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Juggling chaos - how to combine life with your wedding business
Episode 3617th November 2022 • Wedding Pros who are ready to grow - with Becca Pountney • Becca Pountney
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Today I am getting a little vulnerable. I am going to be pulling back the curtain on my life to show you how I juggle my wedding business amongst the chaos of every day life! I share my insider tips about how I manage my time, and how I set boundaries.

Let me know what you think of today's episode - I would love it if you could leave a review or get in touch via Instagram - I love to hear from you.

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Owning your own wedding business and being

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self-employed is a massive juggle.

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There's so much to do and it feels like so little time to get it all done.

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Last week I was speaking an event and someone asked me how I achieved

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so much in my business and did I have loads of childcare help because

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that must be the way that I do it.

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What I told her next blew her mind, so I thought I'm gonna share that

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with everyone on the podcast too.

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Spoiler alert, I don't have a lot of childcare.

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I'm Becca Pountney, wedding business marketing expert, speaker and blogger,

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and you are listening to The Wedding Pros who are Ready to Grow podcast.

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I'm here to share with you actionable tips, strategies, and real life

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examples to help you take your wedding business to the next level.

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If you are an ambitious wedding business owner that wants to take your passion

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and use it to build a profitable, sustainable business doing what you

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love, then you're in the right place.

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Let's get going with today's episode.

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When it comes to our wedding businesses, there's one thing that's universally true

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for all of us, and that's that we all have the same amount of time in a week.

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It's 168 hours to be precise.

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What's more important though, is how we use the time that we've got.

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So often I have conversations with you where you say to me, I can't achieve

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what I want to in my business right now because I've got young kids, because I'm

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looking after my elderly parents because I've got grandchildren three days a week

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because I've got massive health concerns, which are taking up loads of my time.

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Or because I'm juggling another full-time job alongside my business, which is just

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a side hustle, and I totally get it.

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I have lived my life as one big juggle for the last six.

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So today I want to share my story with you.

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I wanna show you what it really looks like in my life and how I practically implement

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things and ideas into my business.

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To help me make the most of my time, I'm gonna share with you some

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ideas that you can implement into your life and your business too.

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I also wanna share with you how my.

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Actually looks versus Instagram.

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I always fall into this trap.

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I think everyone understands that Instagram isn't reality, but yet so

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often we look at what's happening on Instagram and make assumptions about

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how people are living their lives.

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So I'm gonna peel back the curtain today on the podcast and show you how

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chaotic and crazy my life really is and how I've practically implement

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things into my business to help get that Instagram look that you maybe see.

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You may have heard of Parkinson's law.

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It's the theory that says that a task takes however long we have to do it.

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So if we've got a long time to do a task, we just make that task last longer.

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And if we only have a short time to do a task and we've got a

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tight deadline, then guess what?

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That task takes us less time.

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Now, we could go into the ins and outs of why that is, and you can go away

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and read up about Parkinson's law.

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However, I think really each and every one of us know this to be.

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When we've got loads of time, we waste loads of time.

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And whether we have a week to do something, a month to do something or

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a year to do something, I guarantee most of us leave it until the deadline.

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That is what Parkinson's law is, and that is why if we understand that we can really

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work out how we can be way more productive with our time and get more done in the

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short amount of time we have when it comes to being more effective, one of the.

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People suggest is giving yourself less time to do tasks.

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So if you are sitting listening to this podcast, or perhaps because you're busy

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like me, you're doing it while in the car, on the way, somewhere else or on

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a run and you're multitasking, then if you are someone that doesn't have

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a lot of time because you're juggling.

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All of these other commitments, Stop seeing that as a negative.

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Stop seeing that as a frustration and realize that could actually be

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your superpower because you are gonna be so much more effective with the

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small amount of time you've got.

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I'm gonna give you an example in my life about how this.

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Absolutely plays out.

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So a couple of episodes ago I mentioned to you one of the things I implemented

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into my business more recently, which has been a massive help to me, is a cleaner.

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It helps me so much because it saves me so much time.

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She's amazing.

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She does a great job, and she comes once a week.

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Now before she comes each week, I have one hour between dropping

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my children off at school and her arriving, and in that hour without

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fail, I run round and tidy my house.

