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"A Mother's Day to Remember: From Pizza to Martinis and More for Mom.
Episode 32 • 8th May 2025 • Family Tree Food Stories • Nancy May & Sylvia Lovely
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Mother's Day Celebrations, Meals, Traditions, History, and Stories to Last a Lifetime!

Are you looking for some inspiration to make this Mother's Day 2025 a bit more special? In this next episode of Family Tree Food & Stories, Nancy May and Sylvia Lovely delve into the lost stories behind how Mother's Day food and family traditions, some sweet and others wild and wacky.

You’ll learn some lesser-known facts about Mother’s Day, like how the celebration as we know it today originated in a West Virginia church in 1908 and when President Woodrow Wilson declared it a national holiday.

Listen closely as they recount the comically revealing Mother's Day card that Nancy made for my mom, where she innocently drew her relaxing with a martini on the couch —imagine my teacher's reaction! Meanwhile, Sylvia shares stories of the simple family traditions, like eating out on sunny patios and reminiscing beside gravesides, turning even bittersweet visits into more personal experiences.

One listener, Meredith, shares her unconventional but charming Mother's Day ritual—pizza delivery and effortless togetherness. Another contributor, Frida, describes how she honors her vivacious 91-year-old mother, Gloria, with a new hat every year and a festive meal at their favorite Mexican restaurant, Tumbleweed.

There’s a lot more to this show than a virtual greeting card and a brunch reservation.   

🌹Key Takeaways:

  • How to celebrate without stress: It’s not about extravagant gifts but about the warmth of spending time together—even if that means enjoying a simple pizza or donuts.
  • Interesting International Traditions:  One that includes tying mom up to a tree!  Imagine doing that!
  • The Power of Food and Stories: From burgers lovingly prepared by moms to tacky outfits worn by a mom with pride – and maybe a little embarrassment. It's these quirky memories and meals that keep our connections strong.
  • Honoring Moms Past with Humor and Heart: Moments of loss, laughter, and simple gestures often leave the most lasting impressions —leaving sparkly trinkets at a graveside or hidden notes in crypts—can profoundly celebrate our loved ones.

🎧 Tune In and Share the Love and More in this Mother's Day episode :

Join us as we celebrate Mother's Day by honoring the traditions, recipes, and stories that connect us to our roots. Whether you're looking for ideas to start a new tradition or simply honoring mom with tried-and-true traditions, this episode is a tribute to mothers everywhere.

Remember, every mom, whether human or fur-baby caregiver, deserves a day filled with joy, good food, and endless stories.

Tune in now and make this Mother's Day unforgettable for you and your mom!

📣 What's Next?

Love food and a good story? Hit subscribe to Family Tree, Food & Stories for more unforgettable tales where laughter simmers, tradition stirs, and every meal comes with a side of real-life flavor.

👇 Share this episode with a friend who’s ever fought a box of noodles and lived to tell about it—and don’t forget to leave a review!

👇Share Your Story With Nancy & Sylvia!: Leave us a voicemail or send us a DM on Facebook.

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About Your Award-Winning Hosts: Nancy May and Sylvia Lovely are the powerhouse team behind Family Tree, Food & Stories, a member of The Food Stories Media Network, which celebrates the rich traditions and connections everyone has around food, friends, and family meals. Nancy, an award-winning business leader, author, and podcaster, and Sylvia, a visionary author, lawyer, and former CEO, combine their expertise to bring captivating stories rooted in history, heritage, and food. Together, they weave stories that blend history, tradition, and the love of food, where generations connect and share intriguing mealtime stories and kitchen foibles.

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Hey everybody, it's Nancy May and Sylvia Lovely here once again with another episode of

Family Tree Food and Stories.

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And this show is all about Mother's Day.

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Now Sylvia, you know, I am not a people mother.

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I am a mother of four babies, our two standard poodles, bad dog number one and bad dog

number two, otherwise known as Otis of Reading and the Mighty Quinn.

