The Magical Scorecard

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Hello.

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Welcome back friends.

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Good to be with you.

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This is episode two of Spark

Insights with Coach Reg.

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I am Coach Reg.

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Hope all of you are doing well.

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If you hadn't had a chance

to listen to episode one,

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I hope you'll go back and listen to it.

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So this week is all about.

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Wait for it.

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Magic.

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Speaker 8: I wanna take you back

to a conversation that was in

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Mexico while sitting on a beach

after a fire ceremony that I led

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with members of Curiosity Island.

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There was a bunch of us sitting

around after the ceremony.

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I.

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Speaker 4: And we all began talking

about magical things that were happening.

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But before I do that, I wanna take you

back about a year and a half because

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all of this started with a nickel.

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The date is October 23rd, 2024.

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It was my 55th birthday, I call

this the double nickel episode.

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A few weeks before.

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Arlene and I were on a golf course

we were on the first tee box, and

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she noticed a nickel laying on the

cart path, we laughed about it.

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She picked it up.

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It was our little gesture to say

to the universe, Hey, we accept

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whatever abundance that you have for

us, even though it was just 5 cents.

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I put that nickel in my pocket,

carried it around with me, I actually

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put it in my laptop bag, which was

cool because I carried it around

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with me and it traveled with me to.

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San Antonio, Texas.

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Speaker 5: I was there for a conference.

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Arlene came with me.

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After the conference, we

took an entire week to golf.

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We golfed at some really cool

places down in San Antonio.

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It was a fun way for us

to celebrate my birthday.

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We were in a Hampton Inn in downtown San

Antonio, just a block away from the Alamo,

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I had this thought.

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Wouldn't it be fun if I

could get another nickel?

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Because on that day I turned 55, right?

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Five, five double nickels.

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I said, wouldn't it be fun if

another nickel showed up today?

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I did something crazy.

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I said, you know what?

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I wanna find a nickel, but

I want it to be obvious.

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It literally has to be sitting at my feet

because I don't wanna be searching for

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this thing 'cause I'm gonna be golfing.

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We head out to breakfast.

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Oh, there's a really important point here.

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The important point here is

that I had a second thought.

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I was a little greedy on my birthday,

so I said the other thing that I would

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really love on my birthday is to get

a surprise, one that completely floors

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me, that's completely suited to me

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would come outta nowhere, and it

would be so obvious that this was

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a gift that I couldn't miss it.

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Little nickel.

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Big gift.

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I went downstairs, we actually went down

early and there was a reason we went

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down early because there was a group of

middle schoolers there that we know were

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leaving or going down for breakfast at

seven 30 and there was a hundred of 'em.

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We figured the waffles and all the

good stuff would be gone by then.

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We go down early and I see this

guy sitting in a Billy Joel,

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Madison Square Garden t-shirt.

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I'm like, oh, that's awesome.

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I said, Hey, dude, what's going on?

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You went and saw Billy Joel

at Madison Square Garden?

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In the best New York accent.

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He's like, I've been to

every Billy Joel show.

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I can't do a New York accent.

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I went to every.

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Billy Joel show at Madison Square Garden.

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Oh my goodness.

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That's amazing.

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Now, you may or may not

know I love Billy Joel.

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My mom loved Billy Joel.

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My daughter loved Billy Joel.

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Hey man.

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I said, that's awesome.

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I said, what do you see in him next?

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He looked at me like,

what is your problem?

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What?

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He goes, he's playing tonight.

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Here?

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He said, yes.

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He's playing at the Alamo Dome,

and he pointed over there,

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which is four blocks away.

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I'm a block away from the Alamo.

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I'm four blocks away from the Alamo.

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Do.

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I said, holy crap.

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I.

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Went back to the table.

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I'm like, Hey Arlene.

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Guess what?

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Billy Joel's playing here tonight.

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Sting is his special guest.

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We went up, we looked for

tickets first balcony, first row.

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The tickets were like half price

'cause it was the night of the show.

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Booked the tickets on the

spot and boom, there you go.

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Before seven 30 hit,

I got my big surprise.

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We were heading to see Billy Joel

that night, I thought, oh wow,

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what could be better than that?

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Fantastic birthday surprise.

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It was a great show.

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I believe, it might be the last time we

saw Billy before he had his accident.

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We go to the golf course.

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It's another beautiful day in

San Antonio, a great fall day.

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It's in the eighties.

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Before we go out for the round, I go in.

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, Sorry, this is part of the story.

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I went into the restroom.

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I went into the stall.

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Okay, I am in a seated position and

somebody comes in to the washroom

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at the same time, goes in the stall

next to me, and I hear a bunch

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of change drop on the tile floor.

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Ding, ding, ding, ding.

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But what comes rolling under the stall?

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A nickel.

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It falls right at my big toe, on my

right foot, I looked down I went, oh my,

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I said, Hey man, you dropped some change.

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He goes, keep the change.

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I picked that nickel up.

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Yes.

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Okay.

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It's unsanitary, but it went in my pocket.

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I washed my hands.

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I walked outside and I

showed Arlene, I said.

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The nickel just showed up, it is

before 9:00 AM on my birthday.

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I had asked for a nickel to show up at my

feet that I couldn't miss, and a gift that

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would completely floor and surprise me.

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That is magical folks.

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Rewind back to two weeks ago.

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We're sitting on the beach

and I start telling the story.

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El B's there Meredith, Annie, Laura,

and Ryan, , uh, buddy from the Midwest.

