Shownotes
Do you ever wonder why some people seem to generate more of the results they want in their life with ease? We all have the capability and today I am going to share with you one of my favorite life and leadership skills called intention. We will talk about what it is, and use the 3D’s to make it simple so that you can begin using it today. Watch out, the results you want are incoming now!
Highlights from this episode:
(02:12) How to get clear on your intentions
(04:48) What is intention?
(09:06) The power of declarations
(11:09) Your goals are worth it!
(14:48) What happened after my knee replacement
(20:00) How to use intention to achieve your goals
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Hey, everyone. I'm Kelly Mobic, a coach and a
Unknown:leadership trainer. And I'm super passionate about helping
Unknown:you. Find out who you are authentically as a leader, own
Unknown:it and go out and make an impact in your life and the lives of
Unknown:others. This world needs your leadership, your gifts, your
Unknown:unique brilliance. And I believe that real leaders don't wait.
Unknown:They create. I know firsthand that life is going to throw us
Unknown:curveballs that we're going to doubt our greatness, our ideas
Unknown:and our contributions. And my goal is that you believe in
Unknown:yourself beyond reason. And I get to be a coach and a champion
Unknown:for you each week, so that you feel inspired, motivated and
Unknown:most important in action towards your unique impact in this
Unknown:world.
Unknown:So let's jump in. Hey there, everyone. This is Coach Kelly,
Unknown:welcome to episode 158. Of let's be honest, before we start
Unknown:pretending I am so excited. We got a new month, it is May 1
Unknown:Y'all It is May 1 Happy May Happy May Day. And I love as you
Unknown:guys all know, I love a new beginning of fresh start, you
Unknown:know, all the time. So here we go. Here we go. Hey, what
Unknown:percolated for y'all when we talked about lessons and
Unknown:leveraging your lessons, I would love to hear from you. So go to
Unknown:the link in the show notes where there is you know, share any
Unknown:questions or comments or your curiosity challenges because,
Unknown:you know, when we're taking the lead in our life, staying
Unknown:curious is a really cool thing. So go over there. And I would
Unknown:love to hear what's percolating for you. And as we move into
Unknown:May, I am calling this the month of intention where, you know, I
Unknown:had said last week we're going to dive more into lessons. Well,
Unknown:one of the things that helps us dive into lessons more is being
Unknown:intentional, having intention, getting clear on our intention,
Unknown:creating results, right, because results come from intention.
Unknown:They do they we don't pass go without intention. So what we're
Unknown:going to do is today, we're going to talk about intention,
Unknown:what it is, and the three Ds of intention. Next week, we're
Unknown:going to talk about intention and getting clear. How do you
Unknown:get clear on your intention, there's four components to it.
Unknown:I've talked a little bit about this on the podcast in some
Unknown:different ways, but I'm going to bring it together for you. Next
Unknown:week, we are going to then talk about in week three of May
Unknown:intention and results. And what we're going to do is we're going
Unknown:to look at both when it works and when it doesn't work. And
Unknown:this is really where you can begin to see lessons and begin
Unknown:to leverage them. I have an amazing guest that's coming on
Unknown:in week four. And it's going to be about intentional
Unknown:relationships with our kids all the way into adulthood. And it's
Unknown:fantastic, I cannot wait for you to meet her. And in week five,
Unknown:we're going to talk about intentional relationships with
Unknown:partners. Hello, and then actually, let me tell you what
Unknown:we're gonna do in the first week of June, we're going to talk
Unknown:about intentional relationships with your business, or your job,
Unknown:career, things like that. So intention is, you know,
Unknown:everything we have, you know, we are creating results that we
Unknown:want, we are creating results that we don't want. You know, we
Unknown:don't always stop and think about intention or what our
Unknown:intention is. And we I think intention is such a powerful
Unknown:tool that we have available to us all the time. Because we're
Unknown:at choice. Y'all may have heard me talk about the the couch
Unknown:where I come together with my dear friend CAMI McLaren, also a
Unknown:colleague. We've been both in coaches for years and years and
Unknown:years. And in April, we literally dove into intention.
