You take your child to the doctor. You tell them this isn't fussy, this isn't a phase. They tell you he'll grow out of it. Maybe it's his tonsils. Maybe you're anxious. Maybe your boundaries aren't strong enough. You leave the appointment knowing something isn't right, and starting to wonder if the something is you.

What We Cover

• Why ARFID gets missed for years while professionals chase tonsils, grommets, and dental work
• What happens when every silver bullet surgery makes zero difference and the grief that follows
• The cruise ship that didn't work, the buffet that didn't work, the Woolworths smuggling run that came too late
• Refeeding syndrome — when your malnourished child's body goes into shock from being fed
• The PEG surgery, the six-week wait that should've been six months, and a five-year-old dancing in the lounge room for the first time
• The cognitive impact of three years of malnutrition and the guilt of not pushing harder, sooner
• Why mum's intuition keeps being right while siloed specialists keep passing the buck
• The mental load of cooking the same crepe, the same rice mound, the washed meatballs — every single day
• What it costs to keep advocating when no one believes you

More About Tracy

Free Resource

Facebook Group — for parents in this loop who need other mums who get it: https://facebook.com/groups/adhdmumspodcast

External Support Tracy Mentions

• Eating Disorders Families Australia (EDFA)
• Butterfly Foundation

Paid Resource

The Meltdown & Shutdown Guide for Mums & Children

https://adhdmums.com.au/product/navigating-meltdowns-strategies-for-parents/

Episodes on ARFID & Tracy's last episode

• S3 EP58: Things That Look Like Bad Parenting But Are Actually Neurodivergence (Tracy) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-58-neurodivergence-and-parenting
• S2 EP81: You've Tried Everything… They Still Won't Eat: Real Strategies for ARFID at Home — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-81-youve-tried-everything-they-still-wont-eat-real-strategies-for-arfid-at-home/
• S3 EP46: ARFID, Eating Disorders & the Neurodivergent Body: What We Got Wrong (Marie Camin) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-46-arfid-eating-disorders-the-neurodivergent-body-what-we-got-wrong/

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