain it. Right?

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And, you know, so we would laugh because, you know,

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a lot of times we didn't, and we should've. Alright.

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Tell me before we run out of time. Tell me what you're giving us.

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Well, on my website for, those who have

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children or wanna understand more about routines, on my

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website or Lola's website, because I published my first kid's book

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and my second one is currently being published, and

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the stories all follow routines. I have Lola's first book here,

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which is about bath time. So the routine of bath and the

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language that follows bath. On Lola's website, which

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actually is littlelolafrenchie.com, there

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is a section on language, and there are tables

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that discuss the type of vocabulary that parents could elicit for

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children in certain routines or just even more general goals

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of following directions and how taking can be elicited

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through that. There's also, a a

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podcast that I actually did with a great, doctor out here in LA

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discussing the importance of routines and structures because

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it's really funny that what we're discussing is actually

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really you know, what we say, like, those duh statements, they're really very

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self explanatory, but people miss it. You don't like, you're,

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like, you don't really think about it, and you're like, well, that makes sense. And

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then when you see it into action, you're like, oh, that really makes sense. So

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people can go online to help, elicit language in

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their children, all children, again, not necessarily somebody with communication

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disorders, but how we can help boost language

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learning through daily routines. Well, I think I think

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one of the you know, I think sometimes people do not realize

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that as an entrepreneur,

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the words that you use on a regular basis Mhmm.

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Is how people find you and how they relate to you.

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And so, like I said, so so many times our beliefs

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are from our childhood, and maybe they were good beliefs when we were

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children, but, you know, and we did things because

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somebody told us to do it. Now that you're an adult,

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you have to find out what is your way of

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doing it that makes sense. Do you know?

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And the other part to that is things have changed.

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I mean, from the time I was a child, they've changed a

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lot. So so, you know, if you know what

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your your goal is, you now have other ways to get there.

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Right? So you have other options. I mean, we can, you know, you can

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read a book, you can go on Google, you can get ChatTpT as a

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continuous learner. And as an entrepreneur, you need to stay

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relevant. And so as you stay relevant, I would

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encourage everybody to take a look at their learning style and the way they

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communicate with people and the way that they come across. And

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I'm not telling you that you shouldn't do it a certain way

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because we each need to feel comfortable in our own skin,

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but you need to know that other people do not get it the same

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way that you possibly you get it. When when

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I used to talk about a communication, I used to say, did

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you ever go someplace with somebody else's

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family? And they go, oh, remember uncle John's fiftieth birthday

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party? And everybody cracks up laughing, and you haven't got a

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clue. Well, that's context specific.

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Right? Right. But I'm just saying, but but but depending

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on where you are and the words that you use and stuff, they can have

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totally different meanings that in, you know, the way that you come across. And

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so that's why I think it's so important that we be aware

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that this is something we can evaluate. We can see

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what happens, that there are better ways. There are things that we can

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incorporate. And a very easy one is

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routine. Because when you have a routine, you can

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say, I followed these five steps

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this time and got a great result. I did it next time, and I didn't.

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What was different? And you can evaluate the situation so you

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can get better results. I can't believe our time

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is almost up because I think we could keep going on this. So

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when was the last time you did something new for the first time?

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Probably in the pandemic when I've always wanted to write a children's

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book, understanding language and learning and literacy.

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And, well, that that whole time of the pandemic was a whole learning style because

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we had to learn how to do therapy on a computer. I still went

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into the office, but I did do Zoom sessions, and that was

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very challenging. I still do Zoom sessions, but, you know, you're a little bit

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more selective because it's not again, for learning styles, being on a computer

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screen isn't the greatest for everybody. I need to physically be with the kid or

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whatever. So that was, a whole new learning curve

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in and of itself. And at that time is when I decided to

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take something that I always wanted to do and try to reach

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more families and more children by writing my children's books.

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And, you know, that was a

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whole I mean, you know, writing a book in a

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sense is easy, but you don't realize all the other things that go along with

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it, like the trademarking, the copywriting, the, you know, finding

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the book distributors and, you know, and there's no, like, writing a

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book for dummies. So I had to figure it out on my own.

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So but, you know, I got through, and it was rewarding. So the second time

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around, it was a lot easier. But Right.

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And it was. And, again, took good notes, kept good

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files, and so it was very much helpful.

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So that and I found that to be very, very rewarding and

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exciting and something that, you know, I continue

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hopefully, will continue doing with more books for Lola.

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Sounds fantastic. And we're almost out

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of time. And so I need to put in the commercial. And so as

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a first step, I would love it if those of you that are listening would

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subscribe, share and engage with this podcast on social

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media. And it's really designed to help supercharge

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your business. It's a way for you to connect. And it's a way for me

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to give back to the entrepreneurial community.

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And I want to help you in your quest for growth and impact. So if

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you'll join me for the one small change and we can see what we

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can do together. If you haven't listened to the first episode, you should

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do that and see who else's, podcaster there so

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that you can pick and choose what you need at the time that you need

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it. So Stephanie, give me your last

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words before we go.

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I mean, structure is really good. The routines are very good. Understand

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the flexibility, and I think we actually touched on a very important point

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that when dealing with others in business, to

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really take in mind, you know, their various

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learning styles. And even if you're one, somebody else may not be, and you may

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wanna try to incorporate all learning styles when

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dealing with people. So I

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think that's so true. I think that makes you so much more relatable that you're

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trying to relate. So that's it for us. So

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remember, change is simple, but it's not always easy. And

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it requires courage and resilience and a willingness to step out of your comfort

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zone. So I hope you will join me again for the one small change,

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as we embark on this journey and your bold vision and innovative

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possibilities. And until next time, please stay

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curious. Stephanie, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and

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your time with us today. Thank you for having me, Yvonne. Thank

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you.

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