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But my mother included said that if you don't climb high,

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If you don't climb high enough up the ladder, you're never going to be called a mother.

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So I guess I'm another, I'm a mother of another name.

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I love that story.

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Can I tell another quick story before we get into Mother's Day?

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I had a Louisiana guy, my counterpart in Louisiana, doesn't matter what it was, but he was

from Louisiana and I had him in my car.

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And I swerved to not hit a bicycle or something, I don't know what it was, but I

instinctively put my arm across him and in that beautiful Louisiana accent, you must be a

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mother.

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Yeah

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I love that.

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one mother to another mother.

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I loved it.

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dear.

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Hey, Mother's Day, probably the sweetest holiday of the year.

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It's so popular, more popular, I think, than Father's Day.

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Sorry, dads, but mothers are just something really special in our celebration.

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And that's what we're doing here today.

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And do you want to when it was invented?

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OK, yeah.

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first celebrated in 1908 in May 10th in a church in West Virginia.

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And this is interesting because so much of America today evolved from the Civil War.

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And a woman was like a caregiver extraordinaire to Union and Confederate soldiers.

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She wanted to take care of them.

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She wanted to help them.

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And she died unexpectedly, so her daughter kind of took up the mantle.

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That's who celebrated the first Mother's Day that we know of in this.

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daughter who celebrated Mother's Day?

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Okay.

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left off and sometime later in 1908, we celebrated that first one.

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Yeah, I know.

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But it sort of all began there in the Civil War of taking care of all the soldiers and so

the ultimate mother kind of thing.

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So it's kind of interesting, but Woodrow Wilson, President Woodrow Wilson, made it a

national holiday in:

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The only regret she has is that became commercialized.

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you know.

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debunks my theory that it was a Hallmark special, right?

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I think that we all think that it started with Hallmark to figure out a commercialization,

but really it was a celebration of all things mom.

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of a mother who had really given her life, I guess, her life story to, and then it had

evolved into taking care of people, which is what is it's celebrated around the world.

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In Great Britain, I know you have roots there.

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It's called Mothering Sunday.

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And mothers are celebrated in history in many, many ways.

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I wonder if there's another holiday called mothering, like mother, mother, mothering.

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All the mothers, we're doing all the mothers, darling.

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So, do you know what the number one thing that mothers report that they want because we

get them all kinds of things we give them candy That's important.

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But the number one thing is They like to go out with their family and a homemade card

Isn't that sweet?

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And I've seen many of those

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Yep.

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Over the years.

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two boys and I have 10 grandchildren.

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And of course, we also have grandmothers.

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So it's a celebration, a giant celebration of that.

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So that's their number one request.

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So can I tell you about my Mother's Day card?

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So, you know, as a kid in school, you're always told to make a Mother's Day card or some

sort of thing about moms for Mother's Day and Father's Day.

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Well, I don't know what grade it was.

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It must have been maybe first, I'm gonna say first grade.

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And my mom had saved this card and it was really an essay we had to do about our mothers.

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So this...

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Nancy's handwriting, which my husband insists hasn't changed so much since I was in first

grade, but it's for another show.

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And it talks about my mom, what a great mom she is and how she doesn't like me to do this

and she doesn't like me to do that.

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She doesn't like me to hit my sister.

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Well, you know, okay.

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You know, sisters, whatever.

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And then at like the final page, it's got a picture of her laying on the couch that I've

drawn.

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And it says, my mom likes to lay on the couch and drink martinis.

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wow.

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Can you imagine the first grade teacher who thought, okay, what's going on in this house?

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I love that.

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I love that.

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Such an original.

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That is precious.

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My personal desire, I like to go out and eat, but then that's not saying much because my

husband and I eat out all the time anyway.

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We barely ever eat at home.

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Almost had a pizza delivery window installed in my house when my kids were growing up

because I was traveling everywhere and all of that kind of stuff.

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I like to go out now generally mothers like a lighter fare.

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You know they're not into the grilling of steaks like on Father's Day.