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I achieve more in that hour when it comes to tidying than I do with

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all of the other hours in my week.

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Now I know if I just had to tidy the house each week, it would take me forever.

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In fact, it'd probably take me a whole day.

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But because I know I only have that short window of time and there's

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a massive deadline on it because she's turning up at the exact right

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time, then I am really effective.

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I can blitz and tidy my house in that hour so it looks pristine, and then

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she can come in and do the rest, it's an example of how I use that time more

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effectively because I have a short.

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And that will be the same for you when it comes to all of

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the tasks in your business.

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The less time you have to do them, the more effective you will be at

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getting them done, without wasting time and without being distracted.

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So how does my life look versus Instagram?

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Now, if you look at my Instagram page, you might think that I spend

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my days sitting on my bed on my computer putting in strategy and

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going to glamorous events and parties.

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In fact, one of my friends asked me the other day, if I

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get paid to party for a living.

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Now I understand that that is what I'm putting out online because that is.

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Marketing, right?

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Marketing is selling the dream.

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Now, I'm not trying to sell the fact that I've got this amazing life, not at all,

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because I am doing all of those things.

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However, there's a whole lot of other things that I'm doing on a daily basis

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that you don't see because, well, no one wants to see me running around on

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the school run or running my children back and forward to gymnastics.

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It's nothing to do with my business.

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I wanna keep my personal life separate.

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And quite honestly, it's not that interesting.

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But that is the reality of my life.

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And so if you look at my Instagram, like the person did at the event, I

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met the other week, and just think that's all I do, then you will make

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assumptions about me that I have all this childcare and I have all this help,

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and that maybe my husband's at home all of the time doing all the house

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stuff so that I can run my business.

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And I wanna tell you, that's absolutely not true.

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So how does my life really look?

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Well, for a start, I have very little help with childcare.

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In fact, out of all my friends with children of the same age,

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I have probably have the least amount of help with childcare.

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We don't have a lot of childcare at all.

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In fact, 95% of our childcare is either myself or.

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Or my husband now, we have young children.

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They are six and nine, and they do now go to school full-time, which

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has freed up a lot of time, and I'll talk about that preschool phase for

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anyone that's in that right now, a little bit later in the episode, but

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right now they're in school all day, but we don't have any childcare help.

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So we are doing everything ourselves 95% of the time.

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In that extra 5%, I may pay a babysitter for an evening so that we can go out

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together, or one of my friends might walk the children to school and I'll

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do the same for them the week after.

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So it kind of works in kind.

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But most of what I do, I do it myself.

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So I take my children to school every morning.

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I pick them up every afternoon.

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So I only have between the hours of nine o'clock and three o'clock on a

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daily basis to get my work done once I pick the children up from school.

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My life is just completely chaotic.

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We're going from gymnastics to dancing, to singing lessons,

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to piano lessons and swimming lessons and everything in between.

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I'm then coming home, making them dinner, sorting their bags out for

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the next day, doing the schoolwork, and then getting them into bed.

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I.

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I then have some time in the evening to do some work.

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However, I don't have, every evening I'm currently practicing for a

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Performance of Sister Act with a local drama group, and that is happening

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twice a week, so two evenings a week.

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At the moment, I am out and I'm doing that for my own fun.

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And leisure, so that takes away a couple of evenings.

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I also try not to work for my business on the weekend evenings so that I

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can spend some time with my husband.

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So really there's only one or maybe two evenings now that I can work in the week

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and where possible, because the kids are in school, I try not to work any

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evenings at all, or only once or twice.

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A month, so don't be fooled.

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I don't have unlimited time to run my business.

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I really do have between nine o'clock and three o'clock to get things

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done and the occasional evening.

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I also have little to no childcare when it comes to school holidays.

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So for me, I have six weeks in the summer where I basically have them at home

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all of the time and I have to juggle.

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This summer, I had them for the whole six weeks.

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We went away, we did things, we had fun.

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I had no childcare.

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The only childcare I had was for a couple of days when my parents took

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them away for a few days and we actually went away ourselves, me and my

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partner, and had some times to ourself and one week where I booked them.

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Dance camp that they wanted to go to for a few hours a day, and so I did

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get some time back in my business.