Unknown:And it occurred to me like everybody gets to hear this,
Unknown:everyone gets to hear this. By the way, if you want to be part
Unknown:of the couch, it's once a month on Fridays at noon for 30
Unknown:minutes and we have such a great time and bring so much value.
Unknown:It's free, doesn't cost you a penny you can bring your lunch
Unknown:to join us and join in on the conversation and jump on the
Unknown:couch with us. You can go to my website through the show notes
Unknown:and find more information about the couch. It is phenomenal.
Unknown:Okay, let's go let's talk about intention and what it is. So
Unknown:intention is a tool. And it's basically something that helps
Unknown:us create the things that we want. It requires two components
Unknown:they require is thinking and action. It does not exist
Unknown:without one or the other. Okay, thinking and action, and
Unknown:bringing them together, putting them together so that you can
Unknown:create, as my dear friend kami says the magic, okay, the magic
Unknown:that you want in your life. And intention is something that I
Unknown:think is kind of resides down in our subconscious, right? You
Unknown:know, do you ever get a gut check? And you're like, ah, and
Unknown:then you act on it. And then it's like, Oh, right. I mean, it
Unknown:could probably go the other way too. But I just, you know,
Unknown:you've got this gut check, you either do or you don't. And then
Unknown:magic, right, it was a really good thing. Okay. Now, we can do
Unknown:this the other way too, because, you know, we can create from
Unknown:fear also, we really can manifest intentionally with our
Unknown:fear. There's, there's a saying called what we fear we create.
Unknown:And it's, it's, it definitely happens. So I think it's really
Unknown:important to start really diving in and looking at the tool
Unknown:called intention, which is why we're going to work with this
Unknown:the entire month, and even into June, because I just feel like
Unknown:this is one of the strongest tools that we can have as human
Unknown:beings to self improve and to grow and to take the lead in our
Unknown:life. So intention, thinking, and action, hey, so you get an
Unknown:idea, something that you want to create, hey, something that you
Unknown:want to create, I'm going to use an example that I've shared with
Unknown:you on the podcast that relates to my health, and it relates to
Unknown:the knee replacement, and I've already shared about it. So now
Unknown:that we're over on the other side of it, it's a great
Unknown:example, to break down when it comes to this. Because with
Unknown:intention, I think that what happens is you have an idea. And
Unknown:you make a decision, here's where the three Ds are coming
Unknown:in, you decide that you are going to you're going to you
Unknown:want something you decide. And in that moment of decision,
Unknown:something changes within you, you can feel it in your body. So
Unknown:I want you to think about that for a minute. Think about when
Unknown:you've wanted something, and you've actually had it happen,
Unknown:you made it happen. There was a moment, and it might have even
Unknown:just been so brief, so slight that you might not realize it
Unknown:but think about this, when you are clear in your decision, you
Unknown:feel it in your body, hey, for me, I will feel that in my gut.
Unknown:It's no other conversation. And then my heart aligns with it. My
Unknown:brain aligns with it. My whole being gets on board. That minute
Unknown:that we decide. And decisions are really important as leaders,
Unknown:they are 100% important to decide. And what you want to do
Unknown:is you want to make those decisions quickly. And what I
Unknown:mean by that I'm not saying don't make them haphazardly.
Unknown:What I'm saying is don't ruminate. Don't think too long
Unknown:about it. Do be thoughtful and do be purposeful. But don't
Unknown:ruminate Don't overanalyze it, because what's happening is
Unknown:we're allowing that how to get in there, and that almost is
Unknown:always going to muddy the water. So you decide. And when you
Unknown:decide you feel that in your body, okay? So the first step is
Unknown:to decide, make the decision, and you'll know that you've made
Unknown:it because you're going to feel it, you're going to feel it,
Unknown:you're gonna know, it could feel a little scary. You might feel a
Unknown:little uncertain. You might feel excited, and let's go like
Unknown:there's a whole bunch of feelings that can go on with
Unknown:that. That's okay. But decide, okay, decide, and then you want
Unknown:to declare it. Okay, so what do I mean by declaring it? I mean,
Unknown:you want to shout it out loud. Say it to an accountability
Unknown:partner, say it to say it to as many people as you can, because
Unknown:the minute we declare something, we've just brought it to life.