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That's what dad likes to do right kind of heavy meals and moms are into the lighter

versions of meals and for 20 years.

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The own Dessour and it closed on December 31st going to reopen I might say but that's

where we went out on the patio because second second Saturday Sunday in May.

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up here in the North Country, Nancy.

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It's beautiful by then.

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It's just the May flowers have come out, April showers have gone away, and starting to get

hot, but not too bad.

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You can wear your frilly dress and be out on the veranda.

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In our case, it was a restaurant patio.

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And if we're not open by the second Sunday in May, I don't know what I'll do.

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I'll get the shakes.

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Because that's what we do.

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Gather up as

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right?

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gather as many of my loved ones as I can, my grands and everything.

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course, I'm at an age where my mother is gone.

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And so on a, and I don't know if you do this or not, but she's in a cemetery not too far

from here.

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And so I do, and I don't go as often as I used to, but I always go on Mother's Day and

Father's Day.

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And I take some kind of a flower, but.

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I gotta tell you a non-food story about visiting my mother though, okay?

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Just indulge me, all right?

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When my mother was watching my boys and she did such a beautiful job of it, she would read

the obituaries, just in general, older people tend to do that, And she would find on

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occasion stories where young men died unexpectedly and for no reason at all at 18 or

something, but always born around the time my boys were.

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Some of those children, those boys, are buried in that same cemetery.

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And so I walk around and I visit all of their graves in addition to hers.

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And I think of them as her grandsons, that she's nurturing them even now in this beyond

where we are today that none of us know what is.

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Anyway, it's just a thing that I do on Mother's Day and walk around to those other graves.

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You know, do the same.

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Right.

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I do.

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I do the same thing and visit my folks and there because they're not too far from here

either in a a VA military engraved in Bushnell.

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But and I'll leave flowers.

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don't need real flowers because the deer will eat them.

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So I get something pretty or something sparkly.

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But when my mom died and this is, guess, maybe shooting by on Dying Mother's Day.

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But it's a mom's story.

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Right.

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Mom liked things that were sparkly.

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So anytime I was down and I had sparkly shoes on or something, she'd go, ooh, ooh, she

liked the sparkles.

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So when she died and she had been cremated on the urn, what I did is I made a t-shirt that

had a picture of her and my dad ironed onto the t-shirt.

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And then we put all sorts of bling around it.

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So we put that in, we put the urn in the t-shirt.

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And so she's buried with bling.

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And then we've got friends who passed away that were very good friends of theirs that were

also in the cemetery.

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And they're in a crematorium where mom dad are actually in the ground and in urns.

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And I found the other last time I was there that there's a way to sort of, there's always

like a little bit of air space between the stone that has their name on it and the actual

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wall.

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So I take little notes.

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and I sneak them and I slip them in there.

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So if anybody ever opens Jackie and David, Jacqueline Morris and David Morris's crypt,

they're going to find a lot of my notes.

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Little stories.

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Mom says hello.

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Dad says hello.

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Love you lots, Nancy.

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precious.

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That is just precious.

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I love that.

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I thought you were going to tell me that you put a martini glass on her stone.

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no, that would be pretty funny.

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I never saw my mom drink a martini and I've only had one.

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I think one's enough for me.

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I'm not a big martini drinker, but I thought that was a funny story, right?

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You know, it's food related.

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There you go.

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And who is the famous outlaw that's out in Colorado, buried in Colorado at the top of a

mountain out in Glenwood Springs?

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How do I know this?

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Anyway, a dock holiday that somebody places a little bottle of bourbon, I think it's

bourbon, on his gravestone.

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And it's always there the next day.

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Because he was well known for imbibing a bit.

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Isn't that something?

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That's food.

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know about it because it's probably Kentucky bourbon, right?

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is.

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So there you go.

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anyway, yeah, popular gifts.

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What do you think?

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Besides a day with the family.

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we always, my dad never knew what to get.

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And besides going out to dinner, which mom didn't always like to do because it was

crowded, you know, it's crowded on Mother's Day and yeah, it's always a zoo at

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restaurants.