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Most of the school holidays though, I just know that I've got them at home.

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So that's what my life looks like.

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It is one chaotic juggle with small children at home.

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We are going here, there and everywhere.

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School runs, picking them up.

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If a child comes home sick, they're at home with me.

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If it's school holidays, they're at home with me and I just make

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my business work around it.

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Now, like I said, if you look at my Instagram, you might think that that is

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not how I live my life, but I want you to know this is the truth, and I'm being very

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open and honest with you here because I want you to understand that all of us have

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this chaos going on in the background.

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Even if it's not children that you've got, Perhaps you've got other

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things going on with your health.

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Maybe you've got another job that you're trying to do alongside setting up your.

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And so you need to look at the time you do have available and look at

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how we can use that more effectively.

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And that's what I wanna talk about.

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Now.

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I'm gonna share with you some of the things that I've implemented

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in my life over the last six years to help me run my business, whilst

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also having this constant juggle of children going on in the background.

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So the first thing is that I set the boundaries and the

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boundaries shift with me over time.

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I'm gonna say that again.

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I set the boundaries in my business and the boundaries shift with

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me over time because my life circumstances are always shifting.

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So when I gave up my job, In radio and went self-employed.

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One of the primary reasons was so that I could be more flexible.

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In fact, that's why most of us start a business.

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But it's very easy early on to get sucked into ending up working more

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on your business than you did in your office job and being tied to

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doing certain things and feeling like you're working all of the time Now.

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, I understand starting a business and running a business is hard work and

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you have to put the hours in because I've done it myself and I still do.

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But you do have some flexibility and you can set the boundaries

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in your own business.

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So for example, when I first started my business, I actually was

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pregnant, uh, with my second child.

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And so I then had a newborn baby when I first started, what I do now.

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And so I set some really strict boundaries in my business for a start.

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Business wasn't as big as it is now, and I did that on purpose

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because I knew I didn't have loads of time in my week to grow it.

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So I had it at the level that was sustainable for me in that period of life.

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I also chose to run all of my events in evenings because I knew

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that's when I could get childcare.

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My husband had a normal nine to five job and he was home most evening.

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So I could have my networking events and any training and things like

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that that I did always happened in the evening or um, on the weekend.

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So that's what I did to start with, and I said it around that now.

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People were asking me all the time, Can I do some events in the daytime?

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Can I do some training in the daytime?

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But I had to say no.

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I knew my own boundaries and I knew at that point I wasn't able to do that.

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So I just said it around me.

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Now you might be thinking, Yeah, Becca, but I'm working weddings,

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so I have to work all the weekends.

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I have to work the peak times.

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I totally understand what you're saying, but equally,

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you don't have to do anything.

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It's your business.

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You can run your business however you want to.

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Yes, it might be different to how other people are doing it, but if you choose

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to only do five weddings a year at a premium rate because that's all you

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have time for, then great, go for it.

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You don't have to do what everyone else is doing if you decide to become the person

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who is the specialist of weekday weddings, so that could be your marketing message.

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I only work weekday weddings.

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I don't do weddings at weekends, but if you are getting married in the

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week, you'll get great value from me.

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I specialize in weekday weddings.

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Let's chat.

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Okay?

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You can do whatever you want.

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We don't have to do what everyone else is doing.

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You just need to find something that works for you within your boundaries and within

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your family life, and that's gonna be different for each and every one of us.

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Now, as I said, this then evolved with time.

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So now I don't have such small children and my children are in school, and so

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now our boundaries have shifted again.

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Whereas I used to do things around naps and around when my husband was at home.

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Now I've shifted my business to be much more during the day,

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so I do less evening events.

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I do more things during the day, more of my training sessions.

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Take place during the day, and that shift has happened because my life has shifted.

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I haven't particularly told people that's why it's happened.

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You may only be learning this by listening to this podcast, but

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over time, I've shifted things so that it works in line with me.

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So when it comes to your business, think about the boundaries you have.

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Think about the size of the business you can manage right now

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with the time that you've got.

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And set yourself some boundaries and stick to them.

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They can shift and they can change over.

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Everything in life is a season.