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I just met him.

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I'm gonna talk about Ryan at some point,

but let's just say Ryan is one of the most

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enthusiastic people that I've ever met.

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The perfect hype guy.

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I tell this story, the jaws

in my audience were dropped.

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They're like, holy cow.

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Ryan says to me,

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oh man, that's crazy.

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And the typical Ryan voice.

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So as I am.

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Talking and sharing the story

and seeing people, their

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mouths agape with excitement.

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I thought to myself, you know what?

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These types of things

happen to me all the time.

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When I got back home I said, I am going

to create a new type of scoreboard.

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My scoreboards has always been

, basketball scoreboard on the wall.

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Who's ahead, who's behind, how much

time's left in the game in business,

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the profit and loss statement.

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These scoreboards are very restrictive.

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They're information based.

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I said I'm gonna create

a new type of scoreboard.

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I'm gonna keep track of the unexpected,

expected magical things in my life.

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I wrote unexpected things on my notepad.

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Scott Chang said, no,

dude they're expected.

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You're writing it down because

you expect these things to happen.

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Magic happens to you.

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That was a big change.

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Thank you, Scott, for that.

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I had about eight or nine categories and I

shared it with, some people on the island.

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And, my friend Brandon Fong, of

course, figured out a way to have

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an acronym that spells M-A-G-I-C-E.

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It's able to spell magic, I

now have a magical scorecard.

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The first week.

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I had the magical scorecard and I sat

down at the end of the week, I was able

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to have about eight things on the list.

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I didn't remember all the

little things that happened, but

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there's eight things on my list.

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The next week, I was able to fill up about

20 things, and as I'm recording this.

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I'm recording this on a Friday.

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I've already filled up over 25

things just in the beginning

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part of the week, I have made a.

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Very conscious decision to

celebrate magical things

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that are going on in my life.

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M stands for money.

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Whenever I receive money or sales, that

could be a gift, any sort of thing.

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Anytime money comes in, I put it

on the scorecard and I celebrate.

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A stands for appreciation.

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It's gifts and compliments.

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G is for gains.

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This is around experiences, things that

are just, really phenomenal experiences.

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Eyes for introductions, it's connections,

intros, referrals, and C are chances which

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I call invitations and opportunities.

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The way I do this is anytime, every

time something magical shows up in any

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one of these categories, I document

it right there on my phone in a note.

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Whatever is closest to

me, I write it down and

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acknowledge it..

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Then, at the beginning of the

week, , I read through that list

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and I get to celebrate again.

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I know people have a journaling practice.

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I know people have a gratitude practice.

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This to me is a little bit more

visceral than that because I'm

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capturing things in the moment.

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I'm categorizing them.

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It does something to confirmation bias.

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It's the Reticular Activating System.

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If you're on the lookout for a new car,

and let's say you're in the market for

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a silver Chevy Tahoe, you start to

see silver Chevy Tahoes everywhere.

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What I believe I've done for my

conscious and my subconscious is that

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I am becoming more aware of magical

things in my life, I am inviting

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more of those things to show up.

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It has done something to my psyche

that has taken me from at times being

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anxious to being more open to good

things and seeing the good things.

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I am making a choice for me to celebrate

light and to not let darkness overcome

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me personally, collectively, globally.

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Here's why this matters to me.

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I work with high performers,

entrepreneurs, founders,

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athletes, fellow coaches.

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Here's a pattern.

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They're really good at

tracking what's wrong.

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It's really difficult as a coach

to be positive after a loss and.

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Coaches are just, so focused in on how

we can improve and what went wrong, that

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we take very little time to celebrate.

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We review the losses, the

misses, the gaps in performance.

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We have scorecards in business for

revenue and goals and KPIs, and it

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tells us where we fell short, and

it's easy to look at the negative.

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But one thing that I really did in my

last years coaching basketball, and one

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thing I do now is I coach my golf athletes

is what has shown up that we didn't have

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to grind for what has shown up that has

been good in our performance, what has

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shown up that's been great in our life.

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I have conversations with my

athletes about what's going

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well, what's exciting you?

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If your only conversation with your

team, if you have the opportunity

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to coach is what went wrong and

what's going on in your sport, it's

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a very one dimensional relationship.

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Same thing goes in business.

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If the only thing you talk about

is your business, it's really just

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gonna keep hammering your identity.

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Expand.

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Expand.

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Life's about relationships, it's

about health, it's about experiences.

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There's so much more to be involved in

life when you're relationship with people.

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Don't just talk about the

narrow thing you have in common.

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Expand out, especially if you're

in a position where you are working

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or mentoring or coaching somebody.

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Talk about what went right.

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Talk about what's going on in their life,

talk about what they're excited about.

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These are the things that really matter.

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I would love for you to celebrate

and have your own magical scoreboard.

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. I have put together a one page PDF.

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It sits by my desk.

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It has some really simple instructions.

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I would love for you to download that.

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Give this thing 30 days.

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I want to hear what magic has

shown Let's celebrate that.

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It's no good just to

celebrate with yourself.

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Celebrate with somebody.

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Celebrate with me.

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Tell me what's going on.

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I wanna know what magic is showing up and

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how this has affected you..

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I am really enjoying this process.

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I hope you do too.

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I'm going to continue to just

share what's on my mind every week.

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I am really excited about this format.

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I look forward to being with you

each and every week, but mostly, I

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enjoy hearing from you, so subscribe

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