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But he would take us girls out and we'd always end up getting the most god awful tacky

outfits for my mother.

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And she wore them anyway.

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the outfits.

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I have to laugh.

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Boy, what a sport my mom was.

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The fake fur on the tacky coats and the You know, my dad thought they were great.

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Do you like it?

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yeah, she would always pretend to go along with it.

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She loved it.

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So We were we were while I grew up in Long Island Yep grew up in Long Island and then my

last year high school was up in Massachusetts But we had some pretty tacky efforts that

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and perfume dad was always getting perfume and flowers, you know flowers So dad stopped

getting mom flowers

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because he used to only get gladiolas because they were cheap and they lasted forever.

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And mom one day said, know, you can get me flowers anytime you want, just don't get me

gladiolas because it reminds me of death, you know, death flowers.

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So dad never got her flowers again.

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Anytime she got flowers, I had to get her flowers.

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The most popular flowers are roses.

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Roses, yeah, roses figure into all these holidays, don't they?

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We've talked about Valentine's.

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a rose?

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Do you know?

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No, you know, I don't think so.

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My mother, I don't even remember that we even celebrated Mother's Day.

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It just wasn't a great big time for us, but probably didn't ever really think about that.

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She was very plain and seemed to enjoy life that way.

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Another popular one is chocolate and sweets.

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Obviously, Tartcuterie and cheese boards.

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And here's my favorite, Jim Beam Specialty Whiskey Ground Coffee.

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Ooh, well that's fairly new compared to when we were growing up, right?

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They didn't have flavored coffee when we were growing up.

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Go mom.

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My mother was a teetotaler, so there wasn't any chance to ever get her anything like that.

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was a tea totaler of another type,

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My mother was the kind that when the preacher came, my dad would run out the back door and

my mother would stay and entertain the preacher, but I always followed him out the back

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door.

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I don't know what that meant.

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I don't know what that meant.

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I was a bit of a rebel.

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I was a bit of a rebel.

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But I have a story about my mother and my grandmothers and again, very plain people,

Eastern Kentucky, born to poverty, that kind of thing.

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That's their stick.

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But when I got married, now I didn't go get all that stuff like at, you know, Macy's or

anything or the bridal shops.

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just didn't.

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It never even occurred to me.

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Yeah, no registry stuff for me.

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Yeah.

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And again, I was a little bit of a rebel.

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You know, I was kind of during the hippie era.

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But my mother and grandmother and my aunts all pooled their money and went out and bought

me china.

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Aww.

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It was on sale.

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That was the only reason they bought it.

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didn't have any kind of special pattern that we wanted or anything because I didn't even

think about China.

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What would I do with that?

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you know, so that was heartwarming, know.

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A mother's love and a grandmother's love and pooling their little meager funds to do that.

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sweet.

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sure that their daughter had the right supplies to entertain and being social, being a

social butterfly.

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That's very sweet.

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I love that.

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Hey, I've got a great story for Meredith Plant.

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know, Meredith is one of our top contributors.

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She's done so much.

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She's been on this.

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Yeah, let's take a break.

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Yeah, let's do.

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because I want to hear what the rest of that story is going to be if you hold on.

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So I'm anxious to hear what our top fan, or one of our top fan, Meredith Plant's story is

all about with her mom.

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Okay, well here goes.

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I've got a story from Merida from Frida too, who's another one of our top contributors,

but Meredith.

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She I sent her an email and I said, Meredith, tell me a story about what you give your

mother for as far as food goes.

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Do you go out to eat?

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What do you do?

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She wrote back and she said, Well, I'm kind of ashamed of this.

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But I just never think my dad nor I cook.

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And I never think of what to

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do for her like go out to eat or what so we just order a pizza.

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And I said you know what that's a beautiful story because what that is she said her mother

loves it and they just sit and it's on a Saturday and they get their pizza and I said it's

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about being together it really doesn't matter about all the fancy food and stuff in fact

if she cooked all day she'd be exhausted or if you cooked all day you'd be exhausted so

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you know and you have to clean up yeah.