Unknown:Okay. declarations are powerful because they change what wasn't
Unknown:into what is they change what wasn't into what is I'm gonna
Unknown:give you an example, when President John F. Kennedy
Unknown:declared there would be a man on the moon. He literally changed
Unknown:what wasn't into what is by saying it out loud. Okay, saying
Unknown:it out loud. Now did he personally put a man on the
Unknown:moon? No. But it opened up the possibility and it started the
Unknown:trajectory toward having that happen. By declaration, it's,
Unknown:it's, that's what it is. So it changes what isn't into what is.
Unknown:So you want to declare it. And by the way, you want to declare
Unknown:it as if it's a done deal done. Like, like President Kennedy,
Unknown:there will be a man on the moon. Okay, we will have a man on the
Unknown:moon. I always like to add in by when, and I'll tell you why. By
Unknown:when gives you direction, it gives you something to go for,
Unknown:okay? Within three months by May 31, like a very specific, the
Unknown:more specific you are the even better that is. Now I want to
Unknown:give you a little caveat. It gives you direction to move
Unknown:forward. And if may 31 comes and you haven't hit it, do not give
Unknown:up. Okay? Because you've heard me say this before your goals
Unknown:are worth it, you are worth it. Don't give up you declare again,
Unknown:and you keep going. A lot of times when I'm working with
Unknown:people and as a coach, I'm always listening for what my
Unknown:clients are declaring that they're going to take on that
Unknown:they're going to do the things that they want, okay. And when I
Unknown:ask the question, and if I noticed, my clients are thinking
Unknown:too long about it, that's when I gotta intervene, I gotta jump in
Unknown:with them and say You're thinking too long? What is your
Unknown:gut say? Because a lot of times what happens and you might
Unknown:remember, our brain doesn't like uncertainty. So when we're
Unknown:making a declaration, oftentimes we're, we're, we're attempting
Unknown:to declare a sure thing, like, I know, I can make this happen. So
Unknown:I'm fact there are no sure things. Hey, fun fact, there are
Unknown:no sure things when you were up to something in taking the lead
Unknown:of in your life. And you're you've decided, and now you're
Unknown:declaring, declare without certainty, okay? Because as soon
Unknown:as you decide to act, okay, and that's the third d do. As soon
Unknown:as you get into action, which is doing, you're going to begin to
Unknown:create certainty, okay? You will not know until you go, okay? The
Unknown:only thing that creates certainty is action. Okay? So
Unknown:those are the three Ds, right? Decide, make the decision,
Unknown:decide, declare, declare it out loud, to as many people as you
Unknown:can, okay? Because it sort of puts your head on the line
Unknown:you've like, set it now. Right? And that can help motivate you
Unknown:to move that can help motivate you to move and then do is the
Unknown:third d get into action. So now, you've thought about it, you've
Unknown:decided, and when I say thought about it, you haven't
Unknown:overthought about it, you've been thoughtful and purposeful,
Unknown:but you've thought about it, you've decided you've declared,
Unknown:and now you're doing and now you will have results. Okay? And
Unknown:that's sort of the formula, not sort of, let me take sort of
Unknown:out, that's the formula that goes into intention as the tool
Unknown:called intention, okay. And my dear friend, Tammy always says
Unknown:that's where magic happens. Because as you're working toward
Unknown:the thing that you say you want, you may be focusing over in
Unknown:pieces of action over here. But then suddenly, something over on
Unknown:the complete other side of the field, if you will, shows up,
Unknown:and there's the result. Now, what the heck do I mean by that?
Unknown:What I mean by that is this is if you are in action, it is
Unknown:impossible not to create the result. If you were in action,
Unknown:it's impossible not to create the result. Okay. There's
Unknown:another saying the universe rewards action, not just
Unknown:thinking about it, and I add this in, it's not mostly it's
Unknown:not going to look the way you think it's going to. Okay, so we
Unknown:are like, I'm going to do step ABCD. And then I will have IE,
Unknown:maybe, maybe not, but will you create the result you want?