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I really believe that If it's a difficult season, sometimes we can do

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less, but then other seasons will open up and we'll have time to do more.

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And you might be right in the middle of a really difficult season right now.

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You might have really young children, You might have a really

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sick relative or family member.

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You may be going something.

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Really difficult personally, and that's okay.

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And I wanna say to yourself, just be kind to yourself and look at

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what you can actually manage, but also don't use it as an excuse.

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If you can't manage as much, that's fine.

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Be kind to yourself and set those boundaries.

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There will be a season when you have more time and you can grow

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back into your business again.

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Okay.

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The second tip I have for you is that where possible,

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in my business, I automate.

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I automate as much as I possibly can because I'm short of time.

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Automation is not as scary as it sounds, and there are little

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things you can automate in your business to save yourself time.

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So things like setting up a scheduler or setting up a calendar so that people

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can just come in and book an appointment straight away, rather than having to go

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backwards and forwards A lot of times.

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Email, setting up payment pages on your website using something like QuickBooks,

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where it's really quick and easy to send your invoices automatically sending

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people emails when they buy from you.

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Having templates saved so when people ask for something, you've got it to hand.

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Having really simple.

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Email folders and systems where all of your contracts and things

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are held, so it's quick and easy for people to find what they need.

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I automate and simplify as much as I possibly can.

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Now, not everything can be automated, but a lot of things can be.

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So look at the tasks that you're doing all of the time and save

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yourself those extra minutes by looking at how you can automate.

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If you automate something once, yes, it takes you time to get it set up,

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but then you can use it time and time and time again without having

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to put the effort and the hours in.

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And when you're short of time like I am, then all of the automation

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is really, really helpful.

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Okay.

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The third thing that I use in my business is that I'm only

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available when I'm available.

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And I'm okay with that.

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So many conversations I have with people are around when they're gonna fit in their

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client meetings because they're so busy and it's because they're letting their

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customers decide when they want to meet.

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However, in my business, I don't let people make the decisions.

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I make the decisions for you.

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Now again, I just talked about automation and calendars.

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So if you wanna book in with me to do a podcast recording or to have

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a discovery call or a one-to-one.

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I have a calendar set up, but that calendar availability

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is all built around my life.

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So you can't meet with me at eight 30 in the morning because

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I'm taking my children to school.

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You can't meet with me at four o'clock on a Wednesday because I'll probably

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be at my daughter's singing lesson.

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So you can.

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Only book times when I'm available, so I will put into my calendar times between

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nine o'clock and three o'clock, and then I will put in the occasional evening

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slot when I know I'm available for people that struggle to meet during the day.

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But I set the times that are working for me.

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Now people don't look at my calendar and think, Wow, she's

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really stingy with her times.

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She can only meet me between nine and three.

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She must be doing something else.

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She's really unprofessional.

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Okay.

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That's not true.

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People don't look at it like that.

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People look at a diary and they just pick the time that's most convenient to them

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from the times that I have given them.

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And this is the same for you and your business.

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Don't ask people when they wanna meet you and then have to run around

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juggling everything to make it work.

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Tell them when you are available.

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Look at your own life.

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Work out when you have spaces in your diary and either set up a calendar

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or send them the times that you have.

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When we ring up to book a dentist appointment, they don't say

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on the other end of the phone.

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Great.

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When are you free?

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Do you wanna come?

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And I say, Yeah, nine o'clock on Friday night.

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That's not how it works.

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We don't expect that.

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We ask what availability they have, and then we choose the

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appointment that works best for us.

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It's exactly the same in business.

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So make sure you are telling people when you're available and you're

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only available when you're available.

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Okay.

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The next thing that I do in my household is try as much as possible

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to plan things ahead of time.

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We need to make sure my business and my husband's work and the children's

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schedule all fits together well.

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And when we don't communicate that well, that's when it all starts to fall apart.

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So we try and sit down together, either at the beginning of the

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month or a beginning of a week.

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As much as possible and talk through as a couple what we've got coming

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up and how we're gonna manage it, how we're gonna make these things

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work, and who's gonna be doing what.

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Sometimes we have to write it all down on a piece of paper to make sure it all fits.

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So for example, if I'm going away to speak at a conference, perhaps

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we need to sit down and work out.