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no dishes and time together.

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I like it.

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Yeah.

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And then Frida, of course, we all know and love Gloria, 91 year old Gloria that we

featured on the show on all kinds of things.

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we were featured in a magazine in Maysville, Kentucky, and the newspaper and their

lifestyle magazine were featured in there.

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Our book and my family tree, Food and Stories is in there.

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And I said, Frida, tell me a story about your mother and Mother's Day.

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And she said her mother who was, you know, just a shack, who lives in a house that's

falling down.

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I mean, you know, she's just such a character and she gets a new hat every Mother's Day.

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Frida buys her a hat.

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And so they're all in, Frida has to buy the big hat things to keep them in.

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And that's her, she loves her hats.

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And then they take her to Tumbleweed in Maysville, which is a Mexican restaurant.

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It's a chain.

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Used to be here, not anymore, but it is, I think it's gone to more small towns.

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A lot of the restaurants are doing that, where they're going to smaller markets and being

kind of more exclusive.

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So anyway, I thought that was a sweet story, that she hats, hats and tumbleweed.

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And I told her to send a picture, yeah, Gloria.

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Oops.

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Hold on a second.

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you

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What's going on?

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right in the middle of recording, right?

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Sorry.

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That's his phone, not mine.

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Shouldn't have been here anyway.

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Yeah.

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What's that?

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Well, you're going out to eat or you're at home.

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It doesn't matter.

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And you maybe got several people around the table.

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Tell store food stories like start with someone and and shamelessly take their take our

book and write them down.

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But, you know, each person comes up with a food story or a moment in time and really get

the ball rolling.

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And then I

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Guarantee there'll be laughter at that table and just a wonderful little tradition to

start if you haven't done it before.

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a story that happened around the kitchen with your mom, right?

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Because then you can make a Mother's Day related.

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Some faux pas or crazy things that happen.

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gosh, we've got too many stories that we laugh about that I probably shouldn't put on the

air because it would be, I would embarrass my mom, so I'm not going to do that.

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At least on a Mother's Day show.

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I'll wait to some other show where we can, yeah, we'll be a little snarkier, right?

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Maybe I will even martini on a gravestone.

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She and Doc Holliday.

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I love that.

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Or, you know, some other like creative kinds of things.

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You could take a cooking class with Mom.

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Just something where you're together.

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Or a weird tour.

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One suggestion was of donut shops.

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I don't know if I could eat too many donuts.

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I mean, I don't know about that one, but anyway, that was a...

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I love to do with my mom when we had moved from Massachusetts and after I was in college,

I'd come back and visit and our little town in up in Rochester, Massachusetts, it was

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tiny.

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The post office, the general store and Alice's diner were all in one building.

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It was a tiny building.

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Right.

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And I say the center of town, you knew, is the center of town because there was a flagpole

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right in front of the post office.

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And that was it.

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So we're talking, I'm going to say it was probably about 1200 square feet for all three.

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But so it was tiny in the back, the little diner, you could have a cup of coffee and mom

and mom would every say whenever it was like sort of a rough day and was cold, she doesn't

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want to go have a cuppa.

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So we'd go have a cuppa, whatever it was, coffee or tea.

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And just as another friend would say, do a chin wag together at the diner at Alice's Diner

and talk about.

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A chin wag.

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That is so neat.

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a British expression.

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Yeah.

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Chin wag.

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I love that one, right?

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Yep.

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And have a cuppa.

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That's great.

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Hey, I love the tradition in Serbia.

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I love the aftermath of it more than I like.

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This is where children tie mom up and she has to give them gifts.

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Oh, you love that?

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mean, really?

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Seriously?

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But they get revenge.

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This is the part I like is that on Children's Day, apparently they must have one.

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Same thing goes.

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She gets to tie them up and they have to give her gifts.

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I tie them up and never let them out.

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Roll them up and stick them in the closet.

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That's why I'm not their mother.