Unknown:Often, yes, you will have much more opportunity to create that
Unknown:utilizing this formula. Period done. I've seen it over and
Unknown:over. So I'm going to give you an example. You all know that I
Unknown:had knee replacement in February. And that was quite a
Unknown:process. I look back now and I really am like wow, that was
Unknown:quite a process. And there was a hurdle or an obstacle that got
Unknown:in the way, and probably at about, I want to say, like, a
Unknown:month, I can't remember at this moment, but like a month out, I
Unknown:was given I was told Yeah, actually, just slightly more
Unknown:than a month out, I was told that we would not be able to do
Unknown:the surgery, because my BMI was not at a number that my doctor
Unknown:was comfortable with. And essentially, that just puts you
Unknown:at a higher risk for infection, which you don't want. You don't
Unknown:you don't want infection, you know, when you're having any
Unknown:type of surgery. So what that meant is, I had to, like had to
Unknown:lose seven pounds, seven pounds was like, there's no other
Unknown:conversation, we will not do this. Unless you lose seven
Unknown:pounds. And there was a time in my life where I was like seven
Unknown:pounds, snap it snap, no problem. Let's go. Okay, that is
Unknown:not this time. 56 years of age, that's about this time. All
Unknown:right. But I remember in that moment, when I was driving home,
Unknown:from the doctor's office, there was a moment of feeling sort of
Unknown:defeated. And like, how did I let this happen? I knew this,
Unknown:like, we've talked about this, what's going on. And then I
Unknown:remember, you know, I could probably go down a big ol rabbit
Unknown:hole of making myself wrong and feeling bad and having shame.
Unknown:And that's not going to get me the knee surgery, what's gonna
Unknown:get me the knee surgery is losing seven pounds, okay, and
Unknown:we don't need to make this significant. And I decided in
Unknown:the car ride home, this is what we were going to do. We're going
Unknown:to lose the weight period done. And in fact, I said, I'm gonna
Unknown:go for 15. Hey, that's double the seven plus one, right?
Unknown:Double the seven plus one. Why not? I love to go bigger go home
Unknown:is over says right? Why not. And I remember declaring that out
Unknown:loud, I declared it to Kami, who happens to be my accountability
Unknown:partner, I declared it all over the place all over the place. I
Unknown:even declared it to all of you who are listening. I declared it
Unknown:globally. Now talk about vulnerability. Like what? I
Unknown:don't have to say anything about any of that. But I knew that by
Unknown:putting it out there, I will lose 15 pounds by that surgery
Unknown:date. Now my butt's on the line, it is out in the world,
Unknown:literally. Okay. So I decided, I declared, and then I got into
Unknown:the do of it. And I in what it required was some bold and
Unknown:massive action. It required getting some help. It required,
Unknown:you know, making some nutritional changes, making some
Unknown:activity changes in what I could do with to really naughty knees,
Unknown:right. But it required me really asking for help and leaning in.
Unknown:And I got so much support, even from like, what is the
Unknown:electrolyte stuff that you're putting in your water? Let's
Unknown:check the sodium count. Right? Let's just check it. And you
Unknown:know, we discovered that maybe let's drop that and just drink
Unknown:the plain water. It was amazing. And making all these changes,
Unknown:like, right, like I made them, period done. And I stayed the
Unknown:course I lost 12 pounds. I lost 12. So we were well past the
Unknown:seven. I didn't hit the 15. But I wasn't upset about that.