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Whether my husband can leave work early to pick the children up and what days he

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could work the extra hours to make it up.

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It's practical, simple stuff, but by talking and working together,

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we can solve problems much easier.

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If you think ahead and plan ahead and look at what's coming up rather than

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just working in the moment, it will make your life so much better Now.

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That really is how my life works.

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It is a massive juggle.

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The children have to be in all sorts of different places at all sorts of

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different times in all sorts of the right uniforms and shoes, and make sure

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they've got the right equipment with them.

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And so we just write it all down on a piece of paper.

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So that we remember what we're doing, because otherwise it will all fall apart.

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So between us, between me and my partner, we get them to all the places

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they should be with the right things.

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Not because we are superhuman, but because we write it down and we

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plan it out, and we talk about it.

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I know it sounds simple, but maybe that's something you need

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to start doing at the beginning of a week or beginning of a month.

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Sit down with the other people in your house and just talk about how you're

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gonna make this work between you.

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Who's gonna be cooking the dinner that night?

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How are you gonna make it?

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Is there someone else in the household that can help you in certain areas

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to free up some time for you?

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Okay.

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My next tip for you is that I am transparent about my situation as

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much as I possibly can be because that helps me and helps my clients and

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people understand what I'm all about.

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Now, let me explain.

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What I mean by that is I don't pretend to be something I'm not.

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Now, obviously this hasn't worked for me as well as I thought it was because

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people still think that I must have all this super help behind the scenes,

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which I absolutely don't, and that's one of the reasons I'm doing this episode

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for full transparency to show you that it is possible to run a business and

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have an absolutely crazy, chaotic life.

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In the background, but I think it's helpful for me to be transparent

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and open with the people that I'm working with and not try and

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pretend to be something I'm not.

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Often, when we are running a business, we try and allude some kind of super

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humanness to our clients, to our couples, to the people that we are working

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with, as if we've got it all together.

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And I understand why we wanna do that because we wanna come across

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professional and that's really important.

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But sometimes it's actually more relatable for people.

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When we are honest with them, we don't need to hide the

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fact that we've got children.

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We don't need to hide the fact that we've got another job.

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We don't need to hide all these, these things.

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Yes, we might not wanna shout about them, but we can also be honest and transparent.

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When we start telling lies or covering things up, we start to

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get ourselves in a big pickle.

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If, for example, I'm recording a podcast with someone and they say to

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me right at the beginning of the call, just to let you know I've got a baby

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in the next room, or I've got a dog next door that might start barking.

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Please let me know if you hear anything, and I'll go and sort it out.

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I would much prefer that for them than them to be pretending that everything

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in their house is silent and then looking really shifty and trying to

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work out what to do when something goes.

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Be upfront and be honest.

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Now, I had a situation, just today where I decided transparency

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was absolutely the best answer.

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I had this nightmare scenario whereby I had a video call with my members at

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10 o'clock in the morning for an hour, and it was an interview with a guest,

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uh, coming in and talking to them.

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About branding.

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Now, during that time, I also knew I had a plumber that was gonna be

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turning up and I didn't exactly know what time they were going to be coming.

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Now, I could have pretended that that wasn't happening and hoped that I could

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remain professional, and hopefully no one would notice that that was going on.

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But I knew that my stress levels would be absolutely raised and my life

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is a little bit chaotic sometimes.

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So I decided transparency was the answer and.

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I just owned it.

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I said at the beginning of the call just to let everyone know, unfortunately,

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I've got a plumber coming to my house.

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I don't know when they're coming.

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They're gonna come as part of this call.

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So if I suddenly have to disappear and leave you with the guest for a

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moment without me, that's where I am.

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And that definitely was the right thing to do.

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What happened was I went on, I went live, the guest came in, I handed over to him,

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and then the plumber knocked on the door.

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So the timing was perfect, but then I came back and just explained to

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everyone, yeah, the plumber's here now, so I might have to disappear

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again, but I am paying attention.

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Now you may listen to that and think, Well, that's a bit unprofessional.

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But in that moment, it was much better for me to be open and honest with my audience

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about what was happening than trying to pretend that I was something I'm not.

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And you know what?