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So one of the things that, and I don't know if you ever got a chance to do this, but I

tried to write a little haiku about my mother.

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And you know haikus are five syllables, seven syllables in the second line, and five in

the third line.

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And that means you have very spare wording.

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I you can't get a lot in there, right?

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In Japan, it's very strict.

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In other cultures, it's not.

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So you can exceed that a little bit.

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I did a little bit.

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You want to hear my haiku?

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Tribute to mama.

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Burgers were your claim to fame.

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Prepared with love, sprinkles, and care.

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Not Julia Childs?

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No shame, my dear.

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I love it.

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I don't know that I'm much of a poet, but anyway, tried.

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Mama tried.

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So that's all about Mother's Day.

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There's so much, this is such a wonderful time of year, the spring, every thing popping

up.

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And I know we've talked about spring before, but especially in May.

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Now I have one other little thing to share.

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Now I did go to school down south in Virginia and May was, early May, it was just before,

end of April, early May, around Kentucky Derby Day and Mother's Day is when school would

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let out for the year because it gets too hot in the south, right?

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And so people let out early.

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But we also go to school early.

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Sorry, the school starts early.

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They did maypoles, the maypole dance.

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Yeah, that was kind of cool.

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So they had, yep, maybe they had the selecting of what they called.

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Yep.

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So weave them in and out.

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I never got selected.

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But you know what?

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That's okay, because it just seemed a little too much work for me.

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said, I don't do that girly stuff.

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Just, know, not unless they included a pair of horse boots.

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Yeah, what about in Florida?

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Do you have a sense of spring?

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Because I mean, I know it turns wickedly hot in the summer, but you know, there are

seasons in Florida.

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I mean, I know I live here.

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springtime right now.

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We're recording this in end of March.

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So, but we're always thinking about our moms.

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doesn't matter what, right?

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But the, now it's like the oak trees, alive oak trees, those big graceful trees that sort

of hang over.

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see that the Southern antebellum kind of look with the Spanish moss.

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Well, the leaves don't really fall off in the winter time, but they do get kind of this

grayish.

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greenish kind of old.

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But in the springtime now, all the new leaves are pushing those old leaves off the tree.

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So it's like they're kicking the old ones off and the new ones are coming through the

sprouts of the old ones.

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So it's kind of neat to see that fresh spring green is like my favorite color.

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I love that color.

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don't kick old moms off the tree, on the tree of life.

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the tree of life, right?

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She just gets her own branch.

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And the wildflowers are beautiful down here.

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The blankets of the baby pink, they're just baby pink blanket all across.

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And I just learned that you can buy them by five pounds of seeds.

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So we're gonna sprinkle them in our front yard and hopefully next year.

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not only fur babies, but you're also mothering a couple of other little ones, right?

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Trees.

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trees and plants and we're getting some new flowers in and that will be fun.

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But yes, my olive trees.

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I'm a mother to my olive trees and now are two avocados, which I've called, what I called

it, Ava and Cody are avocado trees.

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Well, Ava Cody instead of avocado.

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clever.

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You're a little slow.

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It's late.

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been a little mothering too hard Here's Eva Cody avocado.

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Haha.

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so cute.

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So, but that's my mothering.

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It's either a green branch or a green tree or a fur baby or taking care of mom and dad in

those days and age.

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But I never said I was, I was being their mom.

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always, I was always their kid.

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So, but that's me.

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always nurturing.

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I actually, many people have experienced this, that I actually did kind of become my

mother's mother at the end.

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Where she, you know, she really looked up to me to navigate her through her final illness.

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And I never, I'll never forget that day when she got the diagnosis that wasn't what she

wanted to hear.

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I remember just thinking how small she seemed to be because I'm real short and

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even she was a little taller than me, but it just, she was so tiny and she just looked at

me and she said, it's gonna be okay, right?

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And I said, it will be okay.

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It will be okay.

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And you we had those moments with her and I don't mean it to be a sad note, because it was

hard, you know, there's sad moments in your life that you look back on that are so giving

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in your heart because I was there, I was her mother.