Unknown:Because had I not declared 15 I wouldn't have surpassed the
Unknown:seven. And I really wanted to surpass the seven. I wanted to
Unknown:surpass the seven because I wanted to give myself every
Unknown:opportunity to be as healthy as possible. Okay. That is how
Unknown:powerful intention is. Now, I thought about this. And I was
Unknown:like, Yeah, we made some changes, but they were and they
Unknown:were bold. And they were you know, massive. But were they
Unknown:changing something in my water, I was still drinking the exact
Unknown:same amount of water. I didn't have it, because I was already
Unknown:drinking enough but just removing something that had
Unknown:sodium in it. I don't want to minimize that. That was
Unknown:something that I know, created it staying the course in my
Unknown:nutrition. I know how to eat. I've been eating this way for a
Unknown:while and I know that it works. But staying the course staying
Unknown:in my integrity with it. Like no other conversation. Okay, moving
Unknown:my body as much as I could doing some things that I could do that
Unknown:weren't hurting my knees and not having it be the excuse. So if
Unknown:you remember, part of the reason we're doing the knee surgeries
Unknown:is to remove the excuse so that I am healthy, vibrant, and
Unknown:integrity with myself and my health. So I don't need to wait
Unknown:for that. I got to do it right then and there. And I'm
Unknown:continuing to do it because the next surgery is September 5,
Unknown:okay? So I give you that example. Because you're all
Unknown:familiar with it, you've been listening for a while, or if
Unknown:you're new, there's plenty episodes that you can you can go
Unknown:back and listen to, to hear that story. And it's a powerful
Unknown:example of intention and utilizing the three Ds of
Unknown:intention to have it happen. Okay? So think about something
Unknown:that you want something that you want, like, this year, this
Unknown:month, this quarter, whatever it is for you. Think about what it
Unknown:is and decide to have it happen. decide when you want to have it
Unknown:happen, declare it to someone, you can declare it to me, if you
Unknown:want, you can go to those curiosity challenges that link
Unknown:and you can literally leave a like a voice message for me
Unknown:declaring it I got you, I'm here for it, I am here for it. And
Unknown:then get into action, do the do. Okay, do the do to have it
Unknown:happen and play with this and see what changes for you
Unknown:utilizing intention and the three Ds. All right, remember,
Unknown:you have a choice to lead your life or follow your
Unknown:circumstances, and intention, live intentionally because you
Unknown:will lead that way versus allowing circumstances to take
Unknown:over. Life is about knowing your passions, your purpose, your
Unknown:values, and creating that impact in your life and
Unknown:the life of others. And who emerges from that they're
Unknown:authentic, they're vulnerable, they're courageous, and they are
Unknown:intentionally creating their outcomes and goals. It does not
Unknown:always look the way we think it's supposed to when we get to
Unknown:trust that more always gets revealed as we move forward. So
Unknown:remember, take that pause, let go of worry, and live fully the
Unknown:best version of yourself. Thank you guys so much for listening
Unknown:today. I know there was great value for you. I cannot wait to
Unknown:hear about what you are creating, utilizing intention.
Unknown:I'd love to hear all along the way. What's working for you. And
Unknown:for more resources. Any questions you can go to Kelly J
Unknown:mo beck.com. Which reminds me, it's May, we are launching a
Unknown:brand new website, I cannot believe I forgot to tell you
Unknown:that in the beginning. We're launching a brand new website
Unknown:this month. I am so excited. So check it out. Tell me what you
Unknown:think. And I'm super excited. There's so much new happening
Unknown:and it's refreshing. And it's exciting. So you can follow me
Unknown:on Instagram at Haley mo back. Say hi, I'd love to stay
Unknown:connected. Have a great week ahead. Have a great month ahead.
Unknown:If it's not shaping up the way you want it to take the lead and
Unknown:create a fantastic one. I will talk with you all next week.
Unknown:Take care. Thanks for listening to another episode of Let's be
Unknown:honest before we start pretending for more resources on
Unknown:taking the lead in your life, head over to Kelly J mobic.com.
Unknown:And connect with me on Instagram at coach Kelly mobile. If this
Unknown:episode was helpful for you, please feel free to share it
Unknown:with friends rate and review it on iTunes. That's Apple podcasts
Unknown:now, and at any time feel free to connect with me and let me
Unknown:know what you want to hear next or what you're working on. I'm
Unknown:happy to help. Thanks again for listening and here's to you