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That's really relatable because they're all sat there listening

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to the training as well.

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Maybe you were there too, and you've probably got other things

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going on in your life as well.

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Maybe you've got the doorbell going off, an Amazon parcel being

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delivered, you've gotta go and get.

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Dog from the vet all whilst trying to listen to the cool,

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and people relate to it.

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They don't wanna work with me because I'm superhuman.

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I guess they wanna work with me because I'm just me.

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And that's the same with your couples.

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If you can be relatable to them, if you can find common ground, if

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you can get on with them, sometimes being transparent about your

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circumstances goes a really long way.

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Yes, maybe you might lose a couple of people for not being as super professional

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or mentioning that you've got children.

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However, for me, those are the clients that I don't wanna work with

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anyway because ultimately if they're that funny about it, then they're

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probably not my kind of person.

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Okay, next up is that I'm selective with what I say yes to, and I've

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learnt to say, no, I get it.

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Saying no is one of the hardest things, especially when big

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opportunities come around.

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But sometimes we gotta be realistic.

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If you know that your editing time is short and you can only manage one wedding

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in a weekend, take the one wedding in the weekend and then don't take another one.

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You'll live and learn that it's best to say no, rather than stretching

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yourself into time you don't have.

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This is when setting those boundaries is really important.

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If you know you can't do something because it's your child's birthday or you've

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gotta look after your mum, or you've got a health need that's gonna take priority,

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then sometimes you've just gotta say no to opportunities and that's okay.

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Or maybe it's a not.

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I got invited to speak at an event this weekend, but it's my son's

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birthday and so I turned it down because for me that's a hard no.

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I'd much rather turn down the opportunity and spend the time with

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my child on their birthday, and I was honest about the reason why I said no,

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and they were totally fine with it.

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And I said, If you do another event and it's in a different day,

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or the date changes, get back in touch and let's work together.

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And they said, Yeah, we'll absolutely do that.

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So you've gotta be selective and you've gotta say no.

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The other thing I say no to now.

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Things that waste my time ultimately.

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So I won't just have loads of coffees with random people or jump on calls

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with people unless I understand why that is, what the objective is and

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what I'm gonna get out of that time.

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I don't have the time to have loads of pointless conversations

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if I'm quite brutally honest.

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I have to be really careful and precious about my time because I have so.

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It.

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I will jump on calls with people.

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I will have meetings with people, but I have to understand why and whether or not

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it's worth giving up some of that precious time in order to have that meeting.

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So if you are someone that has very little time, don't waste your time.

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Think strategically about what conversations you have, what

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projects you say yes to, and what projects you say no to.

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Why you are saying yes and why you are saying no.

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How does that fit in with your schedule and can you manage it?

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It's okay to say no.

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Sometimes it's okay to say not right now sometimes, and if you can get.

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Better at that, you will use your time much more effectively.

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And again, I'm really open and honest about that.

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I will tell people I'd love to meet for a coffee, but I'm very short of time.

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However, is it something we can sort out over email?

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Could we do something on Zoom?

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I've got 15 minutes on Zoom and I'm really strict with that.

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And just be really careful about how much of your time

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you give away to other people.

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The next tip I have for you is to outsource where possible.

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This is something that I've got better and better at over the years because

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I've realized my time is finite, right?

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I don't have loads of it, and I'm gonna run out of it if I try and do

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all of the things all of the time.

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So if I wanna grow my business and develop my offerings, then I'm

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gonna have to do something about that, and I've had to outsource.

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I found this really hard in the first instance because ultimately

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I know that I can do all of the tasks I outsource myself.

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I may think that I can do them better, although I've been proved

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wrong over time and realized other people can do things better than me.

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But we are very protective about our own businesses and we feel like we have

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to do all of the things, and we're also very reluctant to pay someone else to

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do something that we know that we can.

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However I've learned sometimes in life, you've got to speculate to accumulate.

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There are some tasks in your business that someone else could do for you.

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There are some tasks in your business that you have to do yourself, and

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if you can do more of the tasks you have to do yourself, which leads to

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more sales in your business, and in the meantime, outsource some of those

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smaller, less important tasks to someone else, you'll end up making the money

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that you are spending on outsourcing.