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at the very end and she relied on me and that's heartwarming.

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Yeah, you know, I never looked at that stage of my life, or my mom's life, which really

wasn't too long ago, it only about four years ago in her final days, really as mothering

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her, but being being the daughter to step up that needed to be at the time tag teaming is

what I would call it.

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And I remember sleeping next to her in those final days and in home hospice and just

holding her hand and saying, it's okay, mom, I'm here now she couldn't talk.

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And she didn't really, I mean, she was basically comatose, but she always just a very

gentle squeeze of my hand, you she's going to say in the middle of the night, it's okay,

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mom, I'm here.

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And it's interesting, the connection between mother and daughters, I think never truly

leaves right to that that final day.

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But.

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That's right.

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And you know, kind of a food kind of thing related to that.

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When my mother stopped eating and I knew it was the end and it was several weeks and she

just kind of turned away from food.

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And again, we get back to food is so fundamental to our lives.

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And Bernie had the same experience with his mother because his father died in January and

beginning in September, his mother just stopped eating.

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She was healthy.

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it happens.

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I don't want anything anymore.

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I'm gonna go.

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I'm gonna go on.

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And she lasted till November.

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you know, mean, that was not a...

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At the end, wasn't a sad story anymore.

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It was her choice.

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And, yeah.

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of life when the day that my mom passed and not to, you know, because we talk about

mothers in ways of present and past, right?

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We never, we never live with our moms no matter what.

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And I think that's important to remember whether they're good moms or maybe they're a

little cranky moms.

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you know, moms have good days and bad days too.

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It's not just, you know, they're not as perfect as we are as kids.

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So.

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Hahaha

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But when my mom passed and her body was taken off early that morning, I told my sister and

I said, you know, was probably about 10, 9.30, 10 o'clock in the morning, because she

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passed early in the morning.

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And I looked at my sister and I said, you know, mom would want us to go out and celebrate

together, to be together, to do something.

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How about we go out and have lunch?

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And that's exactly what we did.

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you?

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We went out lunch, we laughed, we didn't cry.

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We went to, we found a winery with a fellow who, we talked about wine in Florida, like,

you know, but we talked to the guy who owned the winery shop, who was a cantankerous guy

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from Brooklyn.

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I Frankie was not gonna smile, the life depended on it.

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And he had a bottle of his wine that had two sisters on it.

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I said, oh, we have to buy this bottle.

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We had to buy it whether we like it or not.

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And we didn't like it, but we bought it anyway.

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And he's asking if we were there for a reason.

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Were we just passing through?

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Were we snowbirds?

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Like, no, we're not snowbirds.

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Why are you here?

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Well, we're here because mom died this morning.

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And I just blurted out thinking, if this guy's not going to smile or talk to us, maybe

we'll shock him.

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Well, it kind of softened him in a little bit.

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And then he told us a little bit about his home and his family and what was going on.

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So we weren't trying to be obnoxious.

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I, after they came and took my mother away, we went to our favorite bar, know, bellied up

to the bar and that was life.

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I celebrate our moms and that's what we did.

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We celebrated mom together with laughter and joy and yeah, a beer at lunch and a good

sandwich.

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And an awful floor to wine.

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but on that note, so, you know, moms.

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You we look like our moms in many cases, we sat, hear my mom's voice.

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my God, how did, how did I come up with that expression?

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It's mom, right?

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expressions and one day I'll write them all down.

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They were special.

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They were really special.

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One of my favorites was when I would be whining about something, my mother would say, you

sound like a dying calf in a hailstorm.

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A dying calf in a hailstorm?

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It would make me stop.

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What?

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Huh?

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Anyway, on that note.

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On that note, let's celebrate mom with joy, with laughter, with fun, and maybe a toast or

two, whether it be martini, a glass of wine, a bourbon, or even a sandwich with your

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favorite one.

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So on that note, take care, happy Mother's Day, and we'll see you soon.

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Take care, bye-bye.

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