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And I'm always looking at things I can outsource in my business now, things

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that take a lot of time that maybe I could be doing something else with

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that time, instead either spending it with my family or using it to build my

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business and grow and make some money or change my offerings or whatever it is.

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For you, outsourcing is one of the best things that I've done, and

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it's something I highly recommend.

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If you feel like you're really stretched for time, have a look at

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who else in your life could take some of those tasks off of you.

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Perhaps you've got someone in your family, a niece, a nephew, a cousin, a teenage

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child who's looking to earn a little bit of extra pocket money and could

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do some of your basic tasks for you.

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You're helping them out because they're gonna get some extra

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money, and it's massively helping you out because it's saving you.

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Outsourcing doesn't have to be hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of pounds.

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It could be 20, 30, 40 pounds a week for someone to just take a

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little bit of work away from you, freeing you up to have more time to

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do the things you want to be doing.

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Have a think about everything you do in your business.

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Take note of what's taking loads of time, and think about what

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somebody else could be doing.

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Okay.

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My final tip for you today is that I write a lot of lists and I prioritize

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when I feel overwhelmed with the amount of work that I've got going

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on or all of the things in my head.

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I write everything down and then I look to prioritize it.

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Sometimes we've got things on our to-do list, which actually aren't

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essential and are just wasting time.

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Are there things in your business that you could stop doing entirely?

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Either outsource.

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Actually, they're just pointless and you don't need to be doing them anymore,

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and you can erase them from your list.

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Are there things that you could be doing more effectively or are there things

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that you could start doing which would actually be better uses of your time than

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the things you're doing at the moment?

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Have a look at which of the tasks you write down will move

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the needle of your business.

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Forward, what things will have a big impact on your business?

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What things will bring in money into your business?

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What things will grow your business?

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What things will grow your network, and what things are you just

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procrastinating over and using a lot of time on unnecessarily?

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We get that shiny object syndrome, don't we, where we see

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everyone's doing Instagram reels.

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So we spend loads and loads of loads of time doing Instagram reels

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and it wastes loads of our time.

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And yes, it might help.

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But also maybe your time could have been more effective by spending that

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same amount of time, meeting with a venue coordinator about getting on their

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recommended suppliers list, or being part of a style sheet where you're gonna get

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loads and loads of photos that you can use on your marketing for the next year.

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Think about the tasks you're doing.

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Think about which ones you don't need to be doing and which ones are the priority.

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Then when I get down to what I need to do on a daily basis, if I've got a

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lot to do, I write everything down on a piece of paper, and then I go back

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through that list and start prioritizing it, and I give everything a number.

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1, 2, 3, 4.

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Number one is the task I do first.

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And so on.

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I put my phone on airplane mode.

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I turn off the distractions, and I just start going through that list one by

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one by one in the order that I've set.

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Nothing else can take priority because I've already chosen the priority order.

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And when I do that, I get so much more done in a day.

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Why?

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Because I've given myself less time to do it, and I've decided what

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I'm gonna do when, and I tick loads off, and I feel so much better.

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So if you are feeling overwhelmed and you've got loads of tasks

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on a list, I highly recommend.

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Out of your head onto paper, choose which ones need to be

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done today and then prioritize.

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I hope you found today's episode helpful.

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I hope it's helpful for you to understand a bit of my story

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and how I run my business.

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I don't want you to look at me and think I've got it all together.

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I really don't.

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My life is total chaos behind the scenes.

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Like I said, I'm in this season of life where I'm running my children backwards

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and forwards here, there and everywhere all of the time whilst trying to run my

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business and be in a show at the same time and have date nights with my husband.

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But I do make it work because of all of these things that I've shared with you.

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Whenever I'm vulnerable like this, I love to get feedback from you.

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Obviously I'm talking to the ether and I never really know who's

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listening, so if something in this episode has resonated with you

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today, I would absolutely love it.

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If you could reach out to me, drop me a message on Instagram and let me know if

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there's something in here that's been helpful to you to help you move forward.

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I understand how overwhelming it can be to be a business owner.

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I'm right there with you myself, but you absolutely can do it, and you've

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just got to prioritise, set those boundaries and make it work for you.

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